For so many women of faith, the desire to honor God in love and marriage runs deep—especially when the faith you hold so dear starts to feel at odds with the reality you’re living.
When unhealthy theology is taught in the name of God, it becomes hard to separate what’s true from what’s been twisted.
You start to question:
- Is suffering a part of being faithful?
- Is silence really strength?
- Is staying—no matter the cost—what God actually wants?
- Does submission mean self-abandonment?
- Am I supposed to endure everything?
The truth is, many of us weren’t taught faith—we were taught fear, perfectionism, and performance... and told it was God.
In this powerful episode, I sit down with licensed therapist and creator of Trauma Languages™, Vernique Esther, to talk about how faith and trauma can quietly collide—and how so many high-achieving women of faith have been left silently hurting under the weight of spiritual distortion.
We dive into:
- What it really means to be hyper-religious
- How trauma hides behind performance and spiritual language
- How distorted theology has shaped the way women love, suffer, and stay
- The seven ways trauma shows up in relationships
- And how to begin setting the atmosphere for the kind of relationship you truly desire
Follow Vernique on Instagram: @verniqueesther
Vernique Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/
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