July 3, 2023 • 35 mins
Mindfulness, Motherhood, and Music: Jen Lynn Farkas' Inspiring Journey
Motherhood is a journey filled with unexpected twists and turns, and sometimes our relationships can surprise us with the growth they inspire. I had the pleasure of talking with Jen Lynn Farkas, an intuitive mindfulness mentor for women and mothers from Canada, who shared her own motherhood experiences, including navigating a partner who initially didn't want children. We discussed the beauty of courageous conversations and embracing parenthood as a transformative adventure.
Jen also shared her insights on supporting busy moms seeking more than the daily grind. We delved into creating intentional spaces through mindfulness practices and other tools for emotional and well-being support. We also chatted about Jen's passion for singing and how it has empowered her family and served others. This episode is a heartfelt and empowering conversation for anyone on their parenthood journey, seeking inspiration and connection.
Jen Lynn Farkas' BioJen Lynn Farkas, an Intuitive Mindfulness Mentor for Women and Mothers based in Canada. Jen's passion for women's empowerment has led her on a transformative journey, offering mentoring that helps women and mothers find the peace and balance they crave, enabling them to live their most authentic and fulfilling lives. With Jen by their side, navigating the complexities of motherhood and life becomes a supported and empowering experience.
Jen's expertise and diverse background make her a well-rounded mentor. She spent years studying homeopathic medicine and running a business focused on optimal well-being through natural remedies and holistic nutrition. Recognizing the power of yoga, she became a certified Yoga Teacher, Ritual Guide, and Yoga Nidra Instructor, providing her clients with tools to cultivate mindfulness and self-discovery.
With an Awakener Certification and Mindfulness Coaching Certification, Jen equips her clients with the necessary guidance to lead authentic lives aligned with their true selves. Notably, she is part of an Intuitive Mastermind, honing her skills and abilities to provide intuitive guidance to her clients, enhancing their personal growth and self-awareness.
When Jen isn't working with clients, you can find her immersed in nature, enjoying quality time with her family. Her passion for creative expression shines through her love for singing, writing, and exploration. Jen also finds fulfillment in travel, reading, and connecting with others in her community, fostering meaningful relationships and promoting a sense of belonging.
Join us as we delve deeper into Jen's journey and discover the valuable insights she has to offer. Whether you're a woman, a mother, or simply seeking personal growth and fulfillment, Jen's wisdom and guidance will inspire and empower you to embrace your authentic self. Stay tuned for an engaging conversation that will leave you motivated and ready to embark on your own transformative path.
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(00:01):
Welcome to Uplift! Inspiring Stories
To Uplift the World.
I am Gemma Serenity Gorokhoff, your host, and today, coming from Canada, we have Jen Lynn Farkas.
Jen is an intuitive mindfulness mentor for women and mothers based in Canada.
(00:22):
As a passionate advocate for women empowerment, Jen offers transformative mentoring for women and mothers so that they can find the peace and balance they crave, enabling them to live their most authentic life authentic and fulfilling life, whether it's navigating motherhood or life in general.
Jen is committed to supporting her clients every step of the way.
(00:46):
After years of studying homeopathic medicine and running a business focused on optimal well-being through natural remedies and holistic nutrition, Jen turned her attention to yoga, receiving certifications as a yoga teacher, which will guide a yoga instructor.
She also completed training as an essential oil specialist and enabled her to empower others to harness the important emotional and physical support properties of essential health for themselves and their families.
(01:17):
With her awakeners certification and mindfulness coaching certification, Jen is equipped to guide her clients in living a life that is authentic to them.
She is part of an intuitive mastermind, developing her skills and ability to provide intuitive guidance to her clients.
When she's not working with clients, Jen loves spending time with her family out in nature.
(01:40):
She's also an avid singer, writer and explorer, an enjoys traveling, reading and connecting with others in her community and, as a little insider trick, just letting you know she has such a smooth, warm and delicious voice that is embracing you in a way.
(02:00):
That's where people can do.
Thank you, gemma, thank you so much.
Thank you, Jen, for joining us today.
I would like to ask you a question.
when I was reading your bio, you mentioned a lot about motherhood.
What is your motherhood journey?
(02:26):
Such a great question because it has been so expansive for me becoming a mother and it really has informed a lot of what I do now in service to others.
I would say my motherhood journey began in a lot of uncertainty.
(02:54):
I had met a partner who I fell for right away.
He's an incredible man, but on our very first date he informed me that he didn't want to be a father and that he never wanted to have children.
(03:15):
At the time I just listened and I wasn't 100% sure what my thoughts around motherhood were.
We just continued on dating, developing our relationship and as it deepened I started to feel this really intense calling to become a mother.
(03:45):
This brought up a lot because we had talked about from the very beginning how it wasn't in his plan.
For myself, I had never felt a feeling like this before.
I had never felt so pulled towards something with all of my being.
(04:05):
I was used to thinking about doing something and yeah, i'm going to go for it, but this was a full body.
I want to be a mother.
I became very nervous that this was going to end our relationship.
I knew that I wanted to be with him, but I knew that I wanted to be a mother.
So he released two conflicting desires.
(04:32):
I got the courage to share exactly how I was feeling.
I was able to step into that courage because it was just such this innate feeling like I had to be a mom.
It wasn't like oh, i'll see what he says, it was like no, this is the next thing for me.
(05:01):
We had a conversation and he was very, very empathetic, listened to exactly everything I had to say and he responded in a way that was very unexpected.
He kind of took it all in and said, okay, I’m really going to think about this.
(05:27):
And I was floored because I assumed that it would be.
you know, this is not what I want to do and it would be a whole really tough conversation.
But there was also something inside of him that you know had started to change his mind along the course of our relationship.
(05:47):
So he took a few days and I remember walking.
we were on just a little stroll through the forest and he just said to me out of nowhere, I want to be a father.
And this was like wow, this was so exciting to me because I knew he would be an incredible father.
(06:09):
So that was stage one of this journey, because of the fact that he knew he didn't want to be a father.
He had a vasectomy about 20 years prior.
So making the decision to start a family for us was just the beginning of many obstacles that would arise.
(06:31):
So it was an exciting start, but we knew we would have to face a few things together to build this family.
It's absolutely stunning as an experience.
Thank you for sharing that.
That means that it's not because at first sight someone says no kids whatsoever, without an actual history of physical or mental illness.
(07:06):
that would really say no, I am not going to put to the world someone as crazy as my whoever in the family tree was completely out of shape, out of work, out of health.
That's really something that was deeply ingrained in him in the sense of okay, it is a choice, but it was not a choice rooted in health clearly.
(07:28):
Otherwise he wouldn't shift his mind when listening to you and really understanding where you come from and joining you on that path of parenthood.
And that is love from him, that is loving you and joining you where you are at that moment in time.
(07:50):
Yes.
That's beautiful.
Thank you, and it was really an eye opening for me because I had accepted that the result of me sharing this was going to be the end of our relationship.
So it was a really big lesson for me in the importance of communicating your true desires and the importance of not having that judgment going into something so big, and so it really opened my eyes to realizing that you can't always know what someone else is thinking or feeling, and so it opened up a lot in our relationship, I think, at that point.
(08:42):
So that was a really beautiful moment.
So how did your parenthood journey continue from there?
I would say start, yes.
So the first agreement let's have a family together, let's have children together because we love each other.
(09:03):
So you said 20 years of relationship later.
So no, we actually we had just been together for a little bit over a year.
He had had a vasectomy 20 years prior.
So we knew right away that if we were going to do this, it was going to have to be a process that we'd start with our doctor, and we didn't really know how it was going to unfold.
(09:32):
So it actually was really lovely.
We didn't have to wait a long time to see a fertility specialist.
But we were presented with two options, and the one was we could try a reversal of the vasectomy, but the chances of it working were very, very slim because of the length of time, and the other option was just to proceed with the IVF.
(10:06):
We were both in the state of mind that this was something that we wanted to do now.
We weren't really interested in trying something that wasn't guaranteed the reversal and then having to go through it all again.
So we said you know what we're just going to go with.
What we feel will be has the best chance for success.
(10:33):
So yes, and I was terrified.
I was really really scared of the actual process.
I had a lot of fear around having to do the injections fairly regularly.
(10:58):
I was worried about taking the time off work because you've got your appointments that are scheduled for a reason, and so it was a very fearful time for me.
But at the same time I knew that this desire that I had would be carrying me through and I would be able to feel that fear, but was moving towards something that I've wanted more than anything in my life.
(11:33):
So it was a really interesting experience to me because these fears that would come up, I was just moving through them in a different way than perhaps I had in the past.
So we started the process and it took a village, because I relied on my mom for a lot of support.
(11:58):
I relied on my parents to support me when my partner was working, my friends It was a whole community effort and I was just so grateful for it, because anyone who's going through the journey I see you, it affects many aspects of your life, and so stepping into that uncertainty is a huge step and a very brave step.
(12:29):
And so we continued with the process, just holding that hope in our heart that at the end we would have a family.
And we ended up with five embryos.
We ended the process and we thought, oh great, hopefully we'll be able to freeze an embryo and perhaps, if we want to have a bigger family, we'd have that option.
(12:57):
So we waited the few days and I got a phone call saying that two of the embryos unfortunately didn't make it, so you have these three left.
Normally we'd wait I can't remember now but X amount of days before doing the implant.
(13:18):
But because two of them didn't make it, we're wondering if perhaps you'd like to do the implant now, because there are these three.
And so we scheduled it because I was like, yes, that's the best chance for success.
So by the time I went there there was the one embryo, so we just had the one embryo.
(13:41):
So between that phone call and you coming there, two more did not make it.
You have one remaining that actually is holding.
Yes, one little one remaining.
And so we went ahead And we you know it was such a magical experience because you're just so astonished by the power of the human body Like it was just such an incredible experience when we did that the implant, because There's just an overwhelming sense of gratitude for what we're able to do now.
(14:29):
And so that waiting for the phone call after the blood test once you wait and then you go for blood and then that waiting for that phone call was like this roller coaster of anticipation.
And I remember getting the phone call.
(14:49):
I was with my mom, my partner was at work, and I knew this would be the day I would get the phone call, and I wanted to share it with someone.
So I was laying on the couch, sort of napping, and the phone rang and my mom runs into the room and I said hello, and the first thing she said was it was successful.
(15:18):
And I started just letting all the emotions run.
It was a really, really exciting moment for us, and I couldn't believe that we had this one embryo and we were able to find success the first time, and it was from there another long few months of.
(15:48):
I had some things come up in pregnancy, but I wouldn't have changed it for the world.
It was just this moment of realizing that this whole new chapter is opening, this whole new era of expansion is going to be happening, and the journey of pregnancy was tough, but it was also like I look back on it now as such a pivotal moment in my life.
(16:24):
So it was a roller coaster to get there, but it all worked out so beautifully in the end And they could not be more thankful for everything that we experienced.
So beautiful. And who did you receive as the personality of your child?
(16:45):
Because that is a complete question mark.
You don't know.
And this is something that reveals over the first years of so, right.
Yes, yes.
What kind of personality does your child have?
Such a great question.
It's this age, so he's three and a half now.
He will tell you three and three quarters, but he is really in that stage of owning who he is, so it's a perfect time for that question.
(17:17):
He's very much a combination of our both of our demeanors.
He's a very calm, easygoing, curious.
He knows what he wants, and that's something that I really want to nurture in him as he grows, because, looking back, I know that's something that I lost somewhere along the way, but he has that very strongly. And so that's definitely a quality I hope he holds on to.
(17:54):
And he is so loving.
Up until about three he was a very kind human, but now he's really learning how to express his love and express his appreciation for things, and so it's a really fun age.
(18:18):
I just really love watching him blossom into his personality.
That's gorgeous.
That's a pretty gorgeous Thank you.
I really, really love your motherhood journey.
It's amazing.
So my next series of questions revolves more around your many layers of your business, because everything turns around holistic, natural remedies and approach.
(18:53):
How would you define your business and how would you define your ideal client?
Yeah, so currently my business revolves around women and mothers who are looking for more peace, balance and authenticity in their motherhood journey and also in life, because when you become a mom, as you know, there's sort of a new level of busy that happens, And I found in my first few months of motherhood that I was just swimming.
(19:35):
I couldn't figure out how I wanted to show up as a mom and how I wanted to embrace my authenticity while being in this.
You're in a new way of being right.
So what I love to support women in is tuning back into their inner wisdom, And we can do that through the mindfulness coaching, through Yoga Nidra, and also offering them tools that they're able to use for, as an example, like essential oils for emotional support, tools that they're able to use in their day-to-day life, as well as creating rituals around how they want to embody their intentions so that they are always feeling like their self is cared for, their hopes and dreams are cared for and they're also showing up as a mom the way that they envisioned.
(20:34):
So for many moms it's I wanna be more present in the moments that I do have with my children, because I work, my kids go to school, we have these activities, but the moments that we have together.
I want to know how to be more present so that I'm taking the most event icon of the time that we have together, And so that's where the mindfulness practices come in and really understanding their heartfelt desires, because often we don't take the time or space to explore that, And so that's something that I become really passionate about is creating that intentional space for busy moms who are craving more than the daily routine.
(21:18):
Yeah, Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
That makes a lot of sense.
Thank you for sharing that.
It's so important because it is really diving deep into who you connect most with, which often is a previous version of yourself It happens to be.
It's interesting when you think about that, because it is what we understand most. And when we understand that most, and we understand that when we are, if you step ahead, we can turn back and say, hey, I can give you a little hand because I just went that path and I can really give you some tips and tricks and you can follow me.
(22:00):
And that makes it like so exciting.
It doesn't mean that you are the end of your journey at all.
It just means that you know what, that you're just ahead If you step?
off your client.
I love, yes, I love how you put that into words. And it's yeah, it's always evolving, like I.
You know I don't practice homeopathic medicine anymore, but it still has informed my life.
(22:26):
And then I evolved into creating a different toolkit. And it sort of enhanced my motherhood journey.
So it's turning around and saying, okay, everyone who's starting their motherhood journey.
This is how I was able to nurture myself and nurture my family, so I would love to share that and be able to serve others.
(22:55):
And so, yes, I love how you say it's always evolving and growing and I think it's such a beautiful way to serve others is by sharing your experience.
Wow, nice, that sounds absolutely amazing.
Then what is your singing journey?
(23:18):
Because with such a beautiful voice, is that a gift or is that something that you trained for so long?
and now, anytime you sing, it just comes out so gorgeous, oh thank you so much.
I this singing journey is me embracing my authenticity because I have.
(23:44):
Since a small child I've loved to sing, and it wasn't until my son was born that I reconnected with that.
I took his showing up in my life as an opportunity to start to embrace my own dreams, passions and desires, so that I could encourage him to do the same and inspire him to do the same.
(24:15):
So when he was born, I said I'm gonna take the first step and I'm going to start showing up in this way, in ways that bring me joy.
So my first step was to connect with a musician that I've known and start taking vocal lessons.
(24:40):
Okay, so after about a year of taking vocal lessons, I started to have this really strong desire to write songs.
So my next step was to practice writing and keep going with the singing.
(25:02):
So it's only been about two years maybe not quite two years that I've embraced this journey. And it's been incredible and I'm so excited to see where it goes.
Do you play an instrument when you sing or you sing along?
(25:25):
I sing, just sing.
I had some training in piano when I was younger, but it's been a really long time since I've practiced the piano.
So singing Yes.
And what is beautiful.
I'm singing right now about the saxophone because it's so like an extension of singing to really convey emotions on an other level of communication which I love so much.
(25:55):
This is what I love most with music I do When you are able to connect at a different level than the language and we can actually turn emotions the one we want as a performer and really like touch those specific, I would say, strings, because it's like okay, which strings did you touch in me?
(26:24):
wow, okay.
And suddenly you see the audience suddenly cheering us, or you see them smiling, or you see them like jaw-dropping, like what did you just do?
and things like that.
And that is absolutely.
That is so, so dear to my heart as well.
(26:46):
This is where I can recognize it in you.
It's absolutely amazing.
I was yes, I was so excited to hear that you have such a deep connection with the music too and I was able to hear a little bit and it's beautiful.
I did on on.
(27:06):
TikTok.
I did recently I think I'm not sure on which channel I did that probably a real talk with women.
I just picked up the violin, so the electric violin and I played along Kygo, Kygo is so talented.
(27:31):
Oh, it's like so talented young man.
I mean I don't know, we have probably, I don't know, 15 years of distance of age or something like he's so talented, he knows and he perceived and one of his music he has put on TikTok was like okay, so here is an improved and I'm gonna now play your song.
(27:51):
I want to see you.
I was there, I can do that, let me put on the camera on a stand violin and I trained I don't know, maybe 15, 20 times to find a good tune to it and I improved with him and I posted that on it.
(28:15):
I like him because this is where I'm the best at forever since ever forever.
(28:36):
And this is how I came up with some writing and really like turning that and understanding that you finally opened up to that gift of music, that you finally started to write songs meaning to connect with that?
there is some.
So there is a science and an art.
(28:57):
In music it's both.
There is a very specific science that you follow in order for it to really sound good, and with all the harmonies and mathematics behind, but there is also an art how do you convey and how do you?
how do
you create the emotion yes, yes, I feel it's such a just, such a beautiful vehicle to communicate in ways that we struggle to, you know, using art, just speaking, and, like you said, it's just that, that feeling, those feelings that music can invoke to take us sort of to a different place and, yes, I really feel like sharing this is a way, sharing my vocals and is a way to reach others that I wouldn't be able to reach otherwise and uplifting in a way that I wouldn't be able to otherwise.
(30:00):
So it's, yeah, i'm very grateful to be learning and starting into this arena of something that's been so dear for so long and I didn't embrace.
So, yeah, thank you that's gorgeous.
(30:22):
So we have the material mindfulness maven.
This is how you have written your name on Instagram and your handle, if you want to go super fast, is Jen Lynn Farkas, Jen J-E-N and Lynn L-Y-N-N and Farkas F A R K A S
(30:47):
Okay, and that is your Instagram for now.
Yes, whenever you change it and you tell me with a description.
So in the description there is a current one, but at the time of the recording, this is my question just to make sure, and I'm going to find that out over here.
(31:19):
What are your other?
you have five quick ways over when moms can find peace.
That's nice too that's a good one, yeah, that's on your link tree right yes yes okay, and you can find that through my bio on Instagram and, yeah, there's a free resource there.
(31:42):
I also offer a free self-compassion sessions.
You can find that also in the link tree in my bio as well, and some of my current offerings supporting women and moms are in there as well, and you also offer a 19-minute deep dive breakthrough session that is going to create some big moments.
(32:10):
Yeah, yeah, Wow.
Jen, Jen Lynn, now I know your middle name as well.
I'm so honored to have you, so honored to share and to uplift the world with your story, to bring back hope and that pleasure of life when you actually manifest your deepest desire with love in love.
(32:50):
This is how I describe you.
Thank you, Gemma.
I am so, so, so honored to be a guest on this incredible podcast and I appreciate you so much for what you do on Uplift.
It's been just an amazing conversation.
(33:11):
And that uplift show was born in the mind of my beloved husband, Sascha.
You know that we have that other show, Real Talk Real Women, Breaking the Silence Around Abuse, where we really talk about hardships in relationship, when it does not work, and how to transform that in order for it to work, which is a different kind of stories than yours, which is really like stirring up the desire to the point of manifesting it, but not in abuse at all.
(33:44):
So here's why we are not talking about that.
But when we got so much success with Real Talk, Real Women, my husband suddenly started to think and so I told me you also meet other people who may or may not be women, who may or may not have prevailed over abuse, but do have an uplifting story.
How about you create a second show, Uplift inspiring stories to uplift the world?
(34:09):
So here is how we describe it Uplift inspiring stories to uplift the world is a show, meaning a podcast and videocast, because we are so distributed on social media that transcends cultures and borders to bring you the most heartwarming, inspiring stories from around the globe.
(34:33):
In a world where negativity can sometimes feel all-encompassing, it's crucial to be reminded of the incredible capacity for goodness in humanity.
Each week, we are going to share a new story of resilience, of courage, of triumph from a guest.
These stories will leave you feeling inspired and uplifted as you witness the extraordinary things people are capable of achieving.
(34:57):
This is what Uplift is about.
This is why it's such a gorgeous match with you.
Oh, thank you.
Thank you for putting this out into the world.
It's such a gift for all.
It's amazing.
Thank you very much for joining us today, Jen.
Thank you.
(35:18):
Maybe one of these next months will come back.
That's a possibility.
I open it up for the next few weeks.
I would love to Thank you, thank you.
Welcome to Uplift! Inspiring Stories
To Uplift the World.
I am Gemma Serenity Gorokhoff, your host, and today, coming from Canada, we have Jen Lynn Farkas.
Jen is an intuitive mindfulness mentor for women and mothers based in Canada.
(00:22):
As a passionate advocate for women empowerment, Jen offers transformative mentoring for women and mothers so that they can find the peace and balance they crave, enabling them to live their most authentic life authentic and fulfilling life, whether it's navigating motherhood or life in general.
Jen is committed to supporting her clients every step of the way.
(00:46):
After years of studying homeopathic medicine and running a business focused on optimal well-being through natural remedies and holistic nutrition, Jen turned her attention to yoga, receiving certifications as a yoga teacher, which will guide a yoga instructor.
She also completed training as an essential oil specialist and enabled her to empower others to harness the important emotional and physical support properties of essential health for themselves and their families.
(01:17):
With her awakeners certification and mindfulness coaching certification, Jen is equipped to guide her clients in living a life that is authentic to them.
She is part of an intuitive mastermind, developing her skills and ability to provide intuitive guidance to her clients.
When she's not working with clients, Jen loves spending time with her family out in nature.
(01:40):
She's also an avid singer, writer and explorer, an enjoys traveling, reading and connecting with others in her community and, as a little insider trick, just letting you know she has such a smooth, warm and delicious voice that is embracing you in a way.
(02:00):
That's where people can do.
Thank you, gemma, thank you so much.
Thank you, Jen, for joining us today.
I would like to ask you a question.
when I was reading your bio, you mentioned a lot about motherhood.
What is your motherhood journey?
(02:26):
Such a great question because it has been so expansive for me becoming a mother and it really has informed a lot of what I do now in service to others.
I would say my motherhood journey began in a lot of uncertainty.
(02:54):
I had met a partner who I fell for right away.
He's an incredible man, but on our very first date he informed me that he didn't want to be a father and that he never wanted to have children.
(03:15):
At the time I just listened and I wasn't 100% sure what my thoughts around motherhood were.
We just continued on dating, developing our relationship and as it deepened I started to feel this really intense calling to become a mother.
(03:45):
This brought up a lot because we had talked about from the very beginning how it wasn't in his plan.
For myself, I had never felt a feeling like this before.
I had never felt so pulled towards something with all of my being.
(04:05):
I was used to thinking about doing something and yeah, i'm going to go for it, but this was a full body.
I want to be a mother.
I became very nervous that this was going to end our relationship.
I knew that I wanted to be with him, but I knew that I wanted to be a mother.
So he released two conflicting desires.
(04:32):
I got the courage to share exactly how I was feeling.
I was able to step into that courage because it was just such this innate feeling like I had to be a mom.
It wasn't like oh, i'll see what he says, it was like no, this is the next thing for me.
(05:01):
We had a conversation and he was very, very empathetic, listened to exactly everything I had to say and he responded in a way that was very unexpected.
He kind of took it all in and said, okay, I’m really going to think about this.
(05:27):
And I was floored because I assumed that it would be.
you know, this is not what I want to do and it would be a whole really tough conversation.
But there was also something inside of him that you know had started to change his mind along the course of our relationship.
(05:47):
So he took a few days and I remember walking.
we were on just a little stroll through the forest and he just said to me out of nowhere, I want to be a father.
And this was like wow, this was so exciting to me because I knew he would be an incredible father.
(06:09):
So that was stage one of this journey, because of the fact that he knew he didn't want to be a father.
He had a vasectomy about 20 years prior.
So making the decision to start a family for us was just the beginning of many obstacles that would arise.
(06:31):
So it was an exciting start, but we knew we would have to face a few things together to build this family.
It's absolutely stunning as an experience.
Thank you for sharing that.
That means that it's not because at first sight someone says no kids whatsoever, without an actual history of physical or mental illness.
(07:06):
that would really say no, I am not going to put to the world someone as crazy as my whoever in the family tree was completely out of shape, out of work, out of health.
That's really something that was deeply ingrained in him in the sense of okay, it is a choice, but it was not a choice rooted in health clearly.
(07:28):
Otherwise he wouldn't shift his mind when listening to you and really understanding where you come from and joining you on that path of parenthood.
And that is love from him, that is loving you and joining you where you are at that moment in time.
(07:50):
Yes.
That's beautiful.
Thank you, and it was really an eye opening for me because I had accepted that the result of me sharing this was going to be the end of our relationship.
So it was a really big lesson for me in the importance of communicating your true desires and the importance of not having that judgment going into something so big, and so it really opened my eyes to realizing that you can't always know what someone else is thinking or feeling, and so it opened up a lot in our relationship, I think, at that point.
(08:42):
So that was a really beautiful moment.
So how did your parenthood journey continue from there?
I would say start, yes.
So the first agreement let's have a family together, let's have children together because we love each other.
(09:03):
So you said 20 years of relationship later.
So no, we actually we had just been together for a little bit over a year.
He had had a vasectomy 20 years prior.
So we knew right away that if we were going to do this, it was going to have to be a process that we'd start with our doctor, and we didn't really know how it was going to unfold.
(09:32):
So it actually was really lovely.
We didn't have to wait a long time to see a fertility specialist.
But we were presented with two options, and the one was we could try a reversal of the vasectomy, but the chances of it working were very, very slim because of the length of time, and the other option was just to proceed with the IVF.
(10:06):
We were both in the state of mind that this was something that we wanted to do now.
We weren't really interested in trying something that wasn't guaranteed the reversal and then having to go through it all again.
So we said you know what we're just going to go with.
What we feel will be has the best chance for success.
(10:33):
So yes, and I was terrified.
I was really really scared of the actual process.
I had a lot of fear around having to do the injections fairly regularly.
(10:58):
I was worried about taking the time off work because you've got your appointments that are scheduled for a reason, and so it was a very fearful time for me.
But at the same time I knew that this desire that I had would be carrying me through and I would be able to feel that fear, but was moving towards something that I've wanted more than anything in my life.
(11:33):
So it was a really interesting experience to me because these fears that would come up, I was just moving through them in a different way than perhaps I had in the past.
So we started the process and it took a village, because I relied on my mom for a lot of support.
(11:58):
I relied on my parents to support me when my partner was working, my friends It was a whole community effort and I was just so grateful for it, because anyone who's going through the journey I see you, it affects many aspects of your life, and so stepping into that uncertainty is a huge step and a very brave step.
(12:29):
And so we continued with the process, just holding that hope in our heart that at the end we would have a family.
And we ended up with five embryos.
We ended the process and we thought, oh great, hopefully we'll be able to freeze an embryo and perhaps, if we want to have a bigger family, we'd have that option.
(12:57):
So we waited the few days and I got a phone call saying that two of the embryos unfortunately didn't make it, so you have these three left.
Normally we'd wait I can't remember now but X amount of days before doing the implant.
(13:18):
But because two of them didn't make it, we're wondering if perhaps you'd like to do the implant now, because there are these three.
And so we scheduled it because I was like, yes, that's the best chance for success.
So by the time I went there there was the one embryo, so we just had the one embryo.
(13:41):
So between that phone call and you coming there, two more did not make it.
You have one remaining that actually is holding.
Yes, one little one remaining.
And so we went ahead And we you know it was such a magical experience because you're just so astonished by the power of the human body Like it was just such an incredible experience when we did that the implant, because There's just an overwhelming sense of gratitude for what we're able to do now.
(14:29):
And so that waiting for the phone call after the blood test once you wait and then you go for blood and then that waiting for that phone call was like this roller coaster of anticipation.
And I remember getting the phone call.
(14:49):
I was with my mom, my partner was at work, and I knew this would be the day I would get the phone call, and I wanted to share it with someone.
So I was laying on the couch, sort of napping, and the phone rang and my mom runs into the room and I said hello, and the first thing she said was it was successful.
(15:18):
And I started just letting all the emotions run.
It was a really, really exciting moment for us, and I couldn't believe that we had this one embryo and we were able to find success the first time, and it was from there another long few months of.
(15:48):
I had some things come up in pregnancy, but I wouldn't have changed it for the world.
It was just this moment of realizing that this whole new chapter is opening, this whole new era of expansion is going to be happening, and the journey of pregnancy was tough, but it was also like I look back on it now as such a pivotal moment in my life.
(16:24):
So it was a roller coaster to get there, but it all worked out so beautifully in the end And they could not be more thankful for everything that we experienced.
So beautiful. And who did you receive as the personality of your child?
(16:45):
Because that is a complete question mark.
You don't know.
And this is something that reveals over the first years of so, right.
Yes, yes.
What kind of personality does your child have?
Such a great question.
It's this age, so he's three and a half now.
He will tell you three and three quarters, but he is really in that stage of owning who he is, so it's a perfect time for that question.
(17:17):
He's very much a combination of our both of our demeanors.
He's a very calm, easygoing, curious.
He knows what he wants, and that's something that I really want to nurture in him as he grows, because, looking back, I know that's something that I lost somewhere along the way, but he has that very strongly. And so that's definitely a quality I hope he holds on to.
(17:54):
And he is so loving.
Up until about three he was a very kind human, but now he's really learning how to express his love and express his appreciation for things, and so it's a really fun age.
(18:18):
I just really love watching him blossom into his personality.
That's gorgeous.
That's a pretty gorgeous Thank you.
I really, really love your motherhood journey.
It's amazing.
So my next series of questions revolves more around your many layers of your business, because everything turns around holistic, natural remedies and approach.
(18:53):
How would you define your business and how would you define your ideal client?
Yeah, so currently my business revolves around women and mothers who are looking for more peace, balance and authenticity in their motherhood journey and also in life, because when you become a mom, as you know, there's sort of a new level of busy that happens, And I found in my first few months of motherhood that I was just swimming.
(19:35):
I couldn't figure out how I wanted to show up as a mom and how I wanted to embrace my authenticity while being in this.
You're in a new way of being right.
So what I love to support women in is tuning back into their inner wisdom, And we can do that through the mindfulness coaching, through Yoga Nidra, and also offering them tools that they're able to use for, as an example, like essential oils for emotional support, tools that they're able to use in their day-to-day life, as well as creating rituals around how they want to embody their intentions so that they are always feeling like their self is cared for, their hopes and dreams are cared for and they're also showing up as a mom the way that they envisioned.
(20:34):
So for many moms it's I wanna be more present in the moments that I do have with my children, because I work, my kids go to school, we have these activities, but the moments that we have together.
I want to know how to be more present so that I'm taking the most event icon of the time that we have together, And so that's where the mindfulness practices come in and really understanding their heartfelt desires, because often we don't take the time or space to explore that, And so that's something that I become really passionate about is creating that intentional space for busy moms who are craving more than the daily routine.
(21:18):
Yeah, Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
That makes a lot of sense.
Thank you for sharing that.
It's so important because it is really diving deep into who you connect most with, which often is a previous version of yourself It happens to be.
It's interesting when you think about that, because it is what we understand most. And when we understand that most, and we understand that when we are, if you step ahead, we can turn back and say, hey, I can give you a little hand because I just went that path and I can really give you some tips and tricks and you can follow me.
(22:00):
And that makes it like so exciting.
It doesn't mean that you are the end of your journey at all.
It just means that you know what, that you're just ahead If you step?
off your client.
I love, yes, I love how you put that into words. And it's yeah, it's always evolving, like I.
You know I don't practice homeopathic medicine anymore, but it still has informed my life.
(22:26):
And then I evolved into creating a different toolkit. And it sort of enhanced my motherhood journey.
So it's turning around and saying, okay, everyone who's starting their motherhood journey.
This is how I was able to nurture myself and nurture my family, so I would love to share that and be able to serve others.
(22:55):
And so, yes, I love how you say it's always evolving and growing and I think it's such a beautiful way to serve others is by sharing your experience.
Wow, nice, that sounds absolutely amazing.
Then what is your singing journey?
(23:18):
Because with such a beautiful voice, is that a gift or is that something that you trained for so long?
and now, anytime you sing, it just comes out so gorgeous, oh thank you so much.
I this singing journey is me embracing my authenticity because I have.
(23:44):
Since a small child I've loved to sing, and it wasn't until my son was born that I reconnected with that.
I took his showing up in my life as an opportunity to start to embrace my own dreams, passions and desires, so that I could encourage him to do the same and inspire him to do the same.
(24:15):
So when he was born, I said I'm gonna take the first step and I'm going to start showing up in this way, in ways that bring me joy.
So my first step was to connect with a musician that I've known and start taking vocal lessons.
(24:40):
Okay, so after about a year of taking vocal lessons, I started to have this really strong desire to write songs.
So my next step was to practice writing and keep going with the singing.
(25:02):
So it's only been about two years maybe not quite two years that I've embraced this journey. And it's been incredible and I'm so excited to see where it goes.
Do you play an instrument when you sing or you sing along?
(25:25):
I sing, just sing.
I had some training in piano when I was younger, but it's been a really long time since I've practiced the piano.
So singing Yes.
And what is beautiful.
I'm singing right now about the saxophone because it's so like an extension of singing to really convey emotions on an other level of communication which I love so much.
(25:55):
This is what I love most with music I do When you are able to connect at a different level than the language and we can actually turn emotions the one we want as a performer and really like touch those specific, I would say, strings, because it's like okay, which strings did you touch in me?
(26:24):
wow, okay.
And suddenly you see the audience suddenly cheering us, or you see them smiling, or you see them like jaw-dropping, like what did you just do?
and things like that.
And that is absolutely.
That is so, so dear to my heart as well.
(26:46):
This is where I can recognize it in you.
It's absolutely amazing.
I was yes, I was so excited to hear that you have such a deep connection with the music too and I was able to hear a little bit and it's beautiful.
I did on on.
(27:06):
TikTok.
I did recently I think I'm not sure on which channel I did that probably a real talk with women.
I just picked up the violin, so the electric violin and I played along Kygo, Kygo is so talented.
(27:31):
Oh, it's like so talented young man.
I mean I don't know, we have probably, I don't know, 15 years of distance of age or something like he's so talented, he knows and he perceived and one of his music he has put on TikTok was like okay, so here is an improved and I'm gonna now play your song.
(27:51):
I want to see you.
I was there, I can do that, let me put on the camera on a stand violin and I trained I don't know, maybe 15, 20 times to find a good tune to it and I improved with him and I posted that on it.
(28:15):
I like him because this is where I'm the best at forever since ever forever.
(28:36):
And this is how I came up with some writing and really like turning that and understanding that you finally opened up to that gift of music, that you finally started to write songs meaning to connect with that?
there is some.
So there is a science and an art.
(28:57):
In music it's both.
There is a very specific science that you follow in order for it to really sound good, and with all the harmonies and mathematics behind, but there is also an art how do you convey and how do you?
how do
you create the emotion yes, yes, I feel it's such a just, such a beautiful vehicle to communicate in ways that we struggle to, you know, using art, just speaking, and, like you said, it's just that, that feeling, those feelings that music can invoke to take us sort of to a different place and, yes, I really feel like sharing this is a way, sharing my vocals and is a way to reach others that I wouldn't be able to reach otherwise and uplifting in a way that I wouldn't be able to otherwise.
(30:00):
So it's, yeah, i'm very grateful to be learning and starting into this arena of something that's been so dear for so long and I didn't embrace.
So, yeah, thank you that's gorgeous.
(30:22):
So we have the material mindfulness maven.
This is how you have written your name on Instagram and your handle, if you want to go super fast, is Jen Lynn Farkas, Jen J-E-N and Lynn L-Y-N-N and Farkas F A R K A S
(30:47):
Okay, and that is your Instagram for now.
Yes, whenever you change it and you tell me with a description.
So in the description there is a current one, but at the time of the recording, this is my question just to make sure, and I'm going to find that out over here.
(31:19):
What are your other?
you have five quick ways over when moms can find peace.
That's nice too that's a good one, yeah, that's on your link tree right yes yes okay, and you can find that through my bio on Instagram and, yeah, there's a free resource there.
(31:42):
I also offer a free self-compassion sessions.
You can find that also in the link tree in my bio as well, and some of my current offerings supporting women and moms are in there as well, and you also offer a 19-minute deep dive breakthrough session that is going to create some big moments.
(32:10):
Yeah, yeah, Wow.
Jen, Jen Lynn, now I know your middle name as well.
I'm so honored to have you, so honored to share and to uplift the world with your story, to bring back hope and that pleasure of life when you actually manifest your deepest desire with love in love.
(32:50):
This is how I describe you.
Thank you, Gemma.
I am so, so, so honored to be a guest on this incredible podcast and I appreciate you so much for what you do on Uplift.
It's been just an amazing conversation.
(33:11):
And that uplift show was born in the mind of my beloved husband, Sascha.
You know that we have that other show, Real Talk Real Women, Breaking the Silence Around Abuse, where we really talk about hardships in relationship, when it does not work, and how to transform that in order for it to work, which is a different kind of stories than yours, which is really like stirring up the desire to the point of manifesting it, but not in abuse at all.
(33:44):
So here's why we are not talking about that.
But when we got so much success with Real Talk, Real Women, my husband suddenly started to think and so I told me you also meet other people who may or may not be women, who may or may not have prevailed over abuse, but do have an uplifting story.
How about you create a second show, Uplift inspiring stories to uplift the world?
(34:09):
So here is how we describe it Uplift inspiring stories to uplift the world is a show, meaning a podcast and videocast, because we are so distributed on social media that transcends cultures and borders to bring you the most heartwarming, inspiring stories from around the globe.
(34:33):
In a world where negativity can sometimes feel all-encompassing, it's crucial to be reminded of the incredible capacity for goodness in humanity.
Each week, we are going to share a new story of resilience, of courage, of triumph from a guest.
These stories will leave you feeling inspired and uplifted as you witness the extraordinary things people are capable of achieving.
(34:57):
This is what Uplift is about.
This is why it's such a gorgeous match with you.
Oh, thank you.
Thank you for putting this out into the world.
It's such a gift for all.
It's amazing.
Thank you very much for joining us today, Jen.
Thank you.
(35:18):
Maybe one of these next months will come back.
That's a possibility.
I open it up for the next few weeks.
I would love to Thank you, thank you.
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