When you hear the word surrender, what comes to mind?
Does it feel like defeat, like giving up?
We often see surrender as weakness. And for those who like to control everything, surrender seems counterintuitive.
Our instinct is to protect ourselves. Both spouses often resist and hide from the painful path to healing.
In a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, the fear is that giving up control means being taken advantage of or losing importance in the relationship.
But surrendering your marriage to God is not about giving up. It’s about loosening your grip and trusting in someone greater.
When the infidelity bomb blew up our marriage, we were scared and confused, putting up shields to protect ourselves from each other’s pain.
Until, we chose to surrender—not to each other’s flaws, but to God’s plan for us.
When we stopped striving for our own desired outcomes and handed it over to God, everything changed.
Now, God did not erase the pain, but He guided us through it—revealing truths, healing wounds, and rebuilding trust step by step.
In today's episode, we go deep into what it looks like to surrender and how God used this step of faith in our marriage to create something beautiful.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity
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