In this enlightening episode of The War on Weight, we engage in an in-depth exploration into the mental and emotional trials that commonly surface on the journey to health. Hosted by the charismatic Keatha, who has successfully lost and maintained a weight reduction of over 50 pounds, the podcast delves into the multitude of dietary products and programs available on the market, offering insights on the options best suited to individual requirements.
The episode isn't merely about tangible products and services, but about confronting and reshaping your attitudes and feelings towards health. Through a revealing exercise, Keatha guides listeners to reflect on their responses to loaded weight-related words. The objective is to prompt a healthier relationship with these terms, thereby enabling listeners to maintain their proghttps://www.revelationwellness.org/2023/10/838/ress without feeling restricted to a strict diet or weight loss plan.
This podcast is a beacon for all those battling weight issues, flooded with self-doubt, and struggling with their relationship with food and self-image. It highlights the importance of self-love, faith, and its significant role in maintaining a healthy lifestyle. The narration underlines that our dietary choices directly influence mental well-being, and how initiating healthier choices can drastically transform our lifestyles, starting from simple measures like eliminating sugar and artificial sweeteners and consuming 64 ounces of water per day.
Backed by the powerful connection between love for oneself and God's love, the speaker shares inspirational personal anecdotes on her battle with emotional eating. It's a stirring account of how faith played a crucial role in maintaining her motivation and resilience. The host also sheds light on the concept of intuitive eating and discloses that medicines and weight loss surgeries can catalyze a healthier life if combined with a genuine willingness to treat our bodies better.
This episode stands as a guiding lamp for those committed to embarking on the path to wellness and a healthier lifestyle, all backed by deeply personal experiences and unwavering faith. It's an uplifting experience essential for anyone seeking life improvements and well-being.
You can connect with Keatha on her website - COACHKEATHA.com
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Today on The War on Weight, I'm talking to you about the tug-of-war.
You know, the do this, don't do that.
Will this work for me? Let me try this lotion, potion, pill, exercise program.
You know, getting healthy can be a mental tug-of-war. And today we're going
to have a discussion about it to see if we can figure it all out together.
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Hey sister, welcome to The War on Weight. Do you want to find some motivation
to finally lose your extra pounds?
Do you want to feel great in your favorite pair of jeans? Do you want some weight
loss that's actually sustainable?
Have you given up that any program will ever work for you?
Well, I'm Keetha, and I'm your new best friend. I've spent a lifetime on the
losing side of the battle.
I felt frustrated, exhausted, self-conscious, and despite any success I had
(00:44):
in life, I felt like a failure, but I finally won the war.
How did I do it, you ask? I discovered how to implement simple,
healthy habits, how to completely revamp my mindset, and embrace some things
that were causing me to turn to food over and over again. end.
Lastly, I discovered how to make nutrition really super simple.
And after just a few short months of fueling my body properly,
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I dropped more than 50 pounds and I'm maintaining it by practicing all the healthy
habits you're going to learn on this podcast.
So if you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own body,
you're buying clothes to hide your body, not celebrate it, you're done having
your weight affect all your relationships with others and more importantly with yourself.
You no longer want to eat your feelings and then beat yourself up about it,
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then this is the podcast for you.
Let's armor up, sister, and fight this war on weight together.
All right, so there is no doubt when we hear certain words, immediately a tug-of-war
goes on in our brains, our minds, and our bodies.
So I want you to listen to this list of words that I'm going to read you.
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More importantly, I want you to listen to your body when you hear the words.
I want you to pay really close attention to your breathing, to your heart rate.
I want you to notice any sensations in your body.
And if you're in a place where you can sit with a journal, I want you to write
these feelings and any thoughts that come to mind when you hear the words.
If you're in your car driving, I know you can't do it, but we can still do this.
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So go ahead and hit pause and grab your journal if you need to, or keep listening.
And if when you get to a word that really brings up a lot of thoughts,
hit pause again, but come back to me, okay?
Here we go. Skinny.
Diet. I am loved I
need to lose weight I hate
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how I look weight loss program self discipline diet program Weight Watchers
keto I love these jeans Ozempic I am and beautiful.
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Weight loss surgery.
Do you not know that your body is the temple of God?
Don't get drunk on wine and be a gluttony with food.
So here's the thing. You had a reaction to every one of those words and phrases.
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Your own personal experiences and thoughts that played a part in your reaction.
So let's take the word diet, the big taboo word everybody hates,
and everybody just gets their panties all in a wad over the word diet.
For some of you, you immediately froze and thought diet. This is not an acceptable word.
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She can't talk about diet. I'm not going to go on a diet because I love myself
the way I am way too much. I'm not going to go on a diet. Diets don't work.
It's just another thing that's not going to work for me. Others of you thought, what kind of diet?
Some of you, including me, have tried every kind of diet on the market in hopes
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that we're going to really get like results of some sort.
But it usually ends up feeling with a feeling of being a failure. At least it was for me.
Reality is we are always trying to fill a need, a want, and get a feeling that
a diet can never give you.
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Others have no issue with the word around diet. It's just those of us who've
not used it in a healthy way.
Because the bottom line is when you Google diet, by definition is,
it's the kinds of food that a person, animal, or community habitually eats.
When you think about that definition, and not the word diet,
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but think about the definition, do you have the same feeling?
This is the definition of diet anytime you hear about me talking about diet.
It's the kinds of food a person habitually eats.
It's a diet. It's the type of food that goes into your body.
It's not about dieting in the way that the second definition in Google says.
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And it says it's a special course of food to which one restricts oneself to
either lose weight or for medical reasons.
There is not one of you that would tell a diabetic, it's unhealthy for you to give up sugar.
Would you do that? If you knew one of your loved ones or yourself was diabetic,
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would you say, oh, that's really unhealthy for you to give up sugar?
You might be falling into diet culture. That's not true.
Diabetes has a huge, lifelong, terrible, chronic illness effects on our bodies.
And you would never want your loved ones to deal with those complications of
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diabetes. You wouldn't want, you don't want to deal with them yourself.
So if you give up sugar because you're diabetic and you've changed your diet,
what you eat habitually, that is not unhealthy.
So we get all caught up in our words and our feelings and our thoughts.
We just need to learn how to live healthy and whole.
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And to do that, we have to live in God's truth, that we have to really realize
how God loves us, how we're valued and we're cherished.
And from that standpoint, we can respond and learn self-discipline and do the
things that are healthy for us.
Sisters, you're called to live better. We're called to live well in this body.
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When we're filling ourselves with things that are unhealthy,
unhealthy food, unhealthy drinks, we're in unhealthy relationships and unhealthy
habits. We are not living well.
I pause because I know this is heavy and I don't like to do heavy.
If y'all have listened to me a while, you know I like to kind of be fun and
(06:55):
I'm not really sure how to make this episode fun.
But that's why I just gave you a pause for a second. So what about the word skinny?
One of my most downloaded episodes
was the one where I talked about it's okay to be want to be skinny and people
just get all riled up about the word skinny does that skinny word give you a
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feeling of hopeful hopelessness did it make you smile a little bit thinking about you being skinny,
or did it just make you grit your teeth.
We could go through this whole list of every one of those words I went through,
and we could do the pros and the cons to every word, the good,
the bad, how you respond versus how a healthy person responds.
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Or if you're the healthy person, how an unhealthy person would respond.
And in every one of those situations, we all have some either healthy views
or unhealthy views we take into those words.
So I recently listened to a podcast with Elisa Keaton, which you all know,
Revelation Wellness wellness fan, certified instructor, facilitator,
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and almost certified health coach through Revelation Wellness,
my new certification that I'm working on right now.
I'm super excited of what it's going to bring to my business.
Anyway, I was listening to this podcast with her and it really hit home.
And what she said in this podcast was, tools are great until the tools master you. you.
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I literally, I said, drop the mic. She's on to something.
And I was like, oh my goodness. I had to really worry about work through in
my mind. What does this mean?
Tools are great until the tools master you. And was I allowing any tools to master me?
I had to think about that. So the scripture that is on my refrigerator right
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now, let's try to say that fast, is 1 Corinthians 6.12.
In the NIV, it says, I have the right to do anything, you say,
but not everything is beneficial.
I have the right to do anything, but I will not be mastered by anything.
In the Common English Bible. So I'm going to read you three or four translations.
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You know, just side note, I've really gotten hung up into different translations lately.
Like I am just fascinated after going and spending a weekend at Haven Place,
with Lisa Turkhurst and her team and being able to have a weekend with a theologian.
Oh goodness, have I dug into the Greek of translations and the various translations
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translations of the Bible and just how the different, just technically different parts of the words.
And when I see a huge difference, then I have to go back to the Greek to see
what the original word was.
This is new for me, by the way. So anyway, back to 1 Corinthians 6.12.
This is the common English Bible version.
I have the freedom to do anything, but not everything is helpful.
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I have the freedom to do anything, but I will not be controlled by anything.
The Good News Translation says.
And I think my final, the final version, the message might be my favorite.
(10:18):
Just because something is technically legal doesn't mean that it's spiritually appropriate.
If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with,
I'd be slave to my own whims.
Just, wow, just because something's technically legal doesn't mean it's spiritually appropriate.
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If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I'd be slave to my whims.
That really hit home for me. I can't be mastered by anything.
I cannot be slave to anything. thing.
So when it comes to weight loss, and weight loss made easy, which is what this podcast is about.
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Sometimes you need tools, but the tools cannot master or control us.
So what does that look like?
Let's talk about the weight loss shots right now.
Everybody's talking about them. And a lot of us, including myself,
have tried them, which is a whole other discussion that I could tell you about.
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But we're going to keep going forward.
Some coaches and some people would say it's an easy way out.
I highly disagree. agree.
Some people even say that the program I used to lose 56 pounds is the easy way out.
I ate 100% clean food,
did not eat a single thing with sugar, high carbs, I only ate clean,
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healthy food for six months straight, not one single cheat.
And I lost 56 six pounds in six months. That was not easy.
And in that six months, I learned healthy habits.
Some people even say that weight loss surgery is easy. That is not easy either.
Because not only do you have to go through surgery, then you have to completely
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change the way that you eat.
And all that mental that goes around it, because that is very much not an easy way out.
But what we are learning here is
that we can't let any shot pill potion lotion or
even healthy eating program control us in a way that's
not healthy and whole so during my six months of weight loss i do not believe
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i was mastered or controlled by a program i do not believe i was mastered or
controlled by the way that i ate i did in a very healthy way and i had a very clear clear-minded,
doing it for health reasons.
I had a health crisis and I needed to do what was healthy for me.
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Since then, during this maintenance and this past 2023 that was just such a
rough year for me, there have been times I've been mastered by many things, including my program.
When I would I would sit in desperation after a binge storm in the middle of grief,
in the middle of just immense grief over the loss of my marriage and go through
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a binge storm and then the shame and the guilt that came upon me with that.
That, and then I would desperately say, I've got to go back onto my program,
and I've got to make sure I don't eat this, and I don't eat that,
and I do this, and I do that.
That's when we're mastered. That's when we're controlled. That is not healthy.
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So I wish I could tell you it's all easy and magically all the weight's going
to drop off. You can eat whatever you want, whenever you want.
For me, it took that structure program to teach me how to eat healthy and to
finally get me to lose weight.
I learned that with me eating some healthy, lean and green meals,
which you see me post on my Facebook page.
I really rather you go to my Pinterest page because a little tip,
(14:08):
I think I'm going off Facebook.
I don't know. I'm still, I'm still wrestling with it. But I think I'm going
to go to Pinterest. I don't know.
A lot of side notes today, huh?
So anyway, as I learned to eat lean and green, it's the things that God created.
And I learned to eat them in appropriate portions, eliminating and almost,
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I should say limiting, almost eliminating all added sugars and almost all artificial
sweeteners. It cleared my brain. It gave me some space to make some better choices.
So here's my take on what I'm telling you today. day. Where do you start?
You start with your relationship with God, with Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
We have to start to understand His love for us.
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And I want you to read about His love for us. I don't want you to read those
scriptures right now about, do you not know that your body is a temple by the Holy Spirit?
I don't want you to take that on as shame or guilt, because that is not what
that scripture is intended for.
What I want you to read about is His love for you. All he expects from us is us to love him.
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And when we love him, all the rest will follow. To be healthy is to live in
a way that we treat ourselves well.
We can only do that from a place of love.
And for my last 12 months, I was not in a place of love for myself.
I was in a place of not so much love for myself.
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I questioned everything I did. I questioned all the things that led me to turning
back to binging as a health coach.
And then the shame that went with that. I did not, I didn't take on the love of my community.
Who would say, of course, of course, you're struggling. Of course.
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That's what I would have said to one of you. If you called me on the phone and
said, I'm getting a divorce.
I have to move across the country. I am sad.
I don't know which way is up.
I would have said to you, of course, sister, you don't know,
but there's only one way to look.
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And that is what is the
only thing that kept me going especially for six months was I clung to Jesus
and it wasn't pretty it was ugly it was really really ugly so should I have
said those things to myself I could have so the only thing that we can do is
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start from a place of love.
You can love yourself by doing things that are healthy for yourself.
So you could start by easy lifestyle changes. You don't need any big program.
You don't need, you know, any potions or lotions or pills or shots to just start in love.
So starting in love could look like starting to drink 64 ounces of water a day.
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Prioritizing your sleep. You're never going to make good decisions about food,
if you're not hydrated or sleeping.
And then start with that one healthy meal a day.
That's what I tell people when I when I do calls with people.
And I do that free call that that you always hear me talk about.
And they say, I really can't afford a program, I really can't afford your,
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your nine week coaching intensive, I really can't afford to go on your full
Optivia program, I say start here.
Drink 64 ounces of water, prioritize your sleep, and I want you to eat one healthy meal per day.
And I'm going to give you the guidelines for it. And that healthy meal is protein
and veggies. And you eat the appropriate amount for your body.
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You know, a good rule of thumb for this one meal is if God made it,
you can eat it. Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full.
That sounds so simple, doesn't it? But it's not always that easy.
I can provide you a full program how to eat to lose weight, you know,
but you'll have to follow the plan and be consistent.
And so if you can be consistent in drinking 64 ounces of water,
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prioritizing your sleep and eating one healthy meal a day, there's a good chance
that you're going to have much success when I put you on a full program.
Or you may find that doing those three things, you start to lose the weight that you want to lose.
But for me, it took the structured program. I took the full program.
I had to learn how to eat completely different because I had been trying for
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so long to do this intuitive eating.
But it took the structured program. It was about two weeks maybe into the program
when I realized why intuitive eating had never worked for me.
It was because I had overeaten and been eating my emotions and feelings and
using food to cope and to numb for pretty much my entire life.
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I was not eating often enough. My insulin levels were all over the place.
I just was eating all the wrong things, even though I thought I was being healthy. And I was exercising.
Good Lord, had I not exercised over the years and got nowhere because I was
binging and and eating all the wrong things, and eating a big meal,
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and then not eating again for 12 or 14 or 18 hours if I was doing intermittent fasting at the time.
All the things that had my insulin levels and my hormone levels all out of whack.
So eating clean and healthy food in appropriate sizes for your inner bodies
often allows your body to start functioning in the way it was created to work very quickly.
And ideally, after you've followed a structured plan for a short period of time,
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you start to get the full concept of intuitive eating.
The structured program, and you'll have heard me talk about this so many times,
because when you start there, it leads to the lifelong health.
It leads to the intuitive eating.
Once you have your stomach back to the right size it's supposed to be,
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after you've fueled your body with what it needs to have to function so it's
not not craving all these things, trying to get its needs met.
Sound familiar? Just like we do all these crazy things to get our needs met,
our bodies do the same thing.
So once you've started to identify what your body likes to be fueled with and
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what it doesn't like, that's when it starts to happen that you can really start intuitive eating.
I'm finally at that point where I know, I know, I know when I eat something
that is not great fuel for my body, I know how I'm going to feel the next day.
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And I also know I don't want to feel that way.
But there's also been some times that I'm like, yeah, I'm okay.
I can have this. I'm not mastered by it anymore. more. And when I do have a binge now, I confess.
I tell God why I didn't run to him first.
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Sometimes I do it right away. Sometimes it's after the fact.
I'm not perfect. I'm just walking on this journey just like you are.
So if you need medication to jumpstart your healthy lifestyle and your physician
agrees that it's a good choice, use it.
But figure out the easiest way to change your habits that led to your weight gain to begin with.
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Then you have to learn how to fuel your body the way it was designed to be fueled.
You got to know why you're doing the rad habits that you are doing because you
can't be on medication forever.
And if you don't change your habits, you're going to gain the weight back.
It doesn't matter what program you use. It doesn't matter what you do.
This also applies to weight loss surgery.
If you don't figure it out, you've got to figure it out.
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You got to figure out the healthy habits that go along with it, but use the tools.
Just don't let them control you, which means you can't do it without them.
You can't maintain without them.
So if you're going to have weight loss surgery, you still have to maintain your weight.
And if you haven't learned how to eat healthy, it was all for naught.
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So remember, managing your eating habits, or even we could use the word diet,
managing your diet, because all the word diet is, is what?
Things that you eat habitually. This is what you're looking for for a lifetime, not just a season. in.
Another great place to start is my episode four. Oh, excuse me.
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It's not episode four. It's an episode called four things to avoid and start
and start losing weight today.
It was a two week challenge. And in that episode, I offered one free coaching
session if you committed to the two weeks and did it.
I've just went back in and reactivated that on the calendar.
So, you know, if you commit to
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the two weeks, you go on, you schedule your appointment for 14 days later.
When you schedule that appointment, it's going to ask you some questions.
So that way I know you've gotten started and I'll be able to reach out to you
and encourage you along during the 14 days.
So I'm going to wrap this up. I bet you could list a dozen reasons why you want
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to lose weight. Go ahead. Write it down.
If you're driving, think about it in your head. A dozen reasons.
Was one of them because my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I want to take care of it?
Or was it all about how you look, how you feel, how somebody else thinks you look and feel?
Was it about the weight? Was it about the scale? Was it about just all about you? Yeah.
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Of the reasons because my body was created to worship God.
I can remember asking myself all these questions many years ago and feeling
like I was failing God because I didn't know how to take care of myself.
I've carried that shame and guilt and it was so heavy just because I couldn't
lose what I felt like a failure in so many areas, but feeling like I failed
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God was enough for me to turn to all the wrong things to numb the pain.
If that's you, I know these scriptures are for our good. No,
these are for good, not for shame.
I've said it so many times. God weighs our best for us. He wants what's very
best for us. If we follow his plan, life just gets easier.
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And this doesn't just apply to our bodies and our health.
It's not that I ever disappoint God when I go on a fast food binge or I turn
to Netflix for comfort instead of him.
He just knows knows that I'm really not getting what I need.
All I'm doing is pushing away the pain and the discomfort that I'm feeling.
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When we can learn to take it to Him first, the pain and discomfort can be dealt with, not pushed away.
And like I said, for me, this has been tested over the last year, over and over and over.
When my marriage blew up, up right in front of my face.
I blamed myself and so full of shame, I started taking on guilt that wasn't even mine.
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Food was not numbing the pain. Nothing was numbing the pain.
It was only when I reached out to my support system, my sisters in my like-minded
community, that I really started to make some good choices for my mind and body.
And I would see glimmers of hope for the future and and hope for healing.
Sometimes it lasted five minutes. Sometimes it lasted five days.
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Listen to me, you know, any time, any length of time, you know my story.
I'd finally taken my health back. I was at my lowest weight in 30 years.
And even with the last year of having a little bit of a weight gain,
I'm still at my lowest weight in 30 years.
And I claim that and I'm not going to let myself feel bad about that.
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But why was I able to go through the year that I've gone through and still keep
majority majority of my weight off.
It's because I learned the healthy habits.
It was because I learned spiritual and physical disciplines.
And I knew that my relationship with God had to come first. That's why I went on sabbatical.
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That's why you didn't hear from me on the podcast for a bit.
It's why I let my business take a back seat.
I had to get myself right and get back to practicing those healthy habits.
And sisters, I'm still working on it every day. I'm in a battle every every day still.
And that's why I work it out with so many of you.
This war on weight is ongoing. Our minds play tug of war with us,
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and then the world just intensifies it all.
So what I hope you heard today on this episode is there is freedom to use the tools available to you,
but you still have to figure out the reasons why you've gained weight,
why you turn to all the wrong things, and figure out how to live happy,
healthy, and whole. I'm here to battle with you, sister.
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And if you're interested in connecting with me to see how we can work together,
you know, you can always visit my website, CoachKeitha.com and schedule a free
call. I have that one. I have a one free call for anybody.
I have a free Facebook group you can join. You can sign up for my new week,
nine week coaching program.
Better yet, take the two week challenge. It's two weeks, just two weeks and just see how it goes.
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All right, sister. sister. I hope you've enjoyed this episode.
I look forward to connecting with you and I will see you or hear you. Huh?
This is crazy. Maybe this is the funny part of the episode that I normally say is until next time.
Music.
Today on The War on Weight, I'm talking to you about the tug-of-war.
You know, the do this, don't do that.
Will this work for me? Let me try this lotion, potion, pill, exercise program.
You know, getting healthy can be a mental tug-of-war. And today we're going
to have a discussion about it to see if we can figure it all out together.
(00:21):
Hey sister, welcome to The War on Weight. Do you want to find some motivation
to finally lose your extra pounds?
Do you want to feel great in your favorite pair of jeans? Do you want some weight
loss that's actually sustainable?
Have you given up that any program will ever work for you?
Well, I'm Keetha, and I'm your new best friend. I've spent a lifetime on the
losing side of the battle.
I felt frustrated, exhausted, self-conscious, and despite any success I had
(00:44):
in life, I felt like a failure, but I finally won the war.
How did I do it, you ask? I discovered how to implement simple,
healthy habits, how to completely revamp my mindset, and embrace some things
that were causing me to turn to food over and over again. end.
Lastly, I discovered how to make nutrition really super simple.
And after just a few short months of fueling my body properly,
(01:04):
I dropped more than 50 pounds and I'm maintaining it by practicing all the healthy
habits you're going to learn on this podcast.
So if you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own body,
you're buying clothes to hide your body, not celebrate it, you're done having
your weight affect all your relationships with others and more importantly with yourself.
You no longer want to eat your feelings and then beat yourself up about it,
(01:25):
then this is the podcast for you.
Let's armor up, sister, and fight this war on weight together.
All right, so there is no doubt when we hear certain words, immediately a tug-of-war
goes on in our brains, our minds, and our bodies.
So I want you to listen to this list of words that I'm going to read you.
(01:48):
More importantly, I want you to listen to your body when you hear the words.
I want you to pay really close attention to your breathing, to your heart rate.
I want you to notice any sensations in your body.
And if you're in a place where you can sit with a journal, I want you to write
these feelings and any thoughts that come to mind when you hear the words.
If you're in your car driving, I know you can't do it, but we can still do this.
(02:12):
So go ahead and hit pause and grab your journal if you need to, or keep listening.
And if when you get to a word that really brings up a lot of thoughts,
hit pause again, but come back to me, okay?
Here we go. Skinny.
Diet. I am loved I
need to lose weight I hate
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how I look weight loss program self discipline diet program Weight Watchers
keto I love these jeans Ozempic I am and beautiful.
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Weight loss surgery.
Do you not know that your body is the temple of God?
Don't get drunk on wine and be a gluttony with food.
So here's the thing. You had a reaction to every one of those words and phrases.
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Your own personal experiences and thoughts that played a part in your reaction.
So let's take the word diet, the big taboo word everybody hates,
and everybody just gets their panties all in a wad over the word diet.
For some of you, you immediately froze and thought diet. This is not an acceptable word.
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She can't talk about diet. I'm not going to go on a diet because I love myself
the way I am way too much. I'm not going to go on a diet. Diets don't work.
It's just another thing that's not going to work for me. Others of you thought, what kind of diet?
Some of you, including me, have tried every kind of diet on the market in hopes
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that we're going to really get like results of some sort.
But it usually ends up feeling with a feeling of being a failure. At least it was for me.
Reality is we are always trying to fill a need, a want, and get a feeling that
a diet can never give you.
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Others have no issue with the word around diet. It's just those of us who've
not used it in a healthy way.
Because the bottom line is when you Google diet, by definition is,
it's the kinds of food that a person, animal, or community habitually eats.
When you think about that definition, and not the word diet,
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but think about the definition, do you have the same feeling?
This is the definition of diet anytime you hear about me talking about diet.
It's the kinds of food a person habitually eats.
It's a diet. It's the type of food that goes into your body.
It's not about dieting in the way that the second definition in Google says.
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And it says it's a special course of food to which one restricts oneself to
either lose weight or for medical reasons.
There is not one of you that would tell a diabetic, it's unhealthy for you to give up sugar.
Would you do that? If you knew one of your loved ones or yourself was diabetic,
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would you say, oh, that's really unhealthy for you to give up sugar?
You might be falling into diet culture. That's not true.
Diabetes has a huge, lifelong, terrible, chronic illness effects on our bodies.
And you would never want your loved ones to deal with those complications of
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diabetes. You wouldn't want, you don't want to deal with them yourself.
So if you give up sugar because you're diabetic and you've changed your diet,
what you eat habitually, that is not unhealthy.
So we get all caught up in our words and our feelings and our thoughts.
We just need to learn how to live healthy and whole.
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And to do that, we have to live in God's truth, that we have to really realize
how God loves us, how we're valued and we're cherished.
And from that standpoint, we can respond and learn self-discipline and do the
things that are healthy for us.
Sisters, you're called to live better. We're called to live well in this body.
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When we're filling ourselves with things that are unhealthy,
unhealthy food, unhealthy drinks, we're in unhealthy relationships and unhealthy
habits. We are not living well.
I pause because I know this is heavy and I don't like to do heavy.
If y'all have listened to me a while, you know I like to kind of be fun and
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I'm not really sure how to make this episode fun.
But that's why I just gave you a pause for a second. So what about the word skinny?
One of my most downloaded episodes
was the one where I talked about it's okay to be want to be skinny and people
just get all riled up about the word skinny does that skinny word give you a
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feeling of hopeful hopelessness did it make you smile a little bit thinking about you being skinny,
or did it just make you grit your teeth.
We could go through this whole list of every one of those words I went through,
and we could do the pros and the cons to every word, the good,
the bad, how you respond versus how a healthy person responds.
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Or if you're the healthy person, how an unhealthy person would respond.
And in every one of those situations, we all have some either healthy views
or unhealthy views we take into those words.
So I recently listened to a podcast with Elisa Keaton, which you all know,
Revelation Wellness wellness fan, certified instructor, facilitator,
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and almost certified health coach through Revelation Wellness,
my new certification that I'm working on right now.
I'm super excited of what it's going to bring to my business.
Anyway, I was listening to this podcast with her and it really hit home.
And what she said in this podcast was, tools are great until the tools master you. you.
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I literally, I said, drop the mic. She's on to something.
And I was like, oh my goodness. I had to really worry about work through in
my mind. What does this mean?
Tools are great until the tools master you. And was I allowing any tools to master me?
I had to think about that. So the scripture that is on my refrigerator right
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now, let's try to say that fast, is 1 Corinthians 6.12.
In the NIV, it says, I have the right to do anything, you say,
but not everything is beneficial.
I have the right to do anything, but I will not be mastered by anything.
In the Common English Bible. So I'm going to read you three or four translations.
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You know, just side note, I've really gotten hung up into different translations lately.
Like I am just fascinated after going and spending a weekend at Haven Place,
with Lisa Turkhurst and her team and being able to have a weekend with a theologian.
Oh goodness, have I dug into the Greek of translations and the various translations
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translations of the Bible and just how the different, just technically different parts of the words.
And when I see a huge difference, then I have to go back to the Greek to see
what the original word was.
This is new for me, by the way. So anyway, back to 1 Corinthians 6.12.
This is the common English Bible version.
I have the freedom to do anything, but not everything is helpful.
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I have the freedom to do anything, but I will not be controlled by anything.
The Good News Translation says.
And I think my final, the final version, the message might be my favorite.
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Just because something is technically legal doesn't mean that it's spiritually appropriate.
If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with,
I'd be slave to my own whims.
Just, wow, just because something's technically legal doesn't mean it's spiritually appropriate.
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If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I'd be slave to my whims.
That really hit home for me. I can't be mastered by anything.
I cannot be slave to anything. thing.
So when it comes to weight loss, and weight loss made easy, which is what this podcast is about.
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Sometimes you need tools, but the tools cannot master or control us.
So what does that look like?
Let's talk about the weight loss shots right now.
Everybody's talking about them. And a lot of us, including myself,
have tried them, which is a whole other discussion that I could tell you about.
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But we're going to keep going forward.
Some coaches and some people would say it's an easy way out.
I highly disagree. agree.
Some people even say that the program I used to lose 56 pounds is the easy way out.
I ate 100% clean food,
did not eat a single thing with sugar, high carbs, I only ate clean,
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healthy food for six months straight, not one single cheat.
And I lost 56 six pounds in six months. That was not easy.
And in that six months, I learned healthy habits.
Some people even say that weight loss surgery is easy. That is not easy either.
Because not only do you have to go through surgery, then you have to completely
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change the way that you eat.
And all that mental that goes around it, because that is very much not an easy way out.
But what we are learning here is
that we can't let any shot pill potion lotion or
even healthy eating program control us in a way that's
not healthy and whole so during my six months of weight loss i do not believe
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i was mastered or controlled by a program i do not believe i was mastered or
controlled by the way that i ate i did in a very healthy way and i had a very clear clear-minded,
doing it for health reasons.
I had a health crisis and I needed to do what was healthy for me.
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Since then, during this maintenance and this past 2023 that was just such a
rough year for me, there have been times I've been mastered by many things, including my program.
When I would I would sit in desperation after a binge storm in the middle of grief,
in the middle of just immense grief over the loss of my marriage and go through
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a binge storm and then the shame and the guilt that came upon me with that.
That, and then I would desperately say, I've got to go back onto my program,
and I've got to make sure I don't eat this, and I don't eat that,
and I do this, and I do that.
That's when we're mastered. That's when we're controlled. That is not healthy.
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So I wish I could tell you it's all easy and magically all the weight's going
to drop off. You can eat whatever you want, whenever you want.
For me, it took that structure program to teach me how to eat healthy and to
finally get me to lose weight.
I learned that with me eating some healthy, lean and green meals,
which you see me post on my Facebook page.
I really rather you go to my Pinterest page because a little tip,
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I think I'm going off Facebook.
I don't know. I'm still, I'm still wrestling with it. But I think I'm going
to go to Pinterest. I don't know.
A lot of side notes today, huh?
So anyway, as I learned to eat lean and green, it's the things that God created.
And I learned to eat them in appropriate portions, eliminating and almost,
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I should say limiting, almost eliminating all added sugars and almost all artificial
sweeteners. It cleared my brain. It gave me some space to make some better choices.
So here's my take on what I'm telling you today. day. Where do you start?
You start with your relationship with God, with Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
We have to start to understand His love for us.
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And I want you to read about His love for us. I don't want you to read those
scriptures right now about, do you not know that your body is a temple by the Holy Spirit?
I don't want you to take that on as shame or guilt, because that is not what
that scripture is intended for.
What I want you to read about is His love for you. All he expects from us is us to love him.
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And when we love him, all the rest will follow. To be healthy is to live in
a way that we treat ourselves well.
We can only do that from a place of love.
And for my last 12 months, I was not in a place of love for myself.
I was in a place of not so much love for myself.
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I questioned everything I did. I questioned all the things that led me to turning
back to binging as a health coach.
And then the shame that went with that. I did not, I didn't take on the love of my community.
Who would say, of course, of course, you're struggling. Of course.
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That's what I would have said to one of you. If you called me on the phone and
said, I'm getting a divorce.
I have to move across the country. I am sad.
I don't know which way is up.
I would have said to you, of course, sister, you don't know,
but there's only one way to look.
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And that is what is the
only thing that kept me going especially for six months was I clung to Jesus
and it wasn't pretty it was ugly it was really really ugly so should I have
said those things to myself I could have so the only thing that we can do is
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start from a place of love.
You can love yourself by doing things that are healthy for yourself.
So you could start by easy lifestyle changes. You don't need any big program.
You don't need, you know, any potions or lotions or pills or shots to just start in love.
So starting in love could look like starting to drink 64 ounces of water a day.
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Prioritizing your sleep. You're never going to make good decisions about food,
if you're not hydrated or sleeping.
And then start with that one healthy meal a day.
That's what I tell people when I when I do calls with people.
And I do that free call that that you always hear me talk about.
And they say, I really can't afford a program, I really can't afford your,
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your nine week coaching intensive, I really can't afford to go on your full
Optivia program, I say start here.
Drink 64 ounces of water, prioritize your sleep, and I want you to eat one healthy meal per day.
And I'm going to give you the guidelines for it. And that healthy meal is protein
and veggies. And you eat the appropriate amount for your body.
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You know, a good rule of thumb for this one meal is if God made it,
you can eat it. Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full.
That sounds so simple, doesn't it? But it's not always that easy.
I can provide you a full program how to eat to lose weight, you know,
but you'll have to follow the plan and be consistent.
And so if you can be consistent in drinking 64 ounces of water,
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prioritizing your sleep and eating one healthy meal a day, there's a good chance
that you're going to have much success when I put you on a full program.
Or you may find that doing those three things, you start to lose the weight that you want to lose.
But for me, it took the structured program. I took the full program.
I had to learn how to eat completely different because I had been trying for
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so long to do this intuitive eating.
But it took the structured program. It was about two weeks maybe into the program
when I realized why intuitive eating had never worked for me.
It was because I had overeaten and been eating my emotions and feelings and
using food to cope and to numb for pretty much my entire life.
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I was not eating often enough. My insulin levels were all over the place.
I just was eating all the wrong things, even though I thought I was being healthy. And I was exercising.
Good Lord, had I not exercised over the years and got nowhere because I was
binging and and eating all the wrong things, and eating a big meal,
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and then not eating again for 12 or 14 or 18 hours if I was doing intermittent fasting at the time.
All the things that had my insulin levels and my hormone levels all out of whack.
So eating clean and healthy food in appropriate sizes for your inner bodies
often allows your body to start functioning in the way it was created to work very quickly.
And ideally, after you've followed a structured plan for a short period of time,
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you start to get the full concept of intuitive eating.
The structured program, and you'll have heard me talk about this so many times,
because when you start there, it leads to the lifelong health.
It leads to the intuitive eating.
Once you have your stomach back to the right size it's supposed to be,
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after you've fueled your body with what it needs to have to function so it's
not not craving all these things, trying to get its needs met.
Sound familiar? Just like we do all these crazy things to get our needs met,
our bodies do the same thing.
So once you've started to identify what your body likes to be fueled with and
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what it doesn't like, that's when it starts to happen that you can really start intuitive eating.
I'm finally at that point where I know, I know, I know when I eat something
that is not great fuel for my body, I know how I'm going to feel the next day.
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And I also know I don't want to feel that way.
But there's also been some times that I'm like, yeah, I'm okay.
I can have this. I'm not mastered by it anymore. more. And when I do have a binge now, I confess.
I tell God why I didn't run to him first.
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Sometimes I do it right away. Sometimes it's after the fact.
I'm not perfect. I'm just walking on this journey just like you are.
So if you need medication to jumpstart your healthy lifestyle and your physician
agrees that it's a good choice, use it.
But figure out the easiest way to change your habits that led to your weight gain to begin with.
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Then you have to learn how to fuel your body the way it was designed to be fueled.
You got to know why you're doing the rad habits that you are doing because you
can't be on medication forever.
And if you don't change your habits, you're going to gain the weight back.
It doesn't matter what program you use. It doesn't matter what you do.
This also applies to weight loss surgery.
If you don't figure it out, you've got to figure it out.
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You got to figure out the healthy habits that go along with it, but use the tools.
Just don't let them control you, which means you can't do it without them.
You can't maintain without them.
So if you're going to have weight loss surgery, you still have to maintain your weight.
And if you haven't learned how to eat healthy, it was all for naught.
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So remember, managing your eating habits, or even we could use the word diet,
managing your diet, because all the word diet is, is what?
Things that you eat habitually. This is what you're looking for for a lifetime, not just a season. in.
Another great place to start is my episode four. Oh, excuse me.
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It's not episode four. It's an episode called four things to avoid and start
and start losing weight today.
It was a two week challenge. And in that episode, I offered one free coaching
session if you committed to the two weeks and did it.
I've just went back in and reactivated that on the calendar.
So, you know, if you commit to
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the two weeks, you go on, you schedule your appointment for 14 days later.
When you schedule that appointment, it's going to ask you some questions.
So that way I know you've gotten started and I'll be able to reach out to you
and encourage you along during the 14 days.
So I'm going to wrap this up. I bet you could list a dozen reasons why you want
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to lose weight. Go ahead. Write it down.
If you're driving, think about it in your head. A dozen reasons.
Was one of them because my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I want to take care of it?
Or was it all about how you look, how you feel, how somebody else thinks you look and feel?
Was it about the weight? Was it about the scale? Was it about just all about you? Yeah.
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Of the reasons because my body was created to worship God.
I can remember asking myself all these questions many years ago and feeling
like I was failing God because I didn't know how to take care of myself.
I've carried that shame and guilt and it was so heavy just because I couldn't
lose what I felt like a failure in so many areas, but feeling like I failed
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God was enough for me to turn to all the wrong things to numb the pain.
If that's you, I know these scriptures are for our good. No,
these are for good, not for shame.
I've said it so many times. God weighs our best for us. He wants what's very
best for us. If we follow his plan, life just gets easier.
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And this doesn't just apply to our bodies and our health.
It's not that I ever disappoint God when I go on a fast food binge or I turn
to Netflix for comfort instead of him.
He just knows knows that I'm really not getting what I need.
All I'm doing is pushing away the pain and the discomfort that I'm feeling.
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When we can learn to take it to Him first, the pain and discomfort can be dealt with, not pushed away.
And like I said, for me, this has been tested over the last year, over and over and over.
When my marriage blew up, up right in front of my face.
I blamed myself and so full of shame, I started taking on guilt that wasn't even mine.
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Food was not numbing the pain. Nothing was numbing the pain.
It was only when I reached out to my support system, my sisters in my like-minded
community, that I really started to make some good choices for my mind and body.
And I would see glimmers of hope for the future and and hope for healing.
Sometimes it lasted five minutes. Sometimes it lasted five days.
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Listen to me, you know, any time, any length of time, you know my story.
I'd finally taken my health back. I was at my lowest weight in 30 years.
And even with the last year of having a little bit of a weight gain,
I'm still at my lowest weight in 30 years.
And I claim that and I'm not going to let myself feel bad about that.
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But why was I able to go through the year that I've gone through and still keep
majority majority of my weight off.
It's because I learned the healthy habits.
It was because I learned spiritual and physical disciplines.
And I knew that my relationship with God had to come first. That's why I went on sabbatical.
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That's why you didn't hear from me on the podcast for a bit.
It's why I let my business take a back seat.
I had to get myself right and get back to practicing those healthy habits.
And sisters, I'm still working on it every day. I'm in a battle every every day still.
And that's why I work it out with so many of you.
This war on weight is ongoing. Our minds play tug of war with us,
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and then the world just intensifies it all.
So what I hope you heard today on this episode is there is freedom to use the tools available to you,
but you still have to figure out the reasons why you've gained weight,
why you turn to all the wrong things, and figure out how to live happy,
healthy, and whole. I'm here to battle with you, sister.
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And if you're interested in connecting with me to see how we can work together,
you know, you can always visit my website, CoachKeitha.com and schedule a free
call. I have that one. I have a one free call for anybody.
I have a free Facebook group you can join. You can sign up for my new week,
nine week coaching program.
Better yet, take the two week challenge. It's two weeks, just two weeks and just see how it goes.
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All right, sister. sister. I hope you've enjoyed this episode.
I look forward to connecting with you and I will see you or hear you. Huh?
This is crazy. Maybe this is the funny part of the episode that I normally say is until next time.
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