March 18, 2024 • 17 mins
Welcome to the war on weight! In this episode, we continue our deep dive into the concepts of being mastered by our desires and how to break free from these chains. Rooted in the teachings from both Alisa Keeton, the founder of Revelation Wellness, and Dr. Wayne Scott Anderson's acclaimed The Habits of Health and the Life Book, Keatha's coaching program aims to guide listeners to dominating their self-discipline through with love.
Your host, Keatha, shares her personal journey of losing more than 50 pounds and maintaining her weight through implementing simple, healthy habits and revamping her mindset. Joining Keatha in this mission, we'll learn how to celebrate our bodies, strengthen our relationships, and stop beating ourselves up after comfort eating. She's here to support you to create a sustainable weight loss plan that works for you.
In this episode, we also share insights from the book, The Wellness Revelation. We dive deeper into the process of understanding why certain foods, people, places, or things have a masterful control over us, and how to break free from these. Understanding this key principle could be your lightbulb moment and open doors for more grace, love, and self-acceptance.
Keatha also talks about her binge eating experiences, and through relating her own struggles, she guides us towards understanding why we are often mastered by something or someone. The answer, she reveals, lies in our pain. This episode encourages listeners to lean into their pain and avoid quick fixes that only increase the guilt, shame, and unworthiness.
Whether it's battling binge eating, an unhealthy relationship, or any addiction, this episode helps listeners in recognizing and understanding the root of their problems. If you're ready to finally win the war on weight and walk into your future as a healthier, happier, and more whole person, this is an episode you can't afford to miss. Let's armor up and fight this war on weight together!
Other Resources from this Episode:
Jane Pilger- EXPERT Binge Coach
The Body Revelation Book by Alissa Keeton
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Transcript
Episode Transcript
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(00:00):
As if the last episode wasn't heavy enough, we're going there again.
What exactly are you mastered by and why?
So my nine-week coaching program sits on the foundation of the book written
by the founder of Revelation Wellness, Alisa Keaton, and the life book written
by Dr. Wayne Scott Anderson.
(00:20):
It's why these two books are my favorite things on CoachKeitha.com because I want you to read them.
Back to why we're here today. I really felt like I just didn't get everything into that last episode.
I gave you a little to chew on and today I'm going to give you another really big bite.
Hey sister, welcome to the war on weight. Do you want to find some motivation
(00:41):
to finally lose your extra pounds? Do you want to feel great in your favorite pair of jeans?
Do you want some weight loss that's actually sustainable?
Have you given up that any program will ever work for you?
Well, I'm Keetha and I'm your new best friend. I've spent a lifetime on the
losing side of the battle. I felt frustrated, exhausted, self-conscious,
and despite any success I had in life, I felt like a failure,
(01:02):
but I finally won the war.
How did I do it, you ask? I discovered how to implement simple,
healthy habits, how to completely revamp my mindset and embrace some things
that were causing me to turn to food over and over again.
Lastly, I discovered how to make nutrition really super simple.
And after just a few short months of fueling my body properly,
I dropped more than 50 pounds and I'm maintaining it by practicing all the healthy
(01:24):
habits you're going to learn on this podcast.
So if you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own body,
you're buying clothes to hide your body, not celebrate it, you're done having
your weight affect all your relationships with others and more importantly with yourself.
You no longer want to eat your feelings and then beat yourself up about it,
then this is the podcast for you.
Let's armor up sister and fight this war on weight together.
(01:47):
When I first picked up the Wellness Revelation book, I
started with the audible version and it was in chapter three that
I was like wait this is exactly what I'm coaching in Optivia hmm and then I
ordered the paper book because I really am a paper book kind of girl and I like
the digital books and audio is great when you're just listening but I knew that I was on to something,
(02:15):
I had had many people approaching me, asking me to do one-to-one coaching with
them without Optivea, and I wasn't really sure what to do with that.
Optivea had suggested that I coach one of my clients on the whole food program
that's listed in the Habits of Health book that we use.
And I did that, and I liked it, but I wasn't really sure how I felt about that.
(02:37):
I wasn't really sure what to do with it, just to be honest. But it was in chapter
three of the wellness revelation that my hair got lit on fire.
I bet you don't get excited when someone talks about eliminating foods that are unhealthy.
I was reading it and saying, yes, yes, yes.
(02:57):
In addition to those same healthy principles that I had been following and I
had been coaching had been coaching my clients to do, I started reading things
like, I quote from the book,
the food we choose to eat is another way to honor God who loved us first.
Not in a prideful, look at what I do for God kind of way, but in a all I need
(03:22):
is you Lord way from a grateful and humble heart.
That's when I knew that I needed to become a facilitator for the wellness revelation.
And I knew I was going to be able to help women. And not too long after that,
I started my training. The rest is history.
I also had many women come into me to say, I know what to do.
(03:42):
I just won't do it. And they're so frustrated with themselves.
And most women in my age range, I would, you know, in their 50s,
that is kind of where we are.
We've just tried everything. thing. We're so frustrated as why we don't do what we want to do.
And it was on page 59 of the wellness revelation that I got my answer.
(04:06):
Like I knew this was the program I needed to work with women on who weren't
ready for a major, complete transformation program, completely changing everything
about their eating habits.
This is the program I was going to be able to meet women where they were.
It's in chapter three of the book, still early on, that you start to learn about
(04:30):
high octane foods versus low octane foods.
Let me summarize it for you. Lean and green.
That's what we should be eating is lean and green. Same thing I've been saying
for the last two and a half years.
It's also comes up in this chapter is those four things that I asked you to
eliminate in the two week challenge?
Did you go listen to that episode and take the challenge?
(04:52):
Did you listen to it and say, oh, oh, oh, no, I am not giving up those things.
Or you're like, oh, gosh, I forgot to go listen. You still have time. Don't worry.
That challenge is open. I've reopened it up and it's open now. So you can join anytime.
So whenever you listen. So here we go. Here is our practical exercise for today,
(05:15):
I want you to fill in the blank.
The thought of going without blank for three days is what's in the book,
or two weeks is what Coach Keetha says, makes me feel blank.
So there's four things that we ask you to give up.
Sugar, one of them. Alcohol, one of them.
(05:37):
I'll let you go back in and look at
the rest but what is but the
thought of going without blank for three days or
two weeks makes me feel blank so
at this point is when my clients think oh this is I can answer this one and
it's kind of over but then I always ask why and here's an example example the
(06:04):
thought of going without fast food for two weeks makes me feel sad why why what,
it's usually what the answer is what why what why does it make you feel sad
when i have a bad day it just makes me feel good to sit with some french fries
and a cheeseburger but why does it make you feel good.
(06:24):
This is where it doesn't, it gets really like uncomfortable and it really isn't easy anymore.
It makes me feel good because, hmm, hmm, like people just kind of sit and sit and sit with that.
Like you have to really, you have to, this is, this part is not just normally
doesn't come right away. It takes a little bit of work.
(06:46):
And then whatever that answer is, my next question is always,
but why? And we go as many but whys as we can until we get to the root of the problem.
So let's go back to this why for me and why I use the fast food example.
I did this work several years ago and I say several years ago now,
so it's more probably many years ago at this point.
(07:10):
I realized that McDonald's cheeseburgers and fries to me brought me comfort. It brought me love.
It brought me companionship. It made me feel better. It was my cure-all.
When I am sick, to this day as a 50, almost 54 year old woman,
I still crave McDonald's.
Not as much today as I did in the past, but I can tell you even as recently
(07:32):
as in like the last 90 days, I had a complete meltdown. I was uncontrollably crying.
I was angry. I was yelling like a banshee in my car over something I had absolutely no control over.
Within minutes, I was in a McDonald's drive-thru line, ordered multiple cheeseburgers
or large fry like literally crying and sobbing through the drive-thru yeah i
(07:54):
hope you're picturing it because this is it's really an ugly sight.
After the second cheeseburger i felt my body relax i started to breathe again
the tears slowly stopped,
you know i'm a huge fan of corinne crabtree back in the day i was in her weight
loss group and i've said many times i didn't lose a lot of weight there but
(08:15):
gosh did i did a lot of work on my my binging in that group.
And the mental work in that group is gold.
I mean, just so good.
But it's not rooted in faith. And so that's kind of where I had a fork in the
road and had to make a decision.
It's also where I met Jane. Jane's been on the show and I've referred back to
(08:36):
her many times to people who have binging issues.
Jane is who I go to as a, I consider my binge expert.
But anyway Corinne coached me on a call one day and she asked me would I go
into the bathroom and shoot up with heroin in that moment of course this was
a different bench because this is way back when I was binging five six times
(08:59):
a week and I was like of course not.
No. Are you kidding me? No. And she says, well, what's the difference?
Well, what's the difference?
Like, it just hit me. So it was just like, what?
She says, what's the difference? It does the same thing for you that a hit of
(09:21):
heroin does for a drug addict.
And after that, I knew I had to figure it out. And every time I have a binge, I picture that.
I picture me in the bathroom as a drug addict.
That's not easy thing to talk about and that's not easy for me to say and I sit here now and,
in recording this and feeling a little uncomfortable but
(09:43):
at the same time 10 years ago I don't know that anyone knew my binge issues
I didn't talk about it to anyone so let's talk about the root of the problem
that I got to when I was really young I mean I had to be first or second I remember being home alone sick.
My parents were divorced. My dad was not really in the picture.
(10:06):
He showed up from time to time back in those days.
He had addictions of his own to deal with.
And there's a recovery story there. And so it's not sharing anything personal
that's not very public. Blick.
But that all goes without saying that a little girl can develop a lot of issues
(10:26):
not understanding an adult world.
That day I called him, which I was not allowed to do. Sorry, Mama.
He brought me McDonald's. So what I got from that unapproved secret visit was
so much more than and McDonald's.
What I got was I was no longer alone.
I was not home alone sick. I got attention. I felt loved and it was all in secret.
(10:55):
I know that that day was very pivotal in my secret binge eating.
And I do not blame any of the people involved in that. But as a little little
girl not understanding the world.
This is what I have figured out.
And by figuring that out, it has really changed my perspective on my binging.
(11:17):
So I tell you all this because we have to figure out why you are mastered by something.
So when we read the scripture, you can't be mastered by anything.
We have to figure out why we're mastered by something.
What does it give you that you can't get from Jesus, or you don't think you can get from Jesus.
(11:38):
For me, those after effects of my secret ...
Gosh, sometimes it just gets hard still. The aftereffects of my secret binge
eating, even though it brings great relief in the moment, it is followed by
tremendous guilt, shame, and hopelessness.
And if you've never had a true binge, you may not have ever experienced the
(12:02):
disconnect that I just described that happened in my recent past that used to happen very regularly.
It's very different than overeating.
If you're new to my podcast and you wonder if you're an overeater or a binger,
go back and listen to the episodes with Jane.
She goes into those to that, to what's the difference. So what does that have
(12:24):
to do with you being mastered by a certain food, person, place or thing?
Because you could be, it could be a certain food. It could be a toxic relationship.
It could be alcohol. It could be shopping. I mean, the list goes on and on.
We narrow it down by certain food, person, place or thing.
It could be your light bulb moment to give yourself some grace.
So that when you're reading the Wellness Revelation book on page 59,
(12:47):
here's a sentence from that page.
That if you haven't figured out how to give yourself a little bit of grace when
you read this, this sentence, the more you love him, the more naturally obedience will come.
Obedience precedes self-discipline.
If you come from a place of guilt, failure, shame, you're going to hear it as great.
(13:15):
I can't be obedient or self-disciplined. This must mean I don't love Jesus.
And you're going to slam the book shut. You're going to tell yourself you're
worthless and you're failing God.
You're never going to return my phone calls again. And you're going to throw the book in the trash.
But if you read it from a place of Jesus loves me and I want to love him more
(13:37):
than I love the feeling of a cheeseburger, it's a different perspective.
So when people ask me, well, why can't I just read the book by myself?
I say, absolutely, you can read the book by yourself. I recommend the book to
people all the time. Just pick up the book, start reading.
My coaching program, look at that.
(13:58):
Those of my clients hear it guess what
time it is it's time to eat and i'm
not gonna i'm just not even gonna edit that out so people
ask me they can read that book by themselves and that's absolutely you can read
the book by yourself you know the coaching program is not about reading the
book it's about working out the book with someone i want you to read the book
(14:21):
i want you to watch the videos i want you to do all your journaling assignments
i want you to keep your food log.
The real work happens when you're working out with a partner.
And so if you were my client, and we just did that exercise of why,
but why, but why, but why, but why.
And we're both probably in tears at this point. And we know we've gotten to the root of the problem.
(14:46):
And you know, that's why you do that. Like you could get to that root of the
problem and go, Oh, that's why I do that.
Huh, no big deal. Or you could get to the root of the problem like I did many
years ago and say, I have a lot of unresolved pain here.
We would take a pause and we would do some work around that pain.
(15:07):
We wouldn't take that particular food or that particular person,
place or thing out of your new healthy practices that we're working on.
We might remove some other things some other
unhealthy things and we might add a few
more healthy habits in but we would start to do some work on your trigger to
(15:29):
see what has you all ties up and not does that make sense so we can't be mastered
by anything but it doesn't mean that there's not a lot of pain tied to the reason
why we're mastered by it you know one of my favorite quotes from Elisa's recent teaching is,
the answer to your pain is your pain.
You have to lean into your pain to heal it. The things of pleasure that we use
(15:51):
to numb our pain only increases the pain.
Oh, that's good. Why does it do that? It's because it increases our guilt.
It increases our shame. It increases our unworthiness.
You know, we need to come from a place of Jesus loves me anyway.
Anyway, Jesus loves me through my pain, and he wants me to heal from it.
(16:14):
So, sister, I want you to have a battle partner. I want you to have someone
to walk through this with you.
Of course, I'd love to be your coach. I'd love to help you any way that I can.
But more than that, I just want you to walk into your future self,
healthy, whole, and living well.
So if it's not me, find a counselor, find a mentor, find a small group of ladies
(16:36):
to to work through this together, or even a trusted friend.
And even if you can't even just figure this part out, like how you're going
to get through this book, either with me or without me, schedule a free call
with me and I can help you figure it out. I can give you some more resources.
You know, I can, we can do this together.
So until next time, where I promise the next episode might be,
(17:00):
it will be a little bit more fun.
As if the last episode wasn't heavy enough, we're going there again.
What exactly are you mastered by and why?
So my nine-week coaching program sits on the foundation of the book written
by the founder of Revelation Wellness, Alisa Keaton, and the life book written
by Dr. Wayne Scott Anderson.
(00:20):
It's why these two books are my favorite things on CoachKeitha.com because I want you to read them.
Back to why we're here today. I really felt like I just didn't get everything into that last episode.
I gave you a little to chew on and today I'm going to give you another really big bite.
Hey sister, welcome to the war on weight. Do you want to find some motivation
(00:41):
to finally lose your extra pounds? Do you want to feel great in your favorite pair of jeans?
Do you want some weight loss that's actually sustainable?
Have you given up that any program will ever work for you?
Well, I'm Keetha and I'm your new best friend. I've spent a lifetime on the
losing side of the battle. I felt frustrated, exhausted, self-conscious,
and despite any success I had in life, I felt like a failure,
(01:02):
but I finally won the war.
How did I do it, you ask? I discovered how to implement simple,
healthy habits, how to completely revamp my mindset and embrace some things
that were causing me to turn to food over and over again.
Lastly, I discovered how to make nutrition really super simple.
And after just a few short months of fueling my body properly,
I dropped more than 50 pounds and I'm maintaining it by practicing all the healthy
(01:24):
habits you're going to learn on this podcast.
So if you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own body,
you're buying clothes to hide your body, not celebrate it, you're done having
your weight affect all your relationships with others and more importantly with yourself.
You no longer want to eat your feelings and then beat yourself up about it,
then this is the podcast for you.
Let's armor up sister and fight this war on weight together.
(01:47):
When I first picked up the Wellness Revelation book, I
started with the audible version and it was in chapter three that
I was like wait this is exactly what I'm coaching in Optivia hmm and then I
ordered the paper book because I really am a paper book kind of girl and I like
the digital books and audio is great when you're just listening but I knew that I was on to something,
(02:15):
I had had many people approaching me, asking me to do one-to-one coaching with
them without Optivea, and I wasn't really sure what to do with that.
Optivea had suggested that I coach one of my clients on the whole food program
that's listed in the Habits of Health book that we use.
And I did that, and I liked it, but I wasn't really sure how I felt about that.
(02:37):
I wasn't really sure what to do with it, just to be honest. But it was in chapter
three of the wellness revelation that my hair got lit on fire.
I bet you don't get excited when someone talks about eliminating foods that are unhealthy.
I was reading it and saying, yes, yes, yes.
(02:57):
In addition to those same healthy principles that I had been following and I
had been coaching had been coaching my clients to do, I started reading things
like, I quote from the book,
the food we choose to eat is another way to honor God who loved us first.
Not in a prideful, look at what I do for God kind of way, but in a all I need
(03:22):
is you Lord way from a grateful and humble heart.
That's when I knew that I needed to become a facilitator for the wellness revelation.
And I knew I was going to be able to help women. And not too long after that,
I started my training. The rest is history.
I also had many women come into me to say, I know what to do.
(03:42):
I just won't do it. And they're so frustrated with themselves.
And most women in my age range, I would, you know, in their 50s,
that is kind of where we are.
We've just tried everything. thing. We're so frustrated as why we don't do what we want to do.
And it was on page 59 of the wellness revelation that I got my answer.
(04:06):
Like I knew this was the program I needed to work with women on who weren't
ready for a major, complete transformation program, completely changing everything
about their eating habits.
This is the program I was going to be able to meet women where they were.
It's in chapter three of the book, still early on, that you start to learn about
(04:30):
high octane foods versus low octane foods.
Let me summarize it for you. Lean and green.
That's what we should be eating is lean and green. Same thing I've been saying
for the last two and a half years.
It's also comes up in this chapter is those four things that I asked you to
eliminate in the two week challenge?
Did you go listen to that episode and take the challenge?
(04:52):
Did you listen to it and say, oh, oh, oh, no, I am not giving up those things.
Or you're like, oh, gosh, I forgot to go listen. You still have time. Don't worry.
That challenge is open. I've reopened it up and it's open now. So you can join anytime.
So whenever you listen. So here we go. Here is our practical exercise for today,
(05:15):
I want you to fill in the blank.
The thought of going without blank for three days is what's in the book,
or two weeks is what Coach Keetha says, makes me feel blank.
So there's four things that we ask you to give up.
Sugar, one of them. Alcohol, one of them.
(05:37):
I'll let you go back in and look at
the rest but what is but the
thought of going without blank for three days or
two weeks makes me feel blank so
at this point is when my clients think oh this is I can answer this one and
it's kind of over but then I always ask why and here's an example example the
(06:04):
thought of going without fast food for two weeks makes me feel sad why why what,
it's usually what the answer is what why what why does it make you feel sad
when i have a bad day it just makes me feel good to sit with some french fries
and a cheeseburger but why does it make you feel good.
(06:24):
This is where it doesn't, it gets really like uncomfortable and it really isn't easy anymore.
It makes me feel good because, hmm, hmm, like people just kind of sit and sit and sit with that.
Like you have to really, you have to, this is, this part is not just normally
doesn't come right away. It takes a little bit of work.
(06:46):
And then whatever that answer is, my next question is always,
but why? And we go as many but whys as we can until we get to the root of the problem.
So let's go back to this why for me and why I use the fast food example.
I did this work several years ago and I say several years ago now,
so it's more probably many years ago at this point.
(07:10):
I realized that McDonald's cheeseburgers and fries to me brought me comfort. It brought me love.
It brought me companionship. It made me feel better. It was my cure-all.
When I am sick, to this day as a 50, almost 54 year old woman,
I still crave McDonald's.
Not as much today as I did in the past, but I can tell you even as recently
(07:32):
as in like the last 90 days, I had a complete meltdown. I was uncontrollably crying.
I was angry. I was yelling like a banshee in my car over something I had absolutely no control over.
Within minutes, I was in a McDonald's drive-thru line, ordered multiple cheeseburgers
or large fry like literally crying and sobbing through the drive-thru yeah i
(07:54):
hope you're picturing it because this is it's really an ugly sight.
After the second cheeseburger i felt my body relax i started to breathe again
the tears slowly stopped,
you know i'm a huge fan of corinne crabtree back in the day i was in her weight
loss group and i've said many times i didn't lose a lot of weight there but
(08:15):
gosh did i did a lot of work on my my binging in that group.
And the mental work in that group is gold.
I mean, just so good.
But it's not rooted in faith. And so that's kind of where I had a fork in the
road and had to make a decision.
It's also where I met Jane. Jane's been on the show and I've referred back to
(08:36):
her many times to people who have binging issues.
Jane is who I go to as a, I consider my binge expert.
But anyway Corinne coached me on a call one day and she asked me would I go
into the bathroom and shoot up with heroin in that moment of course this was
a different bench because this is way back when I was binging five six times
(08:59):
a week and I was like of course not.
No. Are you kidding me? No. And she says, well, what's the difference?
Well, what's the difference?
Like, it just hit me. So it was just like, what?
She says, what's the difference? It does the same thing for you that a hit of
(09:21):
heroin does for a drug addict.
And after that, I knew I had to figure it out. And every time I have a binge, I picture that.
I picture me in the bathroom as a drug addict.
That's not easy thing to talk about and that's not easy for me to say and I sit here now and,
in recording this and feeling a little uncomfortable but
(09:43):
at the same time 10 years ago I don't know that anyone knew my binge issues
I didn't talk about it to anyone so let's talk about the root of the problem
that I got to when I was really young I mean I had to be first or second I remember being home alone sick.
My parents were divorced. My dad was not really in the picture.
(10:06):
He showed up from time to time back in those days.
He had addictions of his own to deal with.
And there's a recovery story there. And so it's not sharing anything personal
that's not very public. Blick.
But that all goes without saying that a little girl can develop a lot of issues
(10:26):
not understanding an adult world.
That day I called him, which I was not allowed to do. Sorry, Mama.
He brought me McDonald's. So what I got from that unapproved secret visit was
so much more than and McDonald's.
What I got was I was no longer alone.
I was not home alone sick. I got attention. I felt loved and it was all in secret.
(10:55):
I know that that day was very pivotal in my secret binge eating.
And I do not blame any of the people involved in that. But as a little little
girl not understanding the world.
This is what I have figured out.
And by figuring that out, it has really changed my perspective on my binging.
(11:17):
So I tell you all this because we have to figure out why you are mastered by something.
So when we read the scripture, you can't be mastered by anything.
We have to figure out why we're mastered by something.
What does it give you that you can't get from Jesus, or you don't think you can get from Jesus.
(11:38):
For me, those after effects of my secret ...
Gosh, sometimes it just gets hard still. The aftereffects of my secret binge
eating, even though it brings great relief in the moment, it is followed by
tremendous guilt, shame, and hopelessness.
And if you've never had a true binge, you may not have ever experienced the
(12:02):
disconnect that I just described that happened in my recent past that used to happen very regularly.
It's very different than overeating.
If you're new to my podcast and you wonder if you're an overeater or a binger,
go back and listen to the episodes with Jane.
She goes into those to that, to what's the difference. So what does that have
(12:24):
to do with you being mastered by a certain food, person, place or thing?
Because you could be, it could be a certain food. It could be a toxic relationship.
It could be alcohol. It could be shopping. I mean, the list goes on and on.
We narrow it down by certain food, person, place or thing.
It could be your light bulb moment to give yourself some grace.
So that when you're reading the Wellness Revelation book on page 59,
(12:47):
here's a sentence from that page.
That if you haven't figured out how to give yourself a little bit of grace when
you read this, this sentence, the more you love him, the more naturally obedience will come.
Obedience precedes self-discipline.
If you come from a place of guilt, failure, shame, you're going to hear it as great.
(13:15):
I can't be obedient or self-disciplined. This must mean I don't love Jesus.
And you're going to slam the book shut. You're going to tell yourself you're
worthless and you're failing God.
You're never going to return my phone calls again. And you're going to throw the book in the trash.
But if you read it from a place of Jesus loves me and I want to love him more
(13:37):
than I love the feeling of a cheeseburger, it's a different perspective.
So when people ask me, well, why can't I just read the book by myself?
I say, absolutely, you can read the book by yourself. I recommend the book to
people all the time. Just pick up the book, start reading.
My coaching program, look at that.
(13:58):
Those of my clients hear it guess what
time it is it's time to eat and i'm
not gonna i'm just not even gonna edit that out so people
ask me they can read that book by themselves and that's absolutely you can read
the book by yourself you know the coaching program is not about reading the
book it's about working out the book with someone i want you to read the book
(14:21):
i want you to watch the videos i want you to do all your journaling assignments
i want you to keep your food log.
The real work happens when you're working out with a partner.
And so if you were my client, and we just did that exercise of why,
but why, but why, but why, but why.
And we're both probably in tears at this point. And we know we've gotten to the root of the problem.
(14:46):
And you know, that's why you do that. Like you could get to that root of the
problem and go, Oh, that's why I do that.
Huh, no big deal. Or you could get to the root of the problem like I did many
years ago and say, I have a lot of unresolved pain here.
We would take a pause and we would do some work around that pain.
(15:07):
We wouldn't take that particular food or that particular person,
place or thing out of your new healthy practices that we're working on.
We might remove some other things some other
unhealthy things and we might add a few
more healthy habits in but we would start to do some work on your trigger to
(15:29):
see what has you all ties up and not does that make sense so we can't be mastered
by anything but it doesn't mean that there's not a lot of pain tied to the reason
why we're mastered by it you know one of my favorite quotes from Elisa's recent teaching is,
the answer to your pain is your pain.
You have to lean into your pain to heal it. The things of pleasure that we use
(15:51):
to numb our pain only increases the pain.
Oh, that's good. Why does it do that? It's because it increases our guilt.
It increases our shame. It increases our unworthiness.
You know, we need to come from a place of Jesus loves me anyway.
Anyway, Jesus loves me through my pain, and he wants me to heal from it.
(16:14):
So, sister, I want you to have a battle partner. I want you to have someone
to walk through this with you.
Of course, I'd love to be your coach. I'd love to help you any way that I can.
But more than that, I just want you to walk into your future self,
healthy, whole, and living well.
So if it's not me, find a counselor, find a mentor, find a small group of ladies
(16:36):
to to work through this together, or even a trusted friend.
And even if you can't even just figure this part out, like how you're going
to get through this book, either with me or without me, schedule a free call
with me and I can help you figure it out. I can give you some more resources.
You know, I can, we can do this together.
So until next time, where I promise the next episode might be,
(17:00):
it will be a little bit more fun.
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