Most survivors don’t start by asking “Is this abuse?” They ask “Why do I feel crazy?”
This episode dives deep into the emotional confusion that defines so many abusive dynamics—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, and chronic invalidation are at play. If you’ve ever found yourself apologizing after being hurt, doubting your memory, or shrinking yourself to avoid their reactions, you’re not alone—and you’re not overreacting.
We’ll explore:
- How emotional abuse trains you to question your reality
- The difference between lying and gaslighting—and why the distinction matters
- Subtle red flags that keep you stuck in self-blame
- The questions that help you reconnect with your truth
This episode is here to help you name the thing you haven’t been able to name, and to remind you: confusion is a tactic.
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