Fresh Start with Dr David - Season 2 - Episode 18 - Boundaries & Limitations

Fresh Start with Dr David - Season 2 - Episode 18 - Boundaries & Limitations - 05082023

This Podcast Episode is all about Boundaries & Limits

Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.

 

7 Types of Boundaries You May Need

What boundaries do you need? 

1) Physical Boundaries. ... 2) Sexual Boundaries. ... 3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries. ... 4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries. ... 5) Financial and Material Boundaries. ... 6) Time Boundaries. ... 7) Non-Negotiable Boundaries.

What is an example of a boundary?

Rivers, mountain ranges, oceans, and deserts can all serve as physical boundaries. Many times, political boundaries between countries or states form along physical boundaries. For example, the boundary between France and Spain follows the peaks of the Pyrenees Mountains, while the Alps separate France from Italy.

A boundary is a border and it can be physical, such as a fence between two properties, or abstract, such as a moral boundary that society decides it is wrong to cross. If you have no sense of boundaries, you probably annoy people sometimes by getting too close to them or talking about inappropriate topics.

What does a person with no boundaries look like?

Individuals who lack appropriate boundaries often struggle with telling others how they feel (for fear of rejection or ridicule), struggle with feeling burdened by how others perceive them (due to a desire to people-please), strive to make everyone happy with their performance (at work, in school, at home, etc.), and ...Jul 14, 2015

What Are Healthy Boundaries?

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-set-boundaries/

Healthy boundaries are the limits you place around your time, emotions, body, and mental health to stay resilient, solid, and content with who you are. These empowering borders protect you from being used, drained, or manipulated by others.

You can set boundaries around:

Emotional energy Time Personal space Sexuality Morals and ethics Material possessions and finances Social media 

Boundaries can be set with:

Family  Friends Romantic relationships Coworkers Strangers

Though they aren’t as blatantly clear as a fence, wall, or “no trespassing” sign, healthy boundaries communicate to others what you will and will not tolerate. In short, boundaries empower you to take charge of your life.

Why Do You Need Boundaries? 

Personal boundaries are at the root of a fulfilled, balanced life. Without them, people can quickly lose themselves in their work, relationships, familial obligations, or service to others. They can even wind up being exploited or taken advantage of by people who do not respect them. 

These borders help define what you are willing to say “yes” to and what you decide to say “no” to. They give you a sense of agency and sovereignty over your decisions. 

Like an internal compass, boundaries can all start with a “gut feeling” that tells you when you have the time or energy to devote to something versus when you need to say “no.” 

Good boundaries free you to live life on your terms. 

 

Healthy Boundaries vs. Unhealthy Boundaries 

People with solid boundaries tend to have lower levels of stress and higher self-esteem because they prioritize their well-being. 

On the other hand, people without boundaries may inadvertently let others take advantage of them.  They may lack self-confidence, a sense of purpose, or a clear identity to guide them through life. Counselor Dr. Dana Nelson writes, “in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries lead to resentment, anger, an