Have you ever wondered why ADHD feels harder for you than it should? You’ve read the books, tried the planners, and built the systems—but it still feels like you’re swimming upstream every single day.
In this episode, we uncover what’s really going on beneath the surface. You’ll learn why ADHD women often live life on “hard mode,” how chronic nervous-system dysregulation makes everything feel impossible, and what you can do to finally make daily life and focus easier.
We’ll explore the difference between fight, flight, and shutdown states—and how trauma, masking, and constant over-functioning keep your brain stuck in survival mode. You’ll also discover simple ADHD-friendly ways to regulate your nervous system so focus, calm, and motivation start to feel natural again.
✨ If you’re ready to go deeper into healing and creating an inner environment where your brain can finally rest and recharge, check out my journal-book experience:
👉 The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way: How to Stop Playing Small with ADHD
https://jenbarnes.org/stop-playing-small/
—CHAPTERS—
00:00 Introduction: Why Does Everything Feel So Hard?
00:52 Understanding ADHD and Its Hidden Challenges
01:54 Living Life on Hard Mode with ADHD
03:59 The Impact of a Dysregulated Nervous System
05:24 Fight, Flight, or Shutdown: How Our Nervous System Reacts
11:06 Healing and Regulating Your Nervous System
15:47 Conclusion and Further Resources
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