113 | You Want Confidence, But You’re Still Thinking Like the Old You

Hi beautiful! ♥️

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, you’re just not seeing the growth or confidence you’ve been praying for? Maybe you're reading the Word, showing up, staying busy, but still wondering why things aren’t taking root in your life.

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the Parable of the Sower and how it reveals what’s really going on beneath the surface of our mindset, our faith, and our confidence. Spoiler: it’s not about doing more - it’s about cultivating the kind of soil in your life that can actually hold the seeds God is planting.

We’ll talk about how your mindset is the soil that determines your harvest, what the four types of “soul soil” are and how they show up in our everyday thoughts and habits, and why you might feel stuck even when you’re doing all the “right” things. 

So grab your journal, get comfy, and let’s talk about how to become the kind of woman who doesn’t just hear the Word but lives it, roots it, and multiplies it.

See you on the inside! Xo, Dani

 

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Episode Transcript

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Welcome back.
I hope you had a beautiful week last week and you are just feeling so like loving the fall season change.
I don't know where you are in the world, but where I'm at over here in Alabama.
It is feeling like fall and I am so loving it.

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I realize that this is definitely my favorite season.
I've never said fall's.
My favorite season.
I've always been like a summer spring girl, but I think officially.
I've switched over and fall is definitely my favorite season.
But I just pray that you're doing so well.
I wanted to share a live coaching training one, because these are my most downloaded episodes here on the pod.

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So, which means I'm guessing that it's your favorite too.
And I love sharing these bits and pieces with, from these live coaching calls because, you just get real trainings that I am creating for these coaching programs to teach to their students.
and also like this is in more of a secular world.

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But I, I love that I can bring my faith and, teach from a biblical stance because.
Honestly, this was how I found the Lord Jesus was I got into a business back in 2020 and my mentor.
He was Christian and I, I was not following Jesus at the time.

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I was not even really interested in God.
Um, but he would teach on these mindset calls, and he would share such wisdom and it would leave me an awe every single time.
And it's just been a full circle moment and just a glory to God because.
He's just so cool.
Like that was going to his mindset calls, listening to him teach from the book of Proverbs, from the gospels and just bring so much wisdom.

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It, it drew me in to wanna know the word of God for myself.
And yes, at first I sought it for just wisdom and personal development.
But God can use anything.
Right? Um, and so now it's just been so cool to be able to teach in a space that, you know is more.
And it's in the secular world and bring in biblical teaching.

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And it's just, it's been so, it's been so good.
And this is one of my favorite communities, that I coach for.
The women are absolutely my favorite.
So I hope that you enjoy this episode.
Just like, or really this training, just like they did.
This one is about, um, I was, I was reading scripture the other week and I was just parked on.

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The parable of the sower and the seed. 36 00:02:47,510.98028236 --> 00:02:48,860.98028236 And the four different types of soil. 37 00:02:48,950.98028236 --> 00:02:51,590.98028236 And this is what this teaching is gonna be about. 38 00:02:51,890.98028236 --> 00:02:58,310.98028236 I want you as you go, as you move into this, to assess the soil that you currently have. 39 00:02:58,730.98028236 --> 00:02:59,110.98028236 And so. 40 00:02:59,850.98028236 --> 00:03:23,30.98028236 This is gonna be for you if you are a woman who just wants to get out of this striving mindset and you really wanna rest in God's promises and maybe you found yourself producing the same sort of fruit over and over again, whether that is Toxic relationship patterns, a certain addiction, or maybe just this narrative that I am just not good enough. 41 00:03:23,30.98028236 --> 00:03:26,90.98028236 I'll never be good enough, or I am not worthy of love. 42 00:03:26,390.98028236 --> 00:03:28,640.98028236 Or I always attract a. 43 00:03:29,165.98028236 --> 00:03:31,145.98028236 Liars in my life. 44 00:03:31,335.98028236 --> 00:03:37,545.98028236 I always end up in, um, with a short end of the stick or I have to live with this. 45 00:03:38,85.98028236 --> 00:03:41,235.98028236 I just feel like this dark cloud is following me. 46 00:03:41,545.98028236 --> 00:03:46,135.98028236 'Cause the reason that you're having this issue is because you're surrounded in the right environment. 47 00:03:46,165.98028236 --> 00:03:49,375.98028236 In the in, you're planted in the wrong pot. 48 00:03:49,705.98028236 --> 00:03:58,165.98028236 Okay? You're planted in the wrong pot around the wrong people and or you were planting wrong seed in you. 49 00:03:58,682.54671639 --> 00:04:09,362.54671639 And you have one of the three out of the four types of soil that we do not want, that is causing the good seed to be stolen from you or to be choked out. 50 00:04:09,632.54671639 --> 00:04:18,452.54671639 And so by the end of this episode, you're gonna learn how to cultivate good, healthy soil and also assess what soil that you have. 51 00:04:18,452.54671639 --> 00:04:25,502.54671639 And then it's gonna end with a reflection for, for you to help assess yourself so that way you can pull one thing. 52 00:04:25,502.54671639 --> 00:04:27,332.54671639 Okay, this is what I'm gonna work on this week. 53 00:04:27,747.54671639 --> 00:04:29,157.54671639 And you're gonna grow from there. 54 00:04:29,157.54671639 --> 00:04:30,237.54671639 It's baby steps. 55 00:04:30,267.54671639 --> 00:04:30,447.54671639 Okay. 56 00:04:30,447.54671639 --> 00:04:31,977.54671639 But first it starts with awareness. 57 00:04:32,7.54671639 --> 00:04:36,837.54671639 And I think this is a perfect parable to really pull from, to cultivate that awareness. 58 00:04:36,897.54671639 --> 00:04:37,257.54671639 Okay. 59 00:04:37,527.54671639 --> 00:04:38,877.54671639 Well let's get into it. 60 00:04:39,531.36325113 --> 00:04:40,731.36325113 Hey, beautiful. 61 00:04:40,851.36325113 --> 00:04:44,631.36325113 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 62 00:04:44,691.36325113 --> 00:05:08,991.36325113 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 63 00:05:09,21.36325113 --> 00:05:10,161.36325113 I've been there too. 64 00:05:10,281.36325113 --> 00:05:17,511.36325113 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 65 00:05:17,601.36325113 --> 00:05:34,281.36325113 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 66 00:05:34,471.36325113 --> 00:05:49,591.36325113 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 67 00:05:49,831.36325113 --> 00:05:52,801.36325113 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 68 00:05:52,891.36325113 --> 00:05:57,61.36325113 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 69 00:05:57,151.36325113 --> 00:05:58,921.36325113 One step at a time. 70 00:05:59,273.08461003 --> 00:05:59,573.08461003 Okay. 71 00:05:59,573.08461003 --> 00:06:13,278.08461003 Really quick before we dive into the episode for my ladies who have been suffering in silence, when it comes to just massive self doubt or limiting beliefs, and maybe you're at a place where you want to. 72 00:06:13,743.08461003 --> 00:06:21,243.08461003 Build God rooted confidence and you want to detach your confidence and your identity from the world. 73 00:06:21,513.08461003 --> 00:06:24,573.08461003 I created a resource for you. 74 00:06:24,573.08461003 --> 00:06:34,293.08461003 It's called the God Rooted Confidence Roadmap, and I'm taking you through five different core steps to help you build God rooted confidence. 75 00:06:34,293.08461003 --> 00:06:35,763.08461003 And this is not something that I just. 76 00:06:36,118.08461003 --> 00:06:38,458.08461003 Like made up that I didn't go through myself. 77 00:06:38,458.08461003 --> 00:06:49,348.08461003 This is the exact process and things that I pulled from that I started working on back in 2020, and I pulled everything that truly made a difference in my life. 78 00:06:49,348.08461003 --> 00:06:57,898.08461003 I've spent so many years rooting my confidence in myself, which just led me to, To feeling more defeated in the end. 79 00:06:57,898.08461003 --> 00:07:03,868.08461003 And it wasn't until I had this breaking where I was like, okay, well I, I have to, it wasn't even a choice. 80 00:07:04,108.08461003 --> 00:07:08,488.08461003 I have to root my confidence in Christ because he's the only thing that does not waver. 81 00:07:08,608.08461003 --> 00:07:17,518.08461003 And this is why I created this resource for the woman who has been rooting her confidence in the world or in other people, or her accomplishments. 82 00:07:17,818.08461003 --> 00:07:20,713.08461003 Anything, something comes up, your confidence crumbles. 83 00:07:21,543.08461003 --> 00:07:23,133.08461003 You don't have to live that way. 84 00:07:23,233.08461003 --> 00:07:30,103.08461003 And so you can go to the link in the description in this episode to look at all the details, everything that you'll get with it. 85 00:07:30,103.08461003 --> 00:07:40,406.41794336 And if you decide to come on over and share with me over on my Instagram at Love Danny Jackson, I would love to hear from you and just hear how it helps, okay. 86 00:07:40,646.41794336 --> 00:07:41,606.41794336 Let's get into the training. 87 00:07:41,968.41794336 --> 00:07:55,318.41794336 What I'm hearing from each of them is that they came prepared to the event with good soil, and I'm gonna make this make sense, so just give me a sec. 88 00:07:55,318.41794336 --> 00:08:11,668.41794336 But they came prepared to the event with good soil, good ground, to be able to receive the words that were spoken to them from the stage, from the round tables, from conversations, one-off conversations with these people from other sisters here. 89 00:08:12,778.41794336 --> 00:08:15,958.41794336 And whenever you have good soil, this is. 90 00:08:16,498.41794336 --> 00:08:24,598.41794336 Goal to live your life and to continuously cultivate good soil being, being good soil. 91 00:08:25,258.41794336 --> 00:08:28,978.41794336 Scripture talks about how we were made from dirt. 92 00:08:30,358.41794336 --> 00:08:54,658.41794336 And so if we're made from dirt, if, if God literally grabbed dirt, breathed on, on, formed us from dirt and breathed life into our nostrils, ev we are going to accept plant and growth, growth, whatever seeds are being planted in us. 93 00:08:55,348.41794336 --> 00:09:05,368.41794336 Now, there's two parts to this, right? The soil and then the type of seeds that you're planting into your life, into your heart, into your mind. 94 00:09:05,908.41794336 --> 00:09:12,238.41794336 And so lemme talk about the different types of soil really quick, and then we can touch, touch on the seeds. 95 00:09:12,628.41794336 --> 00:09:25,448.41794336 So I want us, as I'm, as I'm describing these different types of soils, and I'm getting this from Mark, chapter four in the Bible, the par parable, Jesus taught in parables, and this is a called the Parable of the Sower. 96 00:09:26,678.41794336 --> 00:09:44,358.41794336 Um, and so he talks about these three different soils that we can have, and it's very important, and I believe y'all's mind are, is gonna be blown because as I was reading it like two days ago, I think it was, or three days ago, I had this revelation that I didn't really receive before. 97 00:09:44,768.41794336 --> 00:09:50,828.41794336 And it's gonna give you guys a lot of just excitement and peace is my hope. 98 00:09:51,248.41794336 --> 00:10:06,218.41794336 But as I'm going through these soil soils, I want you guys to identify and what type of, what type of soil do I currently have, right? We wanna take a self-assessment of what does my soil look like? Okay? So there's four types of soil. 99 00:10:07,583.41794336 --> 00:10:07,943.41794336 Okay. 100 00:10:08,183.41794336 --> 00:10:14,513.41794336 We have the soil that's equivalent to a closed mind. 101 00:10:15,743.41794336 --> 00:10:21,443.41794336 Okay? This is the first soil, a soil that is equivalent to a closed mind. 102 00:10:21,803.41794336 --> 00:10:26,296.52307489 Oh my gosh, I forgot who it was that, that just talked about. 103 00:10:26,326.52307489 --> 00:10:37,396.52307489 Um, the enemy was coming in that she lost her SDR position, right when she came back after going to this event, getting all of these seeds planted in her. 104 00:10:37,576.52307489 --> 00:10:47,476.52307489 And then, guess what? The enemy came in to snatch out, tried to snatch out the seeds that were planted, right? She came on a high and tried to snatch it out. 105 00:10:47,476.52307489 --> 00:10:52,486.52307489 She said she had her moment right, where she had a little bit of a breakdown, but she picked herself back up. 106 00:10:52,486.52307489 --> 00:10:55,336.52307489 So know that she didn't have. 107 00:10:55,951.52307489 --> 00:11:03,211.52307489 This closed off soil, this vulnerable soil, this weak soil. 108 00:11:04,621.52307489 --> 00:11:11,41.52307489 Okay? Understand that your adversary, we share the same adversary. 109 00:11:11,341.52307489 --> 00:11:31,111.52307489 Understand that he is going to come in and try to snatch away the words, the, the words that the Lord has spoken to you, the words that are worthy of praise, the words that are righteous thoughts, that are good thoughts, that are fruitful thoughts, that are abundant thoughts. 110 00:11:31,561.52307489 --> 00:11:34,651.52307489 He wants to steal it because he wants to steal your destiny. 111 00:11:35,341.52307489 --> 00:11:36,931.52307489 He wants to steal everything from you. 112 00:11:36,931.52307489 --> 00:11:42,121.52307489 So we have to understand that we can be on these highs, which are amazing. 113 00:11:42,181.52307489 --> 00:11:42,721.52307489 Yes. 114 00:11:42,751.52307489 --> 00:11:44,521.52307489 Like let's freaking crush. 115 00:11:44,521.52307489 --> 00:11:48,391.52307489 Like I don't know if I'm, I'm probably gonna, I was planning on gonna sleep early tonight, but I don't think I am. 116 00:11:48,631.52307489 --> 00:11:49,621.52307489 Like I'm on one. 117 00:11:49,981.52307489 --> 00:11:54,571.52307489 Just being able to receive this energy exchange from you guys just. 118 00:11:55,291.52307489 --> 00:12:01,141.52307489 Getting filled there, receiving these fruitful seeds and being good soil. 119 00:12:01,801.52307489 --> 00:12:05,311.52307489 So this first soil is where the enemy is always gonna come. 120 00:12:05,311.52307489 --> 00:12:08,551.52307489 No matter who you are always gonna come and try to steal the seed. 121 00:12:08,551.52307489 --> 00:12:17,6.52307489 Try to sow in doubt, try to sow in fear, try to sow in anxiety, try to tell you that you have too many disorders or whatever, right? He's going to attack you. 122 00:12:17,221.52307489 --> 00:12:27,1.52307489 And so whenever you have this first type of soil, this closed off, vulnerable, unprotected soil, the enemy snatches away the word. 123 00:12:27,961.52307489 --> 00:12:31,801.52307489 And it's like, as it, it's like as if it's, it never, it never took root. 124 00:12:34,81.52307489 --> 00:12:48,1.52307489 It never took root because it talks about the birds coming in and just, and think about, throwing seeds on, on a garden, right? It didn't even get a chance to get in the soil because the birds came in and took the seeds away. 125 00:12:50,161.52307489 --> 00:12:53,701.52307489 That's this first type of super shallow soil. 126 00:12:54,421.52307489 --> 00:12:54,841.52307489 Okay. 127 00:12:54,901.52307489 --> 00:12:55,651.52307489 We don't want that. 128 00:12:55,861.52307489 --> 00:12:59,671.52307489 But how you know that you're here is if you feel very resistant. 129 00:13:00,121.52307489 --> 00:13:16,561.52307489 Um, if you feel distracted, if you feel s skeptical, if you're living in a state of fear, if you say yes and accept the doubt, this is indication that you have this first type of shallow soil. 130 00:13:17,791.52307489 --> 00:13:23,941.52307489 Okay? Number two is the rocky soil. 131 00:13:25,201.52307489 --> 00:13:29,521.52307489 Okay? So first one was equivalent to a closed mind. 132 00:13:29,731.52307489 --> 00:13:32,371.52307489 This rocky soil is a shallow mind. 133 00:13:33,1.52307489 --> 00:13:38,561.52307489 And think of rocky soil as, like it's gravel mixed in with with soil. 134 00:13:39,221.52307489 --> 00:13:46,61.52307489 Okay? This is when you can be on a high, and a lot of times people stay here in this rocky soil. 135 00:13:46,691.52307489 --> 00:13:56,351.52307489 And whenever I was going through this, I had to like think about, okay, areas where I do have Rocky, like in thorny and whatever else, and to pray that out of like, I want good soil. 136 00:13:56,591.52307489 --> 00:13:58,751.52307489 But this number two is rocky soil. 137 00:13:58,901.52307489 --> 00:14:01,451.52307489 This is equivalent to having a shallow mind. 138 00:14:01,751.52307489 --> 00:14:10,781.52307489 And so when somebody has a shallow mind, they can be in all the rooms, they can go to all the events, they can be on all the live trainings, and they're receiving the word with joy. 139 00:14:11,21.52307489 --> 00:14:12,431.52307489 So they're like, oh my gosh. 140 00:14:12,431.52307489 --> 00:14:13,31.52307489 Like yes. 141 00:14:13,31.52307489 --> 00:14:14,141.52307489 That mindset training was amazing. 142 00:14:14,171.52307489 --> 00:14:15,311.52307489 Oh my gosh, the event was amazing. 143 00:14:15,311.52307489 --> 00:14:16,181.52307489 They're on this high. 144 00:14:16,391.52307489 --> 00:14:30,251.52307489 But unfortunately not every single woman that went to the event is going to reap a harvest that they want because they haven't cultivated the good soil. 145 00:14:30,251.52307489 --> 00:14:31,751.52307489 They have a rocky soil. 146 00:14:32,441.52307489 --> 00:14:37,781.52307489 So this is when you know you're on this high, right? So this week everything's good. 147 00:14:37,931.52307489 --> 00:14:44,981.52307489 And then maybe say something happens in your personal life or your relationships this weekend, and it tanks everything and. 148 00:14:45,911.52307489 --> 00:14:49,481.52307489 And none of, none of the words that you received took root. 149 00:14:51,161.52307489 --> 00:14:54,911.52307489 So they just die off through trials that come. 150 00:14:56,171.52307489 --> 00:14:58,361.52307489 Okay? This is rocky soil. 151 00:14:58,811.52307489 --> 00:15:02,51.52307489 So you're receiving the word with joy, but it dies off. 152 00:15:02,51.52307489 --> 00:15:10,871.52307489 It doesn't take root because whenever you have trials that come, come in your life, right? When things aren't good anymore, that's when you go under. 153 00:15:11,321.52307489 --> 00:15:13,571.52307489 But when things are good in your life, that's when you're great. 154 00:15:14,621.52307489 --> 00:15:18,221.52307489 But the key is when things in life don't go your way. 155 00:15:18,851.52307489 --> 00:15:32,201.52307489 Can you be steadfast? Can you stay at a level where it doesn't matter what's what's going on around you, but you are clinging onto the word? You are determined to have that seed take root. 156 00:15:33,131.52307489 --> 00:15:35,21.52307489 Okay? But that's number two, Rocky soil. 157 00:15:36,701.52307489 --> 00:15:40,901.52307489 Number three is the thorny soil. 158 00:15:41,66.52307489 --> 00:15:45,686.52307489 So this is when you have, it's equivalent to having a crowded mind. 159 00:15:45,686.52307489 --> 00:15:48,26.52307489 You feel like you're living it with chaos. 160 00:15:48,56.52307489 --> 00:15:50,846.52307489 In chaos, you have so many tabs open. 161 00:15:50,846.52307489 --> 00:15:55,586.52307489 Maybe you're worrying about your debt, you're worrying about this investment, you're worrying about this other bill that just came in. 162 00:15:55,736.52307489 --> 00:15:57,626.52307489 You're worrying about going through the curriculum. 163 00:15:57,746.52307489 --> 00:16:03,116.52307489 You're remember worrying about school, you kids, all these, the tabs and things that are open, a chaotic home. 164 00:16:03,146.52307489 --> 00:16:04,76.52307489 You have to do laundry. 165 00:16:04,76.52307489 --> 00:16:05,486.52307489 All these, all these things. 166 00:16:05,486.52307489 --> 00:16:06,836.52307489 This is a crowded mind. 167 00:16:07,166.52307489 --> 00:16:08,276.52307489 It's everywhere. 168 00:16:08,696.52307489 --> 00:16:12,176.52307489 This is equivalent to a thorny, an indication that you have thorny soil. 169 00:16:12,986.52307489 --> 00:16:18,806.52307489 Okay? This is when, right, Ima right? We're imagining we're throwing seed on the ground, on the garden. 170 00:16:18,806.52307489 --> 00:16:20,156.52307489 Some of them are gonna take root. 171 00:16:20,516.52307489 --> 00:16:24,476.52307489 Not all of them are, and that's just the reality of life. 172 00:16:24,746.52307489 --> 00:16:36,626.52307489 Okay? Some of 'em are gonna take root, some of them, um, won't, but those that get that fall on thorny soil, this is when the, the word come, the word comes to you. 173 00:16:37,196.52307489 --> 00:16:38,216.52307489 Like, don't give up. 174 00:16:38,516.52307489 --> 00:16:39,446.52307489 Keep going. 175 00:16:39,716.52307489 --> 00:16:39,896.52307489 Okay. 176 00:16:39,896.52307489 --> 00:16:40,676.5230749 Do the outreach video. 177 00:16:40,676.5230749 --> 00:17:07,896.5230749 Even if, even if you don't, if, if you don't, if you don't feel confident right now, right? Guess what? That, those words, right? Being so excited about that, it starts to get choked out by worries that come into your mind by, obsession with, material things, with riches of the world and obse an unhealthy obsession with it, worshiping it, making an idol in your life. 178 00:17:08,76.5230749 --> 00:17:12,156.5230749 That being, that being your main motivator, busyness. 179 00:17:13,176.5230749 --> 00:17:17,466.5230749 This is when those seeds get choked out with this thorny soil. 180 00:17:17,706.5230749 --> 00:17:21,66.5230749 You can know that you're, that you have thorny soil. 181 00:17:21,96.5230749 --> 00:17:31,356.5230749 If you are falling into comparison, if you're falling into fear, if you're falling into overcommitment, okay, you get, you ditch the word. 182 00:17:32,556.5230749 --> 00:17:33,876.5230749 Worries into your mind. 183 00:17:34,386.5230749 --> 00:17:48,156.5230749 Well, I don't know if I can do this anymore because like I, I have, uh, I, I have a crazy, hectic home life, or I just had some unexpected event happen. 184 00:17:48,906.5230749 --> 00:17:50,466.5230749 And that takes over your mind. 185 00:17:50,466.5230749 --> 00:17:57,486.5230749 You have this crowded mind and you, you're not able to water the seed that was planted in you before that you truly wanna see take root. 186 00:17:58,776.5230749 --> 00:18:05,766.5230749 Okay? And then the fourth type of soil, this is the goal for all of us, is to have good soil. 187 00:18:07,26.5230749 --> 00:18:13,446.5230749 This is when you have a rooted mind, when you have that good foundation. 188 00:18:13,656.5230749 --> 00:18:26,736.5230749 So this is when the word that comes, that comes to you when you hear the word faith comes by hearing, hearing what? Hearing the word, when the word is heard, it's understood. 189 00:18:27,591.5230749 --> 00:18:28,821.5230749 You receive it. 190 00:18:29,271.5230749 --> 00:18:33,321.5230749 Like every single, every single woman that came up and they said, oh my gosh, well just do it. 191 00:18:33,321.5230749 --> 00:18:34,131.5230749 Just do it. 192 00:18:35,301.5230749 --> 00:18:42,21.5230749 That word that was given to them, they all took, they all took it in them in a different form, in a different way. 193 00:18:42,21.5230749 --> 00:18:44,121.5230749 It meant something different to each of them. 194 00:18:46,701.5230749 --> 00:18:52,581.5230749 They understood it in a way that they were open to what with how they needed to understand it. 195 00:18:52,581.5230749 --> 00:18:55,461.5230749 To get them to a place where they're like, I am gonna take action. 196 00:18:55,641.5230749 --> 00:18:57,111.5230749 I am gonna make this my one thing. 197 00:18:58,101.5230749 --> 00:19:02,241.5230749 I am gonna take, make that extra step and invest in myself, my time, energy, resources. 198 00:19:03,501.5230749 --> 00:19:04,941.5230749 I am gonna step outta my comfort zone. 199 00:19:05,91.5230749 --> 00:19:10,11.5230749 That's when it's understood and you're actually applying it. 200 00:19:10,281.5230749 --> 00:19:20,121.5230749 Faith without works is dead, so it is when you are taking hold of the word, you're in agreement with the word. 201 00:19:20,901.5230749 --> 00:19:23,416.5230749 Yes, I know that I'm gonna have an opportunity by the end of this week. 202 00:19:25,626.5230749 --> 00:19:29,946.5230749 You're holding onto the agreement and it's not just you're speaking it, but you're actually doing the work and showing up. 203 00:19:30,126.5230749 --> 00:19:35,796.5230749 You're applying the work that's necessary to see the harvest come to pass. 204 00:19:36,756.5230749 --> 00:19:56,196.5230749 And the cool thing, the super cool thing about having good soil is that it produces not twofold, not threefold, not fivefold, not tenfold, not 20 fold, but 30, 60 and a hundred fold. 205 00:19:56,846.5230749 --> 00:20:03,866.5230749 So all the ladies that did do the board one boardroom, all of them definitely had to step out in faith to do that. 206 00:20:06,116.5230749 --> 00:20:12,476.5230749 It takes faith to do that, but guess what? It's gonna produce them 30 fold, produce them 60 fold. 207 00:20:12,536.5230749 --> 00:20:13,76.5230749 A hundred fold. 208 00:20:13,106.5230749 --> 00:20:14,336.5230749 I'm not making these numbers up. 209 00:20:14,336.5230749 --> 00:20:15,476.5230749 It's in scripture. 210 00:20:16,496.5230749 --> 00:20:19,136.5230749 30, 60, a hundred fold. 211 00:20:21,131.5230749 --> 00:20:22,31.5230749 I was just meditate on that. 212 00:20:22,31.5230749 --> 00:20:47,741.5230749 I'm like, that's a, that's, that's a big ROI, that's a big ROI just from focusing on having good soil, you know, you have good soil when you are open, when you are consistent, when you have, you can clinging to faith even when nothing looks like it's panning out. 213 00:20:48,281.5230749 --> 00:20:54,791.5230749 This is why we're called to walk by faith and not by sight call things as you want to see them, not as they are. 214 00:20:56,411.5230749 --> 00:21:11,531.5230749 The biggest tip that I received in marriage, and this applies to life, but if I want something to change in my husband, I compliment and, and speak to the man that I want him to be, that I know he has deep down in him. 215 00:21:11,561.5230749 --> 00:21:12,761.5230749 I speak to that man. 216 00:21:13,811.5230749 --> 00:21:17,411.5230749 I call out the things that, that are not currently. 217 00:21:19,331.5230749 --> 00:21:22,511.5230749 In my reality, I call them as I want them to be. 218 00:21:24,851.5230749 --> 00:21:25,271.5230749 Okay. 219 00:21:27,41.5230749 --> 00:21:33,351.5230749 And I really wanna talk about if you guys, and if you guys don't, don't read scripture, it's totally fine. 220 00:21:34,71.5230749 --> 00:21:37,671.5230749 Um, this is just what I, I, I believe this is the, the living word of God. 221 00:21:37,941.5230749 --> 00:21:41,721.5230749 Um, and I believe Bible stands for basic instructions before leaving Earth. 222 00:21:42,141.5230749 --> 00:21:44,91.5230749 Um, I did not make that up. 223 00:21:44,91.5230749 --> 00:21:51,711.5230749 It was actually my first mentor that I sat under teachings of, of, um, biblical mindset trainings. 224 00:21:51,711.5230749 --> 00:21:53,211.5230749 And he blew my mind every time. 225 00:21:53,631.5230749 --> 00:21:59,991.5230749 Um, but it's in Mark 4, 27 and 28. 226 00:22:00,981.5230749 --> 00:22:05,271.5230749 I just wanna read it because, and, and share the revelation that I received from it. 227 00:22:05,541.5230749 --> 00:22:07,341.5230749 It says, and he goes to bed at night. 228 00:22:07,341.5230749 --> 00:22:09,651.5230749 The person, the sower, right? We're all farmers. 229 00:22:09,861.5230749 --> 00:22:10,911.5230749 We're all sowers. 230 00:22:10,986.5230749 --> 00:22:15,216.5230749 And he goes to bed at night and gets up by day and the seed sprouts and grows. 231 00:22:15,216.5230749 --> 00:22:16,836.5230749 So we've got the good seed. 232 00:22:16,836.5230749 --> 00:22:31,356.5230749 The seed is sprouting and growing up, how the question, how do we do it? How he himself does not know how the soil produces crops by itself. 233 00:22:32,706.5230749 --> 00:22:33,216.5230749 Good. 234 00:22:33,516.5230749 --> 00:22:36,36.5230749 The soil produces crops by itself. 235 00:22:37,236.5230749 --> 00:22:40,86.5230749 First, the blade in the head, and then the mature grain in the head. 236 00:22:40,86.5230749 --> 00:22:42,636.5230749 That's just talking about the little sprout. 237 00:22:42,816.5230749 --> 00:22:45,486.5230749 And then the medium, the stalk, you're seeing it come up. 238 00:22:45,516.5230749 --> 00:22:50,316.5230749 And then the full thing, what that tells me is it's gonna be underground. 239 00:22:50,316.5230749 --> 00:22:58,386.5230749 It's gonna look very small in the beginning, but guess what? You've got that good soil or clinging to the word you're believing it's gonna produce that 30, 60, a hundred fold. 240 00:22:58,896.5230749 --> 00:23:09,306.5230749 So you're believing it's going to shoot up, you're believing you're gonna see the, the full, the full manifestation of it, the full result of the thing that you planted. 241 00:23:09,486.5230749 --> 00:23:16,926.5230749 But guess what? Not by your might, but by the multiplier. 242 00:23:17,706.5230749 --> 00:23:23,316.5230749 And I'm gonna, I'm gonna give you guys steps into how to do this, but by the multiplier, the soil produces crops by itself. 243 00:23:23,316.5230749 --> 00:23:28,776.5230749 When you have good soil, it just produces, it springs up. 244 00:23:29,646.5230749 --> 00:23:50,706.5230749 So going back to what good soil is, having good soil, it is hearing the word, the words that when we're, when we're thinking about the types of seeds that are being planted in you, what are you listening to on a daily basis? Are you listening to people that are speaking faith, faith into you that are saying, you can do this speaking right into your identity or even yourself. 245 00:23:50,976.5230749 --> 00:23:58,296.5230749 Are you ca, are you ca, are you rejecting the lies that are saying, who are you to do this? Yeah, it can work for her, but not, not for me. 246 00:23:58,296.5230749 --> 00:24:00,276.5230749 Who am I? I don't have any experience. 247 00:24:00,276.5230749 --> 00:24:01,206.5230749 I don't look like that. 248 00:24:01,206.5230749 --> 00:24:02,256.5230749 I don't sound like her. 249 00:24:02,886.5230749 --> 00:24:09,726.5230749 Are you meditating on those thoughts? Are you allowing them to get into your heart? Because if you are, understand that that is what you're gonna produce. 250 00:24:12,246.5230749 --> 00:24:13,416.5230749 That's what you're gonna produce. 251 00:24:13,596.5230749 --> 00:24:27,726.5230749 So when we're talking about mindset work and, and, and rejecting these thoughts that are, that are trying to get in to, to plant in you, because guess what? You are, you are, you are dirt, you are soil. 252 00:24:28,416.5230749 --> 00:24:30,696.5230749 You're gonna produce what gets in you. 253 00:24:31,506.5230749 --> 00:24:49,416.5230749 So the question is, what is the seed that you're allowing in and what are you gonna water? So hearing, understanding what, what you are hearing, how are you, how are you taking it to heart for you? What's your revelation of it? What's your understanding of it? And then applying it. 254 00:24:50,106.5230749 --> 00:24:59,196.5230749 Okay, what does just do it mean? How can I apply that word? This is, this is what you will do when you have good soil. 255 00:25:00,756.5230749 --> 00:25:03,246.5230749 Okay? So when you're faithful to sow. 256 00:25:04,971.5230749 --> 00:25:15,201.5230749 To tend to the soil, to continuously have good soil, because guess what? Somebody can have good soil for three months and then they go back to having thorny or rocky or shallow soil. 257 00:25:15,441.5230749 --> 00:25:27,981.5230749 So it's a continuous fight daily to have this good soil, because guess what, again, if we just have and cultivate the good soil, the soil produces crops by itself. 258 00:25:29,421.5230749 --> 00:25:31,731.5230749 30, 60, a hundred fold. 259 00:25:34,821.5230749 --> 00:25:35,871.5230749 That part blew my mind. 260 00:25:35,991.5230749 --> 00:25:41,121.5230749 I don't know why I didn't see that really before, but the producing by itself part, I'm clinging to that. 261 00:25:41,811.5230749 --> 00:25:42,321.5230749 Yes. 262 00:25:42,651.5230749 --> 00:25:43,701.5230749 I want, I want that. 263 00:25:45,351.5230749 --> 00:25:52,941.5230749 Um, so in, in this too, in the part where it's talking about the blade and then the head and then the mature grain, so. 264 00:25:53,481.5230749 --> 00:26:06,741.5230749 Another caveat in this too, when you are freshly cultivating this good soul and you're starting to seed good seed, right? You land in an SDR position, or you land in an interview continuously cultivating it, right? Of what a farmer doesn't do. 265 00:26:06,861.5230749 --> 00:26:11,331.5230749 They don't plant the seeds and then a few days later dig up to check. 266 00:26:11,361.5230749 --> 00:26:14,91.5230749 Have you grown yet? No. 267 00:26:14,451.5230749 --> 00:26:23,451.5230749 They're having faith to say, I don't know what's going on underground, but I'm believing that this crop right here is gonna produce what it needs to produce. 268 00:26:24,381.5230749 --> 00:26:31,521.5230749 Okay? It's to so faithfully, and I believe it's God's job. 269 00:26:31,791.5230749 --> 00:26:32,721.5230749 I'm his daughter. 270 00:26:33,411.5230749 --> 00:26:35,391.5230749 It's God's job to bring the increase. 271 00:26:35,571.5230749 --> 00:26:36,921.5230749 He said it, not me. 272 00:26:39,231.5230749 --> 00:26:42,381.5230749 So a lot of the times like. 273 00:26:43,746.5230749 --> 00:26:45,636.5230749 There's maybe this is a different training. 274 00:26:46,176.5230749 --> 00:26:51,426.5230749 I've also learned the difference between a striving mentality and a resting mentality. 275 00:26:51,636.5230749 --> 00:26:55,806.5230749 And there is a lot of, it's an art I think. 276 00:26:56,76.5230749 --> 00:27:02,106.5230749 'cause I used to think that rest was super not productive and then I had to be striving. 277 00:27:02,106.5230749 --> 00:27:06,696.5230749 But it is kind of like a heart posture or a stance or a mindset or what you're kind of focusing on. 278 00:27:06,696.5230749 --> 00:27:08,46.5230749 I think that's a totally different training. 279 00:27:08,46.5230749 --> 00:27:10,206.5230749 I don't wanna get into that 'cause we're almost out time. 280 00:27:10,566.5230749 --> 00:27:16,446.5230749 But really, I hope this word allows you to rest in that, not to be lazy, but to rest. 281 00:27:16,446.5230749 --> 00:27:27,786.5230749 Know that what I am going to, so, and as I continue to cultivate my good soil, it's gonna produce 30, 60, a hundred fold. 282 00:27:28,896.5230749 --> 00:27:32,196.5230749 And so I wanna talk really quick about how to cultivate good soil. 283 00:27:32,196.5230749 --> 00:27:34,326.5230749 We're probably gonna go over maybe like five-ish minutes. 284 00:27:35,646.5230749 --> 00:27:37,446.5230749 Uh, but how to cultivate good soil. 285 00:27:37,446.5230749 --> 00:27:38,76.5230749 I'll be quick. 286 00:27:38,406.5230749 --> 00:27:39,726.5230749 First thing you wanna do. 287 00:27:40,686.5230749 --> 00:27:46,596.5230749 Is you want to clear the ground and I'll check the chat as well. 288 00:27:46,926.5230749 --> 00:27:47,976.5230749 You wanna clear the ground. 289 00:27:48,696.5230749 --> 00:27:49,146.5230749 Okay. 290 00:27:49,206.5230749 --> 00:27:52,986.5230749 So maybe you're identifying, you know what, I got a lot of gravel. 291 00:27:52,986.5230749 --> 00:27:55,56.5230749 It's my, my soul's covered. 292 00:27:55,266.5230749 --> 00:27:56,226.5230749 My soul's covered. 293 00:27:56,316.5230749 --> 00:28:02,596.5230749 Nothing can get being able to get in, identify what the rocks are, what is actually covering it. 294 00:28:02,596.5230749 --> 00:28:06,856.5230749 Is it inconsistency? You say that you're gonna do something but you don't do it. 295 00:28:07,726.5230749 --> 00:28:42,595.7192558 Is it a, a, a, a resistance to, to, to change, to learning something new and applying it? Is it second guessing the framework that Alexis is sharing here that's worked for hundreds of girls before you? Are you like, are you questioning the, the, the process? What are the rocks that are getting in your way? And also what are the thorns? So the thorns are the distractions that are trying to come in, the comparison, the limiting beliefs that are trying to come in. 296 00:28:43,255.7192558 --> 00:28:45,865.7192558 Identify, don't just say distractions. 297 00:28:45,865.7192558 --> 00:28:55,765.7192558 What is the distraction? Is it tv? Is it social media? Is it scrolling for hours a day? You wanna identify those things. 298 00:28:56,695.7192558 --> 00:29:03,805.7192558 So we actually might go for 15 minutes over, 'cause I, I do wanna end with you guys, you know, writing some of these stuff down. 299 00:29:04,75.7192558 --> 00:29:12,415.7192558 So what I, the question I want you guys to answer is, okay, what rock or thorn, do I need a clear out of my soil right now? Whatever comes to mind. 300 00:29:13,45.7192558 --> 00:29:29,458.488768 What are you inconsistent in? What are you, what are you reject, rejecting? What help are you rejecting? What beliefs or lies are you believing? Who are you comparing yourself to? Why and why? Number two, you wanna plant the right seeds. 301 00:29:30,282.036329 --> 00:29:35,142.036329 Okay, so planting the right seeds are words. 302 00:29:35,772.036329 --> 00:29:39,552.036329 Words are seeds, and words have no sense of humor. 303 00:29:41,802.036329 --> 00:29:55,272.036329 So even think about like how you joke with yourself or with other people, or the jokingly, oh yeah, I'm so dumb, or I'm so stupid, or even I'm dead. 304 00:29:55,722.036329 --> 00:30:01,32.036329 That whole phrase like you're planting with your words. 305 00:30:02,652.036329 --> 00:30:05,322.036329 Even if you're joking, your words don't have a sense of humor. 306 00:30:05,622.036329 --> 00:30:07,962.036329 They don't know you're joking, they're seeds. 307 00:30:08,352.036329 --> 00:30:09,912.036329 So plant the right seeds. 308 00:30:10,92.036329 --> 00:30:12,252.036329 The seeds are words. 309 00:30:13,392.036329 --> 00:30:18,282.036329 Are actions and attitudes. 310 00:30:19,632.036329 --> 00:30:24,942.036329 What's your attitude like in doing the action? Okay. 311 00:30:25,92.036329 --> 00:30:36,552.036329 Planting the right seeds, words matter, stick and sticks and sticks and stones break my bones and words hurt. 312 00:30:37,632.036329 --> 00:30:43,932.036329 I even came up with that saying probably the enemy want you to think that words can't hurt you, but they do. 313 00:30:45,345.8900993 --> 00:30:46,725.8900993 To plant the right seeds is number two. 314 00:30:47,505.8900993 --> 00:30:49,875.8900993 Number three, you wanna water the seed. 315 00:30:51,345.8900993 --> 00:30:51,765.8900993 Okay. 316 00:30:52,215.8900993 --> 00:30:55,215.8900993 Watering the seed will look different for everybody. 317 00:30:55,695.8900993 --> 00:31:00,885.8900993 For me personally, watering my seed is, is just your daily faith practices. 318 00:31:01,125.8900993 --> 00:31:02,385.8900993 So for me it's reading. 319 00:31:02,385.8900993 --> 00:31:06,105.8900993 Truth for me is scripture is praying. 320 00:31:06,585.8900993 --> 00:31:07,965.8900993 That increases my faith. 321 00:31:08,385.8900993 --> 00:31:10,425.8900993 Um, it's being in community. 322 00:31:11,145.8900993 --> 00:31:21,752.556766 Other people that, that I can, speak into the dream that I'm building, speak into the person, the woman that I'm becoming, the wife that I wanna be reminding me of who I am. 323 00:31:24,152.556766 --> 00:31:25,652.556766 So daily faith practices. 324 00:31:25,652.556766 --> 00:31:32,342.556766 For you, it may be saying your affirmations in the mirror, maybe writing down your affirmations and having them throughout your house. 325 00:31:32,342.556766 --> 00:31:34,82.556766 And every time you look at it, you're reading it. 326 00:31:36,422.556766 --> 00:31:43,802.556766 What are gonna be things that increase your faith? I definitely believe every, everybody can adopt the community aspect. 327 00:31:44,132.556766 --> 00:31:44,912.556766 It's huge. 328 00:31:44,912.556766 --> 00:31:46,292.556766 We're not meant to do life alone. 329 00:31:46,382.556766 --> 00:31:50,882.556766 And if you think that you can do this by yourself, you can't, you're mistaken. 330 00:31:51,212.556766 --> 00:32:05,702.556766 It's always better to ha to do this with somebody else, an accountability partner, somebody that whenever you're down and these thoughts are trying to come in, because they will try to come in, they can remind you why you started, what you're going after, who you are, push you. 331 00:32:07,277.556766 --> 00:32:08,837.556766 So watering the seed. 332 00:32:11,447.556766 --> 00:32:16,427.556766 'cause it's not, again, about we're not just gonna plant and it's just gonna come up outta nowhere. 333 00:32:16,637.556766 --> 00:32:21,557.556766 We're not planting, I don't know how they do GMO plants. 334 00:32:21,827.556766 --> 00:32:24,182.556766 We're not planting any GMO anything. 335 00:32:24,842.556766 --> 00:32:25,802.556766 No fake anything in our garden. 336 00:32:27,197.556766 --> 00:32:28,517.556766 Okay? We want the real thing. 337 00:32:28,517.556766 --> 00:32:34,277.556766 We want something that's going to last that's gonna produce every single year. 338 00:32:36,677.556766 --> 00:32:37,697.556766 Substance. 339 00:32:37,727.556766 --> 00:32:38,567.556766 Yes. 340 00:32:39,947.556766 --> 00:32:44,597.556766 'cause it's not about the overnight harvest, it's about the daily watering. 341 00:32:44,597.556766 --> 00:32:47,927.556766 It's about building something. 342 00:32:48,227.556766 --> 00:32:50,507.556766 It's building something that can stand the test of time. 343 00:32:52,517.556766 --> 00:32:58,697.556766 And then number four is, is trusting the process. 344 00:32:58,967.556766 --> 00:33:03,497.556766 Or if you're a woman of faith, trusting the producer, the multiplier. 345 00:33:05,762.556766 --> 00:33:06,182.556766 Right. 346 00:33:07,52.556766 --> 00:33:07,922.556766 Trusting. 347 00:33:07,922.556766 --> 00:33:11,852.556766 Trusting that because again, the soil's producing crops on its own. 348 00:33:12,182.556766 --> 00:33:21,362.556766 Once you have that good soil, so trusting, trusting the producer, trusting the multiplier, or trusting the process, whichever one resonates with you the most. 349 00:33:23,162.556766 --> 00:33:26,792.556766 Patience is very much required when you are gardening something. 350 00:33:26,852.556766 --> 00:33:28,682.556766 When you're planting something. 351 00:33:29,552.556766 --> 00:33:30,32.556766 Okay. 352 00:33:30,92.556766 --> 00:33:31,802.556766 Fruit is gonna come in the season. 353 00:33:31,802.556766 --> 00:33:36,62.556766 It's due, not sooner and not later. 354 00:33:38,972.556766 --> 00:33:39,362.556766 Okay. 355 00:33:39,782.556766 --> 00:33:45,392.556766 The fruit is coming and I think that's the main thing that I really want you guys to take away, is the fruit is gonna come. 356 00:33:46,772.556766 --> 00:33:48,422.556766 That's no question. 357 00:33:48,752.556766 --> 00:33:57,9.1160177 It's can you with, can you withstand and continue to press in when it doesn't look like it is when it's underground? That's the question. 358 00:33:57,782.8807898 --> 00:34:00,452.8807898 So a little bit of a reflection time. 359 00:34:01,212.1515713 --> 00:34:17,589.4991323 First one, and maybe you guys have already identified, but which soil do I most identify with right now? Is it the shallow, the rocky, the thorny, or the good? And why? You just can just think about it. 360 00:34:17,589.4991323 --> 00:34:21,399.4991323 Jot some words down in this, like, self-assessment. 361 00:34:22,303.6149859 --> 00:34:24,343.6149859 Go from good to thorny and back and forth. 362 00:34:24,973.6149859 --> 00:34:26,563.6149859 Vita, I would even identify, yeah. 363 00:34:26,593.6149859 --> 00:34:30,463.6149859 Why? Why? What causes you to go back and forth and really. 364 00:34:31,273.6149859 --> 00:34:31,963.6149859 Laser in on. 365 00:34:31,963.6149859 --> 00:35:08,343.4655806 What, what is that that causes you to go back and forth? Maybe what situations, what people, what words? And then number two, what rock or thur, thorn, what rock or thorn do you need to remove from your life? What do you need to go ahead and remove from your life? What distraction, what limiting belief, what lie, what act that is causing you to get off track? What do you need to go ahead and remove from your life? Christie, your nine to five job, you won't be there for a long girl. 366 00:35:09,123.4655806 --> 00:35:13,527.0717737 I believe it you against, you think like mental decreases in depression. 367 00:35:14,379.4180683 --> 00:35:30,819.4180683 My belief is that it's not you against you if you're facing depression, it's you against a force that is not you, but it wants to hide and disguise itself like it's you. 368 00:35:30,879.4180683 --> 00:35:35,529.4180683 So you just believe you're fighting you, but you're actually fighting the enemy. 369 00:35:36,969.4180683 --> 00:35:42,689.0365109 That's my belief and having that perspective has helped me fight him off. 370 00:35:44,294.0365109 --> 00:35:50,744.0365109 I don't get stuck thinking that these depressive thoughts or these depressive episodes, I'm just fighting myself. 371 00:35:51,14.0365109 --> 00:35:54,404.0365109 'cause that can get kind of hopeless at times. 372 00:35:54,554.0365109 --> 00:36:00,344.0365109 But know that that's not of you, that's not who you're created to be. 373 00:36:00,344.0365109 --> 00:36:03,74.0365109 You're not created to suffer with those things. 374 00:36:03,154.0365109 --> 00:36:13,80.7031776 It's a force that's outside of you that's coming in to try to make you depressed, to make you anxious. 375 00:36:13,671.8159825 --> 00:36:39,539.7192898 My go-to action is just casting down these thoughts, right? That are what are, what, what's the thing that's making you depressed? Like, what's sending you there? What's your trigger? Then notice whenever you come into this moment where, okay, the situation's happening, are you finding yourself spiraling down or getting sad? really speak, I don't know if you're a believer, but speaking the word of God is really, this is our, our sword. 376 00:36:39,999.7192898 --> 00:36:45,609.7192898 coming against those thoughts that are, and emotions 'cause feelings are not facts. 377 00:36:45,609.7192898 --> 00:36:47,919.7192898 Feelings lead to the facts. 378 00:36:48,139.7192898 --> 00:36:50,329.7192898 Lead to why you're feeling the way that you are. 379 00:36:50,329.7192898 --> 00:36:53,719.7192898 But you don't have to be led by your feelings. 380 00:36:53,719.7192898 --> 00:36:55,729.7192898 You make decisions and your feelings follow. 381 00:36:55,729.7192898 --> 00:36:59,479.7192898 So you make the decision to say, I'm not going to be depressed. 382 00:37:00,574.7192898 --> 00:37:02,284.7192898 Today, I'm not gonna be depressed tonight. 383 00:37:02,284.7192898 --> 00:37:07,864.7192898 And I know a lot of times in the evening he wants to come in and, and fight you. 384 00:37:08,464.7192898 --> 00:37:23,14.7192898 But yeah, rejecting the thoughts that are coming in to make you feel that way, and then being able to notice what triggers you so that way, you know, when, when to kind of put your guard up into fight that I hope that helps. 385 00:37:23,697.3577299 --> 00:37:31,347.3577299 The last question that I wanted to leave you guys with, for you guys, because I want you to identify a small seed that you can sow today. 386 00:37:31,677.3577299 --> 00:37:34,77.3577299 I would love for you to have a word and a action. 387 00:37:34,737.3577299 --> 00:37:36,817.3577299 So a seed that's a word, and a seed. 388 00:37:36,817.3577299 --> 00:37:37,447.3577299 That's a action. 389 00:37:37,447.3577299 --> 00:37:47,752.1784616 What are gonna be, what's that? What's the habit? What's the step of faith? What are the words that you are going to commit to speaking and planting in you? You guys are awesome. 390 00:37:48,172.824803 --> 00:37:49,462.824803 You guys are fighters. 391 00:37:49,692.824803 --> 00:37:54,192.824803 I want you guys all to know that you are all fighting from a place of victory already. 392 00:37:54,766.1820147 --> 00:38:03,273.8335151 And the adversary wants to make you think that you're not, that you're defeated, that he's bigger than you, but you're already victorious. 393 00:38:03,273.8335151 --> 00:38:07,533.8335151 And when you can, when you know that and you can fight from a place of victory, you're fighting a defeated foe. 394 00:38:07,881.3213448 --> 00:38:14,191.3213448 It changes the way you fight like imagine if you're going in a battle and you're like, yeah, I already have the victory over this, enemy. 395 00:38:14,191.3213448 --> 00:38:15,541.3213448 He's already defeated. 396 00:38:15,631.3213448 --> 00:38:17,461.3213448 He's just acting like he's not. 397 00:38:17,957.6367157 --> 00:38:22,316.6821607 You'll move with confidence, conviction, It's a pleasure, ladies. 398 00:38:22,556.6821607 --> 00:38:25,316.6821607 I miss you guys so much at the event. 399 00:38:25,316.6821607 --> 00:38:26,876.6821607 I love that. 400 00:38:26,956.6821607 --> 00:38:28,756.6821607 You guys had an incredible time. 401 00:38:29,76.6821607 --> 00:38:30,396.6821607 I believe in all of you guys. 402 00:38:30,396.6821607 --> 00:38:31,746.6821607 Stay close to the fire. 403 00:38:31,896.6821607 --> 00:38:36,96.6821607 If you don't have an accountability sister, find an accountability sister. 404 00:38:36,396.6821607 --> 00:38:38,586.6821607 Okay? That's what I want all of y'all's action steps to be. 405 00:38:38,976.6821607 --> 00:38:44,910.015494 Um, and then also, identifying the small seed that you're gonna sow every day this week. 406 00:38:45,300.015494 --> 00:38:48,79.4605737 Can we do this every day? Okay. 407 00:38:48,649.4605737 --> 00:38:49,399.4605737 Bye ladies. 408 00:38:49,399.4605737 --> 00:38:49,969.4605737 Love you guys. 409 00:38:49,969.4605737 --> 00:38:50,179.4605737 Goodnight. 410 00:38:50,727.9477116 --> 00:38:52,887.9477116 I pray that this episode, bless you. 411 00:38:53,127.9477116 --> 00:38:58,497.9477116 If you wanna let me know your biggest takeaway, come on over to Instagram, shoot me a dm. 412 00:38:58,497.9477116 --> 00:39:08,977.9477116 I love hearing from you guys, and again, if you want access to the God Rooted Confidence Roadmap, you can go ahead and hit the link in the description of this podcast below. 413 00:39:09,247.9477116 --> 00:39:11,857.9477116 It'll tell you all the details, everything that you get. 414 00:39:11,857.9477116 --> 00:39:18,427.9477116 If you feel like that is the next step for you to build this God rooted confidence, that is absolutely unshakeable. 415 00:39:18,717.9477116 --> 00:39:19,557.9477116 It was a pleasure. 416 00:39:19,557.9477116 --> 00:39:21,747.9477116 I love you so much, and I'll see you back here. 417 00:39:21,747.9477116 --> 00:39:22,347.9477116 Same day. 418 00:39:22,377.9477116 --> 00:39:23,637.9477116 Same place next week. 419 00:39:23,847.9477116 --> 00:39:23,937.9477116 Bye. 420 00:39:24,547.9730882 --> 00:39:25,477.9730882 Hey, beautiful. 421 00:39:25,477.9730882 --> 00:39:29,77.9730882 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 422 00:39:29,347.9730882 --> 00:39:43,747.9730882 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 423 00:39:43,837.9730882 --> 00:39:48,907.9730882 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 424 00:39:49,152.9730882 --> 00:39:54,552.9730882 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 425 00:39:54,612.9730882 --> 00:39:57,702.9730882 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 426 00:39:57,852.9730882 --> 00:40:00,912.9730882 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 427 00:40:01,32.9730882 --> 00:40:02,652.9730882 Sending you all the love. 428 00:40:02,712.9730882 --> 00:40:03,852.9730882 Until next time.