Mom Knows Best

In this thought-provoking episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive into the complexities of parenting and the distinct roles that mothers and fathers play in raising children. They explore a common yet unspoken dynamic—many women feel the weight of parenting falls almost entirely on them, while their husbands are either uninvolved or perceived as not fully capable. Through personal stories and Torah insights, they challenge this belief, introducing the transformative principle that a father is just as indispensable to a child's well-being as a mother. By shifting perspectives and creating space for a husband's unique parenting style—one rooted in the masculine traits of chochma, chessed and netzach—mothers can alleviate their own burden while giving their children the security that comes from having two actively involved parents. 

Hindi and Chayale also unpack the deep fears that arise when a father's approach to parenting differs from a mother's structured and intuitive style. They discuss the impact of perception—how viewing a husband as incapable can subtly reinforce that reality, and how shifting that lens can create powerful change. Through humor, honesty, and real-life examples, they highlight the importance of Shalom Bayis (marital harmony) as the foundation for raising healthy, balanced children. Tune in for a paradigm-shifting conversation that will challenge, inspire, and leave you with practical takeaways for embracing your husband’s role in parenting.