Dr. Perpetua Neo: How to Overcome Toxic Codependency, Own Your Identity, & Demand Better in Life

Are you downplaying yourself without realising it? Do you struggle to set boundaries, assert your needs, or confidently own who you are?

In this powerful Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Perpetua Neo, we explore why self-confidence isn’t just about being bold—it’s about knowing who you are and standing in that truth. We unpack why many people, especially women, feel pressured to soften their presence and avoid being seen as ‘too much’—and how that impacts relationships, work, and self-worth.

This episode also dives into codependency—what it really looks like beyond the stereotypes, why even high-achievers can fall into codependent patterns, and how to break free from relationships where you feel like you’re giving too much.

If you’re ready to step into your power, reclaim your voice, and build relationships from a place of confidence—this episode is a must-listen.

🔔 Don’t forget to check out Part 1 if you haven’t already!

 

SHOWNOTES -

00:00:00 - Episode Introduction

00:02:10 - Why confidence starts with clarity about your identity

00:04:24 - Why boldness is often perceived as aggression

00:08:00 - The fine line between being approachable & shrinking yourself

00:11:45 - Cultural pride & why people struggle to defend their identity

00:19:47 - How owning your identity can strengthen your character

00:24:10 - How to approach religious and cultural exploration

00:28:10 - How cultural pride translates to self-worth

00:35:55 - What is codependency & why it’s so misunderstood

00:40:20 - The hidden struggles of high-functioning codependents

00:44:45 - Why some successful, independent people fall into toxic relationships

00:52:42 - Tolerating bad behaviour from loved ones

00:55:15 - Spotting toxic patterns & narratives that keep you trapped

01:04:00 - Why it’s so hard to exit bad situations (even when we know we should)

01:11:05 - Emotional audit, emotional regulation & removing energy drains

01:17:00 - Final words & resources

 

CONNECT WITH DR. PERPETUA NEO - 

Dr. Perpetua Neo's Work for Mindbodygreen - https://www.mindbodygreen.com/wc/dr-perpetua-neo

This Is What Matters By Perpetua Neo - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/This-Is-What-Matters/Perpetua-Neo/9781507218525

Website - https://www.perpetuaneo.com/

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/perpetuaneo/

 

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