161. Workplace Affairs: Why They Happen and How to Heal When They Do

Work is supposed to be a place of focus, structure, and shared goals, not secrecy and heartbreak.

Yet, for many couples, the workplace becomes the unexpected setting for infidelity.

In this episode, Luke explores why workplace affairs are so common, how emotional connections can quietly blur into something deeper, and what both partners can do when the affair partner still works in the same environment.

You’ll learn how proximity, power, and emotional displacement create conditions for connection, and how awareness, honesty, and intentional healing can turn even the most triggering situation into an opportunity for growth.

  Key Takeaways

• Workplace affairs rarely start with attraction. They often begin with emotional connection, validation, empathy, and shared stress that slowly cross invisible boundaries.
• Proximity and permission create risk. Daily collaboration, late nights, and private communication can normalise intimacy that feels justified as “just work.”
• Warning signs appear long before discovery. Emotional secrecy, defensiveness, and subtle boundary shifts are often early indicators of displaced energy.
• When the affair partner still works there, safety becomes the priority. Rebuilding trust means removing ambiguity, not enforcing control. Transparency and consistent behaviour restore stability over time.
• Healing is possible, even when the environment can’t change. It begins by creating safety within yourself, not waiting for perfect circumstances.

  Dealing with this alone?

If you’re living in the aftermath of betrayal, especially when contact or reminders still exist, you don’t have to navigate this alone.

Through 1:1 coaching and The After the Affair Collective, Luke helps individuals move from surviving to rebuilding, with clarity, calm, and confidence.

Because healing isn’t about returning to who you were… it’s about becoming who you were always meant to be.

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