116 | If You’re Sick of Feeling Stuck, It’s Time to Heal So You Can Walk in Purpose

Hi beautiful! ♥️

Have you been feeling stuck? Like no matter how hard you try to move forward, something keeps you back in the same cycles of disappointment, doubt, or toxic patterns? Maybe you’re realizing that what’s really keeping you stuck isn’t your circumstances… it’s unhealed pain from your past.

In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when you avoid healing and how it keeps you from walking in your God-given purpose. I’m sharing real stories from my own life and how unhealed wounds shaped the way I saw myself, God, and my worth.

You’ll learn how healing restores your mind, emotions, and spirit, and why it’s key to walking confidently in your purpose. We’ll talk about how to invite Jesus into your healing process, shift your perspective, and finally start living from a place of freedom instead of fear.

If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and start walking in purpose, this episode is for YOU. Grab your journal, get comfy, and let’s get it!

Xo, Dani

 

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Episode Transcript

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Hello, beautiful.

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Happy November.
I hope you are feeling just so excited about this new season.
We are almost halfway through quarter four and.
I just hope that you were feeling, just closer to God than ever.
I hope that you're excited for what he's doing in your life, and if you clicked on this episode, I'm sure that you know that you have a purpose and you probably have been feeling stuck in some area of your life.

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You may be.
Feeling stuck in disappointment.
You may be feeling stuck in bad habits, toxic relationships, spirals or negative thoughts, things that are just telling you that you'll never be good enough.
Whatever you feel like you're currently stuck in and like you're trying to grasp to, to reach this level of freedom from it.

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This is gonna be the episode for you and the answer to. 12 00:01:04,300.585274542 --> 00:01:10,720.585274542 Getting unstuck is found in making the active decision to heal from your past. 13 00:01:11,110.585274542 --> 00:01:20,80.585274542 It's when people don't give any thoughts of healing from their past, that causes them to make the same decisions over and over and over again, which causes them to stay. 14 00:01:20,340.585274542 --> 00:01:29,820.585274542 Duck in the same cycles, patterns, day after day, week after week, year after year, which hinders their ability to walk in their purpose. 15 00:01:29,820.585274542 --> 00:01:44,177.25194121 So it's the unhealed wounds that is causing you to think the same, believe the same thing, feel the same things and react the same way that is keeping you stuck in the same situation and have this inability to walk in your purpose. 16 00:01:44,237.25194121 --> 00:01:50,237.25194121 So if this is hitting home, then grab your journal and get ready to take down some notes. 17 00:01:50,237.25194121 --> 00:01:51,527.25194121 This is gonna be a juicy one. 18 00:01:51,953.22337718 --> 00:01:53,153.22337718 Hey, beautiful. 19 00:01:53,273.22337718 --> 00:01:57,53.22337718 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 20 00:01:57,113.22337718 --> 00:02:21,413.22337718 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 21 00:02:21,443.22337718 --> 00:02:22,583.22337718 I've been there too. 22 00:02:22,703.22337718 --> 00:02:29,933.22337718 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 23 00:02:30,23.22337718 --> 00:02:46,703.22337718 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 24 00:02:46,893.22337718 --> 00:03:02,13.22337718 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 25 00:03:02,253.22337718 --> 00:03:05,223.22337718 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 26 00:03:05,313.22337718 --> 00:03:09,483.22337718 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 27 00:03:09,573.22337718 --> 00:03:11,343.22337718 One step at a time. 28 00:03:11,944.01999978 --> 00:03:22,474.01999978 Now if you haven't heard, we are going to be hosting a live free masterclass on November 9th at 6:00 PM Central Standard Time. 29 00:03:22,624.01999978 --> 00:03:25,624.01999978 So yes, this upcoming Sunday in six days. 30 00:03:25,624.01999978 --> 00:03:36,64.01999978 If you're listening to this and the episode drops Monday, 7:00 AM then I would love to see you in the room, especially if you are a sister in Christ who. 31 00:03:36,134.01999978 --> 00:03:37,964.01999978 Really desires to heal. 32 00:03:37,964.01999978 --> 00:03:45,584.01999978 You don't want anything holding you back from walking and the purpose that God created you for, this is going to be a live class for you. 33 00:03:45,974.01999978 --> 00:03:49,364.01999978 And this is gonna be the last one that we're gonna have this year. 34 00:03:49,364.01999978 --> 00:03:53,594.01999978 And we don't even know if we are gonna have another one in 2026. 35 00:03:53,594.01999978 --> 00:03:58,244.01999978 It just depends on what the Lord leads us into in this next year. 36 00:03:58,664.01999978 --> 00:04:00,224.01999978 So I would love for you to come. 37 00:04:00,284.01999978 --> 00:04:01,499.01999978 You were going to walk away. 38 00:04:02,54.01999978 --> 00:04:06,794.01999978 Really knowing what beliefs are hindering you and keeping you stuck. 39 00:04:06,974.01999978 --> 00:04:17,144.01999978 How to build God rooted confidence, not just waiting for for you to feel confident, but how to actually build it brick by brick and what your calling is. 40 00:04:17,354.01999978 --> 00:04:22,574.01999978 We're going to dissect all of this so that way you walk away with a game plan on how to heal. 41 00:04:22,874.01999978 --> 00:04:27,674.01999978 You walk away with knowing how to build confidence, and you walk away being clear on. 42 00:04:28,54.01999978 --> 00:04:29,104.01999978 Your calling. 43 00:04:29,524.01999978 --> 00:04:31,714.01999978 Um, and so we're really excited about it. 44 00:04:31,714.01999978 --> 00:04:38,944.01999978 You can go to the description in the show notes of this episode to go ahead and click the link to register. 45 00:04:39,64.01999978 --> 00:04:40,654.01999978 We would love to see you there. 46 00:04:40,929.01999978 --> 00:04:44,259.01999978 Okay, let's go ahead and get into the episode today. 47 00:04:44,619.01999978 --> 00:04:55,629.01999978 And I really wanna start off by sharing two different quick stories of when I look back, where I can tell that my unhealed wounds were keeping me from walking in my purpose. 48 00:04:55,899.01999978 --> 00:05:04,599.01999978 Okay, so the first area, the one that I just, the very first one that I thought about was before I knew Christ, and this was when I was living by my. 49 00:05:04,989.01999978 --> 00:05:07,929.01999978 Own understanding of what I thought. 50 00:05:07,929.01999978 --> 00:05:10,29.01999978 I had no idea what the purpose of life was. 51 00:05:10,29.01999978 --> 00:05:34,539.01999978 I was just kind of drifting, trying to figure life out, trying to make it, and trying to just make the most of life in the way that I knew how, and I was stuck living in my flesh, which was rooted in suppressed pain that came from betrayal and a desire to feel love and validated by people. 52 00:05:35,45.34993477 --> 00:05:51,695.34993477 And then the second example that I wanna share was after I gave my life to Christ and I was constantly telling myself I wasn't good enough, I wasn't good enough because I had these unhealed wounds that caused insecurity to be super present within me. 53 00:05:52,85.34993477 --> 00:05:59,735.34993477 It made me constantly second guess myself and settle for what only I believed that I was capable of. 54 00:05:59,975.34993477 --> 00:06:01,445.34993477 So excluding. 55 00:06:01,845.34993477 --> 00:06:11,595.34993477 The God of the universe, the God of the universe, excluding the God of the universe that created you and me, that created all things that the earth is His foot stole. 56 00:06:11,895.34993477 --> 00:06:17,295.34993477 I'm excluding him out of it, and I'm relying on my own strength because of. 57 00:06:17,975.34993477 --> 00:06:32,315.34993477 My beliefs that are rooted in past wounds that I have suppressed for so long, and I wasn't giving any thought to his strength, his will for my life, and also the power that he left me with. 58 00:06:32,405.34993477 --> 00:06:37,805.34993477 And so if you resonate with either of those, just dependent on where you are in your walk, just to know that I get it. 59 00:06:37,895.34993477 --> 00:06:41,555.34993477 And what I wanna talk about today is I wanna touch on three things. 60 00:06:41,855.34993477 --> 00:07:09,95.34993477 The first one that I wanna touch on is just essentially why? Is it important? Why is it important for you to heal from your past in, in terms of being able to walk in your purpose? Like why are those related? And, and just simply it's about, because think about whenever you live unaware of what is still causing you pain today, like you are just going through your days. 61 00:07:09,425.34993477 --> 00:07:14,565.34993477 You, you're, you're making connections without having any awareness of. 62 00:07:15,885.34993477 --> 00:07:20,395.34993477 Of the, how do I explain it? think about of a, of a physical wound. 63 00:07:20,395.34993477 --> 00:07:22,45.34993477 Like a physical wound on your body. 64 00:07:22,45.34993477 --> 00:07:30,105.34993477 Right? Imagine like every single suppressed, suppressed pain that you haven't released, the Lord you haven't surrendered, you haven't talked about, you've just kind of ignored. 65 00:07:30,285.34993477 --> 00:07:45,15.34993477 Think about it as a deep cut on your physical body and what happens if you have multiple of these cuts on your body and you don't give any attention to any of it, and you just try kind of just pretend like you don't see it or it's not there. 66 00:07:45,615.34993477 --> 00:07:48,45.34993477 It's going to consistently. 67 00:07:48,675.34993477 --> 00:07:53,865.34993477 Show up and, and affect the way that say they're all over your arms or whatever, your legs. 68 00:07:54,45.34993477 --> 00:07:57,495.34993477 It's going to affect the way that you interact with people. 69 00:07:57,645.34993477 --> 00:08:05,85.34993477 It's gonna affect the way that you feel on a daily basis when they go left unhealed and many times. 70 00:08:05,775.34993477 --> 00:08:14,115.34993477 We don't even realize what that, what the things that are deeply rooted in us, how it's showing up in our daily life, how it's showing up in our current relationships. 71 00:08:14,175.34993477 --> 00:08:19,172.01660144 And so You are living unaware of what is still causing you pain today. 72 00:08:19,382.01660144 --> 00:08:27,632.01660144 It's subconsciously, um, bleeding you into making certain decisions, and these things are completely underneath the surface. 73 00:08:27,782.01660144 --> 00:08:32,252.01660144 Therefore, it has full control over you and you have no idea. 74 00:08:33,17.01660144 --> 00:08:34,37.01660144 That it's happening. 75 00:08:34,487.01660144 --> 00:08:36,17.01660144 So it's controlling your thoughts. 76 00:08:36,17.01660144 --> 00:08:40,107.01660144 It's controlling your emotions, and it's controlling your beliefs. 77 00:08:40,407.01660144 --> 00:08:47,337.01660144 And whenever something can control your beliefs, your thoughts, and your emotions, I mean, it has complete control over you. 78 00:08:47,817.01660144 --> 00:09:05,0.05819878 Your life moves in the direction of your most dominant thought, And this is why many of the times you see people create distance between themselves and God because they are still living with the effects of a father who wasn't present or who hurt them in some way. 79 00:09:05,30.05819878 --> 00:09:12,590.05819878 And they haven't dealt with that pain, they haven't dealt with that part of their past, and they're still carrying these wounds. 80 00:09:12,840.05819878 --> 00:09:18,810.05819878 Therefore the wounds are showing up in their relationship with God and with other men. 81 00:09:19,380.05819878 --> 00:09:25,410.05819878 Many times, I mean, you probably can relate, like anytime that you're in a toxic relationship, you can probably, you. 82 00:09:27,555.05819878 --> 00:09:46,35.05819878 Many, I'm not saying everybody, but most women that find themselves in a toxic relationship and just settling for a certain type of man that's abusing them in some way has some sort of, um, past abandonment wounds or rejection wounds from a father figure in their life or a certain man in their life. 83 00:09:46,95.05819878 --> 00:09:54,885.05819878 And so wounds, left, wounds that go left unhealed are the ones that control you. 84 00:09:54,885.05819878 --> 00:09:55,455.05819878 So. 85 00:09:56,490.05819878 --> 00:10:01,620.05819878 You are suppressing it because you don't want it to have any control over you. 86 00:10:01,620.05819878 --> 00:10:05,853.39153211 When in reality, you're doing the very thing that is causing it to control you. 87 00:10:06,123.39153211 --> 00:10:11,13.39153211 And the longer that you suppress or ignore them, the longer they make your present day. 88 00:10:11,433.39153211 --> 00:10:15,63.39153211 Your life look like a different version of your past. 89 00:10:15,708.39153211 --> 00:10:24,138.39153211 The, there's different people but the same character, different situations, but the same energy within the situations. 90 00:10:24,288.39153211 --> 00:10:27,948.39153211 Maybe a different environment, but it looks a lot like your past environment. 91 00:10:28,458.39153211 --> 00:10:36,438.39153211 Okay? So if this is you, this just to know it's because of of wounds that that have gone left unhealed. 92 00:10:36,738.39153211 --> 00:10:44,118.39153211 And whenever you're stuck in this pattern, it is stealing the per, it's taking you off path because you can't see clearly. 93 00:10:44,973.39153211 --> 00:10:45,183.39153211 Okay. 94 00:10:45,513.39153211 --> 00:10:49,23.39153211 The second point that I wanna talk about is what healing. 95 00:10:49,113.39153211 --> 00:10:53,973.39153211 'cause I wanna talk about the, the importance of it in different areas of your life. 96 00:10:53,973.39153211 --> 00:10:59,913.39153211 So what healing does for you spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and practically. 97 00:11:00,483.39153211 --> 00:11:13,443.39153211 Okay, these three areas, 'cause they're a little different in each thing, and so I want you to really grasp onto, as I'm talking about these, what is it that you really need or what is which, which one of your unhealed wounds are. 98 00:11:13,713.39153211 --> 00:11:16,593.39153211 It's really affecting one of these four areas of your life. 99 00:11:16,983.39153211 --> 00:11:21,628.39153211 So what healing does for you spiritually, it allows you to receive the grace of God. 100 00:11:22,353.39153211 --> 00:11:25,113.39153211 Most importantly, his blessings. 101 00:11:25,233.39153211 --> 00:11:30,393.39153211 It allows you to receive his blessings instead of rejecting him and rejecting his mercy. 102 00:11:30,813.39153211 --> 00:11:39,513.39153211 For example, if you have a rejection or abandonment wound, you may find it hard to run to the father when you make a mistake. 103 00:11:39,748.39153211 --> 00:11:43,438.39153211 And accept his forgiveness and his grace. 104 00:11:43,618.39153211 --> 00:11:53,373.39153211 So you isolate yourself, you shame yourself, and you convince yourself that God is disgusted by you or that you need to make yourself suffer to make up for it. 105 00:11:53,703.39153211 --> 00:11:53,763.39153211 It. 106 00:11:54,273.39153211 --> 00:11:59,793.39153211 And when you heal, you start to believe the truth about yourself instead of lies. 107 00:11:59,823.39153211 --> 00:12:07,383.39153211 And maybe the first step, it's not even just like starting to believe, but whenever you start to say, you know what? I am going to choose the healing pathway. 108 00:12:07,743.39153211 --> 00:12:18,988.39153211 Because the truth of the matter is the things that trigger you currently probably will be the same things that trigger you later down the line. 109 00:12:20,328.39153211 --> 00:12:25,548.39153211 Um, it's just about how to handle the trigger in the certain, in that moment. 110 00:12:25,788.39153211 --> 00:12:34,598.39153211 And so when you're on this healing journey, you start to, um, take captive the thoughts that are trying to come in and, and to feed your mind and. 111 00:12:35,318.39153211 --> 00:12:40,208.39153211 Whenever you consistently do that, that's when you start to believe the truth about yourself instead of lies. 112 00:12:40,478.39153211 --> 00:12:53,768.39153211 Therefore, you can walk in all that God has for you versus walking in the direction that the God of this world, the enemy, is trying to make you walk in to distract you from or distract you in. 113 00:12:54,248.39153211 --> 00:12:54,458.39153211 Okay. 114 00:12:54,458.39153211 --> 00:13:13,808.39153211 Secondly, how, what healing does for you emotionally? Is when you have these unhealed wounds, you're more likely to respond from your emotions and make decisions based on your emotions, which leads you to hurt yourself and other people who really love you. 115 00:13:14,258.39153211 --> 00:13:29,378.39153211 And what healing does it, it doesn't take away, like I kind of said before, it doesn't take away the hurting feelings, the negative quote, unquote emotions, like feeling rejected sometimes away from you. 116 00:13:29,378.39153211 --> 00:13:36,248.39153211 It doesn't take those feelings away from you, but it allows you to have a different perspective when they come up, for example. 117 00:13:37,493.39153211 --> 00:13:48,833.39153211 Say something somebody does that makes you feel rejected instead of receiving the narrative that no one wants you, that you'll always be second choice, that you'll always be rejected. 118 00:13:49,103.39153211 --> 00:13:57,233.39153211 You can choose to keep a sound mind despite your emotion, and remind yourself of God's truth. 119 00:13:57,638.39153211 --> 00:14:09,878.39153211 That you are chosen and maybe the person's actions weren't intended to hurt you or to be to come off as malicious and they didn't mean to reject you, and you realize, okay. 120 00:14:10,943.39153211 --> 00:14:14,243.39153211 What this person did made me feel rejected. 121 00:14:14,573.39153211 --> 00:14:18,923.39153211 But that's not the truth, and that's a powerful mindset to have. 122 00:14:18,923.39153211 --> 00:14:27,893.39153211 So therefore, instead of your emotions controlling you, you can feel the emotion, but you have control over what comes after feeling the emotion. 123 00:14:28,193.39153211 --> 00:14:30,923.39153211 God is it? It's not bad to have emotions. 124 00:14:30,923.39153211 --> 00:14:34,643.39153211 The Lord gave you your emotions, all of them. 125 00:14:35,858.39153211 --> 00:14:38,858.39153211 He tells us to be angry and not to sin. 126 00:14:39,98.39153211 --> 00:14:41,498.39153211 So it's, it's okay to feel the emotion. 127 00:14:41,498.39153211 --> 00:14:46,118.39153211 It's just your response to the emotion and what healing does. 128 00:14:46,118.39153211 --> 00:14:50,378.39153211 It puts you on that pathway to surrender them to the Lord and to again. 129 00:14:51,203.39153211 --> 00:14:57,863.39153211 Just not allow your, your emotions to take hold of you, which none, none of us want to, none of us want to, to live in. 130 00:14:59,303.39153211 --> 00:15:07,403.39153211 Thirdly, what healing does for you mentally is it gives you, it gives you peace, okay? It gives you peace. 131 00:15:07,673.39153211 --> 00:15:13,463.39153211 You're able to more clearly identify what a lie is and what truth is. 132 00:15:14,303.39153211 --> 00:15:30,233.39153211 Especially as you read the word of God and spend time with him, you start to believe when you're spending time in his presence, you start to believe the, you start to believe things of God and separate yourself and from things of this world. 133 00:15:30,233.39153211 --> 00:15:46,884.96141564 Your desires will start to look more like His, the way that you think will start to look more like, like, like his word healing gives you control back over your mind versus it being in the hands and control over the enemy. 134 00:15:47,528.29474897 --> 00:15:52,148.29474897 And the mind is, is it's what the enemy attacks. 135 00:15:52,148.29474897 --> 00:15:55,568.29474897 It's how he gets in to take you off course. 136 00:15:55,958.29474897 --> 00:15:58,238.29474897 Your mind is the battlefield. 137 00:15:58,538.29474897 --> 00:16:07,208.29474897 This is what Satan uses to take God's children out of their purpose and out of their secure identity in him. 138 00:16:07,388.29474897 --> 00:16:17,378.29474897 And so when you are actively healing, you live with more awareness to his tricks because you can identify what doesn't align with the word of God. 139 00:16:17,708.29474897 --> 00:16:19,438.29474897 What's, what's a counterfeit. 140 00:16:19,618.29474897 --> 00:16:22,858.29474897 And the thing about this is why it's so important to spend time with the Lord. 141 00:16:23,8.29474897 --> 00:16:31,588.29474897 Because if we even look at how the enemy comes in, it's not it He most, most, most of the time, he doesn't just feed you. 142 00:16:31,918.29474897 --> 00:16:35,578.29474897 Something that you can completely identify is, oh yeah, that's a total lie. 143 00:16:35,578.29474897 --> 00:16:37,288.29474897 Like that's way off field. 144 00:16:37,288.29474897 --> 00:16:39,28.29474897 That's totally against God's word. 145 00:16:39,358.29474897 --> 00:16:39,748.29474897 No. 146 00:16:39,808.29474897 --> 00:16:41,608.294749 He'll take one little twist. 147 00:16:41,608.294749 --> 00:16:51,928.294749 It could be one little word, he'll twist scripture, make it sound good, make it sound like it's, it's from the Lord when it's really not. 148 00:16:52,348.294749 --> 00:16:56,738.294749 And so when you choose, when you're choosing to actively heal. 149 00:16:57,353.294749 --> 00:17:10,593.294749 You're starting to cultivate this awareness to his slightly different, um, what's the word? His slightly different, counterfeit truths, I guess you can say. 150 00:17:10,593.294749 --> 00:17:10,623.294749 I. 151 00:17:11,27.3076047 --> 00:17:21,557.3076047 And you stop living as a victim to the lies he tries to feed you at these opportune times, which he is going to come, and he's gonna wait for the opportune time he's gonna come in. 152 00:17:21,557.3076047 --> 00:17:29,207.3076047 When you do feel hurt, when you do feel abandoned, when you do feel not enough, when you just got let go of the job when you just got. 153 00:17:29,437.3076047 --> 00:17:36,7.3076047 Told they went with a different candidate when you just, um, put your all into something and you didn't see the results that you wanted. 154 00:17:36,7.3076047 --> 00:17:38,317.3076047 He's gonna come in at those moments. 155 00:17:38,437.3076047 --> 00:17:46,267.3076047 And so when you choose to be in the state of healing from your past, he can't use it against you anymore. 156 00:17:46,520.6409381 --> 00:17:49,880.6409381 And attack you the same way he's been for years and years and years. 157 00:17:50,120.6409381 --> 00:17:53,510.6409381 And then fourthly, how, how, what healing does for you. 158 00:17:53,510.6409381 --> 00:18:02,450.6409381 Practically healing allows you to live with a different perspective on yourself, on God and other people. 159 00:18:03,110.6409381 --> 00:18:08,210.6409381 You start to live in love more often versus hate. 160 00:18:08,630.6409381 --> 00:18:20,60.6409381 You start to live with more joy than than sulking and sorrow, and strife and depression, and you start to live with more peace versus anxiousness. 161 00:18:20,480.6409381 --> 00:18:27,80.6409381 No matter what your circumstances are, you are able to be more grounded and not swayed by what life brings your way. 162 00:18:27,500.6409381 --> 00:18:33,920.6409381 You are essentially living a more rooted life and this is what healing does for you practically. 163 00:18:33,980.6409381 --> 00:18:37,160.6409381 Practically it comes, has completely transformed my life. 164 00:18:37,160.6409381 --> 00:18:41,570.6409381 Do I have hard days here and there, especially when I'm about to start my period. 165 00:18:41,780.6409381 --> 00:18:42,230.6409381 Okay. 166 00:18:42,230.6409381 --> 00:18:45,770.6409381 Like heightened emotions and being a little bit more need. 167 00:18:46,760.6409381 --> 00:18:50,240.6409381 Yes, I still have bad, hard, hard days. 168 00:18:50,240.6409381 --> 00:18:53,420.6409381 I wouldn't even say bad days, but I still have hard days and hard moments. 169 00:18:53,930.6409381 --> 00:19:02,90.6409381 Um, but I just deal with them so much differently because I have truly become a, a new creation, I think differently. 170 00:19:02,90.6409381 --> 00:19:04,670.6409381 I have a set of beliefs that. 171 00:19:04,840.6409381 --> 00:19:19,355.6409381 Um, I stand on and you get grounded in truth versus being able to be so taken off course by one little situation that triggers you because you haven't dealt with your, your unhealed, um, trauma and wounds. 172 00:19:20,735.6409381 --> 00:19:27,815.6409381 And then the final complete point that I, that I wanna talk about is just how to start. 173 00:19:27,935.6409381 --> 00:19:39,755.6409381 Okay, Danny, this is great and all, but how do I practically start this? 'cause it seems like, you know, having a deal with all the stuff that I have going on is kind of overwhelming. 174 00:19:40,260.6409381 --> 00:19:43,260.6409381 And I just wanna bring scripture to you. 175 00:19:43,260.6409381 --> 00:19:45,600.6409381 I have two verses that I wanna share with you. 176 00:19:45,870.6409381 --> 00:19:51,120.6409381 Isaiah 53, 5 tells us that Jesus finished. 177 00:19:51,120.6409381 --> 00:20:01,770.6409381 He's completely, he's done the perfect and finished work on the cross, and he took bruises and he took piercings and crushing. 178 00:20:02,425.6409381 --> 00:20:04,945.6409381 And, and betrayal and the surging. 179 00:20:05,5.6409381 --> 00:20:11,905.6409381 He took all of that upon himself for your, for your sake so you can be healed. 180 00:20:12,85.6409381 --> 00:20:18,685.6409381 And yes, we see multiple examples of physical healing, but it's also emotional healing. 181 00:20:19,285.6409381 --> 00:20:22,555.6409381 He can heal your emotions. 182 00:20:22,555.6409381 --> 00:20:24,565.6409381 He's a compassionate God. 183 00:20:24,895.6409381 --> 00:20:31,465.6409381 In Psalm 34 18, it says, Jesus is near to the broken hearted. 184 00:20:32,90.6409381 --> 00:20:36,590.6409381 And saves those who are crushed in spirit. 185 00:20:37,220.6409381 --> 00:20:40,130.6409381 And I don't know what you've walked through recently. 186 00:20:40,130.6409381 --> 00:20:46,10.6409381 I don't know what it, what has come to your mind, what Holy Spirit has brought to your mind of what you need to heal from. 187 00:20:46,430.6409381 --> 00:20:49,490.6409381 Maybe it's a relationship where you were betrayed. 188 00:20:49,970.6409381 --> 00:20:59,430.6409381 Maybe it is grieving a loved one, or grieving a loss of a relationship, grieving a life that you thought you were gonna have in some way. 189 00:21:00,870.6409381 --> 00:21:05,760.6409381 Maybe it, it's, it's something that you felt is completely out of your control, taken away from you. 190 00:21:05,760.6409381 --> 00:21:10,500.6409381 Maybe you feel viol violated, and you don't even know where to start with that. 191 00:21:10,950.6409381 --> 00:21:18,600.6409381 You always wanna start in the word of God, and I wanna define the definition of saves. 192 00:21:19,130.6409381 --> 00:21:45,950.6409381 What saves means in this verse in the strongest concordance, which I just looked up in the Blue Letter Bible app, which I love to look at meanings of certain words in the Bible because many times it has such a deeper meaning than what the English language can translate to and saves in the concordance means to save, be saved, saved, be delivered, to be liberated. 193 00:21:47,100.6409381 --> 00:21:56,700.6409381 To be saved in battle, to be victorious, to save from moral troubles, to give victory to. 194 00:21:57,705.6409381 --> 00:22:01,115.6409381 And God is not We don't wanna put him in a box. 195 00:22:01,115.6409381 --> 00:22:02,795.6409381 He wants it. 196 00:22:02,795.6409381 --> 00:22:04,85.6409381 It's to be fully delivered. 197 00:22:04,85.6409381 --> 00:22:07,325.6409381 To say from moral troubles, to be victorious. 198 00:22:07,325.6409381 --> 00:22:20,15.6409381 That is including your emotions to be victorious Over this past, um, history that you have, that you've been trying to run from, that you've been trying to hide, escape, suppress, ignore. 199 00:22:20,520.6409381 --> 00:22:25,710.6409381 Whatever he wants to be invited into that, and that is the very first step. 200 00:22:26,10.6409381 --> 00:22:47,970.6409381 So we start our healing process by going to him, and this just looks like the beauty of our relationship with God and who he is, is that he, he can do so much more with an open handed surrender than with a consistently a, a person that is trying to do it all themselves. 201 00:22:49,940.6409381 --> 00:22:57,440.6409381 He can do more with a heart that is surrendered, that is crushed, that is broken. 202 00:22:57,710.6409381 --> 00:23:05,840.6409381 He wants to do so much to you, with you through you when you're in this state. 203 00:23:06,110.6409381 --> 00:23:13,490.6409381 And so we start by not trying to work his way into his good graces, but by resting in his. 204 00:23:13,895.6409381 --> 00:23:19,565.6409381 His abundant grace that he's already given us by abiding in his presence. 205 00:23:20,420.6409381 --> 00:23:24,470.6409381 He is where the joy is and where you can find restoration. 206 00:23:24,920.6409381 --> 00:23:45,470.6409381 And so if you're new to spending time with God or you've fallen off and you wanna get back on on track, quote unquote, I've been there multiple times and probably will be, you know, um, and you wanna get back into, into spending time with him, know that he's waiting on you with full compassion, not with disgust. 207 00:23:46,175.6409381 --> 00:23:47,15.6409381 Not with anything. 208 00:23:47,15.6409381 --> 00:23:48,755.6409381 He's a, you're not bringing hi him. 209 00:23:48,755.6409381 --> 00:23:56,320.6409381 Anything that he doesn't want, he doesn't want you to work your way into, um, a good. 210 00:23:57,50.6409381 --> 00:23:58,610.6409381 Good into his good graces. 211 00:23:58,610.6409381 --> 00:24:01,820.6409381 I don't know another way to say it, into being accepted by him. 212 00:24:01,820.6409381 --> 00:24:03,620.6409381 He's already died for you. 213 00:24:03,740.6409381 --> 00:24:05,450.6409381 He's already chosen you. 214 00:24:05,450.6409381 --> 00:24:07,10.6409381 He's already appointed you. 215 00:24:07,10.6409381 --> 00:24:08,420.6409381 He's already given you a purpose. 216 00:24:08,420.6409381 --> 00:24:10,580.6409381 You had created with purpose. 217 00:24:10,580.6409381 --> 00:24:12,680.6409381 He had a purpose for you first. 218 00:24:12,950.6409381 --> 00:24:19,220.6409381 And then he create, he, he creates the purpose first, and then he creates the person to fulfill the purpose. 219 00:24:20,45.6409381 --> 00:24:20,735.6409381 Yes. 220 00:24:20,795.6409381 --> 00:24:26,405.6409381 And so you can start in spending time with him with what's called the first 15. 221 00:24:26,495.6409381 --> 00:24:27,365.6409381 The first 15. 222 00:24:27,635.6409381 --> 00:24:33,425.6409381 So it's five minutes of worship, five minutes of prayer, and five minutes of reading God's word. 223 00:24:33,815.6409381 --> 00:24:38,375.6409381 You just start there and you work your way to allowing God to lead you in deeper in each. 224 00:24:39,95.6409381 --> 00:24:43,235.6409381 Okay, so maybe some days you like spend the full 15 minutes in worship. 225 00:24:43,295.6409381 --> 00:24:49,265.6409381 You just get lost in his presence in worship and then you have to run to to, to get ready for work or whatnot. 226 00:24:49,445.6409381 --> 00:24:50,705.6409381 And that's okay. 227 00:24:50,705.6409381 --> 00:24:52,505.6409381 It's just this first 15. 228 00:24:52,565.6409381 --> 00:25:02,645.6409381 And the reason why it's worship, prayer and reading God's word, because worship allows you to just like surrender and to open your heart to receive his Holy Spirit. 229 00:25:02,915.6409381 --> 00:25:04,25.6409381 It's like creating that. 230 00:25:04,85.6409381 --> 00:25:06,395.6409381 It's shifting the atmosphere when you worship. 231 00:25:07,395.6409381 --> 00:25:11,625.6409381 Praises and worship is your superpower. 232 00:25:12,255.6409381 --> 00:25:14,835.6409381 It brings the heavens down to the earth. 233 00:25:15,285.6409381 --> 00:25:21,585.6409381 It allows you to enter into, I mean, his scripture, his word says enter his gates with praise and thanksgiving. 234 00:25:21,825.6409381 --> 00:25:28,580.6409381 When you can do that, it's allows you to just be a receptive vessel for what he has for you. 235 00:25:29,720.6409381 --> 00:25:34,580.6409381 And you wanna pray because there's power in prayer. 236 00:25:34,850.6409381 --> 00:25:36,860.6409381 It is so powerful. 237 00:25:37,250.6409381 --> 00:25:37,370.6409381 Um. 238 00:25:38,285.6409381 --> 00:25:42,485.6409381 Like his word says that ask and you shall receive. 239 00:25:43,295.6409381 --> 00:25:46,235.6409381 Ask and you and you shall receive. 240 00:25:46,685.6409381 --> 00:25:51,245.6409381 And how do you expect to hear what God has for you? His plans for you. 241 00:25:51,245.6409381 --> 00:25:54,575.6409381 If you don't sit and you ask him, prayer is a two way. 242 00:25:54,935.6409381 --> 00:25:57,155.6409381 You pray and you ask and you give God. 243 00:25:57,455.6409381 --> 00:26:02,795.6409381 You know what's on your mind, your worry list, right? That's your prayer list, and you just let 'em speak into it. 244 00:26:03,230.6409381 --> 00:26:07,460.6409381 Let him give you peace and then reading God's word because you wanna get truth in you. 245 00:26:07,460.6409381 --> 00:26:16,190.6409381 So that way you can identify what the lies are, the counterfeits are okay, the things that look like the real thing, but it's not right. 246 00:26:16,280.6409381 --> 00:26:18,135.6409381 And you just start there and you allow him to just. 247 00:26:18,830.6409381 --> 00:26:20,360.6409381 Bring you deeper and deeper and deeper. 248 00:26:20,360.6409381 --> 00:26:29,750.6409381 This may turn into an hour, your first hour of the day, but that's just a beautiful way to start and he's going to come in and to heal your heart. 249 00:26:30,140.6409381 --> 00:26:35,300.6409381 And of course, um, we would love to have you if you're wanting some, just more assistance with this. 250 00:26:35,300.6409381 --> 00:26:38,210.6409381 I mean, I don't know where I would be. 251 00:26:38,210.6409381 --> 00:26:40,220.6409381 Yes, a hundred percent without the Lord. 252 00:26:40,250.6409381 --> 00:26:41,690.6409381 Like that's evident. 253 00:26:41,720.6409381 --> 00:26:42,410.6409381 Yes. 254 00:26:42,530.6409381 --> 00:26:43,940.6409381 If I only have the Lord like. 255 00:26:44,570.6409381 --> 00:26:46,760.6409381 He's helped me and healed me in so many ways. 256 00:26:46,820.6409381 --> 00:26:49,405.6409381 And then scripture also talks about how. 257 00:26:50,555.6409381 --> 00:27:04,25.6409381 Um, in James, it tells us that by confession, um, in community with one another, in a prayer of a righteous man avails much we can receive healing when we are in community with other people. 258 00:27:04,85.6409381 --> 00:27:11,210.6409381 And this is exactly why we wanna have the live masterclass because yes, why I loved speaking to you, right where. 259 00:27:11,720.6409381 --> 00:27:13,370.6409381 It's just audio to audio. 260 00:27:13,400.6409381 --> 00:27:14,930.6409381 I mean, yeah, audio to audio. 261 00:27:14,930.6409381 --> 00:27:16,190.6409381 You can just plug me in. 262 00:27:16,460.6409381 --> 00:27:18,890.6409381 You don't have to see my face, right? You just listen to my voice. 263 00:27:18,890.6409381 --> 00:27:21,770.6409381 Like, I love this, right? My, my PJ's gonna go to bed soon. 264 00:27:22,220.6409381 --> 00:27:29,690.6409381 Um, but there's something about a alive atmosphere, and this is why I wanna invite you to it. 265 00:27:29,720.6409381 --> 00:27:33,650.6409381 Just so you can hear truth be washed by the word. 266 00:27:33,800.6409381 --> 00:27:38,450.6409381 Be in community with other women who want to also heal and seek the Lord. 267 00:27:38,825.6409381 --> 00:27:40,475.6409381 So totally inviting you. 268 00:27:40,475.6409381 --> 00:27:41,645.6409381 I'd love to see you there. 269 00:27:41,645.6409381 --> 00:27:55,435.6409381 You can register at the link in the podcast show notes, the description in this, and we start November or we start, but it is on November 9th at 6:00 PM Central Standard time. 270 00:27:55,495.6409381 --> 00:27:56,935.6409381 Okay, so next Sunday. 271 00:27:57,895.6409381 --> 00:27:59,605.6409381 And I just wanna do a quick recap. 272 00:27:59,665.6409381 --> 00:28:03,805.6409381 Um, I really hope that this episode. 273 00:28:03,880.6409381 --> 00:28:08,50.6409381 It reminds you that healing is not optional. 274 00:28:08,50.6409381 --> 00:28:25,400.6409381 If you wanna walk boldly in your purpose, it is essential because when you stay unhealed, you stay stuck, replaying this, this, the old pain in New Seasons, or you're reliving old scenarios just in a new situation. 275 00:28:25,940.6409381 --> 00:28:28,970.6409381 But when you invite Jesus into those places, that still hurt. 276 00:28:29,90.6409381 --> 00:28:31,340.6409381 He doesn't just put a bandaid over it. 277 00:28:31,610.6409381 --> 00:28:34,280.6409381 He completely redeems them. 278 00:28:34,370.6409381 --> 00:28:36,410.6409381 He makes you completely new. 279 00:28:36,410.6409381 --> 00:28:49,100.6409381 He makes you to be able to come to a place where you can talk about it being on the other side as if you're just looking at the old you, as somebody different who walked through that, and you can share your testimony to help other people. 280 00:28:49,100.6409381 --> 00:28:58,430.6409381 He transforms the pain that you have into purpose and your wounds into new wisdom that he wants to impart onto you. 281 00:28:58,850.6409381 --> 00:28:59,720.6409381 And so. 282 00:29:00,200.6409381 --> 00:29:03,80.6409381 I hope and pray that this is your reminder that you're not behind. 283 00:29:03,350.6409381 --> 00:29:06,890.6409381 Like he can take your story and completely. 284 00:29:08,300.6409381 --> 00:29:14,570.6409381 Like you're being built in this season and God is doing something in you right now that is preparing you for what is next. 285 00:29:15,50.6409381 --> 00:29:19,370.6409381 And I would just love to be able to, I'm, I'm just grateful that you're here listening. 286 00:29:19,370.6409381 --> 00:29:22,910.6409381 I, I'm just so honored to be a small part in your journey with him. 287 00:29:23,450.6409381 --> 00:29:32,660.6409381 And yeah, I'm really excited for, if you decide to come to the Live Masterclass, I would love to just do virtual hugs and see your face and meet you. 288 00:29:33,140.6409381 --> 00:29:38,390.2440995 But if not, I'll see you back here next Monday in the next episode. 289 00:29:38,510.2440995 --> 00:29:42,470.2440995 I'm so proud of you for showing up today, and remember that your healing matters. 290 00:29:42,500.2440995 --> 00:29:46,460.2440995 Your story is still being written, and your purpose is worth fighting for. 291 00:29:46,790.2440995 --> 00:29:47,210.2440995 Love you. 292 00:29:47,540.2440995 --> 00:29:47,870.2440995 Bye. 293 00:29:48,281.3350086 --> 00:29:49,211.3350086 Hey, beautiful. 294 00:29:49,211.3350086 --> 00:29:52,811.3350086 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 295 00:29:53,81.3350086 --> 00:30:07,481.3350086 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 296 00:30:07,571.3350086 --> 00:30:12,641.3350086 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 297 00:30:12,886.3350086 --> 00:30:18,286.3350086 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 298 00:30:18,346.3350086 --> 00:30:21,436.3350086 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 299 00:30:21,586.3350086 --> 00:30:24,646.3350086 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 300 00:30:24,766.3350086 --> 00:30:26,386.3350086 Sending you all the love. 301 00:30:26,446.3350086 --> 00:30:27,586.3350086 Until next time.