Why 'Just Try Harder' Isn't Working (And What Actually Does)

Why the common advice to "just try harder" often fails us and keeps us stuck in exhausting cycles. I share my personal journey of discovering that real transformation doesn't come from pushing harder but from building a stronger foundation.

What You'll Learn

• Why quick fixes and viral hacks create a cycle of hope followed by disappointment
• How starting with solutions before understanding the real problem keeps us stuck
• The three hidden truths that explain why trying harder doesn't work
• A foundation-first approach to creating lasting change
• Practical steps to break free from the "try harder" trap

Key Moments

• [00:30] The exhausting cycle of constantly trying harder but getting nowhere
• [03:15] My personal story of how "try harder" failed me when we moved to Houston
• [07:40] The Quick-Fix Cycle that keeps us chasing the next viral solution
• [11:20] Why we're approaching change backward and missing what really matters
• [15:00] The Missing Foundation that explains why nothing sticks
• [19:15] The three steps of the Foundation-First Approach
• [25:30] Practical action steps to start breaking free from the "try harder" trap

Quotes from the Episode

• "Working harder on the wrong things is like trying to put a fresh coat of paint on a house with a cracking foundation."
• "If trying harder was the answer, we'd all have perfect lives by now."
• "Real transformation doesn't come from pushing harder—it comes from building stronger."
• "A messy house isn't just about needing a better cleaning schedule; it's about what's happening beneath the surface."

Additional Resources

• Last week's episode: "Breaking Free from the 'Used Up and Worthless' Story"
• Next week's episode: "The Hidden Power of Self-Discovery"

Connect With Me

• Instagram: @YourUtmostSelf
• Website: https://yourutmostself.com/

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