ADHD Burnout - or is it that your DONE People Pleasing?
Have you ever wondered if you're really burnt out… or if you’re just done people pleasing?
In this episode, I’m sharing something I wish more ADHD women (including me) heard sooner: sometimes we’re not exhausted from doing too much—we’re exhausted from being too much for everyone else. From performing. From holding it all together. From being the “pleasant” one, even when we’re falling apart inside.
I open up about my own story—how I went from being a colicky baby to the “perfect child,” and how that shaped my tendency to mask, fawn, and make myself smaller to stay safe. I also walk you through the difference between true burnout and the nervous system fatigue that comes from chronic people pleasing and masking.
If you’ve been resting but still feel drained… if you’re overwhelmed but can’t point to why… or if you’re longing to be more real in your life but you’re afraid of what might happen—I made this episode for you.
You’ll learn:
—CHAPTERS— 00:00 Introduction: Understanding Exhaustion 00:52 The Burden of Masking and People Pleasing 02:24 Personal Experiences and Reflections 03:46 The Cost of Chronic Masking 08:54 Embracing Authenticity and Setting Boundaries 14:57 Practical Steps to Unmasking 18:18 Conclusion and Resources
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