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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Formerly known as Tender Tuesday. We call it Beyond the
Swipe now, just because this segment certainly does encompass so
much more than just somebody swiping on tender. We've had
people calling, Hey, I'm in a relationship and I'm going
through ABC and D. What's your advice? You know, I,
(00:27):
without naming names, know some people that are going through
whether it's divorce on the horizon or a breakup, and
I can tell that the sentiment is the same. It's
I am afraid of what's out there because all we
ever hear are these horror stories.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
You know, but it's crazy to think that somebody would
stay in a bad relationship instead of exploring like the
freedom and positivity that could be out there.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
And when you're stuck in that situation, you don't see
for what it is true, you know what I mean.
You're blinded. You feel like there's nobody else out there
for you, Like what did I do all? Why don't
they want me? It's hard for some people to let go.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
And then you think, well, if this is over, will
anybody else ever want me? And then that that becomes
a whole thing too, And then I think you you
block your blessings.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Yeah, I think the belief should be that somebody will
at some point. Self love and self worth is a
big thing that people need to get up on. Yeah,
I let anybody else dictate how much of a good
person that you.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
You got to date yourself and love yourself to find
anybody else like period. And I only know that because
I went through that for a while and I did
not love myself and it was not good there for
a little bit. But you know, once I got through
that bad breakup and I was like, you know what,
it's actually not that bad, and you do eventually find love.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Was this the last time around?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Yeah? Last time around got ugly? Yeah, because I think
once there's like you, if there's infidelities or something like that,
you kind of start to doubt yourself and who you are.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
You think like, well, I wasn't good.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Enough, and I have to imagine it's all it's almost
impossible not to compare yourself to the other person too.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Yeah, I mean I talk about this all time. It's
not it's no surprise. It's just we all hope that
our ex moves on with someone grotesque.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Don't lie to me, don't look me in the eye.
And tell me that you hope they move on with Beyonce.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
You don't. And for some reason, if you date me
models after.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
I guess I'm I guess I have the like a
Irish I don't know, uh, But either way, we're calling
it beyond this wipe now just because dating right now
is is, it's different, it's it's it's very interesting out there.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
So if you have a story to tell me about dating,
we tender Bumble, Her, Plenty of Fish, any of the
apps love to hear it. But maybe you're in a
relationship and you want to call and talk about that.
Maybe you want to tell a story of finding love
and a little bit of positivity in this crazy dating world.
Anything you want. That's why we call it beyond the
wipe now. Six one seven, nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
(02:54):
four five We're talking dating, love and relationships.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
It's beyond the swipe.
Speaker 6 (02:58):
Jam Dashly with jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's Soty Good Morning, goss.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Number one for hip hop. I am in ninety four
or five. I've abe's good morning.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
We are talking dating, love, relationships, Beyond the swipe. Raquel
and Somerville is gonna kick it off for us, Raquel,
It's not easy out there.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
It's it's it's tough. I get it.
Speaker 7 (03:21):
Not easy A preach a man. I'm saying, so, how
long have.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
We been single? And why why do you say you
think it's so hard.
Speaker 7 (03:30):
I've been seeing almost four years now, and honestly, I
love it, and I love myself and I've been dating
myself and everyone else and I see it. But it's
so hard because it's hard because you go on dates
with men and like they want to know if you're
dating and I say yes because I'm honest, and it's.
Speaker 8 (03:49):
Like aren't you and no, and I just believe that.
Speaker 7 (03:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (03:55):
I think everyone's dating everybody, and it's just like, let's.
Speaker 7 (03:58):
Just be honest. I'm gonna date, I'm gonna I'm gonna date.
I'm gonna date, and then.
Speaker 8 (04:01):
I'm gonna choose who is gonna feed me the most
and help me the most.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
So I don't like seed you like money wise or
your soul? Which one? We have to be specific out here,
we have to be specific. So so that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
So that's interesting to me that you feel like a
lot of times on these first dates, the guys are
asking you straight up are you dating other people?
Speaker 9 (04:28):
Girls?
Speaker 8 (04:29):
Straight up? Body count? Like what?
Speaker 10 (04:33):
Yeah, depends on the straight up I think.
Speaker 8 (04:36):
I'm like, what was the last time you had you know,
I'm like, somebody asked you on.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
The first date, when is the last time you had sex?
Speaker 8 (04:45):
I'm like, yeah, girl, oh my god, I've had the
funniest da.
Speaker 6 (04:48):
Before you shut.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
Up, don't listen all right, So let me ask you this.
You've been single for a while, what's the long just
you dated somebody?
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Like?
Speaker 4 (05:01):
How many dates can you can you string together?
Speaker 8 (05:05):
I'm dating someone right now that I think it has
a lot of potential, but like, sometimes things just happen,
and I'm like, really, give me an example.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Give me example of a moment that you've had with
this new guy that you're kind of into, or you've
been like, ugh, really.
Speaker 8 (05:24):
I don't know if I want to put it out
there like that, but like just simple things, just simple
things that almost like it makes me feel like a
mom instead of a girl, Like I have to tell
him certain things like like I don't know, for example,
I don't have to tell him this, so like get
up and brush your teeth, you know, like just I
don't know.
Speaker 11 (05:45):
I don't want to.
Speaker 8 (05:46):
I don't want to put him on blast, but yeah,
just things that annoy me.
Speaker 7 (05:50):
And I'm like, do I.
Speaker 8 (05:51):
Just go like is the grass always green?
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Or do I If you don't, I know, I understand.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Listen, the guy you didn't say his name, but if
you don't give us an example of something he's done
where I could be like, okay, maybe.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Then I can't help you. But I listen.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I hope that I hope that there are little things
that are small enough that you can get past them,
because you know, yeah, I know, it's nothing.
Speaker 7 (06:12):
Like cheating or like being disuccessful or it's just like
daily like.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Daily say it. Just give me one example, like driving
me not yeah, like is he not clean?
Speaker 8 (06:28):
I like he is clean.
Speaker 7 (06:30):
I wouldn't be dating if he wasn't.
Speaker 8 (06:32):
Just just stuff like just stuff that you would have
to tell teenage boy okay, yeah, you.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Know with hygiene. Okay, so he smells. He smells. That's
not something that's not.
Speaker 8 (06:46):
Something you guys like until they say it.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
We are journalists. The man doesn't wipe his butthole and
he smells.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Funny, Okay, all right, Raquel, Well and.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If you can get past the smells, then God bless you.
I'm pulling for you. And this this love question is hey, bira,
hell letting. No, the man is in shower, he doesn't
brush his teeth, and you skid marks.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
Like, here's the thing, Guys, You're not gonna call me
and be.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Like, well, there's this one thing that really sticks out,
but I can't say it.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
So then why are we doing this thing? Say the thing?
Because I can't dance with you and I want to.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Uh, Jimmy is in Dorchester, Jimmy, talk to me, Hi, Jimmy.
Speaker 12 (07:31):
Are you doing so?
Speaker 6 (07:33):
I think that I think that the lady that just
called nailed it on the like right on the nail,
because the reason why it's hard to date from people
these days, because everybody got their own agendas. She sat
there and said, clearly, who's gonna do the most for
me or feed me the most? That's the problem.
Speaker 12 (07:51):
I see.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
Anybody's different from twenty years ago than then what it
is today. I agree, no man gonna want to be
with nobody that's wanting wanting wanting, or who's gonna do
the most of me?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
That's I think the verbiage should have been like that
we could feed each other. And whenever you hear that
that like, oh that can feed me, I go right
to Okay, this woman is just trying to get literal
free dinners.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
But she meant like you feed her soul.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
But she should have said that we can feed each other,
you know what I mean, that we make each other
better type of thing. But I Jimmy, I think she'd
be tough to date too after that conversation.
Speaker 4 (08:24):
I stand with you. I stand with you on that
a lot, but a.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
Lot of women but a lot. This doesn't obtain to
me because I'm married. But this is from what I
see on the outside. Everybody has their own agenda. Everybody
wants something out of their relationship. It's not true, it's
transactional wanting something. Everybody wants something. Can we hair done,
nails done?
Speaker 1 (08:43):
All?
Speaker 6 (08:44):
We just not a week ago and we just met
the person a week ago. How do you expect to
get all of that from a man after a week
or two of dating them?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, I want all those things and I pay
for them myself. So I do think that there are
people out there like genuinely that's the.
Speaker 6 (08:57):
Type of woman, that's the type of woman a man wants.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
I knows what I'm trying.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
It's Jimmy in the morning shop my best jim Listen,
I want to say this. I have friends right that
are out there and they are in the dating world,
and they are they are nothing like that that last conversation.
They're literally looking for a real relationship and love. They
live by themselves, they take care of themselves. They're not
like looking for those things like those girls are out there.
Maybe they're a few and far between, but they're out there.
(09:26):
AJ's one.
Speaker 6 (09:27):
They're out there a lot. I think it's like fifty
to fifty. Okay, are chim for the people like the
people that you're saying and half of the women that
I'm saying, that's all I see nowadays is women wanting
seat done, hair done, nails done, trips out of you know,
plane trips and stuff, right, and then they want to
have a relationship after. That's not going to work that way.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
And I can't fight you on that because I see
I do see some of those girls out there too,
and it's a shame because there are other ones who
really do just want to find love. But Jimmy, thank
you for the call. We got a ton of other
lines lighting up. We're doing beyond the swipe right now.
But this this listen, it's turned into a vent sash.
That's why we just couldn't call it tender Tuesday. Guys,
let's vent. Let's let's get some things off of our chest.
(10:07):
Six one seven nine three one five six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. At this point,
we're pretty much talking about dating right now in America.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
It's not a good climate out there. It's freezing.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Hi, everybody, good morning, It's Ashy the gym of morning show.
We're doing beyond the swipe. We're talking the climate of
dating out there. I feel like the conversation has kind
of turned it. Let me tell you, I see as hell.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
It's frizing out there. So we're learning. Gabby is in Boston.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Dad, I can not even believe this, But you went
on two dates with an older man?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
What I need an age here? How old are you
and how old was he?
Speaker 10 (10:47):
So I'm twenty five at that point, I was twenty four.
It was last year, and he's like thirty four. And
you would think that the older guys got it together,
but o're terrible.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Tell everybody what he what he said to you on
date number two.
Speaker 10 (11:02):
So it was fine, Like the first day was great.
We had great conversation. You know, he has his stuff
going on. I had my stuff going on, and I,
you know, I had a little bit too much to drink,
but I was still good. And I just remember at
one point he was like, oh, okay, you know, we can
go back to the car and just talk and get
to know each other more. And I said cool, and
out of nowhere, like I started getting really tired, and
(11:26):
he was basically using my phone and trying to like
open up my phone using space ID. But I didn't
realize it until the next morning because I woke up
and I'm starting to remember all these things, and I
called him and I'm like, were you trying to like
go through my phone? And he was like, yeah, I
have to see who you're talking to? Like, was it
was crazy? ID to let him go back.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Do you feel like you put something in your drink?
Is that what you're insinuating?
Speaker 10 (11:53):
I don't think he put I'm not sure, honestly, I
really don't. I mean, you never know what people. But
I just find it so weird because this was a
year ago and he's still like I've watched him and
he still like leaves me like creepy voicemails. Like two
weeks ago he sent me a voicemail telling me to
unblock him and all these crazy things.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
You might want to get a restraining order on that
when that sounds a little bit much for me.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
And the fact that you were trying to go through
your phone on the second to se if you're talking
to anybody else is so weird, Gabby. Things for the call,
the sentiment of are you dating anybody else on date
one or day two is diabolical, Like what do you mean?
Speaker 4 (12:31):
I'm yes, I'm dating, That's why I'm here.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
The crazy part is that they take offense to it
because you're all there doing the same exact thing.
Speaker 12 (12:37):
Right, you should be to date like other people.
Speaker 4 (12:39):
That's weird.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
He just wants to be serial datas out here, right,
because they just want you to themselves and they want
to be outside in the streets.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
Michelle is in Levenster, Hi, Michelle, Hi.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
So Jimmy called, and Jimmy was passionate and he was
just like, listen to all these females out here in
the dating world. They just want trips, They want their
nails done, their lashes, their hair. And I said, do
I think that that is true? Do I think there
are some women like that? Absolutely? But do I think
I have?
Speaker 6 (13:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:07):
But also I think like I have friends, there's an
eight there's AJ's of the world that really are on
the the apps trying to find true love.
Speaker 11 (13:17):
That's right, So what is your point? My point of
view is this. I think there are women like that
all over the place. But I think there are guys
all over the place that are all about their Richard
first thing and foremost, and that's all they care about.
Speaker 12 (13:33):
Is there what not one thing?
Speaker 4 (13:38):
They're Richard?
Speaker 11 (13:39):
Okay, yes, they're Richard, and it's the first thing.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
You know.
Speaker 11 (13:43):
You're on the dating app. You just got talking ten
minutes ago, and they're sending you pictures, you know what.
I'm not about that, And if I was about it,
I wouldn't be on a dating app looking for you.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
I do kind of agree with Michelle, because I mean,
for men, it's it's kind of been a stereotype that
men only want one thing, especially on these eating sites.
Speaker 11 (14:00):
Right.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, And I feel like there's been a revolution of
women in the last I don't even know how many
iss what they were like, you know what, if that,
we're gonna start acting like dudes and we're gonna start
demanding the same thing.
Speaker 12 (14:10):
So yeah, if you want to date me, you gotta
buy me nails.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
You gotta take me out to an expensive dinner, you
gotta buy me a bag, and not just become this
whole other things.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
It's just weird.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Like you'll see a conversation where the girl or the
guy's like hey, and the girl's like hey, what's up?
And then the guys like, I want to motorboat you.
You know, I just like right right right to it. Yeah,
maybe maybe maybe that's my favorite color.
Speaker 4 (14:32):
I don't know.
Speaker 11 (14:34):
Oh my god, no, I know. I mean I didn't
even know what no motivo once closing.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
You're sick now you love it, right, Michelle?
Speaker 11 (14:43):
I would never I don't even understand.
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Never call you stupid, Michelle. How old are you, bab.
Speaker 11 (14:48):
I'm sixty two.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
You're sixty two.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
And you're single, and you're trying to find love O here,
and then all these richards just want to show you
their richards.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
I get it.
Speaker 11 (14:56):
Yeah yeah, and I'm not about it. I'm not about
it at all, gentlemen, And I will I absolutely will,
and I thank you very much.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
All right, No, I thank you, Michelle. I just got
a flash. I just got like a flash forward of AG's.
Speaker 5 (15:09):
That's that's theirs, AG's sixty two.
Speaker 12 (15:11):
Like I'm sick of these retorts question, especially for a right.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Wouldn't you rather somebody just be honest with you from
the jump so you don't waste your time trying.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
As in, hey, I just want to have sex with you,
that's it.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
As opposed to me trying to saurenade you. And I
know what my ad goal is is to try to
get you know, to clap that.
Speaker 12 (15:27):
And should I just say it from jump Street?
Speaker 9 (15:30):
I mean yes, if that, But there's other ways to
say it than like messaging someone and being like, hey,
can I make your eyes roll back tonight?
Speaker 4 (15:36):
Like whoa?
Speaker 12 (15:37):
I like that line.
Speaker 9 (15:40):
That you say to somebody that's aggressive.
Speaker 10 (15:42):
I fail you.
Speaker 4 (15:43):
So how would you know?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
You and I have talked about this, like Foreign, I
think we've made it very clear, like Foreign is a
freak in the bedroom.
Speaker 4 (15:49):
He likes certain things. You're not going to come out
of the game with that.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
You gotta warm up and then you get the feeling
from the female if you can say those.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
But at the same time, if I'm just here for
a good time and not a long time, I'm I'm gone,
I'm gonna lead that conversation. I'm gonna be very flirtatious.
I might be very sexual in my flirt like you're
gonna know what time I'm on, you know what I mean.
I'm not gonna be like, hey, you know you look nice,
let me take you out to dinner, let's know, because
I don't want to. That's not what I want. I
don't want a long term relationship. So I think a
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lot of these guys and maybe women, they just eat
that up and be like, hey, yo, this is going
to be a long term thing. And then when they
when they give it up and they don't call you
no more, you wonder why.
Speaker 9 (16:25):
But if that is what a guy is looking for,
list it on your profile, because I will not swipe
right on someone who says they are looking for short
term fun. But when they list that they're looking for
a long term relationship, and that's the first thing they
come out with in the conversation, that's frustrated.
Speaker 12 (16:41):
I've been said it. These apps are all just for
just for hookups.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
I feel, I know but then I could give the
number and say call me if you found love on
the app, and every line of light.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
That will be that will be one out of maybe
twenty people, one out of ten people. I feel the
majority is going to be this guy played me or
this check play me, and they just wanted one thing
and they left me high and dry, and then you'll
catch the one, you know, lighting the.
Speaker 12 (17:04):
Bout it be like, oh yeah, I found love. Okay, cool,
but that's very rare.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
I'm not saying it's easy. I'm not, but I'm with ash, like,
oh put that, put that in your profile. If you're
just trying to get it in and then then that's fine.
But don't you know poor Michelle.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
Sixty two years years old and is getting unsolicited penis picks?
What's what's wrong with this one
Formerly known as Tender Tuesday. We call it Beyond the
Swipe now, just because this segment certainly does encompass so
much more than just somebody swiping on tender. We've had
people calling, Hey, I'm in a relationship and I'm going
through ABC and D. What's your advice? You know, I,
(00:27):
without naming names, know some people that are going through
whether it's divorce on the horizon or a breakup, and
I can tell that the sentiment is the same. It's
I am afraid of what's out there because all we
ever hear are these horror stories.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
You know, but it's crazy to think that somebody would
stay in a bad relationship instead of exploring like the
freedom and positivity that could be out there.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
And when you're stuck in that situation, you don't see
for what it is true, you know what I mean.
You're blinded. You feel like there's nobody else out there
for you, Like what did I do all? Why don't
they want me? It's hard for some people to let go.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
And then you think, well, if this is over, will
anybody else ever want me? And then that that becomes
a whole thing too, And then I think you you
block your blessings.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Yeah, I think the belief should be that somebody will
at some point. Self love and self worth is a
big thing that people need to get up on. Yeah,
I let anybody else dictate how much of a good
person that you.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
You got to date yourself and love yourself to find
anybody else like period. And I only know that because
I went through that for a while and I did
not love myself and it was not good there for
a little bit. But you know, once I got through
that bad breakup and I was like, you know what,
it's actually not that bad, and you do eventually find love.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Was this the last time around?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
Yeah? Last time around got ugly? Yeah, because I think
once there's like you, if there's infidelities or something like that,
you kind of start to doubt yourself and who you are.
Speaker 4 (01:52):
You think like, well, I wasn't good.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Enough, and I have to imagine it's all it's almost
impossible not to compare yourself to the other person too.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Yeah, I mean I talk about this all time. It's
not it's no surprise. It's just we all hope that
our ex moves on with someone grotesque.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Don't lie to me, don't look me in the eye.
And tell me that you hope they move on with Beyonce.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
You don't. And for some reason, if you date me
models after.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
I guess I'm I guess I have the like a
Irish I don't know, uh, But either way, we're calling
it beyond this wipe now just because dating right now
is is, it's different, it's it's it's very interesting out there.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
So if you have a story to tell me about dating,
we tender Bumble, Her, Plenty of Fish, any of the
apps love to hear it. But maybe you're in a
relationship and you want to call and talk about that.
Maybe you want to tell a story of finding love
and a little bit of positivity in this crazy dating world.
Anything you want. That's why we call it beyond the
wipe now. Six one seven, nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
(02:54):
four five We're talking dating, love and relationships.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
It's beyond the swipe.
Speaker 6 (02:58):
Jam Dashly with jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's Soty Good Morning, goss.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Number one for hip hop. I am in ninety four
or five. I've abe's good morning.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
We are talking dating, love, relationships, Beyond the swipe. Raquel
and Somerville is gonna kick it off for us, Raquel,
It's not easy out there.
Speaker 4 (03:19):
It's it's it's tough. I get it.
Speaker 7 (03:21):
Not easy A preach a man. I'm saying, so, how
long have.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
We been single? And why why do you say you
think it's so hard.
Speaker 7 (03:30):
I've been seeing almost four years now, and honestly, I
love it, and I love myself and I've been dating
myself and everyone else and I see it. But it's
so hard because it's hard because you go on dates
with men and like they want to know if you're
dating and I say yes because I'm honest, and it's.
Speaker 8 (03:49):
Like aren't you and no, and I just believe that.
Speaker 7 (03:54):
I don't know.
Speaker 8 (03:55):
I think everyone's dating everybody, and it's just like, let's.
Speaker 7 (03:58):
Just be honest. I'm gonna date, I'm gonna I'm gonna date.
I'm gonna date, and then.
Speaker 8 (04:01):
I'm gonna choose who is gonna feed me the most
and help me the most.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
So I don't like seed you like money wise or
your soul? Which one? We have to be specific out here,
we have to be specific. So so that's interesting.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
So that's interesting to me that you feel like a
lot of times on these first dates, the guys are
asking you straight up are you dating other people?
Speaker 9 (04:28):
Girls?
Speaker 8 (04:29):
Straight up? Body count? Like what?
Speaker 10 (04:33):
Yeah, depends on the straight up I think.
Speaker 8 (04:36):
I'm like, what was the last time you had you know,
I'm like, somebody asked you on.
Speaker 4 (04:42):
The first date, when is the last time you had sex?
Speaker 8 (04:45):
I'm like, yeah, girl, oh my god, I've had the
funniest da.
Speaker 6 (04:48):
Before you shut.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
Up, don't listen all right, So let me ask you this.
You've been single for a while, what's the long just
you dated somebody?
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Like?
Speaker 4 (05:01):
How many dates can you can you string together?
Speaker 8 (05:05):
I'm dating someone right now that I think it has
a lot of potential, but like, sometimes things just happen,
and I'm like, really, give me an example.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Give me example of a moment that you've had with
this new guy that you're kind of into, or you've
been like, ugh, really.
Speaker 8 (05:24):
I don't know if I want to put it out
there like that, but like just simple things, just simple
things that almost like it makes me feel like a
mom instead of a girl, Like I have to tell
him certain things like like I don't know, for example,
I don't have to tell him this, so like get
up and brush your teeth, you know, like just I
don't know.
Speaker 11 (05:45):
I don't want to.
Speaker 8 (05:46):
I don't want to put him on blast, but yeah,
just things that annoy me.
Speaker 7 (05:50):
And I'm like, do I.
Speaker 8 (05:51):
Just go like is the grass always green?
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Or do I If you don't, I know, I understand.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Listen, the guy you didn't say his name, but if
you don't give us an example of something he's done
where I could be like, okay, maybe.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Then I can't help you. But I listen.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I hope that I hope that there are little things
that are small enough that you can get past them,
because you know, yeah, I know, it's nothing.
Speaker 7 (06:12):
Like cheating or like being disuccessful or it's just like
daily like.
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Daily say it. Just give me one example, like driving
me not yeah, like is he not clean?
Speaker 8 (06:28):
I like he is clean.
Speaker 7 (06:30):
I wouldn't be dating if he wasn't.
Speaker 8 (06:32):
Just just stuff like just stuff that you would have
to tell teenage boy okay, yeah, you.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Know with hygiene. Okay, so he smells. He smells. That's
not something that's not.
Speaker 8 (06:46):
Something you guys like until they say it.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
We are journalists. The man doesn't wipe his butthole and
he smells.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Funny, Okay, all right, Raquel, Well and.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
If you can get past the smells, then God bless you.
I'm pulling for you. And this this love question is hey, bira,
hell letting. No, the man is in shower, he doesn't
brush his teeth, and you skid marks.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
Like, here's the thing, Guys, You're not gonna call me
and be.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Like, well, there's this one thing that really sticks out,
but I can't say it.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
So then why are we doing this thing? Say the thing?
Because I can't dance with you and I want to.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Uh, Jimmy is in Dorchester, Jimmy, talk to me, Hi, Jimmy.
Speaker 12 (07:31):
Are you doing so?
Speaker 6 (07:33):
I think that I think that the lady that just
called nailed it on the like right on the nail,
because the reason why it's hard to date from people
these days, because everybody got their own agendas. She sat
there and said, clearly, who's gonna do the most for
me or feed me the most? That's the problem.
Speaker 12 (07:51):
I see.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
Anybody's different from twenty years ago than then what it
is today. I agree, no man gonna want to be
with nobody that's wanting wanting wanting, or who's gonna do
the most of me?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
That's I think the verbiage should have been like that
we could feed each other. And whenever you hear that
that like, oh that can feed me, I go right
to Okay, this woman is just trying to get literal
free dinners.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
But she meant like you feed her soul.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
But she should have said that we can feed each other,
you know what I mean, that we make each other
better type of thing. But I Jimmy, I think she'd
be tough to date too after that conversation.
Speaker 4 (08:24):
I stand with you. I stand with you on that
a lot, but a.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
Lot of women but a lot. This doesn't obtain to
me because I'm married. But this is from what I
see on the outside. Everybody has their own agenda. Everybody
wants something out of their relationship. It's not true, it's
transactional wanting something. Everybody wants something. Can we hair done,
nails done?
Speaker 1 (08:43):
All?
Speaker 6 (08:44):
We just not a week ago and we just met
the person a week ago. How do you expect to
get all of that from a man after a week
or two of dating them?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, I want all those things and I pay
for them myself. So I do think that there are
people out there like genuinely that's the.
Speaker 6 (08:57):
Type of woman, that's the type of woman a man wants.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
I knows what I'm trying.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
It's Jimmy in the morning shop my best jim Listen,
I want to say this. I have friends right that
are out there and they are in the dating world,
and they are they are nothing like that that last conversation.
They're literally looking for a real relationship and love. They
live by themselves, they take care of themselves. They're not
like looking for those things like those girls are out there.
Maybe they're a few and far between, but they're out there.
(09:26):
AJ's one.
Speaker 6 (09:27):
They're out there a lot. I think it's like fifty
to fifty. Okay, are chim for the people like the
people that you're saying and half of the women that
I'm saying, that's all I see nowadays is women wanting
seat done, hair done, nails done, trips out of you know,
plane trips and stuff, right, and then they want to
have a relationship after. That's not going to work that way.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
And I can't fight you on that because I see
I do see some of those girls out there too,
and it's a shame because there are other ones who
really do just want to find love. But Jimmy, thank
you for the call. We got a ton of other
lines lighting up. We're doing beyond the swipe right now.
But this this listen, it's turned into a vent sash.
That's why we just couldn't call it tender Tuesday. Guys,
let's vent. Let's let's get some things off of our chest.
(10:07):
Six one seven nine three one five six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. At this point,
we're pretty much talking about dating right now in America.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
It's not a good climate out there. It's freezing.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Hi, everybody, good morning, It's Ashy the gym of morning show.
We're doing beyond the swipe. We're talking the climate of
dating out there. I feel like the conversation has kind
of turned it. Let me tell you, I see as hell.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
It's frizing out there. So we're learning. Gabby is in Boston.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Dad, I can not even believe this, But you went
on two dates with an older man?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
What I need an age here? How old are you
and how old was he?
Speaker 10 (10:47):
So I'm twenty five at that point, I was twenty four.
It was last year, and he's like thirty four. And
you would think that the older guys got it together,
but o're terrible.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Tell everybody what he what he said to you on
date number two.
Speaker 10 (11:02):
So it was fine, Like the first day was great.
We had great conversation. You know, he has his stuff
going on. I had my stuff going on, and I,
you know, I had a little bit too much to drink,
but I was still good. And I just remember at
one point he was like, oh, okay, you know, we can
go back to the car and just talk and get
to know each other more. And I said cool, and
out of nowhere, like I started getting really tired, and
(11:26):
he was basically using my phone and trying to like
open up my phone using space ID. But I didn't
realize it until the next morning because I woke up
and I'm starting to remember all these things, and I
called him and I'm like, were you trying to like
go through my phone? And he was like, yeah, I
have to see who you're talking to? Like, was it
was crazy? ID to let him go back.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
Do you feel like you put something in your drink?
Is that what you're insinuating?
Speaker 10 (11:53):
I don't think he put I'm not sure, honestly, I
really don't. I mean, you never know what people. But
I just find it so weird because this was a
year ago and he's still like I've watched him and
he still like leaves me like creepy voicemails. Like two
weeks ago he sent me a voicemail telling me to
unblock him and all these crazy things.
Speaker 4 (12:14):
You might want to get a restraining order on that
when that sounds a little bit much for me.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
And the fact that you were trying to go through
your phone on the second to se if you're talking
to anybody else is so weird, Gabby. Things for the call,
the sentiment of are you dating anybody else on date
one or day two is diabolical, Like what do you mean?
Speaker 4 (12:31):
I'm yes, I'm dating, That's why I'm here.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
The crazy part is that they take offense to it
because you're all there doing the same exact thing.
Speaker 12 (12:37):
Right, you should be to date like other people.
Speaker 4 (12:39):
That's weird.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
He just wants to be serial datas out here, right,
because they just want you to themselves and they want
to be outside in the streets.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
Michelle is in Levenster, Hi, Michelle, Hi.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
So Jimmy called, and Jimmy was passionate and he was
just like, listen to all these females out here in
the dating world. They just want trips, They want their
nails done, their lashes, their hair. And I said, do
I think that that is true? Do I think there
are some women like that? Absolutely? But do I think
I have?
Speaker 6 (13:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:07):
But also I think like I have friends, there's an
eight there's AJ's of the world that really are on
the the apps trying to find true love.
Speaker 11 (13:17):
That's right, So what is your point? My point of
view is this. I think there are women like that
all over the place. But I think there are guys
all over the place that are all about their Richard
first thing and foremost, and that's all they care about.
Speaker 12 (13:33):
Is there what not one thing?
Speaker 4 (13:38):
They're Richard?
Speaker 11 (13:39):
Okay, yes, they're Richard, and it's the first thing.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
You know.
Speaker 11 (13:43):
You're on the dating app. You just got talking ten
minutes ago, and they're sending you pictures, you know what.
I'm not about that, And if I was about it,
I wouldn't be on a dating app looking for you.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
I do kind of agree with Michelle, because I mean,
for men, it's it's kind of been a stereotype that
men only want one thing, especially on these eating sites.
Speaker 11 (14:00):
Right.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Yeah, And I feel like there's been a revolution of
women in the last I don't even know how many
iss what they were like, you know what, if that,
we're gonna start acting like dudes and we're gonna start
demanding the same thing.
Speaker 12 (14:10):
So yeah, if you want to date me, you gotta
buy me nails.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
You gotta take me out to an expensive dinner, you
gotta buy me a bag, and not just become this
whole other things.
Speaker 4 (14:19):
It's just weird.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Like you'll see a conversation where the girl or the
guy's like hey, and the girl's like hey, what's up?
And then the guys like, I want to motorboat you.
You know, I just like right right right to it. Yeah,
maybe maybe maybe that's my favorite color.
Speaker 4 (14:32):
I don't know.
Speaker 11 (14:34):
Oh my god, no, I know. I mean I didn't
even know what no motivo once closing.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
You're sick now you love it, right, Michelle?
Speaker 11 (14:43):
I would never I don't even understand.
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Never call you stupid, Michelle. How old are you, bab.
Speaker 11 (14:48):
I'm sixty two.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
You're sixty two.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
And you're single, and you're trying to find love O here,
and then all these richards just want to show you
their richards.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
I get it.
Speaker 11 (14:56):
Yeah yeah, and I'm not about it. I'm not about
it at all, gentlemen, And I will I absolutely will,
and I thank you very much.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
All right, No, I thank you, Michelle. I just got
a flash. I just got like a flash forward of AG's.
Speaker 5 (15:09):
That's that's theirs, AG's sixty two.
Speaker 12 (15:11):
Like I'm sick of these retorts question, especially for a right.
Speaker 3 (15:15):
Wouldn't you rather somebody just be honest with you from
the jump so you don't waste your time trying.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
As in, hey, I just want to have sex with you,
that's it.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
As opposed to me trying to saurenade you. And I
know what my ad goal is is to try to
get you know, to clap that.
Speaker 12 (15:27):
And should I just say it from jump Street?
Speaker 9 (15:30):
I mean yes, if that, But there's other ways to
say it than like messaging someone and being like, hey,
can I make your eyes roll back tonight?
Speaker 4 (15:36):
Like whoa?
Speaker 12 (15:37):
I like that line.
Speaker 9 (15:40):
That you say to somebody that's aggressive.
Speaker 10 (15:42):
I fail you.
Speaker 4 (15:43):
So how would you know?
Speaker 1 (15:44):
You and I have talked about this, like Foreign, I
think we've made it very clear, like Foreign is a
freak in the bedroom.
Speaker 4 (15:49):
He likes certain things. You're not going to come out
of the game with that.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
You gotta warm up and then you get the feeling
from the female if you can say those.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
But at the same time, if I'm just here for
a good time and not a long time, I'm I'm gone,
I'm gonna lead that conversation. I'm gonna be very flirtatious.
I might be very sexual in my flirt like you're
gonna know what time I'm on, you know what I mean.
I'm not gonna be like, hey, you know you look nice,
let me take you out to dinner, let's know, because
I don't want to. That's not what I want. I
don't want a long term relationship. So I think a
(16:17):
lot of these guys and maybe women, they just eat
that up and be like, hey, yo, this is going
to be a long term thing. And then when they
when they give it up and they don't call you
no more, you wonder why.
Speaker 9 (16:25):
But if that is what a guy is looking for,
list it on your profile, because I will not swipe
right on someone who says they are looking for short
term fun. But when they list that they're looking for
a long term relationship, and that's the first thing they
come out with in the conversation, that's frustrated.
Speaker 12 (16:41):
I've been said it. These apps are all just for
just for hookups.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
I feel, I know but then I could give the
number and say call me if you found love on
the app, and every line of light.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
That will be that will be one out of maybe
twenty people, one out of ten people. I feel the
majority is going to be this guy played me or
this check play me, and they just wanted one thing
and they left me high and dry, and then you'll
catch the one, you know, lighting the.
Speaker 12 (17:04):
Bout it be like, oh yeah, I found love. Okay, cool,
but that's very rare.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
I'm not saying it's easy. I'm not, but I'm with ash, like,
oh put that, put that in your profile. If you're
just trying to get it in and then then that's fine.
But don't you know poor Michelle.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
Sixty two years years old and is getting unsolicited penis picks?
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