165. I'm Doing Therapy… So Why Am I Still Stuck?

If you’ve been going to therapy after betrayal and still don’t feel any better, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

Most people stabilise through therapy but then hit a wall. They can explain the affair, understand their childhood patterns, name their triggers… and still wake up every day feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or completely stuck.

In this episode, Luke breaks down why this happens, and it has nothing to do with failure or inadequacy.

You’ll learn how betrayal dysregulates the nervous system, why therapy is essential but not always enough on its own, and the specific ways coaching creates the forward momentum you’re craving.

Luke also shares a powerful analogy about the rope and the hole, illustrating how therapy helps you climb out of crisis, while coaching equips you with the tools to move forward once you’re out.

If you’ve ever thought, “I understand what happened… so why can’t I heal?” this episode will finally make things click.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Betrayal triggers a physiological trauma response, your nervous system needs stabilising first.
• Therapy helps you understand and process the pain, but insight alone doesn’t create movement.
• Feeling stuck after therapy is normal, it simply means you’re ready for the next phase.
• Coaching bridges the gap between “I understand” and “I’m changing.”
• Forward movement isn’t dramatic, it’s seen in micro-shifts, not giant leaps.
• You know you’re ready to rebuild when you’re stable, curious, and wanting clarity more than comfort.

Connect & Continue the Journey

If therapy has helped you stabilise, but you’re ready for clarity, confidence, and forward movement, Luke can help you bridge that gap.

Explore one-to-one coaching or join The After the Affair Collective at lifecoachluke.com, where you’ll learn the tools to rebuild trust in yourself and move forward with intention.

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: [e-mail]