Why High-Achieving Women Think They Can’t Be ADHD
So many ADHD women don’t even consider the possibility that they have ADHD—especially if they’ve been successful on the outside.
If you’ve ever thought: “But I did well in school… I’m productive at work… I can hyper-focus when I need to… there’s no way I could be ADHD,” you’re not alone.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the 10 hidden reasons high-achieving women doubt, dismiss, or completely miss their ADHD diagnosis. From the masking trifecta to external structures that hid the struggle, to hyper-focus that looked like “proof” you couldn’t have ADHD—you’ll see why success doesn’t cancel out the challenges.
By the end, you may finally understand why ADHD has been a silent part of your story all along. And more importantly—you’ll walk away knowing you’re not just “a mess” or “all over the place.” Your struggles have a real explanation, and you don’t have to keep doubting yourself.
🌟 Mentioned in this episode: The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way Journal-Book Experience
https://jenbarnes.org/stop-playing-small/
—CHAPTERS—
00:00 Introduction: High Achieving Women and ADHD
00:47 Welcome to the Podcast
01:30 Jen's Personal Story and Client Experiences
02:30 10 Ways High Achieving Women Miss ADHD Diagnosis
02:56 Breaking Down ADHD Stereotypes
05:55 The Masking Trifecta
08:14 External Structures and High IQ
14:06 Hyper-focus and Character Misinterpretations
19:03 Hormonal Shifts and Success Despite ADHD
22:50 Conclusion and Call to Action
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