I thought I was done with people pleasing. I’d built boundaries, learned to say no, and told myself I was free from it. But when I moved back to Minnesota—and started building my second business—it snuck back in.
I found myself undercharging, over-delivering, and slipping back into perfectionism. The result? Burnout, loneliness, and even physical symptoms like poor sleep, digestive issues, and constant tension in my body.
In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way, I share:
- How people pleasing shows up in subtle ways for ADHD women
- Why perfectionism is often tied to proving our worth
- The physical and emotional cost of staying stuck in these patterns
- How I’m working my way out of it—and how you can too
If you’ve ever felt like you should be “over” people pleasing, only to find yourself back in the same patterns, this episode will help you recognize you’re not alone—and there’s a way forward.
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—CHAPTERS—
00:00 Introduction: The Return of People Pleasing
01:16 Welcome to the Podcast
01:53 Personal Struggles and Realizations
03:54 Entrepreneurial Challenges and People Pleasing
07:20 The Impact of Moving Back to Minnesota
10:23 Burnout and Physical Symptoms
15:09 Recognizing and Addressing People Pleasing
23:50 Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Perfectionism
39:59 Conclusion and Journal Book Experience
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