Episode Overview
In this episode we sit down with Kate Daly, co-founder of Amicable, to explore how self-worth, identity, and personal growth are intertwined with relationships - and what happens when those relationships end.
Kate shares her wisdom from years of supporting couples through separation and co-parenting, offering a compassionate reframe: divorce isn’t a failure - it’s a change in how a family operates so everyone can thrive.
Together, we talk about how easily self-worth becomes tied to roles - wife, mother, partner, provider - and what it means to reclaim a sense of identity beyond them. From people-pleasing and invisible labour to fear, shame, and rebuilding from the ground up, this is a deeply human, empowering look at what it means to rediscover yourself after loss.
Key Discussion Points
- How self-worth gets tied to our roles — and what happens when those roles change.
- The invisible load women carry and why it’s still undervalued.
- Reframing divorce as courage, not failure.
Listener Takeaways
- Divorce doesn’t erase your worth — it reveals it.
- You’re more than your role or relationship.
- Pause, breathe, and ground before you react.
AMICABLE LINKS
(25) amicable: Overview | LinkedIn
(1256) amicable divorce - YouTube
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