98 | Confidence Isn’t Built in the Mirror—It’s Built in Him

Hi beautiful! ♥️

Have you ever looked in the mirror and still felt like you weren’t enough—no matter how many affirmations you spoke or how many compliments you got? Same, sis. Growing up, I carried the weight of rejection, shame, and lies about my beauty and worth… and for a long time, I thought confidence was something I had to earn.

In today’s episode, I’m getting personal. We’re talking about what it means to rebuild your confidence when it’s been crushed by your past—and why real self-worth was never meant to come from you in the first place.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not pretty enough, confident enough, or healed enough… this episode is for you. Get ready to breathe, reflect, and receive what God has been trying to show you all along: confidence isn’t built in the mirror. It’s built in Him.

Grab your journal, sis—let’s do this heart work together.

Xo, Dani

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Episode Transcript

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Beautiful question for you this morning.
Have you been fighting yourself recently looking in the mirror and thinking.
Why am I still not enough? Whether it was a comment somebody made when you were younger that is still lingering or coming up for you, or this internal voice comparing you to everybody else.

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Or maybe this has been sparked by something recent that happened, like some sort of betrayal or rejection or shame that's been coming up.
You've wrestled with feeling.
.918791146Maybe like your worth is tied to how you look, how you perform or who accepts you, But sister, real confidence. 8 00:00:46,624.918791146 --> 00:00:48,34.918791146 Okay, real confidence. 9 00:00:48,34.918791146 --> 00:00:50,44.918791146 It is not, it does not come from the mirror. 10 00:00:50,44.918791146 --> 00:00:58,744.918791146 It does not come from what you physically see about yourself or who is, is speaking life into you. 11 00:00:59,259.918791146 --> 00:01:01,179.918791146 It's built in him. 12 00:01:01,449.918791146 --> 00:01:05,829.918791146 It's not built in external circumstances or external things. 13 00:01:06,69.918791146 --> 00:01:08,79.918791146 It is built in God. 14 00:01:08,199.918791146 --> 00:01:24,219.918791146 And this is what I want you to leave knowing in your bones today, because this was a recent just deeper revelation shift that, that I believe God spoke to me personally in the midst of, of a deep. 15 00:01:24,679.918791146 --> 00:01:30,199.918791146 Like a deeply wounded healing, um, moment with him. 16 00:01:30,289.918791146 --> 00:01:41,343.41393315 So if you're needing just an extra reminder of how to build your confidence in God and not in yourself or what you can do, then this is the episode for you. 17 00:01:41,583.41393315 --> 00:01:44,793.41393315 Let's lock in, grab your journal and let's get to it. 18 00:01:45,23.03413796 --> 00:01:46,223.03413796 Hey, beautiful. 19 00:01:46,373.03413796 --> 00:01:50,123.03413796 Welcome to the Heal From Toxic Relationships podcast. 20 00:01:50,213.03413796 --> 00:02:14,483.03413796 Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and fully embrace a life filled with confidence, joy, and purpose? Do you find yourself questioning yourself worth and wondering what God's plan for your life is? Or maybe you deeply fear being alone and struggle with the lack of boundaries? Due to your people pleasing tendencies, well sis, you're not alone. 21 00:02:14,513.03413796 --> 00:02:15,653.03413796 I've been there too. 22 00:02:15,773.03413796 --> 00:02:23,3.03413796 Hey, I'm Danny, a Christian life coach wife, recovering people pleaser, and a total girl's girl. 23 00:02:23,93.03413796 --> 00:02:39,803.03413796 For 10 years I was stuck in a cycle of toxic, non-committed relationships and searching for my worth in men, my accomplishments, and the praise of other people until I found out how to heal my past emotional wounds with Christ at the center. 24 00:02:39,958.03413796 --> 00:02:55,78.03413796 In this podcast, you will find faith-based healing tools, confidence building tips, and healthy relationship skills so that you become a God-fearing, confident woman who attracts your husband while walking in your purpose with God. 25 00:02:55,318.03413796 --> 00:02:58,288.03413796 Grab your favorite mocktail and pop in the AirPods. 26 00:02:58,378.03413796 --> 00:03:02,548.03413796 It's time to overshare and overcome these obstacles together. 27 00:03:02,638.03413796 --> 00:03:04,408.03413796 One step at a time. 28 00:03:05,39.36854015 --> 00:03:18,463.27908351 If this episode speaks to your heart and you are tired of trying to grow and heal on your own, come join our free safe space for healing and [e-mail] 29 00:03:18,763.27908351 --> 00:03:19,933.27908351 slash the healing circle. 30 00:03:20,113.27908351 --> 00:03:23,533.27908351 That's WP WHO p.com/the 31 00:03:23,533.27908351 --> 00:03:24,343.27908351 healing circle. 32 00:03:24,553.27908351 --> 00:03:30,643.27908351 This is where you're gonna find other women doing the work of healing, unlearning shame, and rebuilding confidence. 33 00:03:30,663.27908351 --> 00:03:33,33.27908351 In Christ Together. 34 00:03:33,393.27908351 --> 00:03:34,863.27908351 I would love to see you in there. 35 00:03:34,863.27908351 --> 00:03:37,113.27908351 Once you come on in, don't be shy. 36 00:03:37,143.27908351 --> 00:04:01,100.05074766 Go ahead, introduce yourself in the community circle, and I just can't wait to also walk alongside this journey with you Now I'm sure we all have our own story of, all the times that our confidence and self-worth was picked at, you know, whether that was when you were maybe a chunky child and your family kept talking about how you were chunky. 37 00:04:01,480.05074766 --> 00:04:23,260.05074766 Or, um, whenever you had your time in high school where everything felt so important and heavy and you're maybe made fun of or bullied or felt left out, or maybe in your adult life your friendships are, are shifting and the friendships that you thought were lifelong friendships are, you're realizing they're no. 38 00:04:23,520.05074766 --> 00:04:40,980.05074766 They no longer are, and maybe you're at a place right now where you're feeling just really alone or lonely and you are trying so hard to build your life and you're seeing all these people on social media at a certain stage in their life when they're 23, 24, and it. 39 00:04:41,55.00206317 --> 00:04:56,175.2187782 it, it, it continues to make you feel less than or like you are behind in life or you aren't looking the part because you're seeing all these beautiful women, on social media and they're showcasing you like you their entire bodies. 40 00:04:56,175.2187782 --> 00:05:00,135.2187782 And so it's just a constant, the world that we live in, it's a constant reminder. 41 00:05:00,388.47963631 --> 00:05:08,188.47963631 If this is your perspective of what you are lacking or what you don't have, it's very easy to stay stuck in that. 42 00:05:08,548.47963631 --> 00:05:29,356.80825857 Um, for me, growing up, I, I remember whenever I was in the dressing room when I was 10 years old, it was either 10, 10 to 13 and I had this moment where I started breaking down whenever I was looking in the mirror in a dressing room because I believed that I was ugly. 43 00:05:29,956.80825857 --> 00:05:32,776.80825857 And you know, growing up. 44 00:05:33,196.80825857 --> 00:05:35,266.80825857 Being in a half Asian household. 45 00:05:35,316.80825857 --> 00:05:43,626.80825857 I was the biggest, the biggest girl on out of me and my sister, and then also all my cousins and. 46 00:05:44,613.1265303 --> 00:05:54,393.1265303 Every time that I would go home from high school or be around family whenever I was younger, they would always call me fat. 47 00:05:54,783.1265303 --> 00:05:59,133.1265303 And you know, at the time it was like, oh, okay, well this is just my family. 48 00:05:59,373.1265303 --> 00:06:07,918.37580605 But those words stuck with me, and they planted seeds of unworthiness or not being good enough, or I need to look a certain way to be beautiful. 49 00:06:08,908.37580605 --> 00:06:10,558.37580605 Um, and. 50 00:06:10,735.74927294 --> 00:06:34,511.41471162 even going through betrayal within my first relationship in, in college and high school, and I started this journey of building confidence in myself, and this was actually one thing that the Lord revealed to me while I was in Brazil, as I was processing everything like I had up until this point, I had built co. 51 00:06:34,571.41471162 --> 00:06:45,849.12878425 I had, I worked so hard to build confidence in myself Just to a place where I wouldn't ever, ever feel like I, I wasn't enough or wasn't worthy again. 52 00:06:46,299.12878425 --> 00:07:02,139.12878425 And I did a pretty good job in terms of going from somebody who felt so insecure and so shy and just so not good about herself and overanalyzing everything about herself to somebody that I, I felt. 53 00:07:02,274.33193368 --> 00:07:16,904.95582774 confident to do things outside of my comfort zone because I built that muscle to putting myself out there to speaking and doing things that at first I never thought I would do, which had built my confidence. 54 00:07:17,324.95582774 --> 00:07:23,594.95582774 Um, and I mean, still, I would still battle with comparison and, and things like that. 55 00:07:23,594.95582774 --> 00:07:27,374.95582774 I mean, they, those things still try to sneak in. 56 00:07:27,404.95582774 --> 00:07:29,204.95582774 And so when this moment. 57 00:07:29,621.78402395 --> 00:07:32,471.78402395 Happened, um, a few months ago. 58 00:07:32,531.78402395 --> 00:07:53,6.69662662 It, it, it crumbled my confidence and so what God was just really teaching me was No matter how, how much you do in your own strength in terms of building your confidence or anything, but, but in this conversation or this moment, it was my confidence. 59 00:07:53,6.69662662 --> 00:07:57,236.69662662 He said, you've tried, you've built, you've tried so hard to build your own confidence. 60 00:07:57,521.69662662 --> 00:08:05,111.69662662 But life you, like, you cannot predict what life is going to do to you and what, what, what's gonna happen in life. 61 00:08:05,171.69662662 --> 00:08:14,561.69662662 And so in those moments when life does break you down, when, when things happen, that, that are completely out of your control, that you don't expect to happen. 62 00:08:15,281.69662662 --> 00:08:20,291.69662662 If you just lean on your own strength, you are not gonna make it, you are not gonna fully heal. 63 00:08:20,291.69662662 --> 00:08:29,531.69662662 You're not gonna, you're not gonna experience the fullness of what God has for you of, of, of redeeming you and repairing you from the inside out. 64 00:08:30,71.69662662 --> 00:08:37,811.69662662 And it was just like he was reminding me that in him healing is possible by his hand, not by my own hand. 65 00:08:37,931.69662662 --> 00:08:40,926.69662662 And so, same thing when we are talking about. 66 00:08:41,546.69662662 --> 00:08:54,523.64214847 Healing this relationship that you have with yourself and rebuilding your confidence, being So I realized that I had been so focused on looking healed and just wanting to move past it that I didn't realize I was, I was still hurting. 67 00:08:54,523.64214847 --> 00:08:58,93.64214847 I was trying to, um, convince myself that I was good. 68 00:08:58,123.64214847 --> 00:09:01,453.64214847 That, that, that God had healed me, that we were, we were good. 69 00:09:01,963.64214847 --> 00:09:09,763.64214847 And yeah, he just revealed me that I made confidence, my project, but he wanted to be the one to restore it. 70 00:09:10,48.64214847 --> 00:09:23,668.64214847 And I believe that is the same thing, that he wants a message for all of us, you know, at, at any season of our life, especially when we are trying to rush past these, these deep wounds that are within us. 71 00:09:23,758.64214847 --> 00:09:27,538.64214847 But God is telling us that it's like, Hey, I am here. 72 00:09:27,898.64214847 --> 00:09:30,988.64214847 I in your, in your weakness, I am strong. 73 00:09:31,468.64214847 --> 00:09:34,78.64214847 And we read that verse, but it's like. 74 00:09:34,403.64214847 --> 00:09:38,483.64214847 No, really think about it in our weakness, God is made strong. 75 00:09:38,513.64214847 --> 00:09:41,903.64214847 Therefore, we can be strong, we can be strengthened. 76 00:09:42,353.64214847 --> 00:09:50,571.96372161 And so moving into my first point, confidence rooted in the world will always be conditional. 77 00:09:51,99.7881697 --> 00:09:53,979.78816971 Conditional meaning it depends. 78 00:09:54,39.78816971 --> 00:10:01,689.78816971 It depends if, if your, if your confidence is rooted in the world and what you're doing and how you look, all of those things are going to shift. 79 00:10:01,749.78816971 --> 00:10:04,599.7881697 And so it's not built on a solid foundation. 80 00:10:04,599.7881697 --> 00:10:12,939.78816971 It's built on temporary things that are happening in your life or things that are, that are true for, for a minute or for a season in your life. 81 00:10:12,969.7881697 --> 00:10:25,929.78816971 And so when those things just disappear, then what do you have? Because if your confidence is conditional, it's based on, it's based on appearances, it's based on achievements, it's based on approval of other people. 82 00:10:26,349.7881697 --> 00:10:29,529.7881697 All of those things are gonna be shaken at some point. 83 00:10:30,189.78816971 --> 00:10:37,239.7881697 And so how you need to shift or how you can shift into, into a more. 84 00:10:37,599.7881697 --> 00:10:46,629.7881697 Rooted and foundational confidence is you want to expose the lies that have shaped your self worth. 85 00:10:47,49.7881697 --> 00:10:51,279.7881697 Okay? Getting very honest with yourself, giving yourself time with the Lord. 86 00:10:51,751.90750499 --> 00:10:56,41.90750499 Like 15 minutes with God and just sit there. 87 00:10:56,41.90750499 --> 00:11:09,511.90750499 Maybe you have worship music playing in the background, instrumental, and just sit there with the Lord and ask him to reveal to you what are the lies that I have believed that are shaping my self-worth right now, that are shaping my identity, that are shaping my confidence. 88 00:11:09,691.90750499 --> 00:11:19,81.90750499 Let him reveal those to you and just start to journal them down, expose the lies, and then you wanna replace them with truth. 89 00:11:19,391.96438826 --> 00:11:25,751.96438826 like Psalms 1 39 14, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. 90 00:11:25,991.96438826 --> 00:11:31,953.05682056 And so when you're trading them for truth, this is the structure that you are, that this is the structure that I want you to do it. 91 00:11:32,313.05682056 --> 00:11:38,73.05682056 So say for example, your, the lie that you've, you believed is that. 92 00:11:38,463.05682056 --> 00:11:40,323.05682056 That I'm, that I'm ugly and I'm fat. 93 00:11:40,713.05682056 --> 00:11:41,133.05682056 Right. 94 00:11:41,343.05682056 --> 00:11:41,763.05682056 For me. 95 00:11:43,233.05682056 --> 00:11:44,553.05682056 And you wanna expose a lie. 96 00:11:44,553.05682056 --> 00:11:52,143.05682056 So you write it out, you write it down, and then you wanna shift and you wanna do a past present and then future declaration. 97 00:11:52,383.05682056 --> 00:11:54,513.05682056 Okay? Because we're transforming the lie. 98 00:11:55,113.05682056 --> 00:11:58,593.05682056 So I'm taking the scriptures of Psalm 1 39 14. 99 00:11:58,593.05682056 --> 00:12:00,123.05682056 This is the truth that I'm standing on. 100 00:12:00,298.05682056 --> 00:12:08,998.05682056 Right, because I can pull beliefs and truths out of out of my mind if I want to or out of other people's affirmations if I want to. 101 00:12:09,238.05682056 --> 00:12:12,958.05682056 But again, if we want to be rooted, we need to pull it from scripture. 102 00:12:13,768.05682056 --> 00:12:20,548.05682056 So the lie I have down and then the scripture I have down, and so this is what I want you to write. 103 00:12:20,548.05682056 --> 00:12:26,728.05682056 I want you to write in the past, I believe that I was fat and ugly. 104 00:12:27,254.85293707 --> 00:12:45,757.95792106 I currently believe that I am fearfully and wonderfully made by God In the future, I believe that I am a bold and confident woman of God who knows her value and identity and help other women find theirs too. 105 00:12:46,380.15699602 --> 00:12:52,170.15699602 And this is how you are going to rewire these, these lies and these beliefs. 106 00:12:52,564.54420129 --> 00:12:54,218.51935587 that's the psychological way. 107 00:12:54,218.51935587 --> 00:12:56,408.51935587 And then of course, praying about it. 108 00:12:56,468.51935587 --> 00:13:11,198.51935587 And you combine both of those prayer, praying through any time that you have these thoughts come up, you wanna speak truth to combat the lie and the key in this is to know that you've already come out of agreement with that lie. 109 00:13:11,408.51935587 --> 00:13:15,68.51935587 Therefore, you don't have to be weighed down by that lie anymore. 110 00:13:15,128.51935587 --> 00:13:24,458.51935587 And so when the lie does try to come in, that's just the enemy trying to, trying to get you off track, trying to take you back down because he can't go against scripture. 111 00:13:24,518.51935587 --> 00:13:34,838.51935587 And so if you're speaking truth to whenever these lies are coming up and saying, oh, I've already come outta agreement with that thought, I believe that I'm fearfully, wonderfully made by God. 112 00:13:35,498.51935587 --> 00:13:55,541.03142185 That is, this is the process that it takes to rewire your beliefs and become and stay free from the enemy's traps that he's trying to get you to drag you back down to this low self-worth and low, um, confidence or even just a fake confidence in the world. 113 00:13:55,571.03142185 --> 00:13:55,601.03142185 Okay. 114 00:13:55,827.84405657 --> 00:13:58,137.84405657 So that is our hefty practical step. 115 00:13:58,647.84405657 --> 00:14:02,817.84405657 This is a process that I want you to, to continue doing. 116 00:14:03,435.92590327 --> 00:14:13,451.09933706 from here on out, it's a consistency habit, and that's where you're gonna, you're gonna actually find yourself feeling different and feeling a change in your confidence. 117 00:14:13,751.09933706 --> 00:14:17,275.11890162 Now the second point is also powerful. 118 00:14:17,275.11890162 --> 00:14:18,955.11890162 It's a truth that you must know. 119 00:14:19,225.11890162 --> 00:14:23,19.70889435 And it is confidence in Christ is redemptive. 120 00:14:23,439.70889435 --> 00:14:24,879.70889435 It's not performative. 121 00:14:25,329.70889435 --> 00:14:37,492.30231337 And let me explain what I mean by this, You what, what, what confidence being rooted in Christ allows you to do it allows you to show up imperfect and still be secure. 122 00:14:37,792.30231337 --> 00:14:42,772.30231337 And this is a mindset shift that will set you so free. 123 00:14:42,982.30231337 --> 00:14:54,292.30231337 You relieving yourself of any perfectionism, of any idea that you need to be perfect or you need to look or sound or be a certain way to. 124 00:14:55,42.30231337 --> 00:15:01,707.30231337 To be a woman of confidence or to be a woman of value? No, it's actually quite the flip-flop because. 125 00:15:03,112.30231337 --> 00:15:13,852.30231337 We have to understand that Christ is the only perfect being that has walked this earth, and we cannot live up to this expectation of perfection. 126 00:15:13,912.30231337 --> 00:15:19,312.30231337 And so why even put that on ourselves? And God doesn't even expect us to be perfect. 127 00:15:19,522.30231337 --> 00:15:25,222.30231337 And so knowing that com, being confident in God in Christ is redemptive. 128 00:15:25,222.30231337 --> 00:15:26,302.30231337 It's not performative. 129 00:15:26,512.30231337 --> 00:15:46,260.83877237 This allows you to relieve yourself of this, this, this expectation, this unrealistic expectation on yourself and just be, and whenever you mess up, you go back to the Lord because you haven't expected yourself to perform perfectly, but to just show up authentically as you are. 130 00:15:46,603.64099154 --> 00:15:52,273.64099154 in your imperfections and allow God's grace and mercy to wash you. 131 00:15:52,273.64099154 --> 00:15:55,3.64099154 Allow him to build you up and to fill in the gaps. 132 00:15:55,3.64099154 --> 00:15:58,393.64099154 Because guess what? If you were perfect, you wouldn't need him. 133 00:15:58,603.64099154 --> 00:16:02,74.80519118 And so that is not, the way that God intended us to be. 134 00:16:02,434.80519118 --> 00:16:08,284.80519118 It's to be imperfect because we would, we need him to fill in the gaps, so. 135 00:16:08,659.80519118 --> 00:16:10,759.80519118 Allow God, let God name you. 136 00:16:11,59.80519118 --> 00:16:14,149.80519118 Let him speak into the places where you've been called. 137 00:16:14,329.80519118 --> 00:16:15,379.80519118 Not enough. 138 00:16:15,589.80519118 --> 00:16:34,714.80519118 So again, going back and sitting in your quiet time with the Lord and just asking God, God, who did you make me to be Like, what is my identity? Who did you make me to be? And that question to God has been so refreshing and sweet for me to sit and ask him myself. 139 00:16:34,714.80519118 --> 00:16:40,264.8051912 And I want that for all of, and I want that for you as well because there's nothing like. 140 00:16:40,879.8051912 --> 00:16:44,419.8051912 Like, yes, scripture is so powerful and we love scripture. 141 00:16:44,629.8051912 --> 00:16:46,129.8051912 It, it is a sword. 142 00:16:46,189.8051912 --> 00:16:54,859.8051912 And there's also words that we can receive from God himself, specifically for us that he wants to give you. 143 00:16:55,356.1806064 --> 00:17:02,526.1806064 and I wanna share, Isaiah 61, 3 says He gives you a crown of beauty instead of ashes. 144 00:17:02,796.1806064 --> 00:17:06,66.1806064 The oil of joy instead of mourning. 145 00:17:06,756.1806064 --> 00:17:08,196.1806064 And this is his promise. 146 00:17:08,196.1806064 --> 00:17:14,226.1806064 And this can be found, this crown of beauty and this oil of joy can be found when we're sitting in his presence. 147 00:17:15,186.1806064 --> 00:17:21,696.1806064 Now the third point is you do not have to prove your worth. 148 00:17:22,176.1806064 --> 00:17:23,856.1806064 You just have to receive it. 149 00:17:24,516.1806064 --> 00:17:28,596.1806064 And I've been in this, this, this state, I guess, of. 150 00:17:29,166.1806064 --> 00:17:42,846.1806064 Of working on just resting and receiving versus striving and proving, and I'm telling you, for all my striving sisters out there, this is the shift that is gonna give you so much freedom and peace in your day-to-day life. 151 00:17:43,746.1806064 --> 00:17:55,86.1806064 Because when you're in this proving mindset, it's, it's leading you to perform, it's leading you to this performance mode, and receiving allows you, it leads you into peace. 152 00:17:55,86.1806064 --> 00:17:56,766.1806064 It opens a door into peace. 153 00:17:57,97.9982627 --> 00:18:05,17.9982627 I've been loving Ephesians two 10 for we are his workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared. 154 00:18:05,167.9982627 --> 00:18:09,727.9982627 He prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them. 155 00:18:09,727.9982627 --> 00:18:13,657.9982627 We would not strive, we would not perform to receive them, but we would walk in them. 156 00:18:13,957.9982627 --> 00:18:17,827.9982627 That is a receiving, that is a receiving mindset. 157 00:18:17,827.9982627 --> 00:18:20,92.1415659 That is a receiving, Place to be. 158 00:18:20,842.1415659 --> 00:18:25,132.1415659 Like, we can rest in God's promise and receive his promise. 159 00:18:25,462.1415659 --> 00:18:56,827.1415659 And so I want you to ask yourself while you're in your reflection time, where have I been trying to earn love or acceptance? Where am I attaching my worth to a mirror, AKA, how I look or a metric, how I'm, how, how well I'm performing, and am I building my confidence in how I look or in who he is in me? The shift, the practice that I want you to do is every time that you're looking in the mirror, I want you to find God over you, God in you. 160 00:18:58,122.1415659 --> 00:19:13,20.4303401 And so what would it look like to release this pressure that you've put on yourself to be enough and just let him be in you and for you? So sister confidence is not about. 161 00:19:13,278.2609428 --> 00:19:16,758.2609428 Flawless days or flawless skin. 162 00:19:17,58.2609428 --> 00:19:21,498.2609428 Okay? Even though you want the glowing skin, listen, that's not what it's about, and that's not what it's built on. 163 00:19:21,798.2609428 --> 00:19:23,598.2609428 It's about letting God rebuild you. 164 00:19:23,598.2609428 --> 00:19:32,178.2609428 When rejection or shame has torn you down, you are still worthy, you are still beautiful, and you are still chosen. 165 00:19:32,568.2609428 --> 00:19:39,618.2609428 Those are all stand true even despite how you feel, even when you feel broken. 166 00:19:40,249.2266611 --> 00:19:45,499.2266611 So stop performing for the mirror and start anchoring your identity in Christ. 167 00:19:45,769.2266611 --> 00:19:48,109.2266611 Again, those points are one. 168 00:19:48,379.2266611 --> 00:19:52,129.2266611 Confidence rooted in the world will always be conditional. 169 00:19:52,649.5617462 --> 00:19:53,189.5617462 Two. 170 00:19:53,219.5617462 --> 00:19:55,529.5617462 Confidence in Christ is redemptive. 171 00:19:55,559.5617462 --> 00:19:56,999.5617462 It's not performative. 172 00:19:57,59.5617462 --> 00:20:01,56.790806 And three, you do not have to prove your worth. 173 00:20:01,86.790806 --> 00:20:04,896.790806 It has already been stated and proven and died for. 174 00:20:05,166.790806 --> 00:20:06,606.790806 You just have to receive it. 175 00:20:06,621.790806 --> 00:20:06,681.790806 It. 176 00:20:06,981.790806 --> 00:20:15,951.790806 And if we do these things, if you do these things, you're gonna find yourself living in so much more peace and having this Christ rooted confidence, not worldly confidence. 177 00:20:16,161.790806 --> 00:20:25,941.790806 And when you have Christ rooted confidence, you can walk in any room and feel the presence of God and not feel this intimidation or insecurity. 178 00:20:26,91.790806 --> 00:20:29,139.3166354 But Because you remember who your source is. 179 00:20:29,435.7515404 --> 00:20:30,365.7515404 So cling to that. 180 00:20:30,365.7515404 --> 00:20:32,345.7515404 I pray this episode was, was helpful. 181 00:20:32,345.7515404 --> 00:20:46,193.1877783 It blessed you, and if you're wanting some support in this, or maybe, you know, whenever you do have a down day and you're just needing to, to share for, for a group of women of God, to remind you who you are, come join the free community. 182 00:20:46,373.1877783 --> 00:20:49,433.1877783 You can join at wop.com/the 183 00:20:49,433.1877783 --> 00:20:50,363.1877783 Healing Circle. 184 00:20:50,513.1877783 --> 00:20:54,533.1877783 You spell wp WHO p.com/the 185 00:20:54,533.1877783 --> 00:20:55,283.1877783 healing circle. 186 00:20:55,465.9609076 --> 00:20:57,835.9609076 Come share what today's episode brought up for you. 187 00:20:57,895.9609076 --> 00:21:01,675.9609076 You don't have to do this healing walk alone at all anymore. 188 00:21:01,945.9609076 --> 00:21:04,255.9609076 And I will see you back here same day. 189 00:21:04,285.9609076 --> 00:21:05,935.9609076 Same place next week. 190 00:21:06,115.9609076 --> 00:21:06,505.9609076 Bye.