In this episode of After the Affair, Luke Shillings explores how relationships, like technology, need regular updates to stay in sync.
Just like your phone’s apps and software need upgrades to keep functioning smoothly, relationships also require personal growth and communication to thrive over time.
If you and your partner aren’t growing together, you risk falling out of sync, feeling disconnected, and losing that emotional intimacy.
Luke discusses why relationships tend to slow down or feel “glitchy” when one person grows and the other doesn’t, and how personal growth is the key to getting back on track.
He emphasises the importance of open communication, self-awareness, and adaptability in keeping your relationship feeling fresh, connected, and strong.
Key Topics Covered:
- Why Relationships Need Regular Updates
- Just like technology, relationships fall out of sync without continuous growth and change.
- Emotional Growth & Disconnection
- How one person’s personal growth can create distance if the other isn’t adapting or growing alongside them.
- The Key to Staying in Sync
- Personal growth, communication, and emotional awareness are the ultimate “relationship updates.”
- Why New Relationships Aren’t the Answer
- Feeling disconnected doesn’t mean finding a new partner, it means making sure you’re growing together in the relationship you already have.
- How to Apply Updates in Your Relationship
- Self-awareness, open communication, and growing together to maintain a strong connection.
Reflective Question:
Have you noticed your relationship feeling out of sync lately? What’s one personal or relationship “update” you can focus on this week to get things back on track?
If your relationship feels stuck, it might be time for an emotional update. Tune in to learn how personal growth and communication can help you reconnect and stay in sync, no matter what stage of your relationship you're in.
Connect with Luke:
- Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
- Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
- Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com
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