Real Talk: Why Fun Feels “Undeserved” with ADHD
Many ADHD women live by an unspoken rule: no fun until all the work is done. But with an ADHD brain, the work never ends—and joy, connection, and true rest keep getting pushed further down the list.
In this episode, I’m getting real about why fun often feels “undeserved” when you have ADHD, how perfectionism and over-functioning keep you trapped, and why skipping fun is a fast track to burnout.
We’ll talk about: • The inner critic and societal expectations that tell you to “earn” rest • Why scrolling isn’t real rest—and how it drains your energy • How fun and creativity actually make you more productive • Practical steps to protect joy on your calendar
Fun isn’t just for the weekend or when your to-do list is empty—it’s a key part of living well with ADHD.
✨ Mentioned in this episode: The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way journal-book experience: https://jenbarnes.org/stop-playing-small/
—CHAPTERS—
00:00 Introduction: The Struggle to Find Fun
00:42 Welcome to the Podcast
01:26 The Fun Dilemma for ADHD Women
02:27 Personal Stories and Observations
05:55 The Impact of Societal Expectations
10:23 The Importance of Fun and Creativity
15:21 Practical Tips for Scheduling Fun
20:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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