Choose Happy - 1039

On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his wedding weekend, plus how to choose happy!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a Happy Friday friend to welcome to the Thought
Shower Big A couple of hours ahead for your Boy
number one Tonight Friday, our first ever live show podcast,
which I'm excited for Jimmy's famous seafood Tonight. This is
something that I've been wanting to do for a while.

(00:20):
The main reason I'm excited is because it's a weird thing.
When we do the radio show, it's well, in every day,
it's Me and Sauce in the same studio, Rose in
a different room, a different state, Eric and Hoodie a
different state, and so we don't really know, like in
real time if what we say is funny. It's a

(00:41):
very odd thing we know, and it's like roughly a
million one point two million listeners each morning, which is crazy.
And then like we'll do things that we think is
funny and we'll see text come in. But this is
gonna be a whole different animal to do something and
then have a live audience in front of us, to
be like, oh, maybe they didn't like this, maybe they

(01:04):
like this way more than that we thought they would.
So that to me is gonna be kind of like
the the real fun part of tonight, And it's always
fun to meet you. And that's what kind of makes
this whole thing go makes this whole thing go around,
because again, it's a it's a different medium where if
we are doing the show in front of a live
audience every day, I don't know. I don't think we

(01:26):
do it necessarily different, but it's just it's always cool
to see faces and talk to folks who listen to
the show. So I'm very excited for that. But here's
how my twenty four hours gonna go. So I gotta
bring the dogs doggy daycare, very exciting. Skittles will absolutely
love it, Chewy not so much. So I do that
drive to Baltimore live podcast tonight, then tomorrow I got

(01:49):
a flight at eight am Dulles because I'm going to
Mexico for a friend's wedding. I have not yet decided
if I'm gonna stay in Baltimore tonight, get up extra
early to drive back to Moco, or leave the podcast,
drive back, sleep, good to go. Am. I packed for
the wedding, absolutely not. In my pack for Baltimore tonight,

(02:11):
absolutely not. Will I start, well, I don't know. I'm
also trying. I've been wragkling with like do I do.
Do I check a bag or not? For Mexico, I
feel like yes, mainly because I bring a lot of sunscreen, now,
do you know what I mean? Gotta keep the body right.
So I feel like that's probably the move. I'm excited though.

(02:32):
It's gonna be interesting. I'm going down Solodelo right and
it's when my good friends get married from Minnesota. But
it's it's I don't know anybody else is gonna be there,
so that's gonna be interesting. Like I've done vacations by myself,
I love it. Vacation by yourself cannot recommend enough. If
you want to stay in bed all day, you can

(02:53):
stay in bed all day. If you want to go
planking on the beach, you can do so. If you
want to order H'M service at midnight, you can do so.
Like that, that's kind of a cool feeling. I'm excited
for the wedding, excited for all that stuff, got the
SPA packages, Gonna try to get some SPA packages, and
just kind of relax. I mentioned this earlier that I'm

(03:14):
getting to kind of get into like the burnout zone.
I mean, it's I posted on Instagram yesterday it's been
a wild year, like wild year for me. So in January,
you know, announced the breakup, which was mentally exhausting. I
was always physically exhausted. Like in January, I knew we

(03:36):
had started the process of converting the bar over and
then I was still doing the show, still doing hockey.
In March, you know, I would always try to surprise
my ex girlfriend with a trip for her birthday somewhere.
We went to Dallas. Once we went to New Orleans,
ones I playing a trip to Toronto. We broke up,
I still had to go and being a great trip
was all fun. I think by April the idea of

(03:58):
like I wasn't gonna do a com shows. By April
that was like, you know what, I got a lot
of like emotions and feelings will work out. Let's just
start writing some things down and seeing what we get.
Then by June we announced the tour. It was sold out.
I think a week or so later we did the shows.
In July, I was beyond sick, did the shows, and

(04:21):
then started working on the album, which was a lot
of a process. October the bar officially opened, had our
opening weekend. I've been there basically every weekend in the
last month or so, announced the album in October, album
comes out, album goes number one in November. So it's
it's been like a whirldwin of a year and that

(04:42):
sounds like a flex and maybe it is a little bit,
you know, it is what it is. And now hockey
starting and so I'm getting to the point of the
euromic I am. I need to stop doing things, need
to power down a little bit. So I'm excited for
Mexico to be able to do that, to kind of
like unplug rewind, because when I get back, it's like

(05:04):
the marathon continues again. I'm gonna land during hockey tryouts.
First game for hockey I coach at George Shown Prep
is gonna be next Friday. So my main goal this
weekend is to hopefully do nothing, you know, kind of relax,
enjoy myself and do nothing. Am I good at relaxing?
The answer is no. The answer is no, because it's

(05:26):
it's interesting my mind kind of shifts depending on what's
going on like that. My mind's always on the radio show,
of course, because it's every day basically, and now my
mind shifted to hockey. So I'm like, okay, we do this,
this and this I'm not good at just turning it off.
So that's the goal this weekend. We'll see how it goes.
Let me get to this too for your Friday. People

(05:49):
who are chronically unhappy always do these things. I most
of this stuff too. I think it's like, you're choosing this,
and you know, as far as we know, get one life,
it's a very very short amount of time to be
miserable all the time, you know what I mean? And
I get that, like that's part of life, as part
of the ebbs and flows. But to choose the miserable,

(06:11):
I don't like they're always focused on the down side.
The experts say, miserable people can't help but always zoom
in on what's wrong, no matter how small. Yeah, I
think again, that's kind of like a mindset thing. I
look at my friend DMT a lot for this stuff,
dm ed who you've been in the comedy shows. You know,
d such a happy, positive person where I don't think

(06:32):
I've ever seen him have a bad day, and that's
pretty amazing. But it is like, yeah, you can't focus
on the small things, absolutely, but there's so much good
stuff around you that I'm guilty too, But I try
to look a positive. They play the comparison game way
too much. Yes, nothing kills happiness like comparing your life

(06:54):
with somebody else. I agree completely. You know, there's a
great quote by the comedian Jimmy Carr. I think it's
pretty funny in general. He's talking about happiness and he
says the people trying to be to like the people
who are craving fame and stuff. He goes, I have something,
they'll never have enough, And I was like, damn, yeah,

(07:15):
you need to find out what you're enough is, you know,
because it's like when you see somebody at a Kardashian
buy a twenty million dollar house. I know, like that's
just not in the cards, do you know what I mean? Like,
that's not in the cards to me, and that's okay.
If that was something that I needed to have to
be happy, I would never be happy because this is
not gonna happen. They hold on the grudges like they're souvenirs.

(07:39):
I have mentioned this before. I saw this great video
of a guy who was talking about grudges and he's
demonstrate this on the stage. Goes, when you're when somebody
hurts you and you stay angry at them, it's like
holding a kettlebell. So he holds the weight a kettlebell weight.
He starts walking, but then somebody else says something to
you that angers you, that hurts you. He grabs another kettlebell,
he goes it. Then somebody hedy else does something, and

(08:01):
see he keeps picking up these weights and these kettlebells,
and eventually you see he's physically struggling to carry all
the weight. And it was a great metaphor, like oh yeah,
Like when you carry that kind of anger, all you're
doing is adding more friction, adding more resistance to yourself.
And the worst part is the person you're mad at
probably doesn't know, or if they do, they don't care.

(08:25):
They don't care. Last one I'll hit is they depend
on others for their happiness. Ever, Notice they're only happy
as the last text of validation for somebody else. Unhappy
people often look to others to fill them up, which
puts a lot of pressure on relationships. I have had
this in like old old relationships, where I had to
say the person like, hey, I can't be your only

(08:48):
source of happiness. I can't be like time wise, I can't,
responsibility wise, I can That's also just a lot to
put on somebody. I can't be your only source of happiness.
Other things in the world need to make you happy,
you know, and listen, you deserve to be happy. Is
life hard? Absolutely? Unnecessarily hard? Yeah, a lot of times.

(09:12):
But I do think the mindset of like try to
choose happy as much as you can do little things
to make yourself happy. I think if you can do that,
you do not it. I appreciate you listening. Have a
fantastic Friday. If you get a chance to follow the
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(09:34):
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All right there. I hope you have a fantastic weekend.
I might be taken off next Wednesday. We shall see.
This is a thawt shower. My name is intern John.

(09:56):
I appreciate you listening. We'll see it next week.