September 1, 2025 • 20 mins
Hi beautiful! ♥️
Do you have a God-given vision but feel stuck, discouraged, or like you keep self-sabotaging right when things start to move? You’re not imagining it—the enemy targets your dream with very specific attacks so you never step fully into what God has for you.
In this live coaching episode we expose the three sneaky assassins that kill momentum—Delay (procrastination), Perfectionism, and Distraction—and I coach the group through practical strategies to fight back. You’ll learn how to choose obedience over overthinking, shorten your execution window, prioritize progress over perfection, and eliminate the distractions that steal your most valuable resources: time, energy, and attention.
Bring your journal - this one’s full of tactical next steps you can use today to protect your vision and start moving again.
See you on the inside! Xo, Dani
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.5722658673Hey, beautiful. 2 00:00:01,290.5722658673 --> 00:00:04,50.5722658673 Welcome back to a new week. 3 00:00:04,50.5722658673 --> 00:00:05,160.5722658673 I don't know about you guys. 4 00:00:05,160.5722658673 --> 00:00:14,970.572265867 I don't know what you guys have been going on, but since I'd shared my Instagram over the last couple episodes, I've been getting some dms and I love hearing from you guys. 5 00:00:14,970.572265867 --> 00:00:15,90.572265867 I love. 6 00:00:15,275.572265867 --> 00:00:27,785.770446315 Hearing how the podcast has been impacting you, like it truly does light me on fire, and also helps me stay consistent with this in the midst of such a busy season. 7 00:00:27,995.770446315 --> 00:00:42,94.255340811 I'm literally smack dab in the middle of launching this ministry, the Lord put on my heart two years ago, and it has been just so much fun, but also such a wild ride I'm really excited to share it all with you too. 8 00:00:42,94.255340811 --> 00:00:43,234.255340811 So know that you will. 9 00:00:43,424.255340811 --> 00:00:48,284.255340811 Be able to see it all once it is launched, if it's something that interests you. 10 00:00:48,644.255340811 --> 00:00:51,284.255340811 Um, but you can also come and watch the journey. 11 00:00:51,284.255340811 --> 00:00:58,154.255340811 I'm, I'm really posting my journey raw when it comes to TikTok, but here and there when it comes to Instagram too. 12 00:00:58,154.255340811 --> 00:01:02,444.255340811 And you can follow me at Love Danny Jackson on either one if you wanna see a little bit behind the scenes. 13 00:01:02,834.255340811 --> 00:01:04,4.255340811 But enough of that. 14 00:01:04,64.255340811 --> 00:01:08,924.255340811 What I wanted to bring you today is another live group coaching call, because we just had another. 15 00:01:09,229.255340811 --> 00:01:15,709.255340811 Really powerful one that the girls loved, um, this past week, and this one is for you. 16 00:01:15,709.255340811 --> 00:01:26,59.255340811 If you have a vision that God placed on your heart, but you're noticing yourself getting stuck over and over and over again, you notice that you're getting discouraged time and time again and you're. 17 00:01:26,79.255340811 --> 00:01:28,179.255340811 Kind of self-sabotaging yourself. 18 00:01:28,329.255340811 --> 00:01:33,489.255340811 So there's something that is keeping you from walking into your vision boldly. 19 00:01:33,669.255340811 --> 00:01:40,629.25534081 And I wanna expose the three things the enemy uses to attack and assassinate your vision because he's coming for it. 20 00:01:40,629.25534081 --> 00:01:42,69.25534081 That's who you're fighting against. 21 00:01:42,159.25534081 --> 00:01:50,409.25534081 And so get ready if you're wanting to really, to call him out and to have practical steps on how to attack. 22 00:01:50,419.25534081 --> 00:01:56,659.25534081 Each of these three things, whichever one that you identify that is coming in to kill off your vision. 23 00:01:56,959.25534081 --> 00:02:02,269.25534081 Okay? So it's gonna be a good one, very practical for you to be able to take action on afterwards. 24 00:02:02,569.25534081 --> 00:02:05,59.25534081 And yes, I hope you love it. 25 00:02:05,59.25534081 --> 00:02:07,369.25534081 Grab your journal and let's go for it. 26 00:02:07,578.91237003 --> 00:02:08,778.91237003 Hey, beautiful. 27 00:02:08,898.91237003 --> 00:02:12,678.91237003 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 28 00:02:12,738.91237003 --> 00:02:37,38.91237003 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 29 00:02:37,68.91237003 --> 00:02:38,208.91237003 I've been there too. 30 00:02:38,328.91237003 --> 00:02:45,558.91237003 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 31 00:02:45,648.91237003 --> 00:03:02,328.91237003 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 32 00:03:02,518.91237003 --> 00:03:17,638.91237003 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 33 00:03:17,878.91237003 --> 00:03:20,848.91237003 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 34 00:03:20,938.91237003 --> 00:03:25,108.91237003 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 35 00:03:25,198.91237003 --> 00:03:26,968.91237003 One step at a time. 36 00:03:27,595.24543282 --> 00:03:32,215.24543282 Now what I want us to talk about is there's gonna be kind of two parts to this training. 37 00:03:32,245.24543282 --> 00:03:39,985.24543282 First, I just wanna quickly train on the three assassins of your vision, and then I want us to do a little bit of like a trauma healing exercise. 38 00:03:40,585.24543282 --> 00:03:40,975.24543282 Okay. 39 00:03:41,725.24543282 --> 00:03:45,955.24543282 So the, there's three assassins to your vision. 40 00:03:47,245.24543282 --> 00:03:48,655.24543282 It's not too, it's not too deep. 41 00:03:48,655.24543282 --> 00:03:53,245.24543282 We've done it before, but it's been like months and it's just a very powerful training. 42 00:03:54,55.24543282 --> 00:03:55,465.24543282 Or not even training, but exercise. 43 00:03:55,885.24543282 --> 00:04:00,415.24543282 Um, but there's three asse, uh, three assassins to your vision. 44 00:04:01,135.24543282 --> 00:04:16,525.24543282 Um, and it's to be able to, it's not just important to have your sight set on your vision and be clear in your vision, but also what are gonna be the things that are gonna be coming towards to steal the vision from you. 45 00:04:17,65.24543282 --> 00:04:20,425.24543282 And we've mentioned these before, but just not in this way. 46 00:04:20,785.24543282 --> 00:04:27,805.24543282 Um, so the three assassin, the three assassins, that word just hard for me tonight, for some reason, um, is delay. 47 00:04:28,765.24543282 --> 00:04:36,895.24543282 It's perfectionism and distraction, delay perfectionism and distraction. 48 00:04:38,245.24543282 --> 00:04:45,25.24543282 And, and, and these attacks can be very, like, go under the radar. 49 00:04:45,445.24543282 --> 00:04:51,865.24543282 And this, the, these three reasons are the reason why most of you guys will find yourself stuck. 50 00:04:52,840.24543282 --> 00:05:06,670.24543282 If you've ever, if you, if you reflect on a time that you were stuck in your process here or in anything, more than likely it's because of one of those three assassins, okay? So these assassins, they don't just slow you down. 51 00:05:06,850.24543282 --> 00:05:20,650.24543282 They are designed specifically, like, and it's not the same assassin or the same type of delay or the same type of perfectionist or the same type of distraction for everybody. 52 00:05:20,650.24543282 --> 00:05:26,980.24543282 It's not a generalized, um, attack that everybody experiences. 53 00:05:27,340.24543282 --> 00:05:31,780.24543282 You have an enemy and he doesn't want you to walk into all that God has for you. 54 00:05:32,80.24543282 --> 00:05:35,620.24543282 And he studies you, right? He studies you. 55 00:05:35,620.24543282 --> 00:05:37,240.24543282 He knows your weakness. 56 00:05:37,300.24543282 --> 00:05:45,340.24543282 He knows what's gonna make you fall, and he waits for you to be in a vulnerable state to come in and to slip, delay. 57 00:05:46,600.24543282 --> 00:05:51,880.24543282 Um, perfectionism and distraction in, and it's very specific to you. 58 00:05:52,150.24543282 --> 00:06:05,590.24543282 So we have to be on, on p is it on PI think so on P When in, in terms of identifying when it's coming in so that way we can defeat him. 59 00:06:06,580.24543282 --> 00:06:09,730.24543282 So how delay shows up, it's pretty self-explanatory. 60 00:06:10,0.24543282 --> 00:06:12,10.24543282 It shows up through procrastination. 61 00:06:12,760.24543282 --> 00:06:23,110.24543282 Um, so it, whenever you know the next step of what to do, and all of you guys do know the next step, because guess what, Alexis has laid it out for you in the course. 62 00:06:23,440.24543282 --> 00:06:28,390.24543282 And so if you find yourself procrastinating, it is due to this assassin of delay. 63 00:06:29,110.24543282 --> 00:06:38,80.24543282 If you find yourself waiting for the perfect season or the perfect moment or more confirmation, that is the assassin of delay. 64 00:06:38,980.24543282 --> 00:06:41,170.24543282 If you find yourself saying, oh, I'll. 65 00:06:42,235.24543282 --> 00:06:45,265.24543282 Record the outreach video when X, Y, Z happens. 66 00:06:45,265.24543282 --> 00:07:07,165.24543282 Or I'll start doing mock calls after this trip, or I'll start doing, um, outreach after whatever, some arbitrary thing that it pretty much like excuse or target that you're putting on yourself to make an excuse for this delay. 67 00:07:07,675.24543282 --> 00:07:20,635.24543282 Okay, so you're saying I'll start when instead of saying I'll start now, and this is dangerous because I think I said this last week, but opportunity has an expiration date. 68 00:07:21,595.24543282 --> 00:07:26,350.24543282 Steph is a great example of what she shared today. 69 00:07:26,935.24543282 --> 00:07:32,815.24543282 So it took, it took that client, her a dream client of hers that many months to reach back out to her. 70 00:07:32,965.24543282 --> 00:07:41,65.24543282 But what if she ne, what if she didn't reach out to him? What if she just delayed that and didn't reach out back in April and now come August when he has an opening. 71 00:07:41,800.24543282 --> 00:07:43,360.24543282 She's not even on his radar. 72 00:07:44,260.24543282 --> 00:07:54,340.24543282 And so just imagine how many opportunities that you are shutting the door on, you're not even walking into because of this assassin of delay. 73 00:07:55,870.24543282 --> 00:08:10,540.24543282 And the thing about delay too that is even more dangerous is the longer that you delay something, the more doubt it's breeding, the more reasons that you're going to find not to act. 74 00:08:10,540.24543282 --> 00:08:18,490.24543282 So whenever it is just, oh, well, I'm just not feeling well today, it's gonna turn into, oh, I just, I didn't have time today, or I didn't have time this week. 75 00:08:18,490.24543282 --> 00:08:20,620.24543282 Oh, I had to go pick up the kids, or I had to do this. 76 00:08:20,620.24543282 --> 00:08:23,740.24543282 And it turns into a series of excuses. 77 00:08:24,790.24543282 --> 00:08:40,390.24543282 And so how you want to stop delay or how you do a stop delay is you, you've gotta, the, the switch that, that you must make in your mind is to pursue obedience, or you can call it action. 78 00:08:41,770.24543282 --> 00:08:48,970.24543282 Over overthinking obedience slash action over overthinking. 79 00:08:49,990.24543282 --> 00:08:52,960.24543282 Decide to be a woman of action. 80 00:08:53,980.24543282 --> 00:08:59,590.24543282 Yeah, take up the identity of the, of a woman that takes action. 81 00:09:00,40.24543282 --> 00:09:09,70.24543282 Take the step now with what you have, because guess what? What you have is all that you need for the opportunity God has for you. 82 00:09:11,80.24543282 --> 00:09:12,310.24543282 Okay, so. 83 00:09:13,450.24543282 --> 00:09:15,370.24543282 That's the first assassin. 84 00:09:15,700.24543282 --> 00:09:21,850.24543282 Um, also something else that will help in this, like practically, is to shorten your window of execution. 85 00:09:22,300.24543282 --> 00:09:24,40.24543282 So give yourself deadlines. 86 00:09:24,340.24543282 --> 00:09:36,940.24543282 Um, for example, I've been procrast, I had been procrastinating for so long on this, um, this business that I know God wants me to create. 87 00:09:37,120.24543282 --> 00:09:38,920.24543282 And I was using HLC as an excuse. 88 00:09:38,920.24543282 --> 00:09:40,210.24543282 I was like, oh, I'm treating HLC. 89 00:09:40,210.24543282 --> 00:09:43,870.24543282 Like, it's like mine, right? Like it's my own, like, because I love the vision. 90 00:09:43,870.24543282 --> 00:09:46,240.24543282 I love you guys, and I was having fun here. 91 00:09:46,480.24543282 --> 00:09:51,760.24543282 Um, or, and still am, but I, I had to realize that was an excuse. 92 00:09:51,760.24543282 --> 00:10:01,420.24543282 I was feeding into this assassin of delay and now I've given myself a deadline and a short peer, a window of getting things done. 93 00:10:01,420.24543282 --> 00:10:05,830.24543282 And that has helped me tremendous tremendously in attacking this assassin of delay. 94 00:10:06,880.24543282 --> 00:10:10,390.24543282 Okay, now assassin number two is perfectionism. 95 00:10:11,530.24543282 --> 00:10:26,170.24543282 How perfectionism is showing up is if you are already editing yourself, you're critiquing yourself before you even share bef you're, you're, you're, you're massively critiquing yourself in your outreach video. 96 00:10:27,340.24543282 --> 00:10:39,370.24543282 Pick picking at every little thing that you're doing wrong, every breath space that you're, that you're doing wrong or that looks weird or off before you even share it to get feedback or whatnot. 97 00:10:41,80.24543282 --> 00:10:50,440.24543282 Perfectionism is also if you're believing that you, it's kind of similar to delay in a way, or it's a reason for you to delay. 98 00:10:50,890.24543282 --> 00:10:57,820.24543282 Um, it's, it's a belief that you can't start until you have all the pieces together or until you are a certain type of person. 99 00:10:59,770.24543282 --> 00:11:05,350.24543282 It's also, it also shows up if you find yourself over preparing to avoid. 100 00:11:06,385.24543282 --> 00:11:10,435.24543282 To avoid something, you're over over preparing to avoid criticism. 101 00:11:10,645.24543282 --> 00:11:12,925.24543282 You're over preparing to avoid rejection. 102 00:11:13,885.24543282 --> 00:11:22,945.24543282 You're not over preparing or not really over preparing, but yeah, you're not really preparing or over preparing for, um, something positive. 103 00:11:22,945.24543282 --> 00:11:29,485.24543282 But if you really are, are doing a heart check and honest with yourself, you're over preparing so you don't face some sort of negative emotion. 104 00:11:30,385.24543282 --> 00:11:35,35.24543282 So only you can decide, um, and how you stop. 105 00:11:35,35.24543282 --> 00:11:38,695.24543282 This is the sh the mindset shift that you wanna make. 106 00:11:38,755.24543282 --> 00:11:39,775.24543282 And this is nothing new. 107 00:11:40,615.24543282 --> 00:11:45,625.24543282 It is prioritizing progress over perfection. 108 00:11:46,615.24543282 --> 00:11:58,375.24543282 Okay? Looking at each outreach video opportunity training where you're, maybe you're training something at, uh, somebody at work, every little opportunity for you to grow. 109 00:11:59,215.24543282 --> 00:12:02,485.24543282 As practice for the next one. 110 00:12:02,815.24543282 --> 00:12:15,475.24543282 So nothing you it, it helps you not move into anything with this performance based mindset, but with a practice based mindset and a viewpoint and lens. 111 00:12:17,155.24543282 --> 00:12:32,185.24543282 Once you are, how you defeat perfectionism is by accepting that growth happens when you're in motion, not when you are stagnant and just trying to think all the right things and think yourself into the specific outcome. 112 00:12:32,215.24543282 --> 00:12:33,475.24543282 But it happens when you move. 113 00:12:34,855.24543282 --> 00:12:35,365.24543282 Yes. 114 00:12:35,905.24543282 --> 00:12:38,395.24543282 And then the final assassin is distraction. 115 00:12:39,745.24543282 --> 00:12:46,825.24543282 So how distraction shows up, this is if you find yourself being pulled into urgent. 116 00:12:47,515.24543282 --> 00:13:07,705.24543282 But unimportant tasks and be very like, distraction, is it, it, it's, it's probably the most, um, sly one because you can deem a lot of things that are going on in your life as urgent, but you find yourself at the end of your days, at the end of your weeks not getting any progress done. 117 00:13:08,5.24543282 --> 00:13:20,455.24543282 And it is because a distraction has just been an not only, um, inputting itself in your life, but you've been saying yes to it and yes to every single thing. 118 00:13:20,815.24543282 --> 00:13:26,425.24543282 And so it's designed to keep you busy and it's honestly a spiritual attack. 119 00:13:27,295.24543282 --> 00:13:28,615.24543282 Yes, it's a spiritual attack. 120 00:13:29,635.24543282 --> 00:13:33,835.24543282 Um, it's designed to keep you busy and fruitless. 121 00:13:34,825.24543282 --> 00:13:46,825.24543282 So your time, your energy, and your attention, it wants to steal all of those things because guess what? Those things are your, your greatest resources, not even money. 122 00:13:47,170.24543282 --> 00:13:52,150.24543282 Your time, your energy and your attention are your most valuable assets. 123 00:13:52,180.24543282 --> 00:13:56,440.24543282 And so when they're scattered, this is when your vision suffers. 124 00:13:56,440.24543282 --> 00:13:58,660.24543282 It gets pushed further down the line. 125 00:13:58,780.24543282 --> 00:14:09,10.24543282 And these are the people that end up five years looking back and like, what the heck did I do with my life? Where did the time go? Okay. 126 00:14:09,220.24543282 --> 00:14:23,740.24543282 Um, some other ways that distraction comes up is, and you guys can probably relate to this, because this is how I find it trying to attack me, is, and I've had to just stop scrolling totally, even for like ideas. 127 00:14:24,190.24543282 --> 00:14:38,520.24543282 Um, but when you are comparing your journey to somebody else's, your ideas to somebody else's, comparing your lane, your path to others, and losing focus, a huge, huge, huge distraction. 128 00:14:39,330.24543282 --> 00:15:02,560.24543282 That I've been set free, free from finally is, you know, whenever, like the algorithm is so funny, whenever, like my specific example is, there's so many different ways to do business and to launch things and to have things like this, right? And, and so when I had finally decided to do one way, I would get all these ads dissing this way and promoting the way that they did it. 129 00:15:02,560.24543282 --> 00:15:03,730.24543282 And I'm like, oh my gosh, wow. 130 00:15:03,730.24543282 --> 00:15:04,780.24543282 Like that makes sense. 131 00:15:05,140.24543282 --> 00:15:07,750.24543282 And that can show up as shiny object syndrome. 132 00:15:07,750.24543282 --> 00:15:10,240.24543282 Like, you know, high ticket sales is not the only opportunity out there. 133 00:15:10,240.24543282 --> 00:15:15,70.24543282 You've probably since doing this, have been bombarded with so many other opportunities. 134 00:15:15,70.24543282 --> 00:15:16,90.24543282 It's just the way it is. 135 00:15:16,180.24543282 --> 00:15:22,60.24543282 And you have to really be wise and discerning to know that this is distraction. 136 00:15:22,60.24543282 --> 00:15:25,810.24543282 Trying to come in and make you start over and start over. 137 00:15:25,930.24543282 --> 00:15:29,740.24543282 Question, start over, be confused and say in the stagnancy. 138 00:15:31,120.24543282 --> 00:15:35,890.24543282 So how to defeat this is you've gotta. 139 00:15:36,715.24543282 --> 00:15:38,485.24543282 Plant your feet One. 140 00:15:38,725.24543282 --> 00:15:40,105.24543282 Okay? You've gotta plant your feet. 141 00:15:40,105.24543282 --> 00:15:44,185.24543282 You gotta have your vision clear and you have to decide what matters. 142 00:15:44,845.24543282 --> 00:15:47,935.24543282 All right? We've talked about the goals, the why is that, goals, why, and vision. 143 00:15:48,625.24543282 --> 00:15:49,225.24543282 Yes. 144 00:15:49,555.24543282 --> 00:16:02,605.24543282 Um, once those are clear, it's really just about being diligent with your time to reduce your, your free time in a way for you to get distracted. 145 00:16:03,415.24543282 --> 00:16:07,885.24543282 So we talk about like setting. 146 00:16:07,915.24543282 --> 00:16:15,745.24543282 There's a, um, a training in the academies portion that's titled Plan Your Month, like a CEO. 147 00:16:15,985.24543282 --> 00:16:30,775.24543282 When you do that, when you plan your weeks, um, and you block out times in your calendar and you decide to show up at that time that you are blocking out to do that thing, it's going to limit your distractions because guess what? You don't have time to be distracted. 148 00:16:32,350.24543282 --> 00:16:43,60.2454328 And then of course doing the, there's a Becoming Her habits training, and that's going to help you with eliminating triggers that you find coming in to try to lead you to, to distraction. 149 00:16:43,60.2454328 --> 00:16:47,590.2454328 So for example, your trigger, I feel like all of our triggers is our phone. 150 00:16:47,920.2454328 --> 00:16:50,305.2454328 Okay? That thing is the biggest fricking distraction ever. 151 00:16:51,245.2454328 --> 00:17:04,290.2454328 So if you notice that you spend three hours a day scrolling, or you do, whatever other distractions, you, um, find yourself like just tired and you're like, you know, I'm just gonna watch like one episode of, uh, whatever your favorite show is. 152 00:17:04,560.2454328 --> 00:17:08,310.2454328 And then you end up watching like three episodes and it's like, oh, well I need to go to bed now. 153 00:17:08,590.2454328 --> 00:17:17,950.2454328 Eliminate the triggers that cause you to, am I calling some of y'all out? That causes you to allow distraction to eat up your time. 154 00:17:19,0.2454328 --> 00:17:19,330.2454328 Okay. 155 00:17:19,330.2454328 --> 00:17:21,760.2454328 This is, this is so necessary. 156 00:17:21,760.2454328 --> 00:17:26,770.2454328 If you really wanting to get to the next level, you wanna become the woman that you truly desire to be. 157 00:17:27,340.2454328 --> 00:17:29,890.2454328 Okay, so those are the three. 158 00:17:30,580.2454328 --> 00:17:33,850.2454328 Delay, perfectionism and distraction. 159 00:17:34,150.2454328 --> 00:17:40,691.6530867 Go ahead and point out which one is coming for your vision. 160 00:17:40,978.6691519 --> 00:17:41,398.6691519 Okay. 161 00:17:42,268.6691519 --> 00:17:43,768.6691519 So you know what to do with each one. 162 00:17:43,768.6691519 --> 00:17:46,408.6691519 I'm gonna go through like, now that you've identified, right. 163 00:17:46,408.6691519 --> 00:17:49,318.6691519 And it can be, um, a little of everything. 164 00:17:49,318.6691519 --> 00:17:54,838.6691519 I just, you will be able to, to notice like when one doesn't affect you as much. 165 00:17:55,108.6691519 --> 00:17:58,918.6691519 Like a distraction just ended up being a really big one for me. 166 00:17:59,832.920767 --> 00:18:04,542.920767 yeah, like what's the thing that immediately takes you off course is the procrastination. 167 00:18:05,334.5097496 --> 00:18:14,624.5097496 is it the distraction being constantly pulled into different directions? Or is it you just being overly critical of yourself? So if it's delay. 168 00:18:15,749.5097496 --> 00:18:19,499.5097496 Choose obedience over overthinking and shorten your decision making window. 169 00:18:19,499.5097496 --> 00:18:25,379.5097496 So go ahead and whatever you are delaying, put a, put a date, decide right now. 170 00:18:25,409.5097496 --> 00:18:25,589.5097496 Okay. 171 00:18:25,589.5097496 --> 00:18:30,119.5097496 If you're deleting, going through the course, put a date when you're gonna have it done. 172 00:18:31,75.1631569 --> 00:18:38,805.6161493 If it's perfectionism, decide what is the smallest version of this that I can tackle this week. 173 00:18:39,75.6161493 --> 00:18:45,825.6161493 So that way you're not trying to, 'cause I know with perfectionist you wanna like do it big every time and do it perfect. 174 00:18:45,825.6161493 --> 00:18:52,232.2828159 But what is the smallest version of this that you can commit to? And you can finish this week, and you can view as practice. 175 00:18:54,812.2828159 --> 00:18:55,442.2828159 Love this. 176 00:18:55,442.2828159 --> 00:18:56,102.2828159 Yes. 177 00:18:57,430.4616845 --> 00:19:01,780.4616845 And then if it is distraction, block out your time for deep focus and eliminate your triggers. 178 00:19:01,780.4616845 --> 00:19:08,320.4616845 Spot out your top, one to three distractions, and then eliminate the trigger of that. 179 00:19:08,410.4616845 --> 00:19:13,30.4616845 So I put my phone away whenever I am, I'm in, I'm in flow, bro. 180 00:19:13,30.4616845 --> 00:19:15,880.4616845 Right now I'm doing these things and the phone's away. 181 00:19:16,385.9694082 --> 00:19:29,414.1041931 Anything that's stealing your time or energy or attention, and you eliminate it by blocking, do some time blocking, blocking out your calendar, and making appointments on your calendar of what tasks you're going to do at X time.
.5722658673Hey, beautiful. 2 00:00:01,290.5722658673 --> 00:00:04,50.5722658673 Welcome back to a new week. 3 00:00:04,50.5722658673 --> 00:00:05,160.5722658673 I don't know about you guys. 4 00:00:05,160.5722658673 --> 00:00:14,970.572265867 I don't know what you guys have been going on, but since I'd shared my Instagram over the last couple episodes, I've been getting some dms and I love hearing from you guys. 5 00:00:14,970.572265867 --> 00:00:15,90.572265867 I love. 6 00:00:15,275.572265867 --> 00:00:27,785.770446315 Hearing how the podcast has been impacting you, like it truly does light me on fire, and also helps me stay consistent with this in the midst of such a busy season. 7 00:00:27,995.770446315 --> 00:00:42,94.255340811 I'm literally smack dab in the middle of launching this ministry, the Lord put on my heart two years ago, and it has been just so much fun, but also such a wild ride I'm really excited to share it all with you too. 8 00:00:42,94.255340811 --> 00:00:43,234.255340811 So know that you will. 9 00:00:43,424.255340811 --> 00:00:48,284.255340811 Be able to see it all once it is launched, if it's something that interests you. 10 00:00:48,644.255340811 --> 00:00:51,284.255340811 Um, but you can also come and watch the journey. 11 00:00:51,284.255340811 --> 00:00:58,154.255340811 I'm, I'm really posting my journey raw when it comes to TikTok, but here and there when it comes to Instagram too. 12 00:00:58,154.255340811 --> 00:01:02,444.255340811 And you can follow me at Love Danny Jackson on either one if you wanna see a little bit behind the scenes. 13 00:01:02,834.255340811 --> 00:01:04,4.255340811 But enough of that. 14 00:01:04,64.255340811 --> 00:01:08,924.255340811 What I wanted to bring you today is another live group coaching call, because we just had another. 15 00:01:09,229.255340811 --> 00:01:15,709.255340811 Really powerful one that the girls loved, um, this past week, and this one is for you. 16 00:01:15,709.255340811 --> 00:01:26,59.255340811 If you have a vision that God placed on your heart, but you're noticing yourself getting stuck over and over and over again, you notice that you're getting discouraged time and time again and you're. 17 00:01:26,79.255340811 --> 00:01:28,179.255340811 Kind of self-sabotaging yourself. 18 00:01:28,329.255340811 --> 00:01:33,489.255340811 So there's something that is keeping you from walking into your vision boldly. 19 00:01:33,669.255340811 --> 00:01:40,629.25534081 And I wanna expose the three things the enemy uses to attack and assassinate your vision because he's coming for it. 20 00:01:40,629.25534081 --> 00:01:42,69.25534081 That's who you're fighting against. 21 00:01:42,159.25534081 --> 00:01:50,409.25534081 And so get ready if you're wanting to really, to call him out and to have practical steps on how to attack. 22 00:01:50,419.25534081 --> 00:01:56,659.25534081 Each of these three things, whichever one that you identify that is coming in to kill off your vision. 23 00:01:56,959.25534081 --> 00:02:02,269.25534081 Okay? So it's gonna be a good one, very practical for you to be able to take action on afterwards. 24 00:02:02,569.25534081 --> 00:02:05,59.25534081 And yes, I hope you love it. 25 00:02:05,59.25534081 --> 00:02:07,369.25534081 Grab your journal and let's go for it. 26 00:02:07,578.91237003 --> 00:02:08,778.91237003 Hey, beautiful. 27 00:02:08,898.91237003 --> 00:02:12,678.91237003 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 28 00:02:12,738.91237003 --> 00:02:37,38.91237003 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 29 00:02:37,68.91237003 --> 00:02:38,208.91237003 I've been there too. 30 00:02:38,328.91237003 --> 00:02:45,558.91237003 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 31 00:02:45,648.91237003 --> 00:03:02,328.91237003 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 32 00:03:02,518.91237003 --> 00:03:17,638.91237003 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 33 00:03:17,878.91237003 --> 00:03:20,848.91237003 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 34 00:03:20,938.91237003 --> 00:03:25,108.91237003 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 35 00:03:25,198.91237003 --> 00:03:26,968.91237003 One step at a time. 36 00:03:27,595.24543282 --> 00:03:32,215.24543282 Now what I want us to talk about is there's gonna be kind of two parts to this training. 37 00:03:32,245.24543282 --> 00:03:39,985.24543282 First, I just wanna quickly train on the three assassins of your vision, and then I want us to do a little bit of like a trauma healing exercise. 38 00:03:40,585.24543282 --> 00:03:40,975.24543282 Okay. 39 00:03:41,725.24543282 --> 00:03:45,955.24543282 So the, there's three assassins to your vision. 40 00:03:47,245.24543282 --> 00:03:48,655.24543282 It's not too, it's not too deep. 41 00:03:48,655.24543282 --> 00:03:53,245.24543282 We've done it before, but it's been like months and it's just a very powerful training. 42 00:03:54,55.24543282 --> 00:03:55,465.24543282 Or not even training, but exercise. 43 00:03:55,885.24543282 --> 00:04:00,415.24543282 Um, but there's three asse, uh, three assassins to your vision. 44 00:04:01,135.24543282 --> 00:04:16,525.24543282 Um, and it's to be able to, it's not just important to have your sight set on your vision and be clear in your vision, but also what are gonna be the things that are gonna be coming towards to steal the vision from you. 45 00:04:17,65.24543282 --> 00:04:20,425.24543282 And we've mentioned these before, but just not in this way. 46 00:04:20,785.24543282 --> 00:04:27,805.24543282 Um, so the three assassin, the three assassins, that word just hard for me tonight, for some reason, um, is delay. 47 00:04:28,765.24543282 --> 00:04:36,895.24543282 It's perfectionism and distraction, delay perfectionism and distraction. 48 00:04:38,245.24543282 --> 00:04:45,25.24543282 And, and, and these attacks can be very, like, go under the radar. 49 00:04:45,445.24543282 --> 00:04:51,865.24543282 And this, the, these three reasons are the reason why most of you guys will find yourself stuck. 50 00:04:52,840.24543282 --> 00:05:06,670.24543282 If you've ever, if you, if you reflect on a time that you were stuck in your process here or in anything, more than likely it's because of one of those three assassins, okay? So these assassins, they don't just slow you down. 51 00:05:06,850.24543282 --> 00:05:20,650.24543282 They are designed specifically, like, and it's not the same assassin or the same type of delay or the same type of perfectionist or the same type of distraction for everybody. 52 00:05:20,650.24543282 --> 00:05:26,980.24543282 It's not a generalized, um, attack that everybody experiences. 53 00:05:27,340.24543282 --> 00:05:31,780.24543282 You have an enemy and he doesn't want you to walk into all that God has for you. 54 00:05:32,80.24543282 --> 00:05:35,620.24543282 And he studies you, right? He studies you. 55 00:05:35,620.24543282 --> 00:05:37,240.24543282 He knows your weakness. 56 00:05:37,300.24543282 --> 00:05:45,340.24543282 He knows what's gonna make you fall, and he waits for you to be in a vulnerable state to come in and to slip, delay. 57 00:05:46,600.24543282 --> 00:05:51,880.24543282 Um, perfectionism and distraction in, and it's very specific to you. 58 00:05:52,150.24543282 --> 00:06:05,590.24543282 So we have to be on, on p is it on PI think so on P When in, in terms of identifying when it's coming in so that way we can defeat him. 59 00:06:06,580.24543282 --> 00:06:09,730.24543282 So how delay shows up, it's pretty self-explanatory. 60 00:06:10,0.24543282 --> 00:06:12,10.24543282 It shows up through procrastination. 61 00:06:12,760.24543282 --> 00:06:23,110.24543282 Um, so it, whenever you know the next step of what to do, and all of you guys do know the next step, because guess what, Alexis has laid it out for you in the course. 62 00:06:23,440.24543282 --> 00:06:28,390.24543282 And so if you find yourself procrastinating, it is due to this assassin of delay. 63 00:06:29,110.24543282 --> 00:06:38,80.24543282 If you find yourself waiting for the perfect season or the perfect moment or more confirmation, that is the assassin of delay. 64 00:06:38,980.24543282 --> 00:06:41,170.24543282 If you find yourself saying, oh, I'll. 65 00:06:42,235.24543282 --> 00:06:45,265.24543282 Record the outreach video when X, Y, Z happens. 66 00:06:45,265.24543282 --> 00:07:07,165.24543282 Or I'll start doing mock calls after this trip, or I'll start doing, um, outreach after whatever, some arbitrary thing that it pretty much like excuse or target that you're putting on yourself to make an excuse for this delay. 67 00:07:07,675.24543282 --> 00:07:20,635.24543282 Okay, so you're saying I'll start when instead of saying I'll start now, and this is dangerous because I think I said this last week, but opportunity has an expiration date. 68 00:07:21,595.24543282 --> 00:07:26,350.24543282 Steph is a great example of what she shared today. 69 00:07:26,935.24543282 --> 00:07:32,815.24543282 So it took, it took that client, her a dream client of hers that many months to reach back out to her. 70 00:07:32,965.24543282 --> 00:07:41,65.24543282 But what if she ne, what if she didn't reach out to him? What if she just delayed that and didn't reach out back in April and now come August when he has an opening. 71 00:07:41,800.24543282 --> 00:07:43,360.24543282 She's not even on his radar. 72 00:07:44,260.24543282 --> 00:07:54,340.24543282 And so just imagine how many opportunities that you are shutting the door on, you're not even walking into because of this assassin of delay. 73 00:07:55,870.24543282 --> 00:08:10,540.24543282 And the thing about delay too that is even more dangerous is the longer that you delay something, the more doubt it's breeding, the more reasons that you're going to find not to act. 74 00:08:10,540.24543282 --> 00:08:18,490.24543282 So whenever it is just, oh, well, I'm just not feeling well today, it's gonna turn into, oh, I just, I didn't have time today, or I didn't have time this week. 75 00:08:18,490.24543282 --> 00:08:20,620.24543282 Oh, I had to go pick up the kids, or I had to do this. 76 00:08:20,620.24543282 --> 00:08:23,740.24543282 And it turns into a series of excuses. 77 00:08:24,790.24543282 --> 00:08:40,390.24543282 And so how you want to stop delay or how you do a stop delay is you, you've gotta, the, the switch that, that you must make in your mind is to pursue obedience, or you can call it action. 78 00:08:41,770.24543282 --> 00:08:48,970.24543282 Over overthinking obedience slash action over overthinking. 79 00:08:49,990.24543282 --> 00:08:52,960.24543282 Decide to be a woman of action. 80 00:08:53,980.24543282 --> 00:08:59,590.24543282 Yeah, take up the identity of the, of a woman that takes action. 81 00:09:00,40.24543282 --> 00:09:09,70.24543282 Take the step now with what you have, because guess what? What you have is all that you need for the opportunity God has for you. 82 00:09:11,80.24543282 --> 00:09:12,310.24543282 Okay, so. 83 00:09:13,450.24543282 --> 00:09:15,370.24543282 That's the first assassin. 84 00:09:15,700.24543282 --> 00:09:21,850.24543282 Um, also something else that will help in this, like practically, is to shorten your window of execution. 85 00:09:22,300.24543282 --> 00:09:24,40.24543282 So give yourself deadlines. 86 00:09:24,340.24543282 --> 00:09:36,940.24543282 Um, for example, I've been procrast, I had been procrastinating for so long on this, um, this business that I know God wants me to create. 87 00:09:37,120.24543282 --> 00:09:38,920.24543282 And I was using HLC as an excuse. 88 00:09:38,920.24543282 --> 00:09:40,210.24543282 I was like, oh, I'm treating HLC. 89 00:09:40,210.24543282 --> 00:09:43,870.24543282 Like, it's like mine, right? Like it's my own, like, because I love the vision. 90 00:09:43,870.24543282 --> 00:09:46,240.24543282 I love you guys, and I was having fun here. 91 00:09:46,480.24543282 --> 00:09:51,760.24543282 Um, or, and still am, but I, I had to realize that was an excuse. 92 00:09:51,760.24543282 --> 00:10:01,420.24543282 I was feeding into this assassin of delay and now I've given myself a deadline and a short peer, a window of getting things done. 93 00:10:01,420.24543282 --> 00:10:05,830.24543282 And that has helped me tremendous tremendously in attacking this assassin of delay. 94 00:10:06,880.24543282 --> 00:10:10,390.24543282 Okay, now assassin number two is perfectionism. 95 00:10:11,530.24543282 --> 00:10:26,170.24543282 How perfectionism is showing up is if you are already editing yourself, you're critiquing yourself before you even share bef you're, you're, you're, you're massively critiquing yourself in your outreach video. 96 00:10:27,340.24543282 --> 00:10:39,370.24543282 Pick picking at every little thing that you're doing wrong, every breath space that you're, that you're doing wrong or that looks weird or off before you even share it to get feedback or whatnot. 97 00:10:41,80.24543282 --> 00:10:50,440.24543282 Perfectionism is also if you're believing that you, it's kind of similar to delay in a way, or it's a reason for you to delay. 98 00:10:50,890.24543282 --> 00:10:57,820.24543282 Um, it's, it's a belief that you can't start until you have all the pieces together or until you are a certain type of person. 99 00:10:59,770.24543282 --> 00:11:05,350.24543282 It's also, it also shows up if you find yourself over preparing to avoid. 100 00:11:06,385.24543282 --> 00:11:10,435.24543282 To avoid something, you're over over preparing to avoid criticism. 101 00:11:10,645.24543282 --> 00:11:12,925.24543282 You're over preparing to avoid rejection. 102 00:11:13,885.24543282 --> 00:11:22,945.24543282 You're not over preparing or not really over preparing, but yeah, you're not really preparing or over preparing for, um, something positive. 103 00:11:22,945.24543282 --> 00:11:29,485.24543282 But if you really are, are doing a heart check and honest with yourself, you're over preparing so you don't face some sort of negative emotion. 104 00:11:30,385.24543282 --> 00:11:35,35.24543282 So only you can decide, um, and how you stop. 105 00:11:35,35.24543282 --> 00:11:38,695.24543282 This is the sh the mindset shift that you wanna make. 106 00:11:38,755.24543282 --> 00:11:39,775.24543282 And this is nothing new. 107 00:11:40,615.24543282 --> 00:11:45,625.24543282 It is prioritizing progress over perfection. 108 00:11:46,615.24543282 --> 00:11:58,375.24543282 Okay? Looking at each outreach video opportunity training where you're, maybe you're training something at, uh, somebody at work, every little opportunity for you to grow. 109 00:11:59,215.24543282 --> 00:12:02,485.24543282 As practice for the next one. 110 00:12:02,815.24543282 --> 00:12:15,475.24543282 So nothing you it, it helps you not move into anything with this performance based mindset, but with a practice based mindset and a viewpoint and lens. 111 00:12:17,155.24543282 --> 00:12:32,185.24543282 Once you are, how you defeat perfectionism is by accepting that growth happens when you're in motion, not when you are stagnant and just trying to think all the right things and think yourself into the specific outcome. 112 00:12:32,215.24543282 --> 00:12:33,475.24543282 But it happens when you move. 113 00:12:34,855.24543282 --> 00:12:35,365.24543282 Yes. 114 00:12:35,905.24543282 --> 00:12:38,395.24543282 And then the final assassin is distraction. 115 00:12:39,745.24543282 --> 00:12:46,825.24543282 So how distraction shows up, this is if you find yourself being pulled into urgent. 116 00:12:47,515.24543282 --> 00:13:07,705.24543282 But unimportant tasks and be very like, distraction, is it, it, it's, it's probably the most, um, sly one because you can deem a lot of things that are going on in your life as urgent, but you find yourself at the end of your days, at the end of your weeks not getting any progress done. 117 00:13:08,5.24543282 --> 00:13:20,455.24543282 And it is because a distraction has just been an not only, um, inputting itself in your life, but you've been saying yes to it and yes to every single thing. 118 00:13:20,815.24543282 --> 00:13:26,425.24543282 And so it's designed to keep you busy and it's honestly a spiritual attack. 119 00:13:27,295.24543282 --> 00:13:28,615.24543282 Yes, it's a spiritual attack. 120 00:13:29,635.24543282 --> 00:13:33,835.24543282 Um, it's designed to keep you busy and fruitless. 121 00:13:34,825.24543282 --> 00:13:46,825.24543282 So your time, your energy, and your attention, it wants to steal all of those things because guess what? Those things are your, your greatest resources, not even money. 122 00:13:47,170.24543282 --> 00:13:52,150.24543282 Your time, your energy and your attention are your most valuable assets. 123 00:13:52,180.24543282 --> 00:13:56,440.24543282 And so when they're scattered, this is when your vision suffers. 124 00:13:56,440.24543282 --> 00:13:58,660.24543282 It gets pushed further down the line. 125 00:13:58,780.24543282 --> 00:14:09,10.24543282 And these are the people that end up five years looking back and like, what the heck did I do with my life? Where did the time go? Okay. 126 00:14:09,220.24543282 --> 00:14:23,740.24543282 Um, some other ways that distraction comes up is, and you guys can probably relate to this, because this is how I find it trying to attack me, is, and I've had to just stop scrolling totally, even for like ideas. 127 00:14:24,190.24543282 --> 00:14:38,520.24543282 Um, but when you are comparing your journey to somebody else's, your ideas to somebody else's, comparing your lane, your path to others, and losing focus, a huge, huge, huge distraction. 128 00:14:39,330.24543282 --> 00:15:02,560.24543282 That I've been set free, free from finally is, you know, whenever, like the algorithm is so funny, whenever, like my specific example is, there's so many different ways to do business and to launch things and to have things like this, right? And, and so when I had finally decided to do one way, I would get all these ads dissing this way and promoting the way that they did it. 129 00:15:02,560.24543282 --> 00:15:03,730.24543282 And I'm like, oh my gosh, wow. 130 00:15:03,730.24543282 --> 00:15:04,780.24543282 Like that makes sense. 131 00:15:05,140.24543282 --> 00:15:07,750.24543282 And that can show up as shiny object syndrome. 132 00:15:07,750.24543282 --> 00:15:10,240.24543282 Like, you know, high ticket sales is not the only opportunity out there. 133 00:15:10,240.24543282 --> 00:15:15,70.24543282 You've probably since doing this, have been bombarded with so many other opportunities. 134 00:15:15,70.24543282 --> 00:15:16,90.24543282 It's just the way it is. 135 00:15:16,180.24543282 --> 00:15:22,60.24543282 And you have to really be wise and discerning to know that this is distraction. 136 00:15:22,60.24543282 --> 00:15:25,810.24543282 Trying to come in and make you start over and start over. 137 00:15:25,930.24543282 --> 00:15:29,740.24543282 Question, start over, be confused and say in the stagnancy. 138 00:15:31,120.24543282 --> 00:15:35,890.24543282 So how to defeat this is you've gotta. 139 00:15:36,715.24543282 --> 00:15:38,485.24543282 Plant your feet One. 140 00:15:38,725.24543282 --> 00:15:40,105.24543282 Okay? You've gotta plant your feet. 141 00:15:40,105.24543282 --> 00:15:44,185.24543282 You gotta have your vision clear and you have to decide what matters. 142 00:15:44,845.24543282 --> 00:15:47,935.24543282 All right? We've talked about the goals, the why is that, goals, why, and vision. 143 00:15:48,625.24543282 --> 00:15:49,225.24543282 Yes. 144 00:15:49,555.24543282 --> 00:16:02,605.24543282 Um, once those are clear, it's really just about being diligent with your time to reduce your, your free time in a way for you to get distracted. 145 00:16:03,415.24543282 --> 00:16:07,885.24543282 So we talk about like setting. 146 00:16:07,915.24543282 --> 00:16:15,745.24543282 There's a, um, a training in the academies portion that's titled Plan Your Month, like a CEO. 147 00:16:15,985.24543282 --> 00:16:30,775.24543282 When you do that, when you plan your weeks, um, and you block out times in your calendar and you decide to show up at that time that you are blocking out to do that thing, it's going to limit your distractions because guess what? You don't have time to be distracted. 148 00:16:32,350.24543282 --> 00:16:43,60.2454328 And then of course doing the, there's a Becoming Her habits training, and that's going to help you with eliminating triggers that you find coming in to try to lead you to, to distraction. 149 00:16:43,60.2454328 --> 00:16:47,590.2454328 So for example, your trigger, I feel like all of our triggers is our phone. 150 00:16:47,920.2454328 --> 00:16:50,305.2454328 Okay? That thing is the biggest fricking distraction ever. 151 00:16:51,245.2454328 --> 00:17:04,290.2454328 So if you notice that you spend three hours a day scrolling, or you do, whatever other distractions, you, um, find yourself like just tired and you're like, you know, I'm just gonna watch like one episode of, uh, whatever your favorite show is. 152 00:17:04,560.2454328 --> 00:17:08,310.2454328 And then you end up watching like three episodes and it's like, oh, well I need to go to bed now. 153 00:17:08,590.2454328 --> 00:17:17,950.2454328 Eliminate the triggers that cause you to, am I calling some of y'all out? That causes you to allow distraction to eat up your time. 154 00:17:19,0.2454328 --> 00:17:19,330.2454328 Okay. 155 00:17:19,330.2454328 --> 00:17:21,760.2454328 This is, this is so necessary. 156 00:17:21,760.2454328 --> 00:17:26,770.2454328 If you really wanting to get to the next level, you wanna become the woman that you truly desire to be. 157 00:17:27,340.2454328 --> 00:17:29,890.2454328 Okay, so those are the three. 158 00:17:30,580.2454328 --> 00:17:33,850.2454328 Delay, perfectionism and distraction. 159 00:17:34,150.2454328 --> 00:17:40,691.6530867 Go ahead and point out which one is coming for your vision. 160 00:17:40,978.6691519 --> 00:17:41,398.6691519 Okay. 161 00:17:42,268.6691519 --> 00:17:43,768.6691519 So you know what to do with each one. 162 00:17:43,768.6691519 --> 00:17:46,408.6691519 I'm gonna go through like, now that you've identified, right. 163 00:17:46,408.6691519 --> 00:17:49,318.6691519 And it can be, um, a little of everything. 164 00:17:49,318.6691519 --> 00:17:54,838.6691519 I just, you will be able to, to notice like when one doesn't affect you as much. 165 00:17:55,108.6691519 --> 00:17:58,918.6691519 Like a distraction just ended up being a really big one for me. 166 00:17:59,832.920767 --> 00:18:04,542.920767 yeah, like what's the thing that immediately takes you off course is the procrastination. 167 00:18:05,334.5097496 --> 00:18:14,624.5097496 is it the distraction being constantly pulled into different directions? Or is it you just being overly critical of yourself? So if it's delay. 168 00:18:15,749.5097496 --> 00:18:19,499.5097496 Choose obedience over overthinking and shorten your decision making window. 169 00:18:19,499.5097496 --> 00:18:25,379.5097496 So go ahead and whatever you are delaying, put a, put a date, decide right now. 170 00:18:25,409.5097496 --> 00:18:25,589.5097496 Okay. 171 00:18:25,589.5097496 --> 00:18:30,119.5097496 If you're deleting, going through the course, put a date when you're gonna have it done. 172 00:18:31,75.1631569 --> 00:18:38,805.6161493 If it's perfectionism, decide what is the smallest version of this that I can tackle this week. 173 00:18:39,75.6161493 --> 00:18:45,825.6161493 So that way you're not trying to, 'cause I know with perfectionist you wanna like do it big every time and do it perfect. 174 00:18:45,825.6161493 --> 00:18:52,232.2828159 But what is the smallest version of this that you can commit to? And you can finish this week, and you can view as practice. 175 00:18:54,812.2828159 --> 00:18:55,442.2828159 Love this. 176 00:18:55,442.2828159 --> 00:18:56,102.2828159 Yes. 177 00:18:57,430.4616845 --> 00:19:01,780.4616845 And then if it is distraction, block out your time for deep focus and eliminate your triggers. 178 00:19:01,780.4616845 --> 00:19:08,320.4616845 Spot out your top, one to three distractions, and then eliminate the trigger of that. 179 00:19:08,410.4616845 --> 00:19:13,30.4616845 So I put my phone away whenever I am, I'm in, I'm in flow, bro. 180 00:19:13,30.4616845 --> 00:19:15,880.4616845 Right now I'm doing these things and the phone's away. 181 00:19:16,385.9694082 --> 00:19:29,414.1041931 Anything that's stealing your time or energy or attention, and you eliminate it by blocking, do some time blocking, blocking out your calendar, and making appointments on your calendar of what tasks you're going to do at X time.
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