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Wake yo as Wake, Happy huckDay, Good morning, Happy Wednesday.
It's got DJ Fallard can believe it'sones though already. I don't know how
you feel about I'm feeling like thisweek is going by super fast. Good
morning to anybody waking up early withme. Of course, I'm tired.
Spend most of the day in thecity with my son while he's on school

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vacation. Hit up a couple ofdope spots in the city and big shout
out to everybody that tapped in withme too on my DM and gave me
some suggestions to do. Yes.Last week I was criticizing people who knew
that school vacations were coming up andthen plan ahead, and of course that's
exactly what I did this week.But again, shout out to everybody that
your love. Hit up a spotcalled wond the wnd R. It's like

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this interactive museum. It was kindof fly, it was kind of dope.
If you check out my story atDJ the number four e I G
and you kind of see some ofthe clips that I took from over there.
Uh, there's certain rooms you couldwalk into the floor moves while you
step on in. I felt likeMichael Jackson in there and a bunch of
other things. It was. Itwas really dope to check out. If
you have a downtown Bosston won thew n d R, make sure you

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check it out. And then wewent to I think the View which is
on top of the Prudential Center batalso was fly. We went to a
sunset kind of vibe. So itwas just you know, Dad Sunday yesterday.
So big shout out again to everybodywho suggested go check out one daw.
I was kept it gollut first,but it worked out and I highly
suggest go and check that spot out. Me. I'm in the building though,
Like I said, it's Wednesday's Huntday. Things continuing as normal if

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you want to tap in with meas always at DJ Forman, tapping at
Ashley in the Am, on theGRAM of course, on the talkbacks,
man, we always love those onthe free iHeartRadio. I we could do
that right now. Just hit thered mic right next to the plate button
and we got you. All right. Let's scare off the day, man,
I hope it's gonna be a goodone for you as well. Let's

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kick it off with my girl saysa brand new music This was called Satin
with the Gemin nine four five Fashionand the Gemmi Mornings in the Morning and
the Jamie Morning with DJ four andit's saw a t Big Morning. Bostin's
number one for hip hop. I'min ninety four or five. Hi,
everybody, good morning. This womanis going viral on TikTok. You know

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it's funny because we used to haveme on the show who was just had
no kids. Yeah, so Icould always be like, well, coming
from someone who you know, likeI was living that life. But now
all three of us have kids.I say this often, all three in
very different ages, age groups andgoing through all these different things. And

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so when I hear this question,I understand why she asks it. I'll
say that I really need someone totell me if I having kids it's worth
it. I'm thirty years old,I've been married for six years. I
think my partner would be an amazingdad, and I've been waiting for this
moment of clarity to hit me forthe last like four years, and it's
just not happening. When I thinkof myself with a kid today, I'm

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terrified. But when I think ofmyself in twenty years, I see myself
with a family. How am Isupposed to bridge those two people? So?
Please? Is the loss of sleep? Is the loss of identity?
Giving up your body? Like?Is it worth it? Well? First
off, she lists like all thenegative things about being impaired, when there's
like a thousand million trill amazing thingstoo. She's also thirty, she's still

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young. I understand the she probablysees people in her life who have kids
and she's like, WHOA, Like, I don't know if I'm ready for
that, And I think it's okayto take a step back and be like,
I'm not sure if I'm ready now, But I don't think if she
if she doesn't ever get to thepoint where she's like I one hundred percent
want a kid and I want tocommit to it, then I would tell
her not to do it, becauseshe if you're not all in. But

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I will say, all this stuffshe's pointing out is all the negative stuff
that you hear going into her withoutrealizing that once you're in there, there
are so many more positive stuff thatyou can't even start to quantify if you
haven't had them yet. And alsoif you're not thinking about having kids or
like you saying you're not one hundredpercent, and sometimes having the child kind
of puts you there. Yeah,not even one hundred percent, two hundred
percent at that point you're here too. I've heard people say, yeah,

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like why was I even scared ofdoing this? Like this is the most
amazing thing. Listen, nobody nobody'schild. Raising a child. You can't
predict it. There's no script forit. There's no like, this is
the way your life is gonna go, this is the way the kid is
gonna be by the time he's thisand this age, everything is different.
And but that's what the beauty ofraising a child is, right, is
that it tests you as a parent, It makes you, It makes you
resilient. And what's more better thanraising a human being and then watching them

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to become whatever they become. That'sthat's a beautiful thing to watch. It's
the ultimate life change of the world. Yes, you cannot ever predict that
change. And I look at likewhat my weekends are and I'm getting emails
from Community Kangaroo about the two yearold dance party for Tailor Swift that I

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gotta go to on Saturday, andit's like I wouldn't have been able to
predict that this was my life.I still try to keep a peace of
myself obviously and go out with mygirlfriends did and do my thing, but
my life is different now. Mypriorities are different now, and it is
a massive, massive change. ButI agree with you, son. I
think I remember being pregnant with Lailaand everybody would be like, oh,

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prepare to never sleep again, prepareto worry every day. But nobody says
like, yo, this weight andlike it's going to be the most amazing
thing. Everybody always lists all thesenegative things. There's a party that absolutely
changes. There's a part of you. I guess if you want to look
at it like that you'll never getback and all that stuff. But I
also think you got to look atit as an evolution to who you are
as a person, and that evolutionis the most amazing thing. And there

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are parts now where I'm like,damn, I wish I could just go
away for like the weekend myself,don't think about all these other things.
And that's what pisces me off isthese people that are like living the life
of like being a parent is themost amazing thing, and there's nothing it's
okay to say, yeah, like, do I think being a parent and
Laila's mom is the greatest thing inthe world and that's ever happened to me?
Absolutely? But does she piss meoff? And do things happened during

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the day where I'm like, man, I wish I could just go take
a nap and not have to entertaina two year old. Yeah, like
that's okay too, But to thatpoint, there are too many people out
there like, oh my god,parenthood is so great, my da,
you're lying you're a yeah, yetyear it's hard. I have literally said
to somebody, I'm like, theone day she doesn't let us in the
room and she we're getting we're gearedup for potty training, so when she's

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pooping, I am physically not allowedto be in the room with her.
She's embarrassed, like she wants togo herself. So I was saying,
I'm like, I had to sitin the stairwell this afternoon for like fifteen
minutes while she did her thing inthe living room, and the woman like
completely twisted and was like you shouldvalue those minutes because you know she soon

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she's gonna be on a potty andshe's gonna be grown up, but it's
like, yeah, obviously that allhappened quickly, but it's okay to be
like, yeah, she banished meto a stairwell for fifteen egg but everybody
is different. So I just wonderthis woman asking this question if who she's
surrounding herself with, because I thinkit's okay to be like, there's nothing
like you don't I this is comingfrom me. I in my head,

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I was like, how can Ilove somebody more than I love the Fireman
Teddy Drake like my fan how Butthen you have a kid in your your
heart just gets bigger, like it'sthe craziest thing. But I also think
it's okay to be like, like, yesterday I was so sad. I'm
still so sad, and then havingto go home and mom, like,
it's hard because your feelings, likeyou kind of have to put into the

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side. You're raising a human absolutely, especially at this young of an age
that Leila is at, you knowwhat I mean. But then again,
you know, I got teens andeven at that age, you still got
to put your stuff to the sideand kind of be like, yo,
these are my responsibilities. Like Isaid, you know, my kid is
over twenty one. Even still,I know when he's thirty, forty fifty,
I'm still gonna be worried about him. I'm still gonna want to make
sure that you know my son isgood. That's somebody who came and I

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get what she's saying, like youlose your body. I don't know about
their identity thing, but I canget it. But you know, your
body changes and they needs a feelthat woman have. You know what I'm
saying, But it's given life isa miracle, honestly, the identity thing
in a sense of like we coulduse me as an example. I was
out every Friday and Saturday, rightI was, I had all these I
can't do that anymore, Like yeah, yeah, yeah, I can't because

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I can't function. But the ultimatequestion that she's asking is is it worth
it? And the first comment onTikTok from this, I have kids,
it's not worth it really, whichwas like mine, that's somebody who's just
miserable, maybe who they were beforeat eighteen and all that stuff and hasn't
evolved into this third year old person. Here's a parent. That's somebody.

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Yeah, somebody either had a babyon accident or was forced into happy partner
or something like that and they neverreally wanted it, yeah, or I
feel like that could be someone whodoesn't have help and like maybe they're doing
it all by themselves trying to figureit out. I think that you know
that whole saying of like it takesa village. It really does in a
sense of like if you do wantto keep your identity, like if I

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want to have a night out withthe girls, like I'm fortunate enough that
I have a partner, I cando that, but not everybody is.
So I think I could see whysomebody would say that. My answer is
yes, absolutely. And I rememberyou used to tell me this all the
time that like I think, likemy life won't start until because when I
was pregnant, you would say,like, your life won't really start until
you have her and then you're gonnasee And it is true. I can't

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picture my days now without her.You said a lot of things before you
were going to have your daughter thatI was like, man, I can't
wait till she has it because theirperspective. Yeah, and it does in
such a great way though, Sois it worth it? Absolutely because you
change so much as a person.But like not that your life didn't have
value before as without parenthood, butonce you do, you really like understand

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what that feels like. By theway, and I'm going to make this
very clear, if this woman goeson to not have kids, it's too
cool. Like the Yes, thethree of us have kids, and we
and we love it and we alsohate it it sometimes like all these mixed
emotions. We would always I thinkthe three of us would always agree that
our answer is is having kids worthit? Yes? But if somebody like

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when he just came in here wasit two days ago? And when he's
dating a girl now, and youknow, I guess the conversation of kids
came up and Whinnie told her straightup, I don't want to have kids
fun. There's some people in theworld that don't have kids. There's nothing
that is the decision that's gone coollike that's not our you know. But
if you're asking do we think havingkids is worth it? There's to me

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no question, absolutely hands down theanswers Yes. Nichole's and Rhode Island.
Nicole has a twelve and a sixteenyear olds, and you're saying that sometimes
you wish they were five again,like little babies. I do because I
feel like now that they're older,I do more for them, not like
the typical baths and stuff like that, but like just everyday thing. But

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on another and I mean, Ilove my children, Todaz, I wouldn't
picture my life with alpham at thispoint. But on another hand, there
are so many women out there whowould love nothing more to have children who
can't. And it makes me soangry that people just either hurt their kids

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and severely hurt them, or bethey just want to up and leave them
like they're living their best life whenthey were fifteen, sixteen, or even
twenty. That makes me so angryinside that people just have this whole aspect
of having kids is just a taxreturn or having kids is just like a

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payday for them because they have eightor nine of them. I don't know
anybody like that, but that wouldbreak my heart as well if I felt
absolutely yeah, that's kind, butit just makes me. It's weird for
me to hear you say that thatyou have a twelve and a sixteen year
on sometimes you wish there were five, because I'm you know, I'm in
the thick of it right now.I of a two year old, and
in my head, I'm like,oh, it has to get easier as
they get older. But then Foreignand Santo will tell me things. It's

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like each age comes with different responsibilities, right, Like it's all relative,
Like my daughter is a very motherlykind and my son could chair lest if
I cut up his steak or leftit hole on his plate, you know.
So it's the little things like thatthat you have to step back and
people just hate for granted, allright, Nicole, Well, thank you

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for the call sign. What wouldyou say was your favorite age? I
say my favorite age is right nowbecause the conversations and I'm able to have
with them is more on a humanpart. But at the same time,
right now is the most challenging thingbecause I have so many projects on the
side that I want to get toand do, but my life is consumed
by practice, games and all this. So but at the same time,
on the weekends when I'm watching themplay, it is the biggest joy I

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have in my life. Where Idon't post on Instagram a lot, like
on the weekends just because I amso involved in that that it's the best.
So right now it's the best,but it's also the most challenging.
What was your favorite age for it? Oof, I'd say I've got an
eighteen year old and a twenty oneyear old. I would say about the
seventeen eighteen nineteen mark, it's kindof the best age. It's the most
challenging, especially with boys. ButI get to take them like I could

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take you. Yeah. Yeah.They can go hang out with me backstage
as shows, and you know,especially when my kids love music and kind
of what I do, like,it's fun to hang out with them at
that age. I feel like Icould talk to them a little bit more,
not like an adult, but wecould have deeper conversations, you know
what I mean, more grown upconversations exactly. I think six months so

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I know Ingrid is in Boston,high Ingrid morning, everybody morning, babe.
So you're about to have your thirdAre you pregnant right now? Yes?
Congratulations? And I told you guysmore than I told anybody else with
my life. When do you do? How far along are you? Actually?
I'm supposed to have an appointment nextmonth. They're not sure because my

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period app then give the correct date, So I got to get ultrasound to
find out my due date. Okay, well do keep us posting. I
will. You were just basically saying, with three kids in your life,
you just what I was saying,Like you respect people who might take a
step back and say kids aren't forme, like that's not the you know,
the kind of life I want orwhatever. Yeah, it's like you

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can't really judge a person who decidednot to have kids. But for this
woman, I didn't see what youguys were talking about, but just hearing
you guys reiterate it, she justshould have gave up the kid for adoption
or give it to a family thatwants versus talking negatively saying that, oh
yeah, it's not worth it.It's not worth it. You have choices,
you have other things that you cando, you know what I'm saying.

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But kids are for us because we'vebeen through a different experience. It's
a beautiful thing, regardless of allthe challenges that you go through. I
have an eighteen year old who's incollege. I have a two year old
who I just dropped off to daycare, and now I'm pregnant again. So
you know, it's just the differentranges in the different stages that you go

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through, and each is challenging,but yet it's rewarding to see them grow
up, to see them do things. It's just beautiful, you know.
Yeah, No for that lady,give that kid up for adoption. If
you can't handle little, if youfeel like it's the worst thing in your
life, all right, grant sead, I'm making that kid miserable and then
you know, having another traumatic adultwalking around here in the world because you
didn't care or you know what I'msaying. That's my opinion on it.

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Well, thank you and keep usposted on that due date. Congrats,
thank you, thank you for takingmy call. Have a great day.
Of course, I don't know whoshe was talking to or what conversation she
was having, but we are one. Yeah, she imagined that she already
had to be she wanted. Yeah. No. The question was a girl
who has not had a kid,should she have kids? Is having kids

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worth it? Listen? It's thecraziest of crazy. And I'll say that
I think, Listen, I'm somebodywho had a kid and has I've had
multiple miscarriages, and I would doanything to have another kid. It would
do anything. So if that doesn'tprove to you that having kids are worth
it, I don't know what does, but it ain't easy. I miss

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a lot of nights out with thegirls and have to hear about all the
stories the next day where I shouldbe, I am like the pie,
but I'm still dealing with wiping.But either way, if you're if you're
thinking about it and you want todo it, it really is. It's
the best. It's Ashley and theJam in Morning Show with DJ four Heads

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Saunty, and it's time for anotherDM dilemma on Everybody Good Morning. It's
Ashley in the gym in morning show. Listen. I say this all the
time throughout the show, and ifyou've never heard me say it, I
think that just in general, sometimeswe can't go to our closest friends,
or we can't go to our familywith our problems because everybody's kind of too
close to the situation. So youmight be looking for an outsider's opinion and

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we're here for you. I getdms all the time and people being like,
hey, ash I'm going through this, like what do you think?
Because you ask, I want tohear what you know. Some listeners think
we call it DM dilemma for areason. You can DM it to me
you can stay anonymous. Obviously,we would love you to come on the
show, but I get you know, there's really no anonymity there because people

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might recognize your voice. I feellike this girl kind of got cold feet
because she told me she would beon she would at least stay on Instagram
and be live with me via combo. I've been messaging her. I haven't
heard anything back, but that's okay. Maybe she's listening and she's just nervous
her follow up questions. My Instagram, by the way, is at Ashley
Feldman. To ease on the AshleyA s H L E E F E

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L D m A and feel freeto DM me with anything. This girl
said, I've been with my boyfriendfor nine years. On January third,
they celebrated their nine year anniversary,and I still do not have a ring.
But I am ready to start mylife. I'm ready to have kids.
I'm ready to start the next chapterof my life. And he just

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makes up excuses like oh, Idon't have the money, but then he
will go and spend his money onstupid stuff like hunting or fishing things.
I just don't know how much longerI should wait, you said, mine
nine years, and he says thatmoney is the main reason that he hasn't
got her ring. But she's saying, well, he's buying stuff that happen
to do with his hobbies. Howold did she say it'd be nice to

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know? She no, she didn't. If they're younger than I understanding the
old look at her picture, youneed to move up in Nine years isn't
a long time. Depending on howold she is, I'm going to go
she's twenty six or twenty seven,Okay, so I think she still has
some time there. But the factis that he's dragging his feet and making
enough excuses. That's the part that'sscaring me. He's not ready. He's

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too young. I don't. Idon't know if he wants to though,
that's the part. If he wantto tell her, like, listen,
give me five more years. Ithink we need to build towards something that's
going to be fine. He's dragginghis feet and making up excuses. But
again, assuming he's a twenty something, yell old, right, he's not
thinking that way. He's probably thinkinglike, let me just stall, stall,
stall, because I don't want todo this, and he doesn't know
the mature way to say it,right, If she wants a ring that
badly as well, I would liketo throw in that. If he's saying

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money is an issue, maybe sheneeds to say, Hey, the size
of the diamond doesn't matter. Thering doesn't matter. I just want to
rank that. That's not me.Yeah, okay, but you want a
big one, right. But inher situation, if he doesn't have the
funds for that, and she sodesperately wants the ring and to start a
family, Lin says, maybe sheneeds to make it clear to him doesn't
have to be something super fancy.I just want that, absolutely, But

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it does sound like they're lacking alot of communications in both the right.
Oh maybe, oh maybe she's putout there that she does want something fancy
and he's like, yo, Idon't need to make that kind of money
to be able to give you that. Right now, say they're both let's
just say say she's thirty two andhe's thirty and they've been together for nine
years. That's enough. You're inyour thirties now, that's enough time in
my opinion, absolutely, And thenthat leads me to believe that he doesn't

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want to if you're that old andso dragging your feet like that. Yeah,
ninety years, I mean, nineyears is not that long. Why
I think about it though, likeif y'all met, Okay again, let's
even go back now. If she'slet's say twenty five, that means they
met and they got engaged on.Oh well, at least show you the
picture sounds do what you think Iwould say that she is I'm saying twenty

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seven. Yeah, they look prettyyoung. So in twenty seven, so
they met right before twenty right,yeah, but young. You know what
I'm saying. Nine years goes bylike this and you're not really as a
guy. As a guy, here'swhat I would probably we're not mature in
that fast, you know what.I give it another year because they look
young. But if he's not readyto do that and start and then start
to think that time, they moveon. We've talked about this before,
though. You meet somebody, acouple and they're like, yeah, we've

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been together nine years and they don'thave a ring, and there's no discussion
of that. We're all of us. But nowadays, you know what I'm
saying, I start thinking about theage though, because again, yes,
in your thirties, you know yourforties. That's different in your twenties.
I don't think dudes are really readyto settle in their twenties. Do you
even have a job good enough tobe able to throw a big extravagant you

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know what I'm saying. Maybe we'rejust judging off of their photo that they
look young, but maybe they arein their thirties, and we have to
remember, like she wants kids,and the older you get, I mean,
I'm a good example. The harderit is that part anyway you slice
he's dragging his feet. Yeah,he's out buying fishing rods. Go get
yourself a diamond, buddy. Hello. Six one seven nine three one one

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nine four five six one seven ninethree one one nine four five. She's
been in a nine year relationship.She wants a ring, she wants to
start a life, she wants tohave kids, but he's too busy buying
hunting and fishing stuff and making upexcuses. Stay or go, Hi,
babes, Good morning. It isAshley and the jam In Morning Show.

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We're doing a DM dilemma right now. If you're ever going through anything you
need some advice, you can hitme up at Ashley Felman two he's on
the Ashley. This girl just celebratedher nine year anniversary with her boyfriend.
She wants a ring, she wantskids, she wants to start a family.
Every time she brings it up tohim, he says it's a money
issue and that you know it's justat the time. But yet he continues

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to go shopping for things for huntingand fishing, his hobbies. He likes
to spend money on his hobbies.He just isn't spending the money on her.
She wants to know, you know, stay or go. I will
tell you that I got a DMfrom fat Pat Jean. Oh, and
he's fat bat. He said,I've been with my girlfriend for eleven years,
Ashley. Still no ring. Wedo not have kids. That we

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live together in an apartment. Ijust turned thirty one today. We met
in college. Number one. Happybirthday. He then sent me a voice
note, and just so everybody understandshis thought process, he same thing money
wise, It's just not the besttime for him. He's getting his master's.
He wants to finish that up.I understand. But when I was
listening to the voice note, ifI'm his girl, like it just sounds

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like excus yeah, and he keepsout he sounds like such a good guy
with a good head on his shoulders. But eleven years like, may you
know, huh, Kelly is inMarlboro? I K, how are you?
So? I think we're all inagreement here, But you can go
ahead and say it with your thoughts. Okay, So I actually just ended

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a nine year relationship. It wasexactly one month before nine years. Oh
my god. And my my thingis, it's maturity. If you're not
mature enough in your head's not inthe right spot, you're not going to
be willing to want to take thatnext step. You're going to blame it
on money, You're going to blameit on every cause you can come up
with. But I feel like itall boils down to maturity. If you're

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not ready to move on and bea man or a woman and you know,
grow your family and do what youneed to do as an adult to
secure that, definitely move on.I got two kids, and yes it
was a huge decision. But ifthe other person has not where your head's
at and not on the level thatyou're at, and what does it just

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stay three four more years to seethe same outcome back move on and live
your life and find someone that wantswhat you want. When you heard Santi
say just give it one more year, did you shut her at the thought?
Do you feel yeah, scret,I love it. I love it.
Thank you so much for the call. Ray is in debtam T.
Good morning, Good morning, bab. You've been married for three months,

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six months. Sorry, I've beenmarried for six months. Okay, so
six months. But how long wereyou guys together? We were together for
six years, seven years before heproposed. Wow. When people would when
you would tell people that, werethey like why? How? Why is
there no ring on your finger?Did you feel the pressure? Absolutely?

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I mean I felt the pressure,but I didn't feel the pressure because I
knew my husband was going to marryme boyfriend at the time. But I
actually ended up having my first daughterbefore being officially married as well, so
I got some comments about that too. But I bet we were. We
met at twenty one and like wewere, you know, working these not

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paying a lot of jobs, andwe've since been built our lights together and
we were building the entire time.So I was confident that I could,
you know, like stick around andhe was going to marry me like it
was no doubt in my mind whenyou hear me read this check's message,
I'm calling her chick because she wantsto stay anonymous and she's just not answering
me, which is upsetting me.What do you think she should You think

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she should hold on? You thinkthat there's a marriage at the end of
the tunnel for her. I thinkthat she knows the answer to that.
I think we as women, weknow the answer. I mean, if
you're showing me that there's no consistencyand you're not speaking in terms of our
future at all, I mean,these were all the things that I was
getting during my experience, so Ihad something to hold on to besides oh,

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you know, I don't have themoney or excuses like that. So
I don't think that you know,in my personal opinion, I don't know
about waiting around for a year.It's you know, you want to go
fishing and you don't want to talkabout a ring or a commitment, but
no one cares about that. You'reokay, we don't, we don't,
we don't care, we do notcare about No, we don't, right,

(26:00):
thank you for that. I justI don't know if she's if she's
going to the links to write meand say this. I think she she
knows. And if they're in theirtwenties, they've been together for that long,
that probably means that this has beenthe only guy she's ever been within
her life, I think. AndI would feel the same way. It
would be tough to let go becauseyou would think, Tam, did I
really just waste the last nine yearsof my life on someone? I feel

(26:22):
like that's probably why a lot ofpeople hold on. But some people get
desperate for that, you know whatI mean, Like they really want marriage
again. Assuming that they young,they don't really make a lot of money.
I can understand why he's feeling alittle reluctant to do it, and
maybe he doesn't know how to communicatethat. But if we flip the coin
and say, let's say they makehim bookle money, they financially straight,

(26:42):
everything's good, they got no problems, and he's still stalling at that point,
I'd be like, yeah, there'sno excuse, Like you just don't
want to do it, so letme move on with my life. Guys
just off buying fishing rods and camojackets expensive. Yeah, I see right,
stop doing that. It adds up, might be able to say something.
Get a ring. Marriage is liketwenty bucks too, if you boil

(27:02):
it all down Town Hall twenty bucksmarried boom. I don't think she wants
a time. I'm just saying it'snot a money thing. It's just it's
an excuse. Yeah, yeah,So I think we can all be in
agreement that it's time to least,time to leaf. Hye Bye, Dash
and jam In Morning Show with dJ Foign It's Sat Morning. Bastin's number

(27:27):
one for hip hop jam in ninetyfour or five. Oh man, I
got a d M from somebody andfrom Ron Ron Challenger. He goes tell
Santi down Boy, because we werehaving a conversation in three things you need
to know about how Genuine said thathe absolutely not will he be playing any

(27:51):
of his songs while he's getting iton. It's just odd to hear yourself
talking singing while you're making love.An artist that does that is psychle Sometimes.
I don't know if this has happenedto you. I'll be different,
obviously, but I'll be on thephone with my friends and they'll be listening
to jammin and you can hear mein the background. On a commercial while

(28:11):
I'm on the phone, and they'relike, I hate this. This is
too much. This is like,this is too much. I think when
it comes to sexuals, there's lightson people, there's lights off people,
and there's music or no music.Some people like to have a background noise
while they're making love. Some don't. I was always the person that liked

(28:37):
music. In fact, this cameup last night. The Fireman goes,
remember when we used to make melisten to music when we had sex,
And I'm like, well, no, I make you, but I just
liked there to be something playing inthe background. But the weird thing is
is the Fireman only likes a certainkind of music, so I had to
kind of tailor to his likes.So what we're gonna do here is we're

(28:57):
gonna each play a song that wefeel like, you know, would be
a go to song for if wewere in that time in space. Now,
let me make it clear. TheFireman wants every light on in the
house. He wants every window upso the sun is shining in and that
way he can see everything. Andhe wants not a peep to be played.

(29:18):
He wants to hear every single soundof every single I can't get into
detail. Let's just say licking moreeverything. No, it's serial killer is
it's creeping. So I couldn't reallyplay this game because but if I were
to play a song that I feellike the fireman would enjoy during sex,
I would probably think this for me, like, this is the type of

(29:45):
stuff this man's listening to in thecar he drives with either no music or
this. I don't I'm not havingsex to that. I'm not don't play
music because if we did, I'dhave to play Africa in the background with
Toto and I just so we're notI heard it. I heard a snippet

(30:11):
of Santis. I guess maybe youcan set this up and give an explanation,
but I'm actually there's cameras in here, so I'm going to show for
him before we play the song.Like when I heard the little bit that
I heard, I just envisioned Santihaving sex like this love making. It's

(30:33):
essential song. It's our favorite band, and I feel like this, this
whole song represents our just our marriageand our connection. I feel like it's
something soothing and central and something thatwe love to do together. So you're

(30:56):
the biggest part of me know,I'm going silence over that. Part of
I'm going silence over that, likelike this makes you feel so good?
Now I might have total over that? Really yeah, because I that is
all right, well I'm at leastfreaking silence. Let me hear the sex

(31:18):
sounds over that? All right?For do you want to intro yours?
Listen? If you know you knowmy team is different. You know what
I'm saying. This dude is calleddexterdaps Man. The way the way he
writes his music is exactly the waylike I feel. But anyway, just
just play the song, give youthat, you know, I mean,

(31:44):
I can just so good that feewant c come on now freaking yeah yeah
this is okay, I can,I can, I can get in now

(32:04):
that that's my number one. I'msorry, I could get into that giving
me like cowgirl vibes, cowgirl vibes. Yeah No, that to me is
like sensual the first time. Okay, I got you? Yeah yeah yeah,
but central reverse not look make loveI look because this is dead like

(32:31):
gam like, come on, youmake me look bad? Sorry, I'm
sorry. Anyways, I want tosee what are what are you listening to
during that special time or are wegoing silent? Are you the fireman and
you just like jad silent sex soundssix one seven nine three one one nine

(32:52):
four five six one seven nine threeone one nine four five Good morning.
This conversation has led us to aplace of you know, obviously we never
knew what it looked like when Santimade sweet love, as he would describe
to hersefe And now now I getthe sweet love part. I really understand
it. But when we had saidto a J right, we're gonna grab

(33:14):
songs that we would listen to duringsexuals, he popped right off. You
guys, he ran over, Hetold her exactly what part he wanted,
and then he had AJ play thisLike for me, I feel as if

(33:36):
somebody would play that on their wayto church on Sunday. No, yeah,
y yeah, they're just on theirway to church. It's a beautiful
Sunday and the sun is shining,and then they're playing this. You're making
it seem like sharing essential experience withyour partner is a bad thing, just
based this song. No freakingess inthat bedroom is what we haven't have to
do. No, there doesn't,there doesn't. I'm just saying based off

(33:58):
of that, you seem like youdon't like it. Though. For me,
if if I was to get readyto have sexual with somebody and he
was like, oh, give mea second, give me give me Like
for really, if I if Iwas it was that time right and I
was getting ready and we were aboutto have sex, and the guy was

(34:21):
like, hey, hey, giveme one second. I want to set
the mood. And he played thislike I don't want to sun to rise.
I don't want the sunda rising likethis is. I wouldn't. I'd
be like what, look at him, He's all It's all he can think
about. It's not a bad song, you know what it is. I'm
listening to this. Oh my wayto church on Sunday. I don't even

(34:44):
go to church, but this iswhat I would It's chill, the sun
is out. We're cruises understanding themessage is in the song Lake loved his
wife And yeah, it's just thewhole scenario. Anyway, we were asking

(35:10):
you know what songs would you It'sit's silent in mind, there's there's there's
sounds, but they're not coming fromthe TV or from ALEXA six one seven
nine three one one four five whatsong are you guys playing in the background?
Olivia is in Plymouth. Hi,Olivia, Hello, what do we
got? What are we going silent? Or are we playing a song?

(35:35):
You know? I don't have somenoise in the background for sure? Yeah
me too. I just told foreignI really love Teddy Slims Lose Control.
He has such a good voice andI don't know, like you blacked up
the bedroom perfect. I've never heardit before. AND's gonna play a little
clip for us. Here we go. This is Teddy Swims here I heard
on the Verge eyes. My songLose Control is about the substance of your

(35:58):
relationship. You could love some somuch would be this time? His voice
is nice. Oh okay, Iget it, Like this is nice,
This is like, this is likewe're connecting. This is like I have

(36:21):
said, when you say I loveyou to somebody during sex is different,
like you could do it to thatsong. That's nice. Okay, all
right, Olivia, thank you forthat. Actually you just introduced me to
him, because now I'm gonna checksomeone gave me onto him another song that's
deep like and yeah, he's nasty, he's his music is on point.
He popped off on TikTok huge fora while, swims swim got it?

(36:45):
Got We're like we are swimming ina Oh wow, yeah, swims.
Let me let me. I'm listeningand it's the library. Paul is in
verse. Paul, are we goinghi, babe? Are we going silent?
Are we playing a little something inthe background? Now we're playing one

(37:07):
twelve? You already know? Oha little peaches and cream? Yes,
okay, get it? Paul.Do we have a clip? I mean,
everybody knows peaches and cream? Butif we, if we, we're
gonna look and see he likes youalready? No this one? Oh okay,
okay, Paul, Yeah, thisis nice too. Anything is better

(37:30):
than Santia better. No. I'ma big pin of Slim. So he
makes good get sexual music, soslim from one twelve? Oh okay,
okay, got it, Paul,Thank you for that. Yeah, I
feel like we're on the up andup from your song. I mean,
listen, I can't even be apart of this conversation. I don't have
a dog in the fight. Ilisten to nothing. Yeah, but apparently,

(37:52):
if you were to pick something's betterthan mine, you like shaming me
for having a central side. Likingsweet Love. I mean like if we
made if we did it and Iplayed that, you would like it.
I think, stof, don't talkto me like that. Second, Oh,
I wouldn't. No, I wouldn't. You heard it here first Dashly

(38:17):
and the jam In Morning Show withd J four and it's saw T Morning
Bustin's number one for hip hop jamIn ninety four five. Hi, everybody,
good morning. We're checking in onyou, talking about anything you want.
It's all about you right now.Six one seven nine three one one
nine four five The six one sevennine three one one nine four five.

(38:39):
You call me and it's up toyou as to what we talk about.
Melissa is in Quincy, him Melissa, NI, good morning. How are
you? This is hilarious. Soyou have a little PSA for the young
kids, right? I do andnot. You know, I get up
every day. I try to lookgood. I don't think I look dad
old and I got kids, youknow that I work with or I go

(39:00):
with store and I see and theycall me ma'am. And I appreciate it.
Trying to be respectful, thank youto the parents. But I'm not
even fifty yet. I don't wantto be mad. I don't want to
be a ma'am. You don't wantto be I don't want to. Yeah,
I'm trying to think. Do Isay ma'am like and we're like,
thank you, ma'am? Can Isay this when I first when I first
moved out here, me and theteacher had an issue because I kept calling

(39:21):
her ma'am. Yeah, but that'sa that's a respectful thing for us where
we come from. We don't lookat it as ages, and we find
it as it's like a mister.Uh, you know what I mean,
ma'am. So if I'm calling someonewho's older than me a female ma'am,
yo, this teacher would be likestop calling me ma'am. And I couldn't
help it, And I'm like,that's what I'm used to tell me to
do this it see the sirle manman. I come to find out that

(39:43):
people take ma'am as being old.Rachel props to the parents they taught that
it's respectful. I appreciate it,but I don't want to be a man
yet. You know what, Melissa, I get it. I do think
ma'am does kind of give off alittle bit of a elderly tone to it.
Okay, but give me an alternativethough things. That's what I couldn't

(40:04):
come up with. Like you said, very so, what do you say
for a woman? You could saymiss oh, miss better Yeah, because
you know what, I'm trying topicture myself in a store and there's a
female employee, I might be like, actually, I probably just say excuse
me, yeah, excuse me.Yeah. I would do the I want
to do the man because I wouldn'twant as a woman, I wouldn't want
them to think I was someone justscreaming ma'am to Melissa and Quincy. She's

(40:27):
not turning around. She is notturning around for melist thank you for the
call. It definitely does have ait does have an older field to it,
but the kids who were teens,like somebody in their fifty seems so
old because I remember thinking back likelike for me, forty something seems so
old for me when when I waslike eighteen. I've seen this meme and
it's so funny because when I wasyoung, I used to think at thirty,

(40:49):
I was going to be married,I was gonna have kids, I
was going to be working, Iwas going to have you know, all
of these things. Because when you'rein high school. Thirty is old,
like, it's so far away,so far away, and you think you're
your little baby brain thinks you're supposedto have your life together at thirty pack.
Yeah, not even close. Rachelis in the state of mass Hi,

(41:12):
Rachel, a big drive ahead ofyou. Oh yeah, no,
we're already driving. We're just inSouth Carolina. Oh damn, Where are
you going? Miami? Welcome toMiami. What are we going to Miami
for vacation with the wife and thedoggies? Oh? I love that.

(41:35):
How long will you be in Miami? That's a nice little trip. Are
you hoteling? Are you airbnbing?Airbnbing? I love a good Airbnb.
Why aren't you guys flying? Whydid you guys choose to drive up?
The dogs? Listen, listen?The dogs is number one. Number two.
Me and my wife do not likeflying. I'd rather fly. I

(41:58):
and my wife would rather fly.She's got bad anxiety. She doesn't like
my driving, so she's been yellingat me the whole time we've been driving.
All right, ask her, askher would she rather be in a
car with you driving? Or fly? Spirit? True? Fly fly?
Wow? Wow, that Rachel,you're driving must be trash, legit garbage,

(42:19):
because no, no, I gotI got a good I drive very
good. She's just got bad anxiety. She'll be on the highway driving to
see them. In fifty five,she'll be going forty five, old lady,
Okay, listenund sasty sasty First ladies, So you're in South Carolina.

(42:43):
See you're in South Carolina. Howmuch longer is your GPS saying to get
to Miami? Approximately six hours andfifteen minutes. Wow, what gotti?
Yes, I'm going to Miami.I'm gonna gets he'll to go and we
got to hook up. And that'sa guard you got for me. We
gotta smoke it together. Consider itdumb, you know he's now that's what

(43:06):
I'm talking about. Act How thefireman, How the fireman's many be doing?
Sorry, I know you don't likethat, but how the many me
doing? Oh you that took mea second. The kid, she's saying,
Layla looks a man. That's youknow why I hope you get pulled
over driving you right right Ashley.By the way, By the way,

(43:30):
I have a first time caller.I finally got the courage to call you
guys. I hite you guys upall the time do it's a messenger and
we always talk. But I finallygot the courage, and that's because of
my wife. So I tucked itup and I actually called you guys,
talking to you guys, and Ilove teaching every one of you. I
don't have a favorite. Y'all allmy favorite because you're all unique in your
own way. D they for it? You still owe me that connect for

(43:53):
that's the hitt y'all. You're fitted. You're supposed to give me. You're
fitted. I got you, Igot you, d I mean, I
got you. You want one ofhis birds, his bird hats, te
having the only night fitties, AndI'm like, you horrible? Got you

(44:13):
all right, rach, Well,listen, stop talking to us, pay
attention to the road, have themost amazing time in Miami. And don't
forget that cigars. He's gonna holdyou to that. Oh never I hit
you up. Geta all right,rich Bye, allright, bye, babe,
thanks for calling. There's not enoughcigars and cigarettes in the world for
this, but I'm doing it quicklybecause she won't stop calling. Katie,

(44:37):
Hi, babe, what are youchecking in about? What can we do?
For you real quick, hey,and how are you guys? Miss
you? We miss you as well. What are you checking in about?
I wanted to call real quick andtalk about how I'm just hand the love
chain of the world. Can anyoneI don't speak Katie, No, hey,

(44:59):
lucky in love? I you allright? Well, there you have
it. Like I said, there'snot enough Newberry one of those the Newberry
Newberry parts. Of course, Ineed a whole new cigarette that I've invented.
After that, What's up everybody?What's going on with you? We're
talking about anything you want. It'sall about you, your life, your

(45:20):
world. I love, love,love checking in on you six one seven,
nine three one one nine four fivesix one seven nine three one one
nine four five call me and sayhi Hi everybody. Good morning, Sash
and the Gym of Morning Show.A constant joke on this show is that
every time DJ Forren goes to travel, we uh, you know, we
hug him harder by when he leaves, and we we hope that will see

(45:42):
him on the other side because hestays flying spirit and we just don't know
what the outcome is going to be. Rachel was just saying, how bad
of a driver she is, andasked her wife, would you rather drive
with her or fly Spirit? Andshe chose Spirit. That that's when you
know, uh Tayisha in Fall River. Yeah, Hi, they have good
morning. Good morning. So I'mhaving like a family emergency. And my

(46:07):
sister was looking at flights last nightand she's like, ooh, this round
trip tickets from Boston to Louisiana fortwo seventy I'm like, okay, she's
like a spirit. I'm like,I don't want to get my wings just
yet. Yeah. You guys arealready dealing with an emergency, and we
don't need another one. We don't. This is what I'm saying. I'm

(46:29):
like, you want to on alie? That's that dad, that's crazy.
All the smack y'all want about Spirit, but it's not Spirit that's got
dogs flying off of planes before lands. It's not Spirit colliding with other planes
when they land. Spirit has avery nice safety record, you know what
I mean. If you want toquit flight, you don't got to spend
a lot of money. You know, take the rind. Now, sometimes

(46:51):
life is about just risking your ownto see whether you're gonna get There's a
thing from me about Spirit, likeTaysha, you could call Spirit right now
and be like I want to bea pilot and they'll say, oh,
come on, doors open, we'renot doing that. You made the right
move smart, Yes, yes,yes, I like living yeah, living,

(47:12):
livings dope, living s dope.Thank you so much for the for
the call. I just don't understandhaving plane seats that don't recline. There
were they were so uncomfortable, andthen the one in front of you was
at my face. At one time, like years ago, the fireman was
meeting me in Jersey and there wasa Spirit flight for like I'm not kidding
say it was forty dollars from hereto Atlantic City. And he calls me,

(47:37):
he's like, yeah, like theflight, I'm not I'm not coming
because the flight it canceled. AndI go, oh, well what did
they say? He goes nothing,No one ever showed up to the gate.
Like the flight was supposed to takeoff at eight, then it was
eight thirty, then was eight fortyfive, and there was just not a
singular human hackic eight. It's alwayssomething with Spirit. And you know,
Sir is known for charging everything,right, they charge you for air,

(47:58):
they charging for it. But alot of these flights are starting to do
the same. A lot of theseother airlines are starting to charge you for
carry ons, like they don't morefree carryons in days. Do you want
a certain seat you like? Theystarting to just nickel and dom everything that
we do, which is kind ofcrazy. It is, it is,
and it's but it's like you haveto fly certain places and it's tough,
and the planes are yellow like it'sugly when it's flying through the sky.

(48:20):
It's just it looks like a bumblebee. In the Morning Show with DJ Feurign,
It's SAT Morning, Boston's number onefor hip hop jamming ninety four five.
What up y'all? Good morning,Happy Wednesday, Happy hunt dage got
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(48:42):
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(49:05):
back to it on our podcast,which is on the free iHeartRadio app just
search to ashally to ease. Weactually had a conversation where we were playing
some of our some of our favoriteslow jazz songs on things that you know,
we get free key too. Santi'sof course sun We ain't even gonna
talk about the Sunrise. Go listento it on the pod. But if
these people did DM me and hitme up about the song that I played

(49:27):
Dexter DAPs. It's called that's theartist. By the way, Dex the
DAPs songs called wi Fi. Gocheck him out. He's an amazing artist
from Jamaica. All right. Otherthan that, man, we'll be back
same time tomorrow, Saint Vibe me. I'll be back later on of course
tonight at nine o'clock for the latenight Drip. And yeah, y'all be
good, y'all be blessed, takecare of each other. I'm gone