March 24, 2025 • 35 mins
Hi beautiful! ♥️
Have you ever felt like you're stuck in a pattern, going through the motions, and wondering why others seem to be thriving while you’re struggling? It’s like you’re both facing the same situation, but the outcomes are completely different. The truth is, it all comes down to perspective.
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking how your perspective shapes EVERYTHING—especially your performance and growth. We’re diving into how a shift in perspective, rooted in faith, can help you tackle challenges, setbacks, and even seasons of delay with purpose and peace.
Grab your journal, because we’re going deep into how adopting a higher perspective can unlock your true potential and help you see life through a heavenly vantage point. You’ve got so much more power than you realize, and it’s time to start seeing things differently.
See you on the inside! Xo, Dani
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Hey, beautiful.
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Super excited to jumpstart a new fresh week together.
And what better way to really lean into perspective.
This was something, and you'll hear all about it as we move into this training, but if you were a woman who feels like you have this really big problem in front of you.
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And it is stealing your joy, your peace, your patience, and time away from you.
This is gonna be the episode for you. 7 00:00:31,69.009615675 --> 00:00:42,889.009615675 This is a live behind the scenes footage of one of my Monday mindset group coaching calls that I do for a community of women who are pursuing a career in sales. 8 00:00:43,249.009615675 --> 00:00:49,549.009615675 And what we are discussing is how your perspective is what drives your performance. 9 00:00:49,939.009615675 --> 00:00:53,419.009615675 And within this we talk about the hidden place. 10 00:00:53,629.009615675 --> 00:00:58,129.009615675 If God is currently having you in a hidden place, if he is hiding you. 11 00:00:58,619.009615675 --> 00:01:04,409.009615675 What the purpose of that is, or if you are actually hiding from the call. 12 00:01:04,829.009615675 --> 00:01:10,259.009615675 So no matter what business career you're pursuing, this is gonna be applicable to you. 13 00:01:10,529.009615675 --> 00:01:23,369.009615675 And this can even be applied to your love life if you feel like it is at a standstill, or you just feel like you are solely focusing on these things that keep popping up in your life, that you're deeming a problem. 14 00:01:23,684.009615675 --> 00:01:43,666.64187458 My hope is that you get free from that perspective after the end of this training Because the very thing that you believe and you're seeing as a problem in your life is the very thing that is stealing the outcome, the goal, the relationship, the vision, the peace that you have for yourself. 15 00:01:43,985.16021303 --> 00:01:45,485.16021303 This is gonna be a really fun one. 16 00:01:45,545.16021303 --> 00:01:46,235.16021303 Let's dive in. 17 00:01:46,451.82687969 --> 00:01:47,651.82687969 Hey, beautiful. 18 00:01:47,801.82687969 --> 00:01:51,551.82687969 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 19 00:01:51,611.82687969 --> 00:02:14,351.82687969 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries due to your people pleasing tendencies. 20 00:02:14,381.82687969 --> 00:02:15,911.82687969 Well, sis, you're not alone. 21 00:02:15,941.82687969 --> 00:02:17,111.82687969 I've been there too. 22 00:02:17,201.82687969 --> 00:02:22,391.82687969 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser. 23 00:02:22,461.82687969 --> 00:02:24,411.82687969 And a total girl's girl. 24 00:02:24,531.82687969 --> 00:02:41,241.82687969 For 10 years, I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 25 00:02:41,386.82687969 --> 00:02:56,536.82687969 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 26 00:02:56,746.82687969 --> 00:02:59,716.82687969 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 27 00:02:59,806.82687969 --> 00:03:03,976.82687969 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 28 00:03:04,66.82687969 --> 00:03:05,836.82687969 One step at a time. 29 00:03:06,339.45428743 --> 00:03:18,269.06366243 I really want to touch on something that was very transformational for me whenever I first started my entrepreneurship journey and like first came into this world of just personal development and like wanting to grow and become my best self. 30 00:03:18,579.06366243 --> 00:03:26,749.06366243 And I had a mentor tell me just these three words and they've stuck with me and it, it was. 31 00:03:27,299.06366243 --> 00:03:30,349.06366243 Perspective drives performance. 32 00:03:31,203.92586061 --> 00:03:34,313.92586061 Perspective drives performance. 33 00:03:34,753.92586061 --> 00:03:59,617.39507745 Have you guys ever, wondered why you could take two different people, they go through the same exact training, course, or situation, yet they both have different results, and even more than that, they both have a different way of speaking about the experience and different feelings towards it. 34 00:04:00,310.11205359 --> 00:04:30,512.79543677 Um, and it's because of their perspective, and the perspective that you have has been, not tainted, but it has been created based off of your past experiences, okay, and what you're really choosing to believe, who you're listening to today, what you're watching, it's all creating your worldview, okay, the beliefs that you hold, which of course, Is going to influence the way that you see things. 35 00:04:31,59.93543248 --> 00:04:35,439.93543248 So, I know we all said, like, sevens and up, which is fabulous. 36 00:04:35,789.93543248 --> 00:04:48,729.93543248 But I wonder, does anybody feel like they have, like, a problem in their life right now? Like, in any form or fashion, any sort of problem in their life? Raise of hands or dropping me in the chat. 37 00:04:48,729.93543248 --> 00:04:49,289.93543248 Yes. 38 00:04:49,329.93543248 --> 00:04:49,709.93543248 Uh huh. 39 00:04:49,739.93543248 --> 00:04:50,319.93543248 For sure. 40 00:04:50,519.93543248 --> 00:04:50,949.93543248 Yeah. 41 00:04:51,19.93543248 --> 00:04:51,409.93543248 Yeah. 42 00:04:51,979.93543248 --> 00:04:52,579.93543248 Yeah. 43 00:04:53,639.93543248 --> 00:04:54,109.93543248 Yeah. 44 00:04:55,109.93543248 --> 00:05:06,619.93443248 I just listened to a, um, uh, a psychologist and he was saying, he would like gauge the room and he was like, okay, who in here has issues? And he called out this, and of course I would raise their hand or whatever. 45 00:05:06,629.93543248 --> 00:05:16,169.93543248 And then he asked, okay, who in here doesn't believe they have any issues? And then there was like one guy that raised his hand and he called him out out of everybody and was like, okay, I want you guys to see what denial looks like. 46 00:05:16,589.93543248 --> 00:05:18,729.93443248 And we all totally have. 47 00:05:19,289.93543248 --> 00:05:22,649.93543248 Issues, because we live in a world that is broken. 48 00:05:22,649.93543248 --> 00:05:30,629.93543248 We live in a world where there's a lot of, a lot of traumatic things happening and taking place, um, and none of us are perfect. 49 00:05:31,169.93543248 --> 00:05:32,499.93543248 Nor will we ever be. 50 00:05:33,197.93590729 --> 00:05:43,227.93690729 But I want us to have a different perspective on the problems that we have in our life. 51 00:05:43,737.93690729 --> 00:05:45,977.93690729 Um, and so I want to pose this question. 52 00:05:46,437.13976666 --> 00:06:12,750.07239293 what if the problem that you think is your problem isn't actually a problem at all? What if the problem that you think is a problem is only a problem because you see it as a problem? What if there's another way of looking at what we're titling the problem? Perspective. 53 00:06:13,310.07239293 --> 00:06:14,310.07239293 Exactly, Shirley. 54 00:06:14,480.07239293 --> 00:06:14,880.07239293 Yeah. 55 00:06:15,998.76030905 --> 00:06:31,218.75930905 There's always a different way of viewing things, and I know we're all here, we all started this because we want to be the top 1 percent that Alexis talks about, right? Being this top 1 percent of not just in as a closer, but in the population as a whole. 56 00:06:31,228.76030905 --> 00:06:39,178.76030905 Maybe that's not everybody's goal, and that's totally fine, like Even the top 10%, 20 percent of the population is very successful. 57 00:06:39,853.82149416 --> 00:06:59,953.82199416 but if we're really wanting to, or we're all on this journey of becoming more successful, not just monetarily, but being a woman that has success in her life in more ways than just business, in all areas of, of our life, right? And so the way that you see a situation is going to shape how you respond to it. 58 00:06:59,953.82199416 --> 00:07:07,764.42520642 And this is literally so important because the If you guys are wanting to be a high performer, it comes down to the way you're viewing things. 59 00:07:08,984.42520642 --> 00:07:11,384.42520642 Okay, I want you guys to write this down. 60 00:07:12,734.42520642 --> 00:07:18,749.1947692 I want you to write down, where you sit determines what you see. 61 00:07:19,597.72413434 --> 00:07:23,293.69813825 Where you sit determines what you see. 62 00:07:24,551.00394881 --> 00:07:37,133.87535337 And no matter, like, what your spiritual beliefs are, or what you study, I study the Bible, and the Bible talks about, in Ephesians 2, 6, it tells us that you are seated in the heavenly places. 63 00:07:38,783.87535337 --> 00:07:41,193.87535337 That you are seated in the heavenly places. 64 00:07:41,473.87535337 --> 00:07:56,143.87435337 And when we, when we are seated in heavenly places, we won't only see life from an earthly perspective because when we look at life and the obstacles and things that are happening around us, we're going to miss the bigger picture. 65 00:07:56,925.10794866 --> 00:08:03,65.10794866 So, knowing and adopting this identity that states, Okay, I am a child of God. 66 00:08:03,395.10794866 --> 00:08:14,275.10794866 And he's telling me that I am seated in heavenly places? That means I can have heaven's perspective on the situation or on the problem that I'm facing right now. 67 00:08:15,505.10794866 --> 00:08:20,715.10794866 And so often, we live a life from this earthly position. 68 00:08:21,855.10794866 --> 00:08:25,385.10694866 And remember what we just wrote down, where you sit determines what you see. 69 00:08:25,870.10794866 --> 00:08:47,246.53167577 And so we're living this life from an earthly position and we're looking at what's happening right now the lack of Respondings the rejections the slow growth the Another day my I missed four things on my to do list And we're calling it a failure, because of the way we're looking at it. 70 00:08:47,356.53167577 --> 00:08:50,946.53167577 We are, we're, we're looking at it from an earthly perspective. 71 00:08:51,786.53167577 --> 00:09:00,216.53167577 One of my favorite quotes from the Bible is, um, Walk, to walk by faith and not by sight. 72 00:09:01,326.53167577 --> 00:09:03,16.53167577 To walk by faith and not by sight. 73 00:09:03,16.53167577 --> 00:09:26,135.60449693 And did you guys know that eyes that can look are common, but eyes that can see Are rare eyes that that can that can look are common But eyes that can see are rare and it's because most people live and go their entire life Living in an earthly perspective. 74 00:09:26,135.60449693 --> 00:09:35,870.60499693 Did you know that you are a three part being? You are You are not a, you are not a, you are not your body. 75 00:09:35,870.60499693 --> 00:09:42,180.60399693 You are not this physical being that's having this, this, this physical experience. 76 00:09:42,400.60499693 --> 00:09:58,0.60499693 You guys know whenever you've seen this is, but I think this is a great example, right? Like whenever, if you guys have ever seen somebody pass and you're looking at their body and you're like, that is not them. 77 00:09:59,636.47651396 --> 00:10:01,326.47651396 So there, that is not them. 78 00:10:01,356.47651396 --> 00:10:05,176.47651396 That was the vessel that they lived in while they were here on earth. 79 00:10:06,561.55219364 --> 00:10:09,791.55219364 It's because you are, you are not just what you see. 80 00:10:10,961.55219364 --> 00:10:12,571.55219364 You are not just what you see. 81 00:10:13,719.74533679 --> 00:10:15,59.74533679 You are a three part being. 82 00:10:15,209.74533679 --> 00:10:33,692.16942358 You have the spirit side of you, right? And this is what you can call, like, the intuition, these gut feelings that we have, right? These, this leading, that you don't know where it comes from, but it's kind of like this higher intelligence, right? Something that's in you, that's your spirit. 83 00:10:34,598.13227625 --> 00:10:37,638.13227625 And you have your, your soul, the soul part of you. 84 00:10:37,788.13227625 --> 00:10:40,58.13227625 This is your mind, your will and emotions. 85 00:10:41,87.76626803 --> 00:10:54,226.00777659 And then you've got the body and the body is where appetite comes from, whether it's good or bad, whether it's wanting to lean towards Netflix or if it's wanting to log into the Academy and go through these freaking modules. 86 00:10:56,441.19810851 --> 00:10:58,491.19810851 So you've got your spirit, your soul, and your body. 87 00:10:58,671.19810851 --> 00:11:06,931.19810851 And the more that you, that you really lean into and you listen to the spirit side of you, right? This is why people talk about meditation being like, so. 88 00:11:07,666.19810851 --> 00:11:14,6.19810851 So important, getting somewhere quiet, meditation or prayer, getting somewhere quiet and actually really, like, listening. 89 00:11:14,936.19810851 --> 00:11:25,66.19710851 Because, have you noticed, like, that intuition, this leading, these gut feelings, it's, it's, it's quieter than the appetite that our body, that our body gets. 90 00:11:25,66.19810851 --> 00:11:26,696.19710851 When we're hungry, we know we're hungry. 91 00:11:27,396.19710851 --> 00:11:34,386.19710851 When we, when we know we want that piece of dark chocolate, we want that, or the whole pint of ice cream, we know we want that whole pint of ice cream. 92 00:11:34,866.19810851 --> 00:11:54,76.19710851 But this intuition and leading is much quieter, and the more that you can distance yourself from the distractions and the loudness of the world and get very present, like you do on these calls, give yourself the gift of presence, the more that you're, the spirit man in you will be fed. 93 00:11:54,76.29710851 --> 00:12:09,701.84418447 And the reason this is important, especially when it comes to looking at things from a, from a, from a higher vantage point, is because Your spirit is already ahead of your situation. 94 00:12:10,872.48872868 --> 00:12:13,562.48872868 Your spirit already knows the outcome. 95 00:12:14,354.60556584 --> 00:12:17,74.60556584 What you saw was I'm going to pay this. 96 00:12:17,114.60456584 --> 00:12:20,444.60456584 I'm going to, I'm going to pay for this curriculum and I'm going to be a remote closer. 97 00:12:20,674.60556584 --> 00:12:25,144.60456584 Your spirit was already, it already knew that you were going to end up here whenever you were born. 98 00:12:26,745.45536422 --> 00:12:32,905.45536422 Your spirit already knows the outcome because it's connected to the one who sees the end from the beginning. 99 00:12:34,305.45536422 --> 00:12:35,795.45536422 It's our, it's our, it's been here. 100 00:12:36,724.65106446 --> 00:12:38,524.65106446 And that's why you feel that stirring in you. 101 00:12:38,534.65106446 --> 00:12:42,624.65106446 Whenever you, when you heard something from Alexis and you're like, Oh my gosh, she's speaking to me. 102 00:12:42,634.65006446 --> 00:12:45,234.65006446 I hear that from a lot of you guys on, on the, um, welcome calls. 103 00:12:45,234.65106446 --> 00:12:46,934.65006446 It's like she was speaking directly to me. 104 00:12:46,934.65006446 --> 00:12:49,374.65006446 Like, she wasn't, she was like, in my house. 105 00:12:50,539.65106446 --> 00:13:20,899.65106446 It's the spirit in you, it's, it's the spirit in you confirming something that maybe it was a lost desire in you, maybe it was, um, something that you buried, something in you that maybe you desired as a child, but maybe the, the life and, and realistic talking made you give that up and go the safe route, but she was speaking something that's been on the inside of you, and look at you, look at where you are now, you listen to that leading. 106 00:13:21,899.65106446 --> 00:13:22,659.65106446 Now we're here. 107 00:13:23,694.46899265 --> 00:13:31,925.74202607 And in the spirit, when you, when you live in the spirit and by the spirit, you see things that your physical eyes cannot see. 108 00:13:32,717.03123598 --> 00:13:43,507.03123598 When you are, when you can't see what God is doing, when people can't see, when you can't see what God is doing, this is when they stumble over themselves. 109 00:13:45,242.03123598 --> 00:13:50,852.03123598 This is when you get very boggled down in the problem and be like, Oh my gosh, because of this, like, I can't do XYZ. 110 00:13:51,52.03123598 --> 00:13:56,362.03123598 Because of this, um, this is gonna be, be the thing that takes me off course. 111 00:13:56,402.03123598 --> 00:13:58,562.03073598 Like, and you, you really laser in. 112 00:13:58,562.03073598 --> 00:14:03,822.03123598 Maybe it's something that happened within, um, within your family or something out of your control. 113 00:14:04,212.03123598 --> 00:14:06,162.03123598 And you're really laser focused on that. 114 00:14:07,112.03123598 --> 00:14:12,932.03123598 This is where, and you're not zoning out and seeing things from a higher vantage point, this is where you stumble over yourself. 115 00:14:12,932.03123598 --> 00:14:17,972.03023598 You dive into overthinking, procrastination, worry, anxiety, depression. 116 00:14:18,680.32669577 --> 00:14:27,490.32669577 and the way that you can kind of see if you're, how you're viewing things and kind of audit your perspective is paying attention to the words that you're speaking. 117 00:14:28,329.20402424 --> 00:14:53,661.0395538 Are you complaining about a problem? Are you, are you, are you, is your language more so about an issue? If you're talking and just talking about the problem versus talking about the, the, the, the action or the dream, um, or the, um, the solution, this is an indication that your perspective, we've got to work on the perspective, how you're viewing the problem. 118 00:14:54,583.69592702 --> 00:14:55,933.69592702 And some of you guys. 119 00:14:56,638.69592702 --> 00:15:08,618.69542702 Might feel like you have been hidden or you've been faced with this like a massive delay I know I hear all the time and I felt this way too. 120 00:15:08,618.69542702 --> 00:15:23,298.69592702 It's like man I really should be further along for my age right now Like I really should be further along if only I learned about sales when I was 18 And I talked to some of you guys that are 18 I'm like girl can't even imagine where you're gonna be at when you're my age. 121 00:15:23,949.70651998 --> 00:15:26,340.13080624 Absolutely nuts So stick to it. 122 00:15:27,370.13080624 --> 00:15:29,90.13080624 But, we have these feelings. 123 00:15:29,671.21989603 --> 00:15:53,192.76262788 But, what if, again, if we're viewing things from this heavenly perspective, this higher perspective, however, whatever you want to call it, What if the season of the delay was just a setup for you to enter into this harvest season? Because I don't know about you guys, but at the beginning of this year, I really felt, again, like, leading in my spirit. 124 00:15:53,252.76162788 --> 00:16:09,302.76262787 I really felt like something was really special about this year, and whenever I went to Funnel Hacking Live and, um, heard from Tony Robbins, he Was he gave like a whole history lesson y'all like his mindset portion was totally different than whatever. 125 00:16:09,302.76262787 --> 00:16:19,892.76262787 Um, anybody else i've listened to but he was talking about the seasons of history and how These patterns are like it's so crazy. 126 00:16:19,892.76262787 --> 00:16:39,522.76162788 The world is truly like we're all it's all made up of patterns Anyway, he's talking about the history and how cycles and patterns and seasons Literally replicate themselves, like, it is very much on a timeline, and he said we've been in a winter season for the past, I don't know how many years, like, seven or so. 127 00:16:39,562.76262788 --> 00:16:40,332.7626279 Seven years. 128 00:16:40,612.7626279 --> 00:16:47,92.7616279 And we're about to enter into a spring season, which is where the seeds that we've planted are going to sprout up. 129 00:16:47,752.7616279 --> 00:16:49,772.7616279 We're going to see the harvest come. 130 00:16:50,792.7616279 --> 00:16:54,462.7626279 And I don't know if you guys felt that way, but I really felt beginning of the year was off, like, man. 131 00:16:54,992.7626279 --> 00:16:57,402.7626279 I feel like things are gonna get crazy this year. 132 00:16:59,283.8605548 --> 00:17:01,393.8605548 and that was just confirmation. 133 00:17:01,413.8605548 --> 00:17:02,683.8605548 Like, we're entering into the spring. 134 00:17:03,307.8284906 --> 00:17:12,247.8284906 And so, what if this season, like, I don't want you to really focus on this waste of time, or this delay, or if you feel like things aren't going your way, or going at the pace. 135 00:17:12,517.8274906 --> 00:17:16,437.8274906 Maybe you're sending the outreach videos, and like, it's not coming back the way that you want. 136 00:17:16,757.8284906 --> 00:17:25,481.7495126 What if all this is setting you up? Because there is a power in being hidden. 137 00:17:26,295.5168683 --> 00:17:35,134.8312241 In the seasons of my life where I was hidden, Those were some of the most transformational seasons for me because it was producing something in me. 138 00:17:36,173.5292287 --> 00:17:42,793.2461804 And again, when you, the, what comes first is the becoming. 139 00:17:43,431.6722457 --> 00:17:44,871.6722457 What comes first is the becoming. 140 00:17:45,572.1306507 --> 00:17:55,651.5687311 The person that you become, that's something that nobody can take away from you, and that's the thing that, that will propel you to, to producing the results that you want in your life. 141 00:17:56,676.8757999 --> 00:17:58,836.8757999 Becoming comes before the doing. 142 00:17:59,606.8757999 --> 00:18:07,956.750595 Once you, once you believe that you are a person of action, once you believe that you are worth, Making a million for your family. 143 00:18:08,156.750595 --> 00:18:14,596.750595 Once you believe that you're the person to break these generational curses, the action, the doing, comes after that. 144 00:18:15,249.3786644 --> 00:18:20,532.7400941 So, this power in being hidden, it's a very important part of your journey. 145 00:18:21,219.0162248 --> 00:18:27,899.0162248 Because if you don't learn how to embrace the season that you are in, this hidden place, you're always going to feel rushed. 146 00:18:28,809.0162248 --> 00:18:30,249.0162248 You're gonna feel like you're running out of time. 147 00:18:30,709.0162248 --> 00:18:32,319.0162248 You're gonna feel like you're out of alignment. 148 00:18:32,769.0162248 --> 00:18:35,409.0162248 You're gonna feel anxious for results. 149 00:18:35,689.0162248 --> 00:18:39,799.0162248 And you're gonna start trying to do things that are not part of the plan. 150 00:18:40,449.0162248 --> 00:18:45,959.0152248 And you're trying to get these God sized results with your earthly perspective. 151 00:18:46,837.507567 --> 00:18:50,687.507567 I don't know about y'all, but whenever I do that, I'd be anxious and all the things. 152 00:18:50,777.507567 --> 00:18:52,607.507567 Like, not aligned. 153 00:18:53,327.507567 --> 00:18:54,47.507567 Rushing. 154 00:18:54,277.507567 --> 00:18:55,717.507567 No time at the end of my day. 155 00:18:55,847.507567 --> 00:18:59,402.9885094 What the heck did I get done? Yeah, we don't want to live like that. 156 00:18:59,904.3994738 --> 00:19:20,842.3433883 And Another thing that I had to learn is that when you feel like you have, if you've been, if you are a woman who has gone through struggle, if you're a woman who has gone through maybe seasons of depression, of crazy anxiety, of, of massive debt, and just things that are out of your control. 157 00:19:21,727.3443883 --> 00:19:26,157.3443883 Like real struggle, breakup, heart, heartbreak, all these things. 158 00:19:26,457.3443883 --> 00:19:29,307.3443883 I want you to really be encouraged by this truth. 159 00:19:29,577.3443883 --> 00:19:36,519.4156097 And the truth is that the ones who God uses greatly, He prepares greatly. 160 00:19:37,310.3079851 --> 00:19:41,780.3089851 And preparation happens in the hidden place. 161 00:19:42,986.5239928 --> 00:19:47,286.5239928 One of my favorite stories is the story of Joseph in the Bible. 162 00:19:48,576.5239928 --> 00:19:58,6.5249928 And he was actually, he was his He was his dad's favorite son, and his brothers got really jealous and sold him into slavery. 163 00:19:58,376.5249928 --> 00:20:02,766.5249928 Okay? He's a whole, this is a trauma, trauma story, one after the other. 164 00:20:02,776.5249928 --> 00:20:04,516.5239928 Okay? Joseph went through a lot of trauma. 165 00:20:05,756.1037253 --> 00:20:07,96.1037253 His brothers sold him into slavery. 166 00:20:07,966.1037253 --> 00:20:13,112.4502151 And then, Joseph was, made it to the king's, palace. 167 00:20:13,867.4502151 --> 00:20:26,106.0572363 And started serving the king, but then, he was falsely accused for trying to rape Potiphar's, that was the, the, the ruler's wife, and then he was imprisoned. 168 00:20:26,909.1161438 --> 00:20:35,659.1161438 Crazy, okay? And Joseph had a gift given him by God, a gift to interpret dreams. 169 00:20:36,329.1161438 --> 00:20:38,679.1161438 And there were two other people that were imprisoned. 170 00:20:39,94.1161438 --> 00:21:01,469.183545 With Joseph, and it was Pharaoh, the king of Egypt, the butler and baker, and he interpreted the dreams, and when they both got out, the dreams came to, came to pass, and Joseph told, I can't remember if it was the butler or the baker, but told one of them, hey, don't forget me when you go and you talk to Pharaoh. 171 00:21:02,185.1298137 --> 00:21:05,865.1298137 Tell him that I'm in prison, tell him that I'm here, I've been falsely accused. 172 00:21:06,704.9412952 --> 00:21:08,374.9412952 But then, guess what? They forgot about him. 173 00:21:08,514.9412952 --> 00:21:11,784.9412952 And he was in prison for more years to come. 174 00:21:12,401.9231746 --> 00:21:20,801.9231746 Okay? And you can look at that and be like, you're just gonna be like, bro, what in the world? I'm in, like, falsely accused, I'm in prison, time, what the heck, I should be somewhere else. 175 00:21:20,851.9231746 --> 00:21:27,61.9231746 Totally right now in my life, like, I'm not doing anything with my life, like, what's going on? My life's over. 176 00:21:28,15.2980327 --> 00:21:41,178.868191 But then, guess what, in just one moment, one day out of all these years of being in slavery, being imprisoned, going like a literally rollercoaster, one day, the king of Egypt, Pharaoh, had a dream. 177 00:21:41,698.3748203 --> 00:21:48,136.5185153 And then, Butler, Baker, Karen, one of them died because that was what the dream was and it came to pass. 178 00:21:48,136.6185153 --> 00:21:49,436.5175153 I can't remember which one lived. 179 00:21:49,829.8149872 --> 00:21:56,785.972948 but the one that was, that lived I was like, oh my gosh, I remember this guy, Joseph, he's in prison, and reminded Pharaoh of Joseph. 180 00:21:57,115.972948 --> 00:22:05,415.972948 And then in one day, Joseph became the second hand to the king, in one day, after all these years of the hidden place. 181 00:22:05,506.072948 --> 00:22:15,834.9261836 And guess what? God's plan was far greater than what Joseph could imagine because there was a, there was a season of famine coming. 182 00:22:16,44.9261836 --> 00:22:23,434.9261836 And because Joseph was positioned as second in command, he was able to save his family from famine. 183 00:22:24,188.6006507 --> 00:22:32,628.6006507 Why do I share that story? Because he was in a hidden, real hidden place, but God's favor never left him. 184 00:22:33,808.6006507 --> 00:22:38,768.5006507 God's favor has never left you, no matter what season you're walking in. 185 00:22:39,448.6006507 --> 00:22:48,488.6006507 What it looks like, what it feels like, what your eyes that can see, or eyes that can look, are noticing around you. 186 00:22:49,308.6339779 --> 00:23:05,469.3020641 And the question, really what I try to remind myself is, okay, yes, like, What I'm seeing in the natural, cool, but what could be happening in the spiritual realm? Because again, you're a spiritual being having a physical experience, not the other way around. 187 00:23:06,337.9952028 --> 00:23:09,597.9952028 And so, all of us, I know, want to make more money. 188 00:23:10,287.9942028 --> 00:23:12,227.9952028 You want to have more freedom, more time. 189 00:23:12,577.9952028 --> 00:23:16,337.9952028 Um, you probably want to have more joy in your life, more peace in your life. 190 00:23:16,347.9952028 --> 00:23:17,707.9952028 This is all fruit. 191 00:23:18,317.9952028 --> 00:23:21,734.8296592 Right? Peace, joy, this is all fruit. 192 00:23:22,282.2758648 --> 00:23:28,942.2758648 And for you to have these results in your life, it's directly tied to this preparation to being hidden. 193 00:23:29,600.6622094 --> 00:23:33,900.6622094 You guys notice, like, I don't know if we have any gardeners. 194 00:23:33,900.6622094 --> 00:23:35,810.6632094 I aspire to be a gardener, truly. 195 00:23:35,820.6632094 --> 00:23:37,490.6632094 I want to have a garden one day. 196 00:23:37,980.6632094 --> 00:23:39,480.6632094 Um, we'll see how that goes. 197 00:23:39,480.6632094 --> 00:23:41,880.6632094 My plant in front of me is, like, not looking good right now. 198 00:23:41,900.6632094 --> 00:23:52,150.6632094 But, um, have you ever noticed when you're planting a seed, Right? You're planting a seed under the soil and it's in a hidden place. 199 00:23:52,160.6632094 --> 00:23:55,680.6632094 The seed has to be buried before it grows into a harvest. 200 00:23:55,870.6632094 --> 00:24:06,150.6632094 You don't plant a seed and you drag up the seed and be like, Okay, are you growing yet? Like, how long is it gonna take? Right? You don't go out there every day pulling up what you planted. 201 00:24:06,819.3771888 --> 00:24:08,809.3771888 You're trusting the process. 202 00:24:09,374.7446105 --> 00:24:10,904.7446105 Right? You're going to tend to that seed. 203 00:24:10,904.7446105 --> 00:24:12,214.7446105 You're going to water that seed. 204 00:24:12,474.7446105 --> 00:24:14,834.7446105 And you're going to trust that it will produce a harvest. 205 00:24:15,432.6891583 --> 00:24:16,752.6891583 And that is necessary. 206 00:24:16,752.6891583 --> 00:24:21,742.6891583 A seed can't just turn into a tree or a flower or a fruit or whatever. 207 00:24:21,752.6891583 --> 00:24:23,372.6891583 It has to be planted. 208 00:24:23,472.6891583 --> 00:24:27,962.6881583 It has to undergo that hidden place before it produces a harvest. 209 00:24:28,737.3818838 --> 00:24:29,967.3808838 And same for you. 210 00:24:30,653.9107624 --> 00:24:46,862.8654229 Okay? The cool thing, really cool thing, about God is that he's, he cares more whatever, whatever you believe in, right? He cares more about the state of your heart than the state of your gif. 211 00:24:47,494.2844301 --> 00:24:51,574.2834301 He cares about who you're becoming, the woman that you're becoming, the character. 212 00:24:51,974.2844301 --> 00:24:59,317.1254606 What, what, what are you producing inside yourself? More than what you can produce with your hand. 213 00:25:00,340.0349505 --> 00:25:01,910.0359505 He prepares your heart. 214 00:25:02,600.0359505 --> 00:25:03,910.0359505 He prepares your head. 215 00:25:04,540.0359505 --> 00:25:06,80.0359505 And he prepares your hands. 216 00:25:06,881.8947939 --> 00:25:09,751.8947939 Okay? Your heart, he's gonna purify that thing. 217 00:25:11,31.8947939 --> 00:25:17,746.957294 I don't know if anybody can attest to this, but I've undergone A lot of pr a lot of pride getting purged from my heart. 218 00:25:17,746.957294 --> 00:25:22,716.957294 Pride was actually the thing that almost made me lose my my husband. 219 00:25:23,426.957294 --> 00:25:28,916.957294 Whenever we were in our dating stage, I was very prideful because I had a lot of man hate in my heart. 220 00:25:29,605.8926495 --> 00:25:31,965.8926495 That purification process of your heart. 221 00:25:32,647.6772286 --> 00:25:33,987.6772286 Purify your motives. 222 00:25:34,327.6772286 --> 00:25:35,567.6772286 Getting that greed out. 223 00:25:36,295.7165594 --> 00:25:40,805.7165594 Because you're not going to produce the fruit that you actually want to produce if these things are in your heart. 224 00:25:41,608.7689123 --> 00:25:44,208.7699123 He's going to prepare your head. 225 00:25:44,649.4840179 --> 00:25:50,959.4840179 He's going to transform how you mentally process challenges, your perspective, your eyes. 226 00:25:51,109.4840179 --> 00:26:07,189.6516036 Are you a looker or are you a seer? Do you have eyes that see, that, that, that look, or do you have eyes that see beyond what you see in the natural? And then he develops your skills, your hands, your heart, your head, and your hands, develops your skills. 227 00:26:07,965.942126 --> 00:26:18,555.942126 And so, I don't want you, if you are in this, I know a lot of you guys just started this, but I know you're coming, you've got, you've got what you've been doing for X amount of years, right? You have what you've been working towards. 228 00:26:19,66.788922 --> 00:26:31,346.789922 And I don't want you to ever allow the, the hidden season that you face, that you're facing now, or that you have faced, or that you will face, to forget who you are and what you carry. 229 00:26:32,133.8971673 --> 00:26:38,8.2483387 Cause I don't know if anybody's told you this today, but there's nobody on earth that was created like you. 230 00:26:39,551.4637702 --> 00:26:51,761.8913973 Nobody with your experiences, your gifts, your talents, you carry something literally like greater than what you could even imagine. 231 00:26:52,437.7612353 --> 00:26:59,367.7612353 And this hidden place is important because it's developing you to impact the amount of people who are assigned to you. 232 00:27:00,232.9586965 --> 00:27:04,402.9576965 You may think, and I know, like, I love the goals of like caring for your family. 233 00:27:04,402.9576965 --> 00:27:06,882.9576965 And yes, like we, we all want to. 234 00:27:08,37.9576965 --> 00:27:12,307.9576965 Break out our generational poverty and to care for our family. 235 00:27:12,962.1952997 --> 00:27:16,432.1952997 But I know that your, your, your calling goes beyond that. 236 00:27:17,189.1259272 --> 00:27:18,329.1259272 It's bigger than that. 237 00:27:18,929.5085903 --> 00:27:31,499.5085903 And so I never want you to believe this lie that says if I'm not visible, if I'm not in the public eye, if I, if, if I'm getting overlooked, I have no value because that's just not the case. 238 00:27:32,29.3158366 --> 00:27:35,389.3158366 Even in the pit, even in prison, Joseph carried value. 239 00:27:36,67.2715962 --> 00:27:50,194.079085 This favor is always following you and you can trust in that and whenever you know That you have favor you just move different Rejection is just part of the process. 240 00:27:50,194.079085 --> 00:28:02,761.4718115 It doesn't sting or it doesn't I mean it can it can sting but You don't make it part of your identity Because your identity is in the one who created you, it's not in the one who's rejected you. 241 00:28:03,498.5517672 --> 00:28:11,298.5517672 And before we move into, um, Reflection Time, I do want to kind of share a difference. 242 00:28:11,418.5517672 --> 00:28:18,528.5507672 Because I have a feeling maybe some of us are actually not being hidden, but actually hiding. 243 00:28:20,173.0385745 --> 00:28:27,854.9325949 So, what's the difference between being hidden and hiding? Hiding is when fear is your driver. 244 00:28:28,446.0627354 --> 00:28:29,556.0627354 You're hiding out of fear. 245 00:28:30,36.0627354 --> 00:28:31,716.0627354 Maybe you're hiding out of insecurity. 246 00:28:32,841.8009642 --> 00:28:35,41.8009642 When you're hiding, you're avoiding. 247 00:28:35,331.8009642 --> 00:28:37,251.8009642 You're avoiding challenge. 248 00:28:37,251.8009642 --> 00:28:38,951.7999642 You're avoiding discomfort. 249 00:28:39,351.7999642 --> 00:28:41,411.8009642 You're avoiding the outreach video. 250 00:28:41,611.8009642 --> 00:28:43,691.7999642 You're avoiding following up. 251 00:28:43,701.8009642 --> 00:28:46,351.8019642 You're avoiding the heart work. 252 00:28:46,963.3533803 --> 00:28:50,283.3543803 You're avoiding journaling and reflecting on what's triggering you. 253 00:28:50,283.3543803 --> 00:28:52,183.3543803 You're avoiding purpose. 254 00:28:52,779.6606109 --> 00:28:54,389.6606109 And you're being driven by fear and insecurity. 255 00:28:54,409.6606109 --> 00:28:55,509.6606109 That's when you're hiding. 256 00:28:56,181.9067641 --> 00:29:00,1.9067641 And when you're hidden, this is, this is, this is a season of preparation. 257 00:29:00,471.9067641 --> 00:29:03,321.9067641 It's God's preparation process for your next level. 258 00:29:03,968.6672227 --> 00:29:20,558.6672227 And so how do you know if this is you, if you're hiding, if you're like, yup, I've been motivated, I've been like, fearful, and it's what kept me from, from making decisions, um, I've been avoiding the work because I don't believe that somebody would want me, I don't believe that I would be qualified. 259 00:29:20,983.6672227 --> 00:29:26,951.2921124 I've heard some of you guys say that, right? This is, this is indication that you are actually hiding. 260 00:29:27,401.2921124 --> 00:29:28,661.2921124 You're hiding out of fear. 261 00:29:29,131.2921124 --> 00:29:32,558.3639159 And the longer that you hide out of fear, you're actually robbing. 262 00:29:32,848.3629159 --> 00:29:35,288.3639159 You're robbing the people that were assigned to you. 263 00:29:35,795.6870382 --> 00:29:39,535.6870382 Because you hold so, you hold so much value. 264 00:29:40,75.6880382 --> 00:29:41,325.6880382 You hold so much life. 265 00:29:41,325.6880382 --> 00:29:45,495.6880382 You hold a gift that somebody is praying for. 266 00:29:45,525.6880382 --> 00:29:46,845.6880382 Is asking for. 267 00:29:47,745.9650799 --> 00:29:59,370.8652013 And the final thing that I want to talk about before we move into reflection is how do you know when it's time to be revealed? Okay, how can I come how do I know it's my time to come out of hiding? Three things. 268 00:30:00,233.7027524 --> 00:30:03,503.7027524 First one is you want to pay attention to the signs. 269 00:30:04,286.9440847 --> 00:30:19,131.6953717 And what I mean by signs is, like, what are people asking of you? What are people saying to you, coming to you, asking you for? What doors are opening up for you? I believe this. 270 00:30:19,576.6953717 --> 00:30:26,946.6953717 Is a sign, I hear that from a lot of you guys in welcome calls, like, I felt like this was my sign, TikTok just like sent me a sign, it was on my mind. 271 00:30:28,746.2434381 --> 00:30:38,48.4420983 What people, what environments you're getting invited to, places that you find yourself in, all the things that are happening around you, we fly through our days. 272 00:30:38,657.5366242 --> 00:30:43,167.5366242 Just one action out of the next action out of the next action, trying to get things done. 273 00:30:43,367.5366242 --> 00:30:46,317.5366242 I love it, I'm a, I'm a, I'm a high achiever myself. 274 00:30:46,856.6821007 --> 00:30:54,86.6821007 But practicing to just really take in what's kind of going on and being very aware and paying attention to the signs. 275 00:30:54,874.4877073 --> 00:30:58,564.4877073 The second thing is you want to pay attention to your feelings. 276 00:30:59,210.0945983 --> 00:31:04,800.0945983 What's that stirring inside of you? What is, what is the thing? Maybe it, maybe it's passion. 277 00:31:04,820.0945983 --> 00:31:05,850.0935983 Maybe it's excitement. 278 00:31:05,860.0955983 --> 00:31:07,380.0935983 Maybe it's a little nervousness. 279 00:31:07,380.0935983 --> 00:31:09,120.0935983 Nerves are so normal. 280 00:31:09,120.0935983 --> 00:31:10,550.0935983 Let's normalize being nervous. 281 00:31:11,611.169215 --> 00:31:32,813.0832279 What is stirring? What is this in me that's making me want to do XYZ? In this case, what is this in me that's making me want to do sales? What's in, and it goes beyond that, what's in this that's making me believe now that I can actually make this thing happen? Like I can actually hit this 10k a month that I've been talking about for years. 282 00:31:33,803.0832279 --> 00:31:37,723.0832279 What's this thing in me that's making me want to do this? Pay attention to your feelings. 283 00:31:38,528.0832279 --> 00:31:42,928.0832279 And the third thing is you want to pay attention to God's voice. 284 00:31:43,688.2690216 --> 00:31:47,18.2690216 And I know we might have some women on here that might not believe in God. 285 00:31:47,18.2690216 --> 00:31:50,958.2690216 Maybe it's universe or a higher power or maybe not sure. 286 00:31:51,388.2690216 --> 00:31:55,178.2680216 And whatever your spiritual beliefs are, like, lean into that. 287 00:31:55,388.2690216 --> 00:31:58,750.735255 Or just, take time to just, like, explore. 288 00:31:59,476.2914447 --> 00:32:00,336.1924447 Take time to explore. 289 00:32:00,336.2924447 --> 00:32:14,996.6764116 And I think a really good place to start is, just journaling and just, like, Kind of, you could say talking to yourself, but just like, getting time in a quiet setting with pen and paper, and just journaling what's coming up for you. 290 00:32:15,821.531838 --> 00:32:18,431.531838 So pay attention to God's voice, this inner voice. 291 00:32:18,811.531838 --> 00:32:25,711.531838 Right? Cause the only way to know when it's time is to hear from the one who has placed you here. 292 00:32:26,211.8589868 --> 00:32:27,411.8589868 Who has created you. 293 00:32:27,947.1607292 --> 00:32:30,357.1607292 And it's hard to do that if you can't hear his voice. 294 00:32:31,14.4889693 --> 00:32:35,984.4889693 Or when you're cluttered with so much distraction and so much noise and, like, everything. 295 00:32:36,781.0650443 --> 00:32:40,826.7247988 it's so crazy that what we consume on a daily basis, y'all. 296 00:32:41,126.7237988 --> 00:32:51,485.8661859 Like, there was um, what was it? It was like, over 200, 2700 times we, we scroll or, push, or something else with our finger. 297 00:32:51,695.8661859 --> 00:32:52,375.8661859 A day. 298 00:32:52,907.9298899 --> 00:32:53,897.9293899 So, so many distractions. 299 00:32:53,897.9293899 --> 00:32:57,567.8298899 So we gotta just be intentional with, like, really hearing from our ears. 300 00:32:57,917.9298899 --> 00:32:59,387.9298899 Inner man or God's voice. 301 00:33:00,182.9421451 --> 00:33:05,602.9421451 so perspective drives performance and I want us to journal just three things. 302 00:33:05,602.9421451 --> 00:33:13,341.3551068 I know this training was kind of longer than, than usual, but I hope it was valuable Love you guys. 303 00:33:14,881.3551068 --> 00:33:18,121.3551068 So I'm gonna drop these three questions in the chat. 304 00:33:18,552.1061147 --> 00:33:39,443.0025447 The first one is, what is the thing right now that you see as the problem? The second one is, how has your current perspective on this situation been shaping your thoughts, emotions, and actions? And the third, if you believe this season was preparing you for a greater purpose, what would you do differently today or this week? And that is what I want your action step to be. 305 00:33:40,21.6649971 --> 00:33:46,171.6649971 I highly encourage you to take the next 15 minutes or set aside 15 minutes to journal through those three questions. 306 00:33:46,471.6649971 --> 00:33:52,921.6649971 And if you wanna come over and share them in the free community, come on over to the Healing Circle. 307 00:33:53,101.6649971 --> 00:33:56,581.6649971 You can join at wp.com/the 308 00:33:56,581.6649971 --> 00:33:57,391.6649971 Healing circle. 309 00:33:57,661.6649971 --> 00:34:01,531.6649971 That's wop.com/the 310 00:34:01,531.6649971 --> 00:34:02,341.6649971 Healing Circle. 311 00:34:02,551.6649971 --> 00:34:20,824.5521475 I would love to hear how you liked the live training What exactly you would do differently this week if you believed that this season was preparing you for your greater purpose? 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Hey, beautiful.
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Super excited to jumpstart a new fresh week together.
And what better way to really lean into perspective.
This was something, and you'll hear all about it as we move into this training, but if you were a woman who feels like you have this really big problem in front of you.
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And it is stealing your joy, your peace, your patience, and time away from you.
This is gonna be the episode for you. 7 00:00:31,69.009615675 --> 00:00:42,889.009615675 This is a live behind the scenes footage of one of my Monday mindset group coaching calls that I do for a community of women who are pursuing a career in sales. 8 00:00:43,249.009615675 --> 00:00:49,549.009615675 And what we are discussing is how your perspective is what drives your performance. 9 00:00:49,939.009615675 --> 00:00:53,419.009615675 And within this we talk about the hidden place. 10 00:00:53,629.009615675 --> 00:00:58,129.009615675 If God is currently having you in a hidden place, if he is hiding you. 11 00:00:58,619.009615675 --> 00:01:04,409.009615675 What the purpose of that is, or if you are actually hiding from the call. 12 00:01:04,829.009615675 --> 00:01:10,259.009615675 So no matter what business career you're pursuing, this is gonna be applicable to you. 13 00:01:10,529.009615675 --> 00:01:23,369.009615675 And this can even be applied to your love life if you feel like it is at a standstill, or you just feel like you are solely focusing on these things that keep popping up in your life, that you're deeming a problem. 14 00:01:23,684.009615675 --> 00:01:43,666.64187458 My hope is that you get free from that perspective after the end of this training Because the very thing that you believe and you're seeing as a problem in your life is the very thing that is stealing the outcome, the goal, the relationship, the vision, the peace that you have for yourself. 15 00:01:43,985.16021303 --> 00:01:45,485.16021303 This is gonna be a really fun one. 16 00:01:45,545.16021303 --> 00:01:46,235.16021303 Let's dive in. 17 00:01:46,451.82687969 --> 00:01:47,651.82687969 Hey, beautiful. 18 00:01:47,801.82687969 --> 00:01:51,551.82687969 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 19 00:01:51,611.82687969 --> 00:02:14,351.82687969 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries due to your people pleasing tendencies. 20 00:02:14,381.82687969 --> 00:02:15,911.82687969 Well, sis, you're not alone. 21 00:02:15,941.82687969 --> 00:02:17,111.82687969 I've been there too. 22 00:02:17,201.82687969 --> 00:02:22,391.82687969 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser. 23 00:02:22,461.82687969 --> 00:02:24,411.82687969 And a total girl's girl. 24 00:02:24,531.82687969 --> 00:02:41,241.82687969 For 10 years, I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 25 00:02:41,386.82687969 --> 00:02:56,536.82687969 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 26 00:02:56,746.82687969 --> 00:02:59,716.82687969 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 27 00:02:59,806.82687969 --> 00:03:03,976.82687969 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 28 00:03:04,66.82687969 --> 00:03:05,836.82687969 One step at a time. 29 00:03:06,339.45428743 --> 00:03:18,269.06366243 I really want to touch on something that was very transformational for me whenever I first started my entrepreneurship journey and like first came into this world of just personal development and like wanting to grow and become my best self. 30 00:03:18,579.06366243 --> 00:03:26,749.06366243 And I had a mentor tell me just these three words and they've stuck with me and it, it was. 31 00:03:27,299.06366243 --> 00:03:30,349.06366243 Perspective drives performance. 32 00:03:31,203.92586061 --> 00:03:34,313.92586061 Perspective drives performance. 33 00:03:34,753.92586061 --> 00:03:59,617.39507745 Have you guys ever, wondered why you could take two different people, they go through the same exact training, course, or situation, yet they both have different results, and even more than that, they both have a different way of speaking about the experience and different feelings towards it. 34 00:04:00,310.11205359 --> 00:04:30,512.79543677 Um, and it's because of their perspective, and the perspective that you have has been, not tainted, but it has been created based off of your past experiences, okay, and what you're really choosing to believe, who you're listening to today, what you're watching, it's all creating your worldview, okay, the beliefs that you hold, which of course, Is going to influence the way that you see things. 35 00:04:31,59.93543248 --> 00:04:35,439.93543248 So, I know we all said, like, sevens and up, which is fabulous. 36 00:04:35,789.93543248 --> 00:04:48,729.93543248 But I wonder, does anybody feel like they have, like, a problem in their life right now? Like, in any form or fashion, any sort of problem in their life? Raise of hands or dropping me in the chat. 37 00:04:48,729.93543248 --> 00:04:49,289.93543248 Yes. 38 00:04:49,329.93543248 --> 00:04:49,709.93543248 Uh huh. 39 00:04:49,739.93543248 --> 00:04:50,319.93543248 For sure. 40 00:04:50,519.93543248 --> 00:04:50,949.93543248 Yeah. 41 00:04:51,19.93543248 --> 00:04:51,409.93543248 Yeah. 42 00:04:51,979.93543248 --> 00:04:52,579.93543248 Yeah. 43 00:04:53,639.93543248 --> 00:04:54,109.93543248 Yeah. 44 00:04:55,109.93543248 --> 00:05:06,619.93443248 I just listened to a, um, uh, a psychologist and he was saying, he would like gauge the room and he was like, okay, who in here has issues? And he called out this, and of course I would raise their hand or whatever. 45 00:05:06,629.93543248 --> 00:05:16,169.93543248 And then he asked, okay, who in here doesn't believe they have any issues? And then there was like one guy that raised his hand and he called him out out of everybody and was like, okay, I want you guys to see what denial looks like. 46 00:05:16,589.93543248 --> 00:05:18,729.93443248 And we all totally have. 47 00:05:19,289.93543248 --> 00:05:22,649.93543248 Issues, because we live in a world that is broken. 48 00:05:22,649.93543248 --> 00:05:30,629.93543248 We live in a world where there's a lot of, a lot of traumatic things happening and taking place, um, and none of us are perfect. 49 00:05:31,169.93543248 --> 00:05:32,499.93543248 Nor will we ever be. 50 00:05:33,197.93590729 --> 00:05:43,227.93690729 But I want us to have a different perspective on the problems that we have in our life. 51 00:05:43,737.93690729 --> 00:05:45,977.93690729 Um, and so I want to pose this question. 52 00:05:46,437.13976666 --> 00:06:12,750.07239293 what if the problem that you think is your problem isn't actually a problem at all? What if the problem that you think is a problem is only a problem because you see it as a problem? What if there's another way of looking at what we're titling the problem? Perspective. 53 00:06:13,310.07239293 --> 00:06:14,310.07239293 Exactly, Shirley. 54 00:06:14,480.07239293 --> 00:06:14,880.07239293 Yeah. 55 00:06:15,998.76030905 --> 00:06:31,218.75930905 There's always a different way of viewing things, and I know we're all here, we all started this because we want to be the top 1 percent that Alexis talks about, right? Being this top 1 percent of not just in as a closer, but in the population as a whole. 56 00:06:31,228.76030905 --> 00:06:39,178.76030905 Maybe that's not everybody's goal, and that's totally fine, like Even the top 10%, 20 percent of the population is very successful. 57 00:06:39,853.82149416 --> 00:06:59,953.82199416 but if we're really wanting to, or we're all on this journey of becoming more successful, not just monetarily, but being a woman that has success in her life in more ways than just business, in all areas of, of our life, right? And so the way that you see a situation is going to shape how you respond to it. 58 00:06:59,953.82199416 --> 00:07:07,764.42520642 And this is literally so important because the If you guys are wanting to be a high performer, it comes down to the way you're viewing things. 59 00:07:08,984.42520642 --> 00:07:11,384.42520642 Okay, I want you guys to write this down. 60 00:07:12,734.42520642 --> 00:07:18,749.1947692 I want you to write down, where you sit determines what you see. 61 00:07:19,597.72413434 --> 00:07:23,293.69813825 Where you sit determines what you see. 62 00:07:24,551.00394881 --> 00:07:37,133.87535337 And no matter, like, what your spiritual beliefs are, or what you study, I study the Bible, and the Bible talks about, in Ephesians 2, 6, it tells us that you are seated in the heavenly places. 63 00:07:38,783.87535337 --> 00:07:41,193.87535337 That you are seated in the heavenly places. 64 00:07:41,473.87535337 --> 00:07:56,143.87435337 And when we, when we are seated in heavenly places, we won't only see life from an earthly perspective because when we look at life and the obstacles and things that are happening around us, we're going to miss the bigger picture. 65 00:07:56,925.10794866 --> 00:08:03,65.10794866 So, knowing and adopting this identity that states, Okay, I am a child of God. 66 00:08:03,395.10794866 --> 00:08:14,275.10794866 And he's telling me that I am seated in heavenly places? That means I can have heaven's perspective on the situation or on the problem that I'm facing right now. 67 00:08:15,505.10794866 --> 00:08:20,715.10794866 And so often, we live a life from this earthly position. 68 00:08:21,855.10794866 --> 00:08:25,385.10694866 And remember what we just wrote down, where you sit determines what you see. 69 00:08:25,870.10794866 --> 00:08:47,246.53167577 And so we're living this life from an earthly position and we're looking at what's happening right now the lack of Respondings the rejections the slow growth the Another day my I missed four things on my to do list And we're calling it a failure, because of the way we're looking at it. 70 00:08:47,356.53167577 --> 00:08:50,946.53167577 We are, we're, we're looking at it from an earthly perspective. 71 00:08:51,786.53167577 --> 00:09:00,216.53167577 One of my favorite quotes from the Bible is, um, Walk, to walk by faith and not by sight. 72 00:09:01,326.53167577 --> 00:09:03,16.53167577 To walk by faith and not by sight. 73 00:09:03,16.53167577 --> 00:09:26,135.60449693 And did you guys know that eyes that can look are common, but eyes that can see Are rare eyes that that can that can look are common But eyes that can see are rare and it's because most people live and go their entire life Living in an earthly perspective. 74 00:09:26,135.60449693 --> 00:09:35,870.60499693 Did you know that you are a three part being? You are You are not a, you are not a, you are not your body. 75 00:09:35,870.60499693 --> 00:09:42,180.60399693 You are not this physical being that's having this, this, this physical experience. 76 00:09:42,400.60499693 --> 00:09:58,0.60499693 You guys know whenever you've seen this is, but I think this is a great example, right? Like whenever, if you guys have ever seen somebody pass and you're looking at their body and you're like, that is not them. 77 00:09:59,636.47651396 --> 00:10:01,326.47651396 So there, that is not them. 78 00:10:01,356.47651396 --> 00:10:05,176.47651396 That was the vessel that they lived in while they were here on earth. 79 00:10:06,561.55219364 --> 00:10:09,791.55219364 It's because you are, you are not just what you see. 80 00:10:10,961.55219364 --> 00:10:12,571.55219364 You are not just what you see. 81 00:10:13,719.74533679 --> 00:10:15,59.74533679 You are a three part being. 82 00:10:15,209.74533679 --> 00:10:33,692.16942358 You have the spirit side of you, right? And this is what you can call, like, the intuition, these gut feelings that we have, right? These, this leading, that you don't know where it comes from, but it's kind of like this higher intelligence, right? Something that's in you, that's your spirit. 83 00:10:34,598.13227625 --> 00:10:37,638.13227625 And you have your, your soul, the soul part of you. 84 00:10:37,788.13227625 --> 00:10:40,58.13227625 This is your mind, your will and emotions. 85 00:10:41,87.76626803 --> 00:10:54,226.00777659 And then you've got the body and the body is where appetite comes from, whether it's good or bad, whether it's wanting to lean towards Netflix or if it's wanting to log into the Academy and go through these freaking modules. 86 00:10:56,441.19810851 --> 00:10:58,491.19810851 So you've got your spirit, your soul, and your body. 87 00:10:58,671.19810851 --> 00:11:06,931.19810851 And the more that you, that you really lean into and you listen to the spirit side of you, right? This is why people talk about meditation being like, so. 88 00:11:07,666.19810851 --> 00:11:14,6.19810851 So important, getting somewhere quiet, meditation or prayer, getting somewhere quiet and actually really, like, listening. 89 00:11:14,936.19810851 --> 00:11:25,66.19710851 Because, have you noticed, like, that intuition, this leading, these gut feelings, it's, it's, it's quieter than the appetite that our body, that our body gets. 90 00:11:25,66.19810851 --> 00:11:26,696.19710851 When we're hungry, we know we're hungry. 91 00:11:27,396.19710851 --> 00:11:34,386.19710851 When we, when we know we want that piece of dark chocolate, we want that, or the whole pint of ice cream, we know we want that whole pint of ice cream. 92 00:11:34,866.19810851 --> 00:11:54,76.19710851 But this intuition and leading is much quieter, and the more that you can distance yourself from the distractions and the loudness of the world and get very present, like you do on these calls, give yourself the gift of presence, the more that you're, the spirit man in you will be fed. 93 00:11:54,76.29710851 --> 00:12:09,701.84418447 And the reason this is important, especially when it comes to looking at things from a, from a, from a higher vantage point, is because Your spirit is already ahead of your situation. 94 00:12:10,872.48872868 --> 00:12:13,562.48872868 Your spirit already knows the outcome. 95 00:12:14,354.60556584 --> 00:12:17,74.60556584 What you saw was I'm going to pay this. 96 00:12:17,114.60456584 --> 00:12:20,444.60456584 I'm going to, I'm going to pay for this curriculum and I'm going to be a remote closer. 97 00:12:20,674.60556584 --> 00:12:25,144.60456584 Your spirit was already, it already knew that you were going to end up here whenever you were born. 98 00:12:26,745.45536422 --> 00:12:32,905.45536422 Your spirit already knows the outcome because it's connected to the one who sees the end from the beginning. 99 00:12:34,305.45536422 --> 00:12:35,795.45536422 It's our, it's our, it's been here. 100 00:12:36,724.65106446 --> 00:12:38,524.65106446 And that's why you feel that stirring in you. 101 00:12:38,534.65106446 --> 00:12:42,624.65106446 Whenever you, when you heard something from Alexis and you're like, Oh my gosh, she's speaking to me. 102 00:12:42,634.65006446 --> 00:12:45,234.65006446 I hear that from a lot of you guys on, on the, um, welcome calls. 103 00:12:45,234.65106446 --> 00:12:46,934.65006446 It's like she was speaking directly to me. 104 00:12:46,934.65006446 --> 00:12:49,374.65006446 Like, she wasn't, she was like, in my house. 105 00:12:50,539.65106446 --> 00:13:20,899.65106446 It's the spirit in you, it's, it's the spirit in you confirming something that maybe it was a lost desire in you, maybe it was, um, something that you buried, something in you that maybe you desired as a child, but maybe the, the life and, and realistic talking made you give that up and go the safe route, but she was speaking something that's been on the inside of you, and look at you, look at where you are now, you listen to that leading. 106 00:13:21,899.65106446 --> 00:13:22,659.65106446 Now we're here. 107 00:13:23,694.46899265 --> 00:13:31,925.74202607 And in the spirit, when you, when you live in the spirit and by the spirit, you see things that your physical eyes cannot see. 108 00:13:32,717.03123598 --> 00:13:43,507.03123598 When you are, when you can't see what God is doing, when people can't see, when you can't see what God is doing, this is when they stumble over themselves. 109 00:13:45,242.03123598 --> 00:13:50,852.03123598 This is when you get very boggled down in the problem and be like, Oh my gosh, because of this, like, I can't do XYZ. 110 00:13:51,52.03123598 --> 00:13:56,362.03123598 Because of this, um, this is gonna be, be the thing that takes me off course. 111 00:13:56,402.03123598 --> 00:13:58,562.03073598 Like, and you, you really laser in. 112 00:13:58,562.03073598 --> 00:14:03,822.03123598 Maybe it's something that happened within, um, within your family or something out of your control. 113 00:14:04,212.03123598 --> 00:14:06,162.03123598 And you're really laser focused on that. 114 00:14:07,112.03123598 --> 00:14:12,932.03123598 This is where, and you're not zoning out and seeing things from a higher vantage point, this is where you stumble over yourself. 115 00:14:12,932.03123598 --> 00:14:17,972.03023598 You dive into overthinking, procrastination, worry, anxiety, depression. 116 00:14:18,680.32669577 --> 00:14:27,490.32669577 and the way that you can kind of see if you're, how you're viewing things and kind of audit your perspective is paying attention to the words that you're speaking. 117 00:14:28,329.20402424 --> 00:14:53,661.0395538 Are you complaining about a problem? Are you, are you, are you, is your language more so about an issue? If you're talking and just talking about the problem versus talking about the, the, the, the action or the dream, um, or the, um, the solution, this is an indication that your perspective, we've got to work on the perspective, how you're viewing the problem. 118 00:14:54,583.69592702 --> 00:14:55,933.69592702 And some of you guys. 119 00:14:56,638.69592702 --> 00:15:08,618.69542702 Might feel like you have been hidden or you've been faced with this like a massive delay I know I hear all the time and I felt this way too. 120 00:15:08,618.69542702 --> 00:15:23,298.69592702 It's like man I really should be further along for my age right now Like I really should be further along if only I learned about sales when I was 18 And I talked to some of you guys that are 18 I'm like girl can't even imagine where you're gonna be at when you're my age. 121 00:15:23,949.70651998 --> 00:15:26,340.13080624 Absolutely nuts So stick to it. 122 00:15:27,370.13080624 --> 00:15:29,90.13080624 But, we have these feelings. 123 00:15:29,671.21989603 --> 00:15:53,192.76262788 But, what if, again, if we're viewing things from this heavenly perspective, this higher perspective, however, whatever you want to call it, What if the season of the delay was just a setup for you to enter into this harvest season? Because I don't know about you guys, but at the beginning of this year, I really felt, again, like, leading in my spirit. 124 00:15:53,252.76162788 --> 00:16:09,302.76262787 I really felt like something was really special about this year, and whenever I went to Funnel Hacking Live and, um, heard from Tony Robbins, he Was he gave like a whole history lesson y'all like his mindset portion was totally different than whatever. 125 00:16:09,302.76262787 --> 00:16:19,892.76262787 Um, anybody else i've listened to but he was talking about the seasons of history and how These patterns are like it's so crazy. 126 00:16:19,892.76262787 --> 00:16:39,522.76162788 The world is truly like we're all it's all made up of patterns Anyway, he's talking about the history and how cycles and patterns and seasons Literally replicate themselves, like, it is very much on a timeline, and he said we've been in a winter season for the past, I don't know how many years, like, seven or so. 127 00:16:39,562.76262788 --> 00:16:40,332.7626279 Seven years. 128 00:16:40,612.7626279 --> 00:16:47,92.7616279 And we're about to enter into a spring season, which is where the seeds that we've planted are going to sprout up. 129 00:16:47,752.7616279 --> 00:16:49,772.7616279 We're going to see the harvest come. 130 00:16:50,792.7616279 --> 00:16:54,462.7626279 And I don't know if you guys felt that way, but I really felt beginning of the year was off, like, man. 131 00:16:54,992.7626279 --> 00:16:57,402.7626279 I feel like things are gonna get crazy this year. 132 00:16:59,283.8605548 --> 00:17:01,393.8605548 and that was just confirmation. 133 00:17:01,413.8605548 --> 00:17:02,683.8605548 Like, we're entering into the spring. 134 00:17:03,307.8284906 --> 00:17:12,247.8284906 And so, what if this season, like, I don't want you to really focus on this waste of time, or this delay, or if you feel like things aren't going your way, or going at the pace. 135 00:17:12,517.8274906 --> 00:17:16,437.8274906 Maybe you're sending the outreach videos, and like, it's not coming back the way that you want. 136 00:17:16,757.8284906 --> 00:17:25,481.7495126 What if all this is setting you up? Because there is a power in being hidden. 137 00:17:26,295.5168683 --> 00:17:35,134.8312241 In the seasons of my life where I was hidden, Those were some of the most transformational seasons for me because it was producing something in me. 138 00:17:36,173.5292287 --> 00:17:42,793.2461804 And again, when you, the, what comes first is the becoming. 139 00:17:43,431.6722457 --> 00:17:44,871.6722457 What comes first is the becoming. 140 00:17:45,572.1306507 --> 00:17:55,651.5687311 The person that you become, that's something that nobody can take away from you, and that's the thing that, that will propel you to, to producing the results that you want in your life. 141 00:17:56,676.8757999 --> 00:17:58,836.8757999 Becoming comes before the doing. 142 00:17:59,606.8757999 --> 00:18:07,956.750595 Once you, once you believe that you are a person of action, once you believe that you are worth, Making a million for your family. 143 00:18:08,156.750595 --> 00:18:14,596.750595 Once you believe that you're the person to break these generational curses, the action, the doing, comes after that. 144 00:18:15,249.3786644 --> 00:18:20,532.7400941 So, this power in being hidden, it's a very important part of your journey. 145 00:18:21,219.0162248 --> 00:18:27,899.0162248 Because if you don't learn how to embrace the season that you are in, this hidden place, you're always going to feel rushed. 146 00:18:28,809.0162248 --> 00:18:30,249.0162248 You're gonna feel like you're running out of time. 147 00:18:30,709.0162248 --> 00:18:32,319.0162248 You're gonna feel like you're out of alignment. 148 00:18:32,769.0162248 --> 00:18:35,409.0162248 You're gonna feel anxious for results. 149 00:18:35,689.0162248 --> 00:18:39,799.0162248 And you're gonna start trying to do things that are not part of the plan. 150 00:18:40,449.0162248 --> 00:18:45,959.0152248 And you're trying to get these God sized results with your earthly perspective. 151 00:18:46,837.507567 --> 00:18:50,687.507567 I don't know about y'all, but whenever I do that, I'd be anxious and all the things. 152 00:18:50,777.507567 --> 00:18:52,607.507567 Like, not aligned. 153 00:18:53,327.507567 --> 00:18:54,47.507567 Rushing. 154 00:18:54,277.507567 --> 00:18:55,717.507567 No time at the end of my day. 155 00:18:55,847.507567 --> 00:18:59,402.9885094 What the heck did I get done? Yeah, we don't want to live like that. 156 00:18:59,904.3994738 --> 00:19:20,842.3433883 And Another thing that I had to learn is that when you feel like you have, if you've been, if you are a woman who has gone through struggle, if you're a woman who has gone through maybe seasons of depression, of crazy anxiety, of, of massive debt, and just things that are out of your control. 157 00:19:21,727.3443883 --> 00:19:26,157.3443883 Like real struggle, breakup, heart, heartbreak, all these things. 158 00:19:26,457.3443883 --> 00:19:29,307.3443883 I want you to really be encouraged by this truth. 159 00:19:29,577.3443883 --> 00:19:36,519.4156097 And the truth is that the ones who God uses greatly, He prepares greatly. 160 00:19:37,310.3079851 --> 00:19:41,780.3089851 And preparation happens in the hidden place. 161 00:19:42,986.5239928 --> 00:19:47,286.5239928 One of my favorite stories is the story of Joseph in the Bible. 162 00:19:48,576.5239928 --> 00:19:58,6.5249928 And he was actually, he was his He was his dad's favorite son, and his brothers got really jealous and sold him into slavery. 163 00:19:58,376.5249928 --> 00:20:02,766.5249928 Okay? He's a whole, this is a trauma, trauma story, one after the other. 164 00:20:02,776.5249928 --> 00:20:04,516.5239928 Okay? Joseph went through a lot of trauma. 165 00:20:05,756.1037253 --> 00:20:07,96.1037253 His brothers sold him into slavery. 166 00:20:07,966.1037253 --> 00:20:13,112.4502151 And then, Joseph was, made it to the king's, palace. 167 00:20:13,867.4502151 --> 00:20:26,106.0572363 And started serving the king, but then, he was falsely accused for trying to rape Potiphar's, that was the, the, the ruler's wife, and then he was imprisoned. 168 00:20:26,909.1161438 --> 00:20:35,659.1161438 Crazy, okay? And Joseph had a gift given him by God, a gift to interpret dreams. 169 00:20:36,329.1161438 --> 00:20:38,679.1161438 And there were two other people that were imprisoned. 170 00:20:39,94.1161438 --> 00:21:01,469.183545 With Joseph, and it was Pharaoh, the king of Egypt, the butler and baker, and he interpreted the dreams, and when they both got out, the dreams came to, came to pass, and Joseph told, I can't remember if it was the butler or the baker, but told one of them, hey, don't forget me when you go and you talk to Pharaoh. 171 00:21:02,185.1298137 --> 00:21:05,865.1298137 Tell him that I'm in prison, tell him that I'm here, I've been falsely accused. 172 00:21:06,704.9412952 --> 00:21:08,374.9412952 But then, guess what? They forgot about him. 173 00:21:08,514.9412952 --> 00:21:11,784.9412952 And he was in prison for more years to come. 174 00:21:12,401.9231746 --> 00:21:20,801.9231746 Okay? And you can look at that and be like, you're just gonna be like, bro, what in the world? I'm in, like, falsely accused, I'm in prison, time, what the heck, I should be somewhere else. 175 00:21:20,851.9231746 --> 00:21:27,61.9231746 Totally right now in my life, like, I'm not doing anything with my life, like, what's going on? My life's over. 176 00:21:28,15.2980327 --> 00:21:41,178.868191 But then, guess what, in just one moment, one day out of all these years of being in slavery, being imprisoned, going like a literally rollercoaster, one day, the king of Egypt, Pharaoh, had a dream. 177 00:21:41,698.3748203 --> 00:21:48,136.5185153 And then, Butler, Baker, Karen, one of them died because that was what the dream was and it came to pass. 178 00:21:48,136.6185153 --> 00:21:49,436.5175153 I can't remember which one lived. 179 00:21:49,829.8149872 --> 00:21:56,785.972948 but the one that was, that lived I was like, oh my gosh, I remember this guy, Joseph, he's in prison, and reminded Pharaoh of Joseph. 180 00:21:57,115.972948 --> 00:22:05,415.972948 And then in one day, Joseph became the second hand to the king, in one day, after all these years of the hidden place. 181 00:22:05,506.072948 --> 00:22:15,834.9261836 And guess what? God's plan was far greater than what Joseph could imagine because there was a, there was a season of famine coming. 182 00:22:16,44.9261836 --> 00:22:23,434.9261836 And because Joseph was positioned as second in command, he was able to save his family from famine. 183 00:22:24,188.6006507 --> 00:22:32,628.6006507 Why do I share that story? Because he was in a hidden, real hidden place, but God's favor never left him. 184 00:22:33,808.6006507 --> 00:22:38,768.5006507 God's favor has never left you, no matter what season you're walking in. 185 00:22:39,448.6006507 --> 00:22:48,488.6006507 What it looks like, what it feels like, what your eyes that can see, or eyes that can look, are noticing around you. 186 00:22:49,308.6339779 --> 00:23:05,469.3020641 And the question, really what I try to remind myself is, okay, yes, like, What I'm seeing in the natural, cool, but what could be happening in the spiritual realm? Because again, you're a spiritual being having a physical experience, not the other way around. 187 00:23:06,337.9952028 --> 00:23:09,597.9952028 And so, all of us, I know, want to make more money. 188 00:23:10,287.9942028 --> 00:23:12,227.9952028 You want to have more freedom, more time. 189 00:23:12,577.9952028 --> 00:23:16,337.9952028 Um, you probably want to have more joy in your life, more peace in your life. 190 00:23:16,347.9952028 --> 00:23:17,707.9952028 This is all fruit. 191 00:23:18,317.9952028 --> 00:23:21,734.8296592 Right? Peace, joy, this is all fruit. 192 00:23:22,282.2758648 --> 00:23:28,942.2758648 And for you to have these results in your life, it's directly tied to this preparation to being hidden. 193 00:23:29,600.6622094 --> 00:23:33,900.6622094 You guys notice, like, I don't know if we have any gardeners. 194 00:23:33,900.6622094 --> 00:23:35,810.6632094 I aspire to be a gardener, truly. 195 00:23:35,820.6632094 --> 00:23:37,490.6632094 I want to have a garden one day. 196 00:23:37,980.6632094 --> 00:23:39,480.6632094 Um, we'll see how that goes. 197 00:23:39,480.6632094 --> 00:23:41,880.6632094 My plant in front of me is, like, not looking good right now. 198 00:23:41,900.6632094 --> 00:23:52,150.6632094 But, um, have you ever noticed when you're planting a seed, Right? You're planting a seed under the soil and it's in a hidden place. 199 00:23:52,160.6632094 --> 00:23:55,680.6632094 The seed has to be buried before it grows into a harvest. 200 00:23:55,870.6632094 --> 00:24:06,150.6632094 You don't plant a seed and you drag up the seed and be like, Okay, are you growing yet? Like, how long is it gonna take? Right? You don't go out there every day pulling up what you planted. 201 00:24:06,819.3771888 --> 00:24:08,809.3771888 You're trusting the process. 202 00:24:09,374.7446105 --> 00:24:10,904.7446105 Right? You're going to tend to that seed. 203 00:24:10,904.7446105 --> 00:24:12,214.7446105 You're going to water that seed. 204 00:24:12,474.7446105 --> 00:24:14,834.7446105 And you're going to trust that it will produce a harvest. 205 00:24:15,432.6891583 --> 00:24:16,752.6891583 And that is necessary. 206 00:24:16,752.6891583 --> 00:24:21,742.6891583 A seed can't just turn into a tree or a flower or a fruit or whatever. 207 00:24:21,752.6891583 --> 00:24:23,372.6891583 It has to be planted. 208 00:24:23,472.6891583 --> 00:24:27,962.6881583 It has to undergo that hidden place before it produces a harvest. 209 00:24:28,737.3818838 --> 00:24:29,967.3808838 And same for you. 210 00:24:30,653.9107624 --> 00:24:46,862.8654229 Okay? The cool thing, really cool thing, about God is that he's, he cares more whatever, whatever you believe in, right? He cares more about the state of your heart than the state of your gif. 211 00:24:47,494.2844301 --> 00:24:51,574.2834301 He cares about who you're becoming, the woman that you're becoming, the character. 212 00:24:51,974.2844301 --> 00:24:59,317.1254606 What, what, what are you producing inside yourself? More than what you can produce with your hand. 213 00:25:00,340.0349505 --> 00:25:01,910.0359505 He prepares your heart. 214 00:25:02,600.0359505 --> 00:25:03,910.0359505 He prepares your head. 215 00:25:04,540.0359505 --> 00:25:06,80.0359505 And he prepares your hands. 216 00:25:06,881.8947939 --> 00:25:09,751.8947939 Okay? Your heart, he's gonna purify that thing. 217 00:25:11,31.8947939 --> 00:25:17,746.957294 I don't know if anybody can attest to this, but I've undergone A lot of pr a lot of pride getting purged from my heart. 218 00:25:17,746.957294 --> 00:25:22,716.957294 Pride was actually the thing that almost made me lose my my husband. 219 00:25:23,426.957294 --> 00:25:28,916.957294 Whenever we were in our dating stage, I was very prideful because I had a lot of man hate in my heart. 220 00:25:29,605.8926495 --> 00:25:31,965.8926495 That purification process of your heart. 221 00:25:32,647.6772286 --> 00:25:33,987.6772286 Purify your motives. 222 00:25:34,327.6772286 --> 00:25:35,567.6772286 Getting that greed out. 223 00:25:36,295.7165594 --> 00:25:40,805.7165594 Because you're not going to produce the fruit that you actually want to produce if these things are in your heart. 224 00:25:41,608.7689123 --> 00:25:44,208.7699123 He's going to prepare your head. 225 00:25:44,649.4840179 --> 00:25:50,959.4840179 He's going to transform how you mentally process challenges, your perspective, your eyes. 226 00:25:51,109.4840179 --> 00:26:07,189.6516036 Are you a looker or are you a seer? Do you have eyes that see, that, that, that look, or do you have eyes that see beyond what you see in the natural? And then he develops your skills, your hands, your heart, your head, and your hands, develops your skills. 227 00:26:07,965.942126 --> 00:26:18,555.942126 And so, I don't want you, if you are in this, I know a lot of you guys just started this, but I know you're coming, you've got, you've got what you've been doing for X amount of years, right? You have what you've been working towards. 228 00:26:19,66.788922 --> 00:26:31,346.789922 And I don't want you to ever allow the, the hidden season that you face, that you're facing now, or that you have faced, or that you will face, to forget who you are and what you carry. 229 00:26:32,133.8971673 --> 00:26:38,8.2483387 Cause I don't know if anybody's told you this today, but there's nobody on earth that was created like you. 230 00:26:39,551.4637702 --> 00:26:51,761.8913973 Nobody with your experiences, your gifts, your talents, you carry something literally like greater than what you could even imagine. 231 00:26:52,437.7612353 --> 00:26:59,367.7612353 And this hidden place is important because it's developing you to impact the amount of people who are assigned to you. 232 00:27:00,232.9586965 --> 00:27:04,402.9576965 You may think, and I know, like, I love the goals of like caring for your family. 233 00:27:04,402.9576965 --> 00:27:06,882.9576965 And yes, like we, we all want to. 234 00:27:08,37.9576965 --> 00:27:12,307.9576965 Break out our generational poverty and to care for our family. 235 00:27:12,962.1952997 --> 00:27:16,432.1952997 But I know that your, your, your calling goes beyond that. 236 00:27:17,189.1259272 --> 00:27:18,329.1259272 It's bigger than that. 237 00:27:18,929.5085903 --> 00:27:31,499.5085903 And so I never want you to believe this lie that says if I'm not visible, if I'm not in the public eye, if I, if, if I'm getting overlooked, I have no value because that's just not the case. 238 00:27:32,29.3158366 --> 00:27:35,389.3158366 Even in the pit, even in prison, Joseph carried value. 239 00:27:36,67.2715962 --> 00:27:50,194.079085 This favor is always following you and you can trust in that and whenever you know That you have favor you just move different Rejection is just part of the process. 240 00:27:50,194.079085 --> 00:28:02,761.4718115 It doesn't sting or it doesn't I mean it can it can sting but You don't make it part of your identity Because your identity is in the one who created you, it's not in the one who's rejected you. 241 00:28:03,498.5517672 --> 00:28:11,298.5517672 And before we move into, um, Reflection Time, I do want to kind of share a difference. 242 00:28:11,418.5517672 --> 00:28:18,528.5507672 Because I have a feeling maybe some of us are actually not being hidden, but actually hiding. 243 00:28:20,173.0385745 --> 00:28:27,854.9325949 So, what's the difference between being hidden and hiding? Hiding is when fear is your driver. 244 00:28:28,446.0627354 --> 00:28:29,556.0627354 You're hiding out of fear. 245 00:28:30,36.0627354 --> 00:28:31,716.0627354 Maybe you're hiding out of insecurity. 246 00:28:32,841.8009642 --> 00:28:35,41.8009642 When you're hiding, you're avoiding. 247 00:28:35,331.8009642 --> 00:28:37,251.8009642 You're avoiding challenge. 248 00:28:37,251.8009642 --> 00:28:38,951.7999642 You're avoiding discomfort. 249 00:28:39,351.7999642 --> 00:28:41,411.8009642 You're avoiding the outreach video. 250 00:28:41,611.8009642 --> 00:28:43,691.7999642 You're avoiding following up. 251 00:28:43,701.8009642 --> 00:28:46,351.8019642 You're avoiding the heart work. 252 00:28:46,963.3533803 --> 00:28:50,283.3543803 You're avoiding journaling and reflecting on what's triggering you. 253 00:28:50,283.3543803 --> 00:28:52,183.3543803 You're avoiding purpose. 254 00:28:52,779.6606109 --> 00:28:54,389.6606109 And you're being driven by fear and insecurity. 255 00:28:54,409.6606109 --> 00:28:55,509.6606109 That's when you're hiding. 256 00:28:56,181.9067641 --> 00:29:00,1.9067641 And when you're hidden, this is, this is, this is a season of preparation. 257 00:29:00,471.9067641 --> 00:29:03,321.9067641 It's God's preparation process for your next level. 258 00:29:03,968.6672227 --> 00:29:20,558.6672227 And so how do you know if this is you, if you're hiding, if you're like, yup, I've been motivated, I've been like, fearful, and it's what kept me from, from making decisions, um, I've been avoiding the work because I don't believe that somebody would want me, I don't believe that I would be qualified. 259 00:29:20,983.6672227 --> 00:29:26,951.2921124 I've heard some of you guys say that, right? This is, this is indication that you are actually hiding. 260 00:29:27,401.2921124 --> 00:29:28,661.2921124 You're hiding out of fear. 261 00:29:29,131.2921124 --> 00:29:32,558.3639159 And the longer that you hide out of fear, you're actually robbing. 262 00:29:32,848.3629159 --> 00:29:35,288.3639159 You're robbing the people that were assigned to you. 263 00:29:35,795.6870382 --> 00:29:39,535.6870382 Because you hold so, you hold so much value. 264 00:29:40,75.6880382 --> 00:29:41,325.6880382 You hold so much life. 265 00:29:41,325.6880382 --> 00:29:45,495.6880382 You hold a gift that somebody is praying for. 266 00:29:45,525.6880382 --> 00:29:46,845.6880382 Is asking for. 267 00:29:47,745.9650799 --> 00:29:59,370.8652013 And the final thing that I want to talk about before we move into reflection is how do you know when it's time to be revealed? Okay, how can I come how do I know it's my time to come out of hiding? Three things. 268 00:30:00,233.7027524 --> 00:30:03,503.7027524 First one is you want to pay attention to the signs. 269 00:30:04,286.9440847 --> 00:30:19,131.6953717 And what I mean by signs is, like, what are people asking of you? What are people saying to you, coming to you, asking you for? What doors are opening up for you? I believe this. 270 00:30:19,576.6953717 --> 00:30:26,946.6953717 Is a sign, I hear that from a lot of you guys in welcome calls, like, I felt like this was my sign, TikTok just like sent me a sign, it was on my mind. 271 00:30:28,746.2434381 --> 00:30:38,48.4420983 What people, what environments you're getting invited to, places that you find yourself in, all the things that are happening around you, we fly through our days. 272 00:30:38,657.5366242 --> 00:30:43,167.5366242 Just one action out of the next action out of the next action, trying to get things done. 273 00:30:43,367.5366242 --> 00:30:46,317.5366242 I love it, I'm a, I'm a, I'm a high achiever myself. 274 00:30:46,856.6821007 --> 00:30:54,86.6821007 But practicing to just really take in what's kind of going on and being very aware and paying attention to the signs. 275 00:30:54,874.4877073 --> 00:30:58,564.4877073 The second thing is you want to pay attention to your feelings. 276 00:30:59,210.0945983 --> 00:31:04,800.0945983 What's that stirring inside of you? What is, what is the thing? Maybe it, maybe it's passion. 277 00:31:04,820.0945983 --> 00:31:05,850.0935983 Maybe it's excitement. 278 00:31:05,860.0955983 --> 00:31:07,380.0935983 Maybe it's a little nervousness. 279 00:31:07,380.0935983 --> 00:31:09,120.0935983 Nerves are so normal. 280 00:31:09,120.0935983 --> 00:31:10,550.0935983 Let's normalize being nervous. 281 00:31:11,611.169215 --> 00:31:32,813.0832279 What is stirring? What is this in me that's making me want to do XYZ? In this case, what is this in me that's making me want to do sales? What's in, and it goes beyond that, what's in this that's making me believe now that I can actually make this thing happen? Like I can actually hit this 10k a month that I've been talking about for years. 282 00:31:33,803.0832279 --> 00:31:37,723.0832279 What's this thing in me that's making me want to do this? Pay attention to your feelings. 283 00:31:38,528.0832279 --> 00:31:42,928.0832279 And the third thing is you want to pay attention to God's voice. 284 00:31:43,688.2690216 --> 00:31:47,18.2690216 And I know we might have some women on here that might not believe in God. 285 00:31:47,18.2690216 --> 00:31:50,958.2690216 Maybe it's universe or a higher power or maybe not sure. 286 00:31:51,388.2690216 --> 00:31:55,178.2680216 And whatever your spiritual beliefs are, like, lean into that. 287 00:31:55,388.2690216 --> 00:31:58,750.735255 Or just, take time to just, like, explore. 288 00:31:59,476.2914447 --> 00:32:00,336.1924447 Take time to explore. 289 00:32:00,336.2924447 --> 00:32:14,996.6764116 And I think a really good place to start is, just journaling and just, like, Kind of, you could say talking to yourself, but just like, getting time in a quiet setting with pen and paper, and just journaling what's coming up for you. 290 00:32:15,821.531838 --> 00:32:18,431.531838 So pay attention to God's voice, this inner voice. 291 00:32:18,811.531838 --> 00:32:25,711.531838 Right? Cause the only way to know when it's time is to hear from the one who has placed you here. 292 00:32:26,211.8589868 --> 00:32:27,411.8589868 Who has created you. 293 00:32:27,947.1607292 --> 00:32:30,357.1607292 And it's hard to do that if you can't hear his voice. 294 00:32:31,14.4889693 --> 00:32:35,984.4889693 Or when you're cluttered with so much distraction and so much noise and, like, everything. 295 00:32:36,781.0650443 --> 00:32:40,826.7247988 it's so crazy that what we consume on a daily basis, y'all. 296 00:32:41,126.7237988 --> 00:32:51,485.8661859 Like, there was um, what was it? It was like, over 200, 2700 times we, we scroll or, push, or something else with our finger. 297 00:32:51,695.8661859 --> 00:32:52,375.8661859 A day. 298 00:32:52,907.9298899 --> 00:32:53,897.9293899 So, so many distractions. 299 00:32:53,897.9293899 --> 00:32:57,567.8298899 So we gotta just be intentional with, like, really hearing from our ears. 300 00:32:57,917.9298899 --> 00:32:59,387.9298899 Inner man or God's voice. 301 00:33:00,182.9421451 --> 00:33:05,602.9421451 so perspective drives performance and I want us to journal just three things. 302 00:33:05,602.9421451 --> 00:33:13,341.3551068 I know this training was kind of longer than, than usual, but I hope it was valuable Love you guys. 303 00:33:14,881.3551068 --> 00:33:18,121.3551068 So I'm gonna drop these three questions in the chat. 304 00:33:18,552.1061147 --> 00:33:39,443.0025447 The first one is, what is the thing right now that you see as the problem? The second one is, how has your current perspective on this situation been shaping your thoughts, emotions, and actions? And the third, if you believe this season was preparing you for a greater purpose, what would you do differently today or this week? And that is what I want your action step to be. 305 00:33:40,21.6649971 --> 00:33:46,171.6649971 I highly encourage you to take the next 15 minutes or set aside 15 minutes to journal through those three questions. 306 00:33:46,471.6649971 --> 00:33:52,921.6649971 And if you wanna come over and share them in the free community, come on over to the Healing Circle. 307 00:33:53,101.6649971 --> 00:33:56,581.6649971 You can join at wp.com/the 308 00:33:56,581.6649971 --> 00:33:57,391.6649971 Healing circle. 309 00:33:57,661.6649971 --> 00:34:01,531.6649971 That's wop.com/the 310 00:34:01,531.6649971 --> 00:34:02,341.6649971 Healing Circle. 311 00:34:02,551.6649971 --> 00:34:20,824.5521475 I would love to hear how you liked the live training What exactly you would do differently this week if you believed that this season was preparing you for your greater purpose? I love you so much, and I will see you back here same time, same place next week. 312 00:34:21,154.5521475 --> 00:34:21,879.5521475 Bye bye. 313 00:34:22,247.5521475 --> 00:34:23,177.5521475 Hey, beautiful. 314 00:34:23,177.5521475 --> 00:34:26,777.5521475 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 315 00:34:27,17.5521475 --> 00:34:41,447.5521475 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 316 00:34:41,537.5521475 --> 00:34:46,607.5521475 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 317 00:34:46,852.5521475 --> 00:34:52,252.5521475 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 318 00:34:52,312.5521475 --> 00:34:55,402.5521475 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 319 00:34:55,552.5521475 --> 00:34:58,612.5521475 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 320 00:34:58,732.5521475 --> 00:35:00,352.5521475 Sending you all the love. 321 00:35:00,412.5521475 --> 00:35:01,552.5521475 Until next time.
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