Loving Too Quick (Full Show)

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It's Ashley in the jam of MorningShow Dashy and the Jam in Morning Show

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with d J four and it's sawt Morning, Austin's number one for hip
hop jam in ninety four five.Hi, everybody, good morning. We're
checking in on you. What's up? What's going on? Tell me everything
that I missed? Six one sevennine three five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five The pointin the show where you call me and

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talk about anything you want. Melissand Cumberland is going to kick us off.
Wow, cut really quick, Maliss, this is crazy. Yeah,
I'm really disappointed about fIF So setit up. Shut it up for us.
Okay, So we I had oneout. Met this guy at the
bar alone. He was kind oflike shocked that he met me at the

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bar. I never go out,like, I never ever go I haven't
been out since before Christmas because Ijust lost my apartment and got in a
car accident. I resolved those issues. Okay, it's been like crazy,
So good. I go out.I meet this guy. He's awesome.
We're supposed to meet the next day. We don't have set plans. I
kind of tell him that like mydays running behind, because he checked in

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with me to see if he shouldpick me up or not ask me my
address. I never sent it overyet because we didn't have again set and
stone plans. I was just tryingto see and I wanted to give him
an answer about one I would beready, and I really wanted to see
him. I wanted to see himthat night. I could have planned for
another day, which I should havedone. I did everything I could to
get ready and get there. Idid end up showing up to the bar

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that he was at. He didn'ttell me the location, but the girl
that was out the night before withus was already at the bar and she
saw him. She's like, oh, he's here, just come. He
probably didn't see his phone. Iended up showing up and he's like walking
out with two girls, looks rightat me and just like cold shoulders me
and walks by. Okay, Ijust want to make sure that I'm I'm

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I'm an persteandic. So you aregoing to be late. You tell him
your day is running behind, tellinghim you're going to be late. He
actually never responds to you, soin a sense like he's kind of annoyed.
Because you're going to be late,and you guys never actually set up
the date. Yeah, I meanhe did keep up with me throughout the
day, and at one point hesaid, you know what time do you

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want me to pick you up?And I was like, you know,
eight thirty nine might work. ThenI called him and he wasn't ready yet
either. I was like, youknow what, I'm still running behind.
It's going to be a little later. He's like, all right, well,
instead of me picking you up,why don't you just meet in downtown.
I was like, you know what, that's fine and me either,
and he's like, all right,just let me know now. I didn't
respond to that message because I wasdriving. I had to give some one

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of my friends an emergency ride.I was driving around. I didn't get
back to that message for about thirtyminutes. That's where he had enough.
I guess he just decided to goout and set his boundary. Okay,
so he just ends up going out, But you really, in a sense,
never made a plan on where youguys were actually going. Your friend
then separately hits you up and islike, hey, Joey is at this

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bar. Probably didn't see his phone, honey, He saw his phone.
Let's just get he still but yeah, then just kind of roll up on
him. Mm hmm. Okay,so we can see how there's potential for
this could go either way here.You didn't ever confirm with him that you're

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gonna show up. You're not hisgirlfriend, so we can't be mad that
he ended up doing something else.And then maybe, Okay, I don't
blame him at all. I'm actuallyreally upset with myself. Some people say
I should have held him to highstandards as well, but I do feel
like I messed up. I'm justkind of like bummed that he wouldn't give
me, you know, the benefitof the doubt. But I understand what's
his lifestyle. It's not even likethat you messed up. It's just you

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guys never confirmed the date. Itwas never like, hey, you meet
me at tavern in the Square atten pm. And then if you're him,
you're like, wait, we nevereven confirmed, and now all of
a sudden, you're showing up atthe bar that I'm at. It's a
little you know, stage five.Yeah, okay, did he say anything
to you when you walked past him? Was there any interact? Yeah?

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I mean, I know it's terribleto chase the man, but I really
wanted to apologize. I just feltterrible that I was lee. I wanted
him to know that I wasn't likeon some other date like the night before,
or like blowing him off. Iwanted him to know that it was
important to me and that, youknow, I was just genuinely running behind.
So I did try to apologize tohim, where he said he was,
you know, completely offset. Maybewould talk another day, but not

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that night. Yeah. I justthink he was probably uncomfortable at the whole
situation. I mean essentially, youyou found him, yeah, when he
didn't want to be found. Yeah, yeah, So well, yeah,
at that moment, I guess Ididn't realize. I was really thinking,
like trying to give his benefit ofdown, thinking maybe he's you know,

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just talking to people or just didn'tsee. But you're right, he did
well. And here's the thing,you've only known him for twenty four hours.
He's allowed to be talking to otherpeople and know other people and want
date to other people. So thiswhole thing of your friend saying you should
have put him at higher standards,honey, how you don't know him like
you've just met him, you're gettingto know him. So I think everybody
needs to take a deep breath,take a step back and moving forward.

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I wouldn't if if you don't geta hey, let's meet at x y
Z at x y Z time,I wouldn't just follow the man to a
restaurant that your friend says he's at. Just yeah, I'm forward, Yeah,
yeah, I feel okay, Allright, Melis, Well, listen,
good luck. I mean you've you'vehad a lot of adversity in the

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last year or so, and Ithink you'll find love. Just you know,
take your time, watch the showyou you are, Joe, and
then after that, I think you'llit'll be fine. Okay, good luck?
What am I? Instantly her friend'stelling her you should have set him

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in a higher stand. They neverset a date. Stop, she sucked
this man? I know, no, just come to the bar. He
didn't see his phone? No hedid. Who are her friends? Oh?
My god? All right? Sixone seven, nine three one one
nine four five six one seven ninethree one one nine four five. You

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call me and we're talking about anything. You want? What's going on with
you? To check in? Hi? Everybody, good morning, It's Ashley
the Jam in morning show, we'rechecking in what's up? How are you
talking about your life? Call metell me anything? Six one seven nine
three one one nine four five.Yeah, Hira is in prov a little
bit of drama over the weekend.Uh yes. And it all started with

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like a light fixture, which isso hilarious. A light fixture go on,
so over the weekend, well abouta week ago, I was asking
my boyfriend if you can help mewith the light fixture that I had in
my room because it was like basicallyhanging. Yesterday, we woke up and
he was like, oh, let'slet's fix this light whatever. Let's go
to lows and get whatever. Whenwe need to fix it, I said,

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all right, whatever. So he'sfixing it. Long story story,
was giving him a hard time,and he was like, I'm I'm not
doing it anymore, I can't doit whatever. So then I try to
help and I'm trying to fix thislight fixture and it's just giving us a
hard time. So in the midstof all that, he gets so upset
and he gets so mad. I'mlike, whatever, I'm I'm upset myself

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too, But I mean at thispoint, I'm like, I'll just hire
someone to fix it. So mybrother comes and he has my car and
he told me, hey, youknow, can you bring me home?
So I go bring him home.Long story short. When I get back,
my boyfriend is going and he tookall his stuff with him. Oh
so yeah. So when I calledhim and I asked him like, hey,

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where did you go? Why didyou leave? Like why did you
take all your things? He's like, well, I left and I went
to my mom's house because I don'tlike the way you're talking to me,
all right, And the one thingthat I did say that I can take
accountability for was Jesus Christ, whatam I dating a boy? Am I

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dating a man? Yeah? AndI just like in this generation, a
lot of men are more like females, Like I feel like they can't really
do much, and I feel likea lot of females do things on their
own. And it's just it's justlike, I don't know why. Yeah,

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I don't know why I said that, and I know it was wrong,
and I didn't apologize for it.I wanted to hurt him, That's
why you said it. Yeah,Sometimes in arguments, we say things we
know are going to cut deep.I consider myself a professional if that's terrible.
Yeah, and I'm like, damn, Like now I feel stupid because
he loves took the TV. Sowhere are you at now? Like,

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what what's the update? Ohm?Basically, I just like kids off home,
so I'm going to go basically tomy house and get just to start
my day. I was thinking aboutcalling him, but then I'm like,
I don't want to give him becausehe left, So why should I call
him? Why? Because you shouldfix it. You're the one who just
apologize for what you said. Ithink you need to be like at minimum,

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I just want you to know Ididn't mean that. I was just
mad and but I don't know.You're kind of explaining why you do mean
that, so I but I mean, you know, it's like part of
me does want to apologize, butthe other half feels like like she wanted
to light for me, Like youknow what I mean, Like she relactly,
and I just needed it fixed andI was tired of it hanging.
It looks crazy and I just wantedto fix And it's something that I've been

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kind of like complaining about for thepast couple of weeks. And I just
feel like I was kind of talkingto myself. Yeah, but he can't
fix it though, that's the thingthat you're missing. He can't fix it.
Yes, exactly, he can't fixit. So but he did.
He was nice and did offer,like for his stepdad to fix it.
But at that point I was kindof upset and I was like, oh,

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whatever. I mean, when Ihave electric work to be done in
the house, I call professional,like, I'm not trusting the fireman to
do the electrical work. But eitherway, I do think you may owe
him an apology just for the quickyou know. And hey, the explanation
you gave us about men being feminineand not able to do things, don't

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bring that up, do not.Okay, thank yourself, and well,
good luck. Call me back tomorrow. Let me know if you still have
a boyfriend or not. Awesome,Thank you all right, babe, good
luck. Yeah, we can't fixeverything. That's okay. Everything's acting crazy
today. Taylor is in Connecticut highTaylor Tyler. I would listen the man

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put t y l O R.So I just went with Taylor, Hi
Tyler. Hey, how's it goingwith you guys? So, I guess
a couple of years back, wegave you some advice to refresh our memory.
Yeah, about a year and ahalf ago, I was choked up.
I was in a mad spot.I was stuck at my parents with

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my daughter and just a lot ofconflict. And I called you on Santy
in the morning and yeah, youguys really talked me through. It calmed
me down. And a year anda half later, I'm in my own
place and we're doing really good,me and my little girl. What's That's
amazing And you guys helped a lot, you know, So I just want
to call and say thank you forthat, you know what I mean.

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I don't think you guys get Youget a lot of credit, but I
don't think you get enough. Youknow. That's amazing and you did not
have to do that, and I'mglad we could help you a little bit.
And I'm sure you're in a betterplace now that you and your your
little girl are out and on yourown. That's dope. Yeah, and
uh it really you know, itbrought me my mother back together. So
wow, yeah, thanks. Areyou sure you're including Santi Are you sure

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on that or was it just likea me and foreign thing or no,
No, I called through the checkin, So you guys had talked to
me. Oh wow, okay,you think I'm crazy? Yeah, so
I actually do have to say sorryto Foreign though. What happened. I
had Uh called when I first becamea listener about three years ago, and

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I didn't make it to the talkingright, and I got all excited.
I was overwhelmed, and you weretalking to me and I was like,
who is it, Shanti? Andyou didn't laugh nothing. You were just
like Foreign, call me what youwant, but don't call me click.
Fine. Oh yeah, I endedit. I ended that real quick.

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Oh my god. Well, youdon't know how much we appreciate you calling
to say that. That that makesme feel good. Hopefully some of the
other girls that have called in todaywill take some of my advice too.
But you know, you win something, you lose some Tyler. Yeah,
well, thank you guys for everythingyou do. You guys do a lot
for the people. Wow. Appreciatethat. Thank you. Wow, that's
sice. I don't think you meantto include you, but yes did.

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I don't why a personal opin Idon't know. And the jam In Morning
show with DJ Foreign it's Sat Classin'snumber one for hip hop he am in
ninety four or five. He talksabout red flags and everybody, everybody has
certain ones where you're like, thatsounds weird to me. That's not a

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red flag for me, But okay, if that's a red flag for you.
A girl that works here in thisbuilding, not on our station,
but on a different one. She'ssingle, she's mingling. Her and this
guy are going back and forth.They're they're getting ready for their date.
They were they're supposed to go ona date tonight, foreign and he they're

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doing that thing where they're they they'rehoneymooning, they don't know each other,
they're about to go on a date. So they're kind of going through like,
oh, I've done this, I'vedone that, you've done this,
You've you know, going back andforth, and the guy says, to
her, mind you she is nowat the point where she doesn't want to
go on the date over this.The guy does not want to go on
the date. He says two things. He said, Number one, I've

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never been to a concert and mylife, and number two, i've never
flown on an airplane. Number twois a red fly. So she's like,
I have nothing in common with thisman. I'm not going okay,
here's the thing. I wouldn't knockon a second date with somebody if they
never flow on a plane a firstdate on that. But it's a red
flag for me. I would havea lot of because if you've never been

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on a plane before like that,then it's screams I'm a towny who's never
going to leave the town. Andthat's not true. Ever, that is
not true. D J. Kellydid not fall on a plane for year.
Why because he was scared? Yeah, but that's that's look scared.
But perfect follow up, follow upquestion. She didn't know what to say,
so she asked him, are youscared? And he said, quote,

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no, I just haven't had theopportunity. County right there, that's
a weird answer. You at thetown bar every single week. Because he's
yes, he's scared, I'd belike, oh, I mean that makes
sense to me. There's a lotof people have a fear of flying.
I get it. Comfortation. Goodto weigh in on this because for the
first one, my husband husband andhad never been to a concert in his
life. Yes, he's thirty sixyears old and or something five six one

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of them, and had never beento a concert in his whole life until
we went to Billy Joel and StevieNicks. Yeah, and that. But
I could summit with the whole concertthing. I'm okay with that one.
But the plane thing, that isa red flight because an opportunity to not
be on a plane not quan vacation, Like that's a choice, that's not
an opportunity. I mean, Idon't think it's a money thing, right

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because a guy is a job,he has a job, and he's probably
in his thirties. Yeah, it'sa little bit of a oh that's weird,
Like I think, oh, that'sweird. There's mad people who have
not taken a flight to this day, and they probably are they adults.
Yes, No, some people justyou know what I'm saying, either they
can't afford to or whatever it is. But nah, you'd be surprised how

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many people have not jumped on aplane yet. Monica is in Pevity,
Monica. You're getting ready to goto a first date and the guy says
he hasn't a been to a concertever in his life and he's in his
thirties, and he also has notflown in an airplane is and he's not
a threat. Both go into thesame category for me, like if you
can afford to great, but nota lot of people, especially living in
massachus This, can afford to dothese things. These are luxury things and

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people are struggling to pay rent andfeed themselves. Never mind. I mean,
I'm forty two and I've only beenon a plane once and that was
because you know, I did alittle bit saving whatever. But I would
have loved to fill my passport ifI have the opportunity. Money has a
problem, so I think, andI kind of because I didn't go ahead.
IM sorry, it's just no,no, no, I was going
to say to say, I haven'thad the opportunity. Kind of does lead

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me to believe that money could bean issue or whatever. But by the
way, this is not enough forme to not go on a first date.
The fact that she's going to tryto cancel the date over it is
like crazy, by the way,you're sayingle so, Monica, how old
are you? Two? Only beenon one flight side you've been on a

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flight though, Oh so you're okay, But I mean it didn't happen until
after I was well over thirty thatI took this first flight, Like,
but you went okay, se Saziwould date you, Monica. There you
have it. You guys could goon a first date. Thank you for
the call. I actually did thinkthat for a second when he said I
just haven't had the what was theword opportunity? The opportunity again, I

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feel like if you didn't have themoney, he could easily been like I
could never afford to up until thispoint, potentially, but Melissa is in
Abington him Melissa, Hey, thisisn't enough to not go on a first
date though, It's like that justscreams like nerd to me, you know
what I mean, Like I haven'tseen I don't see flights round trips to

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Orlando for thirty dollars. Yeah right, do not tell me you cannot afford
to fly like you say more onguests, you know, I mean,
like, come on, okay,okay, So it was so fine thirty
dollars flight, but we got hotels, we got rental cars, we got
you going to Orlando. Maybe wantto go see Mickey Mouse? That costs
money? So maybe it's the wholeonly have no need to go anywhere because

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you're a towny. Okay, yeahexactly, Like it's just weird it's definitely
weird and like, I don't knowconcerts, you gonna wait if I'm jamming,
like come on, and like youmake it so easy? True,
I mean yeah, but but thenthere's like my husband the Farreman, for
example, like he didn't never likedlike a song or a group that much

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to be like I have to gosee that. Can we use that same
logic to the plant, to theplane, like I have no I have
no need to go anywhere. Igot my family here, I can drive
to whether you want to go toa warm weather when we're blizzards here.
I don't know some people like that, Meliss, Are you canceling the first
aid over this? I mean Iprobably wouldn't cancel it, but there definitely

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wouldn't be a second date. Ilove her, wow, because in my
head I'm thinking this is really youcan't really he is the money thing,
right, because you have to assumethis guy has an iPhone or some type
of phone that costs over a thousandbucks. Well, listen, he's got
to have a little bit of moneybecause he's asking her out and he's going
to pay for it, right,So he's got a little bit of money.

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Yeah, So you know, it'snot it's not a money thing.
It's a town either. Hi erinBhi. So how old are you Erin?
I am thirty two. She isthirty two years old, and I'm
assuming never been on an airplane?Correct? I have never been on an
airplane. Unfortunately, I have neverhad the money or time and ability to

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go anywhere that considers an airplane.I've driven to North Carolina, upstate New
York, I've driven places with myfamily, but I've never been on an
airplane. I'm happily married. Whereare you from? Originally Grotten Oh,
which is but I'm not a livingMarlborough now, Like I want to call

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you a towny, but you movedout of your town. Like, yes,
I'm wrong. If you haven't beenon an airplane, doesn't mean it's
a red flat Aaron. You're theexception, but everybody else is a towny.
Well I'm about to be an exception. There you go, er feel
a little better. I would loveto go on an airplane and go somewhere,

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but I have just I just don'tmake enough money, don't have the
time. I have my kids,I have my husband, I have and
we just have not had the abilityto make a vacation and go anywhere,
even when I was young. I'vejust never been on the plane. Just
because you're here, and I needto know if you got somebody said to
you, you have to pick theplace. I'm paying for the flights,
I'm playing for the airfare, I'mplaying for the hotels. I'm paying for

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all of them. I go toRome anywhere I want to go and visit
places like I'm but like, Ihave never been on an airplane, and
so I guess and I don't seethat as a red flag that particularly like,
especially if his response was I justhaven't had the chance, which I

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literally just have had, like themoney, the opportunity and the chance,
the opportunity to go anywhere. It'snot worth going that I couldn't drive.
Santi has painted the picture that anybodywho hasn't been on an airplane, it's
literally literally Aaron, thank you forthe call. She sounds like a nice
girl. I'll tell you this,My first flight ever was to come here

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to the States, right. Idid not take another airplane flight for years
after that, years, years,years. It's not until recently, i'll
be honest with you, two three, maybe four years that I started saying,
you know what, I'm gonna starttaking like flights to just places.
You know what. I'm saying,it's not like your town is just you
do it though, and that Ido it now? Yes, yeah,
and and and and Marcy, whowere gonna pardon us for not picking up

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your phone? She said a goodpoint, she said. She said that
it's a red flag because she doesn'twant to be the first one to teach
you these things. Ah, andthat makes sense to me, Like,
I'm so I'm supposed to like takeit. Yeah, could you imagine dealing
with somebody like that. I guessI think we're just going there like she
had if she doesn't like to behonest, I think if she doesn't go

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out on the day tonight, it'sit feels stuck up to me. I
don't know, Yeah, it feelsa little. And that's from the beginning.
I would go out with them,but I'm definitely don't cancel the date.
Yeah, the date. My buddyin their thirty sess to me,
I've never been on a plane.I'm like, what, I definitely take
it. I get taken aback,but I'm not. I mean, Nanti's
like literally you're going to hell likeyou're say. And Morning show with d

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J four and it's saw T MorningBustin's number one for hip hop jam in
ninety four or five. Hi,everybody, good morning. I need a
wife or a girlfriend or a boyfriendor a husband to call in and say,
you know what, I have acompulsive obsessive person in my life too.

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I have somebody who gets so obsessedwith something for like a month and
then it goes away. And thenit's something else that they're obsessed with for
a month and then that goes away. I've discussed this problem. Was about
Santi many a time. There wasa there was a there was a while
there where he was a cyclist.There was a while there where he was

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like a goalie for a hockey team. There was a while there where he
was into skating. It it's anddon't even get me going when he was
into CrossFit. That one lasted morethan a month. That one was pretty
terrible to get through. You forgotthe boat hunting. Oh the boat it's
literally insane. So his latest journeyis with health, and let me take

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it. I want to take astep back and say you look amazing.
You've been crushing it than you.If I eat a miniature KitKat in my
current state of depression, he goes, oh, spike and your insulin.
It's like he's so obsessed with whathe's eating and health and stuff. And
it's fine. I'm dealing with itbecause I know he'll come back down to

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reality and just like normalize it.It always normalizes with him a few months
down the line. But we're inthe thick of it right now. We'll
get there probably Like November. Hewas last month he was big into gut
Health form, so I had tohear all about the new powder that he
eats for his gut health. Thatlasted a good three weeks, and the

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final week of last month was hewasn't consistently pooping enough. So now he
eats like twelve dates a day,and so I've had to hear that,
like you, since he's a biglike date guy, because I'm not lying
and you know this is real.Yeah, So when he told me this
one this morning, wasn't shocked.Now I have heard a million, thousand,

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trillion benefits to it, so I'msure you'll love it. But the
newest venture cold Plunges, Yes,Yeah, and it listen. People love
him and I'm not taking that away. It's just this time next year,
you won't be doing coal punches.And I have to tell you that because
you need to hear it. There'sa good chance that I won't be,

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but at least if I don't attemptto do it, then we'll never know.
And here's the thing. The coldpunch and the benefits are so amazing.
And also, I'm forty three.I need to optimize my health across
the board. And this is whyI'm doing this now. I hate the
cold. I don't want to getinto the water, but I feel like
I have to give it a shot. Though. Let's talk logistics here.
Where will you put it in myyard? Next to the hot tub?

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Okay? And it's not that big, it's like pretty small. How much
it's only like one hundred dollars.I don't believe that. No, no,
no, no, no, it'sone hundred bucks. It's really like
one hundred bucks. Now I amat some point in a couple that with
a sauna. So that's kind ofwhat the idea is. Do the cold
plunches and the whole sauna thing.The sauna thing is not really that cheap.

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Yeah, but I think like atsome point it's going to make it.
You can find people that will buildlike customizable saunas where it's just like
one person can fit in or two, that's the whole thing. Yeah,
I found a company that sored books. Isn't bad for something that I know
will be a throwaway in a month, in a month or two, little
bit more pricey. Yeah, butwhy is it a problem that I'm trying

(27:14):
to optimize my health? No,it's fine, and I like, again,
I started out by saying, youlook great, and that's cool,
but it's I'm just so I'm justexhausted and I have to like he starts
out the conversation with you don't haveto listen. But I bought something new
because I just know I know whereit's gonna be, Like he'll tell me
in two months that you know,actually, I've really noticed the benefits of

(27:34):
these dates. And I'm thinking aboutI know, no, no, it'll
be like this. And you knowMary that plays uh yeah, like the
kids, that's the mom that collinshis friend with Joe's. Yeah, she
invests in date farms, and I'mthinking that I'm I'm going to be an

(27:55):
investor to be an investor for adate farm, this is what I'm gonna
have to do. I had tostop the dates. I had to stop.
No, no, no no.The gas was the next level.
We're like, I'm fine with it, but it was so bad that I
was offending my my own existence.It was really bad. So I had
to stop because wow, did II didn't guess they hit your still on

(28:17):
the gut health, but on thePrune Juice were on the charity. It
was still on the gut health.Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
It's just I realized, like,can you hear me say it? You
know I'm not because all those thingsthat you mentioned are all spot on.
Now I feel for you, butnow try being my like my wife.
My wife is like she can't takeit. It's really find nobody deserves a

(28:40):
Medal of Honor more than Joanne becauseI have to listen to it. He
literally guys came in and he's like, you don't have to listen or anything.
But I bought something new and it'sjust like, now I gotta deal
with this. Now I'm gonna haveto deal with coming Ashley. You have
to buy the Cold Punch one hundreddollars you have to buy, and I'm
gonna have to hear that. Idon't even like when I put the shower
on and I get in too fastand the water is not warm yet,

(29:02):
it would be a struggle for meto do that. You mentioned a lot,
but there's one big consenstency that Ikeep doing that. You guys forgot
to mention my issue with the cars. I go through cars. It's like,
yeah, you, I don't know. I don't know. I mean
we I think four and I bothsaid this car that you're in right now,
we won't see it at the endof next year. I don't know.
I get obsessed with about things.I want to move on from them.

(29:22):
I've kept the wife, so Idon't know that that's a constancy.
But everything is the same way.Or you're convinced that the switch cars too.
I think it's she reacts to mebecause if I change cars and it
changes the whole dynamic. Listen,people normally own a call for two three
years plus. It's got to beminimal. At least you own a call.
I don't even think twelve months.No, So yesterday I was on
the way home and I was kindof like how many cars I've had since

(29:45):
I've been married. Do you guyswant to know what the number is?
Please? It's crazy twenty No,no, no, it's fourteen. Wow.
Yeah, I know, guys.I'm trying to work through all this
stuff in therapy. I don't knowwhat the foundation is, but it is
a lot, and I understand.I'm just so happy for him that you
never ever ever had to meet CrossFitSanty because that one, no, I

(30:06):
never heard that. He sounds likehe's going down that I had to spend
another singular second with CrossFit Santi.I was just gonna it was CrossFit was
crazy, man. He was theperson alive like you and Romiro staring at
a screen waiting to see what thebig workout was going to be, the
like I just couldn't. It wastoo much and not just that, like

(30:26):
I used to live my life judginglike others, like judging what they ate
and everything they had. And asNino would come in and she's like,
I gotta go grab my granola barsnack and he'd be like, oh,
oh, that that's what your snackis. Not paid not Hale and the
Morning Show with d J four andit's saw t morning, Bussin's number one

(30:47):
for hip hop dam in ninety fourfive. Hi, everybody, good morning.
I've told you guys this story beforeWildtail, But at my wedding,
my cousin was Honestly, can wethink of somebody at my wedding who wasn't
just absolutely hammered. No, myone friend. Two of my friends were

(31:07):
pregnant at the time, so thosetwo. But other than that, everybody
was just getting after it once onceDJ forourn took over the ones and the
ones and twos, if you will. Things got a little crazy in there,
but my one cousin in particular,just boozing. Every photo of her
we have, she she was maybedrinking the jack and Cokes or the Jamison
and Coke that we had ready togo. I've seen a call picture of

(31:30):
her double fisting bud like That's whatI remember the most welcome to find out
if she was six months pregnant drinking, yeah, and did not know.
So anyways, fast forward, sheends up having her baby. The father
is a guy who has seven kidswith seven other women. She may have

(31:55):
been number seven, So let's justsay at the time he had six kids
with six other women. Even crazier. The day she had her baby shower,
he was attending a separate baby showerwith a woman that he had gotten
pregnant who was giving birth set togive birth around the same time. Jesus,
it really just proves that ladies befalling for the line that's in all

(32:21):
of our heads where we think wecan change them. Hey, certain guys
have this trait blue face being oneof them. What that they They make
all of these girls feel like they'rethe one? Now are they the issue
though, or the females issue?They go early a combination, I'm saying,
But I'm just saying there's there's It'svery clear that some of these dudes,

(32:42):
because think about it, these onelike my cousin, knew going in
that he had that many kids withthat many different women, and yet she
still had unprotected sexuals with that.That's true. Wild, that's crazy.
They also work together and walk pasteach other every morning, and the man
doesn't even as much as say apeep about his kid. He hasn't asked

(33:05):
about the kid. He doesn't knowwhat the kid is doing, He knows
nothing about the kid. She's neverasked for a dollar, or she's not
taking him to course, she's wantmoney from him. She really just doesn't
want to deal with him, sothe setup is ideal for her either way.
Could you imagine I can't out ofyou at the very least, like
the teeth coming in? Is shewalking or something? Hey, I don't
know. Can I see a photo? Yeah? So anyway, she's been

(33:29):
unlucky in love. She's been unluckyin love and my family word travels quick.
Okay, she's not pregnant again,I don't have to think of that.
But she She goes on a tennerdate last week and comes home and
she tells my aunt and uncle thatit went really well, like everything is
great. In fact, they're goingto go back out together on Monday of

(33:52):
this week for date number two.So we're all excited for Oh, that's
great, you know, two dates. That's cool. Last night, I
get a video of the guy atthe house. So they went out Friday,
they went out Monday. He musthave come over to my aunt and
uncle's house to meet the parents lastnight. Now he is being referred to

(34:15):
as the boyfriend everybody and a half. Only what is happening, We're doing
it again, is what she doeshas know because she really like other than
her getting impregnated with that guy.She really wasn't talking to anybody. Is
she desperate? Sounds it? Doesshe want one? Yeah, but you

(34:39):
can look for a dad and likewait six months to find the right dad
after a second date. She's alreadymaking questionable decisions having sex that already had
like a gazillion kids she's looking for. She's trying to bag her kid a
father, like I need someone moreconsistent in his life. My boyfriend,

(35:00):
man, do you guys have therelationship where you can talk to her and
be like, hey, maybe youmove a little bit too fast there.
I don't like, I don't wantto shade somebody's light. And they're happy
and there, and by the way, my aunt seems committed to it.
You're onto. My aunt is theone that sent me the video of him,
but she has the phone like nextto her legs, so he can't

(35:22):
really see that she's videoing him.Here's the problem. The problem is that
he can be an amazing guy,but there's a chance that he's not.
And you don't know anything about him, not after a week. So here's
what I do know about him,which I kind of feel like lends to
that he could be a really goodguy. He also has a kid,
three year old. One night standobviously didn't know the girl. Well boom

(35:44):
it happens. They have a greatrelationship. She keeps him mom during the
week. He has the kid everysingle weekend. They don't skip a single
weekend. He is a full timedad, loves his kid. And I
think he was looking for somebody whoalso had a kid, because that is
his life. That part about him. We like that, we like,
we like good deaths, but wedon't know that. The other parts we

(36:06):
don't know, like what strange thingshe's into. We don't know if he
has an ex at like, youknow, like we don't have dates.
How can you really he can't?Yeah, I mean, you know what
I'm feeling. And I feel like, going on her background and his possibly
maybe this is gonna lead to anotherkid soon, because like he has some
swimmers. Clearly she you know,they might have learnt their lessons with the

(36:29):
first one they did nobody I think, So you really think I did?
I hope, but then she's backin the situation. But this might be
this might work out. I mean, he might be looking for the same
thing he might be looking for somestability in his life for him and his
kid, and so she would itbe tough for you guys to date somebody
that lived at home. What youmean she lives with She lives my uncle.

(36:50):
So when he comes over to seeher, they're there. Because that's
the situation. I was gonna eventuallychange, like I'm only in this situation
because yeah, I got laid off. Well whatever it is. Yeah,
yeah, I mean I could workwith that. But I understood her probably
wanting to rush the meaning of thembecause if he's coming to the house to
pick her, they're going to behow old is she? I'm thirty seven.

(37:14):
I'm gonna guess she's I'm gonna say, I'm gonna say late twenties.
Like I don't know, she's done. I can't accept somebody's still living at
home in their twenties. That's somebodyfine. But if I mean somebody in
like their late thirties and forties,if you live in No, no,
she's late twenties. I can't becoming home trying to make love to you
with your parents in the next run. It's just that doesn't work. Obviously,
nobody in twenties with their kids stillliving at home. I don't know

(37:37):
that if that rocks with me,Bro, I mean your baby. You
should be responsible enough to have yourown spot. You know what's crazy.
When she did have the child,she was living in her own spot.
That's what got her in trouble.Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't
know, man, too soon,I mean really, it's just in general.

(37:58):
Can you after tune half label somebodyboyfriend and girlfriend? Has any single
person six one seven nine three oneone nine four five six one seven nine
three one one nine four five goneon two dates and been like, yep,
after day two that is my boyfriendand girlfriend and I'm bringing them home
to meet mommy and daddy. Hieverybody, good morning. It's actually in

(38:22):
the gym of morning show. We'retalking about time frame on when we're giving
titles out here. My cousin wenton two and a half dates on Tinder
that I mean pretty much a stranger. Now she got a boyfriend, jesus.
I mean it's quick. I'm notsaying it's the most far fetched thing
in the world that it could actuallywork out, But you don't know somebody

(38:44):
after two and a half dates.How Diana is in New Bedford Diana says,
she's going on almost five years atthis point, and you fell in
love after how many dates? Oneone date? And then tell everybody when
he moved in not even a weeklater. First off, you're lucky,

(39:07):
you're not dead. You're lucky you'renot the star of a documentary that is
insane. Yeah, I know talkingabout this and you guys said five years,
Well, first off, how didthe meeting happen? Did you get
set up on this date? Hadyou known him prior? Money is some

(39:28):
crazy stuff. Girl. He usedto post the most craziest stuff on Facebook.
And I used to just be like, he's a clown. I can
never see somebody like him. Andthen I just messaged him one day and
I said, you're never going tofind the right girl if you keep posting
stuff like this. And he's like, well, why don't you show me
what a real girl was like?And all of a sudden, he can't
bring me lunch up my job andheap after that, that is crazy?

(39:52):
Is he still posting? Is hestill posting like that clown stuff on Facebook?
Wo? Wow? One day?Moved him in less than a week
later, and hear you guys,so when you heard me telling the story
about my cousin. Do you feellike it could work for her? It
possibly could when this kid's involved.It's hard. I don't have no kids,

(40:13):
so it's kind of hard. Ican't really say yes or no.
But you never know, you nevernever known to show how you ever gonna
know? Shoot or shoot? Honey, Diana, thank you so much for
the call. Mollie is in Bedford, Mal What is happening today? Hi,
good morning, guys. Morning.First of all, I want to

(40:34):
say I really love your show.You guys make my day every day.
And when I heard what your cousinwas going through, I said, I
have to call in and say mystory. Yeah, yeah, I see
a little clip of it. Ineed to hear the whole thing. So
I was. I knew this coworker of mine. I just kind of

(40:54):
seen him at work and we decidedto go on two days and after that,
I said, you're gonna be myboyfriend. It is what it is.
And now we've been married for nineteenyears, two kids later. So
yeah, wow, basically, youbullied the man and to be your boyfriend,
and I did. Actually, AG'sgotta start being a bully to these

(41:17):
guys. The one that she actuallylikes. You're gonna be with me and
we will be married for nineteen years. Money. That is crazy. So
you too hear the story about mycousin. You're like, this could be
it. It could absolutely it couldcertainly be you can you know you know
when you know you know? Somy only advice is for her to go

(41:37):
for it. There it is bullyagain, shoot or shoot, you gotta
you gotta go for love. Ilove it. Are you seeing Alison in
town? I did not. Let'sgo to Alison real quick? Allison?
Hey you no one, You're doingtoo much. You're doing too much.
Hey, what can I say?Tell everybody? Tell everybody story. We

(42:02):
met at a bar and I knewthat night that I fell in love with
this man. The first night wehad sex, I got pregnant and we
are still together six years later.Our daughter is five. I can not
saw pregnant on day one. Stilltogether six years later, unbelieved. Are

(42:23):
you guys married? No? No? Wow, just a boyfriend and girlfriend.
Life Man twenty four nineteen is uh. She has one in the thirties
in a couple of teenagers. Wow, So you too, like you hear
me tell this story about my cousin, you're probably like, ash relaxed,

(42:44):
this could be it. I didthat. I was her, I had
two kids and I was a singlemom. Every man I found with my
boyfriend. I call that a rightAlison, Wow, thank you for that.
That is right in my head.I'm thinking we're gonna tell this story
and no one's gonna call and saythat after two dates she got pregnant on

(43:06):
the first. I was literally loveat first, No for real. But
if you listen back, she doesthis a lot, so at some point
it's gonna work. Right. Yeah, same with your cousin. Maybe this
will work out for her, that'sit. And maybe in a year's time
they will have moved out and they'llbe living together with the two kids.
Yeah. But still though, Ifeel like you need to error on the

(43:27):
side of caution and just be cautious. I'm I'm certainly gonna tell her by
condoms, that's for sure. Andthe jam In Morning Show with d J
Foreign It's saw T Morning Cousin's numberone for hip hop jamming ninety four or
five. I just like that,Tom Flies when you're having fun. Good
Morning every Thursday. Got DJ faarignAny holding down all week for the squad

(43:49):
while they're out today. But shyto tell youybody that's been tapping in,
calling in and anything like that,showing love. I appreciate jump. But
yeah, tomorrow we back out thesame time saying vibes. So make sure
y'all tap in if you it's anyof the show today, any of the
topics that we had. Of course, you could also check out the podcast,
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at just download that to your phonesmart device search j A M N nine

(44:12):
four five and then just going toAshley to eas your search actually to ease
as well. All right. Otherthan that, y'all be good, Yeah,
be blessed. Catch me tonight latenight Drip tonight at nine o'clock at
DJ the Number four E I Gn oh. Yeah. This is Thursday,
So tomorrow, if you're looking todo something, catch me at the
Stellars out there in Boston. ASaturday, we are out in Revere Santi's

(44:34):
favorite place, Sammy's Patio, andthen a day party going down at Harvard
Square at the d X on Sunday, full rundown. Like I said,
at DJ the Number four E IG N. All Right, y'all be
good, yeah, be blessed.Enjoy the sun out there. It's gonna
get a lot warmer.