How to Spot a Narcissist in 60 Seconds

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TRANSCRIPT

Speaker 1 (00:00):

All right, Queens. So we're here today to talk about how to spot a narcissist. You don't need a psychology degree to know something feels off in under 60 seconds today. Let's break down the one trait to watch for no matter what type of narcissist you're dealing with, welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath, queen, this one's for you. So ulnar narcissists, covert, overt, communal, or malignant have one thing in common. They violate your boundaries and then make you question yourself for having any. So whether it's the passive guilt tripping or outright crazy rage, they will do whatever it takes to stay in control, right? We no doubt about all narcissists is they need control, and if they don't have it, they're going to try to get away.

(01:09) Find a way to get it right, and it's very exhausting. So here's what you can do. Take note of how you feel after every interaction with this person. If you feel drained, anxious, confused, or like you're constantly apologizing, trust that your nervous system is picking up on what your brain is trying to rationalize. I'm going to say that again. Your nervous system is picking up on what your brain is trying to rationalize, right? They're a little separate, our brain and our body. So it can take a second for our nervous system to pick up on what's going on. So you breathe, you exhale, and you wait and see how you feel. And if you feel like your boundaries have been violated, you remind yourself, I am allowed to have boundaries. I am not the problem. Right? So there's also a quote that I love that I'm going to share with you.

(02:25) Maybe you've heard it. It's a good one. Especially it comes to narcissists and keeping a distance from them. It's a good reminder. The people who don't like you having any boundaries are those who benefit from you having none. Drop the mic, right? So that is something to pay attention to if they're violating your boundaries and if you set boundaries, how they make you feel about that, right? All of these things go hand in hand. You're feeling drained, anxious, confused, constantly apologizing, right? You may have brief windows of when they're love bombing you or trying to make you feel ultra special just to get you to the next encounter where they suck you dry because you are feeding them. So if you have that pattern, you don't want that patte