S3 E6: We Moved to Our Dream Home—Here’s How We Made It Happen

In this episode, Sophia Hyde shares her transformative journey of moving to Waynesville, North Carolina, highlighting the emotional and practical challenges faced along the way. From overcoming health issues to making significant life decisions, she emphasizes the importance of aligning one's life with personal values and desires. The conversation delves into the process of finding a home that resonates with her family's needs and the lessons learned throughout this journey. Ultimately, Sophia encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives and pursue their dreams, no matter the obstacles.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Life is messy, but it can still be filled with joy.
Welcome to the Your FavoriteSelf podcast.
I'm Sophia Hyde, a mastercertified life coach, minivan
driving mom of two, ADHD poweredsmall business owner, and your
guide to creating a life youlove.
Whether you're juggling abusiness, a family, or just the

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curve balls of life, this isyour space to find clarity,
dream bigger, and build yourfavorite life.
Click subscribe to grow with us.
Does it feel amazing to be heretoday?
I am just, drowning is not theright word, but just like
soaking in gratitude.

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I am recording this episode frommy brand new office near
downtown Waynesville.
Our family has officially moved.
We now live in Waynesville,North Carolina, which is about
half an hour outside ofAsheville.
And y'all, I...
can genuinely say, I don't thinkI've ever felt this happy

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before.
It feels good.
It feels right.
And as somebody who has beenchasing goals and dreams and
desires for as long as I canremember, I feel settled and
calm and content andappreciative and yeah, aligned.

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I guess that's the right word.
I just finally feel Like this, Iguess, my favorite life, like
this, my favorite self, thisversion of me that's been living
inside of me for so long that Iwas just trying to birth, trying
to get her out into the world.
I had this vision of who I wassupposed to be, who I desired

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and craved to be.
And now I'm living it.
It all feels right.
And I want that same feeling forall of you.
And so that's what this podcastis gonna be about.
This episode, I am gonna share,it's gonna be filled with a lot
of the behind the scenes.
I'm gonna tell you the story ofhow we got here.
I'm gonna give you some of theupdates and details because I

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know everybody loves juicy, orat least I shouldn't say
everybody.
I am the type of person whowants the juicy details of
behind the scenes.
So I'm gonna give that to youguys.
But really, it's because I wantyou to learn from our
experience, feel inspired by it,and wanna go out and take action
towards your own goals anddreams.
In this episode, I'm going to besharing with you what we did,

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and the way we did it may not beright for you, but hopefully you
might get an idea or a pingtowards what might be good and
aligned for you.
I'm going to share with you someof the powerful questions my
husband and I asked ourselves,and I'm going to encourage you
to write those down and askyourself of them.

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So they'll make some greatjournal prompts or just
reflective things to think aboutwhile you're driving in the car.
And if you're listening to thiswhile you're driving and a
question that I challenge you toask really punches you in the
gut or hits you in a certainway, press pause.
If you're driving on the roadlistening to this, just hit
pause and mull over thatquestion for a little bit in the

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silence if you need to.
Don't feel obligated to finishthe episode if maybe the nugget
you came here for strikes you.
Come back and finish it later ifit feels right.
Okay, so with that said, let'sgo into some of the updates.
I have not recorded an episodein a few months because as I
shared with you guys, I waspreparing for a pretty
significant surgery.

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I had surgery to removeendometriosis from my body.
I am very grateful to say thatit went well.
It was very successful.
I had very minimal.
They were able to do it in themost non-invasive way possible
and preserve all my organs.
So I'm so thankful for that.
The doctors at USF Health andTampa General Hospital were
wonderful, the whole team.
I'm just so grateful to them.
In my recovery, I did reallywell for a while.

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And then I returned tosynchronized swimming.
And unfortunately, pulled amuscle and stretched too far.
Whatever.
Anyways, it doesn't matter.
I set myself back in my healing.
I wasn't able to finish.
The ladies are so amazing.
You guys know I've been talkingabout my synchronized swimming
team for a while.
I've been so excited about it.
And it's been my unicorn space.
And I love my old ladies.

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And they let me pick the song.
And so we had a routinecoordinated to Wannabe by the
Spice Girls.
That's what they get foraccepting a millennial onto
their team.
And so in the process oflearning that routine after
coming back from surgery, Ipulled a muscle and I had to
unfortunately drop out.
And I did get to go see them incompetition in the beginning of
June, but I did not get toperform in it.

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And my healing is still inprogress.
I'm doing well, but there's somefancy name for when your
abdomen...
after pregnancy doesn't repaircorrectly because it like breaks
open in the middle to make roomfor like the big belly.
And pelvic floor therapy hastaught me that after my
pregnancies, it didn't healcorrectly.

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And so that's kind of connectedto why I didn't heal, why I had
a setback during my surgeryrecovery.
And so we're trying to repairkind of both things, like
rebuild the strength of myabdomen, but while also healing
that connection on the middle.
So anyways, I digress.
Those are the updates.
And so There hasn't been anyepisodes because I can only

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handle so much mental load on myplate, right?
And so we had the surgery,healing, and recovery.
And then that was March 10th.
And then we had to get the houseready to list it.
It went live, I think, rightaround maybe April 9th.
The house went on the market.
We had showings.
We were living in the housewhile having showings, which is
very stressful if you've everdone it.
Do not recommend, but we didn'thave another option for us.

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And it took about two weeks.
And then we had an offer weaccepted in the middle of April,
which then allowed us to starthouse shopping ourselves.
And it took two trips.
And I'll maybe tell you a littlebit more about how that went
down.
So we took a couple of trips toWaynesville to look at different
houses, and we went undercontract for our home here in

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the middle of May with a closingdate of June 13th, and that all
happened.
And so...
We are now, let's see, I'mrecording this on the 20th.
So it's been a week and a halfsince we closed on our home.
And I'm finally, after months ofmy life, feeling like it was in
transition and limbo and somuch, you know, mental load in

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so many directions, I'm finallyreturning back to a place of
feeling settled and grounded.
And I have the capacity to hopon here again.
And so let me tell you the storyof how we got here.
And so you guys can know alittle bit about what brings us
here, you know, to this moment.
Little backgrounds.

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My husband and I, we met in2005, married in 2007.
And we've always talked ourwhole relationship when we were
dating, when we were engaged,when we were first married, when
we were about to have a kid.
There's been a million timesthat we've came so close to
moving together.
And even when I was in college,I was supposed to go to a
college in North Carolina, andit all fell apart a few weeks

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before graduation.
And I ended up pivoting, whichis probably a whole podcast
episode of its own.
But, you know, we've been havingthis desire to pivot.
Like knowing that Florida wasn'twhere we belonged for so long.
But every time we tried topursue an opportunity, the doors
just shut like so strong in ourface that it was, you know,

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like, here's your sign.
That I think some of our friendsand family maybe didn't fully
believe we were really going todo this because we've been
talking about it for 20 years.
And I think for some people, itwas...
that real estate sign going inthe front yard that finally was
like, oh my gosh, they'reserious.
This time they're talking aboutmoving and they're really doing
it, even though it was athree-year plan.

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So let's pick up there threeyears ago.
I think that's really the bestpart to begin this story.
If you follow me on Instagram,you've been seeing a lot of the
behind the scenes of thisjourney.
And so my handle, if you guysare on Instagram but don't
follow me, it's at the SophiaHyde.
And you can see like pictures ofthe home and the behind the
scenes and everything like that.
But Some of you have been in themoment walking through this, but

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you'll probably learn somethings today that you didn't
know.
So the story really dates backto, I guess, really December of
2021 when we were up herevisiting family for Christmas
and realized that we were readyto finally really be serious
about leaving.
And we talked about moving toKnoxville, which is close to

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where my in-laws live.
And so we kind of got to thepoint where we said, we can't,
we don't get the option and theluxury of being able to be with
all of our family because theydo live in two different states.
My husband grew up in EastTennessee, my family's all in
Florida.
And so we were like, you know,we're really done with Florida.
Let's, the quality of life isjust higher here.
Let's, you know, consider movingto the Knoxville area, which led

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to many conversations, mostlyaround my husband's career,
because at that time I hadalready gone full-time.
I had left my full-time job andwas full-time coaching, but It
was still a growing business andI was getting everything off of
the ground, but I was building avirtual business.
So it didn't matter where Ilived, but for my husband to
move is to lose everything.

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Like a hairstylist, right?
You lose all your clients.
That's how my husband is.
He's a freelancecinematographer.
And so all of his clients are inFlorida.
But even there, not every marketin the US has a thriving film
industry.
Tampa is loaded with a lot ofcommercial work.
And so of course he's shotfeatures over the years and that
kind of thing.
But East Tennessee isn't knownfor its film industry.

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And so we started looking atthat and six months later...
I couldn't do it.
All the research that I had doneon the area, I couldn't find a
place that I felt like ourfamily would belong.
The things that matter to us, Ihave a very artistic daughter,
really involved in theater, andwe knew that we'd probably be
doing public school.

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And I just couldn't find a lotof opportunity, as many
opportunities to thrive in thearts community.
whether through public school,community theaters, or just
whatever around, I just couldn'tfind them in East Tennessee in
the abundance that they existwhere we already were.
And the public schools wereranked significantly lower.
And I just told my husband, Ican't move my kids'

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opportunities backwards, right?
So even though the nature isprettier and it's a slower
quality of life and there'strade-offs, I just...
And if anybody's listening andyou live in that area, this is
not to offend you.
I'm not talking down.
My whole family lives there andthey love it.
They're so happy.
All my in-laws are really happythere.
This just goes back to theliving your favorite life and
what are priorities to you andwhat are to you and the things,

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the life we wanted to build, Icouldn't envision it in East
Tennessee.
So we had let go of the idea.
And then July 2022, we were uphere in Waynesville for a Annual
vacation may come many times.
And in 2016 was my first timegoing to Asheville.
And it was the first time I'dever been anywhere.

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I've been a lot of places in thecountry.
I've been out of the country.
One, two, three, four, four orfive different international
countries.
And being in Asheville was thevery first time I ever felt like
I was surrounded by my people.

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And I think it's because I am atrue Southern girl at heart,
raised in the South, thatSouthern hospitality runs deep
in me.
But it had all the progressivevalues and the artistic culture
and the things that are deep inmy blood that you can't always
find in the South.
And so it was this little bubbleof...
both things.
I describe it as Boulder, butwith Southern hospitality, if

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you've never been to Asheville.
And I felt at home.
I felt like I belonged.
I felt like I was with mypeople.
And I just, Asheville just wonme over.
And over the coming years,probably six, seven, eight years
in a row, we vacationed to theWaynesville area every year.
And in 2022, we were at ourannual vacation in the
mountains.
And I looked out the window andI said to my husband, I don't

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understand why does my body feelmore at home here when I look
out the window than the way itfeels in the zip code i've lived
in for the past 25 years like itdoesn't make sense and he felt
the same way and so we kind ofsparked this idea of like wait a
second okay the options the twooptions are not live by your

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family or live by my family theoptions are we can live wherever
we want to build a life whatabout building a life here And
the seed got planted.
We were driving around, youknow, doing that thing.
There's like memes and reelsmaking fun of it right now, but
like you're on vacation and youpull up Zillow and you start
looking at the real estate ofwhere you're on vacation at.
We literally did that.
And the more research we did,the more we saw that the value

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of real estate was reallysimilar, like par for par to
where we already lived.
And we felt like, you know, weprobably could actually afford
this.
We could make this work, makethis happen.
And we decided to make athree-year plan because it would
let our daughter finish thefifth grade.
I felt like the year betweenfifth and sixth grade was the

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ideal time to transition.
She'd been with her same littlebest friend since they were two
years old.
And I just knew that it woulddestroy her to have to leave
them.
But they were going to be goingto different middle schools
anyways.
And so I couldn't.
There wasn't a scenario where Icould give her the life of going
to school with her same littlegroup of friends for all of

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school.
They were always going to go todifferent middle schools because
I knew what their mothers werelooking for and valued and what
I was looking for and valued.
And we had different desires.
So they weren't going to go tothe same middle schools.
And so I thought, well, thatbreakup's already going to have
to happen.
And the fifth to sixth gradeyear is already a really big
transition.
So that gave us a three-yearrunway to grow my business
because the...

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the cost of moving would alsomean that we were moving to a
rural part in Western NorthCarolina where there is not a
robust film industry.
There's not a huge, evencommercial, he could probably
stay about as busy as he does inTampa.
If we moved to a place likeCharlotte, which is three hours
away, but Charlotte's not insidethe mountains and the mountains
are what feel home to us.

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And so my husband, we had a lotof heart to hearts about what we
really deeply desired.
And ultimately it came down tohe was willing to sacrifice his
career.
And maybe not entirely.
He can still get, you know, afeature film or documentary if
people are willing to fly himout.
He can shoot probably like oddstuff here and there.

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But the income level and thetypes of projects won't be as
consistent here for sure.
And we had to, you know, get tothe point where we could live
off of just my income.
And, you know, he said somethingreally profound.
And this is, you know, one ofthe takeaways.
I hope you guys can be inspiredby this from him and reflect on

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this for yourself.
He asked him, he said to me, Isaid, Brandon, are you sure?
Because if we move, are you sureyou don't want to look at
Atlanta?
Are you sure you don't want tolook somewhere else?
You know, that your business,your career could keep, at least
stay at the same level, if notgrow.
But, you know, it's totallygoing to go really far backwards
if you move to West NorthCarolina.
And I said, are you sure youwant to do this?

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Because it's a big deal.
And all of our decisions in thepast have been based on where he
could get the most work.
And he said to me, Sophia, whenI think about being an old man
and looking back on my life, Idon't see any scenario where I'm
going to look back with regretthat I didn't get to shoot that

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big blockbuster film or get onthat Netflix series or have the
feature I'd always desired.
He's already shot a couple ofbeautiful features that he's
proud of.
And he said, I don't see myselfhaving any regret that I didn't
get some specific type of DPjob, but I can absolutely see
myself looking back on my lifeand regretting that I didn't

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give my children the type ofchildhood I wanted them to have.
He grew up up here in thesemountains and playing in the
creeks and going camping all thetime and regularly going on
hikes.
And I have friends who areFloridians who do that, but it's
not for our family.
My children won't go outside sixmonths of the year in Florida
because it's too hot.
Between the temperatures and thehumidity, they're miserable.

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And it's a constant fight in ourhome to beg my children to go
outside and play.
And they don't have fun, but wecome up here in the same exact
time of year.
the middle of July when I'mbegging them to play outside in
Florida.
We'll come on a vacation tovisit family in Tennessee or do
the annual Waynesville trip orwhatever.
And I don't even have to sayanything to my children.

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They just find themselvesoutside.
They're in the streams.
They're climbing.
They don't complain when we'reon hikes.
They love it.
It's not even a conversation.
I don't even have to ask them.
They just go outside.
And that's what we wanted forour kids.
We wanted them to be outsidemore.
We wanted them getting dirty.
We wanted them having fun.
Ultimately, that's what myhusband said is, I don't want to

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have regret that I didn't givemy kids the type of childhood I
want them to have.
And so he said, you know, fastforward three years to us making
this transition.
And at some point along the way,six months, a year ago, he
started letting his friends inthe industry know that he would
be moving in June.
And they all thought he wascrazy, crazy.
Like, basically, multiple ofthem said they were

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flabbergasted because they'relike, you're committing career
suicide.
That's what they said.
I can't believe you're doingthis.
You're committing careersuicide.
And he is.
Maybe.
I mean, you never know what canhappen.
He can get that phone call,right, to go on the next.
He was gone in the fall forthree or four months on a
feature, on a documentary.
That phone call can still come,but he's not waiting for it.
He's not anticipating it.
Right now, he's a stay-at-homedad and he's happy.

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And if that's all he does is bea stay-at-home dad and help me
build this business, he feelscomplete and satisfied.
And so that's the first questionthat I want to challenge you
guys with is if you are at acrossroads with choices or
decisions that you need to make,Imagine yourself, you know, in

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your 80s, sitting on a rocker onsome front porch somewhere and
reflecting back on the lasteight decades of your life.
And what will you regret younever tried?
What will you be so glad thatyou risked?
What fear might be holding youback right now that you wish you
would have overcame?
Because that was a big piece ofus doing this move was Brandon

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having that reflection.
Okay, so once we got clear, Thisis what we want.
And how did we pick Waynesville?
So it wasn't just...
I mean, a lot of it had to dowith that vacation.
And this woman, I call her myangel.
I went to a coffee shop on thatJuly 2022 vacation, and I was
talking to this local.
She was this woman who sat nextto me at a coffee shop and...

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I learned all these things aboutthe community that I didn't
know, that they have a robustcommunity theater program for
children.
I asked her kind of all of myconcerns about what about this
and opportunities that and this,that and the other.
And I just asked her all thesequestions and she was so
helpful.
And every single answer justaligned with what we wanted for
our family.
And I felt really peaceful andcontent.
Like, yeah, there's a lot ofpeople here that I can find my

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community.
I can, I can rebuild.
And so over to the next, youknow, six months to a year we
did explore other states othercities we had serious
conversations about what aboutthis place what about that place
you know especially looking athow public education is ranked

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we could have just moved alittle bit more north and been
in virginia with one of the toppublic school systems in the
country um there was a lot ofback and forth of if we can live
anywhere, where do we want tobe?
We looked internationally aswell.
And ultimately, and this isanother question you have to ask
yourself, is really what areyour priorities?

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Because for us, it came down tomy husband was very clear, and
this is why we're in Nashville,in Waynesville, not Asheville.
For my husband, it was reallylike I need to be in the
mountains, not looking at them,not near them, in them.
I want to open up my front doorand smell mountain air.
That was a really big deal tohim.
For me, I needed a reallystrong, robust sense of

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community.
I left a small town that raisedme and had a real strong sense
of community.
And I was very involved.
And I needed to feel like itwould be easy for me to plug in
again.
And I wanted a culture where Ifelt like I could be my favorite
self and that that would befully accepted.
A lot of times in the communityI came from, I did feel like I

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had to filter myself or holdback because either political
reasons or like, because myviews were very different from
where I lived.
Not everybody, but like themajority.
And so I had to like bite mytongue or I was just too much,
too strong, too loud, tooartistic, too weird, too
whatever.
There was a lot of too muchnessin me from where I came from.

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And so I needed somewhere whereI could just walk around
completely unfiltered and didn'tmatter what I wore and How I
spoke, if it was just my genuineself, that that would be
welcomed.
And this community really is mypeople.
But they have a very strongsense of identity and community.
And holy crap, are they like sonice.
They're just over the top nice.

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But we looked around, we lookedat other places, and either I
didn't get a strong sense ofcommunity there, or they weren't
in the mountains, or they didn'thave good public schools, or...
Ultimately, what really narrowedthe list down was we wanted to
stay within driving distance offamily.
So my in-laws are only an hourto an hour and a half away.
And my family, like if somethingever happened and I needed to

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get there, it's a one-day drive.
I can be there in 10 hours.
But we also love the PacificNorthwest.
We love Colorado.
There's other places in thecountry we love, but I didn't.
I drew the line at I don't wantto be a plane ride away from
family.
That was important to me.
And so then it became...
you know, a couple of radiusesbetween our two families of

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where do we get mountains anddriving distance to family.
And so those were the prioritiesthat mattered to us.
Okay, so we looked at hundredsof cities, though.
We did.
We looked at many states, manycities, and it just kept coming
back that Waynesville worked forus and our family's needs.
So then once we were committedto this idea, we made a

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timeline.
I already shared with you how wecame up with that three-year
plan.
And that was really beautifulbecause deadlines allow you to
have clarity.
And so this is another takeawaythat I hope you guys can bring
from this is I challenge you togive yourself a one-year
deadline.
If you knew that you were goingto leave in the next year, what

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would you prioritize?
And I say that because thereality is even if you already
live somewhere, you plan tonever leave.
We aren't promised tomorrow,whether our own life or the
people in our lives that welove.
So we really only have rightnow.
We only have today.
If there are things in your lifewhere you keep saying, one day
I'd like to X, Y, or Z, I reallychallenge you, instead of saying

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one day, to put dates on that.
Even though we said one daywe're going to move to North
Carolina, one day we're going tolive in the mountains, we still
put a date on it.
We said, come hell or highwater, it's happening June of
2025.
And I told Brandon, I said, evenif all we do is sell this house
and take the equity and pay torent something somewhere, we're
leaving and we will get up thereand we will figure it the heck

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out up there.
Even if we can't find the righthome, this is the date.
We are going June 2025.
Even if it's not easy, it ishappening.
That is the month it'shappening, right?
So take all your one days andput a date on them.
Knowing that we're leaving gaveus this beautiful deadline for
the things I had been sayingthat one day I would do while we

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lived in Florida, right?
And so one of them was I wantedto go bioluminescent hiking.
If you've never heard of that,you can go, I said hiking, I
meant kayaking.
You can go kayaking where it'slike the water glows in the
dark.
It's so cool.
I had seen pictures of it andyou could do it an hour and a
half from where I used to live,but I had never prioritized it.
And there's only a few months ofthe year that it's really active

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and strong to see.
So last summer, we had my sisterwatch the kids so we could go on
a date and do that.
We drove over to the coast andwe did the bioluminescent hiking
and drove back home.
And I don't know if I would haveprioritized that if I didn't
have the deadline because itwould have felt like, oh, I'll
do it eventually.
I'll do it one day.
Another thing was I alwayswanted to have annual passes to

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Disney World because we had themwhen I was growing up and I
wanted to do that with my kids.
So we made it happen.
And when we made it happen,guys, if you would have seen the
math, if you would have seen thenumbers in our bank account,
knowing we needed to be planningfor this move and saving and all
this stuff, it financially didnot make any sense when we went.
But I just said, this is my lastshot.

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So we bought them last March sothat I knew if they ran March to
March, then...
Shortly after the month ofMarch, if we were wanting to
move in June, we would need tobe like focusing on moving and
not like, you know, taking a dayoff to go gallivant around
Disney World.
So that timeline kept gettingtighter and tighter.
And finally, I was like, it'snow or never.
And so we bought the passes andwe made some of the best passes.
memories and I had so much fun.

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So I have no regrets.
I'm so glad we did it.
But I don't know that I wouldhave done it if I didn't have
the pressure of that deadline.
And there's other things that wedid too.
Different people in our lives,relationships, I prioritized
knowing...
I'm so grateful I get to live bythese certain people and I want
to make memories.
There were other relationshipsin my life that were not good,

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but that mattered to me.
And so I also had the clarity tofocus on repair.
Like I didn't want to leaveknowing that I was leaving those
relationships with the way thatthey were.
And so it created an opportunityfor figuring out what repair
looks like.
And I'm so glad I did thatbecause it did not feel bad at
all when we left because we leftthem in a much better place than

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they used to be a few years ago.
There are other relationshipsthat, you know, I started
realizing, are these peoplelifetime friends or are they
just seasons?
Because, you know, they liveclose and it's convenient.
And so I started investing morein those people who I knew would
be in my life forever andallowing those relationships to
just drift or fall apart that Iknew were only based on me

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living there.
So it also gave me this clarityof who to prioritize when I have
free time, right?
Because as a working parent, youonly have so many hours a week
that you're going to spend onsocializing or so many people on
your brain that you can thinkabout in text.
And you know, I can't keep upwith everybody and invest in
everybody.
And so it gave this realclarifying lens.
And then I also was reallyinvolved in the community.

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And I've talked about this onother episodes.
And that was That helped me tohave this three-year timeline,
helped me to slowly get off ofall of those boards, some of
them quickly and some I did overtime so that I could replace
myself in a really strategicway.
And so by the time we left, Ihad really cut all of my ties.
Of course, there's people Istill love, but I only shed a

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few tears, like maybe threedifferent people, my mom, my
dad, and one of my friends.
I cried for like 10 seconds.
That was it.
There wasn't really any sadness.
because we were so excited.
But that leads me to the nextthing that we did in the
preparation was a lot of theinner work.
Even though in 2025, it wasn't avery emotional decision to

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leave, getting serious about itin 2023 was.
And so there was a lot of cryingand shedding of tears and doing
a lot of inner work.
So I worked with my mentor atthe time to do a lot of like
emotions, subconscious work toheal a lot of the
people-pleasing and fear andguilt that I knew that I was

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going to move either way.
But if I hadn't done that workunder the surface, it would have
been a lot harder.
I think fear would have had abigger grip on me.
I think I would have been morestressed about it, probably had
more anxiety about it.
But I had none of those thingsbecause two years ago, I worked
through all of that.
So the fears that had beenbubbling up about the idea of

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You know, I was nine when wemoved to Hillsborough County.
I was 11 when parents bought thehouse that they still live in.
And I'd been extremely investedin my community.
And so it wasn't just like aneasy thing to step away from.
And so it required a lot of workunder the surface.
And I worked with a professionalto help me do that so that I

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could feel easy and breezy andcomfortable when the time came.
And the last little bit of innerwork that I want to share with
you that I did as well was forall three of those years that we
were planning, I did a lot ofmeditation and I would, you can
get, I have meditations for freeon my app and you can listen

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like just the different way Imeditate.
You can go in and you can seehow I do that.
But I will go in and, you know,I was taught I was raised in
Christianity and I was taughtthrough church that prayer looks
like talking to God.
But at some point in my early20s, I figured out that that,
oh, and this is in my book, thisis in the spiritual chapter,
chapter six, I believe, that itjust felt like praying felt like

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a Santa Claus list.
Like you're just going to Godwith these like prayer requests
and just talking and like, Iwant this, I want this, I want
this, I want this.
And it just felt really wrong.
And meditation was reallyhelpful to me because it taught
me how to listen.
And so when I say it, you know,I take things to prayer and
meditation.
It is me going in and askingquestions of God.

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Whether I call it God or thedivine or the universe, it
doesn't matter to me.
That word is all the same thing.
And I would ask and I wouldlisten and I would reflect.
So I would go with questions andthen I would sit in the silence
to see what came through.
And so I did a lot ofmeditations to just reflect on
what is the right next step?
What should I be prioritizingright now?

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What does this look like?
How do I move through that?
And for all three years, I didthat.
And then it came time toactually start taking action.
So I think some of the actionsthat are the most important are
to know that once we committedto this idea, we moved mentally
before we moved physically.

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I think the first year, it wasstill like an idea.
So I was looking at Zillow everynight and sending him houses and
what about this?
And do you like that?
And, you know, we're looking atit all the time, talking about
it regularly.
And I think for that first year,it was like 95, like 95% sure
we're going to do this.
But there was still some doubt,like 5 to 10% of like, but maybe
it won't work out.

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I think there was still 5 to 10%of the doubt for the first year.
But after that, eventually wegot to the 100%.
And once we were 100% certain wewere doing this, I think we had
checked out to any otherreality.
We would just do, and thiswasn't me like trying to do some
manifestation thing or somechecklist of this is how you

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make your goals and dreams cometrue.
All of this was just veryorganic, very natural, but it
does follow a lot of the scriptsthat those types of people will
tell you to do.
But we did a lot, ultimatelywhat it was, it was
visualization work because Wewould do little things like we
kept the Waynesville weather onour app.

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So whenever we would check theweather, we would know what it
was where we lived in PlantCity, Florida.
But then we would be like,what's the weather like today in
Waynesville?
And so we always knew like whatthe temperatures were.
I was looking at Zillow everysingle night.
I knew so much about the realestate.
And then I would go down thesedeep rabbit holes of like, okay,
but if you live in this area,then why in your zone for these

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schools and what are theseschools and how far away.
Like I had two places I loved somuch.
So there was the theater programI wanted to get my daughter in.
I have a favorite coffee shopand then the rec center.
And every house I would look at,I would see, I would run a
search in Google of how manyminutes would it take if you
lived there, how long does ittake to get to these three
places?
And we didn't really wantanything more than like 15
minutes away from those places.

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I knew we were gonna, we werereally building our life around
those three things.
The rec center, the theaterprogram and my favorite coffee
shop.
And so I was willing to live inlike a 15 minute radius.
The house had to be bomb for meto be like amazing to be like,
okay, to have that house, Iwould be willing to drive 20.
But after 20, it was like a no,not an option.
And so that really taught us theareas of town and what was too

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far out and that kind of thing.
And then I'd also looked up thedifferent schools and which
schools I was more interestedin.
Private Facebook groups are thebest because you can type in a
search and just see when peoplehave commented and said stuff.
And so I knew which schoolspeople had shared positive
stories about and negativestories about.
And you can't give those toomuch credence because...

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my siblings are public schoolteachers and they will tell you,
always trust what a teachersays, not what a parent says,
because there's very iratepeople without the whole story
and the context.
And so I, you know, I gavethose, they were relevant
information, but I was lookingfor patterns, not like one mad
person was going to form myopinion.
But anyways, private Facebookgroups were the best.

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But I even started, because Iwas involved in these private
groups, I even made a couple offriends, like online friends,
which I guess is different.
I think that there's like socialmedia friends and online real
life friends.
And I think you guys know thedifference of what I'm talking
about.
But I started networking andbeing able to like talk to
locals and ask questions andreally wrap my mind around the
community here.
And I think that the visualizingit and moving mentally before we

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moved physically was really,really big.
Because if you listen to anybodywho has done something really
incredible or really successful,they will tell you how important
that visualization is.
So for example, reallysuccessful athletes, they will
tell you that part of their gamewarmup process is they will play
the game in their head.
They see themselves throwing orcatching the passes or scoring,

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you know, if it's basketball, athree point, you know, shot or
whatever, but they visually seethe plays in their head and they
see them going well and they seethem going smooth.
And, you know, my dad playedgolf and so he talks a lot about
golf, but I know that like whenit comes to golf, it is almost
entirely a mental game, right?
Your mind has to be all on itand they have to like see the

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shot going well before they everswing that club.
And what they are seeing andvisualizing ends up impacting
whether they have a good game ornot.
And that's why visualizing thething that you're desiring and
truly believing it is soimportant.
And again, we were doing that,but I wasn't doing it of some
sort of a checklist thing.

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It was just really organic.
We believed it.
We wanted it.
We desired it.
And so we talked about it allthe time.
And I'm really glad that welooked at those hundreds and
hundreds of houses on Zillowover three years.
It just became my habit everynight when I would go put my son
to bed.
And I broke him of this habitlike last August.
So almost a year ago, I brokehim of the habit.

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But prior to that, I would sitin there for a while while he
was falling asleep.
or lay down with him.
And when I lay down with him, Iwould look at if any new houses
had popped up on the market thatwere in the areas we were
looking at.
And then I would send them toBrandon and we would say like,
yes, this or no this.
So that's how we startedlearning little details.
Like I really cared about theview and he really cared that it

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was like not in a neighborhood.
The neighbors can't be thatclose or he would care a lot
about the kitchens.
I forgot to even pay attentionto kitchens, but he would say
that one's too small.
Absolutely not.
That kitchen's way too small.
And so we started learning likethe little things that matter to
him and kitchens matter to him,neighbors matter to him and a
good spot for the fire pitmattered to him.
And because he'd look at homeand he'd be like, it's great,
but I just don't see anywherethat it would make sense to put

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a fire pit.
And so then that house would belike, that's not going to work,
right?
And for me, it was the view andthe proximity to those places
that I wanted to frequent andlittle other things too.
But we started learning whatmattered to each of us.
And so we could, by the time,you know, it was actually time
to shop, we could look at ahouse and immediately know,
like, it checks these boxes.
It does not check these.
Yes.

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You know, yes, we're interested.
No, we're not.
Like, with such clarity.
And so those are just likelittle different things that we
did as we were preparing for it.
And that leads me to a couple ofquestions that I, a couple
additional questions I want tochallenge you guys to ask
yourself.
So I brought up the fire pit andthat's really actually a very

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important piece of information.
I've mentioned this in my book,if you've read my book, which is
I shared that A few years ago,my therapist had asked me, what
are you doing when you feel themost alive?
And I said, speaking, but myhusband said sitting around the
fire pit.
And that was really important tous in realizing that Florida
wasn't going to work out for uslong-term because six months of
the year, it is so hot.

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It's miserable.
You would not light a fire pitat night in the Florida heat.
Like you're just not going to.
And it was one of thoseclarifying things.
Like we needed to live somewherethat most, not maybe like 12
months out of the year, but 10,11 months out of the year, you
could sit outside with a firepit.
And it really made it, you know,it helped us in this decision

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that we wanted to relocate.
And so I want to ask you thatquestion.
My job, my ability to speakdoesn't matter where I live.
It doesn't, that doesn't affectit.
But for my husband, it wasrelevant information.
And so I want to challenge youto ask that of yourself.
What are you doing when you feelthe most alive?
Another thing that was reallyclarifying for us was what makes

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our nervous system feel atpeace?
And so I go back to that commentthat I made in July of 2022 when
I said, why do I feel more athome here than I do in the place
I've lived for 25 years?
And I know, I'm certain that ithas something to do about the
environment and the nature here.
I just believe like I live, Ibelong in mountains and I don't

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know why, but they just make mefeel very relaxed.
But I have a girlfriend wholived in the Pacific Northwest
and it was beautiful and it wasgreat.
And she was miserable becauseshe just has the tropics in her
blood.
It's my former coach and mentor,Amani, who I hope to have on an
episode coming up.
I hope to bring her for us totalk about.

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She really walked me a lotthrough this journey and
preparing her over the lastcouple of years.
And so I'm hoping to bring heron.
But she lives in Mexico now.
She just moved with her and herson to Mexico, but I've known
her so 2016 and she I met her inFlorida she lived in Key West
she lived in Bali and then lifetook them to Oregon and she was
miserable and now she's inMexico and thriving there and

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she just said like I just Ibelong in the tropics and it's
just where she feels good and Idon't know if that's because she
was born in Hawaii but it justit's where she feels the most
aligned and her nervous systemfeels calm and she said I knew I
just I couldn't be my highestself up here in this weather.
I don't belong here, right?

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And so the same thing that makesme feel like I belong, which is
the mountains, I feel like if itwasn't so far from family, I
could probably be really happyin a place like Oregon or
Washington.
But that answer is going to bedifferent for every person.
I have friends who can sit onthe beach and their whole body
relaxes The beach stresses outlike all five of my senses.

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I am super white.
And so I'm like stressing outthat I'm, you know, going to get
a sunburn and the sand is likegetting in all the crevices of
my body and I can't find ashade.
And then the water is like, ifit gets in your mouth, it's all
salty.
And I just, all my senses go onalert at the beach.
None of them relax.
And so like, I'm not a beachgirl, right?

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But I have friends who wouldtell you that that's when they
feel they're most relaxed.
So What is it for you?
And it might not have to do withnature.
It might be something else thatyou can create or cultivate in
your home.
You know, I think of like howcalm and good I feel when I lay
under my weighted blanket,right?
So what is that answer for you?
What brings the most peace toyour nervous system?

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And then a question that I kindof, I ran over this one quickly,
but it was a very pivotal onefor us.
And if you don't have children,just, you know, skip over this
part.
But for us, a big clarifyingquestion was that really shaped
almost all of our decisions waswhat kind of childhood we wanted
to give our kids.
And that really shaped most ofour decisions.

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And so if you have kids, that'sa great question that you can
ask yourself.
Is this the kind of childhood Iwant to give?
And maybe you are.
You're already doing it.
And that's confirmation for you.
And that's beautiful.
And that's great.
And so great.
Box checked.
But is there some part of itthat you're not?
And what can you do to changethat?
Okay.
I want to talk to you guys aboutthe actual house we found.

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Because it's nothing short of amiracle.
I mean, it's truly a miracle.
This house, if you don't followme on Instagram, then let me
just tell you.
First of all, the house isbeautiful, but the views are
breathtaking.
I didn't even realize it tillafter we were already living in
it, but I can see both thesunrise and the sunset from my

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front porch.
Oh, by the way, like the wholeview thing, it was because I was
moving to the mountains so Icould sit on the front porch and
drink coffee and look at apretty view.
That's like, Big, big, big dealto me.
Okay.
So that's what all the housesthat matter.
Brandon has his fire pit.
I have a front porch withcoffee.
That's like a big deal.
And this has a panoramic view.
So I can literally see themountains 306 degrees around the

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house.
Like if I walk the property, butthe front porch, I can see it,
you know, 180 degrees.
The whole from left to right,everything is a stunning view of
the Blue Ridge Mountains.
So I have learned that thismeans we live in a cove.
So that's why it is mountainsall around us is we actually
live in literally the middle ofthe Blue Ridge Mountains in a
cove so we can see them allaround, like 360 degrees around

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us.
And we had a budget, right?
A house shopping budget.
Everybody does.
Ours was based on the equity wewere pulling from Florida and,
you know, what my business couldsupport with us being a one
income family, not knowingwhat's going to happen with my
husband's career.
And so that really limited thehouses that we could look at.

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And we came up at the end ofApril and saw five houses.
Two, I was really, well, threeof them I was super excited
about.
One, when we got to go see it,my in-laws were with us and my
father-in-law was like,absolutely not.
He didn't even want to finishthe tour.
It was like, There was so muchwork that needed to be done that
they had hid in the photos.
He was like, get us out of here.

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This is in such bad condition.
Like, there's no way you can buythis house.
And so that one was reallydisappointing.
And then the other two, one wasmy husband's top pick and the
other one was my top pick.
And his top pick was surroundedby trees.
And even though it was abeautiful property and a
beautiful home, I was open toliving there and actually
standing in the house.
with trees all around me, I feltclaustrophobic.

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I felt, I didn't know how todescribe it, but I was like
standing in the living room andI just felt like my shoulders
were hunched forward and it justfelt like everything was like
coming in around me.
And I tried to describe it to myhusband as this feeling of like
isolation.
And I was like, I can't do this.
I can't do this house.
Everybody was on an acre thereand the neighbors felt really
far away, like not a sense ofcommunity, very much like

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everybody keeps to themselves.
And she also said that it wasalmost all entirely retired
people or there's a lot ofFloridians that live here and a
snowbird.
So I'm leaving the snowbirds,but it's the opposite, right?
So I was with the snowbirds forthe winter.
These are the snowbirds for thesummer.
And there's a lot of snowbirdsup here.
And that whole neighborhood wasmostly that.
And I just, I was like, I can't.

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It was mostly the trees aroundme.
I feel like maybeclaustrophobic.
I was like, Brandon, I can't.
I can't do this.
I can't live here.
And so that one took that offthe table, which my realtor
said, do not.
buy a house you have not seen inperson because no matter how,
like we had done a virtual tour,everything looked great.
But she said, there's like,whether the pictures, the
virtual tour, a screen cannotshow you what it feels like to

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drive up to a property, stand ina property, be inside of a
house, and you have to see it inperson before you buy it.
And so we had come up for thatone that didn't work out.
And then one that we were bothpretty excited about, we ordered
a home inspection on it and itcame back with so much wrong
with it.
It was a disaster.
We could not, the headaches wewould have had to deal with were
enormous.
And so we, and then a couple, wehad, we saw five houses that

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day.
And at the end of the day, noneof them worked out.
And so my mother-in-law gave methis advice.
She said, you know, I, we wanteda 4-2.
We were looking at a lot of, youknow, I think I had my settings
on three bedrooms becausesometimes there's like a bonus
room and I had it on one and ahalf baths because having two
bathrooms was like anon-negotiable to us.
And my mother-in-law said,consider changing your settings

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to looking at two ones becauseif there's an unfinished
basement, you can always add acouple more bedrooms and a
bathroom.
But I would look at two ones.
So we did that and we ended upfinding a house that was
technically a three, two, but ithad two living rooms and one of
the living rooms I could make afourth bedroom.

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And so we felt really stronglythat we wanted to buy that
house.
And so we came up to see it.
But that same weekend, there wasthis open house on this other
property.
That was just outside of ourbudget, but it had only just
dropped into our range.
And so they dropped the price by$25,000, which put it inside my
filter.

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And it was a 3.1, which I hadhad my filters where I couldn't
see anything less than one and ahalf, but it was a three one,
only a thousand square feet, butit has an unfinished basement.
And I felt like it was pricedway too high, but they were
having an open house.
So my realtor didn't even comewith us.
And when we looked at thelisting, my in-laws, Brandon,
all of us, we were like, thishouse is so overpriced because

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most of the houses that we werelooking at were somewhere
between like 230 to 290 a squarefoot.
And this was like 450 a squarefoot.
And I was like, I can't believethey're charging this for a
thousand square feet.
This is nuts.
And I want to go look at thishouse in case the one that we
thought we were going to buyfalls through.

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Then maybe over the comingweeks, this one will keep
dropping in price.
And then when it's priced moreappropriately, we can put an
offer on.
And my realtor didn't even comewith us because they were having
an open house.
We just went to go look at itfor shits and giggles.
And pictures could not do itjustice.
So we pull up to this property.
It is stunning.
The photos on Zillow had beentaken during the winter and we

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were there in the spring.
So the house had been on themarket for like, I think like
two or three months.
And so they had kept droppingthe price and we bought it for
$130,000 less than what it wasoriginally posted for.
And you just can't, like, Ican't even describe this
property to you guys.
It's so gorgeous.
It's luscious.
They took such good care of it,but also everything.

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once you're on the property, youalso can't see in a picture how
immaculately well they took careof it.
So they used like all the bestwood, all the best exterior, the
best quality.
They pick best qualityeverything, best quality
appliances, best everything topof the line.
And so there's like, All theseother houses we were looking at,
we were going to have to do workto improve this, fix that.

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They all had things wrong withthem, right?
And this house did no work,except it was only a thousand
square feet and it had athousand square foot basement.
And when we went to go look atit, we found out that the
plumbing was already there forthe second bath.
And my in-laws were like, youguys have to buy this house.
And we were like, I don't knowif we can afford it.
It was outside of what the bankwas willing to loan us based on
the financial situation we werein.

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It was...
They were like, you cannot walkaway from this house.
This is a dream property.
And so they helped us to make itwork financially.
And we made an offer that was onSaturday.

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We made the official offer onSunday and they accepted it on
Monday.
And it was such a whirlwindbecause the home feels out of
our league.
I don't even know how else todescribe it.
I can't even believe we'd everbe able to afford or be able to
have a home like this.
We had been saying like we wouldhave a band-aid house.

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So like one home that we'd be infor three or four years while I
kept growing my business.
And then we could sell that oneand then level up and have like
our dream home.
But we did not think we'd beable to afford our dream home
out the gate.
And we are, my husband and Ithink that we don't see any
reason that we won't die in thishouse.
Like this is our forever homeunless something unforeseen
happens.
There's no reason for us to everleave.
Like this is our dream property.

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It is 10 minutes from the coffeeshop, 10 minutes from the
theater program.
It had my first choice ofschools.
The property is a dream in everyway, shape, or form.
Everything we wanted on thechecklist is there except for
the second bathroom, but wecould put it in ourselves.
So I guess at the end of theday, the band-aid is we are

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living in 1,000 square feet fora little while, but we have
1,000 square feet basementstorage plus a 1,200 square foot
garage separate from the house.
So we have 3,000 square feet tostore things, but 1,000 livable
space.
And that's why we were able toget it at such a good deal.
But the second we close in thatbasement, our equity will
probably jump by at least$150,000, which is insane.

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If these people would haveclosed in their basement and put
that second bathroom, they couldhave gotten at least$150,000
more for this house.
So we feel like we got a stealof a deal.
It blows our minds that we wereable to have a home this
wonderful.
Guys, There's...

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From my front porch, when I wakeup at the sunrise and I drink my
coffee, one of my neighbors hashorses that neigh.
Every direction is beautiful.
The 10-minute drive to get toanywhere is all rural around us.
So I feel like I'm drivingthrough a national park.
It's just farm after farm.
So like Rolling Hills, the BlueRidge Mountains, there is a
miniature donkey farm.

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So on my way to the officetoday, they were outside and I
just get to see little miniaturedonkeys roaming around.
You guys, I can't make thisstuff up.
I'm just so happy everywhere Idrive.
My office I'm sitting in, Ifound her through a Facebook
group.
I had posted about having anoffice separate for lots of
reasons, internet reasons,because we are a bit rural to

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have the best high-speedinternet.
And so it was really startedfrom an internet reason, but
it's also really good for myADHD to not work from home.
But my office, I'm close todowntown and I have three
windows and outside of all ofthem, all I can see are mountain
views.
You go to Walmart, and you stepoutside of Walmart and you have
a 360 view of the mountains.

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You guys, it just, every singleday, my mind is blown.
I just can't stop being gratefuland excited and overwhelmed in
just amazingness.
Okay, sorry, I got off.
I just, I guess I share all thatwith you guys to say that I
really feel like this happened.
It felt like the universe justrolled out of red carpet for us.

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And I know so much of that hadto do with, I use the language
of God.
It just feels like those threeyears of setting the intentions
and those conversations around,we want this, but not this and
this, but not this and this, butnot this.
It's like God was listening thewhole time.
And then even when we thought itwasn't going to be possible and
I was ready to buy that otherhouse and settle, God was like,

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no, What I have for you isbetter than what you can imagine
for yourself.
And that's what it feels like.
It's insane.
And I'm just so grateful.
And I want this for everybody.
Okay, moving on.
I shared a lot of like what hasgone well and what was easy and

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rolling out the red carpet.
But I want you guys to know thatthere was plenty of hard parts.
The Florida house startedfalling apart and we had an
unexpected$3,000 car repair andwe had to let go of, we had to
allow people to feeldisappointed in us, right?
Like a lot of our friends andfamily were sad we were leaving
or had disappointment.
And I had to get to a point thatI could be okay with that.
And I could, it's perfectlyappropriate for them to be sad

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and perfectly appropriate forthem to feel disappointed and
perfectly appropriate for themto say, I wish you weren't
leaving.
It's a sign of love.
It's beautiful.
They're allowed to have thosefeelings and I don't have to
take them on.
I don't have to feel guilt thatI've disappointed them.
And I don't feel any guilt.
I feel completely at peace withthese decisions.
But the work it took to getthere, to allow people to be

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disappointed in you, to allow,make a choice that you know is
going to make other people feelsad, It takes a lot of inner
work.
And that's what I was doingbehind the scenes.
And like I said, my husbandwalked away from a whole career.
That's not easy to do.
So there's plenty of things thatwere not easy.
But I will tell you, as much asthere were things to be afraid
of, to move to a place where youdon't know anybody and start

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completely over, the scariestpart was not making the decision
to leave.
The scariest part was thethought of never trying.
of getting to the end of ourlives and saying like, what if
we had followed our dreams andwhat if we had moved to the
mountains?
Not knowing the answer to thatwas way scarier than taking the
risk.
And so I asked that of you, isthere anything you're afraid of?

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And what's bigger, the fear todo the thing or the fear of
having never tried?
So I would just ask you, here'sjust some different questions
for you to think about for yourown life.
What are you craving more?
What in your life drains you?
I just think about how drained Ifelt driving around.
So much of our rural town wegrew up in is now like a

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concrete jungle.
All the strawberry fields aregetting converted into
warehouses and distributioncenters.
And I would just constantlydrive around and feel sad.
And so anyways, what in yourlife drains you?
What kind of community cansupport the version of you
you're becoming?
And if you do want toconsider...
I want you to follow your dreamsno matter what they are.
They might not have to do withmoving.

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They might be about changingcareers or changing partners,
getting a divorce, or maybeyou're single and willing to put
yourself out there.
Your things might not be about ahouse and moving.
Your dream might have to do withsome other spoke on your wheel.
But if you are thinking ofmoving, I encourage you, the
lessons I've learned is visitthe places you're thinking about
going, talk to the locals, do alot of meditation and reflect,

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and give yourself permission towant and desire what you truly
desire.
want.
Allow yourself to dream big.
In closing, really, this is not,this was never about the house.
It wasn't about this particularcity or place.
I call it that I'm living inparadise, but this is our
paradise.
It might not be yours, right?
You might have people who arelike, oh my God, I could never

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live somewhere that snows.
Okay, this is not your paradise,but it is ours, right?
But it was never about thehouse.
It's about this feeling ofliving in alignment with with
who we are it's this deep peaceI feel when I wake up in this
home in this town it wasn'trandom it's not a coincidence
it's a result of listening towhat my soul was whispering in

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my ear for years and so my wishfor you is this that you will
listen to your whispers and thatyou will create a life that
feels aligned for you that youcan't help but be in awe of
every single day as you drivearound and do day-to-day things
like commuting to work, mydeepest desire for you is that

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you will unleash your favoriteself.