Do you ever feel like you're constantly battling your kids, trying to "make" them do what you want? Are you tired of using punishments or rewards, but unsure how else to get them to listen? If you're longing for a deeper connection with your child and a more peaceful home without resorting to control, you're in the right place. Today, Iβm exploring a crucial distinction: the difference between boundaries and limits, and consequences and punishments.
Many of us were taught that discipline means punishment, but "discipline" actually means "to teach." I want to show you that you can have clear limits and boundaries in your home without enforcing them through external motivators like rewards or consequences. Instead of asking, "How do I make my kids do X, Y, or Z?" we need to ask, "Why aren't they choosing to do it?" We'll explore how to approach your child's behavior with curiosity, considering disconnection, unrealistic demands, or their natural desire for autonomy. When children feel good about their relationship with you and the home environment, they are much more likely to follow limits because they want to, not because they fear punishment.Β Β
If you're ready to redefine discipline, embrace connection, and cultivate cooperation in your home without punishments or rewards, hit play!
In This Episode, We Cover:
π The true meaning of discipline
π Setting limits without consequences
π Asking "why" instead of "how to make"
π Fostering connection, not obedience
π Cultivating an internal moral compass
π Embracing curiosity about behavior
As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.
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