August 28, 2023 • 41 mins
What if I told you that taking that leap of faith and prioritizing yourself could be the first step to a life-transforming journey? You KNOW it is!! As Naomi and I share our experiences and talk about our first impressions of each other, we dive into how making ourselves a priority has absolutely revolutionized our lives. Oh, and you can learn how to be super C.U.N.T.Y too!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This show is brought to you by Female Alliance Media
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
Women for Women.
Welcome to the Balance andBliss Podcast.
I'm your host, Andrea Mondu, athree-time published author,
speaker and a lifestyletransformation coach who
believes everyone should begiven the gift of knowing how to
live their lives, feelinghealthy and empowered.
Things like moving your bodyregularly and feeling it well,
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taking care of your mind,setting boundaries, practicing
self and body, acceptance,personal growth, manifestation
and everything in between.
Wellness is not linear and it'snot just one thing.
It expands into so many areasand on this show we're going to
talk about just that.
We're all striving to live alittle more healthy and a little
(00:46):
more well, but what does thateven mean?
My goal is to help you see thatyou can move from the mundane
to the magic when it comes toliving aligned and fulfilled,
and by tuning in each week youcan be assured you'll leave with
nuggets of wisdom that you canimplement into your day to day,
like right now, to help youmaximize your health, wellness
(01:09):
and your life.
Now let's dive in.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Hey there, I'm Mary Angelica and host of Honestly
Becoming your new favorite fiveminute podcast for driven
entrepreneurs.
Be ready for mic drops andbreakthroughs that will help you
embody your most authentic,successful and honest self.
I know you're busy, which iswhy I get right to the point.
I condense years of coaching,courses and certifications and
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give you the golden nuggets fiveminutes at a time.
Get ready to become the bestversion of yourself.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
That is just like yeah, it's, it's a fucking
beautiful thing, and I mean notthat I even have to justify this
.
I, I love my children, but Ialso love myself and I want this
time for myself and I've put inthe work to have this time for
(02:05):
myself, so it's due.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
There is nothing more grateful than a parent and like
and just the the, the way thatwe took it for granted before
children.
It's like you just get thiswhole new appreciation of
personal space, personal time,yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Like I was talking to a friend of mine who, uh, she
had a baby four or five monthsago and she was saying to me
yesterday she's like so dadstayed at home with the baby and
I went and did groceries.
And it was great and, like you,know the time, like the time to
herself, to like wander aroundthe aisles really slowly, like
(02:53):
it really does remind you tolook at like the simplities of
life and like really lean in,lean into those moments.
So, anyway, we're just going tojump in.
I just hit record becausethat's just.
I knew that we would have likejuicy shit to say right off the
bat.
(03:13):
And so I just hit record so thatwe could uh, we could get
started.
But hey, everybody, you justeavesdropped on a conversation
that Naomi and I were having.
But thanks for tuning in foranother week to join us.
Um, if you saw my stories acouple of weeks ago, I like
hinted at this episode comingout.
(03:34):
I knew that it was going to begold, because so Naomi and I met
, and I'll let you introduceyourself in a second.
But Naomi and I met, um on thetrip that I won to LA, um to go
to this three day conference,life changing experience, and we
told I feel like we definitelyhit it off.
(03:55):
Um, I mean, obviously we've.
We've stayed pretty closelyconnected since then.
But, um, I just I, you know, Iwas thinking this morning about
like the first time that I metyou on that trip and I still
remember the glasses with likethe colorful, like glasses
string.
I loved those so much and yourkick ass hair and I was just
(04:18):
like this human is so likevibrant, and so like owning the
space that they are in and yeah,it was just it was really cool.
And then hanging out by the poolafter and yeah, like you
basically were, just we wereattached uh our little group
(04:38):
from then until the end of theof the trip Um and then we got
tattoos together.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Oh my gosh Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Let's not forget that part.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Let's not forget that .
So I am like, uh, I you knowthis, but I am, I'm telling
everybody who's listening I am,uh, I like to get tattoos to
like commemorate things, really,really big experiences, Um, and
I have never gotten a tattoo.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
I know, I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
The crazy part about it.
Like anyway, it's just so crazy.
So you know I had planned ongetting one.
I, you know, I'd said to Mary,angelica and Rochelle I'm like,
listen, when we're there, likethe last day I'm going to go get
a tattoo.
And they're like, yeah, we'll,we'll come with you, you and I
meet the day of the tattoo plans.
We went to Santa Monica pierand then you said you would like
(05:28):
also come to the tattoo shopand then you were like, oh,
maybe I'll get one too.
Fun story, funny, fun fact.
I actually like, when we, whenyou said you were doing that, I
was like, oh, she like probablylike me, just likes to get
tattoos for like fun things.
It was your first one, it wasyour first one and you just were
like, yeah, I'll come in andlike get, maybe look at getting
(05:51):
inked with you.
And it was just really cool tobe a part of that experience
with you.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I'll take my ink virginity, no problem.
Oh my God.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh, is it like how's it looking Amazing.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
I look at it all the time and it just I got an
airplane.
For whoever doesn't doesn'tknow I've got an airplane.
Again, it was kind of inrelation to the trip.
It's just that reminder thatsometimes we have to get on the
plane, buy the ticket to thething, even if we don't have
everything figured out, even ifwe don't know every single last
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detail or every single outcomethat we're gonna get from the
thing.
If we just feel it in our soulor in our heart that like I need
to be there, I want to be there, just fucking do it, get the
ticket, get on the plane andmagic will unfold.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Yeah, it was such a magical like experience to have
together and it was so fitting,because you're like looking,
you're like, what am I gonna get?
What am I gonna get?
And I was getting my sparkletattoo and then you were just
like, oh my gosh, this is what.
And I was like, oh my gosh,that's so good.
Anyway, why don't you introduceyourself, like give us the the
(07:04):
pitch of like I mean, there's somany things we do all the time,
but who are you?
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Who are you and why are you on my podcast?
I am Naomi, pronouns she andthey.
I am CEO, founder and headcoach at newly founded Kante
Coaching Limitaba, because Iregistered it here in Portugal,
where I'm now living with myfamily, whom I love very much.
(07:34):
I have an almost four year oldand a loving partner and I.
Moving here has been one of thebest things I've ever done.
Embarking on the entrepreneurjourney has been one of the best
things I've ever done, all ofwhich come with their own unique
challenges and whirlwinds, butso so incredibly worth it.
(07:59):
And then the amazing peopleI've met along the way, like
yourself, andrea, and so manyothers, just fuels me, and I
created this Kante movement,this Kante acronym A, to reclaim
that word right, because it's a, it's a, it's a vulgar word.
(08:22):
Yeah, it's historically a veryvulgar word.
Yeah, I mean like okay, yes, butalso I'm learning that
historically, historically, itwasn't In a lot of cultures, it
actually and this is no surprise, right, Because like the
patriarchy and what supremacyjust fucks everything up, it
wasn't always a vulgar word.
(08:44):
It became one, it became aweapon, so it's time to reclaim
that.
But also I wanted to divedeeper into into it, like what
are the characteristics of a youknow woman that is being called
(09:04):
a Kante?
What is this energy?
What is it?
Because I know there'ssomething really powerful there,
something powerful enough tomake a swear word out of it, to
like to use it right.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
To have somebody to like, label, people that like oh
you, you deserve this term.
Well, why?
And why is it a bad thing?
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Yes, and then I dug deeper and I realized that most
of the time, women who arelabeled as Kants are actually
just like standing in theirpower and holding strong
boundaries and like just intheir power.
It's like a positive thing,it's a good thing, but people
(09:49):
have put something this term onthem to like take them out of
that or disempower them orsomething.
And so I went on to kind ofdeconstruct that a little bit
further and investigate thatfurther and I created this, the
acronym for Kante, which reallyis like a guiding star for me
(10:11):
and how I want to live my life,like in that power, in the, in
my truth, and how I want othersto live in their truth and their
power as well.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
I think that this is like one of the things that I
love about you.
I have really been realizingthat I have like small talk
conversations with people, right, you see people that like you
haven't seen in a long time.
You're like, hey, how's itgoing?
Like what you've been up to,how's your, how's your thing,
how have things been?
Oh, I've been busy, oh cool.
(10:42):
Like I have those conversationsand they almost make me feel a
little bit awkward because Ilove the deep shit, like I love
having real raw, like powerfulconversations about life, about
society, about the stories thatwe've been told.
(11:04):
And I think that, like I'mrealizing, not everybody is
really comfortable with havingthose types of conversations
because, going back to thestories, we've been conditioned
for so long that it's like, whenyou have those conversations,
those people are like thefeather rufflers, those people
are like the ones that you haveto watch out for because they're
not falling into line.
(11:25):
And so, going back to what Iwas saying, like I I really
appreciated that about you, likeright from the get, go like
first day, like just, and Ithink that it was also like that
atmosphere was created in thatspace so it really facilitated
and gave like comfortability ofhaving those conversations, but
(11:47):
some people can lean into thatand some people can't and, like
as a group, I think we likeleaned all the way in and, of
course, as like a podcast host,I love having the really great
conversation, so I'm like.
You know, we're sitting around,all of us are eating burgers.
That night, though, I didn'tthink you had burger.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
You didn't have a burger, right, you did not have
a burger.
I, in my true Portuguese nature, had fish.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
But like it was, like we're you know I'm talking
about like you need to come,need to.
I would love for you to comeand and have some of these
conversations with other peoplewho are listening, because
that's how, like these movements, that's how these like changes
start to happen, is like peoplegiving information or dropping
nuggets of like hey, this is howthings have been for a really
(12:35):
long time.
Does it have to continue to bethat way or can we?
Can we start to do things alittle bit differently?
How did you even like start onthis movement that you're
creating?
Like, what made you decide likethis is the work that I'm doing
?
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Oh, that's such a great question and I actually
wonder that myself sometimes.
Like how did I just one daythink of think to dig deeper
into this word cunt and deeperinto this, create this acronym
like who does that on a rainyafternoon?
Like?
Speaker 1 (13:15):
just.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
I don't know me.
Apparently I think it's beeninspired by the incredible
people.
Just to come back to that, likethe incredible people I've been
around and women that are like,reclaiming their power, putting
themselves in positions ofpower, growing businesses,
growing families, not taking anyshit exactly what you're
(13:38):
talking about.
Like the people who want moreand who are open and like and
deciding to have more in theirlives and not take the shit that
they've just been handed andgiven right.
So maybe it started with that.
Maybe it started with startingto surround myself with the
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right people, the right energy,which was cunt energy.
I just didn't know it at thetime and I didn't know that
that's what I was doing in myown life.
I have been like I didn't havea really a word for it, you know
, but I've been on this journeyof like.
So the I'll say the acronym forpeople just to clarify this as
(14:24):
we go forward through thepodcast and through my story.
So c is for courageous, u isfor unapologetic, n is for
notable, t is for transcendentand y is for you authentically.
So who are you authentically?
So I realized that I'veactually been on this journey
(14:50):
more so like since I became aparent and that's why, for a
while, I was focusing on workingwith parents, because I really
wanted to help parents tap intothis energy for themselves.
I've since pivoted to expandthat and work with entrepreneurs
, content creators, artists,parents anyone who wants like to
(15:11):
tap into this energy in theirlife and like let go of some
serious barriers and like someserious shit.
So I think that's where itstarted, honestly.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Well and I think that this is a pretty common thread
for people who have children andbecome parents is it's like
you're almost forced toreevaluate everything that you
have learned and everythingabout like the society that
(15:45):
you're living in and all ofthese things about, like the
stories that you I mean I knowthis is really true for me and
again in the work that I doaround like breaking down that
diet, culture and like all thebody shit that we've been handed
.
I watched your reel the otherday, by the way, about like we
actually learned to hate ourbodies before we learned to love
our bodies, which I was likefuck, like it's true, it's so
(16:09):
true.
And so it's just like I thinkwhen you become a parent, you're
like, okay, how did I grow up,what did I think and feel and
understand about the world, andwhat do I want my child to think
and feel and understand aboutthe world?
And then that dictates one howyou show up as a parent then,
(16:31):
but also how you live your life.
And thank you for breaking downthe acronym also, because people
are like cuntie, what but, whenyou break it down that way, it
really makes a lot of sense,because in order to cut through
that shit, you have to show upin those sorts of ways.
So if somebody is listening, ohsorry, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
No, I was just gonna say like I love that courage is
the first letter and the firstword and I think, like I'm just
so glad that that's whatunfolded, naturally, because I
think courage underlineseverything else.
Like to be all of those otherthings in a world that wasn't
set up for us takes a lot ofcourage and it's really powerful
(17:19):
.
And, like you're saying, in theparenthood journey, yeah, it
does take a lot of courage to dothat inner work, that inner
thought that you just described,and then to actually live it
and to lead by example.
That was one of the biggestthings, and I don't know if you
(17:40):
relate to this, but I have adaughter, you have two daughters
, right until they tell usotherwise, right, and so there's
so much that we know thatsociety is going to try and do
to them that we have this choiceabout what are we going to do
(18:01):
for them.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
What are?
Speaker 3 (18:01):
we going to show them , not just what are we going to
tell them.
What are we going to show themby our own actions.
And that really, really pushedme forward on this journey.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yeah, and I mean.
the reality is too is that weare simply, unfortunately, one
influence in the world that theyare going to grow up in, so we
can try our best and say all thethings and do all the things
and be all the things, and therewill still be a lot of that
stuff that exists on the outsideand I think that this is also
(18:36):
something that's even applicableto working with clients and
anybody who's trying to create achange Like we can facilitate
the creation of the change, butthere's a lot on the exterior
that's not going to change justbecause we are, and so how can
we show up in that world then?
And it's almost like, how can weput the blinders on or be like
(18:57):
OK, I was talking yesterdayabout protecting your energy,
and how can we protect our ownenergy in knowing that all of
this stuff is happening and itmay happen to us in these
conversations may happen, orthese comments may be made, or
these situations may unfold thatwe're a part of.
But what we have control overis how we show up in those
(19:20):
situations and then how we allowthat situation to affect us,
how far it can penetrate us,like in our soul.
Or are we just like boop, likeyou know, I'm rubber and you're
glue right.
Whatever you say to me bouncesoff of me and sticks on to you,
like that?
That really is like.
There's a lot of truth in thatstatement, actually.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Yeah, I think that has been such an interesting
thing to explore and figure outfor myself, because I am someone
who has always seen myself asvery empathetic and also
sensitive, so I always have feltthings on a very deep level.
So this has been very pertinentoh my gosh for me, and I think
(20:07):
again I'm going to bring it backto the people that we surround
ourselves with Like not only dothey help galvanize us so that
in those moments where we'refaced with something difficult,
we feel like maybe we're notalone, we can kind of feel them
in the background.
I don't know if you've ever hadthat experience, but it just
(20:29):
helps to not feel so alone whenyou know you have really strong,
supportive individuals thathave your back.
And then you know, I also have ahandful of role models in my
head when I'm going throughthings that I can kind of ask
what would they do in thissituation?
(20:51):
So that's another incredibletool.
And then you can always go backto the squad after the fact and
help, and they can help you notlet it sink so deep as well,
and they can really help reflectwhat they really truly see of
you and what you know aboutyourself and not let outside
(21:13):
bullshit penetrate.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I feel like this conversation is so like divinely
aligned, because so I'm workingon my second solo book right
now and I was just doing somewriting recently and I was
literally just writing about atime in my life where I had to
show up in like a certain wayand I felt really uncomfortable.
(21:37):
Ok, so I had to do likenetworking with like random
people and that has not alwaysbeen a skill of mine where it's
like, oh, I feel really nervous,like I was saying we small talk
conversations, and so in thosemoments I was fortunate enough
to have some really good friends, one in particular that I would
show up in those situations andgo, ok, what would so and so do
(22:00):
in this room?
And what that did was that gaveme the courage to show up in a
way that I wanted to show up butthat I didn't quite feel that I
could yet.
Because I think this is thetrap that a lot of people fall
into is it's like you see peopleshowing up or doing the thing
(22:20):
or living their lives in a way,and you're like, oh, that looks
awesome, but like I can't dothat, like that's not something
that I could do, and it's likewe live our lives as like the
present people that we are, andwe don't allow ourselves to be
the future selves that we wantto be.
But that's what you have to do,right?
(22:42):
It's like you have to.
It's almost like you're you'reacting as that until you're
becoming that Right.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
You're, you're pre connecting to it.
You're, you're trying to fostera connection with like that,
that higher, true yourself, thatcountry, self Right.
And here's the beautiful thingis that when we can do that we
can, we have the, the thepossibility to become that role
model, that person for someoneelse, when we live in our truth,
(23:11):
so that it's like it has thisripple effect.
It has this really powerfulripple effect where, when we're
showing up in our truth, we havethe power to, to, to inspire
others and to help them tap intosomething that they really need
.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
OK, so then can you like walk us through I don't
know, maybe if we want to picklike a situation I mean, this is
probably an exercise you mightdo with clients, whether there's
like a situation, somebody's ina situation or somebody's
living a current way right now,but they would like to show up
more country in their lives orin that situation.
(23:48):
How does somebody like start todo that if they're at ground
zero?
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Yeah, the way that I, it's a process, right, and
that's going to be the unsexyanswer, because I know that
someone's like give me a journalprompt so that I can be my
country as self today.
It is a process and we're we'realways being told like, life is
(24:15):
about the process, right, thejourney is the, the, the thing
that we need to, to honor, andso this is a very much a an
example of that, because it'slittle, teeny, tiny shifts that
happen that when you look back,it's like whoa, I'm, I am, I'm
way more my true self than I was, you know, four months ago, a
(24:38):
year ago, etc.
But the way that I, the processthat I take folks on, is, I
start with acknowledging becausewe can't, we can't fuck with
things that we don't know about.
Ok, we need to know what we'recarrying before we can, like let
go of it, right and and justput it aside.
(25:01):
So that's the first thing.
The second thing is activationlike figuring out who your
people are, activating thatsquad, right.
Figuring out what ispleasurable for you activating
that.
Figuring out what clothingmakes you, like feel more
(25:25):
powerful in yourself activatingthat, right.
So that moment we do a lot ofwork about how to step into that
a little bit more.
But you can't do that beforeyou've acknowledged what's going
on in the background.
And then the last piece isaccountability, because, being
(25:50):
your country itself, it takesconstant I don't know if effort
is the right word, but, justlike care, just takes constant
care to nourish ourselves, tochoose what's right for us,
because if we're growing, thenwe're always gonna need to tap
(26:10):
into courage, right?
There's always gonna be asituation that needs our courage
.
There's always gonna be asituation that's gonna demand
for us to not to be unapologetic, to do something notable, right
?
So the accountability stage islike how can we make sure that
you're on a growth path ifthat's what you wanna do?
(26:30):
Right, and the people that Iwork with, they want to be on a
growth path right.
It's something that a lot of usreally find a lot of pleasure
and joy in.
So I'd say that's the shortanswer, if you will.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
I love that it.
You're very right when you saythat the biggest piece and maybe
like the most well, I wouldn'tsay it's the most challenging,
but one of the vital pieces issimply just that acknowledgement
, because if you do and that'sreally hard to look at yourself
and be like what isn't working,what isn't serving me well, and
(27:09):
again we've been conditioned tolike just kind of go through the
motions and not challenge thestatus quo and this is like this
is how we are, this is howthings are, and not really like.
Also, the other thing that'scoming into my mind right now is
it's also been like perceivedas like vain.
If we're gonna spend this muchtime on ourselves, this much
(27:33):
time on doing the work for meand investing in me and that is
also a really, really bigbarrier for people to get past
is I couldn't.
I can't spend X amount ofdollars to spend six months
focusing on just myself.
I have all these other thingsthat I need to be doing and like
(27:56):
we don't prioritize ourselvesenough.
So it feels like very foolishfor people and it's hard for
people to get over.
Speaker 3 (28:03):
Yeah, and that's by design too right, like there's
always.
I find that there's alwayssomething more beneath the
surface to dig into.
There.
It is by design that we've beentaught that it's vain and that
it's selfish, and there's somany words for it because it
keeps us from our truth.
Like and that has been used asa tool and like.
(28:28):
Another thing, too, is just ourcollective exhaustion with
everything going on in the world.
Sometimes we know that thereare things we can change, we
know that there are thingsholding us back, and sometimes
we just don't feel empowered tolike, decide to do that work.
It's a lot, it is work.
(28:49):
It is like it's some effort tolike, dig into these things and
to dig into your truth and tolet it out.
And it's not all rainbows andsunshine.
It can be scary, it can be, itcan cost money.
There's so many differentthings right, so many barriers,
like you said.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
But listen, we are, you are, if you are listening to
this, you are 150,000 milliontrillion worth investing in, and
you know everybody deserves tolive the life that they want.
And the truth is, is that youhave to create that for yourself
(29:32):
, right, you have to create thatfor yourself and it's a process
.
You know, I think about myselfgoing into the fall.
Like I have been spending years, years, creating the life that
I'm going to have come September.
Well, that I have right now,really, and you know it hasn't
(29:53):
come without its challenges.
I was reflecting on this while Iwas away on vacation.
Like I have been told no somany times in conversations that
I've had, in potentialopportunities, in potential
clients, in like so manydifferent spaces.
(30:14):
You know I've been told no alot and yet I have still
continued to persevere because Ihave this end goal and like it
takes a fucking lot out of youto continuously show up for
yourself and to pick yourselfback up off the ground, but I
can tell you that it is so worthit when you get closer and
(30:39):
closer and finally land in theplace of like, oh, this is what
I've been working on and forsince 2018.
It's fucking 2023 now.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
This is what I have been working on since 2018.
Five years, five years later, Ihave arrived and you know it's
maybe not even the full like,but you know it's.
You get there and you havethese milestones and that's why
you know the accountability isso important too, because it's
like you have to hold yourselfaccountable, which is a really
(31:14):
big component of it, but alsoyou can create spaces and
connections and relationshipswith people that will also hold
you accountable and when theyknow, like, they will hold your
dream for you, Like you are verymuch a dream holder.
Or you're constantly checking inlike hey, how are you doing,
(31:36):
are you?
This is where you wanna be?
Like you ask those really likedeep questions and almost like
not challenging in a bad way,but like okay, but is that the
way that it has to be?
Or like this is what you want?
So what can you do to like getyourself there?
Those people are so powerfulI'm thinking about when we were
(31:58):
out for ramen and you're likeasking about, you know, like
household duties and yeah, allthose, you know, all those
expectations.
Like all right bitches how arewe gonna get empowered and get
our?
Work out there and like getcared for, yeah, but I just love
it because it really does makesuch a difference for people,
and we haven't even touched onthis yet, but you are going to
(32:22):
be in book three, which is sobook three of body bliss,
obviously for everybodylistening.
How are you feeling about that?
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Okay, I'm going to answer that, but first can we
all just appreciate, take aminute to appreciate the biggest
permission slip you just gaveso many people.
Like I just need to say that,that everything you just shared
about it was so honest about yes, it's challenging, but it's so
(32:52):
incredibly worth it.
I think so many people who arelistening felt some relief or
something unlocked within themthat said I can do this, it's
going to be worth it.
Even if it's hard, I can do it.
I have some tools.
She's saying get the squad.
She's doing like I think thatwas so incredibly beautiful.
So before we move on, I justneed to say that.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Thank you for saying that.
You know I'm so I I'm so bad atlike just glazing over the
things that I say and just beinglike, oh yeah, like I hear what
other people say and I'm like,oh, that was so good.
But I don't often think thatthe stuff that I say is good.
So thank you for doing thatAgain, Naomi.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Ladies and gentlemen, Well, I mean, I think you're
just fostering such a beautifulconversation of beautiful space
here on your podcast, so itneeds to be said.
Um, yeah, book three, oh, myGod, I I'm so excited this is
something that is such a bigpart of me is going to be
(33:54):
sharing this story about my bodyhair journey more, and I've
already started doing that.
Um, that's one of the thingsthat I literally decided when I
gave birth to my daughter.
I was like that, like I wastalking about earlier.
It's like, oh crap, like I needto actually live and act in
(34:18):
accordance with my beliefs and Iwant her to feel free to be
herself and not have to changeher body.
Um, and, like I heard, Ilearned that the hard way.
It's been a journey, but I can'twait to talk about that in the
book because I don't see, likeany people who present as
(34:43):
feminine, like I am I'mgenderqueer, but I'm a
genderqueer woman.
I present in the world more onlike the feminine side of things
, right, kind of not not not somuch, but like more so in that
area, and I never see anyonethat looks like me, that has and
(35:04):
embraces their body hair.
It's like my whole life.
That's like 30, almost 30 years.
I just don't see it.
So I think that means thatthere's still so much work to do
, so much conversation to be hadabout our bodies and what we're
allowed to do with them rightand we should be allowed to do,
(35:29):
without getting side eyes andand comments and criticisms and
questions and then like weirdpeople that are on the internet
who have those fetishes.
Like it's just so great.
It's crazy out here, it's crazy.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Well, yeah, I'm, I'm super, I'm like already thinking
as you're talking.
I'm like I can't wait to read,to read the chapter.
It's going to be so great.
Listen, if you have just eatenup every single word that Naomi
has spoken today, tell everybodywhere they can find you and
follow along on all your staff.
Speaker 3 (36:08):
I had this urge to go .
Nom nom nom.
Yes, you can find me onInstagram at Naomi underscore
authentically.
I'm also in the process ofcreating my country coaching
website, so that's countrycoachingcom.
(36:30):
Again, it's in the works and Iwould love to connect with you,
even just to hear your takeawaysfrom the podcast, your the
things that you just lovedhearing, the things that maybe
struck chord or just made youthink.
(36:51):
I would love if you connectedwith me and just shared that.
That would be so fabulous Iloved.
I would love to know who islistening to this amazing
podcast.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
That is one thing about.
Like podcasting is like we havethese incredible conversations
and then we put them out andlike you never you really like,
unless somebody messages you andsays, hey, I took this away
from it.
Like you never really know theimpact that the conversations
are having.
So, yeah, share with us all ofyour takeaways.
Thank you for being just suchan incredible light in the world
(37:26):
and also like a great human inmy life.
I'm just like so grateful.
I can't wait for you to be herein September so that we can see
each other and, yeah, everybody, go, go and follow along.
And thank you for joining methis week.
I just adore you.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
Thank you so much, andrea.
The feeling is so mutual, andI'm so grateful for you too.
This has been such a good year,I know it has been All right.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
Everybody will catch you next week, take care.
Thanks so much for being here.
I hope you're leaving with afull heart, some inspiration, or
you're feeling the kick in thebutt you felt like you needed.
If you really enjoyed thisepisode, be sure to share it
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Speaker 2 (00:03):
Women for Women.
Welcome to the Balance andBliss Podcast.
I'm your host, Andrea Mondu, athree-time published author,
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believes everyone should begiven the gift of knowing how to
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Wellness is not linear and it'snot just one thing.
It expands into so many areasand on this show we're going to
talk about just that.
We're all striving to live alittle more healthy and a little
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more well, but what does thateven mean?
My goal is to help you see thatyou can move from the mundane
to the magic when it comes toliving aligned and fulfilled,
and by tuning in each week youcan be assured you'll leave with
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Now let's dive in.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Hey there, I'm Mary Angelica and host of Honestly
Becoming your new favorite fiveminute podcast for driven
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Be ready for mic drops andbreakthroughs that will help you
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Get ready to become the bestversion of yourself.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
That is just like yeah, it's, it's a fucking
beautiful thing, and I mean notthat I even have to justify this
.
I, I love my children, but Ialso love myself and I want this
time for myself and I've put inthe work to have this time for
(02:05):
myself, so it's due.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
There is nothing more grateful than a parent and like
and just the the, the way thatwe took it for granted before
children.
It's like you just get thiswhole new appreciation of
personal space, personal time,yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Like I was talking to a friend of mine who, uh, she
had a baby four or five monthsago and she was saying to me
yesterday she's like so dadstayed at home with the baby and
I went and did groceries.
And it was great and, like you,know the time, like the time to
herself, to like wander aroundthe aisles really slowly, like
(02:53):
it really does remind you tolook at like the simplities of
life and like really lean in,lean into those moments.
So, anyway, we're just going tojump in.
I just hit record becausethat's just.
I knew that we would have likejuicy shit to say right off the
bat.
(03:13):
And so I just hit record so thatwe could uh, we could get
started.
But hey, everybody, you justeavesdropped on a conversation
that Naomi and I were having.
But thanks for tuning in foranother week to join us.
Um, if you saw my stories acouple of weeks ago, I like
hinted at this episode comingout.
(03:34):
I knew that it was going to begold, because so Naomi and I met
, and I'll let you introduceyourself in a second.
But Naomi and I met, um on thetrip that I won to LA, um to go
to this three day conference,life changing experience, and we
told I feel like we definitelyhit it off.
(03:55):
Um, I mean, obviously we've.
We've stayed pretty closelyconnected since then.
But, um, I just I, you know, Iwas thinking this morning about
like the first time that I metyou on that trip and I still
remember the glasses with likethe colorful, like glasses
string.
I loved those so much and yourkick ass hair and I was just
(04:18):
like this human is so likevibrant, and so like owning the
space that they are in and yeah,it was just it was really cool.
And then hanging out by the poolafter and yeah, like you
basically were, just we wereattached uh our little group
(04:38):
from then until the end of theof the trip Um and then we got
tattoos together.
Speaker 3 (04:44):
Oh my gosh Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Let's not forget that part.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Let's not forget that .
So I am like, uh, I you knowthis, but I am, I'm telling
everybody who's listening I am,uh, I like to get tattoos to
like commemorate things, really,really big experiences, Um, and
I have never gotten a tattoo.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
I know, I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
The crazy part about it.
Like anyway, it's just so crazy.
So you know I had planned ongetting one.
I, you know, I'd said to Mary,angelica and Rochelle I'm like,
listen, when we're there, likethe last day I'm going to go get
a tattoo.
And they're like, yeah, we'll,we'll come with you, you and I
meet the day of the tattoo plans.
We went to Santa Monica pierand then you said you would like
(05:28):
also come to the tattoo shopand then you were like, oh,
maybe I'll get one too.
Fun story, funny, fun fact.
I actually like, when we, whenyou said you were doing that, I
was like, oh, she like probablylike me, just likes to get
tattoos for like fun things.
It was your first one, it wasyour first one and you just were
like, yeah, I'll come in andlike get, maybe look at getting
(05:51):
inked with you.
And it was just really cool tobe a part of that experience
with you.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I'll take my ink virginity, no problem.
Oh my God.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh, is it like how's it looking Amazing.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
I look at it all the time and it just I got an
airplane.
For whoever doesn't doesn'tknow I've got an airplane.
Again, it was kind of inrelation to the trip.
It's just that reminder thatsometimes we have to get on the
plane, buy the ticket to thething, even if we don't have
everything figured out, even ifwe don't know every single last
(06:28):
detail or every single outcomethat we're gonna get from the
thing.
If we just feel it in our soulor in our heart that like I need
to be there, I want to be there, just fucking do it, get the
ticket, get on the plane andmagic will unfold.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Yeah, it was such a magical like experience to have
together and it was so fitting,because you're like looking,
you're like, what am I gonna get?
What am I gonna get?
And I was getting my sparkletattoo and then you were just
like, oh my gosh, this is what.
And I was like, oh my gosh,that's so good.
Anyway, why don't you introduceyourself, like give us the the
(07:04):
pitch of like I mean, there's somany things we do all the time,
but who are you?
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Who are you and why are you on my podcast?
I am Naomi, pronouns she andthey.
I am CEO, founder and headcoach at newly founded Kante
Coaching Limitaba, because Iregistered it here in Portugal,
where I'm now living with myfamily, whom I love very much.
(07:34):
I have an almost four year oldand a loving partner and I.
Moving here has been one of thebest things I've ever done.
Embarking on the entrepreneurjourney has been one of the best
things I've ever done, all ofwhich come with their own unique
challenges and whirlwinds, butso so incredibly worth it.
(07:59):
And then the amazing peopleI've met along the way, like
yourself, andrea, and so manyothers, just fuels me, and I
created this Kante movement,this Kante acronym A, to reclaim
that word right, because it's a, it's a, it's a vulgar word.
(08:22):
Yeah, it's historically a veryvulgar word.
Yeah, I mean like okay, yes, butalso I'm learning that
historically, historically, itwasn't In a lot of cultures, it
actually and this is no surprise, right, Because like the
patriarchy and what supremacyjust fucks everything up, it
wasn't always a vulgar word.
(08:44):
It became one, it became aweapon, so it's time to reclaim
that.
But also I wanted to divedeeper into into it, like what
are the characteristics of a youknow woman that is being called
(09:04):
a Kante?
What is this energy?
What is it?
Because I know there'ssomething really powerful there,
something powerful enough tomake a swear word out of it, to
like to use it right.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
To have somebody to like, label, people that like oh
you, you deserve this term.
Well, why?
And why is it a bad thing?
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Yes, and then I dug deeper and I realized that most
of the time, women who arelabeled as Kants are actually
just like standing in theirpower and holding strong
boundaries and like just intheir power.
It's like a positive thing,it's a good thing, but people
(09:49):
have put something this term onthem to like take them out of
that or disempower them orsomething.
And so I went on to kind ofdeconstruct that a little bit
further and investigate thatfurther and I created this, the
acronym for Kante, which reallyis like a guiding star for me
(10:11):
and how I want to live my life,like in that power, in the, in
my truth, and how I want othersto live in their truth and their
power as well.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
I think that this is like one of the things that I
love about you.
I have really been realizingthat I have like small talk
conversations with people, right, you see people that like you
haven't seen in a long time.
You're like, hey, how's itgoing?
Like what you've been up to,how's your, how's your thing,
how have things been?
Oh, I've been busy, oh cool.
(10:42):
Like I have those conversationsand they almost make me feel a
little bit awkward because Ilove the deep shit, like I love
having real raw, like powerfulconversations about life, about
society, about the stories thatwe've been told.
(11:04):
And I think that, like I'mrealizing, not everybody is
really comfortable with havingthose types of conversations
because, going back to thestories, we've been conditioned
for so long that it's like, whenyou have those conversations,
those people are like thefeather rufflers, those people
are like the ones that you haveto watch out for because they're
not falling into line.
(11:25):
And so, going back to what Iwas saying, like I I really
appreciated that about you, likeright from the get, go like
first day, like just, and Ithink that it was also like that
atmosphere was created in thatspace so it really facilitated
and gave like comfortability ofhaving those conversations, but
(11:47):
some people can lean into thatand some people can't and, like
as a group, I think we likeleaned all the way in and, of
course, as like a podcast host,I love having the really great
conversation, so I'm like.
You know, we're sitting around,all of us are eating burgers.
That night, though, I didn'tthink you had burger.
Speaker 3 (12:06):
You didn't have a burger, right, you did not have
a burger.
I, in my true Portuguese nature, had fish.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
But like it was, like we're you know I'm talking
about like you need to come,need to.
I would love for you to comeand and have some of these
conversations with other peoplewho are listening, because
that's how, like these movements, that's how these like changes
start to happen, is like peoplegiving information or dropping
nuggets of like hey, this is howthings have been for a really
(12:35):
long time.
Does it have to continue to bethat way or can we?
Can we start to do things alittle bit differently?
How did you even like start onthis movement that you're
creating?
Like, what made you decide likethis is the work that I'm doing
?
Speaker 3 (12:54):
Oh, that's such a great question and I actually
wonder that myself sometimes.
Like how did I just one daythink of think to dig deeper
into this word cunt and deeperinto this, create this acronym
like who does that on a rainyafternoon?
Like?
Speaker 1 (13:15):
just.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
I don't know me.
Apparently I think it's beeninspired by the incredible
people.
Just to come back to that, likethe incredible people I've been
around and women that are like,reclaiming their power, putting
themselves in positions ofpower, growing businesses,
growing families, not taking anyshit exactly what you're
(13:38):
talking about.
Like the people who want moreand who are open and like and
deciding to have more in theirlives and not take the shit that
they've just been handed andgiven right.
So maybe it started with that.
Maybe it started with startingto surround myself with the
(13:59):
right people, the right energy,which was cunt energy.
I just didn't know it at thetime and I didn't know that
that's what I was doing in myown life.
I have been like I didn't havea really a word for it, you know
, but I've been on this journeyof like.
So the I'll say the acronym forpeople just to clarify this as
(14:24):
we go forward through thepodcast and through my story.
So c is for courageous, u isfor unapologetic, n is for
notable, t is for transcendentand y is for you authentically.
So who are you authentically?
So I realized that I'veactually been on this journey
(14:50):
more so like since I became aparent and that's why, for a
while, I was focusing on workingwith parents, because I really
wanted to help parents tap intothis energy for themselves.
I've since pivoted to expandthat and work with entrepreneurs
, content creators, artists,parents anyone who wants like to
(15:11):
tap into this energy in theirlife and like let go of some
serious barriers and like someserious shit.
So I think that's where itstarted, honestly.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
Well and I think that this is a pretty common thread
for people who have children andbecome parents is it's like
you're almost forced toreevaluate everything that you
have learned and everythingabout like the society that
(15:45):
you're living in and all ofthese things about, like the
stories that you I mean I knowthis is really true for me and
again in the work that I doaround like breaking down that
diet, culture and like all thebody shit that we've been handed
.
I watched your reel the otherday, by the way, about like we
actually learned to hate ourbodies before we learned to love
our bodies, which I was likefuck, like it's true, it's so
(16:09):
true.
And so it's just like I thinkwhen you become a parent, you're
like, okay, how did I grow up,what did I think and feel and
understand about the world, andwhat do I want my child to think
and feel and understand aboutthe world?
And then that dictates one howyou show up as a parent then,
(16:31):
but also how you live your life.
And thank you for breaking downthe acronym also, because people
are like cuntie, what but, whenyou break it down that way, it
really makes a lot of sense,because in order to cut through
that shit, you have to show upin those sorts of ways.
So if somebody is listening, ohsorry, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
No, I was just gonna say like I love that courage is
the first letter and the firstword and I think, like I'm just
so glad that that's whatunfolded, naturally, because I
think courage underlineseverything else.
Like to be all of those otherthings in a world that wasn't
set up for us takes a lot ofcourage and it's really powerful
(17:19):
.
And, like you're saying, in theparenthood journey, yeah, it
does take a lot of courage to dothat inner work, that inner
thought that you just described,and then to actually live it
and to lead by example.
That was one of the biggestthings, and I don't know if you
(17:40):
relate to this, but I have adaughter, you have two daughters
, right until they tell usotherwise, right, and so there's
so much that we know thatsociety is going to try and do
to them that we have this choiceabout what are we going to do
(18:01):
for them.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
What are?
Speaker 3 (18:01):
we going to show them , not just what are we going to
tell them.
What are we going to show themby our own actions.
And that really, really pushedme forward on this journey.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yeah, and I mean.
the reality is too is that weare simply, unfortunately, one
influence in the world that theyare going to grow up in, so we
can try our best and say all thethings and do all the things
and be all the things, and therewill still be a lot of that
stuff that exists on the outsideand I think that this is also
(18:36):
something that's even applicableto working with clients and
anybody who's trying to create achange Like we can facilitate
the creation of the change, butthere's a lot on the exterior
that's not going to change justbecause we are, and so how can
we show up in that world then?
And it's almost like, how can weput the blinders on or be like
(18:57):
OK, I was talking yesterdayabout protecting your energy,
and how can we protect our ownenergy in knowing that all of
this stuff is happening and itmay happen to us in these
conversations may happen, orthese comments may be made, or
these situations may unfold thatwe're a part of.
But what we have control overis how we show up in those
(19:20):
situations and then how we allowthat situation to affect us,
how far it can penetrate us,like in our soul.
Or are we just like boop, likeyou know, I'm rubber and you're
glue right.
Whatever you say to me bouncesoff of me and sticks on to you,
like that?
That really is like.
There's a lot of truth in thatstatement, actually.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Yeah, I think that has been such an interesting
thing to explore and figure outfor myself, because I am someone
who has always seen myself asvery empathetic and also
sensitive, so I always have feltthings on a very deep level.
So this has been very pertinentoh my gosh for me, and I think
(20:07):
again I'm going to bring it backto the people that we surround
ourselves with Like not only dothey help galvanize us so that
in those moments where we'refaced with something difficult,
we feel like maybe we're notalone, we can kind of feel them
in the background.
I don't know if you've ever hadthat experience, but it just
(20:29):
helps to not feel so alone whenyou know you have really strong,
supportive individuals thathave your back.
And then you know, I also have ahandful of role models in my
head when I'm going throughthings that I can kind of ask
what would they do in thissituation?
(20:51):
So that's another incredibletool.
And then you can always go backto the squad after the fact and
help, and they can help you notlet it sink so deep as well,
and they can really help reflectwhat they really truly see of
you and what you know aboutyourself and not let outside
(21:13):
bullshit penetrate.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I feel like this conversation is so like divinely
aligned, because so I'm workingon my second solo book right
now and I was just doing somewriting recently and I was
literally just writing about atime in my life where I had to
show up in like a certain wayand I felt really uncomfortable.
(21:37):
Ok, so I had to do likenetworking with like random
people and that has not alwaysbeen a skill of mine where it's
like, oh, I feel really nervous,like I was saying we small talk
conversations, and so in thosemoments I was fortunate enough
to have some really good friends, one in particular that I would
show up in those situations andgo, ok, what would so and so do
(22:00):
in this room?
And what that did was that gaveme the courage to show up in a
way that I wanted to show up butthat I didn't quite feel that I
could yet.
Because I think this is thetrap that a lot of people fall
into is it's like you see peopleshowing up or doing the thing
(22:20):
or living their lives in a way,and you're like, oh, that looks
awesome, but like I can't dothat, like that's not something
that I could do, and it's likewe live our lives as like the
present people that we are, andwe don't allow ourselves to be
the future selves that we wantto be.
But that's what you have to do,right?
(22:42):
It's like you have to.
It's almost like you're you'reacting as that until you're
becoming that Right.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
You're, you're pre connecting to it.
You're, you're trying to fostera connection with like that,
that higher, true yourself, thatcountry, self Right.
And here's the beautiful thingis that when we can do that we
can, we have the, the thepossibility to become that role
model, that person for someoneelse, when we live in our truth,
(23:11):
so that it's like it has thisripple effect.
It has this really powerfulripple effect where, when we're
showing up in our truth, we havethe power to, to, to inspire
others and to help them tap intosomething that they really need
.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
OK, so then can you like walk us through I don't
know, maybe if we want to picklike a situation I mean, this is
probably an exercise you mightdo with clients, whether there's
like a situation, somebody's ina situation or somebody's
living a current way right now,but they would like to show up
more country in their lives orin that situation.
(23:48):
How does somebody like start todo that if they're at ground
zero?
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Yeah, the way that I, it's a process, right, and
that's going to be the unsexyanswer, because I know that
someone's like give me a journalprompt so that I can be my
country as self today.
It is a process and we're we'realways being told like, life is
(24:15):
about the process, right, thejourney is the, the, the thing
that we need to, to honor, andso this is a very much a an
example of that, because it'slittle, teeny, tiny shifts that
happen that when you look back,it's like whoa, I'm, I am, I'm
way more my true self than I was, you know, four months ago, a
(24:38):
year ago, etc.
But the way that I, the processthat I take folks on, is, I
start with acknowledging becausewe can't, we can't fuck with
things that we don't know about.
Ok, we need to know what we'recarrying before we can, like let
go of it, right and and justput it aside.
(25:01):
So that's the first thing.
The second thing is activationlike figuring out who your
people are, activating thatsquad, right.
Figuring out what ispleasurable for you activating
that.
Figuring out what clothingmakes you, like feel more
(25:25):
powerful in yourself activatingthat, right.
So that moment we do a lot ofwork about how to step into that
a little bit more.
But you can't do that beforeyou've acknowledged what's going
on in the background.
And then the last piece isaccountability, because, being
(25:50):
your country itself, it takesconstant I don't know if effort
is the right word, but, justlike care, just takes constant
care to nourish ourselves, tochoose what's right for us,
because if we're growing, thenwe're always gonna need to tap
(26:10):
into courage, right?
There's always gonna be asituation that needs our courage
.
There's always gonna be asituation that's gonna demand
for us to not to be unapologetic, to do something notable, right
?
So the accountability stage islike how can we make sure that
you're on a growth path ifthat's what you wanna do?
(26:30):
Right, and the people that Iwork with, they want to be on a
growth path right.
It's something that a lot of usreally find a lot of pleasure
and joy in.
So I'd say that's the shortanswer, if you will.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
I love that it.
You're very right when you saythat the biggest piece and maybe
like the most well, I wouldn'tsay it's the most challenging,
but one of the vital pieces issimply just that acknowledgement
, because if you do and that'sreally hard to look at yourself
and be like what isn't working,what isn't serving me well, and
(27:09):
again we've been conditioned tolike just kind of go through the
motions and not challenge thestatus quo and this is like this
is how we are, this is howthings are, and not really like.
Also, the other thing that'scoming into my mind right now is
it's also been like perceivedas like vain.
If we're gonna spend this muchtime on ourselves, this much
(27:33):
time on doing the work for meand investing in me and that is
also a really, really bigbarrier for people to get past
is I couldn't.
I can't spend X amount ofdollars to spend six months
focusing on just myself.
I have all these other thingsthat I need to be doing and like
(27:56):
we don't prioritize ourselvesenough.
So it feels like very foolishfor people and it's hard for
people to get over.
Speaker 3 (28:03):
Yeah, and that's by design too right, like there's
always.
I find that there's alwayssomething more beneath the
surface to dig into.
There.
It is by design that we've beentaught that it's vain and that
it's selfish, and there's somany words for it because it
keeps us from our truth.
Like and that has been used asa tool and like.
(28:28):
Another thing, too, is just ourcollective exhaustion with
everything going on in the world.
Sometimes we know that thereare things we can change, we
know that there are thingsholding us back, and sometimes
we just don't feel empowered tolike, decide to do that work.
It's a lot, it is work.
(28:49):
It is like it's some effort tolike, dig into these things and
to dig into your truth and tolet it out.
And it's not all rainbows andsunshine.
It can be scary, it can be, itcan cost money.
There's so many differentthings right, so many barriers,
like you said.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
But listen, we are, you are, if you are listening to
this, you are 150,000 milliontrillion worth investing in, and
you know everybody deserves tolive the life that they want.
And the truth is, is that youhave to create that for yourself
(29:32):
, right, you have to create thatfor yourself and it's a process
.
You know, I think about myselfgoing into the fall.
Like I have been spending years, years, creating the life that
I'm going to have come September.
Well, that I have right now,really, and you know it hasn't
(29:53):
come without its challenges.
I was reflecting on this while Iwas away on vacation.
Like I have been told no somany times in conversations that
I've had, in potentialopportunities, in potential
clients, in like so manydifferent spaces.
(30:14):
You know I've been told no alot and yet I have still
continued to persevere because Ihave this end goal and like it
takes a fucking lot out of youto continuously show up for
yourself and to pick yourselfback up off the ground, but I
can tell you that it is so worthit when you get closer and
(30:39):
closer and finally land in theplace of like, oh, this is what
I've been working on and forsince 2018.
It's fucking 2023 now.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
This is what I have been working on since 2018.
Five years, five years later, Ihave arrived and you know it's
maybe not even the full like,but you know it's.
You get there and you havethese milestones and that's why
you know the accountability isso important too, because it's
like you have to hold yourselfaccountable, which is a really
(31:14):
big component of it, but alsoyou can create spaces and
connections and relationshipswith people that will also hold
you accountable and when theyknow, like, they will hold your
dream for you, Like you are verymuch a dream holder.
Or you're constantly checking inlike hey, how are you doing,
(31:36):
are you?
This is where you wanna be?
Like you ask those really likedeep questions and almost like
not challenging in a bad way,but like okay, but is that the
way that it has to be?
Or like this is what you want?
So what can you do to like getyourself there?
Those people are so powerfulI'm thinking about when we were
(31:58):
out for ramen and you're likeasking about, you know, like
household duties and yeah, allthose, you know, all those
expectations.
Like all right bitches how arewe gonna get empowered and get
our?
Work out there and like getcared for, yeah, but I just love
it because it really does makesuch a difference for people,
and we haven't even touched onthis yet, but you are going to
(32:22):
be in book three, which is sobook three of body bliss,
obviously for everybodylistening.
How are you feeling about that?
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Okay, I'm going to answer that, but first can we
all just appreciate, take aminute to appreciate the biggest
permission slip you just gaveso many people.
Like I just need to say that,that everything you just shared
about it was so honest about yes, it's challenging, but it's so
(32:52):
incredibly worth it.
I think so many people who arelistening felt some relief or
something unlocked within themthat said I can do this, it's
going to be worth it.
Even if it's hard, I can do it.
I have some tools.
She's saying get the squad.
She's doing like I think thatwas so incredibly beautiful.
So before we move on, I justneed to say that.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Thank you for saying that.
You know I'm so I I'm so bad atlike just glazing over the
things that I say and just beinglike, oh yeah, like I hear what
other people say and I'm like,oh, that was so good.
But I don't often think thatthe stuff that I say is good.
So thank you for doing thatAgain, Naomi.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Ladies and gentlemen, Well, I mean, I think you're
just fostering such a beautifulconversation of beautiful space
here on your podcast, so itneeds to be said.
Um, yeah, book three, oh, myGod, I I'm so excited this is
something that is such a bigpart of me is going to be
(33:54):
sharing this story about my bodyhair journey more, and I've
already started doing that.
Um, that's one of the thingsthat I literally decided when I
gave birth to my daughter.
I was like that, like I wastalking about earlier.
It's like, oh crap, like I needto actually live and act in
(34:18):
accordance with my beliefs and Iwant her to feel free to be
herself and not have to changeher body.
Um, and, like I heard, Ilearned that the hard way.
It's been a journey, but I can'twait to talk about that in the
book because I don't see, likeany people who present as
(34:43):
feminine, like I am I'mgenderqueer, but I'm a
genderqueer woman.
I present in the world more onlike the feminine side of things
, right, kind of not not not somuch, but like more so in that
area, and I never see anyonethat looks like me, that has and
(35:04):
embraces their body hair.
It's like my whole life.
That's like 30, almost 30 years.
I just don't see it.
So I think that means thatthere's still so much work to do
, so much conversation to be hadabout our bodies and what we're
allowed to do with them rightand we should be allowed to do,
(35:29):
without getting side eyes andand comments and criticisms and
questions and then like weirdpeople that are on the internet
who have those fetishes.
Like it's just so great.
It's crazy out here, it's crazy.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Well, yeah, I'm, I'm super, I'm like already thinking
as you're talking.
I'm like I can't wait to read,to read the chapter.
It's going to be so great.
Listen, if you have just eatenup every single word that Naomi
has spoken today, tell everybodywhere they can find you and
follow along on all your staff.
Speaker 3 (36:08):
I had this urge to go .
Nom nom nom.
Yes, you can find me onInstagram at Naomi underscore
authentically.
I'm also in the process ofcreating my country coaching
website, so that's countrycoachingcom.
(36:30):
Again, it's in the works and Iwould love to connect with you,
even just to hear your takeawaysfrom the podcast, your the
things that you just lovedhearing, the things that maybe
struck chord or just made youthink.
(36:51):
I would love if you connectedwith me and just shared that.
That would be so fabulous Iloved.
I would love to know who islistening to this amazing
podcast.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
That is one thing about.
Like podcasting is like we havethese incredible conversations
and then we put them out andlike you never you really like,
unless somebody messages you andsays, hey, I took this away
from it.
Like you never really know theimpact that the conversations
are having.
So, yeah, share with us all ofyour takeaways.
Thank you for being just suchan incredible light in the world
(37:26):
and also like a great human inmy life.
I'm just like so grateful.
I can't wait for you to be herein September so that we can see
each other and, yeah, everybody, go, go and follow along.
And thank you for joining methis week.
I just adore you.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
Thank you so much, andrea.
The feeling is so mutual, andI'm so grateful for you too.
This has been such a good year,I know it has been All right.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
Everybody will catch you next week, take care.
Thanks so much for being here.
I hope you're leaving with afull heart, some inspiration, or
you're feeling the kick in thebutt you felt like you needed.
If you really enjoyed thisepisode, be sure to share it
with a friend or let me knowRates, reviews, subscribing and
sharing are all great ways tosupport the show, and if you
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want to stay in touch, follow meover on Instagram at
thebalancebless.
Thanks for listening today andstay well.
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