October 3, 2025 • 42 mins
🚨 BRUTAL WAKE-UP CALL: Stop waiting for someone to save you. Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Stop waiting for permission. No cavalry is coming - and that's the most liberating truth you'll ever hear.
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- Why "no cavalry is coming" is actually PERMISSION to be your best self.
- The sacred promises you make to yourself (and why breaking them destroys everything).
- How to go from suicidal depression to unstoppable success.
- The 60-minute daily process that transforms your entire life.
- Why your story is your most valuable asset.
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You already know what to do.
Today is the day we build theengine to get it done.
This is the how and the how ofthe how.
Welcome to the show.
Tired of the hype about livingthe dream?
It's time for truth.
This is the place for tools,power and real talk so you can create
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the life you dream and deserveyour ultimate life.
Subscribe, share, create.
You have infinite power.
Welcome to your ultimate life.
Today is the day we're goingto talk about how things get done.
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We've talked about getting prepared.
We've talked about the mindsetand the structure we need.
We talked about that.
There's nobody preventing you.
There's no gatekeeper.
There's no barrier.
Only the story in your mind.
You don't need anyone'spermission, you don't need anyone's
agreement to either be becomewhat you want to become or build
the business you want to build.
Like you have a dream ofchanging the world.
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I know you do.
Maybe your world is 10 people.
Maybe it's a hundred.
Maybe it's a thousand.
Maybe it's $100,000 business.
Maybe it's a million dollar business.
Maybe 10 million.
None of those are impossible.
All of those are doable andwithin your grasp.
And it takes a process to get there.
We don't live in a HarryPotter wand world where he goes and
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a little pink, you know,stream comes out and boom, there's
a pile of gold.
We don't live there, okay?
Or at least I don't know howto do that.
But I do know how to createanything I want.
And I do it all the time.
I'm on a mission to reach 300million people.
And you know what?
I'm going to reach it.
I've got six weeks left.
I'm going to make it.
We're going to reach 300million people with the message of
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whipos.
Worth, identity, possibility,ownership, sovereignty.
That combination means you cancreate anything you want.
You've heard me say that ahundred times or a thousand times.
This is episode 1000 andsomething, right?
And it's true.
It's true every time I say it.
And it will be true forevermore.
We know from physics, ourthoughts change the probability distribution.
Our thoughts make things happen.
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And it doesn't happen as fastas we want.
Like we could say, oh, boom,here it is and there's a box of gold
bars on the porch or health,boom, suddenly I'm healed.
Sometimes that happens, butthat's pretty rare.
So what we're going to talkabout today is actually how, how
do things happen?
Okay, so what we're going togive you what I'm going to give you
today.
And here's the promise.
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I'm going to promise to giveyou tools that will work.
It will set you up every dayto be powerful.
It will make you keep yourpromises or help you keep your promises.
It will help you deliver whatyou promised to yourself.
You're going to deliver.
The promises to yourself arethe most important.
So there's principle one ofthe how of the how.
The promises you make toyourself are the most sacred words
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you utter in the universetoday and every day, period.
They're more important thanany other promise.
Because if you can't keep yourpromise to yourself, what you say
to others is always subject to suspicion.
And you will disagree.
You will say, no, I keep mypromises to other people, but I don't
keep them to myself.
You're lying.
If you don't keep yourpromises to yourself, you keep them
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maybe to other people, but itis performative.
It is not with integrity.
It is not with your full heartand soul.
Your promises to yourself,your integrity to yourself is job
one, always and forever.
So do that.
So let's learn about how to do that.
Here is a daily playbook I'mgoing to give you a daily playbook
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you can run in 60 minutes thatwill set you up for delivering today.
Step one.
I'm going to tell you a story.
There was a day I took the dogfor a walk.
And this was some years ago in Phoenix.
And we lived across the streetfrom a development that was going
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in.
And it was some years afterthat big 2008 crash.
That's 17 years ago.
But it was some years after that.
And so the development hadcome to a complete screeching standstill.
And the streets were in, andthere were some show homes built,
but nothing happened for along time.
And so I used to go walk inthere in the morning for like an
hour with the dog all over the place.
And one morning I got up to gofor a walk and it was a great day.
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I got up, I did some, youknow, personal things.
I didn't have the powerfulmorning ritual that I have today,
the invincible powerhouse thatputs me in Olympic level form.
But I had something and I wasout for a walk.
And as I went for a walk, Igot an email.
And the email was a disaster,or at least I thought it was.
I interpreted it, interpretedit as a disaster.
Boom.
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Wrecked something.
And then I got a phone call,another disaster.
And then I got another one.
And it Were like four things,maybe five, one after another, that
were huge disappointments.
This fell through, that wasn't happening.
And just on and on, right?
And it was so heavy, it was soheavy on me.
I sat down on the curb and I'min this development walking around,
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but there's nobody there.
It's all empty lots and a fewfences up and stuff.
And over there in thedistance, it was a big development
like a mile by a mile, so theshow homes were far away.
But anyway, I sit down on thecurb and I wanted to start to cry.
Literally.
It was affecting me thatpowerfully emotionally.
And then, and then, you know,of course I've got this dog with
me, right?
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And the dog's out for a walk,so it didn't want to sit down.
And then it sees a rabbit dogsees a rabbit jumping around, trying
to chase the rabbit andeverything else.
And I thought, how funny.
The dog and I, we're both herein this very same space and I am
like sucking wind, I am hurting.
And the dog, he's not havingany of it.
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He's jumping around happy.
And I thought, wait a minute,if we're sitting here on the same
place, well, the dog wasn'tsitting, but I was.
And the dog's jumping around,then it isn't anything except it's
in here.
It's a dance in my head.
So then the thought came to meand thought, okay, if I can go from
just top of the world tobottom of the barrel in five minutes
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with a few messages, then Ican retrace that.
I can go back the other way.
I can not do that because thewhole dance is in my head, right?
And the dog, he's not havingany of it.
So that was the, that was thething that started.
Started me on this whole questof creation, more intentional and
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powerful creation because Icreated the misery.
And yeah, I got some eventsthat happened, some.
An email and some phone callsand things stuff happened.
But I allowed that to smash meto, to face in the gutter, you know,
emotionally destroyed, end ofthe world, doom scrolling doomsday,
all that stuff.
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And I thought, now wait aminute, if that can happen in one
direction, it can happen inthe other direction.
So that got me thinkingseriously about some questions.
And here are the questions.
Okay, question number one.
What am I believing that givesthis feeling, power.
Well, that was easy to identify.
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I believe that I'm doomed.
The world is ending.
The failure of these things,clients falling through, it's going
to mean financial something.
Oh no, I'm in a Something, something.
I don't remember the detailsof them now, but that's what I was
believing.
It means death financially orcareer wise or embarrassment or something.
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It means terrifying consequences.
Now, I don't know that's truebecause all I got was a message that
this thing isn't happening.
But I interpolated that andwent on to, you know, death of some
sort, right?
Failure, and then, you know,reflection on me and all the rest
of the things that that means.
And so I thought, actually, Idon't know what it means, but what
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I'm believing is, this is catastrophizing.
So then the next question was,okay, is it true?
And the answer is, well, Iactually don't know.
What I know is true is I gotan email, I got a phone call.
That's what I know is true.
I know the contents of thecall, at least right now, are this
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thing I was depending on isn't happening.
And there were several.
So for each thing, it isn'thappening or not happening the way
I wanted.
That's all I actually know.
So what I was believing is,and it means financial catastrophe
or embarrassment or failure here.
And I was taking this lever,this, this inflection point and catastrophizing,
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jumping off a cliff with it.
So the answer to the question,is it true?
Well, it's true right now inthis moment that I got an email that
says X or a phone call, boththat I know is true.
Does it mean all these other things?
Actually, I have no idea.
I don't know if it means that.
Well, that lowered thepressure a bunch because other things
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could happen, Right?
Then the next question's evenmore fun.
What else could I believe?
Well, I could believe this isa good thing.
I can't see how that's true.
I could believe it's a neutral thing.
I could believe it will changein a minute, that if I make a phone
call and do some things, Imight be able to adjust.
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I could believe that.
Wow.
I could.
Sometimes it's hard to do thatbecause if you're in the middle of
a real catastrophe, it's hardto say, what else could I believe
and see past the ingrained belief?
So there's another way to askthat question.
We all have people that werespect and admire and to ask what
would so and so believe here?
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And if you pick, you know,your favorite superhero or some other
person you know, that's doingreally well, who, who metabolizes
these things and says, what'sthe gift here?
You know, what they would bethinking they would be thinking,
how can I fix this?
They would be thinking, whycan this be good?
They would be thinking, whatcan I create from this?
I couldn't create otherwise.
You know that because you know them.
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So if you can't do ityourself, then use someone else as
a proxy.
And the next question is, whatwould they do with that thought?
Or what would I do with a new thought?
Well, I make a phone call, I'd regroup.
I. I internally realize thatit really isn't the end of the world.
Like a nuclear weapon didn'tfall on my house, jet engines not
in my front yard.
People aren't dead and dying.
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So there's lots of things.
So you get the process.
What am I believing that givesus power?
Okay, is it true?
What else could I believe?
If I believed one of theseother things, what would I do right
now?
And then take that action.
Even though you don't knowwhat the outcome is, that is an immediate
and powerful.
And it works every time.
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Foolproof path out of that catastrophizing.
So I did it in that particularcase, in five more minutes, maybe
it was 10, took me five to getdown, maybe 10 to back up.
I realized that there weresome things I couldn't control right
now at all, and I couldn't doanything about them.
But there were several thingsthat I could do right this minute
or as soon as I got home fromthe walk to, to find out more, to
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mitigate, to make somechanges, or to find the gift.
I did it.
It worked.
And from there, I've createdthis entire curriculum and process
about the truth of creatingyour life.
So that is a set of steps.
Now I want to go over with youwhat I do.
And this is again, the how ofthe how.
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This is the nitty gritty.
Every single day when I getup, here's what I do.
I go through a DCP dailycreation process.
Here's what it consists of.
But before I tell you that,let me tell you the outcome.
The outcome is I get moredone, I make more money.
I live happier and more joyfully.
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Okay?
And I live this ultimate lifepurpose, prosperity and joy.
It wasn't always that way.
I lived behind the eight ballbefore expecting failure, catastrophizing
every event, seeing the worstin things, chastising myself all
the time.
Living in self loathing andhatred, like deep hatred.
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And at different times in mylife, different depths of that negativity.
But I lived there for decades,so I know deeply about that.
Struggling with depression, itgot to the point of suicidal Ideation
and attempts even so really,really dark places.
But my point is this.
Here is the process.
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Spiritual, physical,emotional, mental.
If I'm teaching you this, Isaid I'd give you something you can
do in 60 minutes.
So here's 10-10-10 four blocksof 10 minutes to create yourself
in a way so that you are invincible.
You keep your word, you shipand deliver on time.
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Whether that's product orservice or writing or if you're going
to a job, showing up and doingthe very best you can, performing
well, making cash, makingconnections and just living a kick
ass life.
The spiritual I put firstbecause it is the foundation for
me.
We all know there's something more.
Call it your higher self, callit God, call it the universe.
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I call it God.
I have a personal relationship.
I have seen God.
I died and spoke with him in 2018.
But your ideation of that isyours and own it.
So own it.
And here's the key.
Do something in that 10minutes to deepen that connection.
It might be prayer, it mightbe meditation, it might be stillness,
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it might be reading somesacred literature.
It might be reaffirming yourown worth.
Now I have a process called a ptac.
I'm not teaching that rightnow today.
But if you want to know how todo it, it's in a book called Living
with Purpose and Power.
If you don't have this book,it's the best book on the planet
about how to find your selfworth, how to use it every day and
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how to create miracles.
Best one there is.
So get it and read it and thendo what's in it.
Read it.
Doesn't matter unless you dowhat's in it.
So the first 10 minutes is dosomething that connects you spiritually.
The next 10 minutes is dosomething that wakes your physical
body up.
Even if you're going to gowork out later.
Or do whatever, do somestretching, do some breathing.
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Wim hof breathing.
If you don't know what thatis, look it up.
W I M H O f It is a particularstyle of breathing that wakes up
your parasympathetic nervoussystem and gets you set for the day.
Or you can do box breathing,or you can do rectangle breathing,
or you can do all kinds of things.
The point is, spend 10 minuteshonoring the the container that holds
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your spirit.
The implementer of all thingsthat you think.
The second or the third thingis E S P E is emotional.
Send some messages of love.
Scroll through your texts.
I'm not talking Facebookscrolling or doom scrolling.
Look at Texts.
Look at messenger if you useit, or WhatsApp or whatever and be
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inspired about messages oflove and connection.
I dare you.
Spend 10 minutes sending.
I prefer voice notes becausethey're way more personal.
But send some notes of love,of connection, maybe of repair.
Do that.
And the last is M. Mental.
Pick up a book.
I have 30 or so over here intwo great big tall stacks, you know,
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that are.
I can't even show how tallthey are.
Big stacks of books and morecome every day.
Not every day, a couple timesa week.
And I read voraciously.
Why?
Because I love the different framings.
I love the way people expresstheir ideas.
So the goal here is, in that40 minutes, create yourself so that
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you are true.
You are the being you want tohave show up.
You're in Olympic form.
One way I say that is to enter spirit.
Enter spirit so you canreceive real power.
Because you're spiritual beings.
Don't leave that meditationuntil you felt that connection.
I don't leave my spiritualpart of on any day, ever.
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And I mean this, I never skipuntil I've heard the voice of God
reaffirming, reassuring,clearly with me.
Then name the thing you wantto do today.
Okay.
After you've done thesethings, just pick the thing.
What is the needle mover today?
Is it more phone calls?
Is it copy you need to write?
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Is it a customer you need to serve?
Is it a product you need tothink about?
Is it an employee you need towork with?
Is it a new hire you need to do?
What's the thing that youbelieve will move the needle today?
Then take that thing and putit in your calendar right now.
Block the hour for me.
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If it's not in my calendar, itdoesn't happen.
And it's not because I'm rigid.
I'm very, very flexible.
But then I don't have to think.
It clears out my mind for me.
Everything's in the calendar.
I just have to look at that.
So when you've identified thething that you think will move the
needle, most put it in thecalendar so you're sure you get it
done.
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Sometimes I use three non negotiables.
These are the three things I'mdoing today, no matter what.
Boom.
Because I said so and I'vedone this.
I've thought, these are thethings I think will move the needle.
They're not avoidant things.
They're not hiding things,they're not procrastination things
that the things I really thinkwill move the needle.
And when you're in spirit andin state.
When you've done yourmeditation and breath work, then
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you're most likely to identifytruth as opposed to deflections and
bullshit.
More likely to ignore theresistance, the pushback, the naysayer,
the kibbitzer, the internalcritic, because you're connected
to your true purpose.
Okay, then here is a key togetting started.
Let's say you have to write something.
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And I write a lot, so that'seasy for me to use as an example.
And maybe you don't.
Maybe it's other things.
Then just start.
Just write.
Put out a hundred words, 200words, 300 words, and just say it's
an ugly draft.
I'm just putting down ideas.
I'm just saying it.
There's plenty of dictationtools, so you can even speak it.
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Start, start.
Pick the one thing or thethree non negotiables.
I use three.
But at least the one thing youthink moves the needle.
Put it on the calendar.
Put it first.
Don't put it at the end of theday when you're tired and worn out.
Put it when you're fresh.
Do it right now.
If you can, let you haveanother appointment like do it now.
Do it first.
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Lock it on your calendar andjust start.
Okay, then.
A secret is that I use is liketwo timers.
I set a timer.
I use 50 tens.
If 50 minutes is too long, Ihad a client that used 25, five,
whatever it is this means.
Put your phone away where youcan't even hear the buzz.
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No, no, no, no, no buzz.
And set the timer.
So I take a little timer and Iset it for 50 and I just turn it
upside down and set it here.
Or I'll turn off my phone anduse the timer and I've made myself
immunized to the buzz.
I don't care.
I get so many spam callsanyway, I don't care.
I must be on a bunch of liststhat got sold.
So I get marketing calls and Inever pay attention.
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So in the phone buzz is Idon't even care.
So I can use my phone.
But if the phone buzz bothersyou, get a different timer.
Get them for three or fourbucks on Amazon.
Set a 50 minute timer, turn itover and sit there.
I'm going for 50 minutes to dothe thing that's going to move the
needle, even if it's a rough draft.
When I help people writebooks, I always tell them working
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title, working title, working title.
So you don't have to get stuckon it.
Everything's work in progress.
Till you ship it.
So then go in for that 50, 50, 10.
When that 50 minutes is up,the buzzer goes off, pick up the
10 minute timer.
I leave to have two of thembecause one set at 50 and one set
at 10 I just put in my pocketand go for a walk, break, walk away,
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stretch out, don't even thinkabout it.
Go outside.
If it's good weather, it's notminus 40 or raining and.
Or walk around the house.
I'll go find Joy.
I have an angel in the houseall the time anyway, so I'll go find
Joy and she's an angel andsmile and laugh and love her and
she's just beautiful and she'salways just a holy being.
So I'll go do that for a fewminutes and when the 10 minute timer
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goes off, it goes off.
I'll wind down what I'm doingthere in a minute and then come back
and pick the next hour.
So that is a foolproof,bulletproof way to get that thing
started.
Now, maybe you'll complete itin an hour and maybe you won't, but
whatever you got done, lock it in.
Okay?
And if it's done, ship it.
No second guessing, no whatever.
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If it's an email or a salesletter you're writing or an invitation,
ship it.
Ship it, ship it.
That's the deal with yourself.
Then you know you're keepingyour word to yourself.
Because I can make you asolemn holy promise.
When you keep your word toyourself, you can accomplish anything.
When I said it, I did it, isthe truth of your life.
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Nothing is out of your reach.
And that is a powerful,eternal truth.
So There is a 60 minute blockthat you can use to accomplish the
thing every day.
The how of the how.
Exactly.
How to do it.
Now, at the end of that hour,after you've walked your 10 minutes
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or so, and these are all roughtimes, sit down for a minute and
debrief what went well, whatdid I do really good?
What makes me go, yeah, andwhat could I do better?
And no drama, no harm, nofoul, no beat up, no criticism, just
question what might work better.
And you may not even know.
You know, it may be a hundred already.
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But if you got distractedonce, or if you got lost in a train
of thought and wandered aroundand did something, that's okay.
Opportunity for improvement.
Because today is about the howof the how.
All right, so let's go to thenext thing.
Here's how to keep your focussharp, keep your engine running like
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a high octane engine runningon you know, 94 octane gas or your
body running on great food,great nutrition, and good sleep.
Okay.
And we're not going to talkabout eating and sleeping hygiene
today, although that's a wholeepisode in itself.
But here's something that youcan do that will help you as you
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do this one hour block or thenext one, or the next one.
I don't do more than two ofthose, maybe three in a row before
I go.
Take a half hour.
And, you know, just stretchand move and do stuff, right?
So don't, don't, don't do toomany of those because they are, they
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are draining or they're demanding.
They were not draining ordemanding if you're doing stuff you
love, but they're not draining.
All right, so here's thingsyou do.
Do a three breath reset.
Three breaths might soundlike, not sound like much, but I
can promise you if you standup, you stretch, and you do a very
deep breath in, completelyfull to the top.
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And then I have a friend thatsays even when it's full, then do
another little pull and expandsome little alveoli in your lungs
that don't normally get puffed up.
And then breathe it out.
Some people call it box breathing.
4 in, 4 hold, 4 out, 4 hold or rectangle.
6 in, 4 hold, 6 out, 4 hold account.
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Right?
It does something in your body.
It activates yourparasympathetic nervous system, your
vagal nerve.
It resets.
It gives you a reset commandand tension and worry drain out of
your body.
So a deep breath all the wayin, extra hold it and then hold it
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empty.
Now, the hold it empty partmight be hard at first, but I have
done some practice to where Ican breathe a certain way.
This is a Wim Hof breathing.
Breathe in deeply for threeminutes, and then I can hold my lungs
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completely empty for a minuteand a half, 90 seconds.
And if you haven't tried that,that might be really hard at first,
but it's okay.
What you do is you teach yourbody that it can actually use the
oxygen stored in it.
And there's all kinds ofnervous system benefits to that.
We're not doing that today.
Look up Wim Hof.
It's fun.
All right, so there's apractical exact thing.
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Set your time up, set your dayup with your 40 minutes.
Then pick your mover, needlemover, block the time, do that one
thing, ship it, then debrief.
Did you do good?
Did you get distracted?
Whatever.
A thousand likes doesn't equalone conversation.
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Like, move into real action.
All right, so now we're goingto talk about some accountability
things that help you.
So at the end of the day,maybe you do.
You can do it in the middle also.
But here's some, here's somethings that I do and that you can
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do that will help you at theend of the day or at your check in
if you're going to do it at lunch.
I like to do it at lunchbecause my days are extremely productive
and so I like to keep score alittle bit.
And I don't write it down anywhere.
But I'll say, what did I create?
What did I create?
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Well, I got a podcast episode done.
I conducted a coaching call.
I did a spectacular morningroutine and put myself on cloud nine
and three quarters.
Oh, that was platform nine andthree quarters.
Harry Potter.
I do that and I do it everyday and I love it.
What worked really well?
What did I learn in my meditation?
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What did I hear the voice ofGod tell me to do today?
What was my intuition by thetime lunch gets here?
Often the messages that I'vesent out for love or repair or developing
relationships, I'll see some answers.
Look what happened.
Some acknowledgement at least.
Sometimes there's anappointment scheduled on the calendar
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by then and I get to celebratesmall victories.
So count your wins.
What did I create?
What is my.
What did I learn?
Here's another rubber meetsthe road thing that I do.
I look intentionally for coaching.
So I told you I have 30 booksover here and I'll read a chapter
or so in one or more of themduring my 10 minutes and I look intentionally.
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How can this help me?
What is the coaching here?
Coaching?
I am being coached in every moment.
I have a saying in my ptac, mypersonal truth document, that says
I learn from and get coachedby each person in my path, in print
in a Facebook feed, and Iclean out my feed.
So the only things I see arepositive things.
I get rid of everything else.
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I don't need garbage.
There's enough garbage that'savailable freely on the news and
just walking around.
So I intentionally fill myselfwith high power nutrition and therefore
I look for coaching.
I read somebody else's memeand I think, how does that apply
to me?
Where's the gold here?
What can I do?
I attended a mastermindmeeting yesterday and you know, I
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haven't belonged to thismastermind very long, couple of months.
And when I went in, I wasn't sure.
But what I decided is I'mgoing to take notes and I'm going
to figure out something valuable.
And you know What?
I found 11 things in our 90minutes yesterday.
I found 11 things in mynotebook that I can do, and I can't
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do them all at once.
And I'm not pretending, andI'm not behind the eight ball.
And I'm not saying, oh, no, Igot to do it all at once.
That's all nonsense.
But I found 11 possibilities,and they were exciting and energizing.
And as the mastermind went on,instead of thinking, once it's over,
I was thinking, wow, what elseis there?
So I look for coaching all the time.
So what did I get done this lunchtime?
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Check in for me.
What did I learn?
And what's the next one thing?
The afternoon?
Or if I don't check in tillnight, what's tomorrow's.
But I do it at noon.
So what's.
What's the one thing that Ithink will move the needle?
And move the needle might be income.
Move the needle might be relationships.
Move the needle might be connections.
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But whatever it is, now, I canmake you a solemn promise.
If you do these things, yourlife will change.
You will be moving closer topurpose, prosperity, and joy.
All right, so let's get tosome common derailments, things that
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get in your way.
Okay?
One is low energy.
Now, if you haven't had ahabit of doing this kind of discipline
and this kind of growth andthis kind of structure, it might
be difficult to start.
Start it all at once.
So change one thing at a time.
Change one thing at a time.
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Because in a week, you'vechanged seven things.
And so it isn't necessary orappropriate or good or anything else
to do everything everywhereall at once.
It's discouraging.
It's like going to the gym andsaying, I lift 100 pounds.
I'm going to do 500 today.
Well, either you're going tobreak something or you're just going
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to fail and then tell yourselfstories about why you suck.
Well, 1%, 3%.
One thing.
I'm going to do one thingdifferent, and then I'm going to
see what happened.
And then one more thing andone more thing, and that stuff stacks
up so fast you won't believeit, but some people still use it.
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Well, if I can't doeverything, I'm not going to bother
nothing.
That's like the diet thing.
Well, I ate one cookie, so Imight as well eat the whole bag and
a box of ice cream.
Well, you could, but youalready know where that road goes.
I hate myself.
I suck.
I'll never make this.
So why would you go down thatroad into that blind alley, Right?
All right, so then anotherhack is perfectionism.
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I don't want to ship.
Send the email, theinvitation, the conversation, whatever
it is, I don't want to shipuntil it's perfect.
Well, first of all, you haveno idea what perfect is.
So that's a myth.
That's nonsense.
Second, that's why I alwaysuse the idea of working titles.
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Okay, ship version 0.7.
Right?
You don't have to get toversion one.
It isn't going to be perfect anyway.
I wrote five books onmeditation in 2009.
Okay.
And they were a series, theMeditation series, Healthy Mind Institute.
And they dealt with how to domeditation and then how to apply
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it in four different areas.
Creating spirituality,creating personal achievement, learning
in the creative process,health, healing, and wellness.
And you know what?
Ten years later, I put out V2,revised edition.
Were the first ones bad?
No, I had just more to say andsome adds to it.
And so there's version two.
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That was out a few years ago.
How wonderful.
V2.
So perfectionism is a joke.
It is a myth.
It is a lie.
Nothing is perfect.
You can't get there.
And telling yourself that is baloney.
That means you're procrastinating.
That means you're pretending.
That means you think yousomehow have a perfect thing, and
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you don't.
And what you're really doingis hiding behind the idea that you're
afraid of ridicule.
You're afraid of failing.
You're afraid it won't work.
And guess what?
There are ridiculers.
There are people for whom itwill fail.
So just get that nonsense outof your head and know that that's
going to happen.
And ship for the ones thatneed it now.
Because the version thatyou've got now, whether it's a product,
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a service, an email, a text, amarketing campaign, or anything else,
or a relationship repairattempt, I need to find exactly the
right words to make thisapology or make this approach or
do this presentation.
No, you don't.
The answer is always ready,fire, steer.
Ready, fire, steer.
Because you don't know whatanyone else is thinking anyway.
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And you can't know.
So when you unburden yourselfwith the idea that you're supposed
to know, you're completelyliberated to go with what you got
and then make adjustmentsalong the way.
So Nick's the perfection thing.
The other thing is smallaccountability things.
Sometimes you hear this story, too.
You sit behind your desk inisolation and you work all day long
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and Then you start wondering,does it even matter?
Am I shouting into the windthat nobody's going to hear?
With whatever your product orservice is, whatever you're doing.
And you know, if you alreadygo to a job where you're with other
people, then you have, youknow, you've gotten over that isolation
thing.
But one of the profound andwell documented effects of COVID
was this isolation epidemic.
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It ruined relationships.
It took away our ability totalk and connect.
It damaged a whole generationof kids in terms of isolation and
absence from school.
And we're still, you know,working on making repairs to that.
So don't be isolated.
Schedule time to connect.
Now, me, I have a blessing.
I have joy.
I have joy in Persona.
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I have an angel that lives inmy house.
I can go up and be with her.
So guess what?
We'll go run an errand.
We'll go somewhere, go to thebottle depot and take the bottles
in.
We'll go to the recycle.
I'll just go up and sit in heroffice and ask her what she's doing
and how she slept and whatever.
I get up a lot earlier thanher so often I don't see her till
lunch, right, Because I'm downhere working.
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Or I may take a mid morningbreak after one of the 50 tens.
And part of the ten is to gofind her, like I mentioned earlier.
But connect with someone, beopen and share.
Ask what they're doing.
This isn't about youmonopolizing a conversation and making
it about you.
Get out of yourself.
What are you doing today?
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How's your day going?
What went good?
What went bad?
How can I love you?
How can I encourage you?
How can I lift and bless your heart?
Like, you'll be surprised.
What power there is in thatquestion for both you and for them.
All right, so here's yourchallenge to do a how of the how
sprint.
You've heard this episode.
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I dare you.
I challenge you.
I beg you.
I command you.
Whatever voice works, right?
Run this daily creation forseven days.
The 40 minutes of your dailycreation in the morning, and then
this structure to get delivery happening.
Run it just like we talked about.
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Run it for seven days and thentell me what happens.
I challenge you to tell me.
I invite you to.
I'd love to share your successes.
I invite you.
Especially if you're alreadydoing this and you're hitting on
all cylinders and you've got aprocess that really works.
I'd love you.
I'd love to share it on the show.
Get.
Reach out to me.
And let's get you as a gueston here because mine isn't the only
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wisdom.
I'm sharing you with you.
What I know works and what hascaused me to write 20 books, put
out new nearly a hundredsongs, create multiple many dollar
coaching programs, you know,create a very, very successful seven
figure business.
And so I invite you to, tolisten to this and don't dismiss
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it.
If it doesn't work for youexactly as described, figure out
your own.
But the key is do it.
You have to ship it.
You have to ship it.
Okay, so here's what you track.
You track.
Did you do the 40 minutes ofcreation 10/10.10.
If you use spam, spiritual,physical, emotional, mental.
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If you have a different one,then the metric is really simple.
Did it work?
People say to me all the time,yeah, yeah, yeah, I have a daily,
I have a morning ritual, blahblah blah.
And then I ask him a reallyinteresting question, does it work?
And they go, what do you mean?
And most of them are doing asort of box checking exercise.
Yeah, I meditated.
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Yeah, I did this.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's useless.
I'm totally useless.
Work means did it deliver youto your highest level of being?
Did it deliver you as the onfire divine soul committed to your
mission?
Grin on your face, fire underyour butt?
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Did it deliver that for you?
If it didn't, your morningritual sucks.
Do it again, figure it out.
Because the whole purpose ofthat is to deliver the best you.
So telling me or yourselfyou've got a ritual or some kind
of thing is a useless commentunless it works.
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So the outcome did it work?
Did it deliver you on fire?
Grin on your face, fired upand ready to rock?
That's what your morningritual must do or it's garbage because
it didn't work.
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So my invitation, if you wanthelp, I can give you one that works.
I can help you create one thatworks for you, not one that works
for me, but because what worksfor me won't work for you.
So the key is, did it work for you?
Okay, so track the things, youtrack the days.
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Did you pick your one thing?
Did you block it?
Did you ship?
Did you pick it?
Did you block the time?
Did you ship?
And if it's a several dayproject, then did you get to the
to the stopping point andcount it as locked and loaded, shipped
right at the end of, at theend of the week, count your wins,
figure out, figure out.
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And if you had a multi daything, is it shipped?
Are you willing to ship?
Version 0.6 or 7 or 8.
I'm.
I've got a really cool 4Kcamera and their software is still
version 0 point something andthey're gradually creeping up to
1 and so they're justacknowledging they're adding cool
stuff and doing it andthey're, you know, they update it
and eventually I think they'llget to version one.
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So here's your invitation.
Love yourself enough to getgood at this.
Love yourself to get yourpride out of the way and do the things
that I have told you to do.
Unless you're already hittingon all cylinders, in which case you
already have.
You have a process.
But if you're only hitting onfive days out of seven or three days
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or one or two days a week,you're better than that.
You're worth more than that.
You're more powerful than that.
I need what you have.
So do a lot of other people.
So the how of the how is theexact steps, one foot in front of
the other to take.
And I have given you that today.
I'm not saying it's the onlyone, but I can tell you it works.
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If you want my help, reach out.
There's a URL right here onthe bottom of the screen, kellenflueckegermedia.com
There's a contact form there.
Reach out to me and let's talk.
I couldn't do the thing todaywithout talking about Dream Build.
Write it.
Dream buildwriteit.com Dreambuildwriteit.com that's the most
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powerful system on earth.
To help people identify theirown hero's journey and story.
To write it in a book and thencreate services and products from
that thing.
I remember Brendan Burchardand others saying, you know, your
story, your life is the most valuable.
And I used to think, yeah,yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And people still do.
And it is so, so true.
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The most important gift youhave is the story of your own becoming.
If you're not using it, you'releaving money on the table and people
unserved.
I love you.
No cavalry is coming.
This is on you.
It's not a threat.
It's permission to be yourbest self.
And remember, one conversationbeats a thousand likes or whatever.
One real conversation.
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Don't devalue yourself.
You are your most precious asset.
Take care of you, love you,and love yourself enough to get flipping
good at what you do.
Take this process.
I challenge you to do it.
And then tell me whathappened, because it will move you
toward your ultimate life.
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And you'll never ask why.
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Welcome to your ultimate life.
Today is the day we're goingto talk about how things get done.
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We've talked about getting prepared.
We've talked about the mindsetand the structure we need.
We talked about that.
There's nobody preventing you.
There's no gatekeeper.
There's no barrier.
Only the story in your mind.
You don't need anyone'spermission, you don't need anyone's
agreement to either be becomewhat you want to become or build
the business you want to build.
Like you have a dream ofchanging the world.
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I know you do.
Maybe your world is 10 people.
Maybe it's a hundred.
Maybe it's a thousand.
Maybe it's $100,000 business.
Maybe it's a million dollar business.
Maybe 10 million.
None of those are impossible.
All of those are doable andwithin your grasp.
And it takes a process to get there.
We don't live in a HarryPotter wand world where he goes and
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a little pink, you know,stream comes out and boom, there's
a pile of gold.
We don't live there, okay?
Or at least I don't know howto do that.
But I do know how to createanything I want.
And I do it all the time.
I'm on a mission to reach 300million people.
And you know what?
I'm going to reach it.
I've got six weeks left.
I'm going to make it.
We're going to reach 300million people with the message of
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whipos.
Worth, identity, possibility,ownership, sovereignty.
That combination means you cancreate anything you want.
You've heard me say that ahundred times or a thousand times.
This is episode 1000 andsomething, right?
And it's true.
It's true every time I say it.
And it will be true forevermore.
We know from physics, ourthoughts change the probability distribution.
Our thoughts make things happen.
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And it doesn't happen as fastas we want.
Like we could say, oh, boom,here it is and there's a box of gold
bars on the porch or health,boom, suddenly I'm healed.
Sometimes that happens, butthat's pretty rare.
So what we're going to talkabout today is actually how, how
do things happen?
Okay, so what we're going togive you what I'm going to give you
today.
And here's the promise.
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I'm going to promise to giveyou tools that will work.
It will set you up every dayto be powerful.
It will make you keep yourpromises or help you keep your promises.
It will help you deliver whatyou promised to yourself.
You're going to deliver.
The promises to yourself arethe most important.
So there's principle one ofthe how of the how.
The promises you make toyourself are the most sacred words
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you utter in the universetoday and every day, period.
They're more important thanany other promise.
Because if you can't keep yourpromise to yourself, what you say
to others is always subject to suspicion.
And you will disagree.
You will say, no, I keep mypromises to other people, but I don't
keep them to myself.
You're lying.
If you don't keep yourpromises to yourself, you keep them
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maybe to other people, but itis performative.
It is not with integrity.
It is not with your full heartand soul.
Your promises to yourself,your integrity to yourself is job
one, always and forever.
So do that.
So let's learn about how to do that.
Here is a daily playbook I'mgoing to give you a daily playbook
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you can run in 60 minutes thatwill set you up for delivering today.
Step one.
I'm going to tell you a story.
There was a day I took the dogfor a walk.
And this was some years ago in Phoenix.
And we lived across the streetfrom a development that was going
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in.
And it was some years afterthat big 2008 crash.
That's 17 years ago.
But it was some years after that.
And so the development hadcome to a complete screeching standstill.
And the streets were in, andthere were some show homes built,
but nothing happened for along time.
And so I used to go walk inthere in the morning for like an
hour with the dog all over the place.
And one morning I got up to gofor a walk and it was a great day.
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I got up, I did some, youknow, personal things.
I didn't have the powerfulmorning ritual that I have today,
the invincible powerhouse thatputs me in Olympic level form.
But I had something and I wasout for a walk.
And as I went for a walk, Igot an email.
And the email was a disaster,or at least I thought it was.
I interpreted it, interpretedit as a disaster.
Boom.
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Wrecked something.
And then I got a phone call,another disaster.
And then I got another one.
And it Were like four things,maybe five, one after another, that
were huge disappointments.
This fell through, that wasn't happening.
And just on and on, right?
And it was so heavy, it was soheavy on me.
I sat down on the curb and I'min this development walking around,
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but there's nobody there.
It's all empty lots and a fewfences up and stuff.
And over there in thedistance, it was a big development
like a mile by a mile, so theshow homes were far away.
But anyway, I sit down on thecurb and I wanted to start to cry.
Literally.
It was affecting me thatpowerfully emotionally.
And then, and then, you know,of course I've got this dog with
me, right?
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And the dog's out for a walk,so it didn't want to sit down.
And then it sees a rabbit dogsees a rabbit jumping around, trying
to chase the rabbit andeverything else.
And I thought, how funny.
The dog and I, we're both herein this very same space and I am
like sucking wind, I am hurting.
And the dog, he's not havingany of it.
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He's jumping around happy.
And I thought, wait a minute,if we're sitting here on the same
place, well, the dog wasn'tsitting, but I was.
And the dog's jumping around,then it isn't anything except it's
in here.
It's a dance in my head.
So then the thought came to meand thought, okay, if I can go from
just top of the world tobottom of the barrel in five minutes
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with a few messages, then Ican retrace that.
I can go back the other way.
I can not do that because thewhole dance is in my head, right?
And the dog, he's not havingany of it.
So that was the, that was thething that started.
Started me on this whole questof creation, more intentional and
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powerful creation because Icreated the misery.
And yeah, I got some eventsthat happened, some.
An email and some phone callsand things stuff happened.
But I allowed that to smash meto, to face in the gutter, you know,
emotionally destroyed, end ofthe world, doom scrolling doomsday,
all that stuff.
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And I thought, now wait aminute, if that can happen in one
direction, it can happen inthe other direction.
So that got me thinkingseriously about some questions.
And here are the questions.
Okay, question number one.
What am I believing that givesthis feeling, power.
Well, that was easy to identify.
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I believe that I'm doomed.
The world is ending.
The failure of these things,clients falling through, it's going
to mean financial something.
Oh no, I'm in a Something, something.
I don't remember the detailsof them now, but that's what I was
believing.
It means death financially orcareer wise or embarrassment or something.
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It means terrifying consequences.
Now, I don't know that's truebecause all I got was a message that
this thing isn't happening.
But I interpolated that andwent on to, you know, death of some
sort, right?
Failure, and then, you know,reflection on me and all the rest
of the things that that means.
And so I thought, actually, Idon't know what it means, but what
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I'm believing is, this is catastrophizing.
So then the next question was,okay, is it true?
And the answer is, well, Iactually don't know.
What I know is true is I gotan email, I got a phone call.
That's what I know is true.
I know the contents of thecall, at least right now, are this
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thing I was depending on isn't happening.
And there were several.
So for each thing, it isn'thappening or not happening the way
I wanted.
That's all I actually know.
So what I was believing is,and it means financial catastrophe
or embarrassment or failure here.
And I was taking this lever,this, this inflection point and catastrophizing,
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jumping off a cliff with it.
So the answer to the question,is it true?
Well, it's true right now inthis moment that I got an email that
says X or a phone call, boththat I know is true.
Does it mean all these other things?
Actually, I have no idea.
I don't know if it means that.
Well, that lowered thepressure a bunch because other things
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could happen, Right?
Then the next question's evenmore fun.
What else could I believe?
Well, I could believe this isa good thing.
I can't see how that's true.
I could believe it's a neutral thing.
I could believe it will changein a minute, that if I make a phone
call and do some things, Imight be able to adjust.
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I could believe that.
Wow.
I could.
Sometimes it's hard to do thatbecause if you're in the middle of
a real catastrophe, it's hardto say, what else could I believe
and see past the ingrained belief?
So there's another way to askthat question.
We all have people that werespect and admire and to ask what
would so and so believe here?
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And if you pick, you know,your favorite superhero or some other
person you know, that's doingreally well, who, who metabolizes
these things and says, what'sthe gift here?
You know, what they would bethinking they would be thinking,
how can I fix this?
They would be thinking, whycan this be good?
They would be thinking, whatcan I create from this?
I couldn't create otherwise.
You know that because you know them.
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So if you can't do ityourself, then use someone else as
a proxy.
And the next question is, whatwould they do with that thought?
Or what would I do with a new thought?
Well, I make a phone call, I'd regroup.
I. I internally realize thatit really isn't the end of the world.
Like a nuclear weapon didn'tfall on my house, jet engines not
in my front yard.
People aren't dead and dying.
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So there's lots of things.
So you get the process.
What am I believing that givesus power?
Okay, is it true?
What else could I believe?
If I believed one of theseother things, what would I do right
now?
And then take that action.
Even though you don't knowwhat the outcome is, that is an immediate
and powerful.
And it works every time.
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Foolproof path out of that catastrophizing.
So I did it in that particularcase, in five more minutes, maybe
it was 10, took me five to getdown, maybe 10 to back up.
I realized that there weresome things I couldn't control right
now at all, and I couldn't doanything about them.
But there were several thingsthat I could do right this minute
or as soon as I got home fromthe walk to, to find out more, to
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mitigate, to make somechanges, or to find the gift.
I did it.
It worked.
And from there, I've createdthis entire curriculum and process
about the truth of creatingyour life.
So that is a set of steps.
Now I want to go over with youwhat I do.
And this is again, the how ofthe how.
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This is the nitty gritty.
Every single day when I getup, here's what I do.
I go through a DCP dailycreation process.
Here's what it consists of.
But before I tell you that,let me tell you the outcome.
The outcome is I get moredone, I make more money.
I live happier and more joyfully.
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Okay?
And I live this ultimate lifepurpose, prosperity and joy.
It wasn't always that way.
I lived behind the eight ballbefore expecting failure, catastrophizing
every event, seeing the worstin things, chastising myself all
the time.
Living in self loathing andhatred, like deep hatred.
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And at different times in mylife, different depths of that negativity.
But I lived there for decades,so I know deeply about that.
Struggling with depression, itgot to the point of suicidal Ideation
and attempts even so really,really dark places.
But my point is this.
Here is the process.
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Spiritual, physical,emotional, mental.
If I'm teaching you this, Isaid I'd give you something you can
do in 60 minutes.
So here's 10-10-10 four blocksof 10 minutes to create yourself
in a way so that you are invincible.
You keep your word, you shipand deliver on time.
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Whether that's product orservice or writing or if you're going
to a job, showing up and doingthe very best you can, performing
well, making cash, makingconnections and just living a kick
ass life.
The spiritual I put firstbecause it is the foundation for
me.
We all know there's something more.
Call it your higher self, callit God, call it the universe.
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I call it God.
I have a personal relationship.
I have seen God.
I died and spoke with him in 2018.
But your ideation of that isyours and own it.
So own it.
And here's the key.
Do something in that 10minutes to deepen that connection.
It might be prayer, it mightbe meditation, it might be stillness,
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it might be reading somesacred literature.
It might be reaffirming yourown worth.
Now I have a process called a ptac.
I'm not teaching that rightnow today.
But if you want to know how todo it, it's in a book called Living
with Purpose and Power.
If you don't have this book,it's the best book on the planet
about how to find your selfworth, how to use it every day and
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how to create miracles.
Best one there is.
So get it and read it and thendo what's in it.
Read it.
Doesn't matter unless you dowhat's in it.
So the first 10 minutes is dosomething that connects you spiritually.
The next 10 minutes is dosomething that wakes your physical
body up.
Even if you're going to gowork out later.
Or do whatever, do somestretching, do some breathing.
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Wim hof breathing.
If you don't know what thatis, look it up.
W I M H O f It is a particularstyle of breathing that wakes up
your parasympathetic nervoussystem and gets you set for the day.
Or you can do box breathing,or you can do rectangle breathing,
or you can do all kinds of things.
The point is, spend 10 minuteshonoring the the container that holds
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your spirit.
The implementer of all thingsthat you think.
The second or the third thingis E S P E is emotional.
Send some messages of love.
Scroll through your texts.
I'm not talking Facebookscrolling or doom scrolling.
Look at Texts.
Look at messenger if you useit, or WhatsApp or whatever and be
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inspired about messages oflove and connection.
I dare you.
Spend 10 minutes sending.
I prefer voice notes becausethey're way more personal.
But send some notes of love,of connection, maybe of repair.
Do that.
And the last is M. Mental.
Pick up a book.
I have 30 or so over here intwo great big tall stacks, you know,
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that are.
I can't even show how tallthey are.
Big stacks of books and morecome every day.
Not every day, a couple timesa week.
And I read voraciously.
Why?
Because I love the different framings.
I love the way people expresstheir ideas.
So the goal here is, in that40 minutes, create yourself so that
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you are true.
You are the being you want tohave show up.
You're in Olympic form.
One way I say that is to enter spirit.
Enter spirit so you canreceive real power.
Because you're spiritual beings.
Don't leave that meditationuntil you felt that connection.
I don't leave my spiritualpart of on any day, ever.
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And I mean this, I never skipuntil I've heard the voice of God
reaffirming, reassuring,clearly with me.
Then name the thing you wantto do today.
Okay.
After you've done thesethings, just pick the thing.
What is the needle mover today?
Is it more phone calls?
Is it copy you need to write?
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Is it a customer you need to serve?
Is it a product you need tothink about?
Is it an employee you need towork with?
Is it a new hire you need to do?
What's the thing that youbelieve will move the needle today?
Then take that thing and putit in your calendar right now.
Block the hour for me.
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If it's not in my calendar, itdoesn't happen.
And it's not because I'm rigid.
I'm very, very flexible.
But then I don't have to think.
It clears out my mind for me.
Everything's in the calendar.
I just have to look at that.
So when you've identified thething that you think will move the
needle, most put it in thecalendar so you're sure you get it
done.
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Sometimes I use three non negotiables.
These are the three things I'mdoing today, no matter what.
Boom.
Because I said so and I'vedone this.
I've thought, these are thethings I think will move the needle.
They're not avoidant things.
They're not hiding things,they're not procrastination things
that the things I really thinkwill move the needle.
And when you're in spirit andin state.
When you've done yourmeditation and breath work, then
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you're most likely to identifytruth as opposed to deflections and
bullshit.
More likely to ignore theresistance, the pushback, the naysayer,
the kibbitzer, the internalcritic, because you're connected
to your true purpose.
Okay, then here is a key togetting started.
Let's say you have to write something.
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And I write a lot, so that'seasy for me to use as an example.
And maybe you don't.
Maybe it's other things.
Then just start.
Just write.
Put out a hundred words, 200words, 300 words, and just say it's
an ugly draft.
I'm just putting down ideas.
I'm just saying it.
There's plenty of dictationtools, so you can even speak it.
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Start, start.
Pick the one thing or thethree non negotiables.
I use three.
But at least the one thing youthink moves the needle.
Put it on the calendar.
Put it first.
Don't put it at the end of theday when you're tired and worn out.
Put it when you're fresh.
Do it right now.
If you can, let you haveanother appointment like do it now.
Do it first.
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Lock it on your calendar andjust start.
Okay, then.
A secret is that I use is liketwo timers.
I set a timer.
I use 50 tens.
If 50 minutes is too long, Ihad a client that used 25, five,
whatever it is this means.
Put your phone away where youcan't even hear the buzz.
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No, no, no, no, no buzz.
And set the timer.
So I take a little timer and Iset it for 50 and I just turn it
upside down and set it here.
Or I'll turn off my phone anduse the timer and I've made myself
immunized to the buzz.
I don't care.
I get so many spam callsanyway, I don't care.
I must be on a bunch of liststhat got sold.
So I get marketing calls and Inever pay attention.
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So in the phone buzz is Idon't even care.
So I can use my phone.
But if the phone buzz bothersyou, get a different timer.
Get them for three or fourbucks on Amazon.
Set a 50 minute timer, turn itover and sit there.
I'm going for 50 minutes to dothe thing that's going to move the
needle, even if it's a rough draft.
When I help people writebooks, I always tell them working
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title, working title, working title.
So you don't have to get stuckon it.
Everything's work in progress.
Till you ship it.
So then go in for that 50, 50, 10.
When that 50 minutes is up,the buzzer goes off, pick up the
10 minute timer.
I leave to have two of thembecause one set at 50 and one set
at 10 I just put in my pocketand go for a walk, break, walk away,
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stretch out, don't even thinkabout it.
Go outside.
If it's good weather, it's notminus 40 or raining and.
Or walk around the house.
I'll go find Joy.
I have an angel in the houseall the time anyway, so I'll go find
Joy and she's an angel andsmile and laugh and love her and
she's just beautiful and she'salways just a holy being.
So I'll go do that for a fewminutes and when the 10 minute timer
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goes off, it goes off.
I'll wind down what I'm doingthere in a minute and then come back
and pick the next hour.
So that is a foolproof,bulletproof way to get that thing
started.
Now, maybe you'll complete itin an hour and maybe you won't, but
whatever you got done, lock it in.
Okay?
And if it's done, ship it.
No second guessing, no whatever.
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If it's an email or a salesletter you're writing or an invitation,
ship it.
Ship it, ship it.
That's the deal with yourself.
Then you know you're keepingyour word to yourself.
Because I can make you asolemn holy promise.
When you keep your word toyourself, you can accomplish anything.
When I said it, I did it, isthe truth of your life.
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Nothing is out of your reach.
And that is a powerful,eternal truth.
So There is a 60 minute blockthat you can use to accomplish the
thing every day.
The how of the how.
Exactly.
How to do it.
Now, at the end of that hour,after you've walked your 10 minutes
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or so, and these are all roughtimes, sit down for a minute and
debrief what went well, whatdid I do really good?
What makes me go, yeah, andwhat could I do better?
And no drama, no harm, nofoul, no beat up, no criticism, just
question what might work better.
And you may not even know.
You know, it may be a hundred already.
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But if you got distractedonce, or if you got lost in a train
of thought and wandered aroundand did something, that's okay.
Opportunity for improvement.
Because today is about the howof the how.
All right, so let's go to thenext thing.
Here's how to keep your focussharp, keep your engine running like
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a high octane engine runningon you know, 94 octane gas or your
body running on great food,great nutrition, and good sleep.
Okay.
And we're not going to talkabout eating and sleeping hygiene
today, although that's a wholeepisode in itself.
But here's something that youcan do that will help you as you
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do this one hour block or thenext one, or the next one.
I don't do more than two ofthose, maybe three in a row before
I go.
Take a half hour.
And, you know, just stretchand move and do stuff, right?
So don't, don't, don't do toomany of those because they are, they
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are draining or they're demanding.
They were not draining ordemanding if you're doing stuff you
love, but they're not draining.
All right, so here's thingsyou do.
Do a three breath reset.
Three breaths might soundlike, not sound like much, but I
can promise you if you standup, you stretch, and you do a very
deep breath in, completelyfull to the top.
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And then I have a friend thatsays even when it's full, then do
another little pull and expandsome little alveoli in your lungs
that don't normally get puffed up.
And then breathe it out.
Some people call it box breathing.
4 in, 4 hold, 4 out, 4 hold or rectangle.
6 in, 4 hold, 6 out, 4 hold account.
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Right?
It does something in your body.
It activates yourparasympathetic nervous system, your
vagal nerve.
It resets.
It gives you a reset commandand tension and worry drain out of
your body.
So a deep breath all the wayin, extra hold it and then hold it
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empty.
Now, the hold it empty partmight be hard at first, but I have
done some practice to where Ican breathe a certain way.
This is a Wim Hof breathing.
Breathe in deeply for threeminutes, and then I can hold my lungs
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completely empty for a minuteand a half, 90 seconds.
And if you haven't tried that,that might be really hard at first,
but it's okay.
What you do is you teach yourbody that it can actually use the
oxygen stored in it.
And there's all kinds ofnervous system benefits to that.
We're not doing that today.
Look up Wim Hof.
It's fun.
All right, so there's apractical exact thing.
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Set your time up, set your dayup with your 40 minutes.
Then pick your mover, needlemover, block the time, do that one
thing, ship it, then debrief.
Did you do good?
Did you get distracted?
Whatever.
A thousand likes doesn't equalone conversation.
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Like, move into real action.
All right, so now we're goingto talk about some accountability
things that help you.
So at the end of the day,maybe you do.
You can do it in the middle also.
But here's some, here's somethings that I do and that you can
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do that will help you at theend of the day or at your check in
if you're going to do it at lunch.
I like to do it at lunchbecause my days are extremely productive
and so I like to keep score alittle bit.
And I don't write it down anywhere.
But I'll say, what did I create?
What did I create?
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Well, I got a podcast episode done.
I conducted a coaching call.
I did a spectacular morningroutine and put myself on cloud nine
and three quarters.
Oh, that was platform nine andthree quarters.
Harry Potter.
I do that and I do it everyday and I love it.
What worked really well?
What did I learn in my meditation?
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What did I hear the voice ofGod tell me to do today?
What was my intuition by thetime lunch gets here?
Often the messages that I'vesent out for love or repair or developing
relationships, I'll see some answers.
Look what happened.
Some acknowledgement at least.
Sometimes there's anappointment scheduled on the calendar
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by then and I get to celebratesmall victories.
So count your wins.
What did I create?
What is my.
What did I learn?
Here's another rubber meetsthe road thing that I do.
I look intentionally for coaching.
So I told you I have 30 booksover here and I'll read a chapter
or so in one or more of themduring my 10 minutes and I look intentionally.
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How can this help me?
What is the coaching here?
Coaching?
I am being coached in every moment.
I have a saying in my ptac, mypersonal truth document, that says
I learn from and get coachedby each person in my path, in print
in a Facebook feed, and Iclean out my feed.
So the only things I see arepositive things.
I get rid of everything else.
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I don't need garbage.
There's enough garbage that'savailable freely on the news and
just walking around.
So I intentionally fill myselfwith high power nutrition and therefore
I look for coaching.
I read somebody else's memeand I think, how does that apply
to me?
Where's the gold here?
What can I do?
I attended a mastermindmeeting yesterday and you know, I
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haven't belonged to thismastermind very long, couple of months.
And when I went in, I wasn't sure.
But what I decided is I'mgoing to take notes and I'm going
to figure out something valuable.
And you know What?
I found 11 things in our 90minutes yesterday.
I found 11 things in mynotebook that I can do, and I can't
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do them all at once.
And I'm not pretending, andI'm not behind the eight ball.
And I'm not saying, oh, no, Igot to do it all at once.
That's all nonsense.
But I found 11 possibilities,and they were exciting and energizing.
And as the mastermind went on,instead of thinking, once it's over,
I was thinking, wow, what elseis there?
So I look for coaching all the time.
So what did I get done this lunchtime?
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Check in for me.
What did I learn?
And what's the next one thing?
The afternoon?
Or if I don't check in tillnight, what's tomorrow's.
But I do it at noon.
So what's.
What's the one thing that Ithink will move the needle?
And move the needle might be income.
Move the needle might be relationships.
Move the needle might be connections.
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But whatever it is, now, I canmake you a solemn promise.
If you do these things, yourlife will change.
You will be moving closer topurpose, prosperity, and joy.
All right, so let's get tosome common derailments, things that
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get in your way.
Okay?
One is low energy.
Now, if you haven't had ahabit of doing this kind of discipline
and this kind of growth andthis kind of structure, it might
be difficult to start.
Start it all at once.
So change one thing at a time.
Change one thing at a time.
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Because in a week, you'vechanged seven things.
And so it isn't necessary orappropriate or good or anything else
to do everything everywhereall at once.
It's discouraging.
It's like going to the gym andsaying, I lift 100 pounds.
I'm going to do 500 today.
Well, either you're going tobreak something or you're just going
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to fail and then tell yourselfstories about why you suck.
Well, 1%, 3%.
One thing.
I'm going to do one thingdifferent, and then I'm going to
see what happened.
And then one more thing andone more thing, and that stuff stacks
up so fast you won't believeit, but some people still use it.
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Well, if I can't doeverything, I'm not going to bother
nothing.
That's like the diet thing.
Well, I ate one cookie, so Imight as well eat the whole bag and
a box of ice cream.
Well, you could, but youalready know where that road goes.
I hate myself.
I suck.
I'll never make this.
So why would you go down thatroad into that blind alley, Right?
All right, so then anotherhack is perfectionism.
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I don't want to ship.
Send the email, theinvitation, the conversation, whatever
it is, I don't want to shipuntil it's perfect.
Well, first of all, you haveno idea what perfect is.
So that's a myth.
That's nonsense.
Second, that's why I alwaysuse the idea of working titles.
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Okay, ship version 0.7.
Right?
You don't have to get toversion one.
It isn't going to be perfect anyway.
I wrote five books onmeditation in 2009.
Okay.
And they were a series, theMeditation series, Healthy Mind Institute.
And they dealt with how to domeditation and then how to apply
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it in four different areas.
Creating spirituality,creating personal achievement, learning
in the creative process,health, healing, and wellness.
And you know what?
Ten years later, I put out V2,revised edition.
Were the first ones bad?
No, I had just more to say andsome adds to it.
And so there's version two.
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That was out a few years ago.
How wonderful.
V2.
So perfectionism is a joke.
It is a myth.
It is a lie.
Nothing is perfect.
You can't get there.
And telling yourself that is baloney.
That means you're procrastinating.
That means you're pretending.
That means you think yousomehow have a perfect thing, and
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you don't.
And what you're really doingis hiding behind the idea that you're
afraid of ridicule.
You're afraid of failing.
You're afraid it won't work.
And guess what?
There are ridiculers.
There are people for whom itwill fail.
So just get that nonsense outof your head and know that that's
going to happen.
And ship for the ones thatneed it now.
Because the version thatyou've got now, whether it's a product,
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a service, an email, a text, amarketing campaign, or anything else,
or a relationship repairattempt, I need to find exactly the
right words to make thisapology or make this approach or
do this presentation.
No, you don't.
The answer is always ready,fire, steer.
Ready, fire, steer.
Because you don't know whatanyone else is thinking anyway.
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And you can't know.
So when you unburden yourselfwith the idea that you're supposed
to know, you're completelyliberated to go with what you got
and then make adjustmentsalong the way.
So Nick's the perfection thing.
The other thing is smallaccountability things.
Sometimes you hear this story, too.
You sit behind your desk inisolation and you work all day long
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and Then you start wondering,does it even matter?
Am I shouting into the windthat nobody's going to hear?
With whatever your product orservice is, whatever you're doing.
And you know, if you alreadygo to a job where you're with other
people, then you have, youknow, you've gotten over that isolation
thing.
But one of the profound andwell documented effects of COVID
was this isolation epidemic.
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It ruined relationships.
It took away our ability totalk and connect.
It damaged a whole generationof kids in terms of isolation and
absence from school.
And we're still, you know,working on making repairs to that.
So don't be isolated.
Schedule time to connect.
Now, me, I have a blessing.
I have joy.
I have joy in Persona.
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I have an angel that lives inmy house.
I can go up and be with her.
So guess what?
We'll go run an errand.
We'll go somewhere, go to thebottle depot and take the bottles
in.
We'll go to the recycle.
I'll just go up and sit in heroffice and ask her what she's doing
and how she slept and whatever.
I get up a lot earlier thanher so often I don't see her till
lunch, right, Because I'm downhere working.
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Or I may take a mid morningbreak after one of the 50 tens.
And part of the ten is to gofind her, like I mentioned earlier.
But connect with someone, beopen and share.
Ask what they're doing.
This isn't about youmonopolizing a conversation and making
it about you.
Get out of yourself.
What are you doing today?
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How's your day going?
What went good?
What went bad?
How can I love you?
How can I encourage you?
How can I lift and bless your heart?
Like, you'll be surprised.
What power there is in thatquestion for both you and for them.
All right, so here's yourchallenge to do a how of the how
sprint.
You've heard this episode.
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I dare you.
I challenge you.
I beg you.
I command you.
Whatever voice works, right?
Run this daily creation forseven days.
The 40 minutes of your dailycreation in the morning, and then
this structure to get delivery happening.
Run it just like we talked about.
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Run it for seven days and thentell me what happens.
I challenge you to tell me.
I invite you to.
I'd love to share your successes.
I invite you.
Especially if you're alreadydoing this and you're hitting on
all cylinders and you've got aprocess that really works.
I'd love you.
I'd love to share it on the show.
Get.
Reach out to me.
And let's get you as a gueston here because mine isn't the only
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wisdom.
I'm sharing you with you.
What I know works and what hascaused me to write 20 books, put
out new nearly a hundredsongs, create multiple many dollar
coaching programs, you know,create a very, very successful seven
figure business.
And so I invite you to, tolisten to this and don't dismiss
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it.
If it doesn't work for youexactly as described, figure out
your own.
But the key is do it.
You have to ship it.
You have to ship it.
Okay, so here's what you track.
You track.
Did you do the 40 minutes ofcreation 10/10.10.
If you use spam, spiritual,physical, emotional, mental.
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If you have a different one,then the metric is really simple.
Did it work?
People say to me all the time,yeah, yeah, yeah, I have a daily,
I have a morning ritual, blahblah blah.
And then I ask him a reallyinteresting question, does it work?
And they go, what do you mean?
And most of them are doing asort of box checking exercise.
Yeah, I meditated.
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Yeah, I did this.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's useless.
I'm totally useless.
Work means did it deliver youto your highest level of being?
Did it deliver you as the onfire divine soul committed to your
mission?
Grin on your face, fire underyour butt?
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Did it deliver that for you?
If it didn't, your morningritual sucks.
Do it again, figure it out.
Because the whole purpose ofthat is to deliver the best you.
So telling me or yourselfyou've got a ritual or some kind
of thing is a useless commentunless it works.
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So the outcome did it work?
Did it deliver you on fire?
Grin on your face, fired upand ready to rock?
That's what your morningritual must do or it's garbage because
it didn't work.
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So my invitation, if you wanthelp, I can give you one that works.
I can help you create one thatworks for you, not one that works
for me, but because what worksfor me won't work for you.
So the key is, did it work for you?
Okay, so track the things, youtrack the days.
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Did you pick your one thing?
Did you block it?
Did you ship?
Did you pick it?
Did you block the time?
Did you ship?
And if it's a several dayproject, then did you get to the
to the stopping point andcount it as locked and loaded, shipped
right at the end of, at theend of the week, count your wins,
figure out, figure out.
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And if you had a multi daything, is it shipped?
Are you willing to ship?
Version 0.6 or 7 or 8.
I'm.
I've got a really cool 4Kcamera and their software is still
version 0 point something andthey're gradually creeping up to
1 and so they're justacknowledging they're adding cool
stuff and doing it andthey're, you know, they update it
and eventually I think they'llget to version one.
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So here's your invitation.
Love yourself enough to getgood at this.
Love yourself to get yourpride out of the way and do the things
that I have told you to do.
Unless you're already hittingon all cylinders, in which case you
already have.
You have a process.
But if you're only hitting onfive days out of seven or three days
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or one or two days a week,you're better than that.
You're worth more than that.
You're more powerful than that.
I need what you have.
So do a lot of other people.
So the how of the how is theexact steps, one foot in front of
the other to take.
And I have given you that today.
I'm not saying it's the onlyone, but I can tell you it works.
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If you want my help, reach out.
There's a URL right here onthe bottom of the screen, kellenflueckegermedia.com
There's a contact form there.
Reach out to me and let's talk.
I couldn't do the thing todaywithout talking about Dream Build.
Write it.
Dream buildwriteit.com Dreambuildwriteit.com that's the most
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powerful system on earth.
To help people identify theirown hero's journey and story.
To write it in a book and thencreate services and products from
that thing.
I remember Brendan Burchardand others saying, you know, your
story, your life is the most valuable.
And I used to think, yeah,yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
And people still do.
And it is so, so true.
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The most important gift youhave is the story of your own becoming.
If you're not using it, you'releaving money on the table and people
unserved.
I love you.
No cavalry is coming.
This is on you.
It's not a threat.
It's permission to be yourbest self.
And remember, one conversationbeats a thousand likes or whatever.
One real conversation.
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Don't devalue yourself.
You are your most precious asset.
Take care of you, love you,and love yourself enough to get flipping
good at what you do.
Take this process.
I challenge you to do it.
And then tell me whathappened, because it will move you
toward your ultimate life.
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Never hold back.
And you'll never ask why.
Open your heart in this timearound, right here, right now, your
opportunity for massive growthis right in front of you.
Every episode gives youpractical tips and practices that
will change everything.
If you want to know more, goto kellenflukermedia.com if you want
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For more than 30 years The River Cafe in London, has been the home-from-home of artists, architects, designers, actors, collectors, writers, activists, and politicians. Michael Caine, Glenn Close, JJ Abrams, Steve McQueen, Victoria and David Beckham, and Lily Allen, are just some of the people who love to call The River Cafe home. On River Cafe Table 4, Rogers sits down with her customers—who have become friends—to talk about food memories. Table 4 explores how food impacts every aspect of our lives. “Foods is politics, food is cultural, food is how you express love, food is about your heritage, it defines who you and who you want to be,” says Rogers. Each week, Rogers invites her guest to reminisce about family suppers and first dates, what they cook, how they eat when performing, the restaurants they choose, and what food they seek when they need comfort. And to punctuate each episode of Table 4, guests such as Ralph Fiennes, Emily Blunt, and Alfonso Cuarón, read their favourite recipe from one of the best-selling River Cafe cookbooks. Table 4 itself, is situated near The River Cafe’s open kitchen, close to the bright pink wood-fired oven and next to the glossy yellow pass, where Ruthie oversees the restaurant. You are invited to take a seat at this intimate table and join the conversation. For more information, recipes, and ingredients, go to https://shoptherivercafe.co.uk/ Web: https://rivercafe.co.uk/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/therivercafelondon/ Facebook: https://en-gb.facebook.com/therivercafelondon/ For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iheartradio app, apple podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
Dateline NBC
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