HOW CHOOSY CAN WE REALLY BE? THERAPY, POLITICS & DEAL-BREAKERS IN DATING | TDA - E861

Today’s episode opens with something special. We finally meet the voice behind the scenes, J, the researcher who has quietly shaped the show for months. Not on camera, but fully present, she steps into the spotlight as the team tells the hilarious and chaotic story of how she joined TDA in the first place.

From Emmanuel thinking she was a Korean applicant because of a single typo, to him spending a week debating whether a “Black Korean” should be allowed to join the research team, the entire room breaks down reliving the saga. The miscommunication, the phone call, the tone checks, the suspicion, the relief and the instant chemistry all unfold live on air. It becomes clear that J isn’t just a researcher, she’s a force, a sharp mind and now a central part of the TDA family.

We also learn she’s transitioning out of her researcher role and into something bigger within the team, with everyone celebrating her growth and impact.

From there, the episode dives into Swiss’s call for group economics, with Rich and Bashy matching his donations toward building a Black cultural business hub. The team praises the movement and encourages the community to support.

A packed set of headlines follow, covering everything from tech deals to global politics to UK education, leading into a fiery discussion about whether you can still afford to be “choosy” in dating as you age and whether politics, therapy and worldview should remain non negotiables.

But the heart of the episode is J.
Her journey.
Her banter.
Her presence.
And the fact that she was almost rejected because autocorrect turned “Jamaican” into “Korean.”