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October 9, 2025 92 mins

What happens when an avoidant man is confronted with the emotional truths his partner has been holding back? 

In this episode, Adam invites a couple to face nine brutally honest relationship challenges. The conversation dives into emotional shutdowns, loyalty issues, and the impact of childhood wounds — revealing what avoidance looks like when love and vulnerability collide.

✨Topics Covered: 👉 The avoidant partner’s emotional response to jealousy and control 👉 Why loyalty is the most important value for avoidant men 👉 How childhood trauma shapes attachment and defensiveness 👉 The fiancée’s honest feedback and hopes for their relationship 👉 Adam’s therapeutic approach to reframing criticism as care 👉 The meaning of emotional safety and repair in avoidant dynamics 👉 Insights into building trust after past betrayal

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