In today's episode, we have a very special guest, Cole Coffman, a personal trainer, yoga teacher, and life coach based in Tampa, Florida. Cole takes us on her own journey of self-discovery and shares how she went from being a party girl to becoming an embodied and authentic woman.Cole opens up about her experiences growing up in a culture where drinking and partying were considered normal. She talks about the pressures she faced from her parents and herself to be perfect, leading her to seek escape through unhealthy behaviors. Cole candidly shares how this lifestyle became an integral part of her identity, even as she transitioned into adulthood and a corporate job. Get ready for a raw and vulnerable conversation as Cole opens up about her struggles and the profound impact of her spiritual awakening. Stay tuned as we explore how she turned her own life around and now supports others on their journey towards a more vibrant and fulfilled existence.
About Cole:
Cole Coffman is an Embodiment Coach, Yoga Teacher and Retreat Host based out of Tampa, FL. Six years ago Cole moved from Michigan to Florida with absolutely no plan at all aside from looking for change. Living in Flint, Michigan (amidst a public water crisis and in one of the most dangerous cities in America); she was partying, bartending, going to festivals, and using alcohol constantly to cope with her problems. She knew she was meant for more but didn't know what that was or how to get there. Enough was enough. Her and her now-husband packed up everything and moved to Tampa for a fresh start. During her first year living in Florida she attended Yoga Teacher Training and it changed the trajectory of her entire life. It was during this time she dove into personal development, plant medicine, meditation, manifestation and connecting deeply with herself. Over the next 5 years Cole has earned certification after certification within the wellness space, left full-time hospitality in pursuit of her own fitness & coaching business, and become an integrated wild woman (in the best way). She now holds healing circles, retreats, Ecstatic Dance experiences, and Kambo ceremonies alongside her husband Matt. They've turned their struggles into superpowers and have committed their lives to holding space for the holistic healing of others through the modalities that have helped heal them. She created her brand The Wild Within to help people to feel all parts of themselves - even the wild ones - with the goal of integration, not suppression.
Topics & Show Notes of This Episode:
- The reason behind Cole's party girl lifestyle and her struggles
- Cole's background and upbringing
- Expectations of perfection placed on her by her parents and herself
- Living a double life of being a high-achieving student and partying
- The influence of the environment
Reflection Questions:
1. Can you relate to Cole's experience of using partying as a way to numb herself?
2.Have you ever turned to destructive behaviors to escape?
3. How did societal and cultural norms contribute to Cole's party girl lifestyle?
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Website: www.thewildwithincoach.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/@gypsysoulcole
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Today I have a beautiful person that was able to connect with in person.
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Cole, would you introduce yourself, tell us a little about what you do, and then we'll dive into all the goodness with the questions.
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Yes.
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Hi, I'm Cole Kaufman.
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I am a personal trainer and yoga teacher and life coach based out of Tampa, Florida.
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I've been on my own journey for the last six years, my own spiritual awakening, uh, figuring out how to integrate being an ex party girl into an embodied, integrated, Wild woman in the best way.
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Now I help women really express themselves and their authenticity and their full embodiment through different tools, modalities, and most important movement practices.
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We would love to hear about your story and get into the vulnerable stuff.
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I hope you're open with that.
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And then what was that point that you realized this is no longer working and I want to use this as a way to grow and be able to support other people.
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Yeah, I started drinking a lot when I was in like 10th grade and my husband and I have these conversations now about how we were brought up and how things like that were really, really normal where we're from.
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And we're not sure if it's normal other places, this is all we knew because this is where we grew up.
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This is what everybody did.
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So on the weekends we drank, I literally got my first DUI when I was a senior in high school.
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Drinking and driving on my 18th birthday, and I had to spend all of my graduation money paying for a DUI.
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So this is, this is rooted way back when I'm 33 now, and it was a really big battle for many, many years.
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So we sort of grew up in this culture, my friends, my husband and myself of that was normal, right? You drank on the weekends, you snuck out during the week.
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I had parents that really had high expectations of me because I was smart, I was capable I got all A's, and so they expected perfection.
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And so the perfectionist tendencies are roped really deep within me because that was just the way that it was, anything less than perfect was not acceptable because I was capable of being the very best.
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With that came tons of pressure put on me by my parents, but also by myself as well.
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I always put a lot of pressure on myself to be a certain way, to look a certain way, to be manicured and polished and presentable and After so long, a person just cracks, you know, you can only be that way for so long and live within this box and my escape was always drinking, it was always doing things that made me feel bad I was sneaking around, whether that was, smoking cigarettes out of my friend's mom's ashtray or whatever.
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Finding a way to like get a black and mild from the corner store or using a fake ID when I was 16.
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So I would appear to be 18.
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So I could buy just things to smoke.
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Like we don't even care what it is.
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just like, let's like smoke something.
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And so those behaviors were really, really prominent from a super young age.
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And then I went away to college and I sort of lived this double life of.
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I was super capable, got amazing grades, did really well in school.
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And I felt like because I, lived this, perfection, student, I paid my own bills, I worked, I got all A's, then I could go out and party.
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So it was always my way to, let off steam and, and to just escape.
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And I didn't realize while I was in the cycle that...
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I was unhappy with myself.
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Those realizations don't come until you start consciously doing the work of okay, why am I drinking five nights a week? But also, it was so incredibly normal.
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Every single friend that I had, that's what we did.
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It seems that everyone in our apartment complex That's what they did.
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Everyone I encountered out at my job in school.
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It was like these layers of like, okay, my inner circle behaves this way.
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And then you meet more people and you're like, oh, they behave that way too.
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And then you meet more people work, acquaintances, their friends, and you're just going out and getting blacked out all of the time.
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You're really cool if you're known at all of these bars and you're sort of a bar star, you know, Hey, I got the hookup.
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I slept with that bartender or you know, I pick up shifts here so let's go get free drinks and and you sort of become this local celebrity in such a yucky, Disgusting shitty way and but all of it was just extremely extremely normal And so thinking about being a senior in college, like, okay, well now I've already partied like this for, what, eight years, Then it becomes, an identity.
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I graduated college, I wasn't really sure what I was gonna do, I took my first out of college job, which was an event coordinator, and I made 10 an hour.
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And, I remember, not knowing that that wasn't a lot of money, I lived in my own apartment, I'd always, waitressed or bartended and paid my bills, whatever.
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And my parents, congratulated me because it was, it was the right job, it was out of college, go get a corporate job.
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And then I would get my paychecks and they would be gone instantly, my paychecks for two weeks would be 600.
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And I, I couldn't even pay my bills, so then I was partending, and then you're back in the bar, so you're drinking, and then you have a corporate job, so what do those people do? They go to happy hour after work, and it just, the cycle never stopped.
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And I finally gave in to my desires of not working a corporate job.
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I realized, adults in the real world, I'm like, God, they're so catty, they all talk shit about each other, I can't believe, this is what the workforce is like, Fuck this, I'm done.
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So I just went back to bartending.
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I let myself just travel and party and really accepted that this is how I was going to live for the next couple of years.
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And then my husband and I started dating and he lived about an hour away from the city I was living in.
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Which was Flint, Michigan.
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He lived in and I'm not sure if you're familiar with Flint.
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It's very, very impoverished when I lived there.
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There was the Flint water crisis.
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So they were telling residents that the water was safe to drink, but there were incredibly high levels of lead in the water.
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It was literally poisonous.
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I moved into his house to, our relationship was progressing and I moved in with him in his city in Flint and In a house that cost 13, 000, cash, we couldn't drink our water, it wasn't safe to be outside.
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People get tackled in my backyard by the police.
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It was literally insane.
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And so what do you think all of those people did? Drink all the time all the time.
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So I had bartending jobs there where we just drink at work drink after work Then I started doing drugs I started staying up to do cocaine and take Molly on the weekends as I would go to raves and EDM shows and you know had a new group of friends I love to do those things so I wouldn't say I was trying to fit in but it was just I was always absorbed by my environment and It just went on for years and years and years and years.
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When I moved into Matt's house in Flint, we had both kind of said Okay, let's live here for like a year or so, and then let's move out of state.
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We didn't know where we would go.
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We were just bartending, partying.
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We were just partying a lot.
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I don't think that I was afraid of it at that point, but I think that something subconsciously was telling me, you're meant for more than this, I always had this desire to tell other people after I quit my corporate job, you don't have to just go to school and then get a nine to five.
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You can do whatever you want.
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You can, whether that's bartend, whether that's create your own business.
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I always just knew that that wouldn't be my normal, but it's sort of like stopped there.
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Then I was just, I was just lost in partying, but I'm you know, I'm winning because I don't have a corporate job and I don't make a salary.
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I'm fast cash, all the things.
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But we sort of just came to a point where we packed up everything, moved to Tampa with no plan, no jobs, no place to live.
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We knew that we would have our U Haul for five days and we saved 10, 000.
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And I'm so glad that we did that.
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We just knew, if we had a little nest egg, we'd be able to figure something out.
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And then we could get bartending and serving jobs and just go from there.
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And so we moved, and we very easily, had a beautiful transition down here.
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We moved into a luxury apartment.
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It was gorgeous.
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We got bartending and serving jobs.
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It was really easy.
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And we both sort of...
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started going down our own spiritual awakening journeys.
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So Matt with doing a heroic dose of mushrooms and go getting into meditation and he quit drinking and doing drugs and he went down a path of sobriety and self awareness and I took yoga teacher training.
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And that totally changed the trajectory of my entire life.
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And it was really at that point where I was like, Okay, I can feel into why I'm doing the things that I'm doing and build that self awareness and really see all of this happened because I was just a product of my environment.
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And what am I capable of now that I've removed myself from those places and those circles and things of that nature.
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That started our whole journey into what we've evolved into now.
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I love that you shared the process, I couldn't envision a lot of the stuff as you were speaking, what you shared with the process of how everyone just did it.
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It was just everywhere drinking was there.
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So you drink, it was not anything that you knew, but then other people drink and everywhere was just drinking.
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And that's just how it was because There are a lot of people that don't realize that when we're in that energy frequency of whatever energy, we are low energy, mid energy, wherever we're at.
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That is what we attract to us.
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So that is why we are surrounded by those people that drink.
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That is why we continue to do all that is because we are.
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In that energy frequency and we are the ones that have to change that to be able to then raise that frequency to be around other people, which is what you guys did by moving.
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You guys knew we got to get out of here.
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This is nothing for us.
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We have to get out.
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So you had the awareness of, we have to get away from this so that we can raise our frequency with what we're doing because right now we're kind of absorbed.
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In it.
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So I love that you shared that because I think there's a lot of people that don't understand that.
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They feel like, well, this is just what everyone else does.
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This is where everyone else is.
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So I'm just going to stay here, but you do have a choice and it's not easy.
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It's never an easy choice.
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It is so easy to stay in what you've always known, even though you know, you're not happy.
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It's so easy to just stay there.
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It's hard to be able to do something different and trust that process.
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Absolutely.
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And where we're from, not a lot of people even go away to college.
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I think from my graduating class, there were, there were literally four people that even went away to college.
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So people just stay, they stay, they date each other.
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They have kids with one another.
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I mean, where Matt's from, it's exactly like that too.
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So it's a big deal to even move.
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cities within the same state, it's a huge deal to move across the country and most people don't do it.
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It just seems impossible to them.
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But they don't have that self awareness of, this is a cycle that I'm in and there is a way out.
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I think, just think that this is the way that life is.
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So now that you have done your teacher training and you and Matt have like switched around doing everything that you're doing in life and you're creating these new connections and friendships and opportunities and experiences, who is it that you work with? I want to definitely talk about ecstatic dance it's shadow work, but it's not the heavy stuff, tell us.
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What you do now, who you work with and then go into why is this so meaningful for you to be able to do this and support others? Who I work with in this moment oftentimes are women that are sort of just getting started on their journey.
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And when I started on mine, I had no idea where to start.
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I was aware of all of these different things, meditation, reading self help books, should I get a coach, should I try yoga, all of the things.
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Not that anyone needs a guide because you are your own guide, but I just didn't know where to turn so I've spent so many years just like touching here touching there trying to reach out and do all of these different things, as I have accumulated all of this wisdom and all of these tools I very much can help the person that is just starting that needs clarity.
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They might have some confusion they're just dipping their toe in the pool of growth or self development and We often gateway this with our retreats.
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They're a really beautiful space to try on a lot of different healing modalities and see what fits you best.
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So we offer different guided journaling and different workshops that I host, different movement practices, breathwork and sound healing.
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Matt offers combo.
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And I, I feel like I most attract these women because They can see that I've already done this type of work, and they see that I live in an embodiment of it, and that I have a more magnetic presence, and they're kind of like, how? You have to sort through those layers and peel it all off and figure out who you are authentically.
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And I think that that's one of my superpowers, and it has been since I was little.
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I've been able to very easily emotionally connect with people, and I've always at the core been an authentic person.
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I've always been able, no matter what version of me that is, something in me has been able to show up as myself unapologetically.
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And, Most women can't do that.
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We're very bogged down by societal pressures and conditioning and norms and programming.
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And it's this relearning and this uncovering of who you are authentically.
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And so I really can beautifully hold the space for a woman to explore that within themselves.
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Those are the people that I mostly work with now women that are ready to really dive in and, and do work and, and want to involve the body because you know as well, you have done movement, personal training, a static dance, the mindset stuff, it, it doesn't matter, it's not integrated unless you involve the body.
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There has to be somatic processing with it.
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And, being a personal trainer and yoga teacher for so many years and I was sick from breast implants and I had mold poisoning and I've very much been ungrounded.
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Before along my journey being in your body is such an important aspect of living a holistic and integrated and meaningful life and the body has to be involved.
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I try to draw women in that are ready to want to accept themselves, they want to have a positive relationship with their physical body.
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They want to really feel like everything is integrated.
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And this is really, really meaningful for me because when I hired my first coach my whole life changed.
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It was a big investment that I didn't have in the moment, but when you have that support, you have someone in your back pocket, someone that can point you in the right direction that can reflect your blind spots with love.
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It truly is such a life changing experience.
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And I'd always knew that I'd give back in that way one day, but I didn't know exactly how or when or what.
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All of my work, all of, all of the little things, the small decisions, the small certifications, it's really brought me to that space of now I'm really in a position where I can hold the space for women to transform and be a coach.
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It sort of feels like it's service back because I needed that so badly at one time, one of my last conversations with my coach before my program with her was over.
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I was crying to her about feeling like I was still an alcoholic, and this was only, like, two years ago.
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And the way she held space for me so beautifully was so different than any therapist or anyone that I had ever worked with.
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And after that, I was like, there is something to coaching that it just feels so much more spiritual than, than anything.
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Going through that and having a tough time and, and ending on that note of, of her just reminding me of all the things I have accomplished and how amazing I truly am.
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I'm like, gosh, I just wish that every woman could feel this way, because I believe that about other women.
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I feel like everyone.
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Honestly, if everyone had a coach, they would actually see the brilliance of themselves.
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We've been so conditioned to constantly looking externally for validation and resources and all the things to show us that we're lovable or good or successful.
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And when you have that, especially in the beginning, when you have that in the beginning of your process to really support you, when you fall to the ground, you're like, this is bullshit.
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I am not good enough.
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I do not deserve this.
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All of those things that come up to have that.
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Person that sees you and believes in you more than you believe in yourself in that moment is what helps you get over that hurdle so that you can continue.
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It propels you to, it's like, you can do so much in so little time.
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It's ridiculous, and there's something so special about hearing, motivation from a third party, someone that doesn't know you personally.
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They can just see your talents and your gifts and they see past all of your bullshit.
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And for them to lift you up, my coach would always tell me something amazing that I didn't see about myself.
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And I'd be like, I trust her, you know, and just to have someone in your back pocket to celebrate with when your friends don't really understand.
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Oftentimes this journey can be pretty isolating, especially when you're changing your circles and you're moving away from people that were once bad influences.
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Those aren't going to be the people you call anymore to celebrate things with you.
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And so having relationships like these and coaching relationships and people in this same realm is truly life changing.
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It's almost like a foundation or an anchor point because you know that when you change everything else could fall to chaos.
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You could lose friendships, you could lose this, you could lose relationships, you change.
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So things do fall away and it is scary for a lot of people and that's what actually keeps people so stuck for so long.
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But when you have that anchor.
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They're supporting you and guiding you, then you have that support to hold on to while everything else is kind of like chaos for a little bit.
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You mentioned retreat.
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If you have a retreat that's coming up would love for you to share.
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I'll also have all the information in the show notes for everybody with all your info, but is there anything that you want to share that's coming up soon? Or any kind of tidbits or insights that you want to give those that are listening? Yeah, I'm always available for one on one coaching and those.
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Relationships look different for every single person because it's my mission to meet the client exactly where they're at So whether you've never hired a coach You've never you've read one joe dispense a book.
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You don't even know what meditation is, you're just curious about this kind of stuff.
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I've got you and if you're a high achiever and you already have a business and You're looking for more support and someone to really hold you and help you gain clarity and confidence.
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I got you.
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So, wherever you're at on your journey, one on one coaching is so beneficial.
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And, yeah, our next retreat is coming in January.
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We...
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And we only have three spots left.
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So this one's an all women's retreat, and we host all of the modalities that I spoke about earlier.
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It's just a beautiful way to just try all of this stuff on and to check out of your real life and to check back in and, and create where you're moving forward.
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And then of course the a static dance, which will both be hosting, which is so exciting.
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That will be monthly in Tampa.
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The dates will rotate.
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So be sure to follow my Instagram at gypsy soul coal, and you'll see the latest dates there.
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Beautiful.
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Thank you for coming.
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I can't wait to go into the next podcast.
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Thank you for sharing being vulnerable.
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I appreciate you.
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I'm just so grateful to have this connection thank you so much.
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Thank you so much.
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