Imagine being stuck in the “in betweens” of your sexuality.
You’re not “gay enough,” but you’re not “straight enough.” Your sexuality is constantly oversimplified, or oversexualized. You’re stuck wondering… “Am I bisexual enough???”
Though that may not be the reality for all bisexual men, it certainly is a struggle that a lot of people face. Our guest on today’s episode, West, is a bisexual man who learned to embrace his sexuality and accept that he is “enough” exactly as he is.
In his young adulthood, West thought his bisexuality might just be youthful curiosity. But, as his life continued to progress and West continued to mature, he came to realize that his sexuality wasn’t a “phase” or “curiosity.” It was who he was. His journey to this discovery was filled with societal pressures, self-doubt, and uncertainty. But ultimately, West found acceptance, pleasure, and confidence in his sexual identity.
If you have any questions, thoughts, or stories to share after listening to this episode, I’d love to hear from you. Michelle@GETSOME.ca
Show Notes
- [00:00:00] West recounts a story of a dating app match that missed reading his bisexual identity listed on the profile and her reaction once finding out.
- [00:00:32] Discussion about the common challenges faced by bisexual individuals.
- [00:01:05] West reflects on his journey of self-discovery and the stigma associated with his sexuality.
- [00:02:03] Content Warning - Trigger warning for a discussion about sexual abuse.
- [00:03:14]West shares insights into how he recognized his attraction to both sexes early in his life.
- [00:06:08] Impact of Abuse - A candid discussion about how the impact of sexual abuse complicated his bisexual journey.
- [00:08:00] West discussed societal expectations and how they impacted his bisexuality.
- [00:8:04] Unlearning Sexual Shame Module awareness segment.
- [00:09:25] West discusses how his past experiences influenced his views on consensual sexual relationships.
- [00:17:30] The dating scene and challenges and observations from West’s experiences with online dating as a bisexual man.
- [00:21:01] West shares his approach to online dating as a bisexual man and how his focus on honesty and self-acceptance gets quality matches.
Guest: West
Host: Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler
Production: Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios
Listener Note:
- This episode contains discussions about sexual abuse that may be triggering for some listeners. Please take care while listening.
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