October 20, 2025 • 20 mins
Hi beautiful! ♥️
Have you ever felt inadequate... Like you’re not smart enough, not capable enough, or maybe just not as far along as you “should” be? Maybe you find yourself second-guessing everything you do, stuck in a loop of self-doubt, and sabotaging the very blessings you’ve been praying for.
If that all hits home, today’s episode is for you. I’m bringing you inside a powerful faith-based coaching session with one of my students who opened up about battling insecurity and struggling to see her identity in Christ.
In this session, we walk through what’s really happening when you believe lies about your worth and how to start breaking those spiritual agreements that keep you stuck. You’ll also hear the exact Christian confidence exercise I gave her (and now to you!) to help you start seeing yourself the way God sees you.
See you on the inside!
Xo, Dani
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Welcome back to a new episode.
I hope that you're super excited for this week.
I pray that it's bringing just so much freshness, newness.
I pray that you are gonna have so much productivity going into this week.
Excitement, Russ.
Gratitude all at the same time.
And if you are feeling a little bit stuck or even insecure.
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This is going to be an episode that I hope gives you that boost and honestly, a little bit of, a coaching moment for you.
What I did was I pulled a pretty personal and intimate, um, coaching moment with one of my students, and she really just came on. 11 00:00:48,472.65105348 --> 00:00:52,132.65105348 Wanting to share this personal struggle that she had been having. 12 00:00:52,282.65105348 --> 00:00:57,442.65105348 And you know, I think a lot of you guys can relate with Daniella. 13 00:00:57,892.65105348 --> 00:01:01,162.65105348 Because she essentially is just feeling inadequate. 14 00:01:01,162.65105348 --> 00:01:05,302.65105348 She was feeling like she wasn't smart, like she wasn't capable, like she's too young. 15 00:01:05,362.65105348 --> 00:01:13,192.65105348 And all of these lies that many of us find ourselves thinking day after day after day. 16 00:01:13,192.65105348 --> 00:01:20,92.65105348 And it leads you to being stuck and in this pattern of self-sabotaging the good things in your life. 17 00:01:20,182.65105348 --> 00:01:23,992.65105348 And so what I find very impactful when. 18 00:01:24,552.65105348 --> 00:01:35,742.65105348 People are able to hear a peek into a laser coaching session is there's so much goodness, um, that you can pull out of it for you to take away for your personal life. 19 00:01:35,802.65105348 --> 00:01:41,502.65105348 And so I really hope that you, you can glean from our session together. 20 00:01:41,952.65105348 --> 00:02:03,252.65105348 And I also gave a specific action step for her at the end, which I know would be such a powerful, practical way for you to apply this exercise to help you know that you are capable and help you come into agreement with the truth of your identity in Christ. 21 00:02:03,552.65105348 --> 00:02:06,672.65105348 So definitely you wanna get your journal out for this one. 22 00:02:07,228.26500692 --> 00:02:12,344.40909903 Be ready to listen in on a pretty powerful coaching session All right, let's dive in. 23 00:02:12,820.11795491 --> 00:02:14,20.11795491 Hey, beautiful. 24 00:02:14,140.11795491 --> 00:02:17,920.11795491 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 25 00:02:17,980.11795491 --> 00:02:42,280.11795491 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 26 00:02:42,310.11795491 --> 00:02:43,450.11795491 I've been there too. 27 00:02:43,570.11795491 --> 00:02:50,800.11795491 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 28 00:02:50,890.11795491 --> 00:03:07,570.11795491 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 29 00:03:07,760.11795491 --> 00:03:22,880.11795491 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 30 00:03:23,120.11795491 --> 00:03:26,90.11795491 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 31 00:03:26,180.11795491 --> 00:03:30,350.11795491 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 32 00:03:30,440.11795491 --> 00:03:32,210.11795491 One step at a time. 33 00:03:32,701.5904409 --> 00:03:33,451.5904409 Surprise. 34 00:03:35,101.5904409 --> 00:03:51,571.5904409 I have something so special for you if you are a woman of God who is craving just more confidence in your daily life, in your relationships, in your business, in your career, just as a woman overall. 35 00:03:51,871.5904409 --> 00:03:54,601.5904409 I wanna personally invite you to the God rooted. 36 00:03:54,676.5904409 --> 00:04:28,876.9515446 Confidence Masterclass where we are going to be on Zoom, a super intimate set setting where you'll not only have the opportunity to receive live coaching from me, but we are, I'm going to, we're gonna go deep about 90 minutes just talking about how to build God rooted confidence, the hidden beliefs that are holding you back, And how to tear down these lies that are keeping you stuck and breaking the spiritual agreements that are blocking your calling so you can boldly step out and fulfill the great commission I'm super excited for it. 37 00:04:28,876.9515446 --> 00:04:33,46.9515446 It's gonna be on November 9th at 6:00 PM Central Standard Time. 38 00:04:33,46.9515446 --> 00:04:37,276.9515446 You can click the link in the description of this podcast to get registered. 39 00:04:37,372.96197565 --> 00:04:40,402.96197565 Or you can go to heal her.my 40 00:04:40,432.96197565 --> 00:04:41,692.96197565 flow desk. 41 00:04:41,692.96197565 --> 00:04:47,422.96197565 That's F-L-O-D-E-S k.com/masterclass 42 00:04:47,513.66395723 --> 00:04:48,408.66395723 to get registered. 43 00:04:48,739.64706685 --> 00:04:49,39.64706685 All right. 44 00:04:49,159.64706685 --> 00:04:49,879.64706685 Time for the training. 45 00:04:50,35.14674839 --> 00:04:52,525.14674839 Daniella, I see you, sister. 46 00:04:52,825.14674839 --> 00:04:54,339.79436426 You gonna come on the mic? Hi. 47 00:04:54,339.79436426 --> 00:04:55,269.79436426 Good to see your face. 48 00:04:55,269.79436426 --> 00:04:55,749.79436426 Hi. 49 00:04:56,709.79436426 --> 00:04:58,929.79436426 How's it going? Um, good. 50 00:04:58,929.79436426 --> 00:05:00,489.79436426 And yourself? Yeah. 51 00:05:00,549.79436426 --> 00:05:08,655.92101481 Doing good? What do you have for me? Um, it's more like a personal struggle that I've been having recently. 52 00:05:08,775.92101481 --> 00:05:09,405.92101481 Recently. 53 00:05:10,305.92101481 --> 00:05:10,875.92101481 Um. 54 00:05:11,190.92101481 --> 00:05:17,460.92101481 And I guess I kind of just wanted to talk about it 'cause I don't really have a lot of people to talk to. 55 00:05:18,270.92101481 --> 00:05:32,730.92101481 I guess recently I've just been struggling a little bit on not per like, not my why, but it's more like I've been struggling with, um, like how to get there. 56 00:05:33,0.92101481 --> 00:05:43,320.92101481 Does that make sense? Like, you know, this whole course, like, um, it's designed to where you can get from A to ZI, I guess I'm just struggling with getting between. 57 00:05:44,25.92101481 --> 00:05:45,615.92101481 The A to Z, if that makes sense. 58 00:05:45,615.92101481 --> 00:05:48,315.92101481 Like I've watched the mindset training. 59 00:05:48,315.92101481 --> 00:05:52,635.92101481 I literally have like 40 pages of notes from the mindset training. 60 00:05:52,935.92101481 --> 00:05:55,395.92101481 Like I definitely went, went down and dirty with that. 61 00:05:55,395.92101481 --> 00:05:57,405.92101481 I was pausing every two seconds. 62 00:05:57,765.92101481 --> 00:05:59,475.92101481 Um, writing down everything you were saying. 63 00:06:00,195.92101481 --> 00:06:01,725.92101481 I was praying in the middle of it. 64 00:06:01,725.92101481 --> 00:06:06,765.92101481 Like I was doing everything I could to possibly like, understand the mindset that I need to have. 65 00:06:06,765.92101481 --> 00:06:06,855.92101481 Mm-hmm. 66 00:06:07,540.92101481 --> 00:06:13,635.92101481 And even though I was doing that, I just, I don't know, I have so much like self-doubt. 67 00:06:13,665.92101481 --> 00:06:22,335.92101481 Not because I don't feel like I can do it, but because I feel like I'm doing it wrong and I feel like other people will realize that I'm doing it wrong. 68 00:06:22,335.92101481 --> 00:06:27,465.92101481 Or they'll think, oh yeah, just because she's young, like she doesn't know what she's talking about, what she's talking about. 69 00:06:27,795.92101481 --> 00:06:36,685.92101481 Or if I go into closing they'll think, um, how old are you? You know? 'cause I have a baby face, so that doesn't help either. 70 00:06:37,105.92101481 --> 00:06:37,465.92101481 I don't know. 71 00:06:37,465.92101481 --> 00:06:38,785.92101481 It's just been hard for me. 72 00:06:38,935.92101481 --> 00:06:56,245.92101481 And now I feel like I'm stuck and I feel like I don't have a great, like, I don't know, I feel like I'm not putting enough time into this, and then, and then I'm having issues with my job and, and then I'm like, well, I don't need a job if I, if I go here and I make this full time, and then I don't know, and then I feel like I'm suck. 73 00:06:56,245.92101481 --> 00:07:01,825.92101481 Like I suck because then I'm still here and I've been here, but I'm still not here. 74 00:07:01,945.92101481 --> 00:07:06,235.92101481 You know what I mean? Because I'm, I follow, I follow. 75 00:07:06,235.92101481 --> 00:07:12,395.92101481 And it sounds like you are, you've counted yourself out before you've even started. 76 00:07:13,760.92101481 --> 00:07:14,50.92101481 Yeah. 77 00:07:15,515.92101481 --> 00:07:21,80.8129012 And you're sabotaging what, you're sabotaging your process. 78 00:07:21,500.8129012 --> 00:07:24,539.44055004 And, I also think that you are. 79 00:07:25,162.79574681 --> 00:07:27,142.79574681 Overthinking what it takes. 80 00:07:27,452.79574681 --> 00:07:33,542.79574681 Do you struggle with comparison at all? Um, not, not really. 81 00:07:33,542.79574681 --> 00:07:44,192.79574681 I guess yes, in the sense of like, as in, oh, she did this, but I did it differently, but the way that she did it was better. 82 00:07:44,572.79574681 --> 00:07:47,706.12908014 But, um, I do have a lot of mental issues. 83 00:07:48,246.12908014 --> 00:07:51,546.12908014 So because of that, I feel like whenever I do something, it's not right. 84 00:07:52,986.12908014 --> 00:08:01,106.12908014 I guess when it's coming to comparison, that's, that's my biggest issue because like, I don't think I'm a very smart person. 85 00:08:01,256.12908014 --> 00:08:14,246.12908014 I'm not like, I'm, I don't know, I like reading, but why not? Um, when I was in school, I, um, I was part of the sped kids. 86 00:08:14,486.12908014 --> 00:08:22,76.12908014 I'm, I'm dyslexic and I have like issues with, um, grasping things very easily. 87 00:08:22,286.12908014 --> 00:08:23,726.12908014 Like, it's, it's hard for me. 88 00:08:23,791.12908014 --> 00:08:24,211.12908014 Mm-hmm. 89 00:08:24,416.12908014 --> 00:08:36,536.12908014 Um, that's why, um, the videos were good because like I could pause it and I'd just be like, what? And I'd have to like run it back, or sometimes when someone's trying to explain something to me and I'm just like, I'm there, but I'm not there. 90 00:08:36,596.12908014 --> 00:08:41,906.12908014 Like they'll ask me the same questions a couple times and I, I can't respond or like, it's just confusing to me. 91 00:08:41,906.12908014 --> 00:08:44,846.12908014 And I guess because of that, I don't think I'm smart. 92 00:08:45,971.12908014 --> 00:08:48,971.12908014 That could probably be a reason why, but I don't know. 93 00:08:49,1.12908014 --> 00:08:51,416.12908014 I've never, like, I don't know, yeah. 94 00:08:51,746.12908014 --> 00:08:53,281.12908014 You're, you're, you're totally counting yourself out. 95 00:08:53,281.12908014 --> 00:08:55,136.12908014 Like I, I'm gonna tell you something. 96 00:08:55,136.12908014 --> 00:09:01,256.12908014 One of my favorite and most brilliant business coaches was dyslexic. 97 00:09:01,256.12908014 --> 00:09:02,156.12908014 Or is dyslexic. 98 00:09:02,216.12908014 --> 00:09:03,116.12908014 Dyslexic. 99 00:09:03,926.12908014 --> 00:09:05,306.12908014 Brilliant minded. 100 00:09:05,816.12908014 --> 00:09:07,556.12908014 I learned so much from him. 101 00:09:07,996.12908014 --> 00:09:13,366.12908014 So that is not an ailment for you unless you view it as that. 102 00:09:13,636.12908014 --> 00:09:20,26.95733171 Have you seen, um, Vlad, I don't know his last name, but he has no limbs And he was born that way. 103 00:09:20,556.95733171 --> 00:09:25,476.95733171 And he is now on stages speaking. 104 00:09:25,926.95733171 --> 00:09:41,46.95733171 Proclaiming the goodness of God, his faith, and he's so bold and it's, he could have spent his entire life looking at that as his weakness, as something that made him unqualified, but he didn't. 105 00:09:41,256.95733171 --> 00:09:41,556.95733171 Right. 106 00:09:41,556.95733171 --> 00:09:47,566.95733171 The battles up here, it's not what we, it's never what we physically see about ourselves or about our situation. 107 00:09:47,596.95733171 --> 00:09:50,446.95733171 It is never what we physically see with our eyes. 108 00:09:50,476.95733171 --> 00:09:53,446.95733171 We are spiritual beings having a physical experience. 109 00:09:53,596.95733171 --> 00:09:56,956.95733171 So every our battle is in the spiritual realm. 110 00:09:57,286.95733171 --> 00:10:02,476.95733171 And so this up here, your soul, your mind will and emotions is what is being attacked. 111 00:10:02,476.95733171 --> 00:10:05,656.95733171 So it's not the, it's not the fact, it's not your diagnosis. 112 00:10:05,656.95733171 --> 00:10:15,666.95733171 It's not, it's not dyslexic you being that it is how you perceive that and what you make that mean to you and your life. 113 00:10:15,771.95733171 --> 00:10:16,191.95733171 Mm-hmm. 114 00:10:16,291.95733171 --> 00:10:16,511.95733171 So. 115 00:10:17,766.95733171 --> 00:10:24,876.95733171 What I would encourage you to do is because the fact that you're watching the mindset trainings and you're just taking notes, you're being very intentional. 116 00:10:24,876.95733171 --> 00:10:25,176.95733171 Girl. 117 00:10:25,176.95733171 --> 00:10:29,946.95733171 Half, half of the women here, no shame with them, but half of them are not doing that. 118 00:10:30,6.95733171 --> 00:10:30,246.95733171 Okay. 119 00:10:32,586.95733171 --> 00:10:39,156.95733171 So, and I don't even, I don't even do that whenever I'm watching, like mindset trainings, pausing every two minutes and taking these notes. 120 00:10:39,156.95733171 --> 00:10:43,176.95733171 Like, that's not something that people typically do. 121 00:10:43,176.95733171 --> 00:10:43,266.95733171 Mm-hmm. 122 00:10:43,961.95733171 --> 00:10:46,326.95733171 So I want you to look at your strengths. 123 00:10:46,326.95733171 --> 00:10:48,996.95733171 I want you, your to do is I want you to make a list. 124 00:10:49,206.95733171 --> 00:10:52,506.95733171 I want you to make a list of a hundred strengths that you have. 125 00:10:52,803.62399838 --> 00:10:57,23.62399838 I want you to, right at the top of your page, why am I smart? Mm-hmm. 126 00:10:57,683.62399838 --> 00:11:01,493.75555135 Why am I intelligent? Why am I capable? I want a list of a hundred. 127 00:11:02,573.75555135 --> 00:11:03,83.75555135 Okay. 128 00:11:03,383.75555135 --> 00:11:03,803.75555135 Okay. 129 00:11:04,253.75555135 --> 00:11:05,753.75555135 That's gonna be the thing that's gonna help you. 130 00:11:05,753.75555135 --> 00:11:16,863.75555135 Because when you can view yourself, as the woman that you are, right? You are capable, you have your own uniqueness and it's your superpower what other people do. 131 00:11:16,863.75555135 --> 00:11:18,123.75555135 There's different processes. 132 00:11:18,123.75555135 --> 00:11:19,473.75555135 We're not made the same. 133 00:11:19,863.75555135 --> 00:11:23,913.75555135 And if somebody's doing something differently than you, it doesn't mean that they're doing it better than you. 134 00:11:23,913.75555135 --> 00:11:25,923.75555135 We can learn from people, of course. 135 00:11:26,133.75555135 --> 00:11:26,223.75555135 Mm-hmm. 136 00:11:26,613.75555135 --> 00:11:31,623.75555135 Um, but don't let that discount what you are doing. 137 00:11:31,683.75555135 --> 00:11:39,233.75555135 Do you have a fear at all of looking dumb or, or, maybe just doing things wrong is what it sounds like. 138 00:11:40,343.75555135 --> 00:11:41,543.75555135 Um, yeah. 139 00:11:42,593.75555135 --> 00:11:48,173.75555135 Um, especially like with the job that I have, there's a lot of technical things that come to it. 140 00:11:48,173.75555135 --> 00:11:55,43.75555135 'cause it's an office job and when I first started working with my job, we have a lot of Spanish speakers and I don't speak Spanish. 141 00:11:55,403.75555135 --> 00:12:00,233.75555135 So my biggest thing when it comes to second guessing myself is whenever I say something wrong. 142 00:12:00,743.75555135 --> 00:12:08,363.75555135 There was this one time where I was by myself in the office and there was like this group of people coming in and I always have to ask them, obviously in Spanish 'cause they spoke Spanish. 143 00:12:08,663.75555135 --> 00:12:14,153.75555135 Like, oh, what's your name? Like, have you done this? Or like, can you spell that out for me? Or like, I'll be doing something. 144 00:12:14,153.75555135 --> 00:12:17,513.75555135 And then they ended up just making fun of me for like 15 minutes. 145 00:12:17,723.75555135 --> 00:12:23,873.75555135 And I don't know, it just like, so I'm, I guess second guessing myself, it doesn't help when I get that. 146 00:12:24,323.75555135 --> 00:12:29,63.75555135 And then like my office mentality, like the airspace in my office isn't that great either. 147 00:12:29,423.75555135 --> 00:12:36,233.75555135 Not a lot of people are very open and supportive in that group or the office job that I work at. 148 00:12:36,713.75555135 --> 00:12:39,983.75555135 So that hasn't helped either because I've gotten a lot of. 149 00:12:41,333.75555135 --> 00:12:43,373.75555135 Negative emotions because of that. 150 00:12:43,403.75555135 --> 00:12:48,833.75555135 Recently, like I've been working there for six months now, and now it's just going even more downhill. 151 00:12:49,13.75555135 --> 00:12:50,663.75555135 Like I dread going into work. 152 00:12:50,783.75555135 --> 00:12:52,433.75555135 I told Victoria this earlier. 153 00:12:52,763.75555135 --> 00:12:58,583.75555135 I literally like not even an hour into my, my, my, me working on Saturday, I texted my mom. 154 00:12:58,583.75555135 --> 00:13:00,53.75555135 I was like, I don't even wanna be here right now. 155 00:13:00,623.75555135 --> 00:13:00,713.75555135 Mm-hmm. 156 00:13:01,288.75555135 --> 00:13:01,578.75555135 Yeah. 157 00:13:01,583.75555135 --> 00:13:01,853.75555135 Yeah. 158 00:13:02,123.75555135 --> 00:13:04,553.75555135 So they're just not your people. 159 00:13:04,883.75555135 --> 00:13:08,243.75555135 And look up five years from now, like, I really want you to practice. 160 00:13:08,243.75555135 --> 00:13:12,157.08888469 Let this be like you going into work, want a motivator to get out. 161 00:13:12,157.08888469 --> 00:13:12,457.08888469 Right. 162 00:13:12,457.08888469 --> 00:13:26,206.89479504 But also let it be a space where you practice allowing these words to just reflect back off and whatever they're saying to you know that it's intentional. 163 00:13:26,236.89479505 --> 00:13:30,496.89479504 You're, who do you pray to? God, I'm Christian. 164 00:13:30,856.89479505 --> 00:13:31,36.89479504 Okay. 165 00:13:31,246.89479504 --> 00:13:32,446.89479504 I'm denominational. 166 00:13:32,866.89479504 --> 00:13:41,926.89479504 Okay, so you understand that I, I don't believe anything's a coincidence and everybody has a spirit that is right. 167 00:13:41,926.89479504 --> 00:13:44,326.89479504 Like our, our fight is not flesh and blood. 168 00:13:44,566.89479504 --> 00:13:44,686.89479504 Mm-hmm. 169 00:13:44,926.89479504 --> 00:13:48,76.89479504 It's spiritual principalities and dark powers in this world. 170 00:13:48,226.89479504 --> 00:13:55,576.89479504 So know that every single world, word that is coming at you for your identity, that's one of the ways that the enemy attacks you, is your identity. 171 00:13:55,756.89479504 --> 00:14:03,946.89479504 So he wants you to stay stuck and continuously questioning yourself, your worth, your value for the next 10 years of your life. 172 00:14:04,96.89479504 --> 00:14:07,456.89479504 And he's using these people in your office right now to do that. 173 00:14:07,606.89479504 --> 00:14:14,756.36813571 So just like have your spiritual eyes open to see him at work and be like, reflect it back off. 174 00:14:14,756.36813571 --> 00:14:19,406.36813571 And so every single negative thing that somebody says to you, I want you to start making a practice. 175 00:14:19,406.36813571 --> 00:14:27,746.36813571 And maybe you look through some and find some scriptures that you're gonna stand on and that you're gonna fight with when they do speak these lies. 176 00:14:28,106.36813571 --> 00:14:29,366.36813571 About you, because that's what it is. 177 00:14:29,366.36813571 --> 00:14:33,686.36813571 So know that when you are being attacked, it's because you have a call over your life. 178 00:14:33,896.36813571 --> 00:14:35,366.36813571 God has called you by name. 179 00:14:35,366.36813571 --> 00:14:35,456.36813571 Mm-hmm. 180 00:14:35,966.36813571 --> 00:14:38,696.36813571 And so the enemy's gonna try to tear you down. 181 00:14:38,846.36813571 --> 00:14:41,846.36813571 So just see it for what it is and understand that he's already defeated. 182 00:14:41,846.36813571 --> 00:14:43,376.36813571 You're fighting from a place of victory. 183 00:14:43,526.36813571 --> 00:14:45,26.36813571 You just have to learn how to fight. 184 00:14:45,386.36813571 --> 00:14:48,896.36813571 And you're fighting with the word of God and you have to speak it out with your tongue. 185 00:14:49,76.36813571 --> 00:14:53,666.36813571 So all the thoughts, like whenever you came on, you're like thinking about all these things, like, well, this and this and this. 186 00:14:54,236.36813571 --> 00:14:57,176.36813571 I can tell that it's just been ruminating over in your mind. 187 00:14:57,211.36813571 --> 00:14:57,631.36813571 Mm-hmm. 188 00:14:57,711.36813571 --> 00:15:04,406.36813571 And so how you're gonna fight these thoughts are gonna continue unless you speak the word of God to them and cancel it out. 189 00:15:04,406.36813571 --> 00:15:07,16.36813571 Because guess what? The devil's under your feet. 190 00:15:08,6.36813571 --> 00:15:09,416.36813571 Right? Yeah. 191 00:15:09,656.36813571 --> 00:15:12,956.36813571 So you just have to, you have to believe it, and you have to fight him from a place of victory. 192 00:15:12,956.36813571 --> 00:15:14,606.36813571 He can't, he can't have your identity. 193 00:15:14,656.36813571 --> 00:15:19,846.36813571 Don't let him take you out your position, which is one of, of power and authority. 194 00:15:19,991.36813571 --> 00:15:20,411.36813571 Mm-hmm. 195 00:15:21,961.36813571 --> 00:15:22,291.36813571 Yeah. 196 00:15:22,321.36813571 --> 00:15:34,141.36813571 So write that list of a hundred strengths that the Lord has put in you, and also I want you to find three to five scriptures that you can stand on. 197 00:15:35,131.36813571 --> 00:15:36,181.36813571 Okay? Okay. 198 00:15:36,181.36813571 --> 00:15:37,351.36813571 That surrounds your identity. 199 00:15:37,621.36813571 --> 00:15:37,711.36813571 Mm-hmm. 200 00:15:38,101.36813571 --> 00:15:48,251.36813571 My last thing before I leave, um, one thing I really do wanna like say, even though I am dyslexic, I, because of that I have grown to love reading. 201 00:15:49,181.36813571 --> 00:15:52,91.36813571 I have quite literally an overflowing bookshelf. 202 00:15:52,121.36813571 --> 00:15:57,581.36813571 And ever since I found reading, I, um, started to love writing. 203 00:15:57,791.36813571 --> 00:16:01,301.36813571 And I think that's something that, it's a strength. 204 00:16:01,571.36813571 --> 00:16:04,91.36813571 Like I now, my dream is to be an author. 205 00:16:04,951.36813571 --> 00:16:11,641.36813571 And it's definitely a strength that I have grown to admire, even though I never really thought of, like, I'm not good at writing. 206 00:16:11,641.36813571 --> 00:16:12,751.36813571 You know, I'm, I'm dyslexic. 207 00:16:12,751.36813571 --> 00:16:13,441.36813571 It's hard for me. 208 00:16:13,801.36813571 --> 00:16:22,561.36813571 But ever since I started reading, I was like, wow, I would love to bring that emotion and like that reality into someone else's life, like through my writing. 209 00:16:22,771.36813571 --> 00:16:28,381.36813571 So yeah, that's definitely like one of the top things on my list of like my 100. 210 00:16:28,741.36813571 --> 00:16:30,31.36813571 That would be one of my talking. 211 00:16:31,147.09673971 --> 00:16:31,807.09673971 I love it. 212 00:16:31,807.09673971 --> 00:16:36,637.09673971 And all that I'm, all that I'm seeing here is the attack of dyslexia and then you. 213 00:16:37,12.09673971 --> 00:16:39,502.09673971 The having this desire to write a book and be an author. 214 00:16:39,502.09673971 --> 00:16:41,212.0967397 Like, what? Come on. 215 00:16:41,692.0967397 --> 00:16:43,432.0967397 Like, yeah, we're doing it. 216 00:16:43,462.0967397 --> 00:16:43,972.0967397 Okay. 217 00:16:45,202.0967397 --> 00:16:47,2.0967397 Well I'm looking forward to hearing how that goes. 218 00:16:47,2.0967397 --> 00:16:49,162.0967397 Thank you for just being courageous and sharing. 219 00:16:49,242.0967397 --> 00:16:49,752.0967397 I'm proud of you. 220 00:16:50,112.0967397 --> 00:16:51,162.0967397 Thank you for listening. 221 00:16:51,600.0723793 --> 00:16:58,20.0723793 Wasn't that such a sweet training? The end is my absolute favorite part. 222 00:16:58,20.0723793 --> 00:16:59,340.0723793 I love that she shared. 223 00:17:00,375.0723793 --> 00:17:16,245.0723793 Her dream, and that's one thing that I wanna highlight to you, is the things that you believe are your weaknesses or things that hold you back that are literally out of your control, just like dyslexia is with Daniella. 224 00:17:16,755.0723793 --> 00:17:19,605.0723793 Look at it as from a spiritual lens. 225 00:17:19,975.0723793 --> 00:17:25,795.0723793 And view your life as an opportunity to glorify God. 226 00:17:26,155.0723793 --> 00:17:31,855.0723793 And guess what the word says? The word says He becomes strong in our weakness. 227 00:17:31,885.0723793 --> 00:17:41,845.0723793 And that's what this, this coaching session and just a little bit of Daniella's story reminds me of is she found this love for reading and writing despite her dyslexia. 228 00:17:42,115.0723793 --> 00:17:43,825.0723793 And that is her dream. 229 00:17:43,825.0723793 --> 00:17:46,825.0723793 And I know that as she pursues that. 230 00:17:47,120.0723793 --> 00:17:54,680.0723793 As, one of her, her purposes here on Earth to ultimately glorify God by using and multiplying her gifts. 231 00:17:54,680.0723793 --> 00:17:55,130.0723793 I mean. 232 00:17:55,560.0723793 --> 00:17:58,260.0723793 That is what this is about. 233 00:17:58,720.0723793 --> 00:18:08,740.0723793 So what I want you to do as well as your action is to take out a sheet of paper and write a list of a hundred strengths that you see in yourself. 234 00:18:08,740.0723793 --> 00:18:16,280.0723793 And it's not out of a place to, to be prideful or to boast about yourself, but if you are a daughter. 235 00:18:16,945.0723793 --> 00:18:28,345.0723793 Of God that is struggling, being able to, to see your ability to be used by him, your, you being capable to answer the call. 236 00:18:28,585.0723793 --> 00:18:36,625.0723793 Then this is what I want you to do, is to pull out some scriptures to stand on, and then also write out a list of a hundred of your strengths. 237 00:18:36,625.0723793 --> 00:18:47,325.0723793 What do you see in yourself? How did God make you? Okay, and that's just between you and the Lord, and it'd be a great opportunity just for you to sit with God and allow him to speak into that. 238 00:18:47,715.0723793 --> 00:18:48,975.0723793 That is what you need. 239 00:18:48,975.0723793 --> 00:18:57,555.0723793 If you are struggling with your identity, if you are finding yourself boggled or overwhelmed with all these negative thoughts and lies in your head. 240 00:18:57,975.0723793 --> 00:19:00,375.0723793 Okay, so I pray this episode bless you. 241 00:19:00,375.0723793 --> 00:19:12,825.0723793 And again, if you want a live coaching session, we are doing a free masterclass on November 9th at 6:00 PM Central standard time live on Zoom. 242 00:19:12,825.0723793 --> 00:19:18,645.0723793 You'll have an opportunity to get questions answered live from me, and it's gonna be just a sweet, sweet time. 243 00:19:19,171.739046 --> 00:19:28,921.739046 Dedicated to helping you grow in confidence that's rooted in the Lord, so you can boldly step out in the calling that he's created you for. 244 00:19:29,191.739046 --> 00:19:32,251.739046 It's gonna be super rich and we're believing the Lord's gonna show up in a mighty way. 245 00:19:32,491.739046 --> 00:19:36,278.6648962 So you can register at the link in the description below. 246 00:19:36,278.6648962 --> 00:19:40,16.5040807 Or you can go to heal her.my 247 00:19:40,76.5040807 --> 00:19:44,306.5040807 flow desk.com/masterclass. 248 00:19:44,546.5040807 --> 00:19:47,636.5040807 That's heal her.my 249 00:19:47,666.5040807 --> 00:19:48,686.5040807 flow desk. 250 00:19:48,746.5040807 --> 00:19:55,196.5040807 F-L-O-D-E-S k.com/masterclass, 251 00:19:55,276.5040807 --> 00:20:06,256.5040807 you will get all the details sent straight to your email with the link and everything, so all you have to do is show up the day of, and I would be so excited and honored to meet you face to face. 252 00:20:06,616.5040807 --> 00:20:08,56.5040807 Okay, I'll see you next week. 253 00:20:08,116.5040807 --> 00:20:08,236.5040807 Bye. 254 00:20:08,757.5900957 --> 00:20:09,687.5900957 Hey, beautiful. 255 00:20:09,687.5900957 --> 00:20:13,287.5900957 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 256 00:20:13,557.5900957 --> 00:20:27,957.5900957 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? 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Welcome back to a new episode.
I hope that you're super excited for this week.
I pray that it's bringing just so much freshness, newness.
I pray that you are gonna have so much productivity going into this week.
Excitement, Russ.
Gratitude all at the same time.
And if you are feeling a little bit stuck or even insecure.
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This is going to be an episode that I hope gives you that boost and honestly, a little bit of, a coaching moment for you.
What I did was I pulled a pretty personal and intimate, um, coaching moment with one of my students, and she really just came on. 11 00:00:48,472.65105348 --> 00:00:52,132.65105348 Wanting to share this personal struggle that she had been having. 12 00:00:52,282.65105348 --> 00:00:57,442.65105348 And you know, I think a lot of you guys can relate with Daniella. 13 00:00:57,892.65105348 --> 00:01:01,162.65105348 Because she essentially is just feeling inadequate. 14 00:01:01,162.65105348 --> 00:01:05,302.65105348 She was feeling like she wasn't smart, like she wasn't capable, like she's too young. 15 00:01:05,362.65105348 --> 00:01:13,192.65105348 And all of these lies that many of us find ourselves thinking day after day after day. 16 00:01:13,192.65105348 --> 00:01:20,92.65105348 And it leads you to being stuck and in this pattern of self-sabotaging the good things in your life. 17 00:01:20,182.65105348 --> 00:01:23,992.65105348 And so what I find very impactful when. 18 00:01:24,552.65105348 --> 00:01:35,742.65105348 People are able to hear a peek into a laser coaching session is there's so much goodness, um, that you can pull out of it for you to take away for your personal life. 19 00:01:35,802.65105348 --> 00:01:41,502.65105348 And so I really hope that you, you can glean from our session together. 20 00:01:41,952.65105348 --> 00:02:03,252.65105348 And I also gave a specific action step for her at the end, which I know would be such a powerful, practical way for you to apply this exercise to help you know that you are capable and help you come into agreement with the truth of your identity in Christ. 21 00:02:03,552.65105348 --> 00:02:06,672.65105348 So definitely you wanna get your journal out for this one. 22 00:02:07,228.26500692 --> 00:02:12,344.40909903 Be ready to listen in on a pretty powerful coaching session All right, let's dive in. 23 00:02:12,820.11795491 --> 00:02:14,20.11795491 Hey, beautiful. 24 00:02:14,140.11795491 --> 00:02:17,920.11795491 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 25 00:02:17,980.11795491 --> 00:02:42,280.11795491 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 26 00:02:42,310.11795491 --> 00:02:43,450.11795491 I've been there too. 27 00:02:43,570.11795491 --> 00:02:50,800.11795491 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 28 00:02:50,890.11795491 --> 00:03:07,570.11795491 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 29 00:03:07,760.11795491 --> 00:03:22,880.11795491 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 30 00:03:23,120.11795491 --> 00:03:26,90.11795491 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 31 00:03:26,180.11795491 --> 00:03:30,350.11795491 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 32 00:03:30,440.11795491 --> 00:03:32,210.11795491 One step at a time. 33 00:03:32,701.5904409 --> 00:03:33,451.5904409 Surprise. 34 00:03:35,101.5904409 --> 00:03:51,571.5904409 I have something so special for you if you are a woman of God who is craving just more confidence in your daily life, in your relationships, in your business, in your career, just as a woman overall. 35 00:03:51,871.5904409 --> 00:03:54,601.5904409 I wanna personally invite you to the God rooted. 36 00:03:54,676.5904409 --> 00:04:28,876.9515446 Confidence Masterclass where we are going to be on Zoom, a super intimate set setting where you'll not only have the opportunity to receive live coaching from me, but we are, I'm going to, we're gonna go deep about 90 minutes just talking about how to build God rooted confidence, the hidden beliefs that are holding you back, And how to tear down these lies that are keeping you stuck and breaking the spiritual agreements that are blocking your calling so you can boldly step out and fulfill the great commission I'm super excited for it. 37 00:04:28,876.9515446 --> 00:04:33,46.9515446 It's gonna be on November 9th at 6:00 PM Central Standard Time. 38 00:04:33,46.9515446 --> 00:04:37,276.9515446 You can click the link in the description of this podcast to get registered. 39 00:04:37,372.96197565 --> 00:04:40,402.96197565 Or you can go to heal her.my 40 00:04:40,432.96197565 --> 00:04:41,692.96197565 flow desk. 41 00:04:41,692.96197565 --> 00:04:47,422.96197565 That's F-L-O-D-E-S k.com/masterclass 42 00:04:47,513.66395723 --> 00:04:48,408.66395723 to get registered. 43 00:04:48,739.64706685 --> 00:04:49,39.64706685 All right. 44 00:04:49,159.64706685 --> 00:04:49,879.64706685 Time for the training. 45 00:04:50,35.14674839 --> 00:04:52,525.14674839 Daniella, I see you, sister. 46 00:04:52,825.14674839 --> 00:04:54,339.79436426 You gonna come on the mic? Hi. 47 00:04:54,339.79436426 --> 00:04:55,269.79436426 Good to see your face. 48 00:04:55,269.79436426 --> 00:04:55,749.79436426 Hi. 49 00:04:56,709.79436426 --> 00:04:58,929.79436426 How's it going? Um, good. 50 00:04:58,929.79436426 --> 00:05:00,489.79436426 And yourself? Yeah. 51 00:05:00,549.79436426 --> 00:05:08,655.92101481 Doing good? What do you have for me? Um, it's more like a personal struggle that I've been having recently. 52 00:05:08,775.92101481 --> 00:05:09,405.92101481 Recently. 53 00:05:10,305.92101481 --> 00:05:10,875.92101481 Um. 54 00:05:11,190.92101481 --> 00:05:17,460.92101481 And I guess I kind of just wanted to talk about it 'cause I don't really have a lot of people to talk to. 55 00:05:18,270.92101481 --> 00:05:32,730.92101481 I guess recently I've just been struggling a little bit on not per like, not my why, but it's more like I've been struggling with, um, like how to get there. 56 00:05:33,0.92101481 --> 00:05:43,320.92101481 Does that make sense? Like, you know, this whole course, like, um, it's designed to where you can get from A to ZI, I guess I'm just struggling with getting between. 57 00:05:44,25.92101481 --> 00:05:45,615.92101481 The A to Z, if that makes sense. 58 00:05:45,615.92101481 --> 00:05:48,315.92101481 Like I've watched the mindset training. 59 00:05:48,315.92101481 --> 00:05:52,635.92101481 I literally have like 40 pages of notes from the mindset training. 60 00:05:52,935.92101481 --> 00:05:55,395.92101481 Like I definitely went, went down and dirty with that. 61 00:05:55,395.92101481 --> 00:05:57,405.92101481 I was pausing every two seconds. 62 00:05:57,765.92101481 --> 00:05:59,475.92101481 Um, writing down everything you were saying. 63 00:06:00,195.92101481 --> 00:06:01,725.92101481 I was praying in the middle of it. 64 00:06:01,725.92101481 --> 00:06:06,765.92101481 Like I was doing everything I could to possibly like, understand the mindset that I need to have. 65 00:06:06,765.92101481 --> 00:06:06,855.92101481 Mm-hmm. 66 00:06:07,540.92101481 --> 00:06:13,635.92101481 And even though I was doing that, I just, I don't know, I have so much like self-doubt. 67 00:06:13,665.92101481 --> 00:06:22,335.92101481 Not because I don't feel like I can do it, but because I feel like I'm doing it wrong and I feel like other people will realize that I'm doing it wrong. 68 00:06:22,335.92101481 --> 00:06:27,465.92101481 Or they'll think, oh yeah, just because she's young, like she doesn't know what she's talking about, what she's talking about. 69 00:06:27,795.92101481 --> 00:06:36,685.92101481 Or if I go into closing they'll think, um, how old are you? You know? 'cause I have a baby face, so that doesn't help either. 70 00:06:37,105.92101481 --> 00:06:37,465.92101481 I don't know. 71 00:06:37,465.92101481 --> 00:06:38,785.92101481 It's just been hard for me. 72 00:06:38,935.92101481 --> 00:06:56,245.92101481 And now I feel like I'm stuck and I feel like I don't have a great, like, I don't know, I feel like I'm not putting enough time into this, and then, and then I'm having issues with my job and, and then I'm like, well, I don't need a job if I, if I go here and I make this full time, and then I don't know, and then I feel like I'm suck. 73 00:06:56,245.92101481 --> 00:07:01,825.92101481 Like I suck because then I'm still here and I've been here, but I'm still not here. 74 00:07:01,945.92101481 --> 00:07:06,235.92101481 You know what I mean? Because I'm, I follow, I follow. 75 00:07:06,235.92101481 --> 00:07:12,395.92101481 And it sounds like you are, you've counted yourself out before you've even started. 76 00:07:13,760.92101481 --> 00:07:14,50.92101481 Yeah. 77 00:07:15,515.92101481 --> 00:07:21,80.8129012 And you're sabotaging what, you're sabotaging your process. 78 00:07:21,500.8129012 --> 00:07:24,539.44055004 And, I also think that you are. 79 00:07:25,162.79574681 --> 00:07:27,142.79574681 Overthinking what it takes. 80 00:07:27,452.79574681 --> 00:07:33,542.79574681 Do you struggle with comparison at all? Um, not, not really. 81 00:07:33,542.79574681 --> 00:07:44,192.79574681 I guess yes, in the sense of like, as in, oh, she did this, but I did it differently, but the way that she did it was better. 82 00:07:44,572.79574681 --> 00:07:47,706.12908014 But, um, I do have a lot of mental issues. 83 00:07:48,246.12908014 --> 00:07:51,546.12908014 So because of that, I feel like whenever I do something, it's not right. 84 00:07:52,986.12908014 --> 00:08:01,106.12908014 I guess when it's coming to comparison, that's, that's my biggest issue because like, I don't think I'm a very smart person. 85 00:08:01,256.12908014 --> 00:08:14,246.12908014 I'm not like, I'm, I don't know, I like reading, but why not? Um, when I was in school, I, um, I was part of the sped kids. 86 00:08:14,486.12908014 --> 00:08:22,76.12908014 I'm, I'm dyslexic and I have like issues with, um, grasping things very easily. 87 00:08:22,286.12908014 --> 00:08:23,726.12908014 Like, it's, it's hard for me. 88 00:08:23,791.12908014 --> 00:08:24,211.12908014 Mm-hmm. 89 00:08:24,416.12908014 --> 00:08:36,536.12908014 Um, that's why, um, the videos were good because like I could pause it and I'd just be like, what? And I'd have to like run it back, or sometimes when someone's trying to explain something to me and I'm just like, I'm there, but I'm not there. 90 00:08:36,596.12908014 --> 00:08:41,906.12908014 Like they'll ask me the same questions a couple times and I, I can't respond or like, it's just confusing to me. 91 00:08:41,906.12908014 --> 00:08:44,846.12908014 And I guess because of that, I don't think I'm smart. 92 00:08:45,971.12908014 --> 00:08:48,971.12908014 That could probably be a reason why, but I don't know. 93 00:08:49,1.12908014 --> 00:08:51,416.12908014 I've never, like, I don't know, yeah. 94 00:08:51,746.12908014 --> 00:08:53,281.12908014 You're, you're, you're totally counting yourself out. 95 00:08:53,281.12908014 --> 00:08:55,136.12908014 Like I, I'm gonna tell you something. 96 00:08:55,136.12908014 --> 00:09:01,256.12908014 One of my favorite and most brilliant business coaches was dyslexic. 97 00:09:01,256.12908014 --> 00:09:02,156.12908014 Or is dyslexic. 98 00:09:02,216.12908014 --> 00:09:03,116.12908014 Dyslexic. 99 00:09:03,926.12908014 --> 00:09:05,306.12908014 Brilliant minded. 100 00:09:05,816.12908014 --> 00:09:07,556.12908014 I learned so much from him. 101 00:09:07,996.12908014 --> 00:09:13,366.12908014 So that is not an ailment for you unless you view it as that. 102 00:09:13,636.12908014 --> 00:09:20,26.95733171 Have you seen, um, Vlad, I don't know his last name, but he has no limbs And he was born that way. 103 00:09:20,556.95733171 --> 00:09:25,476.95733171 And he is now on stages speaking. 104 00:09:25,926.95733171 --> 00:09:41,46.95733171 Proclaiming the goodness of God, his faith, and he's so bold and it's, he could have spent his entire life looking at that as his weakness, as something that made him unqualified, but he didn't. 105 00:09:41,256.95733171 --> 00:09:41,556.95733171 Right. 106 00:09:41,556.95733171 --> 00:09:47,566.95733171 The battles up here, it's not what we, it's never what we physically see about ourselves or about our situation. 107 00:09:47,596.95733171 --> 00:09:50,446.95733171 It is never what we physically see with our eyes. 108 00:09:50,476.95733171 --> 00:09:53,446.95733171 We are spiritual beings having a physical experience. 109 00:09:53,596.95733171 --> 00:09:56,956.95733171 So every our battle is in the spiritual realm. 110 00:09:57,286.95733171 --> 00:10:02,476.95733171 And so this up here, your soul, your mind will and emotions is what is being attacked. 111 00:10:02,476.95733171 --> 00:10:05,656.95733171 So it's not the, it's not the fact, it's not your diagnosis. 112 00:10:05,656.95733171 --> 00:10:15,666.95733171 It's not, it's not dyslexic you being that it is how you perceive that and what you make that mean to you and your life. 113 00:10:15,771.95733171 --> 00:10:16,191.95733171 Mm-hmm. 114 00:10:16,291.95733171 --> 00:10:16,511.95733171 So. 115 00:10:17,766.95733171 --> 00:10:24,876.95733171 What I would encourage you to do is because the fact that you're watching the mindset trainings and you're just taking notes, you're being very intentional. 116 00:10:24,876.95733171 --> 00:10:25,176.95733171 Girl. 117 00:10:25,176.95733171 --> 00:10:29,946.95733171 Half, half of the women here, no shame with them, but half of them are not doing that. 118 00:10:30,6.95733171 --> 00:10:30,246.95733171 Okay. 119 00:10:32,586.95733171 --> 00:10:39,156.95733171 So, and I don't even, I don't even do that whenever I'm watching, like mindset trainings, pausing every two minutes and taking these notes. 120 00:10:39,156.95733171 --> 00:10:43,176.95733171 Like, that's not something that people typically do. 121 00:10:43,176.95733171 --> 00:10:43,266.95733171 Mm-hmm. 122 00:10:43,961.95733171 --> 00:10:46,326.95733171 So I want you to look at your strengths. 123 00:10:46,326.95733171 --> 00:10:48,996.95733171 I want you, your to do is I want you to make a list. 124 00:10:49,206.95733171 --> 00:10:52,506.95733171 I want you to make a list of a hundred strengths that you have. 125 00:10:52,803.62399838 --> 00:10:57,23.62399838 I want you to, right at the top of your page, why am I smart? Mm-hmm. 126 00:10:57,683.62399838 --> 00:11:01,493.75555135 Why am I intelligent? Why am I capable? I want a list of a hundred. 127 00:11:02,573.75555135 --> 00:11:03,83.75555135 Okay. 128 00:11:03,383.75555135 --> 00:11:03,803.75555135 Okay. 129 00:11:04,253.75555135 --> 00:11:05,753.75555135 That's gonna be the thing that's gonna help you. 130 00:11:05,753.75555135 --> 00:11:16,863.75555135 Because when you can view yourself, as the woman that you are, right? You are capable, you have your own uniqueness and it's your superpower what other people do. 131 00:11:16,863.75555135 --> 00:11:18,123.75555135 There's different processes. 132 00:11:18,123.75555135 --> 00:11:19,473.75555135 We're not made the same. 133 00:11:19,863.75555135 --> 00:11:23,913.75555135 And if somebody's doing something differently than you, it doesn't mean that they're doing it better than you. 134 00:11:23,913.75555135 --> 00:11:25,923.75555135 We can learn from people, of course. 135 00:11:26,133.75555135 --> 00:11:26,223.75555135 Mm-hmm. 136 00:11:26,613.75555135 --> 00:11:31,623.75555135 Um, but don't let that discount what you are doing. 137 00:11:31,683.75555135 --> 00:11:39,233.75555135 Do you have a fear at all of looking dumb or, or, maybe just doing things wrong is what it sounds like. 138 00:11:40,343.75555135 --> 00:11:41,543.75555135 Um, yeah. 139 00:11:42,593.75555135 --> 00:11:48,173.75555135 Um, especially like with the job that I have, there's a lot of technical things that come to it. 140 00:11:48,173.75555135 --> 00:11:55,43.75555135 'cause it's an office job and when I first started working with my job, we have a lot of Spanish speakers and I don't speak Spanish. 141 00:11:55,403.75555135 --> 00:12:00,233.75555135 So my biggest thing when it comes to second guessing myself is whenever I say something wrong. 142 00:12:00,743.75555135 --> 00:12:08,363.75555135 There was this one time where I was by myself in the office and there was like this group of people coming in and I always have to ask them, obviously in Spanish 'cause they spoke Spanish. 143 00:12:08,663.75555135 --> 00:12:14,153.75555135 Like, oh, what's your name? Like, have you done this? Or like, can you spell that out for me? Or like, I'll be doing something. 144 00:12:14,153.75555135 --> 00:12:17,513.75555135 And then they ended up just making fun of me for like 15 minutes. 145 00:12:17,723.75555135 --> 00:12:23,873.75555135 And I don't know, it just like, so I'm, I guess second guessing myself, it doesn't help when I get that. 146 00:12:24,323.75555135 --> 00:12:29,63.75555135 And then like my office mentality, like the airspace in my office isn't that great either. 147 00:12:29,423.75555135 --> 00:12:36,233.75555135 Not a lot of people are very open and supportive in that group or the office job that I work at. 148 00:12:36,713.75555135 --> 00:12:39,983.75555135 So that hasn't helped either because I've gotten a lot of. 149 00:12:41,333.75555135 --> 00:12:43,373.75555135 Negative emotions because of that. 150 00:12:43,403.75555135 --> 00:12:48,833.75555135 Recently, like I've been working there for six months now, and now it's just going even more downhill. 151 00:12:49,13.75555135 --> 00:12:50,663.75555135 Like I dread going into work. 152 00:12:50,783.75555135 --> 00:12:52,433.75555135 I told Victoria this earlier. 153 00:12:52,763.75555135 --> 00:12:58,583.75555135 I literally like not even an hour into my, my, my, me working on Saturday, I texted my mom. 154 00:12:58,583.75555135 --> 00:13:00,53.75555135 I was like, I don't even wanna be here right now. 155 00:13:00,623.75555135 --> 00:13:00,713.75555135 Mm-hmm. 156 00:13:01,288.75555135 --> 00:13:01,578.75555135 Yeah. 157 00:13:01,583.75555135 --> 00:13:01,853.75555135 Yeah. 158 00:13:02,123.75555135 --> 00:13:04,553.75555135 So they're just not your people. 159 00:13:04,883.75555135 --> 00:13:08,243.75555135 And look up five years from now, like, I really want you to practice. 160 00:13:08,243.75555135 --> 00:13:12,157.08888469 Let this be like you going into work, want a motivator to get out. 161 00:13:12,157.08888469 --> 00:13:12,457.08888469 Right. 162 00:13:12,457.08888469 --> 00:13:26,206.89479504 But also let it be a space where you practice allowing these words to just reflect back off and whatever they're saying to you know that it's intentional. 163 00:13:26,236.89479505 --> 00:13:30,496.89479504 You're, who do you pray to? God, I'm Christian. 164 00:13:30,856.89479505 --> 00:13:31,36.89479504 Okay. 165 00:13:31,246.89479504 --> 00:13:32,446.89479504 I'm denominational. 166 00:13:32,866.89479504 --> 00:13:41,926.89479504 Okay, so you understand that I, I don't believe anything's a coincidence and everybody has a spirit that is right. 167 00:13:41,926.89479504 --> 00:13:44,326.89479504 Like our, our fight is not flesh and blood. 168 00:13:44,566.89479504 --> 00:13:44,686.89479504 Mm-hmm. 169 00:13:44,926.89479504 --> 00:13:48,76.89479504 It's spiritual principalities and dark powers in this world. 170 00:13:48,226.89479504 --> 00:13:55,576.89479504 So know that every single world, word that is coming at you for your identity, that's one of the ways that the enemy attacks you, is your identity. 171 00:13:55,756.89479504 --> 00:14:03,946.89479504 So he wants you to stay stuck and continuously questioning yourself, your worth, your value for the next 10 years of your life. 172 00:14:04,96.89479504 --> 00:14:07,456.89479504 And he's using these people in your office right now to do that. 173 00:14:07,606.89479504 --> 00:14:14,756.36813571 So just like have your spiritual eyes open to see him at work and be like, reflect it back off. 174 00:14:14,756.36813571 --> 00:14:19,406.36813571 And so every single negative thing that somebody says to you, I want you to start making a practice. 175 00:14:19,406.36813571 --> 00:14:27,746.36813571 And maybe you look through some and find some scriptures that you're gonna stand on and that you're gonna fight with when they do speak these lies. 176 00:14:28,106.36813571 --> 00:14:29,366.36813571 About you, because that's what it is. 177 00:14:29,366.36813571 --> 00:14:33,686.36813571 So know that when you are being attacked, it's because you have a call over your life. 178 00:14:33,896.36813571 --> 00:14:35,366.36813571 God has called you by name. 179 00:14:35,366.36813571 --> 00:14:35,456.36813571 Mm-hmm. 180 00:14:35,966.36813571 --> 00:14:38,696.36813571 And so the enemy's gonna try to tear you down. 181 00:14:38,846.36813571 --> 00:14:41,846.36813571 So just see it for what it is and understand that he's already defeated. 182 00:14:41,846.36813571 --> 00:14:43,376.36813571 You're fighting from a place of victory. 183 00:14:43,526.36813571 --> 00:14:45,26.36813571 You just have to learn how to fight. 184 00:14:45,386.36813571 --> 00:14:48,896.36813571 And you're fighting with the word of God and you have to speak it out with your tongue. 185 00:14:49,76.36813571 --> 00:14:53,666.36813571 So all the thoughts, like whenever you came on, you're like thinking about all these things, like, well, this and this and this. 186 00:14:54,236.36813571 --> 00:14:57,176.36813571 I can tell that it's just been ruminating over in your mind. 187 00:14:57,211.36813571 --> 00:14:57,631.36813571 Mm-hmm. 188 00:14:57,711.36813571 --> 00:15:04,406.36813571 And so how you're gonna fight these thoughts are gonna continue unless you speak the word of God to them and cancel it out. 189 00:15:04,406.36813571 --> 00:15:07,16.36813571 Because guess what? The devil's under your feet. 190 00:15:08,6.36813571 --> 00:15:09,416.36813571 Right? Yeah. 191 00:15:09,656.36813571 --> 00:15:12,956.36813571 So you just have to, you have to believe it, and you have to fight him from a place of victory. 192 00:15:12,956.36813571 --> 00:15:14,606.36813571 He can't, he can't have your identity. 193 00:15:14,656.36813571 --> 00:15:19,846.36813571 Don't let him take you out your position, which is one of, of power and authority. 194 00:15:19,991.36813571 --> 00:15:20,411.36813571 Mm-hmm. 195 00:15:21,961.36813571 --> 00:15:22,291.36813571 Yeah. 196 00:15:22,321.36813571 --> 00:15:34,141.36813571 So write that list of a hundred strengths that the Lord has put in you, and also I want you to find three to five scriptures that you can stand on. 197 00:15:35,131.36813571 --> 00:15:36,181.36813571 Okay? Okay. 198 00:15:36,181.36813571 --> 00:15:37,351.36813571 That surrounds your identity. 199 00:15:37,621.36813571 --> 00:15:37,711.36813571 Mm-hmm. 200 00:15:38,101.36813571 --> 00:15:48,251.36813571 My last thing before I leave, um, one thing I really do wanna like say, even though I am dyslexic, I, because of that I have grown to love reading. 201 00:15:49,181.36813571 --> 00:15:52,91.36813571 I have quite literally an overflowing bookshelf. 202 00:15:52,121.36813571 --> 00:15:57,581.36813571 And ever since I found reading, I, um, started to love writing. 203 00:15:57,791.36813571 --> 00:16:01,301.36813571 And I think that's something that, it's a strength. 204 00:16:01,571.36813571 --> 00:16:04,91.36813571 Like I now, my dream is to be an author. 205 00:16:04,951.36813571 --> 00:16:11,641.36813571 And it's definitely a strength that I have grown to admire, even though I never really thought of, like, I'm not good at writing. 206 00:16:11,641.36813571 --> 00:16:12,751.36813571 You know, I'm, I'm dyslexic. 207 00:16:12,751.36813571 --> 00:16:13,441.36813571 It's hard for me. 208 00:16:13,801.36813571 --> 00:16:22,561.36813571 But ever since I started reading, I was like, wow, I would love to bring that emotion and like that reality into someone else's life, like through my writing. 209 00:16:22,771.36813571 --> 00:16:28,381.36813571 So yeah, that's definitely like one of the top things on my list of like my 100. 210 00:16:28,741.36813571 --> 00:16:30,31.36813571 That would be one of my talking. 211 00:16:31,147.09673971 --> 00:16:31,807.09673971 I love it. 212 00:16:31,807.09673971 --> 00:16:36,637.09673971 And all that I'm, all that I'm seeing here is the attack of dyslexia and then you. 213 00:16:37,12.09673971 --> 00:16:39,502.09673971 The having this desire to write a book and be an author. 214 00:16:39,502.09673971 --> 00:16:41,212.0967397 Like, what? Come on. 215 00:16:41,692.0967397 --> 00:16:43,432.0967397 Like, yeah, we're doing it. 216 00:16:43,462.0967397 --> 00:16:43,972.0967397 Okay. 217 00:16:45,202.0967397 --> 00:16:47,2.0967397 Well I'm looking forward to hearing how that goes. 218 00:16:47,2.0967397 --> 00:16:49,162.0967397 Thank you for just being courageous and sharing. 219 00:16:49,242.0967397 --> 00:16:49,752.0967397 I'm proud of you. 220 00:16:50,112.0967397 --> 00:16:51,162.0967397 Thank you for listening. 221 00:16:51,600.0723793 --> 00:16:58,20.0723793 Wasn't that such a sweet training? The end is my absolute favorite part. 222 00:16:58,20.0723793 --> 00:16:59,340.0723793 I love that she shared. 223 00:17:00,375.0723793 --> 00:17:16,245.0723793 Her dream, and that's one thing that I wanna highlight to you, is the things that you believe are your weaknesses or things that hold you back that are literally out of your control, just like dyslexia is with Daniella. 224 00:17:16,755.0723793 --> 00:17:19,605.0723793 Look at it as from a spiritual lens. 225 00:17:19,975.0723793 --> 00:17:25,795.0723793 And view your life as an opportunity to glorify God. 226 00:17:26,155.0723793 --> 00:17:31,855.0723793 And guess what the word says? The word says He becomes strong in our weakness. 227 00:17:31,885.0723793 --> 00:17:41,845.0723793 And that's what this, this coaching session and just a little bit of Daniella's story reminds me of is she found this love for reading and writing despite her dyslexia. 228 00:17:42,115.0723793 --> 00:17:43,825.0723793 And that is her dream. 229 00:17:43,825.0723793 --> 00:17:46,825.0723793 And I know that as she pursues that. 230 00:17:47,120.0723793 --> 00:17:54,680.0723793 As, one of her, her purposes here on Earth to ultimately glorify God by using and multiplying her gifts. 231 00:17:54,680.0723793 --> 00:17:55,130.0723793 I mean. 232 00:17:55,560.0723793 --> 00:17:58,260.0723793 That is what this is about. 233 00:17:58,720.0723793 --> 00:18:08,740.0723793 So what I want you to do as well as your action is to take out a sheet of paper and write a list of a hundred strengths that you see in yourself. 234 00:18:08,740.0723793 --> 00:18:16,280.0723793 And it's not out of a place to, to be prideful or to boast about yourself, but if you are a daughter. 235 00:18:16,945.0723793 --> 00:18:28,345.0723793 Of God that is struggling, being able to, to see your ability to be used by him, your, you being capable to answer the call. 236 00:18:28,585.0723793 --> 00:18:36,625.0723793 Then this is what I want you to do, is to pull out some scriptures to stand on, and then also write out a list of a hundred of your strengths. 237 00:18:36,625.0723793 --> 00:18:47,325.0723793 What do you see in yourself? How did God make you? Okay, and that's just between you and the Lord, and it'd be a great opportunity just for you to sit with God and allow him to speak into that. 238 00:18:47,715.0723793 --> 00:18:48,975.0723793 That is what you need. 239 00:18:48,975.0723793 --> 00:18:57,555.0723793 If you are struggling with your identity, if you are finding yourself boggled or overwhelmed with all these negative thoughts and lies in your head. 240 00:18:57,975.0723793 --> 00:19:00,375.0723793 Okay, so I pray this episode bless you. 241 00:19:00,375.0723793 --> 00:19:12,825.0723793 And again, if you want a live coaching session, we are doing a free masterclass on November 9th at 6:00 PM Central standard time live on Zoom. 242 00:19:12,825.0723793 --> 00:19:18,645.0723793 You'll have an opportunity to get questions answered live from me, and it's gonna be just a sweet, sweet time. 243 00:19:19,171.739046 --> 00:19:28,921.739046 Dedicated to helping you grow in confidence that's rooted in the Lord, so you can boldly step out in the calling that he's created you for. 244 00:19:29,191.739046 --> 00:19:32,251.739046 It's gonna be super rich and we're believing the Lord's gonna show up in a mighty way. 245 00:19:32,491.739046 --> 00:19:36,278.6648962 So you can register at the link in the description below. 246 00:19:36,278.6648962 --> 00:19:40,16.5040807 Or you can go to heal her.my 247 00:19:40,76.5040807 --> 00:19:44,306.5040807 flow desk.com/masterclass. 248 00:19:44,546.5040807 --> 00:19:47,636.5040807 That's heal her.my 249 00:19:47,666.5040807 --> 00:19:48,686.5040807 flow desk. 250 00:19:48,746.5040807 --> 00:19:55,196.5040807 F-L-O-D-E-S k.com/masterclass, 251 00:19:55,276.5040807 --> 00:20:06,256.5040807 you will get all the details sent straight to your email with the link and everything, so all you have to do is show up the day of, and I would be so excited and honored to meet you face to face. 252 00:20:06,616.5040807 --> 00:20:08,56.5040807 Okay, I'll see you next week. 253 00:20:08,116.5040807 --> 00:20:08,236.5040807 Bye. 254 00:20:08,757.5900957 --> 00:20:09,687.5900957 Hey, beautiful. 255 00:20:09,687.5900957 --> 00:20:13,287.5900957 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 256 00:20:13,557.5900957 --> 00:20:27,957.5900957 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 257 00:20:28,47.5900957 --> 00:20:33,117.5900957 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 258 00:20:33,362.5900957 --> 00:20:38,762.5900957 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 259 00:20:38,822.5900957 --> 00:20:41,912.5900957 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 260 00:20:42,62.5900957 --> 00:20:45,122.5900957 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 261 00:20:45,242.5900957 --> 00:20:46,862.5900957 Sending you all the love. 262 00:20:46,922.5900957 --> 00:20:48,62.5900957 Until next time.
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