Summary
In this conversation, Alfonso and Jose Luis Cadena explore the intricacies of effective communication, focusing on overcoming anxiety, enhancing spontaneity, and embracing imperfection in social interactions. They share practical strategies for improving conversational skills, emphasizing the importance of connection over perfection and the need for self-aware
ness in communication. The discussion highlights various techniques to manage anxiety, engage in spontaneous dialogue, and foster meaningful connections in conversations.
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Resources:
- Think Faster, Talk Smarter by Matt Abrahams
- Brooks AW. Get excited: reappraising pre-performance anxiety as excitement. J Exp Psychol Gen. 2014 Jun;143(3):1144-58. doi: 10.1037/a0035325. Epub 2013 Dec 23. PMID: 24364682.
- Writer, J. S. H. S. (2019, May 1). Improv skills can translate to social and professional skills. Harvard Gazette. https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2019/05/improv-skills-can-translate-to-social-and-professional-skills/
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Takeaways
- A lot of people are not comfortable with nonverbal communication.
- It's important to guide the other person in conversation.
- Anxiety often stems from focusing on future outcomes rather than the present moment.
- Recognizing anxiety is the first step to improving conversational skills.
- We need to aim for connection, not perfection in conversations.
- Practicing small talk in social settings can improve skills.
- It's okay to be mediocre; not everything has to be clever.
- Listening is crucial; focus on understanding rather than responding immediately.
- Use frameworks like 'what, so what, now what' to structure responses.
- Reflection on interactions should happen after the event, not during.
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Sound Bites
"Shift that mindset and redefine that moment." "You can just be a lot more proactive." "You just have to be able to present."
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- Mastering the Art of Conversation
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