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Erin Gray (00:00):
Welcome back to your
Money, your Rules podcast.
Today I wanted to dive into thefrequency of money.
This has taken me some time toget to this place because for a
long time I was on the frequencyof fear when it came to money
lack, limitation, scarcity,whatever way you want to
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describe it, just a lowervibration emotion and I feel
like so many of us have aconflicted relationship with
money.
And once I was able to connectwith money in this way, it truly
has changed everything for me.
And I believe that money is onthe frequency of love, the
vibration of love, not fear, notshame, not guilt, not anger or
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control or pressure or any otherfrequency that we have been
conditioned to believe thatmoney actually exists on.
And the more that I haveconnected to this truth, the
more peace and the moreprosperity and the more clarity
I have experienced.
So I am going to share with youwhat most of us have been
conditioned to believe thatmoney is what I actually mean
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when I say money is on thefrequency of love, and then how
to get and stay on thatfrequency.
Okay, so let's talk about thefrequency that most of us have
been conditioned to believe thatmoney is on.
And when I say frequency, let'sjust back up a little bit.
Like vibration, like everythingis energy.
So energy is always in motionand it is never created or
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destroyed, right?
So energy moves, it is avibration.
Think about particles movingback and forth that is vibration
.
But how fast they move or howslow they move, that is
frequency.
But how fast they move or howslow they move, that is
frequency.
So many of us were raised tobelieve that money is or feels
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right, scarce, it's limited.
Sometimes it might have evenfelt cold, it might be we've
been conditioned to believe thatit's hard to get, hard to come
by, hard to keep.
You have to work hard for it,like all of this hard energy
around money, something that youhave to earn and prove or
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perform for, not just receive.
It might have even representedyou know, in my family this is
what for me was true is itrepresented fighting Some of my
clients?
It just was like non-existent,there was no talking about it,
like almost ignoring money.
So, naturally, when we believethat about money, when we are in
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that vibration, when it comesto money, when we relate to it
from a lower vibrationalfrequency, like the fear, the
guilt, control or forcing, itbecomes this thing that we are
trying to chase Because we arein this lack and limitation,
belief and frequency, then wethink it's something that exists
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outside of us.
So we're chasing it, we'rehoarding it, we might obsess
over it and then what ultimatelywe do is we never actually feel
safe.
So, because money is energy,like everything else in the
world, it responds to the energythat you actually are.
What are you vibrating on aconsistent basis?
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Not what you want to have or be.
So when you think about you knowwhen you're wanting more money,
you're actually coming from theenergy of not having money.
Lack, right.
And although desire is anamazing and wonderful thing, we
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want to desire it, but we wantto desire it from a place of I
have plenty already and I wouldlove more, versus I don't have
enough and I want more.
Do you see the difference inenergy from that place?
So, as I mentioned previously,when our bodies feel threatened
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or when you think about fear,fear in the body feels like a
threat.
When you think about fear, fearin the body feels like a threat
.
When you feel that, when youignore money, when you feel
shame with money, it's going tomirror back the energy that you
are emitting.
But then, when we begin torelate to money, through love
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and a partnership and expansionof who you already are, you know
, I always tell clients, likewe're just peeling back the
onion to expose who you alreadyare right, like we're revealing
who you already are.
Think of it as like putting allof these coats on you and all
we're doing is just taking offthe coats to show you and reveal
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to you who you truly are.
Like we're not, we're nothaving to go do anything or
become someone.
We're letting go of all of thatstuff that told us who we
aren't, who we you know.
So when you are thinking aboutwho am I, what we're really
doing is releasing all of thosestories that have us believing
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something other than pure loveand light and abundance and
prosperity.
So when you come from thatenergy of love, when you come
from the energy of a partnershipand expansion and prosperity
and abundance, then you're readyto receive all that you can
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receive because you are in thathigher vibration place.
You know we have so muchevidence from other people, I
think, that have used money as aweapon instead of a tool.
You know we associate money,you know, instead of associating
the person that might have alower consciousness and they are
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in a lower vibration of fear ormaybe greed.
We're not looking at it fromthat lens or perception.
We're looking at it as money isthe bad thing, right, but money
just is.
Money just wants to connect.
I truly believe money wants toconnect to us because it is an
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extension of source and it'sgoing to vibrate, it's going to
mirror back what energy you areemitting.
So when I say that money is onthe frequency of love, when I
think about love and how thatfeels in my body, to me and this
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is something that you need toplay with and ask yourself and
really tap into your body butlove to me feels expansive, it
feels warm, it feels open, itfeels curious in my body, it
feels safe, it feels like giving, like it's God or whatever you
want to use spirit source, likeit's divine, it like I tear up
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thinking about, like what love?
When you love someone, when youlove something, it just feels
pure and I truly believe thatmoney is a spiritual idea
because we if you can get onboard that we all came from the
same source, which means thatyou and I are connected and you
and the next person areconnected.
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We're all connected.
We all came from God.
Spirit source, like God, workswithin us, then the idea
ultimately right Because we camefrom God.
Then the idea is from God andGod is on the frequency of love
and, whatever you know, you wantto use source universe,
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whatever it is, insert whateverfeels good for you and your body
that you can get behind.
But all that God or spiritsource or our creator wants to
do is to give and give and giveand give and we can only receive
to the level that our vessel isopen to and ready to receive.
So when you have beliefs thatmoney is bad or that you have
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evidence of money affecting yourfamily or your friends, our
perception about money, you know, when we start to look at money
as the thing versus the human,with their consciousness and how
they are using money, that'swhen we get I call it squirrely
right like we start to.
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Our perception around money hashas been maybe not necessarily
of the highest vibration becausewe have associated that money
is the thing that's good or badversus money just is and and
it's the person using the moneyas a tool or as a weapon.
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You know I think a lot about.
I've had clients on the I meanboth partners right With divorce
and you've had, I've hadclients that have, you know,
been paying alimony in childsupport.
I've also had clients that havebeen paying alimony and child
support.
I've also had clients that havebeen receiving alimony and
child support.
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And at least in the Westernworld, I think a lot of us have
this idea around divorce thatit's contentious and that you're
fighting and you're fightingfor money, right, and maybe
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you're haunting kids, and it'sjust this contentious, lower
vibration circumstance that'shappening.
But I really think that when welook at circumstances, if we
can look at it from the lens ofthe reason why that that is
actually happening, is notbecause of the thing right, like
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divorce isn't good or bad,money isn't good or bad, those
things just are.
But our consciousness as humansis what creates the experience.
So when I talk about moneybeing on the frequency of love,
I'm talking about shifting ourenergy and our relationship with
it to match the frequency thatit actually is.
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So imagine money as aconsciousness that responds like
a friend or a partner or alover.
Would you know, when you speakto it with respect, when you pay
attention to it, when you honorit when you trust that it's
always going to be there for youbecause, like I said, it's
ultimately coming.
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God is our supply, it's goingto flow, it's going to come
right.
We're the ones that are at thefire hydrant or this.
You know sprinkler turning itoff or turning it.
You know smaller stream, right.
So, like, how can we increasethe stream?
Is we increase ourconsciousness, we let go of
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those limiting beliefs and thosethoughts that we have and we
let our abundance come forth andthrough us.
So I want you to think about,when you think about all the
good that you could do withmoney, how do you actually feel
in your body?
Because I think a lot of ushave a lot of examples from a
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lot of humans that have usedmoney to pit each other against
each other, I mean in estateplanning.
I have endless stories there,you know.
You think about wars that havebeen started.
You think about the way thatdiamonds have been mined.
There's a lot of ways that wehave evidence that money has
been used as a weapon, but thatdoesn't make money bad.
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It is because of the people andtheir consciousness with money.
So, going back to you know, whenyou think about all the good
that you actually could do withmoney and can do with money.
How do you feel in your body?
You know, I truly feel as womenand also as men, because I do
have men clients that we are inthe most potent time.
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We get to show the world thatyou can use money for good
instead of how it has been used,and we get to teach our
precious children that money isabundant and that supply is
never ending and that when wegive, we receive.
We don't have to hoard it, wedon't have to be afraid of it,
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we don't have to pit it againstanybody, like there's plenty
enough for it to go around.
You know, we can share it andwe can expect it to be there for
us and we can expect more tocome and for it to continually
increase.
Okay, so let's talk about how toactually align with the
frequency of love when you aremaking money decisions.
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So instead of thinking thoughtslike can I afford this or I
can't afford this, or that's tooexpensive, you can ask is this
aligned with who I am?
And when I say who I am, Idon't mean I mean on the one
hand.
It's like who we are is allthat we are right now, but like
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your future self.
That's who you're acting fromRight.
So think about from a futureself place.
Is this aligned with who I amin a future self place?
And if it is yes, then makingdecisions from that place.
Instead of asking questionslike what is a safe option, you
can ask what feels reallyexpansive and true to me and
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like a heart's desire, insteadof asking things like what's the
ROI which we've been taught todo right?
What's the return in energy, injoy and alignment.
I had a client recently, youknow say that she used to think
that love always meant sayingyes and I said that's not what
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love is.
Love is to me it's honoringyourself, it's honoring you and
honoring that other person, andsometimes that looks like saying
no.
Sometimes that looks like youhonoring yourself, which says
means saying no to someone else,but not from a F you place, not
from you know fear or anger,but it looks like saying no from
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a place of love for you andthat other person.
So sometimes love looks likesaying no.
Sometimes love looks likesaying not right now, but not
from, not from fear, not fromanger, but from a place of love
and expansion and discernmentand a heart's desire and being
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really clear on that.
When you think about love, itultimately, I think, allows us,
if we allow it, to circulate ourmoney without guilt, allocate
our money from a place ofexpansion and anticipation
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instead of a place of scarcity,you know, not from guilt, not
from I feel obligated, but froma place of true desire.
So I want to invite you over thenext week, to really start to
ponder and reflect and like, andreflect and like okay, how am I
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going to redefine and redesignmy relationship with money?
So if you're sitting herethinking, yeah, yeah, yeah, erin
, this sounds great, okay, but Idon't actually feel that way
about money.
I don't love money.
I don't think money is on thefrequency of love.
I want you to know that.
That's okay.
I didn't start here either.
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I started from scarcity andthinking, okay, sufficiency,
like money can just be.
Money isn't good or bad, moneyjust is.
So if that's where you are,it's totally fine.
But this is a practice.
This is ultimately aremembering, a revealing,
because anything that we haveever been taught has changed our
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view and our perception ofmoney.
Right, and if you're reallygetting honest with yourself,
you probably could look and seewhere you do have bits and
pieces of feeling like money ison the frequency of love and you
do have bits and pieces, youknow, on the frequency of fear
and everything in between.
Right, it's not one or theother, it's, it's a spectrum of
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of how we feel.
But what I want to encourageyou to do is to be on a more
consistent basis of the energyof, or the frequency of, love.
So you can just start as simpleas asking yourself like how
would it look like to treat mymoney, like someone that I love,
that I care for?
How would I speak to it?
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What would I?
Would I trust it?
Would I listen to it?
Would I honor it?
Like, what would I do with it?
You know, what's one step thatyou can take today to think
about money from the energy oflove versus the energy that you
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have previously thought aboutmoney, and I want to invite you
that, if you are ready to deepenyour relationship, to release
the fear that you have aroundmoney, to embody more trust and
expand your wealth consciousnessfrom a place of love, I would
love to support you.
You know, this is where we getto bring money back into our
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hearts and our nervous system sothat we can continue to build
the wealth from a place of, like, full self-expression.
If we are a good fit, all youhave to do is just click the
link in the show notes and youcan schedule a call.
I truly believe that you know,money has been created for us to
share and to circulate and tolove on and to give from a place
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of love, and I think that, aswomen and men you know, we have
such an opportunity to show thatmoney can be a beautiful thing,
that it can be an extension ofwho we are and the love that we
have for one another, as opposedto what it has looked like for
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a lot of us.
So, until next time, I want youto know that I believe in you
and that I'm rooting for you andthat I love you.