Why You Don’t Have to Fix Everyone (and Why That’s a Trauma Pattern)

You want to help. It feels noble - maybe even necessary. You’re the one who jumps in, figures it out, and holds it all together. And when someone you love is struggling? You can feel the pull in your chest, like you’re supposed to do something. But here’s the hard truth: sometimes our fixing isn’t actually compassion, it’s control dressed up like care. We’re not just trying to help… we’re trying to keep the peace, avoid the fallout, and prove we’re worthy of being needed. But that’s a weight your soul was never meant to carry.

Rooting for you,
Jessica


Resources:

What Is the Fawn Response? People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response
How to Set Boundaries as a Christian

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The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.