Queer & Poly Podcast

Unmet expectations in relationships are some of the biggest causes of upset.

We have said that as part of a number of episodes, but in this week's episode, we are diving right into the heart of it. This is something we see in our work with clients ALL the time - getting lost in the expectations (whether made known or not), rather than being with the reality of the situation. 

And it is so often that resistanc...

We have LOTS of lessons from therapy, both individual and couples therapy, but in this first round, we go over one of the lessons that clicked for E in a much more embodied way last year.

So often we see with clients, and also know from personal experience, that we try with all our might to not impact our partners. We think about all the ways that we can avoid bringing up a tough topic or just "deal" with it when...

Got a case of "comparisonitis"? Have no fear, the queer and poly coaches are here!

But, seriously, let's talk about comparison in your poly relationships. We dive into what we have seen as common pitfalls in this area from working with our clients, as well as questions to ask yourself to help determined what insecurities may be most common in these types of experiences for you.

What are some actions...

Okay, so this is not going to be a step-by-step process on how to find partners...but, we will go over what actually works in connecting with people that are actually aligned for you and what you want! This is based on what we have experienced personally in the poly dating space, as well as what we have seen with the clients we coach.

On this episode, we dive into the pitfalls and limiting beliefs that we see come up when ...

Happy birthday to us and the Queer & Poly Podcast! It's been a wild ride of a year where we have learned a lot about ourselves and relationships, so we wanted to share some of our insights with you all.

Whether it is a lesson from our relationship with ourselves, partners, friends, family, or even emotions, we have some takeaways from this past year that you can hopefully relate with, as fellow, complex human bein...

You know it's a good one when there is a "should" in the title. In this episode, we take some inspiration from a question that came up from a client and explore the pros and cons of there being a definitive definition of polyamory.

There are rants, lots of poly terms, and a trip to IKEA made to guide us along this conversation.

What are your thoughts on the question that we pose in this episode? 

Sen...

Building from last week, here comes part 2! As you can tell, we could talk for hours on green flags and some of the components to look for in a compatible partner.

We explore a little more on NRE, compatibility, the balance of structure and flow in a dynamic, and also have a little treat for you at the end!

If you are looking for an extra resource around dating in polyamory and wondering what in the world to ask ...

That's right, this is just part 1! We talked on red flags in the last episode so it was only fitting to go right into green flags. 

Yes, we identify specific green flags to keep an eye out for in queer and poly relationships, but we also dive a little deeper in the nuances of dating different genders and the expectations that arise there.

Li goes on a rant, E laughs, and it's just another day in the neig...

A juicy topic that often brings up a lot of questions from people...red flags in relationships. What are some major red flags, as well as some that are more subtle? How do you address them?

We could talk a lot more on this subject (and probably will in future episodes), but today we share about red flags that we have experiences, as well as some that we see from clients in their queer and poly relationships. 

What...

We are building from the last episode (so go check that out if you haven't!) and diving deeper in to the topic of self-expression in relationships.

What does it even look like to create relationships that actually have the space to not only have you be fully self-expressed, but also the space for your continued growth and evolution in your self-expression? 

Come and join us as we share more on our own experie...

It can be one of the most courageous acts in a relationship...to be fully and completely self-expressed.

You are a dynamic being, ever evolving and changing. Do your relationships allow for your expansion of self and is that celebrated? 

We dive deep into what it means to be fully self-expressed in relationships, as well as the consequences that come when you find that you are unable to. Through our own experience...

Coming from the perspective of someone assigned female at birth and raised in the societal expectations for a woman, what happens when you become more masculine in your appearance, mannerisms, and place in society?

This is a tale from Li's perspective on what they have noticed from their experience in their evolution of self and we also get to hear from E's perspective as Li's partner in this evolution. 

Let's talk about the s3xy, s3xy in this episode! And specifically in the realm of s3x with women.

From having conversations around what s3x is, what actually feels good, change happening and being okay, and what you need to do when you trigger your partner...this is a jam packed episode with lots of goodies. 

What would you add or change from what we shared? We would love to hear it!

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Today we dive into a very light topic...unconditional love. 

We go into what it is to each of us and some of the misconceptions that surrounds this idea. And let's make it clear - unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance. Oh yes, we go into it.

What does unconditional love mean to you? And what would some ways that you could express that to someone else? 

Sending you so much love!

Love...

There are a lot of misconceptions about being queer, and especially about being in a queer relationship!

In this episode, Li and E talk and laugh about the biases, assumptions, and silly questions they've encountered after coming out.

What misconceptions about being queer have you encountered?

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When you hear the word "romance", what do you think about? Flowers, bubble baths, chocolates? We all feel romanced from different experiences, and knowing how your and your partner/s feel romanced is important in your relationships!

In this episode, E and Li discuss romance, things that make them feel romanced, and how to incorporate romance into polyamorous relationships.

What makes you feel romanced?

Se...

Dating is tough! While we are all individuals, we are formed by our surroundings, giving us different perspectives on dating and relationships.

In this episode, Li gives tips for dating based on their perspective as a lesbian. From the small to the large, these suggestions can uplevel your queer relationships, and any relationship!

What tips do you have for queer dating?

Sending you so much love!

Love our ...

Working with a partner has its ups and downs. Needs for privacy, autonomy, and time alone combined with financial stresses mix with career success and exhilaration. But what if both of you are excellent relationship coaches?

In this episode, E and Li focus on how working together has benefited their relationship and grown their love for each other. Instead of the negatives, it's time to rave about the positives!
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Sex is a big part of most relationships. It can bring or express closeness and love and be steamy and fun. What about when someone isn't in the mood? That can be difficult for a relationship, especially over time.

In this episode, E and Li discuss what can contribute or detract from our natural cycles or states of arousal, and what to do if there is a disconnect on when, where, or how sex is desired.

What tur...