What do you do when life hands you a story you never asked for?
Ray Hartjen is a writer, musician, father, and cancer patient who didn’t just survive a diagnosis—he rewrote the narrative. After learning he had multiple myeloma, an incurable blood cancer, Ray chose to reframe instead of retreat. In this episode of A Joyful Rebellion, we explore how a routine blood test cracked his world open—and how he rebuilt it with music, meaning, and the mantra, If not now, when?
We talk about the emotional toll of illness, the power of perspective, and the roles we take on when everything changes. Ray shares what it means to show up fully, how support groups shaped his recovery, and why he believes in “punching the day in the face.” Whether you're facing a life detour or just waiting to start the next chapter, this conversation is a powerful reminder that clarity often follows chaos—and it’s never too late to begin again.
Show Notes & Chapters
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[00:00] Opening reflection: Clarity after crisis
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[01:00] Meet Ray Hartjen: writer, musician, father—and cancer patient
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[03:00] A routine blood test leads to a life-changing diagnosis
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[06:00] What 90% bone marrow cancer looks like when you feel “fine”
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[08:00] Reframing the story: Same roles, new lens
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[10:00] The “mixing board” model of healing: mind, body, spirit
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[12:00] The timeline exercise that redefined his urgency
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[15:00] “If not now, when?”—and the motto that lit a fire
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[17:00] Book 1: Immaculate and the Steelers’ role in Pittsburgh’s revival
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[20:00] Why big dreams require small steps
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[22:00] Advice for anyone with a full journal and an unfinished dream
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[24:00] What support groups reveal about the healing journey
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[26:00] From patient to advocate: reaching back to pull others forward
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[28:00] Hesitations, control, and why vulnerability builds strength
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[30:00] What not to say—and what to say instead when offering help
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[33:00] Book 2: The Indy 500 and chasing long-held passions
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[35:00] Making music, dreaming bigger, and playing Vegas
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[37:00] The hardest conversation: telling his daughter
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[40:00] Grace, grit, and why the world needs your story
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[43:00] Final encouragement: “You are stronger than you think”
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Website: rayhartjen.com
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Book: Me, Myself, and My Multiple Myeloma
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Book: Immaculate: How the Steelers Saved Pittsburgh
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Book: The Indy 500: A Year-Long Quest… (coming soon)
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Connect on social: @rayhartjen (except TikTok: @rayhartjen5)
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Email: rayhartjen@gmail.com
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