April 21, 2025 • 22 mins
Hi beautiful ♥️
If you’ve ever felt like you know you’re made for more… but you keep shrinking, settling, or sabotaging the very things you prayed for—this episode is for you.
I’m bringing you into a live coaching call I did with my sales girls that stirred up so much breakthrough around beliefs, habits, and self-sabotage. We talked about the real reason so many women stay stuck—not because they’re not capable, but because their mindset is operating off of old programming. If you don’t upgrade the belief, you’ll keep repeating the same cycle—no matter how badly you want out.
Grab your journal and get ready to reflect, because I’m walking you through a powerful exercise to uncover the limiting beliefs keeping you from your next level—and how to step into the woman you know you’re called to be.
See you on the inside, xo, Dani
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We are stepping into a new fresh week. 3 00:00:04,973.4245699701 --> 00:00:08,693.4245699701 I literally feel like April totally flew by. 4 00:00:09,53.4245699701 --> 00:00:21,683.42456997 Um, I feel like just the other day, me and my friend we're planning this Brazil Healing Retreat and it's literally happening next week and I'm getting on my outfits together and I'm so excited. 5 00:00:21,773.42456997 --> 00:00:23,423.42456997 Um, but it's. 6 00:00:23,433.42456997 --> 00:00:26,283.42456997 Just absolutely insane how quickly time passes. 7 00:00:26,613.42456997 --> 00:00:29,13.42456997 I hope you are doing so well. 8 00:00:29,13.42456997 --> 00:00:31,563.42456997 I'd love an update of your life. 9 00:00:31,893.42456997 --> 00:00:37,173.42456997 Um, you can always come and hang out at the Healing Circle on wp.com. 10 00:00:37,473.42456997 --> 00:00:40,413.42456997 Um, if you didn't know, but I met. 11 00:00:40,413.42456997 --> 00:00:42,33.42456997 Today's gonna be a really special episode. 12 00:00:42,303.42456997 --> 00:00:53,793.42456997 I know I've had really great feedback in terms of you guys loving to hear my live mindset trainings that I do for a full on female sales academy. 13 00:00:54,123.42456997 --> 00:00:57,723.42456997 Um, because I know each of you are going after a goal. 14 00:00:57,888.42456997 --> 00:01:13,488.42456997 Whether it is, um, climbing the ladder in your career or starting a business or doing ministry, whatever it is, I know we have a group of high achieving women and women who have a dream that they wanna pursue and wanna step fully into their call. 15 00:01:13,728.42456997 --> 00:01:14,418.42456997 So. 16 00:01:14,648.42456997 --> 00:01:20,858.42456997 This, this training that I'm pulling and sharing with you, it's gonna be a short but very powerful one. 17 00:01:21,158.42456997 --> 00:01:24,968.42456997 Um, and it was one of their favorites, so I was like, let me just share it here too. 18 00:01:25,688.42456997 --> 00:01:41,618.42456997 Um, but I really believe this one is going to help you shift your mindset, break through limiting beliefs that you are currently carrying and reconnecting, or even like discovering the version of you that is called to more. 19 00:01:42,98.42456997 --> 00:01:48,938.42456997 How many of you guys believe that God has created you for more? He has more for you. 20 00:01:49,268.42456997 --> 00:01:58,88.42456997 And so in this training we talked about how your beliefs is, what shape your thoughts, your emotions, and your habits, and then ultimately, I. 21 00:01:58,318.42456997 --> 00:01:59,338.42456997 Your reality. 22 00:01:59,698.42456997 --> 00:02:21,118.42456997 So if you've been wondering why you're not seeing the results that you really wanna see in your life, or you feel stuck in patterns that no longer serve you, this is gonna be the episode that is going to open your eyes and help you fully step into the authority that God has already given you taking your power back. 23 00:02:21,148.42456997 --> 00:02:22,738.42456997 Okay, I'm loving that line. 24 00:02:23,218.42456997 --> 00:02:27,448.42456997 So this is one of our, this is a part of one of our deeper mindset series. 25 00:02:27,803.42456997 --> 00:02:37,463.42456997 And I just wanted you, I wanted you to get in on it because I know it's going to speak to where you are right now and stir up something on the inside of you. 26 00:02:37,793.42456997 --> 00:02:42,23.42456997 Okay? So get ready, grab your journal and let's dive in. 27 00:02:42,224.32652433 --> 00:02:43,424.32652433 Hey, beautiful. 28 00:02:43,544.32652433 --> 00:02:47,324.32652433 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 29 00:02:47,384.32652433 --> 00:03:11,684.32652433 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 30 00:03:11,714.32652433 --> 00:03:12,854.32652433 I've been there too. 31 00:03:12,974.32652433 --> 00:03:20,204.32652433 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 32 00:03:20,294.32652433 --> 00:03:37,4.32652433 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 33 00:03:37,164.32652433 --> 00:03:52,284.32652433 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 34 00:03:52,524.32652433 --> 00:03:55,494.32652433 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 35 00:03:55,584.32652433 --> 00:03:59,724.32652433 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 36 00:03:59,844.32652433 --> 00:04:01,614.32652433 One step at a time. 37 00:04:01,830.73304214 --> 00:04:02,880.73304214 Go ahead and drop in the chat. 38 00:04:02,880.73304214 --> 00:04:03,810.73304214 Like let me know. 39 00:04:04,80.73304214 --> 00:04:06,840.73304214 I wanna have a temperature, temperature check with you guys. 40 00:04:06,840.73304214 --> 00:04:15,570.73304214 How are you guys feeling on a scale of one to 10, one being like, I'm freaking like checked out, like I need some. 41 00:04:16,75.73304214 --> 00:04:21,475.73304214 Like emergency assistance and 10 being like the top tier energy that you're feeling. 42 00:04:21,835.73304214 --> 00:04:24,505.73304214 8, 10, 9, 10. 43 00:04:24,835.73304214 --> 00:04:27,295.73304214 I'm so glad that you're here even though they're, you're exhausted, girl. 44 00:04:28,585.73304214 --> 00:04:30,145.73304214 And that tells a lot about you. 45 00:04:30,445.73304214 --> 00:04:30,805.73304214 Nine. 46 00:04:31,705.73304214 --> 00:04:34,915.73304214 Overwhelmed earlier, but I went thrifting and got sushi and now I feel better. 47 00:04:34,975.73304214 --> 00:04:35,185.73304214 Okay. 48 00:04:35,185.73304214 --> 00:04:36,25.73304214 It's self-care day. 49 00:04:36,25.73304214 --> 00:04:36,655.73304214 I love it. 50 00:04:37,135.73304214 --> 00:04:38,335.73304214 Eight, eight, amazing. 51 00:04:38,335.73304214 --> 00:04:41,275.73304214 I love, I love seeing the high, high numbers. 52 00:04:41,515.73304214 --> 00:04:50,215.73304214 And of course, if you're more on like a six or below, like we see you, um, not every day is gonna be a 10 outta 10 day, and that's okay. 53 00:04:50,455.73304214 --> 00:04:53,245.73304214 Right? A bad day doesn't define a bad week. 54 00:04:53,245.73304214 --> 00:04:59,185.73304214 It doesn't make a bad month or a year, and it doesn't define a bad life, okay? Or turn into a bad life. 55 00:04:59,635.73304214 --> 00:05:00,355.73304214 So. 56 00:05:01,630.73304214 --> 00:05:10,90.73304214 Okay, well I'm gonna go ahead and dive in because we have just, it's gonna be a lot of training, um, heavy training kind of at the beginning. 57 00:05:10,90.73304214 --> 00:05:17,290.73304214 And then we're gonna move into like a reflection exercise, which is typically, typically like how we structure these. 58 00:05:17,860.73304214 --> 00:05:18,400.73304214 So, yeah. 59 00:05:18,400.73304214 --> 00:05:37,360.73304214 When I went to prep for this training of becoming her, I was initially thinking of it as we were going to talk about like habits and really, 'cause honestly, the big, the big question that we all ask, and the whole reason that you guys started this journey is because you realize that you are not where you wanna be in life. 60 00:05:37,600.73304214 --> 00:05:39,850.73304214 Okay? There's something in your life that is missing. 61 00:05:39,850.73304214 --> 00:05:41,800.73304214 There's something like, you came to this like. 62 00:05:42,295.73304214 --> 00:05:49,945.73304214 Epiphany or just accepted your reality of, okay, my reality does not look like what I want it to. 63 00:05:50,365.73304214 --> 00:05:54,685.73304214 And either sales is something that you're super excited to learn. 64 00:05:55,195.73304214 --> 00:05:58,285.73304214 I know talking to some of you guys, you're like, yeah, like I've always wanted to learn sales. 65 00:05:58,285.73304214 --> 00:06:07,225.73304214 Like that's not the majority, okay? Most of the, most of the girls or most people see sales being a vehicle to get you to your dream life. 66 00:06:07,285.73304214 --> 00:06:08,575.73304214 And both are right. 67 00:06:09,40.73304214 --> 00:06:34,750.73304214 Um, so answering this question of, okay, well, now that I know where I am, how do I get to be, well, first, what is the life that I actually want? Um, what does that dream life look like? And your definition of it, not what everybody else is telling you what success is, um, but what is your definition of it? And then the question becomes like, okay, well how do I bridge that gap? I. 68 00:06:36,235.73304214 --> 00:06:47,905.73304214 What if I told you that the reason that you don't have this life that you want, it all comes down to a belief system that you have. 69 00:06:49,465.73304214 --> 00:06:50,5.73304214 Okay. 70 00:06:50,215.73304214 --> 00:06:59,35.73304214 And what I'm gonna be talking about today is this, this loop that we pretty much do unconsciously. 71 00:06:59,875.73304214 --> 00:07:12,910.73304214 Okay? That the beliefs that we hold that have been instilled in us since freaking like super young childhood, th two to three, um, or up to eight, especially. 72 00:07:12,910.73304214 --> 00:07:13,720.73304214 Two to three. 73 00:07:13,750.73304214 --> 00:07:19,690.73304214 Your beliefs, like as a child, you are accepting everything as truth. 74 00:07:19,900.73304214 --> 00:07:23,110.73304214 Like you don't have, um, the ability to. 75 00:07:23,815.73304214 --> 00:07:29,515.73304214 Stand on your own to say, oh, I don't agree with that thought or that idea. 76 00:07:29,635.73304214 --> 00:07:32,335.73304214 And so you're soaking everything in like a sponge. 77 00:07:32,365.73304214 --> 00:07:37,705.73304214 And so a lot of the beliefs that you have are not even your own, they were given to you by your parents. 78 00:07:37,975.73304214 --> 00:07:45,955.73304214 Um, one that's like your immediate influential circle as a child and then into peers and different things like that. 79 00:07:45,955.73304214 --> 00:07:50,395.73304214 Teachers that can speak, um, words like to your heart. 80 00:07:51,340.73304214 --> 00:07:59,350.73304214 So these beliefs that we're currently still operating in today, which then leads to, it influences our thought life. 81 00:07:59,740.73304214 --> 00:08:07,780.73304214 So the thoughts that we're having on a day-to-day basis, and we have a thousand plus of those every single day that we're not even aware of. 82 00:08:08,320.73304214 --> 00:08:08,740.73304214 Okay. 83 00:08:08,740.73304214 --> 00:08:25,675.73304214 And then our thoughts are what are evoking emotions within us? And if anybody was on Deb's training, someday you learned or relearned that people purchase off of emotion. 84 00:08:26,245.73304214 --> 00:08:31,165.73304214 They make decisions based off of emotion and then justify it with logic. 85 00:08:31,255.73304214 --> 00:08:37,675.73304214 And this is the exact way, just it's not just in sales, like it applies to your life as well. 86 00:08:38,335.73304214 --> 00:09:09,190.73304214 So when you have these emotions that are coming up for you, and I'm gonna give an example in a little bit, um, it is DIC dictate dictating your decision, making AKA, the same decision that you're making time and time again turns into habits, okay? And we all know we've got good habits and we got ones that we wanna get rid of, okay? And then these habits is what is reinforcing and producing your reality. 87 00:09:09,190.73304214 --> 00:09:10,630.73304214 It's what you are seeing. 88 00:09:11,470.73304214 --> 00:09:24,550.73304214 Okay, so the people that the pe, the first step to moving into this life that you really want is first identifying that you, you are the problem. 89 00:09:25,780.73304214 --> 00:09:26,140.73304214 Okay. 90 00:09:26,410.73304214 --> 00:09:28,810.73304214 But when you're the problem, you're also the solution. 91 00:09:28,840.73304214 --> 00:09:36,670.73304214 And so a lot of the times when I hear people talk about like the reason they don't have what they want, they blame it on external circumstances. 92 00:09:36,730.73304214 --> 00:09:38,110.73304214 Oh, I just don't have the money. 93 00:09:39,70.73304214 --> 00:09:40,810.73304214 Oh, I just don't know enough. 94 00:09:41,290.73304214 --> 00:09:42,880.73304214 Um, I don't know how to get there. 95 00:09:43,330.73304214 --> 00:09:47,710.73304214 Um, I don't have the support system that my friend has. 96 00:09:50,140.73304214 --> 00:10:02,680.73304214 When you are in the state of just continuing to put the blame on anything outside of yourself, one, you're giving away your power to something outside of you. 97 00:10:03,670.73304214 --> 00:10:13,810.73304214 And two, you'll never come to a place where you're like, okay, you never take responsibility for where you are, which then your life is just kind of on autopilot at that point. 98 00:10:16,630.73304214 --> 00:10:17,620.73304214 Mouth is so dry. 99 00:10:18,760.73304214 --> 00:10:22,210.73304214 Um, so, and then lemme close the loop. 100 00:10:22,270.73304214 --> 00:10:33,70.73304214 So now you have this reality that you're living, right, you've produced your own reality, and then the reality is actually reinforcing the belief, the core belief that you hold, and it's this cycle. 101 00:10:33,70.73304214 --> 00:10:42,940.73304214 Again, the beliefs influence the thoughts, which evokes the emotion, which reinforces the habits, which produces your reality, which goes back to reinforcing the beliefs. 102 00:10:43,945.73304214 --> 00:10:52,105.73304214 And so this is like if you guys don't watch any other mindset training, these next I think is gonna be a four series. 103 00:10:52,105.73304214 --> 00:11:09,85.73304214 But this series alone, like this is the thing that if you get this down and you take the actions of it, like this is what, this is all you need, okay? To truly like do the mindset work that you need to create, be, become the woman that you wanna be, which then in turn, you'll create the life that you wanna have. 104 00:11:10,915.73304214 --> 00:11:12,205.73304214 Okay? So. 105 00:11:13,705.73304214 --> 00:11:19,855.73304214 I wanna focus today on, so of course we're gonna break this up into the four trainings today. 106 00:11:19,855.73304214 --> 00:11:26,875.73304214 I wanna focus on beliefs, um, and then we will move into like how to get back into control of our thoughts. 107 00:11:27,235.73304214 --> 00:11:33,895.73304214 Um, and then move into a training on like how to not let your emotions be in the driver's seat, but put 'em in the back. 108 00:11:34,405.73304214 --> 00:11:37,915.73304214 Um, and then going into how do you actually change. 109 00:11:38,230.73304214 --> 00:11:39,580.73304214 Like your habits. 110 00:11:39,940.73304214 --> 00:11:48,520.73304214 Um, 'cause a lot of the times it, a lot of the times these habits can actually be like cousin to an addiction a little bit. 111 00:11:48,730.73304214 --> 00:11:55,60.73304214 And so how to actually break free from those and then the reality and then your beliefs are gonna change from there. 112 00:11:55,900.73304214 --> 00:11:56,260.73304214 Okay. 113 00:11:57,100.73304214 --> 00:11:59,980.73304214 So I wanna talk about beliefs a little bit. 114 00:12:00,790.73304214 --> 00:12:04,570.73304214 Um, I just wanna make sure I'm not forgetting anything. 115 00:12:08,5.73304214 --> 00:12:24,145.73304214 Okay, so, so understanding that, again, the reality that you are seeing and you're experiencing, it's a mirror of your eternal beliefs and your constructs that you have. 116 00:12:24,350.73304214 --> 00:12:32,185.73304214 And so I really want this truth to really get rooted in you because when you understand that, okay. 117 00:12:32,650.73304214 --> 00:12:43,750.73304214 Um, I am not at this 10 KA month goal that I, that I have yet, and you can bring it back down to a belief that you have. 118 00:12:43,750.73304214 --> 00:12:46,780.73304214 Maybe it's around money, maybe it's around sales. 119 00:12:47,50.73304214 --> 00:12:51,520.73304214 Maybe it's actually around you not being worthy of that type of life. 120 00:12:51,730.73304214 --> 00:12:54,730.73304214 Like it can look different or a mix of those for everybody. 121 00:12:55,210.73304214 --> 00:12:57,700.73304214 But the more that you practice this. 122 00:12:58,780.73304214 --> 00:13:01,390.73304214 Awareness, the better off you're gonna be. 123 00:13:01,390.73304214 --> 00:13:05,530.73304214 Right? Because you can attack the core issue, which is the belief issue. 124 00:13:06,550.73304214 --> 00:13:06,940.73304214 Yeah. 125 00:13:07,330.73304214 --> 00:13:13,990.73304214 So the example that I wanna share is one, like, like what this can look like in your life. 126 00:13:14,50.73304214 --> 00:13:18,280.73304214 Like I feel like love is always like an easy example, um, to really make this land. 127 00:13:18,310.73304214 --> 00:13:19,870.73304214 'cause I feel like we've all kind of gone through this. 128 00:13:20,500.73304214 --> 00:13:27,100.73304214 Um, but say your belief is that, you know, if I fall in love, I'm just gonna get hurt. 129 00:13:28,240.73304214 --> 00:13:29,200.73304214 That's a belief that you have. 130 00:13:29,200.73304214 --> 00:13:45,520.73304214 Maybe it's from your parents watching them go through a really bad marriage, or maybe it's from your own experience and then now that this is a belief that you're living with, you're walking with this belief, the thought it's influencing your daily thoughts. 131 00:13:45,520.73304214 --> 00:13:46,450.73304214 So thoughts like. 132 00:13:46,885.73304214 --> 00:13:48,595.73304214 There's just no good guys out there. 133 00:13:48,655.73304214 --> 00:13:50,335.73304214 I'll always be second choice. 134 00:13:50,605.73304214 --> 00:13:55,525.73304214 Um, why even bother getting into another relationship like, I'm just gonna get hurt again. 135 00:13:55,855.73304214 --> 00:14:02,245.73304214 This, see, this is this belief, this thought cycle that is reinforcing that belief and coming from that belief. 136 00:14:03,475.73304214 --> 00:14:11,875.73304214 Now these thoughts are of course gonna be evoking emotions like maybe unworthiness or hopelessness. 137 00:14:12,490.73304214 --> 00:14:19,810.73304214 Um, maybe even desperation and you just feeling like, like this feeling like, I'm just not good enough. 138 00:14:19,810.73304214 --> 00:14:21,160.73304214 I'll never be good enough. 139 00:14:21,670.73304214 --> 00:14:23,500.73304214 Um, or maybe even loneliness. 140 00:14:24,10.73304214 --> 00:14:24,490.73304214 Okay. 141 00:14:24,580.73304214 --> 00:14:33,700.73304214 And you guys know when we are really in these emotions, again, it's gonna lead to not the best decisions, right? Not the best habits. 142 00:14:33,700.73304214 --> 00:14:39,190.73304214 So these emotions are gonna be reinforcing the habits, like shutting yourself off from receiving love. 143 00:14:39,940.73304214 --> 00:14:44,260.73304214 Avoiding deep and meaningful connections and relationships. 144 00:14:45,130.73304214 --> 00:14:59,80.73304214 And then maybe also, um, this habit of just settling, settling for surface level relationships, or just not settling for not having a relationship and just like executing that desire from your life. 145 00:14:59,980.73304214 --> 00:15:00,430.73304214 Yeah. 146 00:15:00,520.73304214 --> 00:15:04,450.73304214 And then because of these habits, it's producing the reality that you have. 147 00:15:04,450.73304214 --> 00:15:08,620.73304214 So you just remain closed off from love and you don't find the love. 148 00:15:09,400.73304214 --> 00:15:16,660.73304214 And also your reality of you are living with this heart and heart or maybe a skeptical mindset towards relationships. 149 00:15:17,170.73304214 --> 00:15:20,290.73304214 And then you seeing this happen in your reality. 150 00:15:20,440.73304214 --> 00:15:26,20.73304214 It's reinforcing the belief of I don't have love and I'll never experience love. 151 00:15:27,40.73304214 --> 00:15:33,160.73304214 And it goes back to the thought, the emotion, um, the habits and then the reality. 152 00:15:34,390.73304214 --> 00:15:34,690.73304214 Okay. 153 00:15:34,690.73304214 --> 00:15:37,840.73304214 Does that make sense? Is it landing? Okay, awesome. 154 00:15:38,500.73304214 --> 00:15:49,420.73304214 So what I want us to do is I wanna go in us, I want us to go into like a reflection time. 155 00:15:50,140.73304214 --> 00:15:58,510.73304214 Um, and I want you, if you can really have like, pin to paper, okay? It's, 'cause something incredible happens. 156 00:15:58,510.73304214 --> 00:16:00,190.73304214 It's, there's different studies on it. 157 00:16:00,190.73304214 --> 00:16:06,940.73304214 You guys can Google it, but when you put pen to paper and you actually write out and you, and you journal, um, things that are coming up for you. 158 00:16:08,320.73304214 --> 00:16:09,880.73304214 It lands and it does something. 159 00:16:09,880.73304214 --> 00:16:12,460.73304214 I don't know the science behind it, but it does something to you. 160 00:16:12,490.73304214 --> 00:16:17,110.73304214 Okay? It's a lot, um, more impactful than just typing the words out. 161 00:16:17,470.73304214 --> 00:16:21,310.73304214 So, um, if you need time to go grab your journal, go ahead and do that. 162 00:16:21,910.73304214 --> 00:16:28,810.73304214 Um, and I want us to journal out, um, the first question or drop it in the chat, I want you to journal out. 163 00:16:28,870.73304214 --> 00:16:34,600.73304214 Let's start with my number one goal right now is blank. 164 00:16:35,660.81671201 --> 00:16:39,770.81671201 My number one goal right now is, and then journal that out. 165 00:16:39,973.47341649 --> 00:17:06,132.4774006 Second question is What belief do I currently hold about myself, others, or the world that might be keeping me from my goal? And then for those of you guys that are finishing up with that one, I want you to journal out where did this belief come from and is it still serving me today? And the reason why we wanna know where it comes from is so we can assume our power over it. 166 00:17:06,762.4774006 --> 00:17:08,472.4774006 Right? Um. 167 00:17:09,247.4774006 --> 00:17:32,183.1795895 We can identify, maybe it was linked to something that maybe your mom said to you, you know, in a time of anger or, um, someone influential of your life, sad or did to you that influenced, um, a negative thought pattern that then became, um. 168 00:17:32,198.1795895 --> 00:17:38,528.1795895 A habit, which then became, you started producing that in your reality, and then it became that core belief. 169 00:17:39,254.7016962 --> 00:17:56,53.6215258 So we wanna identify where did that belief come from, and then ask yourself the question, okay, is it still serving me today? Because honestly, the, the thing, the reason that it's a hard truth, but the reason that we haven't gotten what we want is because we haven't decided to be there. 170 00:17:56,923.6215258 --> 00:17:58,93.6215258 It's just a decision. 171 00:17:58,678.6215258 --> 00:18:07,648.6215258 These identifying where, what you're holding now, where it's coming from, and then assuming your power over it is gonna help you in making that decision. 172 00:18:08,8.6215258 --> 00:18:23,248.6215258 Because even though your goal is what you may want logically, and you may have some emotion to it, but the lack of decision and making it happen is coming from the the core limiting beliefs that you hold within yourself. 173 00:18:23,914.6710301 --> 00:18:26,44.6710301 And then y'all can totally tell me if I'm going too fast. 174 00:18:26,704.6710301 --> 00:18:29,614.6710301 Um, but the fourth question, then we'll just have one after this one. 175 00:18:30,20.1861034 --> 00:18:31,490.1861034 I let go of this belief. 176 00:18:32,345.1861034 --> 00:18:41,572.9487904 How might my thoughts, emotions, or actions change? What possibilities would that open up? I let go of disbelief. 177 00:18:41,782.9487904 --> 00:18:45,142.9487904 How might my thoughts, emotions, or actions change? I. 178 00:18:45,941.6135361 --> 00:18:48,221.6135361 the final question. 179 00:18:48,461.6135361 --> 00:19:19,695.8885235 If I were already her, and when I'm talking about her, of course, the future, you, the woman who is living her dream life, um, if I already heard the woman that you wanna become, what belief would she hold about herself and how can I start embodying that belief today? I'm curious, is this exercise hard for anyone? Like is it hard for you to maybe answer the prompts? If so, I'd love for you to share and then like I can help you. 180 00:19:20,498.7664692 --> 00:19:20,888.7664692 yeah. 181 00:19:21,516.1361789 --> 00:19:33,821.0978624 Lily, if you wanna share, what's hard for you with it or what question's hard for you, and then we can kind of workshop it Didn't you guys love that? I know it was a lot, but so necessary. 182 00:19:34,1.0978624 --> 00:19:46,241.0978624 Right? I really hope that this episode gave you clarity, um, and helped you recognize where certain beliefs might be holding you back, beliefs that you've carried for years. 183 00:19:46,571.0978624 --> 00:19:52,601.0978624 And on top of that, how much power you actually have to shift your thinking and change your life. 184 00:19:52,781.0978624 --> 00:19:57,341.0978624 The Bible talks about so many times the battle and warfare. 185 00:19:57,566.0978624 --> 00:20:00,746.0978624 It is, it is lost or won in your mind. 186 00:20:00,956.0978624 --> 00:20:01,196.0978624 Okay. 187 00:20:01,196.0978624 --> 00:20:04,586.0978624 This is why God tells us to constantly renew our mind. 188 00:20:04,796.0978624 --> 00:20:11,606.0978624 That is like the first step in many of, in, in most of the transformation, all the transformation. 189 00:20:11,606.0978624 --> 00:20:22,646.0978624 I'm constantly saying in whatever transformation that you're wanting to have, it is starting with renewing your mind and changing your thoughts, taking captive those thoughts that the enemy is trying to place. 190 00:20:22,676.0978624 --> 00:20:30,596.0978624 Over you to take you off track, to take you off track, to steal your purpose, to deter you from your calling. 191 00:20:31,46.0978624 --> 00:20:35,846.0978624 And so I just really want to hone in that you are not stuck where you are. 192 00:20:36,26.0978624 --> 00:20:39,326.0978624 You are literally just one decision away. 193 00:20:40,346.0978624 --> 00:20:45,356.0978624 One decision away from becoming the woman that you know, deep down you were created to be. 194 00:20:45,566.0978624 --> 00:20:54,446.0978624 If you did not believe that you were made for more, you probably wouldn't be a girly that is listening to personal development or spiritual development podcast. 195 00:20:54,866.0978624 --> 00:20:56,846.0978624 So you were closer than you think. 196 00:20:57,746.0978624 --> 00:21:06,536.0978624 And so if you went through the journaling prompts or had a breakthrough while listening, I would love for you to share it inside our free community, the Healing Circle. 197 00:21:06,836.0978624 --> 00:21:10,196.0978624 You can join at wp.com/the 198 00:21:10,196.0978624 --> 00:21:11,6.0978624 Healing Circle. 199 00:21:11,66.0978624 --> 00:21:15,56.0978624 That's wp wop.com/the 200 00:21:15,56.0978624 --> 00:21:15,866.0978624 Healing Circle. 201 00:21:16,166.0978624 --> 00:21:23,246.0978624 You can post your reflection, your favorite takeaway, or any following questions that you have. 202 00:21:23,246.0978624 --> 00:21:23,366.0978624 What. 203 00:21:23,611.0978624 --> 00:21:27,91.0978624 Might have been hard for you to answer and then we can kind of workshop it. 204 00:21:27,331.0978624 --> 00:21:30,361.0978624 I can provide a little bit of support in there for you. 205 00:21:30,871.0978624 --> 00:21:34,381.0978624 As always, thank you for tuning in so much. 206 00:21:34,411.0978624 --> 00:21:35,191.0978624 I love you. 207 00:21:35,191.0978624 --> 00:21:40,201.0978624 I see you and I'm a cheering you on every single step of the way. 208 00:21:41,71.0978624 --> 00:21:44,701.0978624 I'll see you back here, same time, same place next week. 209 00:21:45,1.0978624 --> 00:21:45,481.0978624 Bye. 210 00:21:45,833.7521705 --> 00:21:46,763.7521705 Hey, beautiful. 211 00:21:46,763.7521705 --> 00:21:50,363.7521705 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 212 00:21:50,633.7521705 --> 00:22:05,33.7521705 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 213 00:22:05,123.7521705 --> 00:22:10,193.7521705 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 214 00:22:10,438.7521705 --> 00:22:15,838.7521705 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 215 00:22:15,898.7521705 --> 00:22:18,988.7521705 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 216 00:22:19,138.7521705 --> 00:22:22,198.7521705 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 217 00:22:22,318.7521705 --> 00:22:23,938.7521705 Sending you all the love. 218 00:22:23,998.7521705 --> 00:22:25,138.7521705 Until next time.
We are stepping into a new fresh week. 3 00:00:04,973.4245699701 --> 00:00:08,693.4245699701 I literally feel like April totally flew by. 4 00:00:09,53.4245699701 --> 00:00:21,683.42456997 Um, I feel like just the other day, me and my friend we're planning this Brazil Healing Retreat and it's literally happening next week and I'm getting on my outfits together and I'm so excited. 5 00:00:21,773.42456997 --> 00:00:23,423.42456997 Um, but it's. 6 00:00:23,433.42456997 --> 00:00:26,283.42456997 Just absolutely insane how quickly time passes. 7 00:00:26,613.42456997 --> 00:00:29,13.42456997 I hope you are doing so well. 8 00:00:29,13.42456997 --> 00:00:31,563.42456997 I'd love an update of your life. 9 00:00:31,893.42456997 --> 00:00:37,173.42456997 Um, you can always come and hang out at the Healing Circle on wp.com. 10 00:00:37,473.42456997 --> 00:00:40,413.42456997 Um, if you didn't know, but I met. 11 00:00:40,413.42456997 --> 00:00:42,33.42456997 Today's gonna be a really special episode. 12 00:00:42,303.42456997 --> 00:00:53,793.42456997 I know I've had really great feedback in terms of you guys loving to hear my live mindset trainings that I do for a full on female sales academy. 13 00:00:54,123.42456997 --> 00:00:57,723.42456997 Um, because I know each of you are going after a goal. 14 00:00:57,888.42456997 --> 00:01:13,488.42456997 Whether it is, um, climbing the ladder in your career or starting a business or doing ministry, whatever it is, I know we have a group of high achieving women and women who have a dream that they wanna pursue and wanna step fully into their call. 15 00:01:13,728.42456997 --> 00:01:14,418.42456997 So. 16 00:01:14,648.42456997 --> 00:01:20,858.42456997 This, this training that I'm pulling and sharing with you, it's gonna be a short but very powerful one. 17 00:01:21,158.42456997 --> 00:01:24,968.42456997 Um, and it was one of their favorites, so I was like, let me just share it here too. 18 00:01:25,688.42456997 --> 00:01:41,618.42456997 Um, but I really believe this one is going to help you shift your mindset, break through limiting beliefs that you are currently carrying and reconnecting, or even like discovering the version of you that is called to more. 19 00:01:42,98.42456997 --> 00:01:48,938.42456997 How many of you guys believe that God has created you for more? He has more for you. 20 00:01:49,268.42456997 --> 00:01:58,88.42456997 And so in this training we talked about how your beliefs is, what shape your thoughts, your emotions, and your habits, and then ultimately, I. 21 00:01:58,318.42456997 --> 00:01:59,338.42456997 Your reality. 22 00:01:59,698.42456997 --> 00:02:21,118.42456997 So if you've been wondering why you're not seeing the results that you really wanna see in your life, or you feel stuck in patterns that no longer serve you, this is gonna be the episode that is going to open your eyes and help you fully step into the authority that God has already given you taking your power back. 23 00:02:21,148.42456997 --> 00:02:22,738.42456997 Okay, I'm loving that line. 24 00:02:23,218.42456997 --> 00:02:27,448.42456997 So this is one of our, this is a part of one of our deeper mindset series. 25 00:02:27,803.42456997 --> 00:02:37,463.42456997 And I just wanted you, I wanted you to get in on it because I know it's going to speak to where you are right now and stir up something on the inside of you. 26 00:02:37,793.42456997 --> 00:02:42,23.42456997 Okay? So get ready, grab your journal and let's dive in. 27 00:02:42,224.32652433 --> 00:02:43,424.32652433 Hey, beautiful. 28 00:02:43,544.32652433 --> 00:02:47,324.32652433 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 29 00:02:47,384.32652433 --> 00:03:11,684.32652433 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 30 00:03:11,714.32652433 --> 00:03:12,854.32652433 I've been there too. 31 00:03:12,974.32652433 --> 00:03:20,204.32652433 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 32 00:03:20,294.32652433 --> 00:03:37,4.32652433 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 33 00:03:37,164.32652433 --> 00:03:52,284.32652433 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 34 00:03:52,524.32652433 --> 00:03:55,494.32652433 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 35 00:03:55,584.32652433 --> 00:03:59,724.32652433 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 36 00:03:59,844.32652433 --> 00:04:01,614.32652433 One step at a time. 37 00:04:01,830.73304214 --> 00:04:02,880.73304214 Go ahead and drop in the chat. 38 00:04:02,880.73304214 --> 00:04:03,810.73304214 Like let me know. 39 00:04:04,80.73304214 --> 00:04:06,840.73304214 I wanna have a temperature, temperature check with you guys. 40 00:04:06,840.73304214 --> 00:04:15,570.73304214 How are you guys feeling on a scale of one to 10, one being like, I'm freaking like checked out, like I need some. 41 00:04:16,75.73304214 --> 00:04:21,475.73304214 Like emergency assistance and 10 being like the top tier energy that you're feeling. 42 00:04:21,835.73304214 --> 00:04:24,505.73304214 8, 10, 9, 10. 43 00:04:24,835.73304214 --> 00:04:27,295.73304214 I'm so glad that you're here even though they're, you're exhausted, girl. 44 00:04:28,585.73304214 --> 00:04:30,145.73304214 And that tells a lot about you. 45 00:04:30,445.73304214 --> 00:04:30,805.73304214 Nine. 46 00:04:31,705.73304214 --> 00:04:34,915.73304214 Overwhelmed earlier, but I went thrifting and got sushi and now I feel better. 47 00:04:34,975.73304214 --> 00:04:35,185.73304214 Okay. 48 00:04:35,185.73304214 --> 00:04:36,25.73304214 It's self-care day. 49 00:04:36,25.73304214 --> 00:04:36,655.73304214 I love it. 50 00:04:37,135.73304214 --> 00:04:38,335.73304214 Eight, eight, amazing. 51 00:04:38,335.73304214 --> 00:04:41,275.73304214 I love, I love seeing the high, high numbers. 52 00:04:41,515.73304214 --> 00:04:50,215.73304214 And of course, if you're more on like a six or below, like we see you, um, not every day is gonna be a 10 outta 10 day, and that's okay. 53 00:04:50,455.73304214 --> 00:04:53,245.73304214 Right? A bad day doesn't define a bad week. 54 00:04:53,245.73304214 --> 00:04:59,185.73304214 It doesn't make a bad month or a year, and it doesn't define a bad life, okay? Or turn into a bad life. 55 00:04:59,635.73304214 --> 00:05:00,355.73304214 So. 56 00:05:01,630.73304214 --> 00:05:10,90.73304214 Okay, well I'm gonna go ahead and dive in because we have just, it's gonna be a lot of training, um, heavy training kind of at the beginning. 57 00:05:10,90.73304214 --> 00:05:17,290.73304214 And then we're gonna move into like a reflection exercise, which is typically, typically like how we structure these. 58 00:05:17,860.73304214 --> 00:05:18,400.73304214 So, yeah. 59 00:05:18,400.73304214 --> 00:05:37,360.73304214 When I went to prep for this training of becoming her, I was initially thinking of it as we were going to talk about like habits and really, 'cause honestly, the big, the big question that we all ask, and the whole reason that you guys started this journey is because you realize that you are not where you wanna be in life. 60 00:05:37,600.73304214 --> 00:05:39,850.73304214 Okay? There's something in your life that is missing. 61 00:05:39,850.73304214 --> 00:05:41,800.73304214 There's something like, you came to this like. 62 00:05:42,295.73304214 --> 00:05:49,945.73304214 Epiphany or just accepted your reality of, okay, my reality does not look like what I want it to. 63 00:05:50,365.73304214 --> 00:05:54,685.73304214 And either sales is something that you're super excited to learn. 64 00:05:55,195.73304214 --> 00:05:58,285.73304214 I know talking to some of you guys, you're like, yeah, like I've always wanted to learn sales. 65 00:05:58,285.73304214 --> 00:06:07,225.73304214 Like that's not the majority, okay? Most of the, most of the girls or most people see sales being a vehicle to get you to your dream life. 66 00:06:07,285.73304214 --> 00:06:08,575.73304214 And both are right. 67 00:06:09,40.73304214 --> 00:06:34,750.73304214 Um, so answering this question of, okay, well, now that I know where I am, how do I get to be, well, first, what is the life that I actually want? Um, what does that dream life look like? And your definition of it, not what everybody else is telling you what success is, um, but what is your definition of it? And then the question becomes like, okay, well how do I bridge that gap? I. 68 00:06:36,235.73304214 --> 00:06:47,905.73304214 What if I told you that the reason that you don't have this life that you want, it all comes down to a belief system that you have. 69 00:06:49,465.73304214 --> 00:06:50,5.73304214 Okay. 70 00:06:50,215.73304214 --> 00:06:59,35.73304214 And what I'm gonna be talking about today is this, this loop that we pretty much do unconsciously. 71 00:06:59,875.73304214 --> 00:07:12,910.73304214 Okay? That the beliefs that we hold that have been instilled in us since freaking like super young childhood, th two to three, um, or up to eight, especially. 72 00:07:12,910.73304214 --> 00:07:13,720.73304214 Two to three. 73 00:07:13,750.73304214 --> 00:07:19,690.73304214 Your beliefs, like as a child, you are accepting everything as truth. 74 00:07:19,900.73304214 --> 00:07:23,110.73304214 Like you don't have, um, the ability to. 75 00:07:23,815.73304214 --> 00:07:29,515.73304214 Stand on your own to say, oh, I don't agree with that thought or that idea. 76 00:07:29,635.73304214 --> 00:07:32,335.73304214 And so you're soaking everything in like a sponge. 77 00:07:32,365.73304214 --> 00:07:37,705.73304214 And so a lot of the beliefs that you have are not even your own, they were given to you by your parents. 78 00:07:37,975.73304214 --> 00:07:45,955.73304214 Um, one that's like your immediate influential circle as a child and then into peers and different things like that. 79 00:07:45,955.73304214 --> 00:07:50,395.73304214 Teachers that can speak, um, words like to your heart. 80 00:07:51,340.73304214 --> 00:07:59,350.73304214 So these beliefs that we're currently still operating in today, which then leads to, it influences our thought life. 81 00:07:59,740.73304214 --> 00:08:07,780.73304214 So the thoughts that we're having on a day-to-day basis, and we have a thousand plus of those every single day that we're not even aware of. 82 00:08:08,320.73304214 --> 00:08:08,740.73304214 Okay. 83 00:08:08,740.73304214 --> 00:08:25,675.73304214 And then our thoughts are what are evoking emotions within us? And if anybody was on Deb's training, someday you learned or relearned that people purchase off of emotion. 84 00:08:26,245.73304214 --> 00:08:31,165.73304214 They make decisions based off of emotion and then justify it with logic. 85 00:08:31,255.73304214 --> 00:08:37,675.73304214 And this is the exact way, just it's not just in sales, like it applies to your life as well. 86 00:08:38,335.73304214 --> 00:09:09,190.73304214 So when you have these emotions that are coming up for you, and I'm gonna give an example in a little bit, um, it is DIC dictate dictating your decision, making AKA, the same decision that you're making time and time again turns into habits, okay? And we all know we've got good habits and we got ones that we wanna get rid of, okay? And then these habits is what is reinforcing and producing your reality. 87 00:09:09,190.73304214 --> 00:09:10,630.73304214 It's what you are seeing. 88 00:09:11,470.73304214 --> 00:09:24,550.73304214 Okay, so the people that the pe, the first step to moving into this life that you really want is first identifying that you, you are the problem. 89 00:09:25,780.73304214 --> 00:09:26,140.73304214 Okay. 90 00:09:26,410.73304214 --> 00:09:28,810.73304214 But when you're the problem, you're also the solution. 91 00:09:28,840.73304214 --> 00:09:36,670.73304214 And so a lot of the times when I hear people talk about like the reason they don't have what they want, they blame it on external circumstances. 92 00:09:36,730.73304214 --> 00:09:38,110.73304214 Oh, I just don't have the money. 93 00:09:39,70.73304214 --> 00:09:40,810.73304214 Oh, I just don't know enough. 94 00:09:41,290.73304214 --> 00:09:42,880.73304214 Um, I don't know how to get there. 95 00:09:43,330.73304214 --> 00:09:47,710.73304214 Um, I don't have the support system that my friend has. 96 00:09:50,140.73304214 --> 00:10:02,680.73304214 When you are in the state of just continuing to put the blame on anything outside of yourself, one, you're giving away your power to something outside of you. 97 00:10:03,670.73304214 --> 00:10:13,810.73304214 And two, you'll never come to a place where you're like, okay, you never take responsibility for where you are, which then your life is just kind of on autopilot at that point. 98 00:10:16,630.73304214 --> 00:10:17,620.73304214 Mouth is so dry. 99 00:10:18,760.73304214 --> 00:10:22,210.73304214 Um, so, and then lemme close the loop. 100 00:10:22,270.73304214 --> 00:10:33,70.73304214 So now you have this reality that you're living, right, you've produced your own reality, and then the reality is actually reinforcing the belief, the core belief that you hold, and it's this cycle. 101 00:10:33,70.73304214 --> 00:10:42,940.73304214 Again, the beliefs influence the thoughts, which evokes the emotion, which reinforces the habits, which produces your reality, which goes back to reinforcing the beliefs. 102 00:10:43,945.73304214 --> 00:10:52,105.73304214 And so this is like if you guys don't watch any other mindset training, these next I think is gonna be a four series. 103 00:10:52,105.73304214 --> 00:11:09,85.73304214 But this series alone, like this is the thing that if you get this down and you take the actions of it, like this is what, this is all you need, okay? To truly like do the mindset work that you need to create, be, become the woman that you wanna be, which then in turn, you'll create the life that you wanna have. 104 00:11:10,915.73304214 --> 00:11:12,205.73304214 Okay? So. 105 00:11:13,705.73304214 --> 00:11:19,855.73304214 I wanna focus today on, so of course we're gonna break this up into the four trainings today. 106 00:11:19,855.73304214 --> 00:11:26,875.73304214 I wanna focus on beliefs, um, and then we will move into like how to get back into control of our thoughts. 107 00:11:27,235.73304214 --> 00:11:33,895.73304214 Um, and then move into a training on like how to not let your emotions be in the driver's seat, but put 'em in the back. 108 00:11:34,405.73304214 --> 00:11:37,915.73304214 Um, and then going into how do you actually change. 109 00:11:38,230.73304214 --> 00:11:39,580.73304214 Like your habits. 110 00:11:39,940.73304214 --> 00:11:48,520.73304214 Um, 'cause a lot of the times it, a lot of the times these habits can actually be like cousin to an addiction a little bit. 111 00:11:48,730.73304214 --> 00:11:55,60.73304214 And so how to actually break free from those and then the reality and then your beliefs are gonna change from there. 112 00:11:55,900.73304214 --> 00:11:56,260.73304214 Okay. 113 00:11:57,100.73304214 --> 00:11:59,980.73304214 So I wanna talk about beliefs a little bit. 114 00:12:00,790.73304214 --> 00:12:04,570.73304214 Um, I just wanna make sure I'm not forgetting anything. 115 00:12:08,5.73304214 --> 00:12:24,145.73304214 Okay, so, so understanding that, again, the reality that you are seeing and you're experiencing, it's a mirror of your eternal beliefs and your constructs that you have. 116 00:12:24,350.73304214 --> 00:12:32,185.73304214 And so I really want this truth to really get rooted in you because when you understand that, okay. 117 00:12:32,650.73304214 --> 00:12:43,750.73304214 Um, I am not at this 10 KA month goal that I, that I have yet, and you can bring it back down to a belief that you have. 118 00:12:43,750.73304214 --> 00:12:46,780.73304214 Maybe it's around money, maybe it's around sales. 119 00:12:47,50.73304214 --> 00:12:51,520.73304214 Maybe it's actually around you not being worthy of that type of life. 120 00:12:51,730.73304214 --> 00:12:54,730.73304214 Like it can look different or a mix of those for everybody. 121 00:12:55,210.73304214 --> 00:12:57,700.73304214 But the more that you practice this. 122 00:12:58,780.73304214 --> 00:13:01,390.73304214 Awareness, the better off you're gonna be. 123 00:13:01,390.73304214 --> 00:13:05,530.73304214 Right? Because you can attack the core issue, which is the belief issue. 124 00:13:06,550.73304214 --> 00:13:06,940.73304214 Yeah. 125 00:13:07,330.73304214 --> 00:13:13,990.73304214 So the example that I wanna share is one, like, like what this can look like in your life. 126 00:13:14,50.73304214 --> 00:13:18,280.73304214 Like I feel like love is always like an easy example, um, to really make this land. 127 00:13:18,310.73304214 --> 00:13:19,870.73304214 'cause I feel like we've all kind of gone through this. 128 00:13:20,500.73304214 --> 00:13:27,100.73304214 Um, but say your belief is that, you know, if I fall in love, I'm just gonna get hurt. 129 00:13:28,240.73304214 --> 00:13:29,200.73304214 That's a belief that you have. 130 00:13:29,200.73304214 --> 00:13:45,520.73304214 Maybe it's from your parents watching them go through a really bad marriage, or maybe it's from your own experience and then now that this is a belief that you're living with, you're walking with this belief, the thought it's influencing your daily thoughts. 131 00:13:45,520.73304214 --> 00:13:46,450.73304214 So thoughts like. 132 00:13:46,885.73304214 --> 00:13:48,595.73304214 There's just no good guys out there. 133 00:13:48,655.73304214 --> 00:13:50,335.73304214 I'll always be second choice. 134 00:13:50,605.73304214 --> 00:13:55,525.73304214 Um, why even bother getting into another relationship like, I'm just gonna get hurt again. 135 00:13:55,855.73304214 --> 00:14:02,245.73304214 This, see, this is this belief, this thought cycle that is reinforcing that belief and coming from that belief. 136 00:14:03,475.73304214 --> 00:14:11,875.73304214 Now these thoughts are of course gonna be evoking emotions like maybe unworthiness or hopelessness. 137 00:14:12,490.73304214 --> 00:14:19,810.73304214 Um, maybe even desperation and you just feeling like, like this feeling like, I'm just not good enough. 138 00:14:19,810.73304214 --> 00:14:21,160.73304214 I'll never be good enough. 139 00:14:21,670.73304214 --> 00:14:23,500.73304214 Um, or maybe even loneliness. 140 00:14:24,10.73304214 --> 00:14:24,490.73304214 Okay. 141 00:14:24,580.73304214 --> 00:14:33,700.73304214 And you guys know when we are really in these emotions, again, it's gonna lead to not the best decisions, right? Not the best habits. 142 00:14:33,700.73304214 --> 00:14:39,190.73304214 So these emotions are gonna be reinforcing the habits, like shutting yourself off from receiving love. 143 00:14:39,940.73304214 --> 00:14:44,260.73304214 Avoiding deep and meaningful connections and relationships. 144 00:14:45,130.73304214 --> 00:14:59,80.73304214 And then maybe also, um, this habit of just settling, settling for surface level relationships, or just not settling for not having a relationship and just like executing that desire from your life. 145 00:14:59,980.73304214 --> 00:15:00,430.73304214 Yeah. 146 00:15:00,520.73304214 --> 00:15:04,450.73304214 And then because of these habits, it's producing the reality that you have. 147 00:15:04,450.73304214 --> 00:15:08,620.73304214 So you just remain closed off from love and you don't find the love. 148 00:15:09,400.73304214 --> 00:15:16,660.73304214 And also your reality of you are living with this heart and heart or maybe a skeptical mindset towards relationships. 149 00:15:17,170.73304214 --> 00:15:20,290.73304214 And then you seeing this happen in your reality. 150 00:15:20,440.73304214 --> 00:15:26,20.73304214 It's reinforcing the belief of I don't have love and I'll never experience love. 151 00:15:27,40.73304214 --> 00:15:33,160.73304214 And it goes back to the thought, the emotion, um, the habits and then the reality. 152 00:15:34,390.73304214 --> 00:15:34,690.73304214 Okay. 153 00:15:34,690.73304214 --> 00:15:37,840.73304214 Does that make sense? Is it landing? Okay, awesome. 154 00:15:38,500.73304214 --> 00:15:49,420.73304214 So what I want us to do is I wanna go in us, I want us to go into like a reflection time. 155 00:15:50,140.73304214 --> 00:15:58,510.73304214 Um, and I want you, if you can really have like, pin to paper, okay? It's, 'cause something incredible happens. 156 00:15:58,510.73304214 --> 00:16:00,190.73304214 It's, there's different studies on it. 157 00:16:00,190.73304214 --> 00:16:06,940.73304214 You guys can Google it, but when you put pen to paper and you actually write out and you, and you journal, um, things that are coming up for you. 158 00:16:08,320.73304214 --> 00:16:09,880.73304214 It lands and it does something. 159 00:16:09,880.73304214 --> 00:16:12,460.73304214 I don't know the science behind it, but it does something to you. 160 00:16:12,490.73304214 --> 00:16:17,110.73304214 Okay? It's a lot, um, more impactful than just typing the words out. 161 00:16:17,470.73304214 --> 00:16:21,310.73304214 So, um, if you need time to go grab your journal, go ahead and do that. 162 00:16:21,910.73304214 --> 00:16:28,810.73304214 Um, and I want us to journal out, um, the first question or drop it in the chat, I want you to journal out. 163 00:16:28,870.73304214 --> 00:16:34,600.73304214 Let's start with my number one goal right now is blank. 164 00:16:35,660.81671201 --> 00:16:39,770.81671201 My number one goal right now is, and then journal that out. 165 00:16:39,973.47341649 --> 00:17:06,132.4774006 Second question is What belief do I currently hold about myself, others, or the world that might be keeping me from my goal? And then for those of you guys that are finishing up with that one, I want you to journal out where did this belief come from and is it still serving me today? And the reason why we wanna know where it comes from is so we can assume our power over it. 166 00:17:06,762.4774006 --> 00:17:08,472.4774006 Right? Um. 167 00:17:09,247.4774006 --> 00:17:32,183.1795895 We can identify, maybe it was linked to something that maybe your mom said to you, you know, in a time of anger or, um, someone influential of your life, sad or did to you that influenced, um, a negative thought pattern that then became, um. 168 00:17:32,198.1795895 --> 00:17:38,528.1795895 A habit, which then became, you started producing that in your reality, and then it became that core belief. 169 00:17:39,254.7016962 --> 00:17:56,53.6215258 So we wanna identify where did that belief come from, and then ask yourself the question, okay, is it still serving me today? Because honestly, the, the thing, the reason that it's a hard truth, but the reason that we haven't gotten what we want is because we haven't decided to be there. 170 00:17:56,923.6215258 --> 00:17:58,93.6215258 It's just a decision. 171 00:17:58,678.6215258 --> 00:18:07,648.6215258 These identifying where, what you're holding now, where it's coming from, and then assuming your power over it is gonna help you in making that decision. 172 00:18:08,8.6215258 --> 00:18:23,248.6215258 Because even though your goal is what you may want logically, and you may have some emotion to it, but the lack of decision and making it happen is coming from the the core limiting beliefs that you hold within yourself. 173 00:18:23,914.6710301 --> 00:18:26,44.6710301 And then y'all can totally tell me if I'm going too fast. 174 00:18:26,704.6710301 --> 00:18:29,614.6710301 Um, but the fourth question, then we'll just have one after this one. 175 00:18:30,20.1861034 --> 00:18:31,490.1861034 I let go of this belief. 176 00:18:32,345.1861034 --> 00:18:41,572.9487904 How might my thoughts, emotions, or actions change? What possibilities would that open up? I let go of disbelief. 177 00:18:41,782.9487904 --> 00:18:45,142.9487904 How might my thoughts, emotions, or actions change? I. 178 00:18:45,941.6135361 --> 00:18:48,221.6135361 the final question. 179 00:18:48,461.6135361 --> 00:19:19,695.8885235 If I were already her, and when I'm talking about her, of course, the future, you, the woman who is living her dream life, um, if I already heard the woman that you wanna become, what belief would she hold about herself and how can I start embodying that belief today? I'm curious, is this exercise hard for anyone? Like is it hard for you to maybe answer the prompts? If so, I'd love for you to share and then like I can help you. 180 00:19:20,498.7664692 --> 00:19:20,888.7664692 yeah. 181 00:19:21,516.1361789 --> 00:19:33,821.0978624 Lily, if you wanna share, what's hard for you with it or what question's hard for you, and then we can kind of workshop it Didn't you guys love that? I know it was a lot, but so necessary. 182 00:19:34,1.0978624 --> 00:19:46,241.0978624 Right? I really hope that this episode gave you clarity, um, and helped you recognize where certain beliefs might be holding you back, beliefs that you've carried for years. 183 00:19:46,571.0978624 --> 00:19:52,601.0978624 And on top of that, how much power you actually have to shift your thinking and change your life. 184 00:19:52,781.0978624 --> 00:19:57,341.0978624 The Bible talks about so many times the battle and warfare. 185 00:19:57,566.0978624 --> 00:20:00,746.0978624 It is, it is lost or won in your mind. 186 00:20:00,956.0978624 --> 00:20:01,196.0978624 Okay. 187 00:20:01,196.0978624 --> 00:20:04,586.0978624 This is why God tells us to constantly renew our mind. 188 00:20:04,796.0978624 --> 00:20:11,606.0978624 That is like the first step in many of, in, in most of the transformation, all the transformation. 189 00:20:11,606.0978624 --> 00:20:22,646.0978624 I'm constantly saying in whatever transformation that you're wanting to have, it is starting with renewing your mind and changing your thoughts, taking captive those thoughts that the enemy is trying to place. 190 00:20:22,676.0978624 --> 00:20:30,596.0978624 Over you to take you off track, to take you off track, to steal your purpose, to deter you from your calling. 191 00:20:31,46.0978624 --> 00:20:35,846.0978624 And so I just really want to hone in that you are not stuck where you are. 192 00:20:36,26.0978624 --> 00:20:39,326.0978624 You are literally just one decision away. 193 00:20:40,346.0978624 --> 00:20:45,356.0978624 One decision away from becoming the woman that you know, deep down you were created to be. 194 00:20:45,566.0978624 --> 00:20:54,446.0978624 If you did not believe that you were made for more, you probably wouldn't be a girly that is listening to personal development or spiritual development podcast. 195 00:20:54,866.0978624 --> 00:20:56,846.0978624 So you were closer than you think. 196 00:20:57,746.0978624 --> 00:21:06,536.0978624 And so if you went through the journaling prompts or had a breakthrough while listening, I would love for you to share it inside our free community, the Healing Circle. 197 00:21:06,836.0978624 --> 00:21:10,196.0978624 You can join at wp.com/the 198 00:21:10,196.0978624 --> 00:21:11,6.0978624 Healing Circle. 199 00:21:11,66.0978624 --> 00:21:15,56.0978624 That's wp wop.com/the 200 00:21:15,56.0978624 --> 00:21:15,866.0978624 Healing Circle. 201 00:21:16,166.0978624 --> 00:21:23,246.0978624 You can post your reflection, your favorite takeaway, or any following questions that you have. 202 00:21:23,246.0978624 --> 00:21:23,366.0978624 What. 203 00:21:23,611.0978624 --> 00:21:27,91.0978624 Might have been hard for you to answer and then we can kind of workshop it. 204 00:21:27,331.0978624 --> 00:21:30,361.0978624 I can provide a little bit of support in there for you. 205 00:21:30,871.0978624 --> 00:21:34,381.0978624 As always, thank you for tuning in so much. 206 00:21:34,411.0978624 --> 00:21:35,191.0978624 I love you. 207 00:21:35,191.0978624 --> 00:21:40,201.0978624 I see you and I'm a cheering you on every single step of the way. 208 00:21:41,71.0978624 --> 00:21:44,701.0978624 I'll see you back here, same time, same place next week. 209 00:21:45,1.0978624 --> 00:21:45,481.0978624 Bye. 210 00:21:45,833.7521705 --> 00:21:46,763.7521705 Hey, beautiful. 211 00:21:46,763.7521705 --> 00:21:50,363.7521705 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 212 00:21:50,633.7521705 --> 00:22:05,33.7521705 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 213 00:22:05,123.7521705 --> 00:22:10,193.7521705 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 214 00:22:10,438.7521705 --> 00:22:15,838.7521705 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 215 00:22:15,898.7521705 --> 00:22:18,988.7521705 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 216 00:22:19,138.7521705 --> 00:22:22,198.7521705 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 217 00:22:22,318.7521705 --> 00:22:23,938.7521705 Sending you all the love. 218 00:22:23,998.7521705 --> 00:22:25,138.7521705 Until next time.
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