May 19, 2025 • 26 mins
Hi beautiful! ♥️
Are you in the middle of a hard day? Feeling triggered, insecure, emotional—or just plain heavy? Sis, I get it… because I’m walking through one too.
In today’s raw, from-the-heart episode, I’m bringing you into my world as I process the last 48 hours—filled with grief, insecurity, comparison, and emotional exhaustion. But even more than that, I’m sharing the exact things I’m doing to get through it with God, not just around it.
This episode is for the girl who’s trying to heal, trying to show up, but feeling a little too human. You’ll learn how to anchor yourself in truth when emotions lie, how to give yourself grace without spiraling, and how to let God meet you inthe pain instead of rushing past it.
So grab your journal and let’s talk. I promise this episode will meet you right where you are.
See you on the inside, xo, Dani
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If you clicked on this episode, I want you to know that I see you and I feel, I feel what you're going through on a deep level because I, over the last four to eight hours I have had.
Just a hard time, and maybe you are in the middle of a hard day, or maybe it's been a string of hard days and you feel like you, they just won't stop.
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Right? They keep coming.
Um, either way, I pray that you're in a place right now where you can just take a breather, okay? Where you can give yourself the space that you need to.
Just be human and to process and to feel for a, for a little bit.
Okay? And I want you to know that my main objective from this, this podcast episode today is for you to know that you're not alone.
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And that hard days are normal, especially when you have just been betrayed, when you've just been wounded, when you've just experienced some form of loss.
Like having the hard days is normal.
And I want this to be about.
How to like just helping you, coming alongside you as, as another wo like woman.
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A woman in the middle of my own storm.
You know, this is not as Coach Danny or mentor Danny.
This is like the Danny that is having a hard day and what I want to leave you with and what is helping me get through a hard time myself.
Okay.
You know, if you've been following for some time, you know that about three months ago something happened within my marriage that.
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Really was so hard and it, you know, since then I've, I've, I've walked through, I've been walking through waves of healing and I thought that I was like past it because God definitely supernaturally came in and healed my heart.
Um.
But I realized that it wasn't all the way healed.
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And it's so funny because I tell this to people all the time, like, healing is a constant journey.
It's not this destination.
And man, I'll tell you, I am fully living in that statement and realization like it is a process and I'm in the middle of this process with you girl.
Um, you know, since, since then, you know, I've been.
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And, and some days are, and some days are really good, and then some days.
It hits pretty hard and you have this realization and you have, and you have these moments where you just gotta cry it out, where it's just you and the Lord and it's like, God, why is this hurt so bad? Why can't I just be done? Like I'm so annoyed with myself, and you go through all these different emotions and so.
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Today's episode's not coming from Mount.
I'm from a mountaintop.
Okay? It's coming from the valley.
It's coming from the middle of the process.
I'm sitting here right next to you and I wanna talk to you about what to do, and you are having.
A hard freaking day.
You know, the kind that tries to take you out mentally, emotionally, where your mind feels like it's racing and you, you, you just have these, you just find tears dropping from your face or maybe you're on the opposite and maybe you, you are not crying at all where it is still a hard day, but you're, you're not allowing the emotion to come out.
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So no matter what you find yourself in, grab your journal.
This is gonna be a really honest, raw and hopefully just something that speaks.
Right to your soul, and we're gonna get through it together. 36 00:03:32,396.1054177 --> 00:03:33,596.1054177 Hey, beautiful. 37 00:03:33,716.1054177 --> 00:03:37,496.1054177 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 38 00:03:37,556.1054177 --> 00:04:01,856.1054177 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 39 00:04:01,886.1054177 --> 00:04:03,26.1054177 I've been there too. 40 00:04:03,146.1054177 --> 00:04:10,376.1054177 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 41 00:04:10,466.1054177 --> 00:04:27,176.1054177 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 42 00:04:27,336.1054177 --> 00:04:42,456.1054177 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 43 00:04:42,696.1054177 --> 00:04:45,666.1054177 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 44 00:04:45,756.1054177 --> 00:04:49,896.1054177 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 45 00:04:50,16.1054177 --> 00:04:51,786.1054177 One step at a time. 46 00:04:52,135.65312648 --> 00:05:07,885.65312648 You know what's so crazy about growing up or being in this generation, not even growing up, being in this generation, is that I have found some of my best friends from online communities and something about, you know, whenever you. 47 00:05:08,10.65312648 --> 00:05:11,850.65312648 Are in the middle of, of needing to heal. 48 00:05:11,850.65312648 --> 00:05:23,40.65312648 When you are in the middle of struggle, of challenge, of questioning everything, your identity, your worth, your purpose, your relationship with God, your, your mental health. 49 00:05:23,365.65312648 --> 00:05:24,685.65312648 You don't need to go through it alone. 50 00:05:24,685.65312648 --> 00:05:25,615.65312648 You need community. 51 00:05:25,615.65312648 --> 00:05:33,925.65312648 And if you find yourself without a sister friend, okay, without a sister in Christ, without somebody to come alongside you and walk that, that path with you. 52 00:05:34,225.65312648 --> 00:05:42,55.65312648 I want, I wanna invite you over into the free community that I have for women, specifically on the podcast that, that are listeners of the show. 53 00:05:42,385.65312648 --> 00:05:43,765.65312648 And we have almost a hundred women. 54 00:05:43,765.65312648 --> 00:05:44,695.65312648 We're at 99. 55 00:05:44,815.65312648 --> 00:05:46,225.65312648 We're at 99 women. 56 00:05:46,255.65312648 --> 00:05:50,875.65312648 The last time that I checked, which was today, Sunday, May 18th, and yeah. 57 00:05:50,910.65312648 --> 00:05:53,370.65312648 If you, if you need some community, come on over. 58 00:05:53,370.65312648 --> 00:05:56,730.65312648 You can join at wp.com/the 59 00:05:56,730.65312648 --> 00:05:57,510.65312648 Healing circle. 60 00:05:57,780.65312648 --> 00:06:01,920.65312648 That's WP WHO p.com/the 61 00:06:01,920.65312648 --> 00:06:02,850.65312648 healing circle. 62 00:06:05,755.65312648 --> 00:06:17,215.65312648 This is where you're gonna find other women who are just literally also in the middle of their healing process, t taking it, making it priority for them to pour into themselves and just like-minded women. 63 00:06:17,245.65312648 --> 00:06:23,305.65312648 So I invite you to come on over, share a little bit about yourself, introduce yourself, and just be vulnerable and real. 64 00:06:23,335.65312648 --> 00:06:26,995.65312648 That's the best way for you to experience healing. 65 00:06:27,295.65312648 --> 00:06:27,595.65312648 Okay. 66 00:06:27,925.65312648 --> 00:06:33,25.65312648 Now getting into getting into what I have for you today, I'm just gonna speak from the heart. 67 00:06:33,25.65312648 --> 00:06:52,495.65312648 Okay? I hope that's fine, but what I found myself that I had to do is the first thing, just let it out and don't beat yourself up for being human, for feeling the emotions, for experiencing jealousy, comparison, insecurity, Carri. 68 00:06:53,680.65312648 --> 00:06:55,480.65312648 Times where you're just bawling. 69 00:06:55,660.65312648 --> 00:06:57,460.65312648 Like don't beat yourself up for it. 70 00:06:57,460.65312648 --> 00:07:12,190.65312648 Don't feel shame for feeling what you feel, okay? Now, I don't want us to stay there, but don't beat yourself up for it because the more that you beat yourself up for it, the more that you're annoyed at yourself for it, the less you're, you're extending love and compassion for yourself. 71 00:07:12,190.65312648 --> 00:07:14,50.65312648 Your friend would not be like. 72 00:07:14,530.65312648 --> 00:07:25,420.65312648 Listen, like you're being annoying because you keep crying or you're being annoying because you are, you are going through something that's hard and you just need to get it together. 73 00:07:25,600.65312648 --> 00:07:29,770.65312648 Like, okay, if a friend did that, they're just not really that great of a friend, like. 74 00:07:30,15.65312648 --> 00:07:35,325.65312648 You want a friend that can, that can be empathetic with you, that can, that can just sit with you. 75 00:07:35,325.65312648 --> 00:07:44,715.65312648 Whether it's just a body literally that's just there, that that is, that is sitting with you, letting you know that you're not alone or somebody there that is speaking life back into you. 76 00:07:44,715.65312648 --> 00:07:47,955.65312648 You need a real friend and you need to be that for yourself. 77 00:07:48,315.65312648 --> 00:07:51,345.65312648 Okay? A lot of us get mad, including myself. 78 00:07:51,345.65312648 --> 00:07:55,485.65312648 I found myself getting so annoyed, like even when I go, went and got prayer. 79 00:07:56,290.65312648 --> 00:07:59,320.65312648 Um, I know it wasn't, whenever I got prayer, I was speaking to my husband about it. 80 00:07:59,320.65312648 --> 00:08:05,530.65312648 I was, I was just telling him like, how annoyed, how annoyed I am for feeling the way that I feel. 81 00:08:06,460.65312648 --> 00:08:08,410.65312648 And a lot of us feel that way. 82 00:08:08,410.65312648 --> 00:08:16,120.65312648 A lot of us get mad at ourselves for being sad, for being triggered, for being emotionally off, for not being okay. 83 00:08:16,270.65312648 --> 00:08:19,270.65312648 And we say things like, I should be over this by now. 84 00:08:19,300.65312648 --> 00:08:25,630.65312648 Or, you know, why am I still crying about this? Literally girl's feelings in crying. 85 00:08:25,630.65312648 --> 00:08:27,520.65312648 Do not, it does not make you weak. 86 00:08:28,30.65312648 --> 00:08:28,960.65312648 They lit. 87 00:08:28,960.65312648 --> 00:08:41,290.65312648 It's literally just evidence that you are human, so you have to give yourself compassion and stop trying to fix yourself in one day, in one week, in one month. 88 00:08:42,565.65312648 --> 00:08:44,245.65312648 God is not rushing you. 89 00:08:44,245.65312648 --> 00:08:46,45.65312648 He's not rushing this process. 90 00:08:46,45.65312648 --> 00:08:48,205.65312648 In fact, he's in these details. 91 00:08:48,205.65312648 --> 00:08:53,515.65312648 He is right in the detail of when you are slapped on your bathroom floor, crying it out. 92 00:08:54,100.65312648 --> 00:08:54,550.65312648 Okay. 93 00:08:54,790.65312648 --> 00:09:00,880.65312648 When you're crying in your car, in between meetings or going away work or from work, he is with you. 94 00:09:00,880.65312648 --> 00:09:09,880.65312648 And these are the moments like we, we, most of the time, we want God to show up in these big ways and we expect him only to show up in these big ways, but he shows up in the very small. 95 00:09:09,940.65312648 --> 00:09:25,300.65312648 Details of your life in the moments where you find yourself crying in your bed, when, when you're processing, when you're feeling these emotions of jealousy or insecurity or you're comparing yourself with with another woman, and it's like, okay, you have to go through in your mind like, Lord, help me. 96 00:09:25,300.65312648 --> 00:09:26,680.65312648 Like I know this is not your truth. 97 00:09:27,730.65312648 --> 00:09:38,860.65312648 And this is kind of getting into my next point, but like, it's these moments where you're, where you find yourself being able to depend on God more and being more, cultivating a more intimate relationship with him. 98 00:09:39,100.65312648 --> 00:09:43,930.65312648 And that right there is how you can find the, the beauty out of this. 99 00:09:44,950.65312648 --> 00:09:53,50.65312648 Okay? So if God is not rushing you, why are you rushing? You? I love Psalms 34 18. 100 00:09:53,50.65312648 --> 00:09:55,540.65312648 This is my, this is my scripture that I'm standing on. 101 00:09:55,540.65312648 --> 00:09:55,900.65312648 All right. 102 00:09:56,200.65312648 --> 00:09:58,270.65312648 I recommend, I remember my good friend telling me. 103 00:09:59,380.65312648 --> 00:10:03,340.65312648 Are you okay? What scripture are you standing on? Do you have a scripture to stand on? I find a scripture to stand on. 104 00:10:03,340.65312648 --> 00:10:04,540.65312648 I'm like, I, you know what? I love that. 105 00:10:04,540.65312648 --> 00:10:10,270.65312648 I need to find a scripture to stand on so that way I can speak, speak out truth whenever I am. 106 00:10:10,450.65312648 --> 00:10:11,860.65312648 My mind is so crazy. 107 00:10:11,860.65312648 --> 00:10:13,30.65312648 My feelings are wack. 108 00:10:13,90.65312648 --> 00:10:13,450.65312648 Alright. 109 00:10:13,450.65312648 --> 00:10:14,110.65312648 They're wacky. 110 00:10:14,445.65312648 --> 00:10:21,915.65312648 Psalm 38 18 tells us the Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 111 00:10:22,155.65312648 --> 00:10:23,685.65312648 What a beautiful promise. 112 00:10:23,715.65312648 --> 00:10:28,275.65312648 He is close to those who are broken hearted, and he saves those who are crushed In spirit. 113 00:10:28,275.65312648 --> 00:10:32,265.65312648 You are not in a hopeless period of time. 114 00:10:32,565.65312648 --> 00:10:37,605.65312648 This is just a moment in your story, a moment in your life that is not gonna be forever. 115 00:10:37,605.65312648 --> 00:10:39,75.65312648 You're not gonna feel like this forever. 116 00:10:39,465.65312648 --> 00:10:42,15.65312648 Okay? This is just part of your story. 117 00:10:42,370.65312648 --> 00:10:46,840.65312648 This moment does not make you a, a, a, a, um, a cry baby. 118 00:10:46,840.65312648 --> 00:10:52,510.65312648 This moment does not make you a, um, an emotionally off person. 119 00:10:52,900.65312648 --> 00:11:04,240.65312648 Um, a, a bad friend, a bad sister, a bad wife, a bad girlfriend, um, or whatever other like identity frames that you're telling yourself annoying. 120 00:11:04,630.65312648 --> 00:11:05,620.65312648 That does not make you that. 121 00:11:06,520.65312648 --> 00:11:06,910.65312648 Okay. 122 00:11:07,150.65312648 --> 00:11:11,230.65312648 So stop beating yourself up for being human and allow and get it out. 123 00:11:11,230.65312648 --> 00:11:12,730.65312648 Don't hold it back. 124 00:11:12,730.65312648 --> 00:11:13,870.65312648 Just get out the tears. 125 00:11:13,870.65312648 --> 00:11:16,390.65312648 Get out the screams, get it out of you. 126 00:11:16,840.65312648 --> 00:11:27,340.65312648 Okay? Now my second point, and this is a non-negotiable, like all these, yes, but this one is a non-negotiable because if you do not do this one, you are gonna be stuck. 127 00:11:27,640.65312648 --> 00:11:32,230.65312648 Stuck girl, okay? Stuck in the lies that the enemy is feeding you. 128 00:11:32,560.65312648 --> 00:11:35,590.65312648 So the second point is anchor yourself. 129 00:11:35,920.65312648 --> 00:11:37,780.65312648 In what you know to be true. 130 00:11:38,410.65312648 --> 00:11:43,870.65312648 Okay? Anger yourself in truth not what you feel, right? Feelings are meant to be felt. 131 00:11:43,900.65312648 --> 00:11:45,520.65312648 They're not meant to be followed. 132 00:11:46,360.65312648 --> 00:11:48,700.65312648 Feelings are real, but they are not facts. 133 00:11:48,700.65312648 --> 00:11:51,130.65312648 They only can lead to the facts. 134 00:11:51,550.65312648 --> 00:11:56,680.65312648 So when you're spiraling, you've got to have something stronger than your emotions. 135 00:11:56,740.65312648 --> 00:12:13,60.65312648 Okay? When you're feeling like you're inadequate or you feel like you are, you have less value, a weight, lesser value than another woman, or you're less beautiful than another woman, you, these are not you, you actually get to make the decision, like you don't have to do this. 136 00:12:13,250.65312648 --> 00:12:14,150.65312648 This is up to you. 137 00:12:14,300.65312648 --> 00:12:15,740.65312648 Life is is you got free. 138 00:12:15,740.65312648 --> 00:12:27,640.65312648 Will you have choices? You can choose to believe and to feed the lie that, that you're not as beautiful, that you're, you don't have value, that you're, you're always gonna stay in this, this place. 139 00:12:27,640.65312648 --> 00:12:34,300.65312648 You're always gonna have hard days, or you can root yourself on the word of God like Isaiah 40 29. 140 00:12:34,300.65312648 --> 00:12:38,860.65312648 He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak or Psalms. 141 00:12:39,130.65312648 --> 00:12:40,120.65312648 1 47. 142 00:12:40,120.65312648 --> 00:12:40,990.65312648 Oh, I've said this one already. 143 00:12:41,20.65312648 --> 00:12:44,860.65312648 Psalms 1 47, 3 that he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. 144 00:12:45,70.65312648 --> 00:12:50,140.65312648 Jeremiah 1714 where he says, heal me Lord and I will be healed. 145 00:12:50,230.65312648 --> 00:12:52,750.65312648 Heal me Lord, and I will be healed. 146 00:12:52,990.65312648 --> 00:12:56,890.65312648 And this is a constant prayer right? When things come up. 147 00:12:57,40.65312648 --> 00:13:03,100.65312648 It's not just a heal me one time, okay? Like we've seen Jesus do many physical healings and yes. 148 00:13:03,985.65312648 --> 00:13:10,705.65312648 How amazing is our God? He does not live in a box, okay? He is not confined by what we can even think or imagine. 149 00:13:10,795.65312648 --> 00:13:21,595.65312648 Okay? He goes far beyond it, and so all the instances where he is healing people physically throughout scripture, throughout the gospels, he can heal. 150 00:13:22,415.65312648 --> 00:13:26,285.65312648 He can heal us mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. 151 00:13:26,555.65312648 --> 00:13:34,685.65312648 And it's every single moment where we're feeling, feeling the hurt, feeling the insecurity, feeling the betrayal, feeling the abandonment. 152 00:13:34,805.65312648 --> 00:13:36,545.65312648 It comes up feeling the trauma. 153 00:13:37,115.65312648 --> 00:13:44,345.65312648 It's like crying out to Lord, heal me, Lord, heal me in this, you say that we'll be healed by our wounds. 154 00:13:45,515.65312648 --> 00:13:49,295.65312648 And I and I, and I trust that, that I will be healed on your time. 155 00:13:50,500.65312648 --> 00:13:50,830.65312648 Okay. 156 00:13:51,520.65312648 --> 00:13:57,880.65312648 Um, so you have to have something to anchor you, a scripture to stand on, as my friend would say, you know. 157 00:13:58,210.65312648 --> 00:14:04,930.65312648 The emotions that you feel they can, they, they are very, emotions feel so powerful and they, they very much are powerful. 158 00:14:04,930.65312648 --> 00:14:08,380.65312648 They, if you allow them, they can dictate your decision making. 159 00:14:08,590.65312648 --> 00:14:14,260.65312648 And most of the time, most people live in a, in a way where their emotions do dictate their decisions. 160 00:14:14,260.65312648 --> 00:14:27,10.65312648 This is why people get obese or this is why people, um, get, get discouraged and quit business is because they feed into their emotions versus. 161 00:14:27,475.65312648 --> 00:14:30,445.65312648 The plan of action, the workout plan, or the business plan. 162 00:14:31,450.65312648 --> 00:14:43,900.65312648 Okay, so you know these emotions are, they're very powerful and they can convince you that things will never get better, that you're not good enough, or that God forgot about you, that he's not with you. 163 00:14:44,140.65312648 --> 00:14:50,740.65312648 And what does that sound like? That sounds exactly like the freaking father of lies, the enemy that wants to come in and keep you in that spot. 164 00:14:50,890.65312648 --> 00:14:54,700.65312648 And so this is, this is these specific moments where you need that anchor. 165 00:14:54,700.65312648 --> 00:14:57,880.65312648 Something that does not move even when you feel like you're. 166 00:14:58,735.65312648 --> 00:14:59,215.65312648 Excuse me. 167 00:14:59,425.65312648 --> 00:15:02,995.65312648 When you feel like you're scattered, when you feel like you're falling apart, when life doesn't make sense. 168 00:15:02,995.65312648 --> 00:15:04,15.65312648 When life hurts. 169 00:15:04,765.65312648 --> 00:15:07,405.65312648 And I need you to speak this truth out loud. 170 00:15:07,405.65312648 --> 00:15:10,795.65312648 It's not just about reading it, it's about speaking it out loud. 171 00:15:10,855.65312648 --> 00:15:12,295.65312648 Don't just read the scripture. 172 00:15:12,325.65312648 --> 00:15:13,435.65312648 You've gotta declare it. 173 00:15:13,435.65312648 --> 00:15:14,125.65312648 You've gotta pray it. 174 00:15:14,125.65312648 --> 00:15:15,445.65312648 You've gotta use it as your weapon. 175 00:15:15,655.65312648 --> 00:15:18,145.65312648 If it's hard for you to pray, play worship, music. 176 00:15:18,145.65312648 --> 00:15:19,285.65312648 Don't let that stop you. 177 00:15:19,345.65312648 --> 00:15:22,675.65312648 Worship is a form 'cause it's, it's, it's speaking and it's singing out. 178 00:15:22,675.65312648 --> 00:15:23,365.65312648 Scripture. 179 00:15:23,905.65312648 --> 00:15:28,105.65312648 Get this in the atmosphere and watch it change. 180 00:15:28,495.65312648 --> 00:15:30,955.65312648 Change the dynamic of what you're feeling. 181 00:15:31,285.65312648 --> 00:15:31,765.65312648 Okay. 182 00:15:32,185.65312648 --> 00:15:34,345.65312648 Or your perspective on it. 183 00:15:35,305.65312648 --> 00:15:35,785.65312648 Alright. 184 00:15:36,205.65312648 --> 00:15:42,145.65312648 Um, another scripture that I wanna share in this too is, and I, I encourage you to find your own scripture, right? Something that really speaks to you. 185 00:15:42,715.65312648 --> 00:15:49,795.65312648 Two Corinthians 12, nine is a beautiful one because the thing about this is like, we have to surrender it to the Lord. 186 00:15:49,795.65312648 --> 00:15:51,775.65312648 We cannot do it in our own strength. 187 00:15:51,775.65312648 --> 00:15:53,785.65312648 We cannot heal ourselves in our own strength. 188 00:15:53,785.65312648 --> 00:15:56,35.65312648 We cannot get better in our own strength. 189 00:15:56,485.65312648 --> 00:16:04,60.65312648 And it's, guess what? In two Corinthians 12, nine, it says, my grace is sufficient for you. 190 00:16:04,450.65312648 --> 00:16:10,540.65312648 Not just your neighbor, not just your mom, not just your friend, not just the girl on Instagram, but for you. 191 00:16:10,870.65312648 --> 00:16:16,330.65312648 My power, for my power is made perfect in weakness. 192 00:16:16,630.65312648 --> 00:16:21,610.65312648 So, man, if you, if I feel like I'm in the valley right now, man, I feel weak and I'm preaching to myself. 193 00:16:21,910.65312648 --> 00:16:22,690.65312648 I feel weak. 194 00:16:22,720.65312648 --> 00:16:25,360.65312648 I feel like I am down for the freaking count. 195 00:16:25,360.65312648 --> 00:16:25,960.65312648 I feel like. 196 00:16:26,905.65312648 --> 00:16:41,425.6531265 You know, it's, it's, it's, I don't know if we know how I'm going to get to a place where I, where I, where I don't deal with the things that I'm dealing with, these negative thoughts, these things that make me wanna spiral these things that make me relive the pain. 197 00:16:42,865.6531265 --> 00:16:45,535.6531265 This is when God's power is made perfect. 198 00:16:45,895.6531265 --> 00:16:47,905.6531265 And I'm sure we can go such layers. 199 00:16:47,905.6531265 --> 00:16:55,195.6531265 And you know what, this is gonna be a study that I do after this such layers in what that actually means for my powers made perfect in weakness. 200 00:16:55,795.6531265 --> 00:16:57,415.6531265 What an amazing promise. 201 00:16:58,45.6531265 --> 00:17:01,615.6531265 So let these verses, whatever verse that you need, study you. 202 00:17:01,615.6531265 --> 00:17:09,205.6531265 When your emotions try to sweep you, sweep you away and believe the lie of the enemy versus the promises of the father. 203 00:17:10,75.6531265 --> 00:17:20,815.6531265 Now, the third thing that you've gotta do is you've gotta, I, I've mentioned it in the second one, but you have to surrender to the Lord and you have to do the next loving thing. 204 00:17:21,535.6531265 --> 00:17:21,985.6531265 Okay. 205 00:17:22,75.6531265 --> 00:17:27,955.6531265 I kind of just wanna combine these, but because doing the next loving thing for yourself is surrendering it to the Lord. 206 00:17:28,315.6531265 --> 00:17:47,905.6531265 Like if you have experienced betrayal, and maybe you are, maybe you've experienced betrayal and you're trying to rebuild the relationship with your partner, um, or rebuild trust between you and a friend or something, and it's really hard, and these, these, these sparks of insecurity and jealousy in comparison comes up then. 207 00:17:47,965.6531265 --> 00:17:58,225.6531265 Uh, then you may find yourself trying to control things or to operate out of pride or trying to fix, or trying to prevent something like that from happening again. 208 00:17:58,225.6531265 --> 00:18:03,265.6531265 And you find yourself doing and working and striving in your own power, and you've gotta lay it down. 209 00:18:03,535.6531265 --> 00:18:07,195.6531265 You have to lay it down at the foot of the cross, and you have to recognize who's in charge. 210 00:18:07,615.6531265 --> 00:18:16,645.6531265 Do you want yourself to be in charge or do you want God the father who knows all things and know ev knows every single heart so deeply. 211 00:18:17,620.6531265 --> 00:18:20,230.6531265 Do you want him to be in charge? Okay. 212 00:18:21,700.6531265 --> 00:18:24,400.6531265 His scripture says that my yoke is easy. 213 00:18:24,400.6531265 --> 00:18:25,990.6531265 My burden is light. 214 00:18:26,470.6531265 --> 00:18:37,90.6531265 Not saying that we won't experience burdens, we won't, we won't feel burdens, but the Lord is our, our shepherd. 215 00:18:37,90.6531265 --> 00:18:42,850.6531265 He's the one that went to the cross and finished the work so that we wouldn't have to carry our own burdens. 216 00:18:43,270.6531265 --> 00:18:44,950.6531265 Okay? We can lay them on him. 217 00:18:45,820.6531265 --> 00:18:47,50.6531265 It's a beautiful promise. 218 00:18:47,860.6531265 --> 00:18:58,330.6531265 So instead of trying to fix everything and feel like for things to not be out of control, you have to be in every single detail and be in control of everything. 219 00:18:58,930.6531265 --> 00:18:59,560.6531265 Surrender. 220 00:18:59,560.6531265 --> 00:19:03,310.6531265 Let go of that control and just take the very next gentle step. 221 00:19:03,310.6531265 --> 00:19:05,110.6531265 So the first one is definitely surrendering it. 222 00:19:05,140.6531265 --> 00:19:07,150.6531265 Okay? That's the first step that you have to take. 223 00:19:07,270.6531265 --> 00:19:14,425.6531265 And then secondly, right, you ask yourself, what is the next loving thing that I could do? Okay. 224 00:19:14,665.6531265 --> 00:19:17,815.6531265 Maybe it is washing your face, doing your full skincare routine. 225 00:19:17,815.6531265 --> 00:19:20,875.6531265 Maybe it is doing an everything shower, going for a long walk. 226 00:19:21,25.6531265 --> 00:19:22,435.6531265 Journaling. 227 00:19:22,465.6531265 --> 00:19:23,65.6531265 Yes. 228 00:19:23,95.6531265 --> 00:19:23,575.6531265 Journaling. 229 00:19:23,575.6531265 --> 00:19:31,825.6531265 Because I promise you, whenever you pick up your journal in a year from now, you're gonna look back at this day and you are gonna feel so much compassion for this version of you. 230 00:19:31,975.6531265 --> 00:19:35,395.6531265 So that's another sign of feel compassion for yourself right now. 231 00:19:35,935.6531265 --> 00:19:37,45.6531265 Okay? Like, wow. 232 00:19:37,615.6531265 --> 00:19:38,995.6531265 Dani was going through a hard day. 233 00:19:39,295.6531265 --> 00:19:40,225.6531265 I'm so proud of her. 234 00:19:40,945.6531265 --> 00:19:42,775.6531265 Journal girlfriend, you'll think yourself later. 235 00:19:43,195.6531265 --> 00:19:50,155.6531265 You know, maybe it's making tea, just having time with, with your tea and like your candle and your, your, your, your calming music. 236 00:19:50,155.6531265 --> 00:19:52,345.6531265 Like take that space. 237 00:19:52,855.6531265 --> 00:20:00,925.6531265 You're, I mean, is it sitting in the sun for five minutes? You know, don't underestimate the power of these small actions and doing the thing that you tell yourself you're gonna do. 238 00:20:00,925.6531265 --> 00:20:05,665.6531265 So tell yourself you're gonna do something, whether it's taking an everything shower and then do it, or. 239 00:20:06,25.6531265 --> 00:20:15,25.6531265 Have, make dinner, get creative with dinner, make a new recipe, whatever it is that is gonna bring you a little bit of joy that is going to showcase love to yourself. 240 00:20:15,595.6531265 --> 00:20:24,115.6531265 Like ask yourself, what is, what would I really want my friend to do for me right now? What do, what would, what is it? How would I wanna be served right now? And do it for yourself. 241 00:20:24,715.6531265 --> 00:20:29,155.6531265 That is an extension of, of showing love for yourself, where you really need it. 242 00:20:29,155.6531265 --> 00:20:31,945.6531265 You need, you need this extra love on a hard day. 243 00:20:32,455.6531265 --> 00:20:34,525.6531265 Okay? Um. 244 00:20:34,975.6531265 --> 00:20:42,955.6531265 So moving to the fourth thing, right, and this is, was this is actually one of the things that you can do for yourself and I recommend doing for, for yourself. 245 00:20:43,315.6531265 --> 00:20:49,615.6531265 So I'm just going to wrap this into a number four, but you've got to let somebody in. 246 00:20:50,635.6531265 --> 00:21:10,795.6531265 Okay, you, you've got to tell somebody what you're going through, what you're struggling with, and I recommend somebody that you trust, right? Somebody that's not gonna sit and sulk with you, but somebody that is going to provide wisdom to you, somebody that is going to speak life to you, somebody that is going to speak to the lie, rebuke the lie, and re give you truth to stand on. 247 00:21:11,365.6531265 --> 00:21:11,785.6531265 Okay. 248 00:21:12,205.6531265 --> 00:21:25,615.6531265 Whenever you're sitting in isolation, especially on your hard days, when you're just wanting to wrap up, when you're wanting to just, just excuse yourself from like, the realities of life, whether it's you're, you're sitting into doom scrolling or, or watching tv. 249 00:21:26,590.6531265 --> 00:21:29,890.6531265 Um, or, um, or just sleeping all day. 250 00:21:29,890.6531265 --> 00:21:36,340.6531265 Like you've got to get out of this place where you're isolating yourself because the enemy loves secrecy. 251 00:21:36,340.6531265 --> 00:21:37,390.6531265 He thrives. 252 00:21:37,390.6531265 --> 00:21:43,540.6531265 When you don't have any godly community around you, when you don't have somebody there that's gonna encourage you, that's gonna speak truth over you. 253 00:21:43,930.6531265 --> 00:21:53,710.6531265 You know, this is why I believe James five 16 tells us to confess our sins to one another, and that the prayer of a right, of a righteous person, um, accomplishes much. 254 00:21:53,740.6531265 --> 00:21:54,700.6531265 It's because. 255 00:21:55,585.6531265 --> 00:22:03,775.6531265 When and confessing your sins is not just confessing your sins, but it is actually, if we go deep into it, and this is not what this is about, but confessing your sins. 256 00:22:03,775.6531265 --> 00:22:08,875.6531265 Like anytime we, we believe something that is not of God, that is not true. 257 00:22:08,875.6531265 --> 00:22:19,885.6531265 Believing these lies that we're not good enough, et cetera, we are coming in agreement with the enemy, okay? And that is opposing God's commands, God's truth. 258 00:22:20,410.6531265 --> 00:22:22,60.6531265 The word of what he says about you. 259 00:22:22,240.6531265 --> 00:22:30,280.6531265 Okay? So confessing these things, confessing what you're going through, the whatever deep feelings that you're, you're feeling right now. 260 00:22:30,490.6531265 --> 00:22:35,740.6531265 Sharing it with somebody who is going to encourage you in that, or even just sit with you in it. 261 00:22:36,280.6531265 --> 00:22:45,790.6531265 Okay? And even like sharing, being able to share, there's something powerful when you share, right? Confessing when you share, it brings a level of healing to you actually. 262 00:22:46,330.6531265 --> 00:22:48,190.6531265 So all of it is very purposeful. 263 00:22:49,15.6531265 --> 00:22:59,455.6531265 So whether it's a trusted friend, a mentor, a therapist, somebody inside the community, even if you're a part of other online communities or if you need one, come on over to the healing circle. 264 00:22:59,755.6531265 --> 00:23:03,295.6531265 Like, don't walk through this alone, okay? Don't believe that you're a burden. 265 00:23:03,295.6531265 --> 00:23:04,135.6531265 You are not a burden. 266 00:23:04,135.6531265 --> 00:23:08,305.6531265 You are a blessing and you're vulnerability could actually help somebody else heal too. 267 00:23:08,485.6531265 --> 00:23:11,550.6531265 And most, more times than not, it actually does. 268 00:23:12,295.6531265 --> 00:23:14,515.6531265 So don't hold off on that. 269 00:23:14,995.6531265 --> 00:23:28,240.6531265 Um, just kind of like a recap, right? Number one, you've got to understand that you, you are human, so don't beat yourself up for it, okay? Don't feel shame for what you're feeling. 270 00:23:28,660.6531265 --> 00:23:33,190.6531265 Number two, you've gotta anchor yourself in what you know to be true, not in what you feel. 271 00:23:33,820.6531265 --> 00:23:36,370.6531265 Number three, do the next loving thing for yourself. 272 00:23:36,370.6531265 --> 00:23:46,90.6531265 That first step is of course, surrendering it to God, laying it at the foot of the cross, and then two, it's something else that is go that the way that you wanna be served. 273 00:23:46,150.6531265 --> 00:23:47,410.6531265 Do that for yourself today. 274 00:23:48,220.6531265 --> 00:23:50,440.6531265 And then the fourth thing, you've gotta let somebody in. 275 00:23:50,440.6531265 --> 00:23:52,390.6531265 You've gotta share where you're going through. 276 00:23:52,570.6531265 --> 00:23:54,250.6531265 And so if you need a space to share. 277 00:23:54,955.6531265 --> 00:23:56,875.6531265 Come on over to the Healing Circle. 278 00:23:56,905.6531265 --> 00:24:00,205.6531265 You can join at wp.com/the 279 00:24:00,205.6531265 --> 00:24:01,75.6531265 Healing Circle. 280 00:24:01,315.6531265 --> 00:24:07,45.6531265 Introduce yourself, share a little bit of your heart, and I'd love to speak into that, and I'm sure other women would as well. 281 00:24:07,495.6531265 --> 00:24:11,605.6531265 And, you know, give yourself grace at the end of this day, girl. 282 00:24:11,755.6531265 --> 00:24:15,535.6531265 Okay? Give, can't be superwoman every single day all the time. 283 00:24:15,535.6531265 --> 00:24:17,155.6531265 You can't be everything for everybody. 284 00:24:17,425.6531265 --> 00:24:23,5.6531265 You gotta, you gotta give yourself the same love that you extend to others and give yourself that, that grace. 285 00:24:23,950.6531265 --> 00:24:25,420.6531265 Take it one day at a time. 286 00:24:25,600.6531265 --> 00:24:34,930.6531265 1% better every day, and that 1% better may look like crying for an hour or two, and then anchoring yourself in truth, going to God. 287 00:24:35,350.6531265 --> 00:24:41,740.6531265 Right? And most of all, don't forget that God is not waiting for you to get over it. 288 00:24:42,10.6531265 --> 00:24:44,680.6531265 He's actually just sitting there with you. 289 00:24:45,340.6531265 --> 00:24:46,450.6531265 He is near. 290 00:24:46,450.6531265 --> 00:24:52,240.6531265 He is always near he and even more near 'cause He says God is, is near and close to the broken hearted. 291 00:24:52,450.6531265 --> 00:24:56,200.6531265 He is present and he's gonna carry you through this. 292 00:24:56,200.6531265 --> 00:24:58,180.6531265 This is just part of your testimony. 293 00:24:58,780.6531265 --> 00:24:59,740.6531265 I love you girl. 294 00:25:00,310.6531265 --> 00:25:11,800.6531265 I see you and I'm proud of you for pressing play on this episode and seeking out some wisdom, some help, some accountability to help you get through this hard day. 295 00:25:12,580.6531265 --> 00:25:13,990.6531265 Okay? Until next time. 296 00:25:14,635.6531265 --> 00:25:18,925.6531265 Stay tender, stay brave and just take it one day at a time. 297 00:25:19,435.6531265 --> 00:25:21,55.6531265 Okay? Love you so much. 298 00:25:21,145.6531265 --> 00:25:22,165.6531265 Well see you soon. 299 00:25:22,669.264349 --> 00:25:23,599.264349 Hey, beautiful. 300 00:25:23,599.264349 --> 00:25:27,199.264349 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 301 00:25:27,469.264349 --> 00:25:41,869.264349 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 302 00:25:41,959.264349 --> 00:25:47,29.264349 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 303 00:25:47,274.264349 --> 00:25:52,674.264349 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 304 00:25:52,734.264349 --> 00:25:55,824.264349 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 305 00:25:55,974.264349 --> 00:25:59,34.264349 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 306 00:25:59,154.264349 --> 00:26:00,774.264349 Sending you all the love. 307 00:26:00,834.264349 --> 00:26:01,974.264349 Until next time.
If you clicked on this episode, I want you to know that I see you and I feel, I feel what you're going through on a deep level because I, over the last four to eight hours I have had.
Just a hard time, and maybe you are in the middle of a hard day, or maybe it's been a string of hard days and you feel like you, they just won't stop.
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Right? They keep coming.
Um, either way, I pray that you're in a place right now where you can just take a breather, okay? Where you can give yourself the space that you need to.
Just be human and to process and to feel for a, for a little bit.
Okay? And I want you to know that my main objective from this, this podcast episode today is for you to know that you're not alone.
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And that hard days are normal, especially when you have just been betrayed, when you've just been wounded, when you've just experienced some form of loss.
Like having the hard days is normal.
And I want this to be about.
How to like just helping you, coming alongside you as, as another wo like woman.
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A woman in the middle of my own storm.
You know, this is not as Coach Danny or mentor Danny.
This is like the Danny that is having a hard day and what I want to leave you with and what is helping me get through a hard time myself.
Okay.
You know, if you've been following for some time, you know that about three months ago something happened within my marriage that.
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Really was so hard and it, you know, since then I've, I've, I've walked through, I've been walking through waves of healing and I thought that I was like past it because God definitely supernaturally came in and healed my heart.
Um.
But I realized that it wasn't all the way healed.
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And it's so funny because I tell this to people all the time, like, healing is a constant journey.
It's not this destination.
And man, I'll tell you, I am fully living in that statement and realization like it is a process and I'm in the middle of this process with you girl.
Um, you know, since, since then, you know, I've been.
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And, and some days are, and some days are really good, and then some days.
It hits pretty hard and you have this realization and you have, and you have these moments where you just gotta cry it out, where it's just you and the Lord and it's like, God, why is this hurt so bad? Why can't I just be done? Like I'm so annoyed with myself, and you go through all these different emotions and so.
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Today's episode's not coming from Mount.
I'm from a mountaintop.
Okay? It's coming from the valley.
It's coming from the middle of the process.
I'm sitting here right next to you and I wanna talk to you about what to do, and you are having.
A hard freaking day.
You know, the kind that tries to take you out mentally, emotionally, where your mind feels like it's racing and you, you, you just have these, you just find tears dropping from your face or maybe you're on the opposite and maybe you, you are not crying at all where it is still a hard day, but you're, you're not allowing the emotion to come out.
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So no matter what you find yourself in, grab your journal.
This is gonna be a really honest, raw and hopefully just something that speaks.
Right to your soul, and we're gonna get through it together. 36 00:03:32,396.1054177 --> 00:03:33,596.1054177 Hey, beautiful. 37 00:03:33,716.1054177 --> 00:03:37,496.1054177 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 38 00:03:37,556.1054177 --> 00:04:01,856.1054177 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 39 00:04:01,886.1054177 --> 00:04:03,26.1054177 I've been there too. 40 00:04:03,146.1054177 --> 00:04:10,376.1054177 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 41 00:04:10,466.1054177 --> 00:04:27,176.1054177 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 42 00:04:27,336.1054177 --> 00:04:42,456.1054177 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 43 00:04:42,696.1054177 --> 00:04:45,666.1054177 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 44 00:04:45,756.1054177 --> 00:04:49,896.1054177 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 45 00:04:50,16.1054177 --> 00:04:51,786.1054177 One step at a time. 46 00:04:52,135.65312648 --> 00:05:07,885.65312648 You know what's so crazy about growing up or being in this generation, not even growing up, being in this generation, is that I have found some of my best friends from online communities and something about, you know, whenever you. 47 00:05:08,10.65312648 --> 00:05:11,850.65312648 Are in the middle of, of needing to heal. 48 00:05:11,850.65312648 --> 00:05:23,40.65312648 When you are in the middle of struggle, of challenge, of questioning everything, your identity, your worth, your purpose, your relationship with God, your, your mental health. 49 00:05:23,365.65312648 --> 00:05:24,685.65312648 You don't need to go through it alone. 50 00:05:24,685.65312648 --> 00:05:25,615.65312648 You need community. 51 00:05:25,615.65312648 --> 00:05:33,925.65312648 And if you find yourself without a sister friend, okay, without a sister in Christ, without somebody to come alongside you and walk that, that path with you. 52 00:05:34,225.65312648 --> 00:05:42,55.65312648 I want, I wanna invite you over into the free community that I have for women, specifically on the podcast that, that are listeners of the show. 53 00:05:42,385.65312648 --> 00:05:43,765.65312648 And we have almost a hundred women. 54 00:05:43,765.65312648 --> 00:05:44,695.65312648 We're at 99. 55 00:05:44,815.65312648 --> 00:05:46,225.65312648 We're at 99 women. 56 00:05:46,255.65312648 --> 00:05:50,875.65312648 The last time that I checked, which was today, Sunday, May 18th, and yeah. 57 00:05:50,910.65312648 --> 00:05:53,370.65312648 If you, if you need some community, come on over. 58 00:05:53,370.65312648 --> 00:05:56,730.65312648 You can join at wp.com/the 59 00:05:56,730.65312648 --> 00:05:57,510.65312648 Healing circle. 60 00:05:57,780.65312648 --> 00:06:01,920.65312648 That's WP WHO p.com/the 61 00:06:01,920.65312648 --> 00:06:02,850.65312648 healing circle. 62 00:06:05,755.65312648 --> 00:06:17,215.65312648 This is where you're gonna find other women who are just literally also in the middle of their healing process, t taking it, making it priority for them to pour into themselves and just like-minded women. 63 00:06:17,245.65312648 --> 00:06:23,305.65312648 So I invite you to come on over, share a little bit about yourself, introduce yourself, and just be vulnerable and real. 64 00:06:23,335.65312648 --> 00:06:26,995.65312648 That's the best way for you to experience healing. 65 00:06:27,295.65312648 --> 00:06:27,595.65312648 Okay. 66 00:06:27,925.65312648 --> 00:06:33,25.65312648 Now getting into getting into what I have for you today, I'm just gonna speak from the heart. 67 00:06:33,25.65312648 --> 00:06:52,495.65312648 Okay? I hope that's fine, but what I found myself that I had to do is the first thing, just let it out and don't beat yourself up for being human, for feeling the emotions, for experiencing jealousy, comparison, insecurity, Carri. 68 00:06:53,680.65312648 --> 00:06:55,480.65312648 Times where you're just bawling. 69 00:06:55,660.65312648 --> 00:06:57,460.65312648 Like don't beat yourself up for it. 70 00:06:57,460.65312648 --> 00:07:12,190.65312648 Don't feel shame for feeling what you feel, okay? Now, I don't want us to stay there, but don't beat yourself up for it because the more that you beat yourself up for it, the more that you're annoyed at yourself for it, the less you're, you're extending love and compassion for yourself. 71 00:07:12,190.65312648 --> 00:07:14,50.65312648 Your friend would not be like. 72 00:07:14,530.65312648 --> 00:07:25,420.65312648 Listen, like you're being annoying because you keep crying or you're being annoying because you are, you are going through something that's hard and you just need to get it together. 73 00:07:25,600.65312648 --> 00:07:29,770.65312648 Like, okay, if a friend did that, they're just not really that great of a friend, like. 74 00:07:30,15.65312648 --> 00:07:35,325.65312648 You want a friend that can, that can be empathetic with you, that can, that can just sit with you. 75 00:07:35,325.65312648 --> 00:07:44,715.65312648 Whether it's just a body literally that's just there, that that is, that is sitting with you, letting you know that you're not alone or somebody there that is speaking life back into you. 76 00:07:44,715.65312648 --> 00:07:47,955.65312648 You need a real friend and you need to be that for yourself. 77 00:07:48,315.65312648 --> 00:07:51,345.65312648 Okay? A lot of us get mad, including myself. 78 00:07:51,345.65312648 --> 00:07:55,485.65312648 I found myself getting so annoyed, like even when I go, went and got prayer. 79 00:07:56,290.65312648 --> 00:07:59,320.65312648 Um, I know it wasn't, whenever I got prayer, I was speaking to my husband about it. 80 00:07:59,320.65312648 --> 00:08:05,530.65312648 I was, I was just telling him like, how annoyed, how annoyed I am for feeling the way that I feel. 81 00:08:06,460.65312648 --> 00:08:08,410.65312648 And a lot of us feel that way. 82 00:08:08,410.65312648 --> 00:08:16,120.65312648 A lot of us get mad at ourselves for being sad, for being triggered, for being emotionally off, for not being okay. 83 00:08:16,270.65312648 --> 00:08:19,270.65312648 And we say things like, I should be over this by now. 84 00:08:19,300.65312648 --> 00:08:25,630.65312648 Or, you know, why am I still crying about this? Literally girl's feelings in crying. 85 00:08:25,630.65312648 --> 00:08:27,520.65312648 Do not, it does not make you weak. 86 00:08:28,30.65312648 --> 00:08:28,960.65312648 They lit. 87 00:08:28,960.65312648 --> 00:08:41,290.65312648 It's literally just evidence that you are human, so you have to give yourself compassion and stop trying to fix yourself in one day, in one week, in one month. 88 00:08:42,565.65312648 --> 00:08:44,245.65312648 God is not rushing you. 89 00:08:44,245.65312648 --> 00:08:46,45.65312648 He's not rushing this process. 90 00:08:46,45.65312648 --> 00:08:48,205.65312648 In fact, he's in these details. 91 00:08:48,205.65312648 --> 00:08:53,515.65312648 He is right in the detail of when you are slapped on your bathroom floor, crying it out. 92 00:08:54,100.65312648 --> 00:08:54,550.65312648 Okay. 93 00:08:54,790.65312648 --> 00:09:00,880.65312648 When you're crying in your car, in between meetings or going away work or from work, he is with you. 94 00:09:00,880.65312648 --> 00:09:09,880.65312648 And these are the moments like we, we, most of the time, we want God to show up in these big ways and we expect him only to show up in these big ways, but he shows up in the very small. 95 00:09:09,940.65312648 --> 00:09:25,300.65312648 Details of your life in the moments where you find yourself crying in your bed, when, when you're processing, when you're feeling these emotions of jealousy or insecurity or you're comparing yourself with with another woman, and it's like, okay, you have to go through in your mind like, Lord, help me. 96 00:09:25,300.65312648 --> 00:09:26,680.65312648 Like I know this is not your truth. 97 00:09:27,730.65312648 --> 00:09:38,860.65312648 And this is kind of getting into my next point, but like, it's these moments where you're, where you find yourself being able to depend on God more and being more, cultivating a more intimate relationship with him. 98 00:09:39,100.65312648 --> 00:09:43,930.65312648 And that right there is how you can find the, the beauty out of this. 99 00:09:44,950.65312648 --> 00:09:53,50.65312648 Okay? So if God is not rushing you, why are you rushing? You? I love Psalms 34 18. 100 00:09:53,50.65312648 --> 00:09:55,540.65312648 This is my, this is my scripture that I'm standing on. 101 00:09:55,540.65312648 --> 00:09:55,900.65312648 All right. 102 00:09:56,200.65312648 --> 00:09:58,270.65312648 I recommend, I remember my good friend telling me. 103 00:09:59,380.65312648 --> 00:10:03,340.65312648 Are you okay? What scripture are you standing on? Do you have a scripture to stand on? I find a scripture to stand on. 104 00:10:03,340.65312648 --> 00:10:04,540.65312648 I'm like, I, you know what? I love that. 105 00:10:04,540.65312648 --> 00:10:10,270.65312648 I need to find a scripture to stand on so that way I can speak, speak out truth whenever I am. 106 00:10:10,450.65312648 --> 00:10:11,860.65312648 My mind is so crazy. 107 00:10:11,860.65312648 --> 00:10:13,30.65312648 My feelings are wack. 108 00:10:13,90.65312648 --> 00:10:13,450.65312648 Alright. 109 00:10:13,450.65312648 --> 00:10:14,110.65312648 They're wacky. 110 00:10:14,445.65312648 --> 00:10:21,915.65312648 Psalm 38 18 tells us the Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 111 00:10:22,155.65312648 --> 00:10:23,685.65312648 What a beautiful promise. 112 00:10:23,715.65312648 --> 00:10:28,275.65312648 He is close to those who are broken hearted, and he saves those who are crushed In spirit. 113 00:10:28,275.65312648 --> 00:10:32,265.65312648 You are not in a hopeless period of time. 114 00:10:32,565.65312648 --> 00:10:37,605.65312648 This is just a moment in your story, a moment in your life that is not gonna be forever. 115 00:10:37,605.65312648 --> 00:10:39,75.65312648 You're not gonna feel like this forever. 116 00:10:39,465.65312648 --> 00:10:42,15.65312648 Okay? This is just part of your story. 117 00:10:42,370.65312648 --> 00:10:46,840.65312648 This moment does not make you a, a, a, a, um, a cry baby. 118 00:10:46,840.65312648 --> 00:10:52,510.65312648 This moment does not make you a, um, an emotionally off person. 119 00:10:52,900.65312648 --> 00:11:04,240.65312648 Um, a, a bad friend, a bad sister, a bad wife, a bad girlfriend, um, or whatever other like identity frames that you're telling yourself annoying. 120 00:11:04,630.65312648 --> 00:11:05,620.65312648 That does not make you that. 121 00:11:06,520.65312648 --> 00:11:06,910.65312648 Okay. 122 00:11:07,150.65312648 --> 00:11:11,230.65312648 So stop beating yourself up for being human and allow and get it out. 123 00:11:11,230.65312648 --> 00:11:12,730.65312648 Don't hold it back. 124 00:11:12,730.65312648 --> 00:11:13,870.65312648 Just get out the tears. 125 00:11:13,870.65312648 --> 00:11:16,390.65312648 Get out the screams, get it out of you. 126 00:11:16,840.65312648 --> 00:11:27,340.65312648 Okay? Now my second point, and this is a non-negotiable, like all these, yes, but this one is a non-negotiable because if you do not do this one, you are gonna be stuck. 127 00:11:27,640.65312648 --> 00:11:32,230.65312648 Stuck girl, okay? Stuck in the lies that the enemy is feeding you. 128 00:11:32,560.65312648 --> 00:11:35,590.65312648 So the second point is anchor yourself. 129 00:11:35,920.65312648 --> 00:11:37,780.65312648 In what you know to be true. 130 00:11:38,410.65312648 --> 00:11:43,870.65312648 Okay? Anger yourself in truth not what you feel, right? Feelings are meant to be felt. 131 00:11:43,900.65312648 --> 00:11:45,520.65312648 They're not meant to be followed. 132 00:11:46,360.65312648 --> 00:11:48,700.65312648 Feelings are real, but they are not facts. 133 00:11:48,700.65312648 --> 00:11:51,130.65312648 They only can lead to the facts. 134 00:11:51,550.65312648 --> 00:11:56,680.65312648 So when you're spiraling, you've got to have something stronger than your emotions. 135 00:11:56,740.65312648 --> 00:12:13,60.65312648 Okay? When you're feeling like you're inadequate or you feel like you are, you have less value, a weight, lesser value than another woman, or you're less beautiful than another woman, you, these are not you, you actually get to make the decision, like you don't have to do this. 136 00:12:13,250.65312648 --> 00:12:14,150.65312648 This is up to you. 137 00:12:14,300.65312648 --> 00:12:15,740.65312648 Life is is you got free. 138 00:12:15,740.65312648 --> 00:12:27,640.65312648 Will you have choices? You can choose to believe and to feed the lie that, that you're not as beautiful, that you're, you don't have value, that you're, you're always gonna stay in this, this place. 139 00:12:27,640.65312648 --> 00:12:34,300.65312648 You're always gonna have hard days, or you can root yourself on the word of God like Isaiah 40 29. 140 00:12:34,300.65312648 --> 00:12:38,860.65312648 He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak or Psalms. 141 00:12:39,130.65312648 --> 00:12:40,120.65312648 1 47. 142 00:12:40,120.65312648 --> 00:12:40,990.65312648 Oh, I've said this one already. 143 00:12:41,20.65312648 --> 00:12:44,860.65312648 Psalms 1 47, 3 that he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. 144 00:12:45,70.65312648 --> 00:12:50,140.65312648 Jeremiah 1714 where he says, heal me Lord and I will be healed. 145 00:12:50,230.65312648 --> 00:12:52,750.65312648 Heal me Lord, and I will be healed. 146 00:12:52,990.65312648 --> 00:12:56,890.65312648 And this is a constant prayer right? When things come up. 147 00:12:57,40.65312648 --> 00:13:03,100.65312648 It's not just a heal me one time, okay? Like we've seen Jesus do many physical healings and yes. 148 00:13:03,985.65312648 --> 00:13:10,705.65312648 How amazing is our God? He does not live in a box, okay? He is not confined by what we can even think or imagine. 149 00:13:10,795.65312648 --> 00:13:21,595.65312648 Okay? He goes far beyond it, and so all the instances where he is healing people physically throughout scripture, throughout the gospels, he can heal. 150 00:13:22,415.65312648 --> 00:13:26,285.65312648 He can heal us mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. 151 00:13:26,555.65312648 --> 00:13:34,685.65312648 And it's every single moment where we're feeling, feeling the hurt, feeling the insecurity, feeling the betrayal, feeling the abandonment. 152 00:13:34,805.65312648 --> 00:13:36,545.65312648 It comes up feeling the trauma. 153 00:13:37,115.65312648 --> 00:13:44,345.65312648 It's like crying out to Lord, heal me, Lord, heal me in this, you say that we'll be healed by our wounds. 154 00:13:45,515.65312648 --> 00:13:49,295.65312648 And I and I, and I trust that, that I will be healed on your time. 155 00:13:50,500.65312648 --> 00:13:50,830.65312648 Okay. 156 00:13:51,520.65312648 --> 00:13:57,880.65312648 Um, so you have to have something to anchor you, a scripture to stand on, as my friend would say, you know. 157 00:13:58,210.65312648 --> 00:14:04,930.65312648 The emotions that you feel they can, they, they are very, emotions feel so powerful and they, they very much are powerful. 158 00:14:04,930.65312648 --> 00:14:08,380.65312648 They, if you allow them, they can dictate your decision making. 159 00:14:08,590.65312648 --> 00:14:14,260.65312648 And most of the time, most people live in a, in a way where their emotions do dictate their decisions. 160 00:14:14,260.65312648 --> 00:14:27,10.65312648 This is why people get obese or this is why people, um, get, get discouraged and quit business is because they feed into their emotions versus. 161 00:14:27,475.65312648 --> 00:14:30,445.65312648 The plan of action, the workout plan, or the business plan. 162 00:14:31,450.65312648 --> 00:14:43,900.65312648 Okay, so you know these emotions are, they're very powerful and they can convince you that things will never get better, that you're not good enough, or that God forgot about you, that he's not with you. 163 00:14:44,140.65312648 --> 00:14:50,740.65312648 And what does that sound like? That sounds exactly like the freaking father of lies, the enemy that wants to come in and keep you in that spot. 164 00:14:50,890.65312648 --> 00:14:54,700.65312648 And so this is, this is these specific moments where you need that anchor. 165 00:14:54,700.65312648 --> 00:14:57,880.65312648 Something that does not move even when you feel like you're. 166 00:14:58,735.65312648 --> 00:14:59,215.65312648 Excuse me. 167 00:14:59,425.65312648 --> 00:15:02,995.65312648 When you feel like you're scattered, when you feel like you're falling apart, when life doesn't make sense. 168 00:15:02,995.65312648 --> 00:15:04,15.65312648 When life hurts. 169 00:15:04,765.65312648 --> 00:15:07,405.65312648 And I need you to speak this truth out loud. 170 00:15:07,405.65312648 --> 00:15:10,795.65312648 It's not just about reading it, it's about speaking it out loud. 171 00:15:10,855.65312648 --> 00:15:12,295.65312648 Don't just read the scripture. 172 00:15:12,325.65312648 --> 00:15:13,435.65312648 You've gotta declare it. 173 00:15:13,435.65312648 --> 00:15:14,125.65312648 You've gotta pray it. 174 00:15:14,125.65312648 --> 00:15:15,445.65312648 You've gotta use it as your weapon. 175 00:15:15,655.65312648 --> 00:15:18,145.65312648 If it's hard for you to pray, play worship, music. 176 00:15:18,145.65312648 --> 00:15:19,285.65312648 Don't let that stop you. 177 00:15:19,345.65312648 --> 00:15:22,675.65312648 Worship is a form 'cause it's, it's, it's speaking and it's singing out. 178 00:15:22,675.65312648 --> 00:15:23,365.65312648 Scripture. 179 00:15:23,905.65312648 --> 00:15:28,105.65312648 Get this in the atmosphere and watch it change. 180 00:15:28,495.65312648 --> 00:15:30,955.65312648 Change the dynamic of what you're feeling. 181 00:15:31,285.65312648 --> 00:15:31,765.65312648 Okay. 182 00:15:32,185.65312648 --> 00:15:34,345.65312648 Or your perspective on it. 183 00:15:35,305.65312648 --> 00:15:35,785.65312648 Alright. 184 00:15:36,205.65312648 --> 00:15:42,145.65312648 Um, another scripture that I wanna share in this too is, and I, I encourage you to find your own scripture, right? Something that really speaks to you. 185 00:15:42,715.65312648 --> 00:15:49,795.65312648 Two Corinthians 12, nine is a beautiful one because the thing about this is like, we have to surrender it to the Lord. 186 00:15:49,795.65312648 --> 00:15:51,775.65312648 We cannot do it in our own strength. 187 00:15:51,775.65312648 --> 00:15:53,785.65312648 We cannot heal ourselves in our own strength. 188 00:15:53,785.65312648 --> 00:15:56,35.65312648 We cannot get better in our own strength. 189 00:15:56,485.65312648 --> 00:16:04,60.65312648 And it's, guess what? In two Corinthians 12, nine, it says, my grace is sufficient for you. 190 00:16:04,450.65312648 --> 00:16:10,540.65312648 Not just your neighbor, not just your mom, not just your friend, not just the girl on Instagram, but for you. 191 00:16:10,870.65312648 --> 00:16:16,330.65312648 My power, for my power is made perfect in weakness. 192 00:16:16,630.65312648 --> 00:16:21,610.65312648 So, man, if you, if I feel like I'm in the valley right now, man, I feel weak and I'm preaching to myself. 193 00:16:21,910.65312648 --> 00:16:22,690.65312648 I feel weak. 194 00:16:22,720.65312648 --> 00:16:25,360.65312648 I feel like I am down for the freaking count. 195 00:16:25,360.65312648 --> 00:16:25,960.65312648 I feel like. 196 00:16:26,905.65312648 --> 00:16:41,425.6531265 You know, it's, it's, it's, I don't know if we know how I'm going to get to a place where I, where I, where I don't deal with the things that I'm dealing with, these negative thoughts, these things that make me wanna spiral these things that make me relive the pain. 197 00:16:42,865.6531265 --> 00:16:45,535.6531265 This is when God's power is made perfect. 198 00:16:45,895.6531265 --> 00:16:47,905.6531265 And I'm sure we can go such layers. 199 00:16:47,905.6531265 --> 00:16:55,195.6531265 And you know what, this is gonna be a study that I do after this such layers in what that actually means for my powers made perfect in weakness. 200 00:16:55,795.6531265 --> 00:16:57,415.6531265 What an amazing promise. 201 00:16:58,45.6531265 --> 00:17:01,615.6531265 So let these verses, whatever verse that you need, study you. 202 00:17:01,615.6531265 --> 00:17:09,205.6531265 When your emotions try to sweep you, sweep you away and believe the lie of the enemy versus the promises of the father. 203 00:17:10,75.6531265 --> 00:17:20,815.6531265 Now, the third thing that you've gotta do is you've gotta, I, I've mentioned it in the second one, but you have to surrender to the Lord and you have to do the next loving thing. 204 00:17:21,535.6531265 --> 00:17:21,985.6531265 Okay. 205 00:17:22,75.6531265 --> 00:17:27,955.6531265 I kind of just wanna combine these, but because doing the next loving thing for yourself is surrendering it to the Lord. 206 00:17:28,315.6531265 --> 00:17:47,905.6531265 Like if you have experienced betrayal, and maybe you are, maybe you've experienced betrayal and you're trying to rebuild the relationship with your partner, um, or rebuild trust between you and a friend or something, and it's really hard, and these, these, these sparks of insecurity and jealousy in comparison comes up then. 207 00:17:47,965.6531265 --> 00:17:58,225.6531265 Uh, then you may find yourself trying to control things or to operate out of pride or trying to fix, or trying to prevent something like that from happening again. 208 00:17:58,225.6531265 --> 00:18:03,265.6531265 And you find yourself doing and working and striving in your own power, and you've gotta lay it down. 209 00:18:03,535.6531265 --> 00:18:07,195.6531265 You have to lay it down at the foot of the cross, and you have to recognize who's in charge. 210 00:18:07,615.6531265 --> 00:18:16,645.6531265 Do you want yourself to be in charge or do you want God the father who knows all things and know ev knows every single heart so deeply. 211 00:18:17,620.6531265 --> 00:18:20,230.6531265 Do you want him to be in charge? Okay. 212 00:18:21,700.6531265 --> 00:18:24,400.6531265 His scripture says that my yoke is easy. 213 00:18:24,400.6531265 --> 00:18:25,990.6531265 My burden is light. 214 00:18:26,470.6531265 --> 00:18:37,90.6531265 Not saying that we won't experience burdens, we won't, we won't feel burdens, but the Lord is our, our shepherd. 215 00:18:37,90.6531265 --> 00:18:42,850.6531265 He's the one that went to the cross and finished the work so that we wouldn't have to carry our own burdens. 216 00:18:43,270.6531265 --> 00:18:44,950.6531265 Okay? We can lay them on him. 217 00:18:45,820.6531265 --> 00:18:47,50.6531265 It's a beautiful promise. 218 00:18:47,860.6531265 --> 00:18:58,330.6531265 So instead of trying to fix everything and feel like for things to not be out of control, you have to be in every single detail and be in control of everything. 219 00:18:58,930.6531265 --> 00:18:59,560.6531265 Surrender. 220 00:18:59,560.6531265 --> 00:19:03,310.6531265 Let go of that control and just take the very next gentle step. 221 00:19:03,310.6531265 --> 00:19:05,110.6531265 So the first one is definitely surrendering it. 222 00:19:05,140.6531265 --> 00:19:07,150.6531265 Okay? That's the first step that you have to take. 223 00:19:07,270.6531265 --> 00:19:14,425.6531265 And then secondly, right, you ask yourself, what is the next loving thing that I could do? Okay. 224 00:19:14,665.6531265 --> 00:19:17,815.6531265 Maybe it is washing your face, doing your full skincare routine. 225 00:19:17,815.6531265 --> 00:19:20,875.6531265 Maybe it is doing an everything shower, going for a long walk. 226 00:19:21,25.6531265 --> 00:19:22,435.6531265 Journaling. 227 00:19:22,465.6531265 --> 00:19:23,65.6531265 Yes. 228 00:19:23,95.6531265 --> 00:19:23,575.6531265 Journaling. 229 00:19:23,575.6531265 --> 00:19:31,825.6531265 Because I promise you, whenever you pick up your journal in a year from now, you're gonna look back at this day and you are gonna feel so much compassion for this version of you. 230 00:19:31,975.6531265 --> 00:19:35,395.6531265 So that's another sign of feel compassion for yourself right now. 231 00:19:35,935.6531265 --> 00:19:37,45.6531265 Okay? Like, wow. 232 00:19:37,615.6531265 --> 00:19:38,995.6531265 Dani was going through a hard day. 233 00:19:39,295.6531265 --> 00:19:40,225.6531265 I'm so proud of her. 234 00:19:40,945.6531265 --> 00:19:42,775.6531265 Journal girlfriend, you'll think yourself later. 235 00:19:43,195.6531265 --> 00:19:50,155.6531265 You know, maybe it's making tea, just having time with, with your tea and like your candle and your, your, your, your calming music. 236 00:19:50,155.6531265 --> 00:19:52,345.6531265 Like take that space. 237 00:19:52,855.6531265 --> 00:20:00,925.6531265 You're, I mean, is it sitting in the sun for five minutes? You know, don't underestimate the power of these small actions and doing the thing that you tell yourself you're gonna do. 238 00:20:00,925.6531265 --> 00:20:05,665.6531265 So tell yourself you're gonna do something, whether it's taking an everything shower and then do it, or. 239 00:20:06,25.6531265 --> 00:20:15,25.6531265 Have, make dinner, get creative with dinner, make a new recipe, whatever it is that is gonna bring you a little bit of joy that is going to showcase love to yourself. 240 00:20:15,595.6531265 --> 00:20:24,115.6531265 Like ask yourself, what is, what would I really want my friend to do for me right now? What do, what would, what is it? How would I wanna be served right now? And do it for yourself. 241 00:20:24,715.6531265 --> 00:20:29,155.6531265 That is an extension of, of showing love for yourself, where you really need it. 242 00:20:29,155.6531265 --> 00:20:31,945.6531265 You need, you need this extra love on a hard day. 243 00:20:32,455.6531265 --> 00:20:34,525.6531265 Okay? Um. 244 00:20:34,975.6531265 --> 00:20:42,955.6531265 So moving to the fourth thing, right, and this is, was this is actually one of the things that you can do for yourself and I recommend doing for, for yourself. 245 00:20:43,315.6531265 --> 00:20:49,615.6531265 So I'm just going to wrap this into a number four, but you've got to let somebody in. 246 00:20:50,635.6531265 --> 00:21:10,795.6531265 Okay, you, you've got to tell somebody what you're going through, what you're struggling with, and I recommend somebody that you trust, right? Somebody that's not gonna sit and sulk with you, but somebody that is going to provide wisdom to you, somebody that is going to speak life to you, somebody that is going to speak to the lie, rebuke the lie, and re give you truth to stand on. 247 00:21:11,365.6531265 --> 00:21:11,785.6531265 Okay. 248 00:21:12,205.6531265 --> 00:21:25,615.6531265 Whenever you're sitting in isolation, especially on your hard days, when you're just wanting to wrap up, when you're wanting to just, just excuse yourself from like, the realities of life, whether it's you're, you're sitting into doom scrolling or, or watching tv. 249 00:21:26,590.6531265 --> 00:21:29,890.6531265 Um, or, um, or just sleeping all day. 250 00:21:29,890.6531265 --> 00:21:36,340.6531265 Like you've got to get out of this place where you're isolating yourself because the enemy loves secrecy. 251 00:21:36,340.6531265 --> 00:21:37,390.6531265 He thrives. 252 00:21:37,390.6531265 --> 00:21:43,540.6531265 When you don't have any godly community around you, when you don't have somebody there that's gonna encourage you, that's gonna speak truth over you. 253 00:21:43,930.6531265 --> 00:21:53,710.6531265 You know, this is why I believe James five 16 tells us to confess our sins to one another, and that the prayer of a right, of a righteous person, um, accomplishes much. 254 00:21:53,740.6531265 --> 00:21:54,700.6531265 It's because. 255 00:21:55,585.6531265 --> 00:22:03,775.6531265 When and confessing your sins is not just confessing your sins, but it is actually, if we go deep into it, and this is not what this is about, but confessing your sins. 256 00:22:03,775.6531265 --> 00:22:08,875.6531265 Like anytime we, we believe something that is not of God, that is not true. 257 00:22:08,875.6531265 --> 00:22:19,885.6531265 Believing these lies that we're not good enough, et cetera, we are coming in agreement with the enemy, okay? And that is opposing God's commands, God's truth. 258 00:22:20,410.6531265 --> 00:22:22,60.6531265 The word of what he says about you. 259 00:22:22,240.6531265 --> 00:22:30,280.6531265 Okay? So confessing these things, confessing what you're going through, the whatever deep feelings that you're, you're feeling right now. 260 00:22:30,490.6531265 --> 00:22:35,740.6531265 Sharing it with somebody who is going to encourage you in that, or even just sit with you in it. 261 00:22:36,280.6531265 --> 00:22:45,790.6531265 Okay? And even like sharing, being able to share, there's something powerful when you share, right? Confessing when you share, it brings a level of healing to you actually. 262 00:22:46,330.6531265 --> 00:22:48,190.6531265 So all of it is very purposeful. 263 00:22:49,15.6531265 --> 00:22:59,455.6531265 So whether it's a trusted friend, a mentor, a therapist, somebody inside the community, even if you're a part of other online communities or if you need one, come on over to the healing circle. 264 00:22:59,755.6531265 --> 00:23:03,295.6531265 Like, don't walk through this alone, okay? Don't believe that you're a burden. 265 00:23:03,295.6531265 --> 00:23:04,135.6531265 You are not a burden. 266 00:23:04,135.6531265 --> 00:23:08,305.6531265 You are a blessing and you're vulnerability could actually help somebody else heal too. 267 00:23:08,485.6531265 --> 00:23:11,550.6531265 And most, more times than not, it actually does. 268 00:23:12,295.6531265 --> 00:23:14,515.6531265 So don't hold off on that. 269 00:23:14,995.6531265 --> 00:23:28,240.6531265 Um, just kind of like a recap, right? Number one, you've got to understand that you, you are human, so don't beat yourself up for it, okay? Don't feel shame for what you're feeling. 270 00:23:28,660.6531265 --> 00:23:33,190.6531265 Number two, you've gotta anchor yourself in what you know to be true, not in what you feel. 271 00:23:33,820.6531265 --> 00:23:36,370.6531265 Number three, do the next loving thing for yourself. 272 00:23:36,370.6531265 --> 00:23:46,90.6531265 That first step is of course, surrendering it to God, laying it at the foot of the cross, and then two, it's something else that is go that the way that you wanna be served. 273 00:23:46,150.6531265 --> 00:23:47,410.6531265 Do that for yourself today. 274 00:23:48,220.6531265 --> 00:23:50,440.6531265 And then the fourth thing, you've gotta let somebody in. 275 00:23:50,440.6531265 --> 00:23:52,390.6531265 You've gotta share where you're going through. 276 00:23:52,570.6531265 --> 00:23:54,250.6531265 And so if you need a space to share. 277 00:23:54,955.6531265 --> 00:23:56,875.6531265 Come on over to the Healing Circle. 278 00:23:56,905.6531265 --> 00:24:00,205.6531265 You can join at wp.com/the 279 00:24:00,205.6531265 --> 00:24:01,75.6531265 Healing Circle. 280 00:24:01,315.6531265 --> 00:24:07,45.6531265 Introduce yourself, share a little bit of your heart, and I'd love to speak into that, and I'm sure other women would as well. 281 00:24:07,495.6531265 --> 00:24:11,605.6531265 And, you know, give yourself grace at the end of this day, girl. 282 00:24:11,755.6531265 --> 00:24:15,535.6531265 Okay? Give, can't be superwoman every single day all the time. 283 00:24:15,535.6531265 --> 00:24:17,155.6531265 You can't be everything for everybody. 284 00:24:17,425.6531265 --> 00:24:23,5.6531265 You gotta, you gotta give yourself the same love that you extend to others and give yourself that, that grace. 285 00:24:23,950.6531265 --> 00:24:25,420.6531265 Take it one day at a time. 286 00:24:25,600.6531265 --> 00:24:34,930.6531265 1% better every day, and that 1% better may look like crying for an hour or two, and then anchoring yourself in truth, going to God. 287 00:24:35,350.6531265 --> 00:24:41,740.6531265 Right? And most of all, don't forget that God is not waiting for you to get over it. 288 00:24:42,10.6531265 --> 00:24:44,680.6531265 He's actually just sitting there with you. 289 00:24:45,340.6531265 --> 00:24:46,450.6531265 He is near. 290 00:24:46,450.6531265 --> 00:24:52,240.6531265 He is always near he and even more near 'cause He says God is, is near and close to the broken hearted. 291 00:24:52,450.6531265 --> 00:24:56,200.6531265 He is present and he's gonna carry you through this. 292 00:24:56,200.6531265 --> 00:24:58,180.6531265 This is just part of your testimony. 293 00:24:58,780.6531265 --> 00:24:59,740.6531265 I love you girl. 294 00:25:00,310.6531265 --> 00:25:11,800.6531265 I see you and I'm proud of you for pressing play on this episode and seeking out some wisdom, some help, some accountability to help you get through this hard day. 295 00:25:12,580.6531265 --> 00:25:13,990.6531265 Okay? Until next time. 296 00:25:14,635.6531265 --> 00:25:18,925.6531265 Stay tender, stay brave and just take it one day at a time. 297 00:25:19,435.6531265 --> 00:25:21,55.6531265 Okay? Love you so much. 298 00:25:21,145.6531265 --> 00:25:22,165.6531265 Well see you soon. 299 00:25:22,669.264349 --> 00:25:23,599.264349 Hey, beautiful. 300 00:25:23,599.264349 --> 00:25:27,199.264349 I hope you loved hanging with me today and enjoyed the episode. 301 00:25:27,469.264349 --> 00:25:41,869.264349 If so, would you take just 30 seconds and share it with someone you love who may also want to heal from past relationships and love themselves again? Also, please scroll down and leave a quick written review for the show on Apple Podcasts. 302 00:25:41,959.264349 --> 00:25:47,29.264349 This is the main way we can get this message out to our girlfriends all around the world. 303 00:25:47,274.264349 --> 00:25:52,674.264349 And it also just really blesses me to know and hear how this podcast is helping you. 304 00:25:52,734.264349 --> 00:25:55,824.264349 Okay, I need to get outta my sweats and get ready for date night. 305 00:25:55,974.264349 --> 00:25:59,34.264349 I'll meet you back here on Monday for another episode. 306 00:25:59,154.264349 --> 00:26:00,774.264349 Sending you all the love. 307 00:26:00,834.264349 --> 00:26:01,974.264349 Until next time.
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