April 18, 2025 • 10 mins
Everything you need to be happy is already within you.
Join me in today's episode of Feel Your Feelings as we discuss happiness - some common misconceptions, my own personal experience with finding happiness, and how your mental health recovery is waiting within you.
Music: "Ethan Jewell"
Website: www.ethanjewell.com
IG: @jewellboi_
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(00:00):
When I think about finding happiness, I think about being
20 years old and so depressed. And I knew that I had to find a
way out of that depression. And if I didn't find a way out,
if I didn't find happiness, I would find my own way out.
And I knew I couldn't do that. I couldn't do that to my dog.
I couldn't do that to my family.So I started searching for
happiness anywhere and everywhere that I could look.
(00:22):
I started looking for it in plane tickets and in big cities
and new experiences in in biggerand bigger achievements.
But all I found was emptiness. I would find beauty everywhere
else, but I couldn't find it within me.
And that's when I came to terms with a really unfortunate truth.
(00:43):
Happiness is not in plane tickets.
It's not in new experiences. It's not in big cities or big
achievements, it's within you. My name is Ethan Jewell and
welcome back to Feel Your Feelings.
(01:03):
Thank you so much for joining metoday.
I'm going to be reflecting a little bit on my own personal
journey, trying to find happiness, looking absolutely
everywhere. How I still look for it today,
but instead I look for it with anew perspective.
And that perspective is the fact, and it's a very
unfortunate truth. The happiness is already within
you. And until you find it within
(01:24):
yourself, you will not find it anywhere else.
You won't find it in other people.
You won't find it in in flashy achievements, in money, in the
things and experiences. Until you find it within
yourself, you will keep searching and searching and
searching. So there's a lot of common
beliefs when it comes to happiness.
(01:46):
You know, it's like, I'll be happy when I have more money.
I'll be happy when I travel. I, I just need to find the right
person, the right city, the right job, and then I'll be
happy. You know, culture pushes this
narrative. Social media and advertisements
and hustle culture tell us that we always need more.
(02:06):
You know you need to travel while you're in your 20s to find
your happiness. You need to get your big job in
your 20s to find your happiness.You need to find the love of
your life while you're young to achieve happiness.
Happiness is viewed as somethingto obtain, as something to get.
You're not enough as you are, soyou need to find this happiness.
(02:31):
That's just not the case. These things can bring moments
of joy. Yes, I'm not saying that
external achievements and peopleand things are bad, the
opposite. But if that's where you're
trying to find happiness, you'llfall short.
So I set out to heal myself fromoutward causes.
(02:52):
I want to share my own story with that.
I remember being 20 years old, so depressed.
I was so depressed. I felt like I I wasn't going
anywhere. I was just upset all the time.
So I set out. I said I am going to find
happiness this year. So I started looking and I
booked a Grand Tour of the United States.
(03:14):
Some of you might know I make music.
So I, I started booking shows left and right and I planned out
this awesome tour to go and, andplay all, all of my favorite
cities and, and stop in nationalparks on the way.
And I was going to get out and Iwas going to find my happiness.
I was going to find it on hikingtrails in national parks.
I was going to find it playing music.
I was going to find it in these big cities.
(03:35):
I was going to get happy. While on tour.
I traveled coast to coast with one of my best friends, playing
music, living the dream. I mean genuinely, I can't think
of anything better than that. And yet I I I found myself
arriving at national parks afterplaying shows for weeks.
(03:56):
I would look out at a beautiful view, I would watch a beautiful
sunset, and I would feel emptiness.
I always felt like there was supposed to be more.
I kept searching, but I wasn't finding anything because I
wasn't looking inside. I was.
I was so busy. My eyes were always on the
(04:17):
horizon. My eyes were always on what's
next. My eyes were always on the next
sunset. I was so busy trying to find
that next good thing that I wasn't focused on the now with
myself. I was so focused on trying to
find that happiness, trying to find that that peace within my
(04:38):
mental health, that I didn't realize it was within me
already. And I know it's cheesy, I know
it's cliche, but it's the truth.If you keep searching out there,
you're going to lose track of what's inside.
So finally, I had to go home. I had to face that silence.
(05:02):
And face it, I did. Oh my goodness.
I I didn't find happiness out there.
I didn't find happiness in national parks.
I didn't find it in big cities. I didn't find it on road trips.
And suddenly I was back home andI was alone and I was still so
depressed. And in those moments of quiet,
in those moments of solitude is where I started to do the actual
(05:24):
work. And that is what you have to do.
You have to have moments of peace, moments by yourself,
moments where you face that loneliness, where you face that,
that sadness, whatever is rotting inside.
You have to have moments where you face those feelings and you
understand that you have the power to heal within you.
(05:47):
So I started taking time to myself.
I started to journal, I started to go on walks, I started to eat
better. I started to talk about my
feelings. You know, I've been to therapy
extensively. I kept creating art to get those
emotions out. I leaned on friends, I talked to
them, I created support groups. And I started to feel better
(06:11):
'cause there was nothing to findout there.
It was already here. I just had to create systems
and, and, and, and create a place where I could heal, where
I could sit with my feelings andheal.
And that's a difficult yet powerful realization to make,
something all of us have to realize in order to heal.
(06:33):
The healing happens during thosequiet moments.
It doesn't happen in grand moments.
It doesn't happen while you're out looking for that happiness
and that healing. When you're looking for it, when
you're out searching, you're so busy that you can't have those
quiet moments to heal, that you can't look inwards, that you
can't take time to heal your heart.
(06:54):
I mean, if you broke your leg, would you keep running?
Would you keep running as fast as you can towards some goal
that you're not quite sure? Or would?
Or would you rest? Would you rest your leg and let
it heal in the same way when you're struggling with your
mental health, are you going to keep pushing forward and and
looking for bigger and greater things, waiting for that grand
(07:17):
moment that you're going to healmagically and suddenly?
Or are you going to sit and restand feel your feelings?
There is no grand moment and I'msorry, there's no magical Eureka
and you know, suddenly you're better.
No, it takes time and it takes time within those quiet moments.
(07:38):
You see, inner happiness is sustainable.
It isn't based on circumstance. Like all of those external
things. Yes, they can bring you
momentary happiness. I'm not going to deny the fact
that experiences and people and everything out there is.
Those are amazing things, don't get me wrong, and they will
bring you a temporary place of happiness.
But when all the noise fades down and you're back by
(08:00):
yourself, you're going to get hit with those same feelings.
So finding that happiness withinyourself, it's sustainable, it
helps you cope with tough times better, it helps you hold on
until the next thing, it allows you to enjoy the present moment
rather than constantly chasing the next thing.
So use self compassion, reach out to professionals, get get,
(08:22):
get therapy, journal, meditate, help shift your mindset.
So I invite you to reflect with me.
Then I ask you these three questions.
Are you chasing something external in hopes that it will
make you happy? My next question is, what would
it look like to find joy and stillness?
(08:46):
What would that look like for you?
And my final question is, when was the last time that you felt
joy and peace, not because of what was happening around you,
but because of what was happening within you?
So I challenge you, stop lookingfor happiness everywhere else.
(09:07):
And I don't mean to cut yourselfoff from the world.
I don't mean to stop experiencing things, but I mean
to take quiet moments to sit with your feelings, to feel
them, and to create a safe spacefor you to heal.
By doing that, you become more familiar with your feelings, you
become more aware of your feelings, and you become more
(09:27):
aware of what you need to grow. You can travel the world, chase
every dream, and still feel lost, but if you learn how to
come home to yourself, that's where true happiness begins.
Thank you so much for joining meon this episode of Feel Your
Feelings. If you need help feeling your
(09:49):
feelings, you should check out my music on all platforms under
the name of Ethan Jewell. I almost guarantee it'll make
you cry. Also, you should shoot me a
message on my Instagram at JewelBoy with an I under score and
let me know what you thought about today's episode.
So thank you so much for feelingyour feelings with me.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for understanding that
outward and external happiness, yes, can bring momentary
(10:09):
satisfaction. But to truly heal and to truly
find joy, you have to look with him.
And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
I'll see you next time.
When I think about finding happiness, I think about being
20 years old and so depressed. And I knew that I had to find a
way out of that depression. And if I didn't find a way out,
if I didn't find happiness, I would find my own way out.
And I knew I couldn't do that. I couldn't do that to my dog.
I couldn't do that to my family.So I started searching for
happiness anywhere and everywhere that I could look.
(00:22):
I started looking for it in plane tickets and in big cities
and new experiences in in biggerand bigger achievements.
But all I found was emptiness. I would find beauty everywhere
else, but I couldn't find it within me.
And that's when I came to terms with a really unfortunate truth.
(00:43):
Happiness is not in plane tickets.
It's not in new experiences. It's not in big cities or big
achievements, it's within you. My name is Ethan Jewell and
welcome back to Feel Your Feelings.
(01:03):
Thank you so much for joining metoday.
I'm going to be reflecting a little bit on my own personal
journey, trying to find happiness, looking absolutely
everywhere. How I still look for it today,
but instead I look for it with anew perspective.
And that perspective is the fact, and it's a very
unfortunate truth. The happiness is already within
you. And until you find it within
(01:24):
yourself, you will not find it anywhere else.
You won't find it in other people.
You won't find it in in flashy achievements, in money, in the
things and experiences. Until you find it within
yourself, you will keep searching and searching and
searching. So there's a lot of common
beliefs when it comes to happiness.
(01:46):
You know, it's like, I'll be happy when I have more money.
I'll be happy when I travel. I, I just need to find the right
person, the right city, the right job, and then I'll be
happy. You know, culture pushes this
narrative. Social media and advertisements
and hustle culture tell us that we always need more.
(02:06):
You know you need to travel while you're in your 20s to find
your happiness. You need to get your big job in
your 20s to find your happiness.You need to find the love of
your life while you're young to achieve happiness.
Happiness is viewed as somethingto obtain, as something to get.
You're not enough as you are, soyou need to find this happiness.
(02:31):
That's just not the case. These things can bring moments
of joy. Yes, I'm not saying that
external achievements and peopleand things are bad, the
opposite. But if that's where you're
trying to find happiness, you'llfall short.
So I set out to heal myself fromoutward causes.
(02:52):
I want to share my own story with that.
I remember being 20 years old, so depressed.
I was so depressed. I felt like I I wasn't going
anywhere. I was just upset all the time.
So I set out. I said I am going to find
happiness this year. So I started looking and I
booked a Grand Tour of the United States.
(03:14):
Some of you might know I make music.
So I, I started booking shows left and right and I planned out
this awesome tour to go and, andplay all, all of my favorite
cities and, and stop in nationalparks on the way.
And I was going to get out and Iwas going to find my happiness.
I was going to find it on hikingtrails in national parks.
I was going to find it playing music.
I was going to find it in these big cities.
(03:35):
I was going to get happy. While on tour.
I traveled coast to coast with one of my best friends, playing
music, living the dream. I mean genuinely, I can't think
of anything better than that. And yet I I I found myself
arriving at national parks afterplaying shows for weeks.
(03:56):
I would look out at a beautiful view, I would watch a beautiful
sunset, and I would feel emptiness.
I always felt like there was supposed to be more.
I kept searching, but I wasn't finding anything because I
wasn't looking inside. I was.
I was so busy. My eyes were always on the
(04:17):
horizon. My eyes were always on what's
next. My eyes were always on the next
sunset. I was so busy trying to find
that next good thing that I wasn't focused on the now with
myself. I was so focused on trying to
find that happiness, trying to find that that peace within my
(04:38):
mental health, that I didn't realize it was within me
already. And I know it's cheesy, I know
it's cliche, but it's the truth.If you keep searching out there,
you're going to lose track of what's inside.
So finally, I had to go home. I had to face that silence.
(05:02):
And face it, I did. Oh my goodness.
I I didn't find happiness out there.
I didn't find happiness in national parks.
I didn't find it in big cities. I didn't find it on road trips.
And suddenly I was back home andI was alone and I was still so
depressed. And in those moments of quiet,
in those moments of solitude is where I started to do the actual
(05:24):
work. And that is what you have to do.
You have to have moments of peace, moments by yourself,
moments where you face that loneliness, where you face that,
that sadness, whatever is rotting inside.
You have to have moments where you face those feelings and you
understand that you have the power to heal within you.
(05:47):
So I started taking time to myself.
I started to journal, I started to go on walks, I started to eat
better. I started to talk about my
feelings. You know, I've been to therapy
extensively. I kept creating art to get those
emotions out. I leaned on friends, I talked to
them, I created support groups. And I started to feel better
(06:11):
'cause there was nothing to findout there.
It was already here. I just had to create systems
and, and, and, and create a place where I could heal, where
I could sit with my feelings andheal.
And that's a difficult yet powerful realization to make,
something all of us have to realize in order to heal.
(06:33):
The healing happens during thosequiet moments.
It doesn't happen in grand moments.
It doesn't happen while you're out looking for that happiness
and that healing. When you're looking for it, when
you're out searching, you're so busy that you can't have those
quiet moments to heal, that you can't look inwards, that you
can't take time to heal your heart.
(06:54):
I mean, if you broke your leg, would you keep running?
Would you keep running as fast as you can towards some goal
that you're not quite sure? Or would?
Or would you rest? Would you rest your leg and let
it heal in the same way when you're struggling with your
mental health, are you going to keep pushing forward and and
looking for bigger and greater things, waiting for that grand
(07:17):
moment that you're going to healmagically and suddenly?
Or are you going to sit and restand feel your feelings?
There is no grand moment and I'msorry, there's no magical Eureka
and you know, suddenly you're better.
No, it takes time and it takes time within those quiet moments.
(07:38):
You see, inner happiness is sustainable.
It isn't based on circumstance. Like all of those external
things. Yes, they can bring you
momentary happiness. I'm not going to deny the fact
that experiences and people and everything out there is.
Those are amazing things, don't get me wrong, and they will
bring you a temporary place of happiness.
But when all the noise fades down and you're back by
(08:00):
yourself, you're going to get hit with those same feelings.
So finding that happiness withinyourself, it's sustainable, it
helps you cope with tough times better, it helps you hold on
until the next thing, it allows you to enjoy the present moment
rather than constantly chasing the next thing.
So use self compassion, reach out to professionals, get get,
(08:22):
get therapy, journal, meditate, help shift your mindset.
So I invite you to reflect with me.
Then I ask you these three questions.
Are you chasing something external in hopes that it will
make you happy? My next question is, what would
it look like to find joy and stillness?
(08:46):
What would that look like for you?
And my final question is, when was the last time that you felt
joy and peace, not because of what was happening around you,
but because of what was happening within you?
So I challenge you, stop lookingfor happiness everywhere else.
(09:07):
And I don't mean to cut yourselfoff from the world.
I don't mean to stop experiencing things, but I mean
to take quiet moments to sit with your feelings, to feel
them, and to create a safe spacefor you to heal.
By doing that, you become more familiar with your feelings, you
become more aware of your feelings, and you become more
(09:27):
aware of what you need to grow. You can travel the world, chase
every dream, and still feel lost, but if you learn how to
come home to yourself, that's where true happiness begins.
Thank you so much for joining meon this episode of Feel Your
Feelings. If you need help feeling your
(09:49):
feelings, you should check out my music on all platforms under
the name of Ethan Jewell. I almost guarantee it'll make
you cry. Also, you should shoot me a
message on my Instagram at JewelBoy with an I under score and
let me know what you thought about today's episode.
So thank you so much for feelingyour feelings with me.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for understanding that
outward and external happiness, yes, can bring momentary
(10:09):
satisfaction. But to truly heal and to truly
find joy, you have to look with him.
And as always, thank you for feeling your feelings.
I'll see you next time.
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