March 7, 2024 • 32 mins
In this empowering episode, we dissect the wonders of 'Jay Bonacolta's Rule of 100' and its impact on our growth in various disciplines. Discover how dedicating just 18 minutes a day to a particular task can put you ahead of 95% of the world in that field. This all revolves around the crux of consistency and devotion. Unearth the ways in which daily investment of time can transform you into an expert in your desired domain.
Dive deep into the discussion about 'body doubling' - a highly effective technique for overcoming Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) paralysis, and a mysterious productivity booster. Hear about how incorporating 'Bonacolta's Rule of 100' has dramatically changed our abilities, impacting areas as varied as art and physical fitness. We candidly talk about our own goals and which activities we're choosing to dedicate our 100 hours to in the year ahead.
We stress the importance of meeting oneself where they're and taking intentional steps towards growth. Join us as we share our experiences with this rule in different arenas, be it office organization, painting, or even physical fitness. Listen in as we reflect on previous projects, evaluating their worth in terms of the coveted 100-hour investment.
In this journey of creativity and self-improvement, we ponder upon our own struggles to find focus and dedication in our creative pursuits. Sharing a practical guide to exploring your creative instincts, we discuss particulars of drawing, painting, and trying out new mediums of art.
Want to learn ice-skating, or dreaming of picking up a foreign language? Find inspiration to transform these fleeting thoughts into consistent actions. Relish in the beauty of new experiences, whether it's playing tennis or composing music. Understand the role of choosing your most productive time slots to channel your creativity.
We invite you on this path of exploration and self-discovery. Embrace the challenge of balancing demanding day jobs with nurturing your personal creativity. With sneak peeks into varied lives - from motherhood and teaching, to directing plays and planning weddings, you might find pieces that deeply resonate with you.
Ignite your curiosity about incorporating consistency into your creative journey. Consider this episode as your starter pack, let's commit to dedicating productive time each day to our passion projects.
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Music.
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Tonight, we're going to talk about the rule of 100.
Beth has found this fabulous thing on, I don't know, one of her social media platforms.
And I think we've all kind of heard about this concept before,
the idea that if you spend a little bit of time each day on something, you become an expert.
By the end of it, the rule of 100. But go ahead and read. I'll read this one.
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It's the rule of 100. If you spend 100 hours a year in any discipline,
which is only 18 minutes a day, you'll be better than 95% of the world in that discipline.
Consistency is everything. And that's by Jay Bonacolta. Thank you for the reference.
So I am terrible at that. There are lots of things that I want to be a whole
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lot better at, but I look up and five days have gone by and I've not done anything
towards it. And it's not that I don't mean to.
It's just if I don't have this huge consistent effort to build it into my routine, it doesn't happen.
Also, you and I have ADD paralysis.
And that's a real thing. And it is hard to overcome that. And I have to tell
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you. Okay. Do you know the concept of body doubling?
No. So for ADD person. Wait, wait, wait. Yes. I'm sorry. Hold on.
I'm going to my taking it in moment. Go ahead. Okay.
Okay. So body doubling. if you are an
add person and you have something you're experiencing paralysis about
if you just ask someone to go and sit in
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the room with you you get it done no okay
it's called body no they just have somebody else is there with you and all of
a sudden you can get it done the motivation it's like you're stealing the motivation
out of them if i need to clean my house clean up my closet like my friend dana
who i've known forever she used to come to my house or my closet like Like we've
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done this several times in my life.
And if I need to clean out my closet, we'll go through it together.
And if I hold up a shirt or something, she'll either thumbs up it.
Or if she doesn't like it, she bats it to the ground.
We get to bat it to the ground. So it's like this physical activity.
But also there's another human there making me do things. Same thing with her.
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She can't fold laundry. But if I go to her house, she'll fold laundry because
we can talk and stuff while we do it.
Well, that's real. I had a friend come this weekend and she wanted to paint.
Now, I wasn't teaching her, I wasn't doing this with her, but because she was
in my studio working on something, I worked on it.
In my studio and I've been trying to get in there for the past several
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weeks to start this project and because she was
there I could start it it was crazy do
you think this is the part of you too that's an extrovert because I
have often thought there's so much more I would get
done at work if I could just have an office with another
person you know what I mean oh I have
an office with another person it doesn't really help me because sometimes I
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don't want to speak in front of her i like if i'm doing videos and
things or something sometimes and she is she
is the best office partner i could ever
have like she's fabulous so but
you know but i don't know that having her there necessarily helps
me be more productive maybe it does
okay as we're having this discussion i am
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doing my yes more than 18
minutes and I do stitch every day I
am quite an accomplished stitcher but I
do stitch every day and would like
to branch out and do other things I had a I have
a friend who's an artist well I
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have two friends that are big artists besides you Bonnie
and one of them gave me the
artist's way the book and workbook years and
years ago when it first came out and I went through that
and I loved it but I wasn't at a point in my life that I
could actually execute doing something consistently
I was still in the mode of very much.
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Hands-on mommy bed bath time put them.
To bed and then take my 15 minutes to stitch or get organized for the next day.
That's all I have energy for fast forward to a bunch of years later and I met
this artist that lived in Columbia and she was exploring doing more with her art.
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To make it like a full-time business. She's very talented, but she didn't know how to go about it.
And she read a book that was very much on this principle because it was 100 paintings.
You do 100 paintings, a painting a day for 100 days to improve your technique.
It didn't matter what you, you could paint the Q-tip on your counter.
You could paint, you just did a quick painting. One painting a day could be
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any size, you know, just like what I would call a quick study.
And y'all after that
point i just watched her art just explode like
it was amazing just how that discipline of doing
it yeah every day see that's
i need that discipline to do this every day yeah i
do it's but when i have found you know because i've
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stopped art shows i'm not doing those this because i really want
to be working on my art but i'm not working on my art because i have ADHD
paralysis over it because I really I don't
have that need pushing
me to get things done and it
should be but it's not in a sense that I have but I want to do well on the other
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thing besides you say a lot about the paralysis but you know as an artist myself
sometimes I have like a writer's block or artist blog not just not just the
paralysis but like I honestly I.
In the down cycle of a creative cycle, not on the uptick.
Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, you see, I feel like I'm in that nesting
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stage where I spend all this time in the studio playing around but not really working.
That I'm getting ready to birth something. I just haven't done it yet.
So, two points I have to make. For me, when I'm doing a show,
that is the only artistic, that's the only creative energy I can give.
And the older that I get and the more I know how to negotiate what I do,
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I withhold creative energy a little bit on some projects so that I can give
creative energy to bigger projects.
Does that make sense? It makes sense to me. So I know I'm in that phase right now.
And I know that as soon as I finish this show, I'll have this little spurt of
time to devote to things that have nothing to do with creativity.
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Creativity, organization, cooking, light.
Oh, I tell you, organization is a creative effort.
No, well, today somebody walked into my office. They said, Lauren,
are we going to get merch for X, Y, and Z for the theater group?
And I said, this is something I will think about when the show is over.
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And my colleague next door said, story about what?
Because it is. And we're like, I'll get to that as soon as the show is over.
Because what and you know this both of you know this when you exhibit things in the public eye,
there's an amount of pressure and a timeline to it that
you have to meet and when that timeline is done
then you can do xyz until the next timeline and that's your most immediate timeline
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so so that's one two i had this conversation with my musical theater students
today and i have a but a very big musical theater class and a very broad range of experience.
Not skill, but experience.
And one student expressed that they were really nervous about their assignment
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and that it was, you know, they'd never really done this before.
And I said, you have to remember, you must meet yourself where you are.
That there are many people in here who have done so many performances says that
have been living with this craft for a long time.
You're brand new to this craft. You've done it once.
So meet yourself where you are, accept that, and then grow on it.
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And I said, for instance, I am, I'm a tennis player, not a very accomplished
tennis player, but I'd been playing for a few years because I liked it.
Not, not because of anything, because I enjoy it.
Do I want to get better? Sure. Do I want to be Coco or Serena Williams?
No, I don't aspire to that. But do I want to use it as a physical activity?
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Do I want to get better at it? Absolutely. Absolutely.
And so this past weekend, I took a pickleball class, like intro to pickleball.
It was free. I was like, I'm going to go to this so I can at least know how to do it.
And there were moments when I was very good because I played tennis.
And there were moments where it was terrible because I played tennis.
And I just thought, okay, this might be something that develops or not,
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but like, this is where you are.
And like the little coaches are going, like do this do this do this I'm like
no yes I'm aware I know that this is what needs to happen but I'm gonna agree
to be like yeah I did hit that ball too hard and now I can grow on that and,
either continue this thing that I like or not I think part of it is also like
going back to like what we spend our time doing is to really pick the things
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that you like doing and filter that because if there are things you don't enjoy
that you've been doing habitually get rid of it yeah Don't do it.
Like, that's, you know, my word this year is explore.
Yeah. And I took that pottery class. It was terrible.
Yeah. It was so terrible. I loved it.
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I enjoyed it. But I was terrible. I now know that it was not a missed calling.
Yeah. I should not have been a potter. Oh, no. That was not a missed calling. Oh, no. I have.
She called me and said, well, I did it and I enjoyed it. But that's off the list.
Yeah. Yeah, because I look at it and I think that's something I would love to do.
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It's not, I don't think that's actually in my wheelhouse.
I don't, I enjoyed it, but I didn't enjoy it to the point that I want to go
and dedicate 18 minutes a day to developing that skill. Yeah.
I'm very comfortable in my drawing and my painting area is where I want to stay.
Or also just figuring out the nonsense things you like. Like for me...
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Sport is a nonsense thing that I like, but it burns calories.
It burns calories and it's not something that I have to think about too much.
Yeah. You know? Yeah. And so I enjoy it very much and I can do with people.
Right. And that, that makes it happy for me. So that, that's sort of the outlet
for me, but I don't know, just, you know, again, you just have to like figure
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out I stopped working on my dissertation.
Like I went through a whole doctoral program.
I, I did all the, classes, I did a prospectus, like I wrote a whole prospectus.
And then I realized last year that I didn't want to do it anymore.
That I didn't. Well, I did the same with a master's. Yeah. I got all the way
to the end and had only a project left, a presentation, about 120 slide presentation.
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And I didn't finish it. Yeah. Because I realized this is just not the thing right now.
Like, is it something I might spend time on later? Yes.
But at this moment in my life, do I want to devote a hundred hours a year to that?
Right. No, that that's not where it is. See, for me, I moved into a different
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job position that doesn't require this master's anymore.
And I don't foresee me going back to what this master's required.
So I am one presentation away from
having it but I would have to spend the time on
that presentation to have it so yeah
a hundred hours so now it's going to have to be a check-in and keep me accountable
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did you do anything in your art room for 18 minutes today well okay when I had
the shop and I would have people come in and it didn't matter what stage stitcher
they were because needlepoint is not.
Not brain surgery it it's enjoyable
you can do it while you watch tv it's cathartic
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you're using your hands so you have some creativity you can
pick colors and threads and all that but i would
tell these women that would come in they wanted to do a belt
it's it's a nice gift it's a
good kick set gift it's a great graduation present you
can make them personal blah blah blah they would
would come in and say i'll never finish it and my standard answer
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was sit down for 15 minutes
a day and work on it because the air theoretically 15
minutes is about a yeah about an inch of work and on a needlepoint belt because
the strips are certain size and everything but what i found was if you had them
stitching for 15 minutes they would stitch for 30 or 45 and put it down and
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And if you do that every day,
I mean, I'm a very fast stitcher. I can stitch a belt in a week.
Most people can stitch, if they really put their mind to it,
they can stitch a full belt in a week.
In about two weeks without breaking a sweat or having bad calluses on their fingers like I do.
But you can do it. And it's a big sense of accomplishment when you see what
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your 15 minutes visually gives you every night that you're stitching on the spell.
And then when they turn it in and we'd send it to the leather guy and they got
it back with a brass buckle and it looked like something they would pick up at Saks Fifth Avenue.
They were very pleased they had a
tangible this is how i spent my
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time it's a piece of art it's whatever yeah so you know
some things you can tell when you're
doing your 15 or 18 minutes so you
have a evidence of what you've done other
things like if you exercise 15 minutes
a day it's going to take you longer to
have the visual result but i think
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you know 100 hours is a hundred hours and in
the span of your actual life a hundred
hours is nothing it's not all right so if y'all could
dedicate truly a hundred hours this year what
would you want your hundred hours to be on oh i spoke
this out loud today okay there are
three things for me working on my next show like
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getting organized in my home
office and other office
so in my home my office at my church space is
that those are my three spaces that i'm sort of not in charge of but like that
you occupy that i occupy and physical fitness those are my three that's really
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what i need to was you really need 100 hours to get organized no not 100 whole
i don't know that i need 100 whole because i did a a lot.
I have done a lot in spurts. And I'm very good at when I have a chunk of time doing that.
Yeah, I'm great at that. But it's the chunks of time.
What's funny for me is sporadically like my daytime isn't nearly as packed,
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but the chunks of time are sporadic.
So like spring break, I'll have a chunk of time off so I can do more of that,
if that makes sense. Because otherwise it's just like an hour or two here or there.
All right, so what would you do, Beth? Well, you know, I'm always going to hop
for, to your point, even though I should be cleaning out my space.
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That's one thing I need to do.
I have some organizational things that I need to do.
And then I have two projects at my house that if I would just put,
if I would just put maybe not 15 minutes or 18 minutes a day,
but if I would do a couple of hours each week,
it would be knocked out. They're not really 15-minute projects.
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They're, you know, laying down. It's going to take a while. Well, that does.
I just, I just want to spend that time being creative every day,
whether I choose to draw or to paint.
I feel like, you know, I struggle with niching down.
I know that if I chose to paint every day, then my painting would get better,
but I could also choose to draw every day.
My drawing would get better, or I could use to experiment with the new oil sticks
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that I got and that would get better.
Or, you know, it would develop into something like, it's just,
I don't want to choose one thing.
I want to just spend time every day with my hands in something.
That makes sense. So I guess we can challenge our listeners to choose something.
Yeah. For 100 hours. What are your 100? If you had 100 hours.
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Especially if it's something that even if you're starting at zero,
even if you're going, you know what? I want to ice skate.
Yeah. Even if you never ice skated. If that's the thing you want to do,
go do it. because I have found, like...
In my, not later, I don't know how to describe these years. My middle years.
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That also feels weird. Adult years. In my adult years. Your grown-up years. In the last five years.
Okay. I found tennis and I never. You love tennis.
I never really, like, I played softball for a year growing up.
I played basketball for a year. But I wasn't a sporty person.
I was a theater person and I danced, I did music. Like, it was just that.
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And then I found tennis over COVID and I love tennis.
And i i devote some time to that
so like i would like new experiences are okay even if it's even if it's something
you just fantasized about and you were like yeah like me with i'll try that
yeah let me try that where we gonna say the you started laughing are you gonna dance for us No,
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we're not sporty spies. I would love to.
No, not at all. If you want to do a dance class. Oh, and I have seen mosaic tiles.
I keep talking about wanting to do mosaic tiles because I was like,
that is something, if I had painted out what I wanted to do,
I could leave it in my den as a puzzle.
And I could just do it as a puzzle and put it together. If you did it as a puzzle, you could do 18 minutes.
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Yes, I could. I could. So I could do that. When you start laying them as tiles,
that's a little technical. Well, I don't have to do that. I can hire somebody.
I could do it. I can do it. But I saw a stained glass thing that looked really
cool. Yeah, I wanted to go stain that.
Yeah, where they actually put the pieces of glass on the glass they already had.
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They didn't do a whole new window. They just put it on the window they already
had. It was cool. It was like, oh.
Might could do that okay we could do that but also you
know honestly i keep talking about this book i want
to write if i would honestly just do 15
minutes okay or if when we got home from
our walks i actually wrote for 15 minutes about these mystery books that we
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want to write yeah and then i sent it to you and then you wrote 15 minutes we'd
have 30 minutes okay i have a a similar this topic is related but not when is
your most productive time like when do do you,
when do you have the instinct to produce the most, especially the creative instinct?
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Unfortunately for my creative instinct, mine is like 10 to two,
but then can be because I don't have that time because I'm at work that time
is it has to be in the evening.
I am never a first thing in the morning person.
I know you are, you're laughing at me. I am never.
A few minutes that's every morning after my devotion even if
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it's just one stitch and that's all i have time to get in like this
morning i had to leave i was at early early i had to leave my house before 6
a.m i had my coffee did my devotion suck one stitch in that took it with me
just in case and but so my really creative time is really like right after lunch
or eight o'clock to about 10 o'clock at nine.
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Early afternoon until is my big time.
So if I could have 10 to two with a snack, but then after that it is because
for so long, it was that 11 till midnight time was the only time I had to myself.
Whether that was natural for me or not, it became my creative space.
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But my problem is, is that if I've had a really busy or hard day, my brain doesn't work.
And so it has to to be a something that's
truly just a release at that point in time something
that i don't have to truly pay attention to but that's
also okay like we have to for we have
to let ourselves have like we have jobs
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jobs are a thing and it's okay i'm so thankful like
my my partner has been off work
for three weeks because he had surgery which
i know this is dan left today yes go back back to work yes we
went back to work today and so he got home and he was
still in a like a great mood like there was no anything and
i was like well how was your day and he said well it was kind of nice to like
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go to work because then you get home we get home from work like your day's accomplished
and you can do whatever you want because you're you've accomplished some work
in the day and i was like oh i understand that completely yeah that completely yeah.
But sometimes it's like, even if you don't have a fulfilling day at your job
that pays you, like even if it's just a rote day, which we all have,
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what then can you fulfill yourself with when you're on your spare time?
And I think that we're all fairly fortunate in that we do something.
Now, Beth, I know yours is not.
I mean, you do love what you do, but sometimes it can be very tedious because
you have so much travel that you have to do.
But I think in generally, we all three work at jobs that we're good at and that
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we, for the most part, enjoy in our expertise.
So I think we're very fortunate that so we can come home and have that creative time.
Be more creative, people. Think about your 18 minutes.
Your 100. I need to do 18 minutes times what, two?
I need to do. I need to just do 15 minutes for our book.
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Book because then when you do 15 minutes for the book
we're at 30 minutes for the day because when we become one person
as an author it won't really matter we have
to accomplish 30 minutes towards that i'll write the four words and
then i'll do eight yes and i'll do eight well you're gonna have to
edit okay i'll do 18 minutes for my art yeah you'll have to edit for us read
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through and edit and add some little humor in there i don't know consistency
is a big thing that's hard Consistency is a very hard thing to do because I'll
be sporadic about all kinds of things.
Like I'll have a day where like last Monday I danced for two solid hours and
then I took a break and then I played a two hours singles tennis match and it wrecks me.
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It wrecks my body because that's not something I do consistently.
I don't like can I can I go hard for four hours? Sure.
Will it hurt me the next day? Absolutely. Absolutely. Because I don't do it consistently.
And that's, if I can brush my teeth every day, twice a day, I can do something
else for 18 minutes. I can do something.
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I've just got to plug it into that routine. Yeah. That's the spirit.
Thank you, Type A.
No, but routine can be hard because it can feel like a rule.
Not even like it, not a thing. But that'll even be hard for our personality type.
Yes, if you like it. I can rebel against a rule that I created like nobody's business.
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There you go. Well, we just need to have everybody think what they're going
to do for the $100 this year.
Yes. Well, yeah. Feel free to share.
We can come up with something else I should do for my $100. I'll be doing the
writing and the creating what I should be doing is getting back to what was I doing?
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French oh I've started Duolingo French again I need to say Duolingo that little
bird French is my the language I studied too we should all be speaking in French we could do a fun time.
Bonjour mes amis bonjour ça va? Oh. Tzava.
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Oui. I just need to know how to say, where is the needlepoint shop?
Où est le, my cousin? Où est le, wait. Où est le shop, le needle,
shop, the needle? Shop, the needlepoint?
Qui? No, that's who. That's who.
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Yes, we're terrible French people. No, all right. we're going a little crazy.
All right. Well, I think that that is great. I think we're good with our 100 hours.
I think we should do a check-in in a month or so and see if Lauren and I have
created any sort of routine. I'll bring you that project.
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A hundred hours, this ought to be finished. Yes, I agree. A hundred hours,
that should be finished. Especially since we're all the same. More like $200.
I mean $200 because it's going to take a while, but it's large. It's a large Kansas.
It's really pretty. Thank you. All right. So what are y'all going to do this
week to live a life you love?
I have a show. So, and it's a very good show and I'm very excited.
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I'm excited about going to see that. It's going to be great.
You and I can go together. So let me know. Yeah.
And then after that, I kind of get like a moment where like,
as soon as my show closes, is my son has his spring break and then I roll right into my spring break.
So it's going to like, in my job, a show is the thing you work toward.
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And as soon as that's over, then you get to catch up on the other things, sort of.
So that's what the rest of the semester was sort of feel like to me is just
like a little bit of- Doing all the rest of the busy work for things. Doing the rest of my job.
And just spending, like, cause he's out of school, I'll spend a little more time with him.
That's exciting well my daughter has a dance the one
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that was postponed because of the ice storm and
then we'll be on spring break
shortly too and i've been gifted the chance to go to the beach so still thinking
it over and making sure that it will work out because my daughter also has a
show and i'm not sure how the rehearsal schedule is going to go with spring
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break and all that So we're figuring it out,
but just having the possibility.
It's fun to think about. Yeah. I have to shop for the mother of the groom dress. Okay.
Wait, do you need to make that a thing? Probably, because at this point,
I don't have a thing. Yes, I need to go anywhere.
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Maybe we should go to Nashville. But I have got to find a dress.
So my spring break is coming up, too.
Okay. And so I'm hoping that over spring break that I get that done.
And I'm struggling a little bit with having been a teacher, a nine-month teacher
that has summers off. off and now I'm a nine, I'm a 12 month seizure.
So I don't like, I'm a regular working person with like the week's off for vacation and things like that.
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So I'm looking at spring break thinking I may not need to go anywhere.
I may need to stay here and get home projects done. And those kinds of things
that I used to look forward to in the summer, but at the same time going to
the beach would be like, but you've got a, you've also got a wedding. I do.
And I've got things I need to get get organized for
that and i've got to get once again i've got to have i have to
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have a an aunt of the groom dress because
my nephew's getting married in april a mother of
the groom dress for my kid in june and just
general things you gotta
have a rehearsal dinner dress you've got oh gosh yes
and i have a rehearsal dinner dress like there's i
there's a lot i have never had this much trouble dressing myself
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you need to make a list of all the things you can just make a list every day
baby there's no you never know when you're gonna cry yeah waterproof mascara
is a must i'm just saying it is you can cry every day but you won't have professional photography.
In your face every day you know but but still good point waterproof mascara
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i don't care what the occasion you need it the highlight was it when i was about
to get married i have a i have May I have an aside?
Of course. So my mother made my wedding dress. My mother did not finish my wedding dress.
And I was in the bridal suite waiting to get married, waiting on my wedding dress to show up.
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And I tried it on the bodice fit, like everything was fine.
She was just finishing the skirt, like the end.
I get a call from my mother. Mother, if you listen to this, I love you.
I'm not angry with you at all.
You're one of my favorite humans. Anyway, I get a call from my mother,
and she says, and this was, I got married at 4 o'clock.
This was at 3 o'clock.
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She calls me. I'm in a bridal suite at the church. And she says,
I need you to postpone your wedding.
I'm not done with your dress. And I was like, mother, mother,
bring the, like, she hand stitched it. It's like, bring it now.
I said, just, I don't care what's said. Just bring it. She's like,
I can't. I just can't. And I was like, mom, just bring the dress.
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So then we send my sister to get the dress from the house and extract my mother from the house.
My stepmom in the time being brings my sister's dress i don't know a lot of
dresses are brought to me and then in this whole rigmarole my my aunt comes
in hands me a xanax she's like take this.
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I took one the night the day of my.
Wedding also took a half a xanax because i started
bursting out laughing during the vow during the vow rehearsal
dinner my mom mom was like you can't do that during the
real thing like my hair was perfectly coiffed my
makeup was exquisite like I looked amazing and
I thought no no no I don't need the pills I'm not
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gonna cry but this is this is so
strange so finally my like I I
made the pre-show music go longer and
finally the dress shows up and it's like a little it's not
finished at the edges but you couldn't tell so i
just i wore it anyway and so you got to wear your
dress that your mom made yeah now it
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doesn't matter to me but the fact that my mother made it is what
matters is what matters to me which is funny because at
the moment i was like i'm in an unfinished dress too
bad you could have torn it up and made it into leo's christmas
i love how you just want the music as the pre-show it's
a pre-show it's a pre-show music well they were
supposed to they were supposed to go look in my
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defense and i would be a great event planner pre
pre-show would go to four and then we'd start the show right well we were supposed
to start the show at four no you mean the pre-show started at four it's not
really it's the show it's a show it's a show it's an event it started at four
We didn't start the We didn't start the weighing before 30.
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Places Places everyone The plan is here And go Anyway No.
This is when I was Methodist Blacksbeam I was Methodist Because I could just
see him Alright We're going to have a fabulous week y'all,
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thank y'all for joining us for champagne sunday see you next week.
Music.
Music.
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Tonight, we're going to talk about the rule of 100.
Beth has found this fabulous thing on, I don't know, one of her social media platforms.
And I think we've all kind of heard about this concept before,
the idea that if you spend a little bit of time each day on something, you become an expert.
By the end of it, the rule of 100. But go ahead and read. I'll read this one.
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It's the rule of 100. If you spend 100 hours a year in any discipline,
which is only 18 minutes a day, you'll be better than 95% of the world in that discipline.
Consistency is everything. And that's by Jay Bonacolta. Thank you for the reference.
So I am terrible at that. There are lots of things that I want to be a whole
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lot better at, but I look up and five days have gone by and I've not done anything
towards it. And it's not that I don't mean to.
It's just if I don't have this huge consistent effort to build it into my routine, it doesn't happen.
Also, you and I have ADD paralysis.
And that's a real thing. And it is hard to overcome that. And I have to tell
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you. Okay. Do you know the concept of body doubling?
No. So for ADD person. Wait, wait, wait. Yes. I'm sorry. Hold on.
I'm going to my taking it in moment. Go ahead. Okay.
Okay. So body doubling. if you are an
add person and you have something you're experiencing paralysis about
if you just ask someone to go and sit in
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the room with you you get it done no okay
it's called body no they just have somebody else is there with you and all of
a sudden you can get it done the motivation it's like you're stealing the motivation
out of them if i need to clean my house clean up my closet like my friend dana
who i've known forever she used to come to my house or my closet like Like we've
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done this several times in my life.
And if I need to clean out my closet, we'll go through it together.
And if I hold up a shirt or something, she'll either thumbs up it.
Or if she doesn't like it, she bats it to the ground.
We get to bat it to the ground. So it's like this physical activity.
But also there's another human there making me do things. Same thing with her.
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She can't fold laundry. But if I go to her house, she'll fold laundry because
we can talk and stuff while we do it.
Well, that's real. I had a friend come this weekend and she wanted to paint.
Now, I wasn't teaching her, I wasn't doing this with her, but because she was
in my studio working on something, I worked on it.
In my studio and I've been trying to get in there for the past several
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weeks to start this project and because she was
there I could start it it was crazy do
you think this is the part of you too that's an extrovert because I
have often thought there's so much more I would get
done at work if I could just have an office with another
person you know what I mean oh I have
an office with another person it doesn't really help me because sometimes I
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don't want to speak in front of her i like if i'm doing videos and
things or something sometimes and she is she
is the best office partner i could ever
have like she's fabulous so but
you know but i don't know that having her there necessarily helps
me be more productive maybe it does
okay as we're having this discussion i am
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doing my yes more than 18
minutes and I do stitch every day I
am quite an accomplished stitcher but I
do stitch every day and would like
to branch out and do other things I had a I have
a friend who's an artist well I
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have two friends that are big artists besides you Bonnie
and one of them gave me the
artist's way the book and workbook years and
years ago when it first came out and I went through that
and I loved it but I wasn't at a point in my life that I
could actually execute doing something consistently
I was still in the mode of very much.
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Hands-on mommy bed bath time put them.
To bed and then take my 15 minutes to stitch or get organized for the next day.
That's all I have energy for fast forward to a bunch of years later and I met
this artist that lived in Columbia and she was exploring doing more with her art.
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To make it like a full-time business. She's very talented, but she didn't know how to go about it.
And she read a book that was very much on this principle because it was 100 paintings.
You do 100 paintings, a painting a day for 100 days to improve your technique.
It didn't matter what you, you could paint the Q-tip on your counter.
You could paint, you just did a quick painting. One painting a day could be
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any size, you know, just like what I would call a quick study.
And y'all after that
point i just watched her art just explode like
it was amazing just how that discipline of doing
it yeah every day see that's
i need that discipline to do this every day yeah i
do it's but when i have found you know because i've
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stopped art shows i'm not doing those this because i really want
to be working on my art but i'm not working on my art because i have ADHD
paralysis over it because I really I don't
have that need pushing
me to get things done and it
should be but it's not in a sense that I have but I want to do well on the other
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thing besides you say a lot about the paralysis but you know as an artist myself
sometimes I have like a writer's block or artist blog not just not just the
paralysis but like I honestly I.
In the down cycle of a creative cycle, not on the uptick.
Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, you see, I feel like I'm in that nesting
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stage where I spend all this time in the studio playing around but not really working.
That I'm getting ready to birth something. I just haven't done it yet.
So, two points I have to make. For me, when I'm doing a show,
that is the only artistic, that's the only creative energy I can give.
And the older that I get and the more I know how to negotiate what I do,
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I withhold creative energy a little bit on some projects so that I can give
creative energy to bigger projects.
Does that make sense? It makes sense to me. So I know I'm in that phase right now.
And I know that as soon as I finish this show, I'll have this little spurt of
time to devote to things that have nothing to do with creativity.
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Creativity, organization, cooking, light.
Oh, I tell you, organization is a creative effort.
No, well, today somebody walked into my office. They said, Lauren,
are we going to get merch for X, Y, and Z for the theater group?
And I said, this is something I will think about when the show is over.
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And my colleague next door said, story about what?
Because it is. And we're like, I'll get to that as soon as the show is over.
Because what and you know this both of you know this when you exhibit things in the public eye,
there's an amount of pressure and a timeline to it that
you have to meet and when that timeline is done
then you can do xyz until the next timeline and that's your most immediate timeline
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so so that's one two i had this conversation with my musical theater students
today and i have a but a very big musical theater class and a very broad range of experience.
Not skill, but experience.
And one student expressed that they were really nervous about their assignment
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and that it was, you know, they'd never really done this before.
And I said, you have to remember, you must meet yourself where you are.
That there are many people in here who have done so many performances says that
have been living with this craft for a long time.
You're brand new to this craft. You've done it once.
So meet yourself where you are, accept that, and then grow on it.
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And I said, for instance, I am, I'm a tennis player, not a very accomplished
tennis player, but I'd been playing for a few years because I liked it.
Not, not because of anything, because I enjoy it.
Do I want to get better? Sure. Do I want to be Coco or Serena Williams?
No, I don't aspire to that. But do I want to use it as a physical activity?
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Do I want to get better at it? Absolutely. Absolutely.
And so this past weekend, I took a pickleball class, like intro to pickleball.
It was free. I was like, I'm going to go to this so I can at least know how to do it.
And there were moments when I was very good because I played tennis.
And there were moments where it was terrible because I played tennis.
And I just thought, okay, this might be something that develops or not,
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but like, this is where you are.
And like the little coaches are going, like do this do this do this I'm like
no yes I'm aware I know that this is what needs to happen but I'm gonna agree
to be like yeah I did hit that ball too hard and now I can grow on that and,
either continue this thing that I like or not I think part of it is also like
going back to like what we spend our time doing is to really pick the things
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that you like doing and filter that because if there are things you don't enjoy
that you've been doing habitually get rid of it yeah Don't do it.
Like, that's, you know, my word this year is explore.
Yeah. And I took that pottery class. It was terrible.
Yeah. It was so terrible. I loved it.
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I enjoyed it. But I was terrible. I now know that it was not a missed calling.
Yeah. I should not have been a potter. Oh, no. That was not a missed calling. Oh, no. I have.
She called me and said, well, I did it and I enjoyed it. But that's off the list.
Yeah. Yeah, because I look at it and I think that's something I would love to do.
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It's not, I don't think that's actually in my wheelhouse.
I don't, I enjoyed it, but I didn't enjoy it to the point that I want to go
and dedicate 18 minutes a day to developing that skill. Yeah.
I'm very comfortable in my drawing and my painting area is where I want to stay.
Or also just figuring out the nonsense things you like. Like for me...
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Sport is a nonsense thing that I like, but it burns calories.
It burns calories and it's not something that I have to think about too much.
Yeah. You know? Yeah. And so I enjoy it very much and I can do with people.
Right. And that, that makes it happy for me. So that, that's sort of the outlet
for me, but I don't know, just, you know, again, you just have to like figure
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out I stopped working on my dissertation.
Like I went through a whole doctoral program.
I, I did all the, classes, I did a prospectus, like I wrote a whole prospectus.
And then I realized last year that I didn't want to do it anymore.
That I didn't. Well, I did the same with a master's. Yeah. I got all the way
to the end and had only a project left, a presentation, about 120 slide presentation.
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And I didn't finish it. Yeah. Because I realized this is just not the thing right now.
Like, is it something I might spend time on later? Yes.
But at this moment in my life, do I want to devote a hundred hours a year to that?
Right. No, that that's not where it is. See, for me, I moved into a different
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job position that doesn't require this master's anymore.
And I don't foresee me going back to what this master's required.
So I am one presentation away from
having it but I would have to spend the time on
that presentation to have it so yeah
a hundred hours so now it's going to have to be a check-in and keep me accountable
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did you do anything in your art room for 18 minutes today well okay when I had
the shop and I would have people come in and it didn't matter what stage stitcher
they were because needlepoint is not.
Not brain surgery it it's enjoyable
you can do it while you watch tv it's cathartic
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you're using your hands so you have some creativity you can
pick colors and threads and all that but i would
tell these women that would come in they wanted to do a belt
it's it's a nice gift it's a
good kick set gift it's a great graduation present you
can make them personal blah blah blah they would
would come in and say i'll never finish it and my standard answer
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was sit down for 15 minutes
a day and work on it because the air theoretically 15
minutes is about a yeah about an inch of work and on a needlepoint belt because
the strips are certain size and everything but what i found was if you had them
stitching for 15 minutes they would stitch for 30 or 45 and put it down and
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And if you do that every day,
I mean, I'm a very fast stitcher. I can stitch a belt in a week.
Most people can stitch, if they really put their mind to it,
they can stitch a full belt in a week.
In about two weeks without breaking a sweat or having bad calluses on their fingers like I do.
But you can do it. And it's a big sense of accomplishment when you see what
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your 15 minutes visually gives you every night that you're stitching on the spell.
And then when they turn it in and we'd send it to the leather guy and they got
it back with a brass buckle and it looked like something they would pick up at Saks Fifth Avenue.
They were very pleased they had a
tangible this is how i spent my
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time it's a piece of art it's whatever yeah so you know
some things you can tell when you're
doing your 15 or 18 minutes so you
have a evidence of what you've done other
things like if you exercise 15 minutes
a day it's going to take you longer to
have the visual result but i think
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you know 100 hours is a hundred hours and in
the span of your actual life a hundred
hours is nothing it's not all right so if y'all could
dedicate truly a hundred hours this year what
would you want your hundred hours to be on oh i spoke
this out loud today okay there are
three things for me working on my next show like
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getting organized in my home
office and other office
so in my home my office at my church space is
that those are my three spaces that i'm sort of not in charge of but like that
you occupy that i occupy and physical fitness those are my three that's really
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what i need to was you really need 100 hours to get organized no not 100 whole
i don't know that i need 100 whole because i did a a lot.
I have done a lot in spurts. And I'm very good at when I have a chunk of time doing that.
Yeah, I'm great at that. But it's the chunks of time.
What's funny for me is sporadically like my daytime isn't nearly as packed,
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but the chunks of time are sporadic.
So like spring break, I'll have a chunk of time off so I can do more of that,
if that makes sense. Because otherwise it's just like an hour or two here or there.
All right, so what would you do, Beth? Well, you know, I'm always going to hop
for, to your point, even though I should be cleaning out my space.
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That's one thing I need to do.
I have some organizational things that I need to do.
And then I have two projects at my house that if I would just put,
if I would just put maybe not 15 minutes or 18 minutes a day,
but if I would do a couple of hours each week,
it would be knocked out. They're not really 15-minute projects.
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They're, you know, laying down. It's going to take a while. Well, that does.
I just, I just want to spend that time being creative every day,
whether I choose to draw or to paint.
I feel like, you know, I struggle with niching down.
I know that if I chose to paint every day, then my painting would get better,
but I could also choose to draw every day.
My drawing would get better, or I could use to experiment with the new oil sticks
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that I got and that would get better.
Or, you know, it would develop into something like, it's just,
I don't want to choose one thing.
I want to just spend time every day with my hands in something.
That makes sense. So I guess we can challenge our listeners to choose something.
Yeah. For 100 hours. What are your 100? If you had 100 hours.
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Especially if it's something that even if you're starting at zero,
even if you're going, you know what? I want to ice skate.
Yeah. Even if you never ice skated. If that's the thing you want to do,
go do it. because I have found, like...
In my, not later, I don't know how to describe these years. My middle years.
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That also feels weird. Adult years. In my adult years. Your grown-up years. In the last five years.
Okay. I found tennis and I never. You love tennis.
I never really, like, I played softball for a year growing up.
I played basketball for a year. But I wasn't a sporty person.
I was a theater person and I danced, I did music. Like, it was just that.
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And then I found tennis over COVID and I love tennis.
And i i devote some time to that
so like i would like new experiences are okay even if it's even if it's something
you just fantasized about and you were like yeah like me with i'll try that
yeah let me try that where we gonna say the you started laughing are you gonna dance for us No,
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we're not sporty spies. I would love to.
No, not at all. If you want to do a dance class. Oh, and I have seen mosaic tiles.
I keep talking about wanting to do mosaic tiles because I was like,
that is something, if I had painted out what I wanted to do,
I could leave it in my den as a puzzle.
And I could just do it as a puzzle and put it together. If you did it as a puzzle, you could do 18 minutes.
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Yes, I could. I could. So I could do that. When you start laying them as tiles,
that's a little technical. Well, I don't have to do that. I can hire somebody.
I could do it. I can do it. But I saw a stained glass thing that looked really
cool. Yeah, I wanted to go stain that.
Yeah, where they actually put the pieces of glass on the glass they already had.
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They didn't do a whole new window. They just put it on the window they already
had. It was cool. It was like, oh.
Might could do that okay we could do that but also you
know honestly i keep talking about this book i want
to write if i would honestly just do 15
minutes okay or if when we got home from
our walks i actually wrote for 15 minutes about these mystery books that we
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want to write yeah and then i sent it to you and then you wrote 15 minutes we'd
have 30 minutes okay i have a a similar this topic is related but not when is
your most productive time like when do do you,
when do you have the instinct to produce the most, especially the creative instinct?
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Unfortunately for my creative instinct, mine is like 10 to two,
but then can be because I don't have that time because I'm at work that time
is it has to be in the evening.
I am never a first thing in the morning person.
I know you are, you're laughing at me. I am never.
A few minutes that's every morning after my devotion even if
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it's just one stitch and that's all i have time to get in like this
morning i had to leave i was at early early i had to leave my house before 6
a.m i had my coffee did my devotion suck one stitch in that took it with me
just in case and but so my really creative time is really like right after lunch
or eight o'clock to about 10 o'clock at nine.
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Early afternoon until is my big time.
So if I could have 10 to two with a snack, but then after that it is because
for so long, it was that 11 till midnight time was the only time I had to myself.
Whether that was natural for me or not, it became my creative space.
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But my problem is, is that if I've had a really busy or hard day, my brain doesn't work.
And so it has to to be a something that's
truly just a release at that point in time something
that i don't have to truly pay attention to but that's
also okay like we have to for we have
to let ourselves have like we have jobs
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jobs are a thing and it's okay i'm so thankful like
my my partner has been off work
for three weeks because he had surgery which
i know this is dan left today yes go back back to work yes we
went back to work today and so he got home and he was
still in a like a great mood like there was no anything and
i was like well how was your day and he said well it was kind of nice to like
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go to work because then you get home we get home from work like your day's accomplished
and you can do whatever you want because you're you've accomplished some work
in the day and i was like oh i understand that completely yeah that completely yeah.
But sometimes it's like, even if you don't have a fulfilling day at your job
that pays you, like even if it's just a rote day, which we all have,
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what then can you fulfill yourself with when you're on your spare time?
And I think that we're all fairly fortunate in that we do something.
Now, Beth, I know yours is not.
I mean, you do love what you do, but sometimes it can be very tedious because
you have so much travel that you have to do.
But I think in generally, we all three work at jobs that we're good at and that
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we, for the most part, enjoy in our expertise.
So I think we're very fortunate that so we can come home and have that creative time.
Be more creative, people. Think about your 18 minutes.
Your 100. I need to do 18 minutes times what, two?
I need to do. I need to just do 15 minutes for our book.
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Book because then when you do 15 minutes for the book
we're at 30 minutes for the day because when we become one person
as an author it won't really matter we have
to accomplish 30 minutes towards that i'll write the four words and
then i'll do eight yes and i'll do eight well you're gonna have to
edit okay i'll do 18 minutes for my art yeah you'll have to edit for us read
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through and edit and add some little humor in there i don't know consistency
is a big thing that's hard Consistency is a very hard thing to do because I'll
be sporadic about all kinds of things.
Like I'll have a day where like last Monday I danced for two solid hours and
then I took a break and then I played a two hours singles tennis match and it wrecks me.
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It wrecks my body because that's not something I do consistently.
I don't like can I can I go hard for four hours? Sure.
Will it hurt me the next day? Absolutely. Absolutely. Because I don't do it consistently.
And that's, if I can brush my teeth every day, twice a day, I can do something
else for 18 minutes. I can do something.
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I've just got to plug it into that routine. Yeah. That's the spirit.
Thank you, Type A.
No, but routine can be hard because it can feel like a rule.
Not even like it, not a thing. But that'll even be hard for our personality type.
Yes, if you like it. I can rebel against a rule that I created like nobody's business.
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There you go. Well, we just need to have everybody think what they're going
to do for the $100 this year.
Yes. Well, yeah. Feel free to share.
We can come up with something else I should do for my $100. I'll be doing the
writing and the creating what I should be doing is getting back to what was I doing?
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French oh I've started Duolingo French again I need to say Duolingo that little
bird French is my the language I studied too we should all be speaking in French we could do a fun time.
Bonjour mes amis bonjour ça va? Oh. Tzava.
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Oui. I just need to know how to say, where is the needlepoint shop?
Où est le, my cousin? Où est le, wait. Où est le shop, le needle,
shop, the needle? Shop, the needlepoint?
Qui? No, that's who. That's who.
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Yes, we're terrible French people. No, all right. we're going a little crazy.
All right. Well, I think that that is great. I think we're good with our 100 hours.
I think we should do a check-in in a month or so and see if Lauren and I have
created any sort of routine. I'll bring you that project.
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A hundred hours, this ought to be finished. Yes, I agree. A hundred hours,
that should be finished. Especially since we're all the same. More like $200.
I mean $200 because it's going to take a while, but it's large. It's a large Kansas.
It's really pretty. Thank you. All right. So what are y'all going to do this
week to live a life you love?
I have a show. So, and it's a very good show and I'm very excited.
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I'm excited about going to see that. It's going to be great.
You and I can go together. So let me know. Yeah.
And then after that, I kind of get like a moment where like,
as soon as my show closes, is my son has his spring break and then I roll right into my spring break.
So it's going to like, in my job, a show is the thing you work toward.
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And as soon as that's over, then you get to catch up on the other things, sort of.
So that's what the rest of the semester was sort of feel like to me is just
like a little bit of- Doing all the rest of the busy work for things. Doing the rest of my job.
And just spending, like, cause he's out of school, I'll spend a little more time with him.
That's exciting well my daughter has a dance the one
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that was postponed because of the ice storm and
then we'll be on spring break
shortly too and i've been gifted the chance to go to the beach so still thinking
it over and making sure that it will work out because my daughter also has a
show and i'm not sure how the rehearsal schedule is going to go with spring
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break and all that So we're figuring it out,
but just having the possibility.
It's fun to think about. Yeah. I have to shop for the mother of the groom dress. Okay.
Wait, do you need to make that a thing? Probably, because at this point,
I don't have a thing. Yes, I need to go anywhere.
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Maybe we should go to Nashville. But I have got to find a dress.
So my spring break is coming up, too.
Okay. And so I'm hoping that over spring break that I get that done.
And I'm struggling a little bit with having been a teacher, a nine-month teacher
that has summers off. off and now I'm a nine, I'm a 12 month seizure.
So I don't like, I'm a regular working person with like the week's off for vacation and things like that.
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So I'm looking at spring break thinking I may not need to go anywhere.
I may need to stay here and get home projects done. And those kinds of things
that I used to look forward to in the summer, but at the same time going to
the beach would be like, but you've got a, you've also got a wedding. I do.
And I've got things I need to get get organized for
that and i've got to get once again i've got to have i have to
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have a an aunt of the groom dress because
my nephew's getting married in april a mother of
the groom dress for my kid in june and just
general things you gotta
have a rehearsal dinner dress you've got oh gosh yes
and i have a rehearsal dinner dress like there's i
there's a lot i have never had this much trouble dressing myself
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you need to make a list of all the things you can just make a list every day
baby there's no you never know when you're gonna cry yeah waterproof mascara
is a must i'm just saying it is you can cry every day but you won't have professional photography.
In your face every day you know but but still good point waterproof mascara
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i don't care what the occasion you need it the highlight was it when i was about
to get married i have a i have May I have an aside?
Of course. So my mother made my wedding dress. My mother did not finish my wedding dress.
And I was in the bridal suite waiting to get married, waiting on my wedding dress to show up.
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And I tried it on the bodice fit, like everything was fine.
She was just finishing the skirt, like the end.
I get a call from my mother. Mother, if you listen to this, I love you.
I'm not angry with you at all.
You're one of my favorite humans. Anyway, I get a call from my mother,
and she says, and this was, I got married at 4 o'clock.
This was at 3 o'clock.
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She calls me. I'm in a bridal suite at the church. And she says,
I need you to postpone your wedding.
I'm not done with your dress. And I was like, mother, mother,
bring the, like, she hand stitched it. It's like, bring it now.
I said, just, I don't care what's said. Just bring it. She's like,
I can't. I just can't. And I was like, mom, just bring the dress.
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So then we send my sister to get the dress from the house and extract my mother from the house.
My stepmom in the time being brings my sister's dress i don't know a lot of
dresses are brought to me and then in this whole rigmarole my my aunt comes
in hands me a xanax she's like take this.
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I took one the night the day of my.
Wedding also took a half a xanax because i started
bursting out laughing during the vow during the vow rehearsal
dinner my mom mom was like you can't do that during the
real thing like my hair was perfectly coiffed my
makeup was exquisite like I looked amazing and
I thought no no no I don't need the pills I'm not
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gonna cry but this is this is so
strange so finally my like I I
made the pre-show music go longer and
finally the dress shows up and it's like a little it's not
finished at the edges but you couldn't tell so i
just i wore it anyway and so you got to wear your
dress that your mom made yeah now it
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doesn't matter to me but the fact that my mother made it is what
matters is what matters to me which is funny because at
the moment i was like i'm in an unfinished dress too
bad you could have torn it up and made it into leo's christmas
i love how you just want the music as the pre-show it's
a pre-show it's a pre-show music well they were
supposed to they were supposed to go look in my
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defense and i would be a great event planner pre
pre-show would go to four and then we'd start the show right well we were supposed
to start the show at four no you mean the pre-show started at four it's not
really it's the show it's a show it's a show it's an event it started at four
We didn't start the We didn't start the weighing before 30.
(32:13):
Places Places everyone The plan is here And go Anyway No.
This is when I was Methodist Blacksbeam I was Methodist Because I could just
see him Alright We're going to have a fabulous week y'all,
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thank y'all for joining us for champagne sunday see you next week.
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