December 11, 2023 • 33 mins
This holiday season, you better sleigh, witch.
Grab your cozy blanket and settle in as we discuss Yule traditions and how you can tailor them if you're feeling stuck in a toxic relationship or an all around crappy situation. We'll jingle our balls, drink wine with trees, and set out to smash the traditional garbage we hate and create a wintering lifestyle we love. So come along and find your joy in the debauchery and shenanigans during the winter solstice.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time to wake up witches.
I'm your host, cat Adams, andI'm here to remind you that no
matter where you're at in life,you're not stuck.
Welcome back to the show.
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I hope you're enjoying yourDecember and you are wintering
in a Huga style.
If you don't know what Hugameans, you need to go back and
listen to my podcast aboutDanish traditions, because it's
all about romanticizing yourlife in a comfy, cozy way.
We all need that, especially aswe end the year and the days
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are shorter.
It's dark all the time.
We're just holed up in thehouse.
I'm here to help you do thesame.
I've been doing this for abouttwo or three years and basically
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just kind of shutting down andliving with the seasons.
I've talked about that beforeagain in another podcast.
But this is the season that Ijust I hibernate and I celebrate
my accomplishments throughoutthe year and I kind of turn in
words and I just relax and Ireflect.
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But I also have a lot of mentalenergy at this time of year
because I'm turning in and I'mresting and I'm reflecting and
I've got all this stuff in myhead and all these great ideas
and they come to me in the quiet, and that's usually how it
happens in life, right?
You know when you slow down,when you be still, that's when
shit clicks.
So I'm super excited abouteverything that's just clicking
(02:06):
lately and all these things thatare falling into place, and I'm
going to get into that a littlebit later because I've got some
exciting.
I guess I could say it'sexciting.
It's not, it's not like news,but I want to do a podcast a
little bit differently than Inormally do and it's going to
start in January and it is aboutweight loss.
(02:27):
I know, right, you're not stuckat that weight you don't want
to be at, and you all know I'mall about, like, healthy living
and you know, just being happywith yourself, whatever that
looks like to you.
But I do want to talk aboutsomething that I have a lot of
knowledge about and I'm sharingmy struggles with and yeah, so
(02:48):
I'm excited about that because Ihave some stuff going right now
and I'm like, oh my God, I wantto record that podcast right
now, but I want to give it acouple weeks so I can make sure
what I'm doing is working andit's not going to be a load of
bullshit for y'all.
So, as I'm recording this, it'sDecember 3rd.
It's going to.
This one's going to go out, Ithink, like the second week of
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December, because y'all know Itry to batch record.
That usually doesn't work outfor me.
But but I'm going to give thisa couple weeks and then I have
to share some news with y'allregarding one of them like
number one New Year'sresolutions, especially in
America, which is weight loss,and I know it's like a touchy
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subject, right, we need to loveour bodies no matter what.
And true that I am not goingoff the deep end.
I just want to share some stuffwith you because, if you didn't
know, I was actually a personaltrainer back in the day, so
I've got tips and tricks and allthat good stuff to make you
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feel good, and you know I'mgoing to put some mumbo jumbo in
there and some witchy shit too,so that to look forward to, and
I'm so excited to be planningthat while I'm doing my turning
inward.
And also recently on Instagram,I announced my break from social
media, which kind of officiallystarted a while ago.
If you've noticed, I have notbeen present on the tick tock,
(04:12):
haven't been too present onInstagram I'm more present on
there than tick tock.
I just I struggle with socialmedia y'all, and I've talked
about it so much.
I'm going to talk about itagain, but I'm taking the break
so I can do this wintering,turning inward, focusing on
myself, and come back a betterversion, a better version of me,
and that's what life is allabout.
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Like, you can think you haveyour shit together, but there's
always something you can improve.
There's always something youknow that you can strive toward.
There's always a goal.
You can always create thesethings for yourself to keep
improving.
So that's kind of what I'mdoing this winter, and I can't
have social media in my headwhile I'm doing that, cause I'm
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doing some tough shit y'all andI hate making like content.
I hate making.
So Instagram if I post onInstagram, then I have to put
like a pink preset on it, right,cause you have to look like all
standardized and brand on,brand and stuff for Instagram.
Then I have to make sure it'scropped to fit Instagram, have
the preset on it, then scheduleit and then you know, do all the
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hashtags and stuff which Iain't got time, and same with
TikTok.
It's just too much for me, ittakes up too much of my time and
I want to spend my timefocusing on me.
So I'm taking a social mediabreak.
I'm not taking a podcast break,although I am taking one week
off that last week of Decemberbut I am yeah, I'm still
reachable, mostly on Instagram.
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I just don't get on TikTok asmuch, but you can always get in
contact with me at catatomscomas well and reach out to me and
DM on Instagram if you need me.
I'll try to post here and there,probably on my stories,
especially towards the end ofthe year when I've got some fun
shenanigans going on.
But I just need to breakbecause I need to focus on me
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and I'm giving myself permissionto do that.
So I'm giving you permissiontoo, cause I need to hear this
from myself.
It is okay to step away fromsocial media, and every time I
do that, my stuff takes a hit,and I've spent years building up
my audience on Instagram andFacebook and TikTok or whatever,
building my brand, doing thosevideos, building my content, and
(06:24):
then, like, once you stoplogging on, the algorithm sucks
balls and it's like I'm notshowing you to anybody, and so I
always have this thing in theback of my head.
That's like if I miss one day,the algorithm's not gonna show
me to anybody, but the truth isit's not really working now
anyway.
So I'll give a shit, I'm gonnado me in the way I wanna do me
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and the rest will just fall intoplace like it's supposed to be
at some point in time.
And that's how you gottaembrace it.
And again, I'm talking to mehere.
So if you don't see me, I'mgiving this like a three month
thing.
If you don't see me in threemonths, that's why.
But again, I'm always reachable, so you know how to get in
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touch with me.
Now on with the show.
I want to talk about youtraditions, all right.
Or you know, if you celebrateChristmas, whatever you're
celebrating, there's all kindsof holidays going on.
I think there's oh my gosh, I'mbrain farting, isn't Kwanzaa
right now?
It's like near or something.
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And then there's Hanukkah andall kinds of stuff.
Y'all I don't know.
I'm sorry, I'm not schooled inthis.
I am schooled in Christmasbecause I was raised in a
Christmas household, but now I'mbeing schooled in Yule because
I think it's so amazing and I'mnot a follower of the Christian
path anymore.
I'm much more just like to live, you know, with the seasons and
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natures and stuff, and so I wasdoing some research on Yule and
let me tell you a little bitabout it, okay, so Yule is also
known as Yuletide.
It's an ancient festivalhistorically observed by the
Germanic peoples GermanicGermanic I'm probably butchering
that y'all, please forgive me.
Its origins are complex andmultifaceted, intertwining
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pre-Christian pagan customs withlater Christianized
reinterpretations.
So today we're gonna be talkingabout some traditions, but
these are traditions that you'regonna use to get out of y'all
toxic relationship.
So these are some things youcan do to find peace and to find
hope.
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So I'm so excited to talk aboutthis and I'm so sorry if y'all
hear stuff in my background.
It is a crazy wild madhousehere today and I'm trying to get
through this cause.
I'm about to take my daughterdress shopping for her winter
dance Fun times y'all fun times.
If you ever need motivation toget out of a toxic relationship,
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just think that your childrenare gonna be teenagers one day
and they could pick up some badhabits from your exes, like bad
attitudes or just snarkybehavior, and that's a lot of
money you're gonna spend ontherapy.
Take it from me, okay.
Taking a preteen dress shoppingy'all oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
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The attitude.
All right, I'm getting off on atangent here, but let me talk
about yule.
So the pre-Christian origins,yule's roots are deeply entwined
with ancient Germanic midwinterrituals.
It was primarily a paganfestival celebrated as early as
the fourth century.
These festivities marked thewinter solstice, the shortest
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day of the year, and celebratedthe rebirth of the sun.
It was a time of gathering,feasting and honoring deities,
with a yule log especiallychosen log burned on the hearth
as a prominent symbol.
And that's what I wanna makethis about, y'all.
I want to make this podcastabout celebrating the rebirth of
the sun, and that's likecelebrating the light at the end
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of the tunnel, celebrating thatthere is hope and that there
next year you are just going tobe in this place that you've
been working all year towards.
Like it's all about hope.
So I could go on and on abouthow it's connected to the God
Odin, and burning the yule logsymbolizes the desire for the
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sun's return.
Let's see what else does it say?
You can incorporate things likemistletoe and holly and blah,
blah, blah, blah.
And then it talks about theresurgence.
I'm reading from an article,y'all.
It talks about the resurgenceof neo-pagan groups like Wiccans
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and witches and how they usethis.
But I'm gonna kind of alter itto how I feel like we should use
it.
People and by we I mean peoplewho are stuck in situations,
particularly women, stuck inshitty relationships and doing
that inner work to get out ofthose shitty relationships.
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So we're gonna incorporate someof these traditions into the
way we feel right now.
And by the way we feel rightnow I mean stuck.
But this is stuff you don'thave to share Because obviously
if you're in a toxic situation,you don't want your husband to
know bitch, I'm doing thistradition so I can get away from
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you.
That could be dangerous.
So you can keep this toyourself.
But just know you're doing itfor you and you're doing it
because you need that peace,help and motivation to leave his
stank ass.
So I don't know, part of mealways feels like super
mischievous when I do sneakystuff like that, like ha ha ha,
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I'm pulling one over on you andyou don't even know it.
You know, I felt the same withthe whole visualization thing
that I told you all about somepodcasts ago, when it's like do
the visualization, you can justlay down at night.
You know, when you go to bedand your husband's snoring away
and just you're visualizingyou're on the beach with a sexy
exotic man, y'all it's fun.
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Just take my word for it.
It's fun, especially I knowthis sounds so petty and
horrible especially, though, ifyou're dating a douchey man.
This is a little way to feellike what's it called?
It's not really short and FreudI don't know the word for it
Just like a satisfaction of, hey, I'm lighting this candle MA
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for, but it's not so you canenjoy this candle.
It's so I can like be remindedthat there's light at the end of
the tunnel.
Asshole, that sounds sohorrible, I know.
But hey, man, you gotta do whatyou gotta do when you're in
survival mode and you're stuckwith a douche bag.
Seriously, like all is fair,all is fair.
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I ain't here to tell you all.
Like shit is sunshine and rosesand be the angel on your
shoulder.
Okay, you should know that bynow.
So some of the traditions arethe Yule log, which is you know,
we already talked about itburning to symbolize the light
returning.
I freaking love that so much.
A decorating with evergreens, afeasting gift, giving candles
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and lights, yule altar, singingand dancing and something called
and I'm gonna butcher thispronunciation too you know what.
Hold on, let me ask Google howto pronounce this so I don't
sound like a fool.
Oh my gosh, that would havebeen awful.
So I was gonna say with myTennessee education was sailing,
but it's wassaling, y'all it'swassaling and I never even heard
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of this.
Apparently, wassaling is thetradition involving singing and
drinking to the health of treesin the hopes that they will
produce a good crop the nextyear.
It's a form of ancient appletree ritual, sometimes still
practice in rural areas.
I am gonna be wassaling becausethat sounds amazing as shit
Like why didn't we adopt that inour Christian Christmas, right?
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I mean, all the other stuff islike duh, you got the feasting
and the evergreens and thecandles and the altar, but
whatever, we're gonna talk abouthow you are going to take these
traditions and make them yourown, even wassaling.
I am gonna get on that train.
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So for you to find somemeaningful traditions this year,
if you're stuck in a crappyrelationship, I want you first
to focus on lighting candles forhope.
So lighting candles is, youknow, a traditional Yuletide
practice for the return of thelight and, as someone who's
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experiencing domestic violenceor a toxic relationship or a
shitty situation or just amiserable marriage, lighting a
candle can be a symbolic act ofhope and new beginnings.
So I would choose a specialcandle and light that each night
.
And then you're going to eachnight reflect on your strength,
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your resilience and the returnof brighter days.
And this can be any candle.
This can be a candle you got onsale at Bath Body Works.
This can be a candle you go outand you specifically choose as
your new hopes, new beginningscandle.
Or this can be a witchy candle.
It can be, you know, one ofthose chime candles where you're
like carving stuff on it andputting all of these witchy oils
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and herbs on it to, you know,like cast a spell.
You can do any candle you want.
Whatever floats your boat, justpick a candle and light it every
night and just know that iswhat you're going to focus on is
the return of brighter days,cause I can guarantee you the
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brighter days are ahead, thebrighter days are coming in.
They're brighter than you couldhave ever freaking imagined,
and I wish I knew this stuffwhen I was like in the thick of
it, because I would have soneeded this.
Like I need some kind ofsymbolic hope to keep me going,
to get me through.
Like you know, take it day byday.
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Know you're going to light thatcandle at night and your
brighter days are coming.
You have to truly know it.
I promise you, like it isamazing on the other side
Amazing it is sunshine, rainbowsand unicorn farts.
Like you're going to love it.
So I definitely adopt that asthe first.
Probably I feel like that wouldbe my tradition of choice that
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I would pick because that was,that's like an easy one and that
means a lot.
And then also you could do theplanting of new life.
So engage in some kind ofactivity that symbolizes growth,
like planting a seed, nurturinga plant.
Go buy yourself a house plant.
I've never really been like ahouse plant person, but this
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year I bought a Fiddly Fig in aI think it's called a Montsera
and it is so freaking awesome,like they're actually thriving.
I never knew I could do that.
It's I don't know.
It makes me feel better seeinggreenery.
So you can buy a little plantor even a bouquet of flowers and
put it on your desk.
That greenery is the symbol oflife.
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But I recommend plantingsomething or at least
transferring it to your ownlittle plant pot, as in
symbolizing growth and a newdirection, and planting roots
and starting a new chapter inyour life.
And then you can also make asafety and hope you'll alter.
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So, instead of traditionalChristmas altar or whatever kind
of altar you're used to settingup, you can set up a small
space that symbolizes safety,hope, strength or whatever it is
you need to get you throughthese dark days.
And you can put crystals on ity'all my favorite, right.
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You can put protection crystals.
You can put rose, quartz youknow, the symbol of love,
because you need to loveyourself.
Amethyst, the crystal of peaceright.
You need that peace in yourlife.
You can put small figurineslike guardian angels or an
animal.
If you feel like you'reconnected to a spirit, animal or
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a deity, you can put youraffirmations on there, photos of
loved ones, whatever brings youpeace, whatever makes you feel
hopeful, whatever makes you feelsafe.
Put that shit on your altar andjust know like these are things
that are important to you.
And you look at that altar andyou feel like this is my sense
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of peace, this is my safe space.
This altar is like mine.
And, again, if you're with atoxic partner, you don't have to
make this obvious.
Just decorate your mantle theway you usually do, but put
those things on there that youknow when you look at it not
necessarily anyone else looks atit, but when you look at it
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that is your symbol that you'reputting up there for a brighter
future, for better days ahead,for peace, for safety.
That is your reminder everytime you look at it that you're
going to get through this andthat only you alone can save
yourself.
And you know this Every timeyou look at it.
I need you to remember that,that no one's coming to save you
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.
You can save yourself, andyou're doing these symbolic
things to remind yourself thatit is possible.
Everywhere you look in yourhouse, in your environment, in
your atmosphere I don't know,and this is what I do I have
things around my house lettingme know the way I want to live
and things that make me happy,things that make me joyous,
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things that make me rememberwhere I'm going in life.
I don't have oh, this is goingto sound horrible, never mind,
I'm not even going to go downthat route.
I'm looking at it now.
I have a really awesome pinkneon sign that says support your
local girl gang.
If you read the DTF series, youknow that was the slogan with
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that series.
Support your local girl gang.
I'm all about that.
I have that.
I have.
Oh, this is snarky, oh, this ishorrible.
But I'm going to tell you all.
I have this flip calendar thingthat's got these funny sayings,
and one I have up now says menhave feelings too.
But really, who gives a crap?
I know Horrible, right, I justhave stuff placed around me that
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reminds me.
And going back to that onereminds me my trajectory in life
, where I want to be, where I'mgoing, and it's just, it's good
stuff, and those things don'teven have to speak out.
Maybe you don't even havesayings, maybe you do have some
kind of deity hanging up, ormaybe you have an angel figurine
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or just something that remindsyou that you can't lose hope.
You have to keep pushingforward one step ahead, every
single day, even the presentmoment.
You're going to get there.
You can do it.
Every time I say that, I'mreminded of that Adam Sandler
movie and he's like you can doit all night long.
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So you got your candle, you gotyour altar, you're putting
little things around your housethat remind you of your
resilience, brighter days ahead,and now we're going to go
wassling.
I almost said wassailing, wellsailing.
We're going to go wassling andy'all know this is my favorite.
I have been walking for an hourevery single day, even when it
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was like 40 degrees outside.
I got me this like ParkaLincoln jacket and I have been
walking and I've been loving it.
And that's what we're going todo.
We're going to go on naturewalks and y'all know I am a huge
fan of nature walks.
So get outside, bundle up.
There's like no bad time to gooutside, unless there's like a
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tornado or hurricane or whatever.
But even if it's cold you canbundle up.
Get on something cozy, get yourscarf on, get your cute little
earmuffs or whatever you'rewearing, put your gloves on,
take the kids out.
It is so grounding and healingto walk in nature and even like
now.
I know this whole wassailingthing like this is something
that needs to be done like oncea month.
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I don't even know why this is atraditional.
I want to sing to the trees anddrink to the trees.
So my recommendation is go on anature walk, get one of those
Ooh, we can make this so fun.
Y'all.
We need to get one of thoselike a cup that has a lid on it
but it doesn't look like a winecup and you put your wine in
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there.
So you're walking around theneighborhood and the neighbors
aren't talking shit about youbecause they think you're just
drinking coffee, but reallyyou're drinking wine, or you can
drink coffee.
Or you could do something likea mold cider or a mold wine
because I think that is also atradition, right, like mold
cider, mold wine.
I don't know how to make that,maybe even.
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But but put that in there andjust go on a nature walk with
your drink and just if you wantto be super weird, toast to the
trees Thank you, trees, like mayyou see brighter days ahead too
and plant your roots in theground or whatever.
Make it as weird as you want.
And if you don't want to looklike a psycho and have the cops
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called on you for some weirdotoasting the trees outside, just
do it mentally, do your walkingmeditation, have your drink be
present in the moment, and Imean you can sing to the trees
too.
I don't know, that's evenweirder, but it's kind of cool.
But I would just oh, you knowwhat you could do, and so you
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don't look so crazy.
You could have your AirPods inand you could be playing some
type of music that makes youfeel good.
It could be traditional, likeChristmas holiday music, maybe.
Do that.
Or something more soothing orclassical or something.
Listening to music, having yourdrinks and taking a nature walk
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that's basically the same thingas toasting to the trees and
singing to the trees, right?
Oh my gosh, I'm going to dothis now.
This all just came to me and Ithink this sounds amazing.
I'm going to go lossylin.
I think I'm going to do it thisweekend For real.
I'm going to tell my husbandwe're going to go lossylin.
He's going to think like, whatin the world do you got into now
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?
But you know what, he rollswith it.
Whatever I say.
I'm like, hey, we're going totake a moon bath and we're going
to put some milk in here andsome flowers.
And he's like, okay, whateveryou want.
It's amazing and that kind ofsupport is part of your brighter
days ahead.
You're going to find it, you'llget there.
You could also do some crafting.
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You know making like wreathswith evergreens or you know
acorns.
You find like making some kindof decorations out of that.
Stringing oranges like driedoranges, string popcorn, string
cranberries any kind of thosemind-numbing things will also
kind of get you to relax andfocus on just something else.
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So your mind's blank.
If you need that, if you needto like check out, I highly
recommend that I do it, usuallylike pulling weeds in the spring
or the summer, if I just needto like check out of my brain,
and then you could do that.
The same with making like thosegarlands and making those
crafts.
I don't know, I'm not verycrafty so I don't really do this
stuff, but it's an idea.
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Or even baking cookies you knowmaking a meal and you could tie
that in with another traditionof giving, giving to your
friends or community.
Bake them something, although Idon't know I'm weird about that
.
I don't like to eat stuff fromother people's houses.
I just don't, and that makes melook so rude.
I know I look like the rudeperson, but have you seen some
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people cook and they let theirdogs lick off the spoon and
stuff Like no, I ain't aboutthat life, I ain't gonna do it.
So if that's not your thing, gobuy some cookies at Costco and
give them to.
I don't know.
I gave cookies to like thefirefighters one year or
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something, or something likethat.
But I've also been volunteeringfor some domestic violence,
shelters.
You can do that.
There's a lot actually right nowthat are looking for, you know,
like the angel trees and peoplewho can't, you know, afford to
have a nice Christmas, or evenany Christmas, any Christmas
gifts.
Donating to a food bank,working at a kitchen, any of
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that stuff, giving back, that isalso a tradition.
You can start, and it can be aslittle or as big as you want.
You could do an anonymousdonation, you know, like 20
bucks somewhere, or you can goout and buy a gift and put it in
one of those toys for totsboxes or whatever.
Whatever makes you feel good.
I mean, there's so manyopportunities to get back, so
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many opportunities to volunteer.
I would definitely make that atradition, because that to me,
is like, oh my gosh, it makes mefeel amazing.
To make other people amazingmakes me feel amazing.
And then, last but not least, Iwant to share something that
I'm going to do as a newtradition this year that I think
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sounds so much fun.
You might not, but I do.
Y'all know how I feel about mysunrises.
I love my sunrises and you cando a solstice sunrise
observation, and that meanswitnessing the sunrise on the
day of the winter solstice,which, if you're in the US, I
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believe that's the 21st.
That is the core of Yule and itcan be an amazing experience.
Now that also symbolizes thereturn of light and can be a
moment of personal renewal andhope.
And, oh my gosh, the sun isrising again.
It is a new beginning.
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That is like I mean, how canyou?
It can't get any better thanthat.
You got your candles, you gotyour sunrise.
The light is there, it's yoursfor the taking.
You just got to get up and getit.
And if you don't want to get upat 5 am to see the sunrise, I
get it, I get it, I get it.
I'm still going to say try it,because it really is like it's
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just life changing.
I freaking love seeing sunrises.
Sunsets are great too.
They're like a differentfeeling.
But a sunrise is like man.
It is the whole growth and newbeginnings type feeling you get
with a sunrise.
And if you're seeing a sunriseon Yule and just take that
moment of solitude and quietnessand you don't even have to tell
anybody you're doing it justsneak out, sneak out of bed,
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sneak out of the house, you know, go in your backyard, front
yard, wherever you see thesunrise and just watch the sky
Pinkening is out of word,pinkening lighting up and
breathe and reflect and know,hey, man, like it ain't dark
forever, like you, don't worry.
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Oh my gosh, is the sun comingup tomorrow?
Oh no, is it always going to belike this?
Hell, no, you know, the sun isalways going to rise and you
need to feel that way about you.
Two, you need to know that youcan rise to.
You can create your own brighterdays.
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I Don't care how dark, do-dodeep, you are in right now.
I promise you you can createthose brighter days.
So do that sneaky shit, youknow, like the altar and the
candle, like the ha ha.
You don't know what I'm doingif I'm saying you know, if
you're in a crappy relationship,but even if you're not, if
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you're just like all alone andyou're like, well, I don't, I'm
not in talks of relationship, Idon't need to do this to for
yourself.
Anyways, like you can alwaysbenefit on growth, you can
always take journeys to a betteryou.
You're never gonna be perfect,but you can always reach goals
and milestones in your life thatmake you feel better, that make
you do better, that make youthink better, that make you,
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make the world better.
That's what it's all about.
So I hope you've learned somestuff today from some of these
traditions and these newtraditions or old traditions, or
However you want to shape themin your life.
Maybe you're already doing someof these I know I'm doing some
of these but I am definitelygonna be drinking the trees and
Getting up at 5 am To see thatsolstice sunrise, and I hope you
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will join me.
So stay tuned.
The next episode is all aboutCelebrating you, which is so
freaking exciting and so fun,and you're gonna freaking love
it.
This episode was about some newtraditions, but this one, the
next one's gonna be more about,like you know, new year, new you
celebrations yeah, yeah, yeah,I can always talk about it, and
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then I'm gonna get into the newyear stuff, cuz I remember I'm
taking that break the last weekof December.
So until then, stay safe andknow that that there truly is
brighter days ahead.
You just have to take thatfirst step and decide to grab
those brighter days by the ballsand get them for yourself.
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You.
It's time to wake up witches.
I'm your host, cat Adams, andI'm here to remind you that no
matter where you're at in life,you're not stuck.
Welcome back to the show.
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I hope you're enjoying yourDecember and you are wintering
in a Huga style.
If you don't know what Hugameans, you need to go back and
listen to my podcast aboutDanish traditions, because it's
all about romanticizing yourlife in a comfy, cozy way.
We all need that, especially aswe end the year and the days
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are shorter.
It's dark all the time.
We're just holed up in thehouse.
I'm here to help you do thesame.
I've been doing this for abouttwo or three years and basically
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just kind of shutting down andliving with the seasons.
I've talked about that beforeagain in another podcast.
But this is the season that Ijust I hibernate and I celebrate
my accomplishments throughoutthe year and I kind of turn in
words and I just relax and Ireflect.
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But I also have a lot of mentalenergy at this time of year
because I'm turning in and I'mresting and I'm reflecting and
I've got all this stuff in myhead and all these great ideas
and they come to me in the quiet, and that's usually how it
happens in life, right?
You know when you slow down,when you be still, that's when
shit clicks.
So I'm super excited abouteverything that's just clicking
(02:06):
lately and all these things thatare falling into place, and I'm
going to get into that a littlebit later because I've got some
exciting.
I guess I could say it'sexciting.
It's not, it's not like news,but I want to do a podcast a
little bit differently than Inormally do and it's going to
start in January and it is aboutweight loss.
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I know, right, you're not stuckat that weight you don't want
to be at, and you all know I'mall about, like, healthy living
and you know, just being happywith yourself, whatever that
looks like to you.
But I do want to talk aboutsomething that I have a lot of
knowledge about and I'm sharingmy struggles with and yeah, so
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I'm excited about that because Ihave some stuff going right now
and I'm like, oh my God, I wantto record that podcast right
now, but I want to give it acouple weeks so I can make sure
what I'm doing is working andit's not going to be a load of
bullshit for y'all.
So, as I'm recording this, it'sDecember 3rd.
It's going to.
This one's going to go out, Ithink, like the second week of
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December, because y'all know Itry to batch record.
That usually doesn't work outfor me.
But but I'm going to give thisa couple weeks and then I have
to share some news with y'allregarding one of them like
number one New Year'sresolutions, especially in
America, which is weight loss,and I know it's like a touchy
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subject, right, we need to loveour bodies no matter what.
And true that I am not goingoff the deep end.
I just want to share some stuffwith you because, if you didn't
know, I was actually a personaltrainer back in the day, so
I've got tips and tricks and allthat good stuff to make you
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feel good, and you know I'mgoing to put some mumbo jumbo in
there and some witchy shit too,so that to look forward to, and
I'm so excited to be planningthat while I'm doing my turning
inward.
And also recently on Instagram,I announced my break from social
media, which kind of officiallystarted a while ago.
If you've noticed, I have notbeen present on the tick tock,
(04:12):
haven't been too present onInstagram I'm more present on
there than tick tock.
I just I struggle with socialmedia y'all, and I've talked
about it so much.
I'm going to talk about itagain, but I'm taking the break
so I can do this wintering,turning inward, focusing on
myself, and come back a betterversion, a better version of me,
and that's what life is allabout.
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Like, you can think you haveyour shit together, but there's
always something you can improve.
There's always something youknow that you can strive toward.
There's always a goal.
You can always create thesethings for yourself to keep
improving.
So that's kind of what I'mdoing this winter, and I can't
have social media in my headwhile I'm doing that, cause I'm
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doing some tough shit y'all andI hate making like content.
I hate making.
So Instagram if I post onInstagram, then I have to put
like a pink preset on it, right,cause you have to look like all
standardized and brand on,brand and stuff for Instagram.
Then I have to make sure it'scropped to fit Instagram, have
the preset on it, then scheduleit and then you know, do all the
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hashtags and stuff which Iain't got time, and same with
TikTok.
It's just too much for me, ittakes up too much of my time and
I want to spend my timefocusing on me.
So I'm taking a social mediabreak.
I'm not taking a podcast break,although I am taking one week
off that last week of Decemberbut I am yeah, I'm still
reachable, mostly on Instagram.
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I just don't get on TikTok asmuch, but you can always get in
contact with me at catatomscomas well and reach out to me and
DM on Instagram if you need me.
I'll try to post here and there,probably on my stories,
especially towards the end ofthe year when I've got some fun
shenanigans going on.
But I just need to breakbecause I need to focus on me
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and I'm giving myself permissionto do that.
So I'm giving you permissiontoo, cause I need to hear this
from myself.
It is okay to step away fromsocial media, and every time I
do that, my stuff takes a hit,and I've spent years building up
my audience on Instagram andFacebook and TikTok or whatever,
building my brand, doing thosevideos, building my content, and
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then, like, once you stoplogging on, the algorithm sucks
balls and it's like I'm notshowing you to anybody, and so I
always have this thing in theback of my head.
That's like if I miss one day,the algorithm's not gonna show
me to anybody, but the truth isit's not really working now
anyway.
So I'll give a shit, I'm gonnado me in the way I wanna do me
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and the rest will just fall intoplace like it's supposed to be
at some point in time.
And that's how you gottaembrace it.
And again, I'm talking to mehere.
So if you don't see me, I'mgiving this like a three month
thing.
If you don't see me in threemonths, that's why.
But again, I'm always reachable, so you know how to get in
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touch with me.
Now on with the show.
I want to talk about youtraditions, all right.
Or you know, if you celebrateChristmas, whatever you're
celebrating, there's all kindsof holidays going on.
I think there's oh my gosh, I'mbrain farting, isn't Kwanzaa
right now?
It's like near or something.
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And then there's Hanukkah andall kinds of stuff.
Y'all I don't know.
I'm sorry, I'm not schooled inthis.
I am schooled in Christmasbecause I was raised in a
Christmas household, but now I'mbeing schooled in Yule because
I think it's so amazing and I'mnot a follower of the Christian
path anymore.
I'm much more just like to live, you know, with the seasons and
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natures and stuff, and so I wasdoing some research on Yule and
let me tell you a little bitabout it, okay, so Yule is also
known as Yuletide.
It's an ancient festivalhistorically observed by the
Germanic peoples GermanicGermanic I'm probably butchering
that y'all, please forgive me.
Its origins are complex andmultifaceted, intertwining
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pre-Christian pagan customs withlater Christianized
reinterpretations.
So today we're gonna be talkingabout some traditions, but
these are traditions that you'regonna use to get out of y'all
toxic relationship.
So these are some things youcan do to find peace and to find
hope.
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So I'm so excited to talk aboutthis and I'm so sorry if y'all
hear stuff in my background.
It is a crazy wild madhousehere today and I'm trying to get
through this cause.
I'm about to take my daughterdress shopping for her winter
dance Fun times y'all fun times.
If you ever need motivation toget out of a toxic relationship,
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just think that your childrenare gonna be teenagers one day
and they could pick up some badhabits from your exes, like bad
attitudes or just snarkybehavior, and that's a lot of
money you're gonna spend ontherapy.
Take it from me, okay.
Taking a preteen dress shoppingy'all oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
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The attitude.
All right, I'm getting off on atangent here, but let me talk
about yule.
So the pre-Christian origins,yule's roots are deeply entwined
with ancient Germanic midwinterrituals.
It was primarily a paganfestival celebrated as early as
the fourth century.
These festivities marked thewinter solstice, the shortest
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day of the year, and celebratedthe rebirth of the sun.
It was a time of gathering,feasting and honoring deities,
with a yule log especiallychosen log burned on the hearth
as a prominent symbol.
And that's what I wanna makethis about, y'all.
I want to make this podcastabout celebrating the rebirth of
the sun, and that's likecelebrating the light at the end
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of the tunnel, celebrating thatthere is hope and that there
next year you are just going tobe in this place that you've
been working all year towards.
Like it's all about hope.
So I could go on and on abouthow it's connected to the God
Odin, and burning the yule logsymbolizes the desire for the
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sun's return.
Let's see what else does it say?
You can incorporate things likemistletoe and holly and blah,
blah, blah, blah.
And then it talks about theresurgence.
I'm reading from an article,y'all.
It talks about the resurgenceof neo-pagan groups like Wiccans
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and witches and how they usethis.
But I'm gonna kind of alter itto how I feel like we should use
it.
People and by we I mean peoplewho are stuck in situations,
particularly women, stuck inshitty relationships and doing
that inner work to get out ofthose shitty relationships.
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So we're gonna incorporate someof these traditions into the
way we feel right now.
And by the way we feel rightnow I mean stuck.
But this is stuff you don'thave to share Because obviously
if you're in a toxic situation,you don't want your husband to
know bitch, I'm doing thistradition so I can get away from
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you.
That could be dangerous.
So you can keep this toyourself.
But just know you're doing itfor you and you're doing it
because you need that peace,help and motivation to leave his
stank ass.
So I don't know, part of mealways feels like super
mischievous when I do sneakystuff like that, like ha ha ha,
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I'm pulling one over on you andyou don't even know it.
You know, I felt the same withthe whole visualization thing
that I told you all about somepodcasts ago, when it's like do
the visualization, you can justlay down at night.
You know, when you go to bedand your husband's snoring away
and just you're visualizingyou're on the beach with a sexy
exotic man, y'all it's fun.
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Just take my word for it.
It's fun, especially I knowthis sounds so petty and
horrible especially, though, ifyou're dating a douchey man.
This is a little way to feellike what's it called?
It's not really short and FreudI don't know the word for it
Just like a satisfaction of, hey, I'm lighting this candle MA
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for, but it's not so you canenjoy this candle.
It's so I can like be remindedthat there's light at the end of
the tunnel.
Asshole, that sounds sohorrible, I know.
But hey, man, you gotta do whatyou gotta do when you're in
survival mode and you're stuckwith a douche bag.
Seriously, like all is fair,all is fair.
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I ain't here to tell you all.
Like shit is sunshine and rosesand be the angel on your
shoulder.
Okay, you should know that bynow.
So some of the traditions arethe Yule log, which is you know,
we already talked about itburning to symbolize the light
returning.
I freaking love that so much.
A decorating with evergreens, afeasting gift, giving candles
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and lights, yule altar, singingand dancing and something called
and I'm gonna butcher thispronunciation too you know what.
Hold on, let me ask Google howto pronounce this so I don't
sound like a fool.
Oh my gosh, that would havebeen awful.
So I was gonna say with myTennessee education was sailing,
but it's wassaling, y'all it'swassaling and I never even heard
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of this.
Apparently, wassaling is thetradition involving singing and
drinking to the health of treesin the hopes that they will
produce a good crop the nextyear.
It's a form of ancient appletree ritual, sometimes still
practice in rural areas.
I am gonna be wassaling becausethat sounds amazing as shit
Like why didn't we adopt that inour Christian Christmas, right?
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I mean, all the other stuff islike duh, you got the feasting
and the evergreens and thecandles and the altar, but
whatever, we're gonna talk abouthow you are going to take these
traditions and make them yourown, even wassaling.
I am gonna get on that train.
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So for you to find somemeaningful traditions this year,
if you're stuck in a crappyrelationship, I want you first
to focus on lighting candles forhope.
So lighting candles is, youknow, a traditional Yuletide
practice for the return of thelight and, as someone who's
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experiencing domestic violenceor a toxic relationship or a
shitty situation or just amiserable marriage, lighting a
candle can be a symbolic act ofhope and new beginnings.
So I would choose a specialcandle and light that each night
.
And then you're going to eachnight reflect on your strength,
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your resilience and the returnof brighter days.
And this can be any candle.
This can be a candle you got onsale at Bath Body Works.
This can be a candle you go outand you specifically choose as
your new hopes, new beginningscandle.
Or this can be a witchy candle.
It can be, you know, one ofthose chime candles where you're
like carving stuff on it andputting all of these witchy oils
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and herbs on it to, you know,like cast a spell.
You can do any candle you want.
Whatever floats your boat, justpick a candle and light it every
night and just know that iswhat you're going to focus on is
the return of brighter days,cause I can guarantee you the
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brighter days are ahead, thebrighter days are coming in.
They're brighter than you couldhave ever freaking imagined,
and I wish I knew this stuffwhen I was like in the thick of
it, because I would have soneeded this.
Like I need some kind ofsymbolic hope to keep me going,
to get me through.
Like you know, take it day byday.
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Know you're going to light thatcandle at night and your
brighter days are coming.
You have to truly know it.
I promise you, like it isamazing on the other side
Amazing it is sunshine, rainbowsand unicorn farts.
Like you're going to love it.
So I definitely adopt that asthe first.
Probably I feel like that wouldbe my tradition of choice that
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I would pick because that was,that's like an easy one and that
means a lot.
And then also you could do theplanting of new life.
So engage in some kind ofactivity that symbolizes growth,
like planting a seed, nurturinga plant.
Go buy yourself a house plant.
I've never really been like ahouse plant person, but this
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year I bought a Fiddly Fig in aI think it's called a Montsera
and it is so freaking awesome,like they're actually thriving.
I never knew I could do that.
It's I don't know.
It makes me feel better seeinggreenery.
So you can buy a little plantor even a bouquet of flowers and
put it on your desk.
That greenery is the symbol oflife.
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But I recommend plantingsomething or at least
transferring it to your ownlittle plant pot, as in
symbolizing growth and a newdirection, and planting roots
and starting a new chapter inyour life.
And then you can also make asafety and hope you'll alter.
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So, instead of traditionalChristmas altar or whatever kind
of altar you're used to settingup, you can set up a small
space that symbolizes safety,hope, strength or whatever it is
you need to get you throughthese dark days.
And you can put crystals on ity'all my favorite, right.
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You can put protection crystals.
You can put rose, quartz youknow, the symbol of love,
because you need to loveyourself.
Amethyst, the crystal of peaceright.
You need that peace in yourlife.
You can put small figurineslike guardian angels or an
animal.
If you feel like you'reconnected to a spirit, animal or
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a deity, you can put youraffirmations on there, photos of
loved ones, whatever brings youpeace, whatever makes you feel
hopeful, whatever makes you feelsafe.
Put that shit on your altar andjust know like these are things
that are important to you.
And you look at that altar andyou feel like this is my sense
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of peace, this is my safe space.
This altar is like mine.
And, again, if you're with atoxic partner, you don't have to
make this obvious.
Just decorate your mantle theway you usually do, but put
those things on there that youknow when you look at it not
necessarily anyone else looks atit, but when you look at it
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that is your symbol that you'reputting up there for a brighter
future, for better days ahead,for peace, for safety.
That is your reminder everytime you look at it that you're
going to get through this andthat only you alone can save
yourself.
And you know this Every timeyou look at it.
I need you to remember that,that no one's coming to save you
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.
You can save yourself, andyou're doing these symbolic
things to remind yourself thatit is possible.
Everywhere you look in yourhouse, in your environment, in
your atmosphere I don't know,and this is what I do I have
things around my house lettingme know the way I want to live
and things that make me happy,things that make me joyous,
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things that make me rememberwhere I'm going in life.
I don't have oh, this is goingto sound horrible, never mind,
I'm not even going to go downthat route.
I'm looking at it now.
I have a really awesome pinkneon sign that says support your
local girl gang.
If you read the DTF series, youknow that was the slogan with
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that series.
Support your local girl gang.
I'm all about that.
I have that.
I have.
Oh, this is snarky, oh, this ishorrible.
But I'm going to tell you all.
I have this flip calendar thingthat's got these funny sayings,
and one I have up now says menhave feelings too.
But really, who gives a crap?
I know Horrible, right, I justhave stuff placed around me that
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reminds me.
And going back to that onereminds me my trajectory in life
, where I want to be, where I'mgoing, and it's just, it's good
stuff, and those things don'teven have to speak out.
Maybe you don't even havesayings, maybe you do have some
kind of deity hanging up, ormaybe you have an angel figurine
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or just something that remindsyou that you can't lose hope.
You have to keep pushingforward one step ahead, every
single day, even the presentmoment.
You're going to get there.
You can do it.
Every time I say that, I'mreminded of that Adam Sandler
movie and he's like you can doit all night long.
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So you got your candle, you gotyour altar, you're putting
little things around your housethat remind you of your
resilience, brighter days ahead,and now we're going to go
wassling.
I almost said wassailing, wellsailing.
We're going to go wassling andy'all know this is my favorite.
I have been walking for an hourevery single day, even when it
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was like 40 degrees outside.
I got me this like ParkaLincoln jacket and I have been
walking and I've been loving it.
And that's what we're going todo.
We're going to go on naturewalks and y'all know I am a huge
fan of nature walks.
So get outside, bundle up.
There's like no bad time to gooutside, unless there's like a
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tornado or hurricane or whatever.
But even if it's cold you canbundle up.
Get on something cozy, get yourscarf on, get your cute little
earmuffs or whatever you'rewearing, put your gloves on,
take the kids out.
It is so grounding and healingto walk in nature and even like
now.
I know this whole wassailingthing like this is something
that needs to be done like oncea month.
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I don't even know why this is atraditional.
I want to sing to the trees anddrink to the trees.
So my recommendation is go on anature walk, get one of those
Ooh, we can make this so fun.
Y'all.
We need to get one of thoselike a cup that has a lid on it
but it doesn't look like a winecup and you put your wine in
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there.
So you're walking around theneighborhood and the neighbors
aren't talking shit about youbecause they think you're just
drinking coffee, but reallyyou're drinking wine, or you can
drink coffee.
Or you could do something likea mold cider or a mold wine
because I think that is also atradition, right, like mold
cider, mold wine.
I don't know how to make that,maybe even.
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But but put that in there andjust go on a nature walk with
your drink and just if you wantto be super weird, toast to the
trees Thank you, trees, like mayyou see brighter days ahead too
and plant your roots in theground or whatever.
Make it as weird as you want.
And if you don't want to looklike a psycho and have the cops
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called on you for some weirdotoasting the trees outside, just
do it mentally, do your walkingmeditation, have your drink be
present in the moment, and Imean you can sing to the trees
too.
I don't know, that's evenweirder, but it's kind of cool.
But I would just oh, you knowwhat you could do, and so you
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don't look so crazy.
You could have your AirPods inand you could be playing some
type of music that makes youfeel good.
It could be traditional, likeChristmas holiday music, maybe.
Do that.
Or something more soothing orclassical or something.
Listening to music, having yourdrinks and taking a nature walk
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that's basically the same thingas toasting to the trees and
singing to the trees, right?
Oh my gosh, I'm going to dothis now.
This all just came to me and Ithink this sounds amazing.
I'm going to go lossylin.
I think I'm going to do it thisweekend For real.
I'm going to tell my husbandwe're going to go lossylin.
He's going to think like, whatin the world do you got into now
(24:48):
?
But you know what, he rollswith it.
Whatever I say.
I'm like, hey, we're going totake a moon bath and we're going
to put some milk in here andsome flowers.
And he's like, okay, whateveryou want.
It's amazing and that kind ofsupport is part of your brighter
days ahead.
You're going to find it, you'llget there.
You could also do some crafting.
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You know making like wreathswith evergreens or you know
acorns.
You find like making some kindof decorations out of that.
Stringing oranges like driedoranges, string popcorn, string
cranberries any kind of thosemind-numbing things will also
kind of get you to relax andfocus on just something else.
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So your mind's blank.
If you need that, if you needto like check out, I highly
recommend that I do it, usuallylike pulling weeds in the spring
or the summer, if I just needto like check out of my brain,
and then you could do that.
The same with making like thosegarlands and making those
crafts.
I don't know, I'm not verycrafty so I don't really do this
stuff, but it's an idea.
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Or even baking cookies you knowmaking a meal and you could tie
that in with another traditionof giving, giving to your
friends or community.
Bake them something, although Idon't know I'm weird about that
.
I don't like to eat stuff fromother people's houses.
I just don't, and that makes melook so rude.
I know I look like the rudeperson, but have you seen some
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people cook and they let theirdogs lick off the spoon and
stuff Like no, I ain't aboutthat life, I ain't gonna do it.
So if that's not your thing, gobuy some cookies at Costco and
give them to.
I don't know.
I gave cookies to like thefirefighters one year or
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something, or something likethat.
But I've also been volunteeringfor some domestic violence,
shelters.
You can do that.
There's a lot actually right nowthat are looking for, you know,
like the angel trees and peoplewho can't, you know, afford to
have a nice Christmas, or evenany Christmas, any Christmas
gifts.
Donating to a food bank,working at a kitchen, any of
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that stuff, giving back, that isalso a tradition.
You can start, and it can be aslittle or as big as you want.
You could do an anonymousdonation, you know, like 20
bucks somewhere, or you can goout and buy a gift and put it in
one of those toys for totsboxes or whatever.
Whatever makes you feel good.
I mean, there's so manyopportunities to get back, so
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many opportunities to volunteer.
I would definitely make that atradition, because that to me,
is like, oh my gosh, it makes mefeel amazing.
To make other people amazingmakes me feel amazing.
And then, last but not least, Iwant to share something that
I'm going to do as a newtradition this year that I think
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sounds so much fun.
You might not, but I do.
Y'all know how I feel about mysunrises.
I love my sunrises and you cando a solstice sunrise
observation, and that meanswitnessing the sunrise on the
day of the winter solstice,which, if you're in the US, I
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believe that's the 21st.
That is the core of Yule and itcan be an amazing experience.
Now that also symbolizes thereturn of light and can be a
moment of personal renewal andhope.
And, oh my gosh, the sun isrising again.
It is a new beginning.
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That is like I mean, how canyou?
It can't get any better thanthat.
You got your candles, you gotyour sunrise.
The light is there, it's yoursfor the taking.
You just got to get up and getit.
And if you don't want to get upat 5 am to see the sunrise, I
get it, I get it, I get it.
I'm still going to say try it,because it really is like it's
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just life changing.
I freaking love seeing sunrises.
Sunsets are great too.
They're like a differentfeeling.
But a sunrise is like man.
It is the whole growth and newbeginnings type feeling you get
with a sunrise.
And if you're seeing a sunriseon Yule and just take that
moment of solitude and quietnessand you don't even have to tell
anybody you're doing it justsneak out, sneak out of bed,
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sneak out of the house, you know, go in your backyard, front
yard, wherever you see thesunrise and just watch the sky
Pinkening is out of word,pinkening lighting up and
breathe and reflect and know,hey, man, like it ain't dark
forever, like you, don't worry.
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Oh my gosh, is the sun comingup tomorrow?
Oh no, is it always going to belike this?
Hell, no, you know, the sun isalways going to rise and you
need to feel that way about you.
Two, you need to know that youcan rise to.
You can create your own brighterdays.
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I Don't care how dark, do-dodeep, you are in right now.
I promise you you can createthose brighter days.
So do that sneaky shit, youknow, like the altar and the
candle, like the ha ha.
You don't know what I'm doingif I'm saying you know, if
you're in a crappy relationship,but even if you're not, if
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you're just like all alone andyou're like, well, I don't, I'm
not in talks of relationship, Idon't need to do this to for
yourself.
Anyways, like you can alwaysbenefit on growth, you can
always take journeys to a betteryou.
You're never gonna be perfect,but you can always reach goals
and milestones in your life thatmake you feel better, that make
you do better, that make youthink better, that make you,
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make the world better.
That's what it's all about.
So I hope you've learned somestuff today from some of these
traditions and these newtraditions or old traditions, or
However you want to shape themin your life.
Maybe you're already doing someof these I know I'm doing some
of these but I am definitelygonna be drinking the trees and
Getting up at 5 am To see thatsolstice sunrise, and I hope you
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will join me.
So stay tuned.
The next episode is all aboutCelebrating you, which is so
freaking exciting and so fun,and you're gonna freaking love
it.
This episode was about some newtraditions, but this one, the
next one's gonna be more about,like you know, new year, new you
celebrations yeah, yeah, yeah,I can always talk about it, and
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then I'm gonna get into the newyear stuff, cuz I remember I'm
taking that break the last weekof December.
So until then, stay safe andknow that that there truly is
brighter days ahead.
You just have to take thatfirst step and decide to grab
those brighter days by the ballsand get them for yourself.
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