Unlock the secrets of self-mastery with Michael Cole and our esteemed guest, Evely Raudmets, a peak performance specialist and elite Neuroencoding coach. Evely's journey from engineering to transforming lives is not just fascinating but a testament to her relentless pursuit of understanding the "human machine." Discover how her personal battles with trauma and suppressed emotions have propelled her to empower others, especially veterans and their families, to achieve significant personal growth. Evely's story is a compelling exploration of how practical strategies can spark meaningful change, offering listeners a unique perspective on overcoming life's challenges through applied principles and trust in the transformative process.
Explore the fascinating concept of identity shift in this conversation, a key to building resilience and mastering one's mindset. Evely guides us through the art of adopting a growth mindset, which is crucial for navigating life's unpredictable hurdles, from everyday annoyances to profound personal transformations. Learn how observing and regulating your thoughts can help reshape your identity, allowing you to move beyond limiting beliefs. With compelling examples, including the journey of a veteran redefining his conditioned identity, Evely demonstrates the power of conscious choice and the importance of embracing discomfort in personal growth. Join us for an insightful discussion that promises inspiration and practical advice for anyone on a journey of transformation.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to your Thoughts, your Reality with
Michael Cole, the podcast thatshines a compassionate light on
the journey of veterans battlingthrough life's challenges.
Michael is a dual elitecertified neuro encoding
specialist in coaching andkeynote training presentations
dedicated to guiding militaryveterans as they navigate the
intricate pathways ofpost-deployment life.
(00:23):
Join him as we delve into theprofound realm of neuroencoding
science, empowering these braveindividuals to conquer universal
battles procrastination,self-doubt, fear and more.
Together, let's uncover thestrength within you to re-engage
with families and society,forging a new path forward.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hello, hello, hello everybody.
So today we have a good, dearfriend of my wife and I, emily
Rademitz.
She's a peak performancespecialist, elite neuroencoding
coach, empowering individuals tomaster their mindset and
achieve personal excellence.
She's an experienced speaker.
I've seen her speak.
She's fantastic.
She works with tech leaders andprofessionals, guiding them
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through transformative journeysof self-mastery.
She comes from a family ofmilitary veterans If anybody can
go back and see our firstepisode together.
She shares some absolutelyamazing stories and it was
absolutely beautiful and withexpertise in creating meaningful
change, eveli combinesneuroscience and actionable
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strategies to help peopleovercome challenges and achieve
their goals.
So, eveli, we're pivoting today, but we're making it happen and
I'm so happy that we're doingthat.
So, eveli, the people thatdon't know you yet, please tell
a little bit more about yourself.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Thank you, michael.
First of all, thank you, I lovethe pivoting and I thank you
for your patience.
I just ran out of a clientmeeting and I miscalculated by
an hour, so thank you, thank you, and yes, everyone listening,
I'm here the third time, secondtime and losing track.
Everyone listening, I'm here.
Is it the third time?
Second time I'm losing track.
Third, I think right, yeah, andI should put it so well.
(02:11):
My family has a background inservice and military, my dad and
my grandfather being a veteranhimself, and that I shared in
the first episode.
But today I've been able tocoach now a few clients of mine
who have a service background.
One is in like secret forces,special ops in the military, and
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one is, like we could call it,swat, with a little background
in secret service as well.
Seen a lot done a lot, hasquite a lot to move forward and
away from, and I've been workingwith them for over a year now.
So today my goal is to sharewhat I've gathered, what I've
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seen work with them, for them tocreate that lasting change and
to step up to the next level.
So my aim is to bring practicalvalue as much as I can.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Oh, you'll bring it, I know Fantastic.
So before we get startedeverybody, I just want to remind
you.
On the top right corner of thescreen there's a blue QR code.
Scan that QR code.
It takes you toempowerperformancestrategiescom
Again for people listening lateron on the podcast forums,
empowerperformancestrategiescom,there are free e-books for
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resources for you guys, for bothveterans and their families.
There's also Facebook groups,again for veterans, another one
for their families.
Become part of our group.
You know, let's move themission forward and just be
involved in this, so pleasecheck that out.
With that said, emily, youready to get started?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Oh yes.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
All right, fantastic.
So you know.
Your journey into coaching andtransformation began somewhere.
I want to you know people thatdon't know you yet.
Let's just touch base on thatKind of what brought you into
this world of helping others andbringing fulfillment.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Well, it started with my curiosity to understand
things, how things work.
So machines firstly.
So I became an engineer.
Not only that, well, you kindof become a problem solver and
you want to know how things workbecause you have a lot to work
through, and that was mychildhood.
We were born on this planetearth.
We all go through some traumaone way or the other.
(04:24):
So when I was a bit older,maybe in my 20s, I started to
realize maybe it wasn't quiteokay what I went through and
there had been emotionssuppressed and my body started
showing illness and like sleepissues and a lot of things, and
awareness became the first step.
(04:45):
So from there I got curious.
As I mastered machines andprogramming robots, I become
curious about the next machineand I call the human machine.
How do we work, how our thoughtscreate our reality, and from
there are emotions and theactions and everything.
So the more I learned, the moreI started applying.
(05:09):
That's where the change came,because first, like you many
have heard of think, just thinkpositively, just think
positively.
I was like yeah, yeah, yeah.
But as you go along, that stuffreally works.
Our thoughts do create ourreality.
And, uh, it became better.
Then it dropped into worse again, the more I learned and you
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know it's a bumpy ride, it's amessy that that getting back to
back to maybe yourself, back towho you really are, who you want
to be.
And, uh, I've just seen so muchsuffering in my life, so much
violence as well from a littlegirl.
I've seen many people die aswell, some accidentally, some
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from their poor choices overtime, and one thing I thought,
like I would well, I felt thiscalling to help end the
suffering, and I'm a product ofwhat I've learned and I'm
interested in practical thingsthat work, that actually get you
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the result.
And it's really tough at first.
You, you, you have to kind oftrust when maybe your whole life
you've been taught not to trust, like by other people.
Right, you have to trust theprocess and you don't really see
the results, and then you starthesitating will they really
last?
And so my message maybe is, uh,to share all that, yeah yeah,
(06:36):
absolutely so.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
You know a lot of people, don't, you know?
Think that you know you go to atony robbins seminar.
I'm not throwing shade on tonyrobbins, I love him, you know.
Just, everything changes, youknow, when you're coaching with
somebody.
You're going through the work,you're learning the skills, but
you have to do the work.
That's the courageous part,because it's not easy.
You know it's not easy and,like you, you know I've done
(06:59):
work, I'll continue to work therest of my life on things you
know.
And it's really courageous whenyou take that minute and or
that, when you find that minutethat you say enough and create
that leverage and actually moveforward.
So I love you.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
I want to bounce from that for a moment, can I Just
like you said?
Yeah, like, the human machineis so wise that whatever got you
here, you stayed alive and iflike, distrusting, keeping you
safe by pushing people away,whatever that kept you alive.
So now you get to like you.
You choose the heart to proveyour brain wrong.
(07:38):
That's the only way you provethat your thoughts so far may be
deceiving you kind of.
But yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Absolutely and I agree 100%.
You know a lot of veterans intheir family space.
You make challenges, especiallyduring the reintegration period
to civilian life.
You know how can self-masteryand let's talk about that first.
You know what is self-mastery,so people kind of understand
from you know point of view, um,and you're encoding help them
navigate these periods.
So what is self-mastery?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
let's start there self-mastery is like let's start
at a high level.
If you want to change the world, start with yourself, right?
But no one teaches us exactlythat.
It's our thinking that createsthe emotions which then create
the actions, which create yourreality.
So when someone's navigatingback to my, for me self-mastery
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is to put it in layman's terms.
To try to simplify, it is tocome to the present moment first
you.
You check in with yourself.
How am I feeling?
If I'm feeling anxious, worried, angry, to acknowledge that
it's my thoughts creating thatemotions.
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And sometimes the thoughts cango so fast you don't catch them.
But the first I don't have tosit with that emotion for too
long, because emotions last for90 seconds.
Then you can move past it.
But what gets us stuck first isawareness.
Let me explain this okay.
We have a thought in our mind.
It's the brain.
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Then, if someone has heardabout the vagus nerve, it's this
big ass nerve going basicallyback down to our ass.
That kind of is connected toour gut.
That's our second brain.
So whenever I a thought let'ssay I see a blue car my eyes
take it in.
That triggers a thought process.
Blue car Maybe have someassociation with the car, but
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the blue car, information.
That thought goes down to mystomach.
If I love blue cars, my gutwill start producing happy
hormones, good childhoodmemories, blah, blah, blah.
If it's a trigger with traumathe blue car, something happened
, someone got hit, I sawsomething the signal, the
thought in my brain goes downthe gut, down the vagus nerve,
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to my gut, says cortisol, stress, hormones, threat.
We could end it there.
But it's the body that createsthe emotion from that gut
feeling.
Now the gut sends a signal backthrough the vagus nerve to the
brain saying yeah, the emotion'sready, the cocktail is ready in
the body, that shit's realright now.
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You are going to panic, nowthis is going to happen.
And the brain takes it in.
Oh no, the body's saying thisis true and start generating
more thoughts, right, and thenwe get stuck.
Then it's the two way feedbackand we're stuck, that's, we're
stuck in an emotion and webelieve it because the cocktail
is real, the biochemistry isreal, the feeling is never wrong
(10:38):
.
What we, as self masters, couldand should know is we can
change that feeling.
As self-masters could andshould know is we can change
that feeling.
We don't have to accept becausethis is a machine we get to run
.
We're in charge of this vehiclewe use on this earth.
But to change it, when theemotion starts in the body, you
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change it through the body themost easily, changing your
body's position and such that'sself-mastery.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Then you get better thoughts and, but it's
incremental, so let's let's talkabout how to, how to catch
yourself and change it.
Give us some thoughts on okay,you know, I call it, you know
you're in the spin cycle, you're, you know you're, you're just
spinning right.
How do you stop, how do you getyourself out of it?
Give me some.
Give me some thoughts on whatyou do.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
As I said, first is awareness.
Take inventory first, let's sayyou, you take a week First.
You decide this is what I want.
I want to be in charge ofmyself.
I believe I can.
Let me prove myself that I can.
You take a week.
You map out the emotions youfeel during that week, let's say
the negative ones.
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Then you choose anxiety, panicattacks, fear, anger.
Map those out so you recognizethem and then every time you
catch yourself becoming angry,let's say, or anxious, you name
the emotion.
Ah, I'm feeling angry, I am notanger, I'm not angry, I'm
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feeling angry.
You say that when you voice it,you create distance, you become
aware, and then you freaking,praise yourself, you anchor that
right Because doing this, as weknow, ah, that felt good.
But what was prior to it?
You started doing the work onyourself.
Okay, I caught myself in anger.
I caught it.
That's first step.
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Those are the bunch of emotions.
I'm starting to catch them inthe moment.
When you start catching them inthe moment, then you can choose
Okay, I identified it, and thenyou're persistent like no, but I
want to feel the anger, becausethis gives me power.
I want to stay in it, likeyou're, maybe stubborn as well,
but at one point you will startlike no, I don't choose this, I
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want to feel.
What do you want to feel?
I want to feel in control.
I want to feel good.
I want to feel relaxed.
What do you do?
You jump, jump up suddenly, youchange your body position
suddenly and, like studies inuniversity show, it's the power
poses right, the superman pose,or the hands up, or you enhance
testosterone, but it also lowersyour cortisol, and that's what
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you do.
And again, once you've done it,you freaking praise yourself
and those little things.
You prove to yourself you havenothing to lose, only to gain by
trying.
That is really, really powerful.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Fantastic and you said some fantastic things.
I really want the audience tohear this.
It's a choice, you're choosing.
You literally are choosing.
I literally had a conversationwith somebody yesterday about
this.
You are making the choice, youare in charge.
That's where the power is so Ilove that you brought that up.
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And the second thing, of course,that celebration, smiling, and
the more you celebrate and yousmile, it releases all those
good hormones and your brain islooking for it more.
It is such a powerful tool, youknow, with neuro encoding there
are so many things that arejust based on that to rewire
your brain, strengthen theneural pathways, all of those
things, and it's it's sopowerful, it's so damn simple,
(14:15):
right, but it's so powerful.
So thank you for bringing thatstuff up.
But great, yeah, tips and toolsthere.
So, um, recognizing, choice,celebrate, I I mean fantastic.
So thank you.
Thank you again for that.
So let's we kind of touchedbase on neurocoding, then and
that question as well so wecovered both.
(14:36):
I want to talk about mindset andovercoming challenges and
building a resilient future.
So, really, hey, I'm workingthe tool that you just talked
about, right?
So how are we building aresilient future?
What are some steps andthoughts on doing that?
(14:57):
And by resilient you mean couldyou specify Able to just push
through things?
And you know, life be life,right, let's, just let's.
I probably say this 15 times aday to people, but life be
lifin'.
It always is still happening,it doesn't stop.
I don't care if you're positive, negative, where you are in
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life, you get a flat tire.
You know good and bad, right,you get a flat tire.
You get a raise, you you know.
You know.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Whatever the case, may be, you got an argument with
your spouse or boyfriend,girlfriend, whatever.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
But how do you build some of that resiliency?
Speaker 3 (15:35):
gotcha, gotcha, and that's exactly what I mean
self-mastery will come into.
That is exactly life will behappening, events will be
occurring that you don't expectsad and bad things that will
happen, but it's your ability tocenter back to your core who
you've chosen to be.
And now your question being how.
(15:57):
I just had a call with someneuroscientists from south
africa and that manneuroscientist said we can take
physiology, everything, like youhave traumas, whatever head
traumas as well physical, butit's the mindset.
The mindset is everything thatwill help you get back on track
and to build a growth mindset, aresilient mindset.
(16:18):
I think it all begins again bythe from the understanding that
it's you making the choice andwhoever is in hesitation.
One key thing that will help iswho is the one observing you
thinking, because you're notyour thoughts.
Let's start there.
There's someone, something inyou that is observing the
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thoughts.
That must mean that it's I'mjust going to call it a vehicle
that you can take charge of,that you can run, but you've
never been taught to operate it,so it only makes sense like
okay, now you can take it.
This is my new car here.
I don't know where the gaspedal is and it's like a gear
shift.
It's not a, it's a manual like,and there are mirrors, of
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course, because I'm driving one,of course.
So, and it's difficult andyou're going to like the road is
bumpy and you're like you don'tyou know at first.
But that's the same thingapplies here and I'm speaking
from experience.
When I woke up to this and Imean woke up to this that I can
be in charge, I started noticingI don't have to be such a bitch
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, sometimes kind of, or so moody, or I can actually choose how I
show up.
And as I started practicing,rehearsing this, how I show up,
I started noticing I feel better, my events in life start
appearing to work out more forme.
So, when the question is that,whoever is watching this,
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wherever they are, what would bethe practical things to get
about?
It is, first, you're not yourthoughts, you're the observer.
Your thoughts lie to you, right?
Your thoughts do create yourreality.
If you believe them, get themout of you, write them out of
you, start taking inventory.
But I fall back to the modelingimagine and envision.
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50 plus of your brain isfocused on vision.
That's why visualization works.
What do you want when youactually can create the person
you want to be, envision thatperson.
Envision like michael wall two,michael wall three, what's?
What's the next level of youwould look like if you move past
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all of this.
You can move past all of this.
Your past doesn't define yourfuture, right right and it's
it's you're learning to regulateyour nervous system again, and
I do understand that veteransespecially have a tougher
starting point.
But I do believe, like you'vebeen given as much as you can
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carry and build for a biggerpurpose by pulling the slingshot
further than releasing it tofly further.
So it's the little things, likeMichael said, the little things
like the praise, and it seemssilly, but the point of it is
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when we throw big change on you,your brain will resist.
You may believe the bigscientific stuff, but it's you
know you'll be in overwhelm andyou won't get there.
So you can just casually andthat and that's the wow of it is
casually praise yourself,casually, catch yourself,
casually, choose what do youwant and follow that question.
(19:38):
That question is a guidingquestion for me In any moment,
when I catch my anger, catch myworry, anxiety.
What do I want?
Always?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
And I love that you're saying that and you know
a lot of people, especially inthe beginning of if they've
never worked and went to tonyrobbins or worked on any of
these things, you know they haveto have faith and the courage
to step forward and it's reallycreating that leverage on.
I've had enough of this and Iwant to move forward with it.
(20:09):
Right.
So can we talk a little bitabout about identity, because I
think it really plays into allof this.
So a lot of people they theyhave an identity that they're
comfortable with.
Right, because you have to getuncomfortable, to get
comfortable in the new realm ora new, new thought process, the
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new you, if you will.
People get stuck a lot.
I find this, especiallyveterans.
They're conditioned a certainway.
Don't ask for help, you knowall of these things.
So give me some thoughts onidentity and making that
identity shift.
You know what?
And it's not just veterans,right?
I'm allowed to dream about thelife I have.
(20:54):
Yeah, a lot of people don'tknow what they want, right, they
give you everything they don'twant.
We know Exactly.
Exactly so give us somethoughts on identity, identity
and identity shift.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
I have an excellent example.
I was just talking to that sameclient who was in the in
Swedish secret ops service inthe military.
The guy is 57 years old rightnow and I started working with
him last year in September andno, not last year, year before
2023 in September, and he justwe had a call a few weeks back
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and he said Emily, remember thatsecond coaching session?
I told you I will never usethat word that I've always been
using about myself.
I will.
I promised you with integrity,I will never say that about
myself.
I said yeah, I made you promisethat, he said.
And he said you know, and theworld was shit magnet.
He said anything bad that canhappen.
He had so many wounds, likegallbladder taken out, like
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liver damage, he had all kindsof stuff, and he's like I'm a
shit magnet and I was like, ifyou want this coaching to
continue, you have to make me apromise.
This is the world you will notidentify as ever again, yes,
being a man of integrity, hepromised me.
So he called me.
Do you know what?
In all honesty, I haven't beenusing it for like now calculate
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an over a year, year and a halfand it's like it seems to me I'm
a luck magnet.
Now I'm like right andeverywhere I go, things just
work out.
I'm like that's a practicalexample it works is because what
is hypnosis?
We hypnotize ourselves with thewords and stories we tell
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ourselves.
That is a representation of ourthoughts creating our reality.
So if I identify as like a shitmagnet, you know, I kind of
start inviting it in scientificproof.
We have the rather reticularactivating system in the back of
our brain, which is like aflower bouquet of like,
connected to all our senses.
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It it filters out, it's abrain's filter.
It filters out noise, images.
We see pictures like all theyear's eyes are connected and,
um, if that didn't exist in ourbrain we would be dead because
too much sensory input wouldcome in.
But you program that reticularactivating system, yeah,
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subconsciously, with things andevents that happen in your life,
but also the stories andmeanings you assign.
Now this is your power.
When he stopped saying shitmagnet and started like just
being neutral for a while,forgot the word and then started
I'm a luck magnet, I'm lucky heprogrammed that filter to
notice more of the opportunitiesthat surround him.
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Let's say he was literallyalways in conflict with people,
had major anger issues.
That's the reason for coachingPushed people away from him, was
really lonely.
Now he's joined the motorcycleclub, goes traveling, interacts,
has his guys a bunch of guyshe's interacting with.
His relationship with his kidsis excellent with his wife and
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he doesn't get pissed because hestopped saying that word and he
started letting in.
But what it that meant?
He became kinder towardshimself, more accepting that,
leaned into trusting peopleagain.
So you see everything'sintertwined and identity is what
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we tell us about ourselves.
So how do you identify?
What are the words and storiesyou think you are?
That's the exercise, right?
Take a piece of paper, juststart writing who is Michael,
michael is, and you write downand then you see which words
like shit magnet, for instance,for that guy.
That's not really working.
(24:48):
For my benefit, maybe I justwon't use it for a while and see
what happens.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Fantastic, Absolutely Fantastic and and you know it's
it's absolutely amazing howyour, your energy changes when
your identity shifts and thepeople, even more so, the people
that start being attracted toyou.
And it's science, it's notwoo-woo unicorns and rainbows,
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it's science.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
It's the newer hormones.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yeah.
So thank you for sharing that,and I know we shouldn't say it,
but I really love just the termshit magnet.
I think there should be like abumper sticker.
I don't know, but fantastic,absolutely fantastic.
Thank you for that.
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And I want to add somethingreally quick.
You know, when we're dealingwith life right and we're
stacking negative emotions andif we're not using the positive
things in life and focusing onthe positive things, guess what
happens?
These just keep going andexplosions happen.
But if we can not using thepositive things in life and
focusing on the positive things,that's what happens these just
keep going and explosions happen.
But if we can level off and hey, dare I say, even push down so
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many negative thoughts, thereactions to something negative
like the flat tire, you mayliterally you may giggle about
it, fix it and move on with yourday instead of it ruining your
day, your week, your month andeverybody else's around you.
So those things that you knowEmily's just brought up, stop
saying I'm a shit magnet Ireally do love that.
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Stop saying I'm a rock star.
You know, celebrate yourself,because you know we look at
people.
I'm going to do this very, veryquickly, but we look at people
that come from similarbackgrounds or the same
background, same family, and yousee people that go.
I talk about this a lot in mytraining.
You see people that go from ahorrible life.
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You know horrible childhood,all that stuff abuse, drug abuse
in the family, whatever thecase may be, domestic violence,
it could be anything, poverty,whatever you want to call it,
the definitions we give themreally changes that outcome and
literally you see the personthat goes and ends up you know
drug addict, committing suicide,whatever the case may be and
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you see the other person thriveand, absolutely, you know, have
an amazing fulfilling life andsuccess for whatever that means
to them.
So really think about thosethoughts, because the belief
system is created, likeeverybody was talking about
earlier, on your thoughts and itimpacts your entire life and,
again, the ripple effect,everybody around you.
(27:24):
So would you like to talk justa little bit more about that
before we only got a coupleminutes left, if that's okay.
So would you like to talk?
Speaker 3 (27:30):
just a little bit more about that before.
We only got a couple minutesleft, if that's okay.
Yeah, I want to emphasize wherewe may get the impression that
it's not our thoughts is likethe brain can think 50, 60, 100
conscious thoughts per minute,but subconsciously 11 million
thoughts may run past you andyou don't even catch them.
And then the emotions there andyou think like but the emotion
is real.
So what are you even talkingabout?
(27:51):
The thoughts?
No, but then it's thesubconscious thoughts you don't
catch, but the wiring, like.
We may be different backgrounds,veterans like I'm, a mom,
whatever, like someone's, like akid, but we all have the same
nervous system.
We function the same as humans.
So when everything boils downto your nervous system getting
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out of whack and interacting,the gut brain axis is acting the
way it is.
You can change that.
You don't have to accept it.
It's your choice.
As Michael said, it is alwaysyour choice and it's fine that I
didn't become aware it was mychoice in my late 30s either.
It was then.
But best time to plant a treewas 20 years ago.
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Next best time is now.
You can, you're here, you can,and for that, for being here,
listening to this, doing thisfor yourself, pat, pat, pat,
praise yourself, yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
Fantastic, absolutely fantastic.
So thank you, and you know, Ihave to tell, tell you I believe
you're one of my favoriteguests.
I mean, you're amazing as aperson, period.
All right, you have an amazinglife, you just are, um, but
having an engineer turned coachthe scientific part, all of the
you know it just makes it somuch better.
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So thank you, thank you forbeing who you are.
You damn rock star.
Thank you as well, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
With that said, how do people reach out to you,
evelyn?
Find me on social media or mywebpage, evalieroutmatchcom, or
just evalieroutmatch, on social,so LinkedIn, everywhere I'm
there.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Fantastic, and you know I'm going to do this to you
.
Three tips to get veterans andtheir families further faster.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Praise yourself whenever you remember to
Whatever you're doing, becauseevery doing is leading to the
next step.
Praise yourself, be kind toyourself, especially men.
They're so hard on themselves,like just you know.
Say some kind word to yourself,even if it's tough, and don't
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accept being alone.
There are your people out there.
Just keep moving and you'llfind them.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
Find your tribe.
Amen, I love it, absolutely.
Love it, absolutely love it.
Great tips um evilly.
Thank you again for being on.
Time was the most preciousresource we have and, as human
beings, we don't get it back.
Thank you for spending sometime um pivoting making this
happen, but thank you forspending some of your life with
us again and giving us someamazing tips and thoughts
(30:29):
Absolutely fantastic.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Thank you.
Thank you for inviting me.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
You're always invited , Always.
So again, thank you everybody.
Thank you, Emily, and we're outof here.
Bye everybody.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Thank you for joining us on another insightful
journey of your Thoughts yourReality podcast with your host,
michael Cole.
We hope the conversationsparked some thoughts that
resonate with you.
To dive deeper into empoweringyour thoughts and enhancing your
reality, visitempowerperformancestrategiescom.
Remember your thoughts shapeyour reality, so make them count
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.
Until next time, stay inspiredand keep creating the reality
you desire.
Catch you on the next episode.
Welcome to your Thoughts, your Reality with
Michael Cole, the podcast thatshines a compassionate light on
the journey of veterans battlingthrough life's challenges.
Michael is a dual elitecertified neuro encoding
specialist in coaching andkeynote training presentations
dedicated to guiding militaryveterans as they navigate the
intricate pathways ofpost-deployment life.
(00:23):
Join him as we delve into theprofound realm of neuroencoding
science, empowering these braveindividuals to conquer universal
battles procrastination,self-doubt, fear and more.
Together, let's uncover thestrength within you to re-engage
with families and society,forging a new path forward.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Hello, hello, hello everybody.
So today we have a good, dearfriend of my wife and I, emily
Rademitz.
She's a peak performancespecialist, elite neuroencoding
coach, empowering individuals tomaster their mindset and
achieve personal excellence.
She's an experienced speaker.
I've seen her speak.
She's fantastic.
She works with tech leaders andprofessionals, guiding them
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through transformative journeysof self-mastery.
She comes from a family ofmilitary veterans If anybody can
go back and see our firstepisode together.
She shares some absolutelyamazing stories and it was
absolutely beautiful and withexpertise in creating meaningful
change, eveli combinesneuroscience and actionable
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strategies to help peopleovercome challenges and achieve
their goals.
So, eveli, we're pivoting today, but we're making it happen and
I'm so happy that we're doingthat.
So, eveli, the people thatdon't know you yet, please tell
a little bit more about yourself.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Thank you, michael.
First of all, thank you, I lovethe pivoting and I thank you
for your patience.
I just ran out of a clientmeeting and I miscalculated by
an hour, so thank you, thank you, and yes, everyone listening,
I'm here the third time, secondtime and losing track.
Everyone listening, I'm here.
Is it the third time?
Second time I'm losing track.
Third, I think right, yeah, andI should put it so well.
(02:11):
My family has a background inservice and military, my dad and
my grandfather being a veteranhimself, and that I shared in
the first episode.
But today I've been able tocoach now a few clients of mine
who have a service background.
One is in like secret forces,special ops in the military, and
(02:32):
one is, like we could call it,swat, with a little background
in secret service as well.
Seen a lot done a lot, hasquite a lot to move forward and
away from, and I've been workingwith them for over a year now.
So today my goal is to sharewhat I've gathered, what I've
(02:55):
seen work with them, for them tocreate that lasting change and
to step up to the next level.
So my aim is to bring practicalvalue as much as I can.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Oh, you'll bring it, I know Fantastic.
So before we get startedeverybody, I just want to remind
you.
On the top right corner of thescreen there's a blue QR code.
Scan that QR code.
It takes you toempowerperformancestrategiescom
Again for people listening lateron on the podcast forums,
empowerperformancestrategiescom,there are free e-books for
(03:26):
resources for you guys, for bothveterans and their families.
There's also Facebook groups,again for veterans, another one
for their families.
Become part of our group.
You know, let's move themission forward and just be
involved in this, so pleasecheck that out.
With that said, emily, youready to get started?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Oh yes.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
All right, fantastic.
So you know.
Your journey into coaching andtransformation began somewhere.
I want to you know people thatdon't know you yet.
Let's just touch base on thatKind of what brought you into
this world of helping others andbringing fulfillment.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Well, it started with my curiosity to understand
things, how things work.
So machines firstly.
So I became an engineer.
Not only that, well, you kindof become a problem solver and
you want to know how things workbecause you have a lot to work
through, and that was mychildhood.
We were born on this planetearth.
We all go through some traumaone way or the other.
(04:24):
So when I was a bit older,maybe in my 20s, I started to
realize maybe it wasn't quiteokay what I went through and
there had been emotionssuppressed and my body started
showing illness and like sleepissues and a lot of things, and
awareness became the first step.
(04:45):
So from there I got curious.
As I mastered machines andprogramming robots, I become
curious about the next machineand I call the human machine.
How do we work, how our thoughtscreate our reality, and from
there are emotions and theactions and everything.
So the more I learned, the moreI started applying.
(05:09):
That's where the change came,because first, like you many
have heard of think, just thinkpositively, just think
positively.
I was like yeah, yeah, yeah.
But as you go along, that stuffreally works.
Our thoughts do create ourreality.
And, uh, it became better.
Then it dropped into worse again, the more I learned and you
(05:30):
know it's a bumpy ride, it's amessy that that getting back to
back to maybe yourself, back towho you really are, who you want
to be.
And, uh, I've just seen so muchsuffering in my life, so much
violence as well from a littlegirl.
I've seen many people die aswell, some accidentally, some
(05:54):
from their poor choices overtime, and one thing I thought,
like I would well, I felt thiscalling to help end the
suffering, and I'm a product ofwhat I've learned and I'm
interested in practical thingsthat work, that actually get you
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the result.
And it's really tough at first.
You, you, you have to kind oftrust when maybe your whole life
you've been taught not to trust, like by other people.
Right, you have to trust theprocess and you don't really see
the results, and then you starthesitating will they really
last?
And so my message maybe is, uh,to share all that, yeah yeah,
(06:36):
absolutely so.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
You know a lot of people, don't, you know?
Think that you know you go to atony robbins seminar.
I'm not throwing shade on tonyrobbins, I love him, you know.
Just, everything changes, youknow, when you're coaching with
somebody.
You're going through the work,you're learning the skills, but
you have to do the work.
That's the courageous part,because it's not easy.
You know it's not easy and,like you, you know I've done
(06:59):
work, I'll continue to work therest of my life on things you
know.
And it's really courageous whenyou take that minute and or
that, when you find that minutethat you say enough and create
that leverage and actually moveforward.
So I love you.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
I want to bounce from that for a moment, can I Just
like you said?
Yeah, like, the human machineis so wise that whatever got you
here, you stayed alive and iflike, distrusting, keeping you
safe by pushing people away,whatever that kept you alive.
So now you get to like you.
You choose the heart to proveyour brain wrong.
(07:38):
That's the only way you provethat your thoughts so far may be
deceiving you kind of.
But yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Absolutely and I agree 100%.
You know a lot of veterans intheir family space.
You make challenges, especiallyduring the reintegration period
to civilian life.
You know how can self-masteryand let's talk about that first.
You know what is self-mastery,so people kind of understand
from you know point of view, um,and you're encoding help them
navigate these periods.
So what is self-mastery?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
let's start there self-mastery is like let's start
at a high level.
If you want to change the world, start with yourself, right?
But no one teaches us exactlythat.
It's our thinking that createsthe emotions which then create
the actions, which create yourreality.
So when someone's navigatingback to my, for me self-mastery
(08:30):
is to put it in layman's terms.
To try to simplify, it is tocome to the present moment first
you.
You check in with yourself.
How am I feeling?
If I'm feeling anxious, worried, angry, to acknowledge that
it's my thoughts creating thatemotions.
(08:50):
And sometimes the thoughts cango so fast you don't catch them.
But the first I don't have tosit with that emotion for too
long, because emotions last for90 seconds.
Then you can move past it.
But what gets us stuck first isawareness.
Let me explain this okay.
We have a thought in our mind.
It's the brain.
(09:11):
Then, if someone has heardabout the vagus nerve, it's this
big ass nerve going basicallyback down to our ass.
That kind of is connected toour gut.
That's our second brain.
So whenever I a thought let'ssay I see a blue car my eyes
take it in.
That triggers a thought process.
Blue car Maybe have someassociation with the car, but
(09:34):
the blue car, information.
That thought goes down to mystomach.
If I love blue cars, my gutwill start producing happy
hormones, good childhoodmemories, blah, blah, blah.
If it's a trigger with traumathe blue car, something happened
, someone got hit, I sawsomething the signal, the
thought in my brain goes downthe gut, down the vagus nerve,
(09:56):
to my gut, says cortisol, stress, hormones, threat.
We could end it there.
But it's the body that createsthe emotion from that gut
feeling.
Now the gut sends a signal backthrough the vagus nerve to the
brain saying yeah, the emotion'sready, the cocktail is ready in
the body, that shit's realright now.
(10:17):
You are going to panic, nowthis is going to happen.
And the brain takes it in.
Oh no, the body's saying thisis true and start generating
more thoughts, right, and thenwe get stuck.
Then it's the two way feedbackand we're stuck, that's, we're
stuck in an emotion and webelieve it because the cocktail
is real, the biochemistry isreal, the feeling is never wrong
(10:38):
.
What we, as self masters, couldand should know is we can
change that feeling.
As self-masters could andshould know is we can change
that feeling.
We don't have to accept becausethis is a machine we get to run
.
We're in charge of this vehiclewe use on this earth.
But to change it, when theemotion starts in the body, you
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change it through the body themost easily, changing your
body's position and such that'sself-mastery.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Then you get better thoughts and, but it's
incremental, so let's let's talkabout how to, how to catch
yourself and change it.
Give us some thoughts on okay,you know, I call it, you know
you're in the spin cycle, you're, you know you're, you're just
spinning right.
How do you stop, how do you getyourself out of it?
Give me some.
Give me some thoughts on whatyou do.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
As I said, first is awareness.
Take inventory first, let's sayyou, you take a week First.
You decide this is what I want.
I want to be in charge ofmyself.
I believe I can.
Let me prove myself that I can.
You take a week.
You map out the emotions youfeel during that week, let's say
the negative ones.
(11:49):
Then you choose anxiety, panicattacks, fear, anger.
Map those out so you recognizethem and then every time you
catch yourself becoming angry,let's say, or anxious, you name
the emotion.
Ah, I'm feeling angry, I am notanger, I'm not angry, I'm
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feeling angry.
You say that when you voice it,you create distance, you become
aware, and then you freaking,praise yourself, you anchor that
right Because doing this, as weknow, ah, that felt good.
But what was prior to it?
You started doing the work onyourself.
Okay, I caught myself in anger.
I caught it.
That's first step.
(12:30):
Those are the bunch of emotions.
I'm starting to catch them inthe moment.
When you start catching them inthe moment, then you can choose
Okay, I identified it, and thenyou're persistent like no, but I
want to feel the anger, becausethis gives me power.
I want to stay in it, likeyou're, maybe stubborn as well,
but at one point you will startlike no, I don't choose this, I
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want to feel.
What do you want to feel?
I want to feel in control.
I want to feel good.
I want to feel relaxed.
What do you do?
You jump, jump up suddenly, youchange your body position
suddenly and, like studies inuniversity show, it's the power
poses right, the superman pose,or the hands up, or you enhance
testosterone, but it also lowersyour cortisol, and that's what
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you do.
And again, once you've done it,you freaking praise yourself
and those little things.
You prove to yourself you havenothing to lose, only to gain by
trying.
That is really, really powerful.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Fantastic and you said some fantastic things.
I really want the audience tohear this.
It's a choice, you're choosing.
You literally are choosing.
I literally had a conversationwith somebody yesterday about
this.
You are making the choice, youare in charge.
That's where the power is so Ilove that you brought that up.
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And the second thing, of course,that celebration, smiling, and
the more you celebrate and yousmile, it releases all those
good hormones and your brain islooking for it more.
It is such a powerful tool, youknow, with neuro encoding there
are so many things that arejust based on that to rewire
your brain, strengthen theneural pathways, all of those
things, and it's it's sopowerful, it's so damn simple,
(14:15):
right, but it's so powerful.
So thank you for bringing thatstuff up.
But great, yeah, tips and toolsthere.
So, um, recognizing, choice,celebrate, I I mean fantastic.
So thank you.
Thank you again for that.
So let's we kind of touchedbase on neurocoding, then and
that question as well so wecovered both.
(14:36):
I want to talk about mindset andovercoming challenges and
building a resilient future.
So, really, hey, I'm workingthe tool that you just talked
about, right?
So how are we building aresilient future?
What are some steps andthoughts on doing that?
(14:57):
And by resilient you mean couldyou specify Able to just push
through things?
And you know, life be life,right, let's, just let's.
I probably say this 15 times aday to people, but life be
lifin'.
It always is still happening,it doesn't stop.
I don't care if you're positive, negative, where you are in
(15:17):
life, you get a flat tire.
You know good and bad, right,you get a flat tire.
You get a raise, you you know.
You know.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Whatever the case, may be, you got an argument with
your spouse or boyfriend,girlfriend, whatever.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
But how do you build some of that resiliency?
Speaker 3 (15:35):
gotcha, gotcha, and that's exactly what I mean
self-mastery will come into.
That is exactly life will behappening, events will be
occurring that you don't expectsad and bad things that will
happen, but it's your ability tocenter back to your core who
you've chosen to be.
And now your question being how.
(15:57):
I just had a call with someneuroscientists from south
africa and that manneuroscientist said we can take
physiology, everything, like youhave traumas, whatever head
traumas as well physical, butit's the mindset.
The mindset is everything thatwill help you get back on track
and to build a growth mindset, aresilient mindset.
(16:18):
I think it all begins again bythe from the understanding that
it's you making the choice andwhoever is in hesitation.
One key thing that will help iswho is the one observing you
thinking, because you're notyour thoughts.
Let's start there.
There's someone, something inyou that is observing the
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thoughts.
That must mean that it's I'mjust going to call it a vehicle
that you can take charge of,that you can run, but you've
never been taught to operate it,so it only makes sense like
okay, now you can take it.
This is my new car here.
I don't know where the gaspedal is and it's like a gear
shift.
It's not a, it's a manual like,and there are mirrors, of
(17:04):
course, because I'm driving one,of course.
So, and it's difficult andyou're going to like the road is
bumpy and you're like you don'tyou know at first.
But that's the same thingapplies here and I'm speaking
from experience.
When I woke up to this and Imean woke up to this that I can
be in charge, I started noticingI don't have to be such a bitch
(17:25):
, sometimes kind of, or so moody, or I can actually choose how I
show up.
And as I started practicing,rehearsing this, how I show up,
I started noticing I feel better, my events in life start
appearing to work out more forme.
So, when the question is that,whoever is watching this,
(17:48):
wherever they are, what would bethe practical things to get
about?
It is, first, you're not yourthoughts, you're the observer.
Your thoughts lie to you, right?
Your thoughts do create yourreality.
If you believe them, get themout of you, write them out of
you, start taking inventory.
But I fall back to the modelingimagine and envision.
(18:12):
50 plus of your brain isfocused on vision.
That's why visualization works.
What do you want when youactually can create the person
you want to be, envision thatperson.
Envision like michael wall two,michael wall three, what's?
What's the next level of youwould look like if you move past
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all of this.
You can move past all of this.
Your past doesn't define yourfuture, right right and it's
it's you're learning to regulateyour nervous system again, and
I do understand that veteransespecially have a tougher
starting point.
But I do believe, like you'vebeen given as much as you can
(18:53):
carry and build for a biggerpurpose by pulling the slingshot
further than releasing it tofly further.
So it's the little things, likeMichael said, the little things
like the praise, and it seemssilly, but the point of it is
(19:15):
when we throw big change on you,your brain will resist.
You may believe the bigscientific stuff, but it's you
know you'll be in overwhelm andyou won't get there.
So you can just casually andthat and that's the wow of it is
casually praise yourself,casually, catch yourself,
casually, choose what do youwant and follow that question.
(19:38):
That question is a guidingquestion for me In any moment,
when I catch my anger, catch myworry, anxiety.
What do I want?
Always?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
And I love that you're saying that and you know
a lot of people, especially inthe beginning of if they've
never worked and went to tonyrobbins or worked on any of
these things, you know they haveto have faith and the courage
to step forward and it's reallycreating that leverage on.
I've had enough of this and Iwant to move forward with it.
(20:09):
Right.
So can we talk a little bitabout about identity, because I
think it really plays into allof this.
So a lot of people they theyhave an identity that they're
comfortable with.
Right, because you have to getuncomfortable, to get
comfortable in the new realm ora new, new thought process, the
(20:32):
new you, if you will.
People get stuck a lot.
I find this, especiallyveterans.
They're conditioned a certainway.
Don't ask for help, you knowall of these things.
So give me some thoughts onidentity and making that
identity shift.
You know what?
And it's not just veterans,right?
I'm allowed to dream about thelife I have.
(20:54):
Yeah, a lot of people don'tknow what they want, right, they
give you everything they don'twant.
We know Exactly.
Exactly so give us somethoughts on identity, identity
and identity shift.
Speaker 3 (21:07):
I have an excellent example.
I was just talking to that sameclient who was in the in
Swedish secret ops service inthe military.
The guy is 57 years old rightnow and I started working with
him last year in September andno, not last year, year before
2023 in September, and he justwe had a call a few weeks back
(21:31):
and he said Emily, remember thatsecond coaching session?
I told you I will never usethat word that I've always been
using about myself.
I will.
I promised you with integrity,I will never say that about
myself.
I said yeah, I made you promisethat, he said.
And he said you know, and theworld was shit magnet.
He said anything bad that canhappen.
He had so many wounds, likegallbladder taken out, like
(21:54):
liver damage, he had all kindsof stuff, and he's like I'm a
shit magnet and I was like, ifyou want this coaching to
continue, you have to make me apromise.
This is the world you will notidentify as ever again, yes,
being a man of integrity, hepromised me.
So he called me.
Do you know what?
In all honesty, I haven't beenusing it for like now calculate
(22:14):
an over a year, year and a halfand it's like it seems to me I'm
a luck magnet.
Now I'm like right andeverywhere I go, things just
work out.
I'm like that's a practicalexample it works is because what
is hypnosis?
We hypnotize ourselves with thewords and stories we tell
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ourselves.
That is a representation of ourthoughts creating our reality.
So if I identify as like a shitmagnet, you know, I kind of
start inviting it in scientificproof.
We have the rather reticularactivating system in the back of
our brain, which is like aflower bouquet of like,
connected to all our senses.
(22:58):
It it filters out, it's abrain's filter.
It filters out noise, images.
We see pictures like all theyear's eyes are connected and,
um, if that didn't exist in ourbrain we would be dead because
too much sensory input wouldcome in.
But you program that reticularactivating system, yeah,
(23:19):
subconsciously, with things andevents that happen in your life,
but also the stories andmeanings you assign.
Now this is your power.
When he stopped saying shitmagnet and started like just
being neutral for a while,forgot the word and then started
I'm a luck magnet, I'm lucky heprogrammed that filter to
notice more of the opportunitiesthat surround him.
(23:41):
Let's say he was literallyalways in conflict with people,
had major anger issues.
That's the reason for coachingPushed people away from him, was
really lonely.
Now he's joined the motorcycleclub, goes traveling, interacts,
has his guys a bunch of guyshe's interacting with.
His relationship with his kidsis excellent with his wife and
(24:06):
he doesn't get pissed because hestopped saying that word and he
started letting in.
But what it that meant?
He became kinder towardshimself, more accepting that,
leaned into trusting peopleagain.
So you see everything'sintertwined and identity is what
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we tell us about ourselves.
So how do you identify?
What are the words and storiesyou think you are?
That's the exercise, right?
Take a piece of paper, juststart writing who is Michael,
michael is, and you write downand then you see which words
like shit magnet, for instance,for that guy.
That's not really working.
(24:48):
For my benefit, maybe I justwon't use it for a while and see
what happens.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Fantastic, Absolutely Fantastic and and you know it's
it's absolutely amazing howyour, your energy changes when
your identity shifts and thepeople, even more so, the people
that start being attracted toyou.
And it's science, it's notwoo-woo unicorns and rainbows,
(25:14):
it's science.
Speaker 3 (25:16):
It's the newer hormones.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yeah.
So thank you for sharing that,and I know we shouldn't say it,
but I really love just the termshit magnet.
I think there should be like abumper sticker.
I don't know, but fantastic,absolutely fantastic.
Thank you for that.
(25:38):
And I want to add somethingreally quick.
You know, when we're dealingwith life right and we're
stacking negative emotions andif we're not using the positive
things in life and focusing onthe positive things, guess what
happens?
These just keep going andexplosions happen.
But if we can not using thepositive things in life and
focusing on the positive things,that's what happens these just
keep going and explosions happen.
But if we can level off and hey, dare I say, even push down so
(25:58):
many negative thoughts, thereactions to something negative
like the flat tire, you mayliterally you may giggle about
it, fix it and move on with yourday instead of it ruining your
day, your week, your month andeverybody else's around you.
So those things that you knowEmily's just brought up, stop
saying I'm a shit magnet Ireally do love that.
(26:20):
Stop saying I'm a rock star.
You know, celebrate yourself,because you know we look at
people.
I'm going to do this very, veryquickly, but we look at people
that come from similarbackgrounds or the same
background, same family, and yousee people that go.
I talk about this a lot in mytraining.
You see people that go from ahorrible life.
(26:42):
You know horrible childhood,all that stuff abuse, drug abuse
in the family, whatever thecase may be, domestic violence,
it could be anything, poverty,whatever you want to call it,
the definitions we give themreally changes that outcome and
literally you see the personthat goes and ends up you know
drug addict, committing suicide,whatever the case may be and
(27:04):
you see the other person thriveand, absolutely, you know, have
an amazing fulfilling life andsuccess for whatever that means
to them.
So really think about thosethoughts, because the belief
system is created, likeeverybody was talking about
earlier, on your thoughts and itimpacts your entire life and,
again, the ripple effect,everybody around you.
(27:24):
So would you like to talk justa little bit more about that
before we only got a coupleminutes left, if that's okay.
So would you like to talk?
Speaker 3 (27:30):
just a little bit more about that before.
We only got a couple minutesleft, if that's okay.
Yeah, I want to emphasize wherewe may get the impression that
it's not our thoughts is likethe brain can think 50, 60, 100
conscious thoughts per minute,but subconsciously 11 million
thoughts may run past you andyou don't even catch them.
And then the emotions there andyou think like but the emotion
is real.
So what are you even talkingabout?
(27:51):
The thoughts?
No, but then it's thesubconscious thoughts you don't
catch, but the wiring, like.
We may be different backgrounds,veterans like I'm, a mom,
whatever, like someone's, like akid, but we all have the same
nervous system.
We function the same as humans.
So when everything boils downto your nervous system getting
(28:11):
out of whack and interacting,the gut brain axis is acting the
way it is.
You can change that.
You don't have to accept it.
It's your choice.
As Michael said, it is alwaysyour choice and it's fine that I
didn't become aware it was mychoice in my late 30s either.
It was then.
But best time to plant a treewas 20 years ago.
(28:33):
Next best time is now.
You can, you're here, you can,and for that, for being here,
listening to this, doing thisfor yourself, pat, pat, pat,
praise yourself, yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:44):
Fantastic, absolutely fantastic.
So thank you, and you know, Ihave to tell, tell you I believe
you're one of my favoriteguests.
I mean, you're amazing as aperson, period.
All right, you have an amazinglife, you just are, um, but
having an engineer turned coachthe scientific part, all of the
you know it just makes it somuch better.
(29:05):
So thank you, thank you forbeing who you are.
You damn rock star.
Thank you as well, absolutely.
Speaker 3 (29:19):
With that said, how do people reach out to you,
evelyn?
Find me on social media or mywebpage, evalieroutmatchcom, or
just evalieroutmatch, on social,so LinkedIn, everywhere I'm
there.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Fantastic, and you know I'm going to do this to you
.
Three tips to get veterans andtheir families further faster.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Praise yourself whenever you remember to
Whatever you're doing, becauseevery doing is leading to the
next step.
Praise yourself, be kind toyourself, especially men.
They're so hard on themselves,like just you know.
Say some kind word to yourself,even if it's tough, and don't
(30:01):
accept being alone.
There are your people out there.
Just keep moving and you'llfind them.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
Find your tribe.
Amen, I love it, absolutely.
Love it, absolutely love it.
Great tips um evilly.
Thank you again for being on.
Time was the most preciousresource we have and, as human
beings, we don't get it back.
Thank you for spending sometime um pivoting making this
happen, but thank you forspending some of your life with
us again and giving us someamazing tips and thoughts
(30:29):
Absolutely fantastic.
Speaker 3 (30:30):
Thank you.
Thank you for inviting me.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
You're always invited , Always.
So again, thank you everybody.
Thank you, Emily, and we're outof here.
Bye everybody.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
Thank you for joining us on another insightful
journey of your Thoughts yourReality podcast with your host,
michael Cole.
We hope the conversationsparked some thoughts that
resonate with you.
To dive deeper into empoweringyour thoughts and enhancing your
reality, visitempowerperformancestrategiescom.
Remember your thoughts shapeyour reality, so make them count
(31:06):
.
Until next time, stay inspiredand keep creating the reality
you desire.
Catch you on the next episode.
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