May 11, 2025 • 23 mins
My first Mother's Day I didn't want to celebrate.
This is for us with broken 💔 hearts.
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(00:10):
Hello, this is Adrianne from Always Home Yoga, welcoming you
to season 3 of the Yoga Saved Mepodcast.
We'll continue to talk with yogis about why yoga is so
important to them and offer meditation, yoga nidra, and
movement practices. My wish for you.
(00:31):
Is to be. Well.
Hey, it's Adrian. You're my first activist, author
of Wellness on the Weekly and Yoga Teacher.
And today is the day that I am not participating in, not
(00:55):
looking forward to. I became a yoga teacher after we
lost my dad in 2021 because I was just so overcome with grief.
He was 95. We lost my mom at the end of
last year. She was 94, completely
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devastated. So I am not celebrating Mother's
Day today. So this is going to be a
mindfulness moment for those of us when Mother's Day is just too
much. So I'm still in bed.
(01:38):
Oh, give me a SEC. There, there.
I dare to open the blinds. I dare to open the blinds to
start the day. Hey, reformers, I am doing a
mindfulness moment for those of us who are grieving our moms.
(02:02):
It's American Mother's Day. Even though I'm in Sweden, I'm
fully aware. So I'm staying on social media.
I'm doing this because I realized I'm not going to be
able to handle it. But this is for people whose
mothers are missing. They're we're not going to be
able to hug them today. Sophia, thanks for joining.
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This is a Mother's Day. Miss Kia Arsenal, thanks for
joining. I'm Arsenal fan, My first
British boyfriend was a Arsenal fan, so I'm Gunner for life.
But this is my mom died at the end of December and this is a
Mother's Day moment, mindfulnessmoment for those of us who are
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grieving on Mother's on Mother'sDay.
My God, Adam Mira, thanks for joining.
I don't know if you are lucky enough to hug and kiss or call
to talk to your mom today, but if you are, please do that.
Your grandma, godmother, all themother figures.
I'm in serious grief because my mom died at the end of last year
and life just doesn't officiallymade me an adult or orphan.
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And nobody told me how hard it is to be an adult orphan.
But my heart is completely broken.
But I did not want to not celebrate Mother's Day without,
I guess that this is my Auntie Mother's Day.
But of course I'm not Auntie Mother's Day, it's just my first
Mother's Day without my mom and I can't bear it, so I don't want
to see all the greetings. Hey, Miss Kia, an egg in for
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Guinea. Guinea.
Mr. Dunky for joining. I don't know if you celebrate
Mother's Day where you are. This is my first Mother's Day
without my mom. I'm going to get through this,
my fun, this moment without crying, I hope, because I want
us to just acknowledge the love we have for my mom's.
I'm convinced that I'm sure you are too if you're mourning your
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mom, that that love number dies.I pray and cry for my mom to
come and talk to me in my dreams.
I cry for her every day. I don't want to do it live, cry
for her every day. And I pray for her and my dad to
come to me in my dreams because I still need their counsel.
I still want to hear their voices.
I still want to feel that connection.
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So this is a Mother's Day mindful moment.
It's American Mother's Day and Ican't bear to think of it being
my first without being able to talk to my mom.
I asked her to come to me in my dreams so I can hear a voice, so
we can still talk, so I can smell her, so I can hug her.
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So if you can do that in real life with your mom, oh goodness,
oh goodness. I feel really sorry for anyone
who may be strange for their momon today or any day.
It's America's Mother's Day and my heart's broken because it's
my first Mother's Day without mymom.
She died December 28th. It still feels too soon.
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We added a 94. It would have been 95 in
February and I just knew we weregoing to get another mother to
to 95. But anyway.
So this is a Mother's Day mindfulness moment for those of
us who are missing our moms. Or maybe you were a new mom and
lost your baby or Mother's Day hurts.
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Let's just put it like that. This is for people who hurt on
Mother's Day. And if you like me, missing your
mom, you heard every day. But a day like today is
especially painful. So we're going to send love and
kindness meditation out to ourselves.
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To all the mothers out there. If you want to close your eyes,
you can. You can gaze at something soft.
Maybe you're brave enough to even gaze at your mother's
picture. Well, as I say, if you're the
mom and you're mourning on Mother's Day because you're a
new mom who lost your baby, or anytime a mother loses a child,
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I know it's horrible. Now I know that anytime an adult
becomes an orphan, that's horrible too.
So if you're estranged for your mom, please take today the day
to just call her and just say mom I love you and start over.
If you're like me and recently lost your mom, I know today's
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especially hard for you. So let's just sit in the memory
and of our mom and how much we love her.
Why they made us feel so loved and special.
I know my sister is going to picture post a picture of my mom
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today. Mother's Day, I can't even bear
to look at social media to see it.
So let's do a loving kindness meditation to for all the moms
out there, the moms who are grieving and for us who are
grieving our moms, it's just a couple of inhales and exhales to
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calm down. Feel centered on this American
Mother's Day, a holiday I do notwant to celebrate as the first
one without my mom. But you can't stop time.
And even our moms are gone. We can't stop living now.
I've decided, you know, if it wasn't before, the rest of my
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life is going to be dedicated toliving her legacy and continue
to make her proud. As hard as I tried when I knew
she could see me here on earth. So think of your mother, any
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other mother figure who you're missing, any mother figure that
you have living that you can call and talk to or visit and
hug for the mother you want to become and the mother you were
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forever long it was if you happened to lose your child.
I'm so sorry for all of us with broken hearts on Mother's Day
2025. But this loving mother kindness
meditation is for all our mothers, mother's figures, those
of us with heavy hearts because we cannot hug and kiss our moms.
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Today, on Mother's Day, are we sending out loving meditation,
kindness meditation to all the mothers.
So think of that mother figure, that special mother figure that
you miss or that you have. May they be happy, maybe they be
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healthy, may they be safe. Think of that mother figure in
your life, the one that you had and like me, can no longer kiss
and hold the one you have now that you can kiss and hold and
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talk to. The one you may be angry with or
estranged from. Maybe today's the day you can
call and just say I love me, I miss you Mama.
I don't know what happened between us and I love you and I
miss you. I asked my mother to come to me
every day in my dreams so we cantalk.
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So if you can talk to yours on earth, do that.
All the mothers out there, may you be happy, may you be safe,
may you be healthy. To all the adult orphans like
me, missing your mom, your dad too, if you're a complete dull
orphan. May we be happy, may we be
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healthy. May we be safe and we can end
with a loving kindness meditation for everyone.
Think of all your family and friends that you love, that you
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miss. Think of your neighbors that you
see. Maybe speak to them.
Maybe you don't. Maybe you know your their names.
Maybe you don't. Think of the people that you see
weekly. Maybe you buy fresh fruit weekly
or you use the same bus driver because you're on his route.
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Anyone that you see weekly, you don't have to know their name.
We're going to send love and kindness meditation to them on
Mother's Day. This is dedicated to people like
me who are mourning their moms or celebrating their first
Mother's Day without their moms.This is dedicated to us, but
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we're sending love and kind meditation to all the mothers.
And now we're expanding it and sending to everyone in our world
that we know, that we love, thatwe work with in our communities,
that we pass by. It's part of our routines.
Think of those people. And as we breathe, let's wish
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this, let's say this. May they be healthy, may they be
happy, may they be safe. And I'm going to call this on
Mother's Day, but it's my first Mother's Day without a mom and
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I'm not celebrating it the way Iwould have liked.
You know, with the living mom. I could call even with a hug,
talk to ask her to come to my dreams.
It's only been since December 28th.
I ask her to come to my to my dreams and talk to me.
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So if you could talk to your momtoday, do that.
We're sending meditations. Let's due to more loving
kindness meditations. This was for the difficult
people in our lives. Maybe people who betrayed us,
bullied us. We're estranged from.
Please don't be estranged from your mom.
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She's not perfect, but she's theonly mom that you'll have.
You'll have other mother figures, You may even be raised
by other people. The definition of the only mom
may be different, but I truly believe every mom is doing their
best, even when we don't think so.
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So today, on Mother's Day, you must say you're estranged from
your mom. Maybe use this day to call her
to try to make amends. Send the message somehow.
Get word to her. I miss my mom so much.
We lost her 94 age 94. Isn't that wonderful?
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December 28th, 2024. And this is my first Mother's
Day without her. So if you're estranged from your
mom, grandma, aunt, any mother figure may be used.
Today is the day to reach out. So this love and kind of use
meditation, this wave, we did itfor us, the heartbroken who
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don't have moms. We did it for all the moms.
We did it for all the people we love and our neighbors and our
community, people who provide usservices that we see weekly.
Now we're going to do it for thedifficult people in our lives.
And again, if your mom, you consider your mom one of the
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difficult people in your life, if she's living, try to make
peace with her today. Say, mom, it's been difficult,
but I love you or I miss you or I want us to have a
relationship. Just do it so you don't have any
regrets. But hey, you know too, if your
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mom is so toxic, you have to walk away.
So we'll do a love and kindness meditation for that too.
So for all the difficult people in our lives, they've bullied
us, they've lied to us, they've cheated us, they physically hurt
us, they've mentally hurt us. For all those difficult people,
we're going to send the love of my Kindness meditation to them
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too. And then we can move on from
them for real forever. So think of those people or one
person, or if you don't have anypeople like that, oh so happy
for you. They have several to come to
mind for me. May they be happy.
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May they be healthy, right? Maybe if they're happy healthy,
they'll leave us the heck alone.May they be safe.
Maybe if they feel safe, they'llstop messing with their safety.
OK, let's do love and kindness meditation for the toxic mothers
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out there. Just because I know that
everyone was fortunate enough tohave a fantastic mother like
mine. She wasn't perfect, but she
wasn't toxic. She loved them.
You hard, fiercely, bravely, publicly, privately,
relentlessly told me I could do anything.
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You know one of those bombs thattold you you can do anything?
I always wanted to make sure youlook nice when to know when you
want it so she can get it for you.
Had no problem being a disciplinarian though, and
telling you no, punishing you. But some of us had toxic moms.
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I've heard, I've read, I know. And you met people that you
realize they must have had a toxic mom.
This loving medication, loving kindness, meditation is for you.
And believe it or not, for your toxic mom, but especially for
you, dear one, because I know your heart's broken just like
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mine because I miss my mom. So here's think of your I'm
thinking of all of you who have have or had toxic moms.
On this Mother's Day, I'm mourning my beautiful, precious
mom. You're mourning not having the
mother, mother child relationship that you deserve.
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May you feel happy. May you feel safe, May you feel
loved, happy. This isn't a Mother's Day, but
it's the first Mother's Day. I'm celebrating without my mom,
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and I don't, so I can't celebrate it the traditional
way. I can't call her, can't visit
her, can't give her flowers, can't hug her, can't smell her,
can't share a meal with her, askher to come to me in my dreams.
So Happy Mother's Day to all of you lucky, lucky people with
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living mothers. I'm so happy for you.
I am. I'm not jealous.
I'm truly happy for you because I know that joy.
Don't let these tears fool you. I cry for my mom every day.
I said I wasn't going to cry a lot.
I'm not even out of bed, but it's not a moment I don't think
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about her. And I just want to say I'm so
happy for you. All you lovely ones with living
mothers, celebrate even. You know what, Even if it's not
a Mother's Day in your country, I know it is in the US I'm
living in Sweden, but I'm an American.
I know all the American holidays.
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Take this date and just say, hey, mom, you know what she
wants Mother's Day. We don't care about the
Americans, right? I love you, mom.
So I'm just going to use this asan extra day to get an extra hug
or kiss or getting that extra greeting just to hear your
voice, just to tell you how muchI appreciate you.
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So happy Mother's Day to all of us grieving our moms.
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms grieving children they've
lost. Happy Mother's Day to all of you
with the living mothers that youcan talk to.
So happy for you. Maybe use this as a day to get
back with your mom if there's been a problem we're
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misunderstanding. We did our loving kindness
meditations around for us aroundfor the other people we love in
our community provider services that we see weekly.
We did a loving kindness meditation for the toxic mobs,
for the for the moms who've lostchildren.
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Is there anything else we shoulddo?
Is there another loving? Oh, goodness.
Let's do a final round of lovingkindness meditation for the
world that we live in. Because I think it's Dionne
Warwick. Yeah.
To rephrase her, what the world needs now is love, sweet love.
What did Marvin Gaye say? What's going on?
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See, I think I feel better. This might have been my cry for
today. This was and tip for tip for me
and from me for you, anyone who's mourning their mom on
Mother's Day. Like I know I'm getting off
social media after this. I can't stand to see people's
posts. I know my sister's going to post
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a gorgeous picture of my mom. I can't bear it.
I said maybe stay off social media today.
If you can get outside, get outside.
If you can get into a book, get into a book.
I love audio books because I cando that headphones while I'm
doing laundry or cleaning other chores.
So get into the book inside yourheart.
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If you're mourning your Mama, Mother's Day with social media
may be a little brutal for you today.
That's a tip one of my very goodfriends and old dear friends
from Howard University told me after my dad died in 2019 and I
was just sorry I started going bad for us in 2019 with 2021.
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She told me to stay off social media.
And she was right. So in that ironic, I'm given a
tip to stay off social media because people like me mourning
their moms on Mother's Day. Maybe snatch this one up and
it'll be the last. Because I know I came here to
let you know. If it's your first Mother's Day
without your mom, you're not alone.
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I know how difficult it is. It hurts to list our last loving
kindness meditation for the world world we live in.
May everyone in the world feel safe.
That's a big ask, but maybe if we can all meditate and send
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that out there, we can make thathappen.
May everyone in the world be healthy again.
Another big ask. We can send that energy out.
Who knows, maybe we'll see opportunities to contribute to
make that a reality. Here's the final big one.
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Everyone in the world feel loved.
That was probably the biggest gift my parents gave to me,
making me feel loved, you know? But especially my Mama.
Mommy, I miss you. You made this Mother's Day
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different for me today, but I love you.
Happy Mother's Day y'all.
Hello, this is Adrianne from Always Home Yoga, welcoming you
to season 3 of the Yoga Saved Mepodcast.
We'll continue to talk with yogis about why yoga is so
important to them and offer meditation, yoga nidra, and
movement practices. My wish for you.
(00:31):
Is to be. Well.
Hey, it's Adrian. You're my first activist, author
of Wellness on the Weekly and Yoga Teacher.
And today is the day that I am not participating in, not
(00:55):
looking forward to. I became a yoga teacher after we
lost my dad in 2021 because I was just so overcome with grief.
He was 95. We lost my mom at the end of
last year. She was 94, completely
(01:18):
devastated. So I am not celebrating Mother's
Day today. So this is going to be a
mindfulness moment for those of us when Mother's Day is just too
much. So I'm still in bed.
(01:38):
Oh, give me a SEC. There, there.
I dare to open the blinds. I dare to open the blinds to
start the day. Hey, reformers, I am doing a
mindfulness moment for those of us who are grieving our moms.
(02:02):
It's American Mother's Day. Even though I'm in Sweden, I'm
fully aware. So I'm staying on social media.
I'm doing this because I realized I'm not going to be
able to handle it. But this is for people whose
mothers are missing. They're we're not going to be
able to hug them today. Sophia, thanks for joining.
(02:24):
This is a Mother's Day. Miss Kia Arsenal, thanks for
joining. I'm Arsenal fan, My first
British boyfriend was a Arsenal fan, so I'm Gunner for life.
But this is my mom died at the end of December and this is a
Mother's Day moment, mindfulnessmoment for those of us who are
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grieving on Mother's on Mother'sDay.
My God, Adam Mira, thanks for joining.
I don't know if you are lucky enough to hug and kiss or call
to talk to your mom today, but if you are, please do that.
Your grandma, godmother, all themother figures.
I'm in serious grief because my mom died at the end of last year
and life just doesn't officiallymade me an adult or orphan.
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And nobody told me how hard it is to be an adult orphan.
But my heart is completely broken.
But I did not want to not celebrate Mother's Day without,
I guess that this is my Auntie Mother's Day.
But of course I'm not Auntie Mother's Day, it's just my first
Mother's Day without my mom and I can't bear it, so I don't want
to see all the greetings. Hey, Miss Kia, an egg in for
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Guinea. Guinea.
Mr. Dunky for joining. I don't know if you celebrate
Mother's Day where you are. This is my first Mother's Day
without my mom. I'm going to get through this,
my fun, this moment without crying, I hope, because I want
us to just acknowledge the love we have for my mom's.
I'm convinced that I'm sure you are too if you're mourning your
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mom, that that love number dies.I pray and cry for my mom to
come and talk to me in my dreams.
I cry for her every day. I don't want to do it live, cry
for her every day. And I pray for her and my dad to
come to me in my dreams because I still need their counsel.
I still want to hear their voices.
I still want to feel that connection.
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So this is a Mother's Day mindful moment.
It's American Mother's Day and Ican't bear to think of it being
my first without being able to talk to my mom.
I asked her to come to me in my dreams so I can hear a voice, so
we can still talk, so I can smell her, so I can hug her.
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So if you can do that in real life with your mom, oh goodness,
oh goodness. I feel really sorry for anyone
who may be strange for their momon today or any day.
It's America's Mother's Day and my heart's broken because it's
my first Mother's Day without mymom.
She died December 28th. It still feels too soon.
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We added a 94. It would have been 95 in
February and I just knew we weregoing to get another mother to
to 95. But anyway.
So this is a Mother's Day mindfulness moment for those of
us who are missing our moms. Or maybe you were a new mom and
lost your baby or Mother's Day hurts.
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Let's just put it like that. This is for people who hurt on
Mother's Day. And if you like me, missing your
mom, you heard every day. But a day like today is
especially painful. So we're going to send love and
kindness meditation out to ourselves.
(05:42):
To all the mothers out there. If you want to close your eyes,
you can. You can gaze at something soft.
Maybe you're brave enough to even gaze at your mother's
picture. Well, as I say, if you're the
mom and you're mourning on Mother's Day because you're a
new mom who lost your baby, or anytime a mother loses a child,
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I know it's horrible. Now I know that anytime an adult
becomes an orphan, that's horrible too.
So if you're estranged for your mom, please take today the day
to just call her and just say mom I love you and start over.
If you're like me and recently lost your mom, I know today's
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especially hard for you. So let's just sit in the memory
and of our mom and how much we love her.
Why they made us feel so loved and special.
I know my sister is going to picture post a picture of my mom
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today. Mother's Day, I can't even bear
to look at social media to see it.
So let's do a loving kindness meditation to for all the moms
out there, the moms who are grieving and for us who are
grieving our moms, it's just a couple of inhales and exhales to
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calm down. Feel centered on this American
Mother's Day, a holiday I do notwant to celebrate as the first
one without my mom. But you can't stop time.
And even our moms are gone. We can't stop living now.
I've decided, you know, if it wasn't before, the rest of my
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life is going to be dedicated toliving her legacy and continue
to make her proud. As hard as I tried when I knew
she could see me here on earth. So think of your mother, any
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other mother figure who you're missing, any mother figure that
you have living that you can call and talk to or visit and
hug for the mother you want to become and the mother you were
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forever long it was if you happened to lose your child.
I'm so sorry for all of us with broken hearts on Mother's Day
2025. But this loving mother kindness
meditation is for all our mothers, mother's figures, those
of us with heavy hearts because we cannot hug and kiss our moms.
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Today, on Mother's Day, are we sending out loving meditation,
kindness meditation to all the mothers.
So think of that mother figure, that special mother figure that
you miss or that you have. May they be happy, maybe they be
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healthy, may they be safe. Think of that mother figure in
your life, the one that you had and like me, can no longer kiss
and hold the one you have now that you can kiss and hold and
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talk to. The one you may be angry with or
estranged from. Maybe today's the day you can
call and just say I love me, I miss you Mama.
I don't know what happened between us and I love you and I
miss you. I asked my mother to come to me
every day in my dreams so we cantalk.
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So if you can talk to yours on earth, do that.
All the mothers out there, may you be happy, may you be safe,
may you be healthy. To all the adult orphans like
me, missing your mom, your dad too, if you're a complete dull
orphan. May we be happy, may we be
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healthy. May we be safe and we can end
with a loving kindness meditation for everyone.
Think of all your family and friends that you love, that you
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miss. Think of your neighbors that you
see. Maybe speak to them.
Maybe you don't. Maybe you know your their names.
Maybe you don't. Think of the people that you see
weekly. Maybe you buy fresh fruit weekly
or you use the same bus driver because you're on his route.
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Anyone that you see weekly, you don't have to know their name.
We're going to send love and kindness meditation to them on
Mother's Day. This is dedicated to people like
me who are mourning their moms or celebrating their first
Mother's Day without their moms.This is dedicated to us, but
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we're sending love and kind meditation to all the mothers.
And now we're expanding it and sending to everyone in our world
that we know, that we love, thatwe work with in our communities,
that we pass by. It's part of our routines.
Think of those people. And as we breathe, let's wish
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this, let's say this. May they be healthy, may they be
happy, may they be safe. And I'm going to call this on
Mother's Day, but it's my first Mother's Day without a mom and
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I'm not celebrating it the way Iwould have liked.
You know, with the living mom. I could call even with a hug,
talk to ask her to come to my dreams.
It's only been since December 28th.
I ask her to come to my to my dreams and talk to me.
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So if you could talk to your momtoday, do that.
We're sending meditations. Let's due to more loving
kindness meditations. This was for the difficult
people in our lives. Maybe people who betrayed us,
bullied us. We're estranged from.
Please don't be estranged from your mom.
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She's not perfect, but she's theonly mom that you'll have.
You'll have other mother figures, You may even be raised
by other people. The definition of the only mom
may be different, but I truly believe every mom is doing their
best, even when we don't think so.
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So today, on Mother's Day, you must say you're estranged from
your mom. Maybe use this day to call her
to try to make amends. Send the message somehow.
Get word to her. I miss my mom so much.
We lost her 94 age 94. Isn't that wonderful?
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December 28th, 2024. And this is my first Mother's
Day without her. So if you're estranged from your
mom, grandma, aunt, any mother figure may be used.
Today is the day to reach out. So this love and kind of use
meditation, this wave, we did itfor us, the heartbroken who
(14:11):
don't have moms. We did it for all the moms.
We did it for all the people we love and our neighbors and our
community, people who provide usservices that we see weekly.
Now we're going to do it for thedifficult people in our lives.
And again, if your mom, you consider your mom one of the
(14:31):
difficult people in your life, if she's living, try to make
peace with her today. Say, mom, it's been difficult,
but I love you or I miss you or I want us to have a
relationship. Just do it so you don't have any
regrets. But hey, you know too, if your
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mom is so toxic, you have to walk away.
So we'll do a love and kindness meditation for that too.
So for all the difficult people in our lives, they've bullied
us, they've lied to us, they've cheated us, they physically hurt
us, they've mentally hurt us. For all those difficult people,
we're going to send the love of my Kindness meditation to them
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too. And then we can move on from
them for real forever. So think of those people or one
person, or if you don't have anypeople like that, oh so happy
for you. They have several to come to
mind for me. May they be happy.
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May they be healthy, right? Maybe if they're happy healthy,
they'll leave us the heck alone.May they be safe.
Maybe if they feel safe, they'llstop messing with their safety.
OK, let's do love and kindness meditation for the toxic mothers
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out there. Just because I know that
everyone was fortunate enough tohave a fantastic mother like
mine. She wasn't perfect, but she
wasn't toxic. She loved them.
You hard, fiercely, bravely, publicly, privately,
relentlessly told me I could do anything.
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You know one of those bombs thattold you you can do anything?
I always wanted to make sure youlook nice when to know when you
want it so she can get it for you.
Had no problem being a disciplinarian though, and
telling you no, punishing you. But some of us had toxic moms.
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I've heard, I've read, I know. And you met people that you
realize they must have had a toxic mom.
This loving medication, loving kindness, meditation is for you.
And believe it or not, for your toxic mom, but especially for
you, dear one, because I know your heart's broken just like
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mine because I miss my mom. So here's think of your I'm
thinking of all of you who have have or had toxic moms.
On this Mother's Day, I'm mourning my beautiful, precious
mom. You're mourning not having the
mother, mother child relationship that you deserve.
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May you feel happy. May you feel safe, May you feel
loved, happy. This isn't a Mother's Day, but
it's the first Mother's Day. I'm celebrating without my mom,
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and I don't, so I can't celebrate it the traditional
way. I can't call her, can't visit
her, can't give her flowers, can't hug her, can't smell her,
can't share a meal with her, askher to come to me in my dreams.
So Happy Mother's Day to all of you lucky, lucky people with
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living mothers. I'm so happy for you.
I am. I'm not jealous.
I'm truly happy for you because I know that joy.
Don't let these tears fool you. I cry for my mom every day.
I said I wasn't going to cry a lot.
I'm not even out of bed, but it's not a moment I don't think
(18:35):
about her. And I just want to say I'm so
happy for you. All you lovely ones with living
mothers, celebrate even. You know what, Even if it's not
a Mother's Day in your country, I know it is in the US I'm
living in Sweden, but I'm an American.
I know all the American holidays.
(18:55):
Take this date and just say, hey, mom, you know what she
wants Mother's Day. We don't care about the
Americans, right? I love you, mom.
So I'm just going to use this asan extra day to get an extra hug
or kiss or getting that extra greeting just to hear your
voice, just to tell you how muchI appreciate you.
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So happy Mother's Day to all of us grieving our moms.
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms grieving children they've
lost. Happy Mother's Day to all of you
with the living mothers that youcan talk to.
So happy for you. Maybe use this as a day to get
back with your mom if there's been a problem we're
(19:37):
misunderstanding. We did our loving kindness
meditations around for us aroundfor the other people we love in
our community provider services that we see weekly.
We did a loving kindness meditation for the toxic mobs,
for the for the moms who've lostchildren.
(20:00):
Is there anything else we shoulddo?
Is there another loving? Oh, goodness.
Let's do a final round of lovingkindness meditation for the
world that we live in. Because I think it's Dionne
Warwick. Yeah.
To rephrase her, what the world needs now is love, sweet love.
What did Marvin Gaye say? What's going on?
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See, I think I feel better. This might have been my cry for
today. This was and tip for tip for me
and from me for you, anyone who's mourning their mom on
Mother's Day. Like I know I'm getting off
social media after this. I can't stand to see people's
posts. I know my sister's going to post
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a gorgeous picture of my mom. I can't bear it.
I said maybe stay off social media today.
If you can get outside, get outside.
If you can get into a book, get into a book.
I love audio books because I cando that headphones while I'm
doing laundry or cleaning other chores.
So get into the book inside yourheart.
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If you're mourning your Mama, Mother's Day with social media
may be a little brutal for you today.
That's a tip one of my very goodfriends and old dear friends
from Howard University told me after my dad died in 2019 and I
was just sorry I started going bad for us in 2019 with 2021.
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She told me to stay off social media.
And she was right. So in that ironic, I'm given a
tip to stay off social media because people like me mourning
their moms on Mother's Day. Maybe snatch this one up and
it'll be the last. Because I know I came here to
let you know. If it's your first Mother's Day
without your mom, you're not alone.
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I know how difficult it is. It hurts to list our last loving
kindness meditation for the world world we live in.
May everyone in the world feel safe.
That's a big ask, but maybe if we can all meditate and send
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that out there, we can make thathappen.
May everyone in the world be healthy again.
Another big ask. We can send that energy out.
Who knows, maybe we'll see opportunities to contribute to
make that a reality. Here's the final big one.
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Everyone in the world feel loved.
That was probably the biggest gift my parents gave to me,
making me feel loved, you know? But especially my Mama.
Mommy, I miss you. You made this Mother's Day
(22:58):
different for me today, but I love you.
Happy Mother's Day y'all.
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